How to tame your inner advice monster

IDEAS.TED.COM May 18, 2020 / Michael Bungay Stanier This post is part of TED’s “How to Be a Better Human” series, each of which contains a piece of helpful advice from people in the TED community; browse through all the posts here. I caught up with a friend of mine a while ago. She’s smart, she’s brilliant, and she’s talented. After we did the usual warm-up chitchat, she looked at me and said, “Michael, you’re a good guy. I need your advice.” My advice monster was delighted. She started telling me what was going on, and I started to pretend to listen because, quite frankly, my advice monster already knew exactly what I wanted to tell her. Finally, she finished so I was able to share my brilliant advice —  — and make no mistake it was brilliant. But my advice went nowhere; my advice monster had sabotaged the conversation. All of you know your advice monster. Somebody starts telling you about something. Even though you don’t really know the situation or the people involved and you certainly don’t have the full context, after about 10 seconds your advice monster is like, “Oh, oh, oh, I’ve got something to say here.” The problem isn’t with giving advice. Instead, the problem is when giving advice becomes our default response. There are three ways that advice giving goes bad. The first issue with advice giving is that we’re often solving the wrong problem. We get seduced into thinking the first […]

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Psychiatrists fear ‘tsunami’ of mental illness after lockdown

By Philippa Roxby BBC Health reporter 16 May 2020 Psychiatrists are warning of a “tsunami” of mental illness from problems stored up during lockdown. They are particularly concerned that children and older adults are not getting the support they need because of school closures, self-isolation and fear of hospitals. In a survey, psychiatrists reported rises in emergency cases and a drop in routine appointments. They emphasised that mental-health services were still open for business. ‘Patients have evaporated’ “We are already seeing the devastating impact of Covid-19 on mental health, with more people in crisis,” said Prof Wendy Burn, president of the Royal College of Psychiatrists. “But we are just as worried about the people who need help now but aren’t getting it. Our fear is that the lockdown is storing up problems which could then lead to a tsunami of referrals.” A survey of 1,300 mental-health doctors from across the UK found that 43% had seen a rise in urgent cases while 45% reported a reduction in routine appointments. One psychiatrist said: “In old-age psychiatry our patients appear to have evaporated, I think people are too fearful to seek help.” Another wrote: “Many of our patients have developed mental disorders as a direct result of the coronavirus disruption – eg social isolation, increased stress, running out of meds.”  Dr Bernadka Dubicka, who chairs the faculty of child and adolescent psychiatry at the RCP, said: “We are worried that children and […]

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TOUCHED BY LYME: Resources to help you hit the ground running

Dorothy Kupcha Leland 27 SEP 2018 When you are first learning about Lyme disease, it can be hard to know which way to turn. Here are some links to get you started. General information www.lymedisease.org  LymeDisease.org gives info about ticks, Lyme disease, co-infections, prevention, risk maps, downloadable brochures, blogs, news and events. If you are wondering if you might have Lyme disease, see our symptom checklist, for a printable PDF you can share with your healthcare provider. Looking for a Lyme-literate doctor? See our physician directory here. In addition to its website, LymeDisease.org also publishes a quarterly digital journal, The Lyme Times, free to members. (Click here to join.) We post Lyme-related news on Facebook and Twitter and maintain a network of state-based online support groups. Sign up for our free email newsletters. MyLymeData is LymeDisease.org’s survey tool that tracks patient progress over time. It allows people to quickly and privately pool information about their Lyme disease experiences. When large amounts of data are combined, we can see patterns that help us determine which treatments work best. Add your Lyme data to MyLymeData to help find a cure for Lyme disease. ILADS–International Lyme and Associated Diseases Society. Professional organization for doctors who treat Lyme disease. Lyme info, educational videos, downloadable brochures. LDA–Lyme Disease Association. Lyme information, doctor referral site, annual Lyme scientific conference. Lyme Disease: The Basics–free PDF of book. Published by the Lyme Disease Association of Southeastern Pennsylvania. Children and Lyme disease Basic info about children with Lyme disease  Gestational Lyme disease Lymeparents online support […]

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Review of WaveLife Technologies Energy Cell

  As a member of Chronic Illness Bloggers http://chronicillnessbloggers.com, I had the opportunity to review the WAVELIFE Technologies Energy Cell. The product was given to me for a fair and honest review. I have not been paid.  The package I received was pre-launch so the packaging is different now that it has been released for sale. The package came with […]

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