5 Typical Aging In Place Mistakes And How To Avoid Them

Today, the idea of aging in place (also known as aging at home) is gaining a lot of significance, especially among the older population. According to the National Council on Aging, nine out of ten senior citizens prefer to continue living in their own homes over the next five to ten years. Many such seniors based their reason on their need to be among people they already know. This makes a case for aging in place relatively easy. However, there are a lot of challenges and necessary changes that should be taken care of. 

If you are concerned about what difficulties you or your loved ones might face, or the mistakes that might be made when aging in place, this article will help you deal with them in advance.

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  1. Not having an early discussion with loved ones about your preferences

Many adults wait until it is a little too late to have a conversation with their loved ones about their future needs and preferences- creating a lack of planning. Planning helps keep track of your preferences and needs while ensuring they are met. It is better to discuss your living arrangement preferences ahead of time so that your loved ones can help you live the comfortable life you want in your old age. 

2. Not considering possible lifestyle changes

The unfortunate truth is that, as you grow older, your body is no longer able to do certain things it used to – making the option to live independently in your old age inadvisable. Some people try to cope by turning down any form of help offered to them, whether in tools or services. For many adults, the mere thought of any kind of senior care makes them feel embarrassed and helpless – which should not be the case. Rather than being fixed on your preference of aging in place, accept your lifestyle challenges, and seek other options that would be beneficial to you.

3. Not making preparations for various possibilities

Almost nothing is certain in life, and disasters may strike at any time. Unfortunately, many adults fail to plan and make preparations for different possible scenarios. This lack of planning can bring more stress due to knee-jerk reactions to unexpected situations. 

Take time to write down all the possible ‘what ifs.’  Doing this should cover possibilities such as who will take care of you if you lose your ability to decide for yourself or lose mobility. Next, create a plan of action for all those possibilities with the help of your loved ones.

4. Not having financial plans

Studies show that many American adults do not have any financial plan in place for old age. This makes the issue of money more complicated when they need their finances the most. Many also fail to create a will or have a power of attorney in place. It is best to seek a financial planner’s advice concerning how to handle money to be financially stable during old age. Fortunately, making such plans is now easier than ever, thanks to the digital age. Alternatively, you can also sit down with your loved ones to go through what your options are.

5. Not being proactive with in-home security

We have already mentioned how disaster can strike at any time without warning. Unfortunately, most adults have not put any proactive measures in place for accidents at home. For example, as we grow older, our bodies can no longer handle falls and other accidents at home very well. It is essential to take proactive steps when it comes to your safety at home. For example, you should take the time to identify any form of potential hazard and provide solutions. Ensure that you have the right tools at home, you’re always well clothed, and can move about in your home with ease.

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6. Relying on just one person

It is not uncommon for most adults to put their trust into only one person to take care of them as they age. As trustworthy as a person may be, it is always harmful to rely solely on them to solve all your problems. This either puts a lot of burden on this one person or leaves the adult with no one else to rely on should that one person be unavailable.

This is why it is essential to try to be as self-sufficient as you can be, even when you have someone around to give you a helping hand. While this will take a lot of effort, it will also help you build the knowledge and skills required to live alone in your home. Where possible, also have some family members or friends around to help you.

This is a collaborative post.



    1. For me they question we have to ask ourselves is our loved one getting the best physical and mental health care available. Outside of that we have to work hard to give them the best quality of life possible, this is a major task. One think I did was create a small photo album of several topics I knew she remembered, like her favorite dog, her husband, her son and her parents Then when she would have stressful moments we could take out the book and reminisce abut the photos. Since the memories were old memories they were often are remembered. Reducing stress is also very important, there’s so much emotional turmoil happening inside, anything we can do to help them process the feeling of separation. It’s a very tough emotion situation and the guilt in unending Give yourself credit for the things you can control and pray for help with the rest.

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  1. YES. YES. and YES!
    Having gone through this with both my Husband and I’s Parents, as well as my 92 year old Aunt, this article nailed it!
    As intelligent as those named are, their aging plans lacked a lot of forethought and insight; leading them all into far less than ideal solutions.
    As a result, my Husband and I (in our 40’s) are already working to ensure what those we’ve loved have endured, will not happen to us.
    These are some great talking points and highlight just some of the steps to an aging plan. Especially, if like us, you plan to age in place.
    Thanks Melinda! Excellent!

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    1. We plan to age in place and what’s so tough is we have no family. We are not close to other family members and his father is 92 so we have a new challenge. We plan to have our mortgage paid off in the next five years and no mortgage in retirement. If we don’t move or take on a new mortgage then we have to pace ourselves and plan for our money to go to charity if anything is left. They can sell our house and what goods they can get any money for, then take whatever savings is left and hopefully make a small dent. But we plan to live as large as we feel comfortable. No skipping vacations anymore. We’ve missed so many because of my health and we’re ready once COVID passes to take a small trip. You have kids which is very different. You may have to help them later in their life, I had to go to my grandparents in my early 20’s to borrow money. BUT I had to pay it all back. 🙂 My granny kept a log and everytime I paid some money back she would get out the book and write it down.

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      1. You had a good Granny, Melinda. And you’re right, they need us and we help. Neither Bri, nor I, ever had anyone to help; so it’s important to us to help our kids and they don’t have those same struggles and fears.
        It sounds like you have a solid plan in place, you’re (both) incredibly generous to leave everything to charity…..
        I think traveling is a great idea! You have worked hard, you deserve to enjoy the fruits of your efforts!

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        1. We are very blessed and charity is a big part of our life, I can’t wait to give huge sums of money away when we win the lottery. My grandparents taught me responsibility and that’s very important in life. Travel was my passion before I got sick. I look forward to smaller but great trips ahead. Propaly not doing anything really exotic like the things on my bucket list.

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          1. Ahhh, yes the bucket list. How much that has changed…I’ve modified mine, too. Sounds great, no matter what you do! I’ve never been able to travel; had 3 kiddos, a Hubby & a house by 24. Now that all the kids are out, any & all trips make me sick as can be. Maybe someday.!!
            But I’ll be excited for you, if you can start traveling again!! YAY.
            You’re very generous, Melinda. ❤️

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          2. I look forward to traveling again of any kind. It’s been so long. The last trips we took were back in forth to D.C. for my Lyme treatments. That’s been several years. We’re talking about doing a camper trip, rent a camper and drive somewhere with the dogs. Less pressure that way. Generous makes me happy.

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          3. Yeah, I can’t travel without the dogs anymore. I think renting a camper sounds fun!! And definitely less pressure! I can’t enjoy myself without (especially) my Schnauzer. We can’t go far though…..I get too ill. But that’s okay-as long as it’s the ocean. Although I am praying I can make it to Hawaii, someday, somehow…..
            But less face it, any trip is great 😉

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          4. seals I don’t know about. It depend on if you want city or little to no people. I’ve been tot he big island and would love to go back. It has beaches, beautiful black sand beaches. Volcano National Park is awesome but you need a good week to see the big island becuase it’s so big. Maui was nice and quite, not a bigy city, not a lot of beaches. Rocky terrain and lots of mountains. We took a heliopter ride over the mountains it was beautiful. Maui is laid back and the people are super friendly. I loved it but the big island is where I want to go back to. I want to see the rainforest and the volcano again.

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          5. In the old days, I traveled the world. Now I’ll take a trip close to home. I was an executive when I worked and made very good money so I had the chance to travel. I took several girls’ trips a year and won trips with my company so I had lots of fun traveling. I’m thankful I had the opportunity.

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          6. That’s great! I’m glad (and a little jealous) you got those opportunities! I had just really hit my peak the year I got sick.
            It was so difficult to take such a spectacular fall from achievement, when I was right there. We had SO many plans. Alas, I guess they just weren’t meant to be my plan.

            Hawaii, maybe someday. For now, we’re hoping just to make it closer to the ocean. With Grandkids not too far on the Horizon, as much as we would love to be closer to the ocean, we know we wouldn’t want to be far from the kids or Grandkids.
            On our last day, for fun, as we were leaving, we all wagered our bets on when my Daughter will get pregnant. To her Groom’s horror (LOL), every single family member bet she’ll get pregnant in a year. 🤣

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          7. I’m with you, it was a hard fall. But we both know that whatever happens in our life is up to God and for some reason he wanted us on another path. The groom has a lot of say in the matter, I hope anyway! If there yound and not married more than 5 years I hope they wait. It’s so hard when you get married and never get to have those years with just the two of you. I hear it all the time. I don’t know, God had other plans for me. I had a hysterectomy at 28 years old because fo cancer so complete hysto. I look back and see the struggles I’ve had with my mental health and I’m thankful.

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          8. It’s up to them. We recommend they wait to get that time alone. But….I had my first Son at 20, my third at 23 and had I not, theirs lives would have been dramatically different. As it was, I spent my youngest Son’s last years of high school almost entirely in bed (which was awful) and was always grateful he wasn’t younger. By the time I married my second Husband, the love of my life, I was too sick to have his child, which was a terrible loss.
            So, in the end, I was grateful I had my kids so young (my intended plan)……
            But it’s their life and whatever they choose is fine by me 😉🥰

            I’m sorry you went through all that. I imagine it must’ve been very difficult.

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          9. God has a plan, I’m cool with it! Glad everything worked out great or at least you were able to spend some young years with them. I’m happy my second hubby didn’t want children so everything worked out fine. Of course, we didn’t get married until I was 38 years old. November will be 18 years, it’s gone by so fast and so slow. I don’t think another man would have stayed around and taken care of me as he has.

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