Where Do You Turn When Teacher is Bullying

This is a repost from 2014, the point is schools have gone from sending notes about children being overweight to lunch shaming. I look back at my childhood, kids were bullied by other kids if they had a lunch coupon. I didn’t understand the problem then and certainly find it unacceptable this is happening by school staff today.   Melinda     Monday, May 26, 2014 Mom Upset That 9-Year-Old Girl Brought “Overweight” Notice Home From School Great video, please see the kids reaction to letter. The mother of a third-grade girl says she’s upset that the city Department of Education sent home a health assessment in her daughter’s book bag that categorizes the 9-year-old as “overweight.” Roseanne Colletti reports. Each year, 870,000 New York City public school students in kindergarten through grade 12 are handed their Fitnessgram assessments and told to bring them home without peeking inside. Laura Bruij Williams says her daughter, Gwendolyn Williams, looked at hers, and asked her about it one night while getting ready for bed at their Staten Island home. Gwendolyn is 4 feet 1 inch tall and weighs 66 pounds. The analysis said her Body Mass Index is “overweight.” “She said ‘Mom, school told me that I’m overweight,'” Williams told NBC 4 New York. “I was very angry and upset because I don’t want this to be the kind of thing that sticks with her.” The Department of Education says the assessments are “based on […]

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Learning Doctor Talk

Repost from 2014 I started seeing my Psychopharmacologist in 1992 and he intimidated me. He’s not a chipper guy and it took years to see through his shell. I was in a very dark place and spiraling down. I didn’t think he understood how depressed I was. He only provides medication management, 15-minute appointments at most. We had a couple of frustrating meetings. I didn’t know how to reach him, I didn’t know doctor talk. He is one of the best in Texas and finding a Psychopharmacologist is difficult. I wasn’t walking away. During another frustrating meeting, he left the room to talk to a therapist he worked with. He did me the biggest favor and no doubt saved my life by asking me to talk with the therapist. I sat down with her and expressed my frustration in getting thru to him. They had worked together for 13 years, she could provide insight into his personality and how best to communicate with him. Once we were on the same page, he was able to give me the help I needed. Psychopharmacology:  is the scientific study of the effects drugs have on mood, sensation, thinking, and behavior.The field of psychopharmacology studies a wide range of substances with various types of psychoactive properties, focusing primarily on the chemical interactions with the brain.Psychoactive drugs interact with particular target sites or receptors found in the nervous system to induce widespread changes in physiological or psychological […]

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Keep Students Safe From Sexual Assault & Enforce Title IV

Change.org Petition   Ask Betsy DeVos to keep students safe and enforce Title IX This petition will be delivered to: U.S. Secretary of Education Betsy DeVos Senator Lamar Alexander The current Administration is planning to weaken the enforcement of Title IX, a move that would be devastating for students especially those who are LGBT and of color. Survivors and our allies across the country are coming together to ask Education Secretary DeVos to listen to survivors, keep students safe, and enforce protections Title IX has long provided. Join Know Your IX and End Rape on Campus and ask DeVos to commit to the following : Maintain the Department of Education’s guidance documents clarifying schools’ legal responsibilities to prevent and address sexual harassment under Title IX Continue to recognize preponderance of evidence (i.e. “more likely than not”) as the appropriate standard of proof in campus sexual harassment investigations; Maintain federal transparency in Title IX enforcement by continuing to publish lists of schools under investigation for Title IX violations and those who have claimed religious exemptions allowing them to discriminate against LGBT, pregnant, and parenting students DeVos will have the power to enforce Title IX protections and ensure that every student is able to attend school without fear of violence. It’s up to us to make sure that she does. Mahroh Jahangiri Executive Director, Know Your IX https://www.change.org/p/dearbetsy-keep-students-safe-and-enforce-title-ix

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A Shimmer of Light

  A shimmer of light Eyes filled with tears Light is closer I’m at complete peace God what do you want from me I have no special skill Is light a miracle from high above Trapped in darkness, I hear keys Thoughts no chains Falling to ground weeping Is the light a sign of better days How can it be, […]

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A Mother’s Guilt

      Daughter My Birthday wish for You I hope that every candle brings a new wish. I hope the Smile that lights your face stays there all year-long. I hope everything  you’ve dreamed it will come true. I hope you know how much I love You and how proud I am of you. Happy Birthday With So Much Love. Card from my Mother You can’t give back what you took from my life. Xx  M

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I want all WP friends to join me for a large celebration, party hats, clowns, kazoos, dancing Queen

I celebrate my 7th year blogging anniversary and turn 53 in four days. Neither occasion are important on their own. What make this year so special is I’m alive. So many of you prayed , sent well wishes yet never treated me different. I started my first blog to help grieve my granny’s death. Flash forward, I’m blessed learning other cultures around the world. Blogging with millions of people at WP there are opportunities to learn, share and clarify the misunderstood. The most important lesson learned is people are generally good. I’m free to write my thoughts, some will not agree, others will not. We need different perspectives to broaden our mind. Thank you for making every year a good one. I appreciate the kind thoughts, asking how I’m doing and treating me normal. I hope to see you in the years to come. Party On!!!!! Pass the milk please! Hugs Melinda

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Awesome Clouds Sunday Morning, Face Plant by evening *Trying to save Earthworm*

    MOST BEAUTIFUL CLOUDS, STORM MOVING IN FALL HAPPENED ON BRICK STEPS. I WAS TRYING TO SAVE AN EARTHWORM. OUCH! Damage to forehead, black eye, scrapes and stabed myself with Landscape light. So glad it was plastic. It tore thru two shirts. My entire for head turned black. I will include this photo in Falling section. Sometimes, it’s better not to follow me.  Xx  M

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Learning from Chronic Illness *Tid Bits, Falling and Learning To Fly*

I dedicate this post to the chronically ill, newly diagnosed and their caregivers. You are the Survivors. It took three painful years to learn I had Chronic Lyme Disease. I’ve had bumps over the years, nothing like Lyme. I’m totally dependent on my husband. Every week he takes countless hours off work. There’s IV Therapy before and after work. Day to-day monitoring the catheter with weekly bandage changes. Out of state doctor appointments once a month, insure medicines are taken properly, on time and everything you can think of. I didn’t know what life would teach me. Boy have I learned and want to share with you. The ongoing guilt is a challenge for me.Guilt for not getting out of bed, doing laundry, on and on. I had no concept of how humiliating daily life can get. I march on. At 52, I wear Kotex for daily spills. The agony of not taking extra Kotex on long flight. I made a list to complete before treatment. HA! It’s hard to prepare for everything when an illness effects everyone different. The post is female oriented, I can’t speak for men. Use your imagination. Some suggestions will make you laugh and others grateful to know. Here are a few surprises. The list is task you may want to consider. Any Dental work Mammogram Gynecologist By wardrobe essentials, one size larger, possibly add another half-size or larger. Shoes become a nightmare, one day your sneakers fit, next day […]

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Throw Back Thursday *I’m late, you should see my laptop*

I started at 8:30pm deciding on video’s. After years of enjoyment, YouTube and VeVo are enforcing copyright laws. Somebody has an answer, please leave a comment or email msandorm@verizon.net. The Shania Twain video is an example, of the the copyright screen. I stopped at 1:00am, way past bedtime. I’m praying for progress today. Here’s a snack while I work on desert. Xx  M      

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Child Marriages, life of beatings and Sexual Assault by husband

  When I was 14 years old, I was kidnapped for a marriage to a much older man, as depicted in the film Difret. On the day I was abducted, I was raped by my would be “husband.” I knew I had to fight back and escape the first chance I got. I was taken to a hut and locked up. When I received another visit from my abductors I saw my chance. When he was suddenly called away, he left his gun leaning against the wall and the door unlocked. My father had taught me how to fire a gun, so I took it and ran. When he and his friends chased me, I shot him. It was the most terrifying, horrible ordeal of my entire life — and I’m one of the lucky ones. I was accused of murder and after 2 years in the courts, the judge ruled that it was, in fact, self-defense. My trial led to a re-examination of this tradition and the Ethiopian government is now working to end child marriage and female genital cutting by 2025. In addition, the African Union recently launched a campaign to end child marriage across the continent. I am now dedicating my life to working on this issue and to give voice to the screams of unheard rural women and girls. I don’t want to see the same story happen to any more girls. And yet, it still is. […]

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Hearding Chickens awarded Survivors Blog Here with The Versatile Blogger Award

heardingchickens.wordpress.com/2016/02/05/the-versatile-blogger-award We’re thrilled to receive The Versatile Blogger Award from Herding Chickens. If you have not stopped by http://www.herdingchickens.wordpress.com, today is a great day to start. Her personality shines through her writing. Her and  husband have adopted two children. She shares the successes and struggle of Adoption. She’s a generous person. Seven Answers Paola’s Answers Writing is my therapy. It heals my soul and makes me feel less lonely I’d love to understand why I spend the whole week waiting for the Friday and the entire year waiting for the spring. Melinda’s  Answers I think a snake will bite me every time I enter the garage. I don’t read instructions I’m a chocolate addict A Hawk family returns every year to lounge in our bird bath. I’ve named every generation, Hawke I love the wildlife in our neighborhood. The Big Revel! https://sheldonkleemanartworks.com https://apatientvoice.com http://www.charlypriest.wordpress.com http://www.aheartafire.wordpress.com http://www.coffeegrounded.com https://mytwosentences.com http://www.insightsbipolarbear.com http://www.firefly1275.wordpress.com  

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Avril Lavigne on Her Struggle with Lyme Disease

The post is my opinion based on my own experience and talking to people with Lyme Disease.  The symptoms of Lyme Disease are the same as many chronic illnesses. The parasites move quickly, if not caught early, the more difficult to treat. Lyme is a serious illness, it moves to major organs which bring on worst symptoms. I have Chronic Lyme and two co-infections. The parasites have moved to my brain, causing cognition, balance, eyesight and pain is severe. Most days I’m in bed due to pain and trying to reducing inflammation. I’ve included an interview with  Lorraine Johnson, CEO of lymedisease.org. She discusses Lyme, CDC and how Lyme Diseases is a serious illness. The time to take precautions is now. Xx  M

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Dr. Jemsek “Speaks the Truth”About Lyme Disease

Dr Jemsek is an Infectious Disease Doctor who played a pivotal role identifying AIDS in N. Carolina.You will hear him mention in the video. He is my hero and my Doctor. There are several treatment methods, each Doctor is different. I’m on antibiotic IV Therapy 5 days a week, Lactose Ringer when not on IV Therapy, close to 30 supplements, Morphine Patch, two horrible liquid Rx’s and close to 35-40 prescriptions. YouTube is an awesome source for Lyme information. Xx  M

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Pregnant Woman Among New Florida Zika Cases

In a piece of irony, the CDC originated from a 1940s agency called the “Office of Malaria Control in War Areas”, and during the summit’s opening session, organizers showed a 70-year-old short movie about its work targeting Aedes aegypti, the mosquito that now spreads Zika. “We were the first ones because we were really proactive in getting the virus and really pursuing and working hard to get the structure”, said Richard Kuhn, head and professor of biological sciences as well as the director of the Purdue Institute for Inflammation, Immunology and Infectious Disease. Zika is a mosquito-borne illness now plaguing South America, with pregnant women and their babies being the most vulnerable to the virus. But officials warned the 300 people attending the summit – along with an estimated 2,000 more who took part online – to prepare for possible local clusters of Zika disease, once the warmer weather arrives and the mosquito season starts. DCHHS advises individuals with symptoms to see a healthcare provider if they visited an area where Zika virus is present or had sexual contact with a person who traveled to an area where Zika virus is present. Pregnant women in any trimester should consider postponing travel to areas where Zika virus transmission is ongoing. If you would like to read the entire article follow the link. Tri-County Sun Times http://thevillagessuntimes.com/2016/04/02/pregnant-woman-among-new-florida-zika-cases/

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TED Talks: 10 Video Playlist on Autism Spectrum

I love Ted Talks, any subject, any time, presentations less than 20 minutes long. If you have an interest in the Autism Spectrum one or many presentations may answer your questions. You can search their mass library at http://www.ted.com. Sign up it’s free. http://www.ted.com/playlists/153/the_autism_spectrum?utm_source=newsletter_weekly_2016-04-02&utm_campaign=newsletter_weekly&utm_medium=email&utm_content=playlist_button Xx  M

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I Need Your Opinion, Only Three Questions. :)

Does the site look crowded? I’m still not sure about the Twitter roll. Is there something you would like to see? Do you ever look at Footer Widgets? I want the site to flow, easy to read with the post taking center stage. Thanks a million for your help! Hugs to my friends and followers. You keep me running when there’s no energy to move! There are so many people helping in this small community. Xx  M

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How to participate once diagnosed with a Mental Illness

Years after my diagnoses with Bipolar Disease. I thought it was time to participate in my medical care. To understand layman’s terms, what to expect and when to call doctor. Getting on the same page as you learn doctor speak and how they hear. A proficient Psychiatrist with a background helping Mentally Ill patients. Please save your time and money going to General Doctor. Most are not versed in how drugs work together or not. Psychiatrist understand drugs, spend more time to make diagnoses and discuss the drugs to help. A Therapist, my foundation in healing. The key to healing is understanding yourself. They can help take the weight you’re carrying around. Don’t stop taking your medication. Medications cause side effects, the drugs you buy at CVS have side effects. Every drug has side effects. It may take 6-8 weeks for the medicine to level off. If you want to change a drug in a week, please understand, there are no short cuts. Short cuts not only prolong the treatment and can be dangerous. If you’re determined to stop medicine, Call your doctor first! If you become delusional, psychotic or determined to hurt yourself go to local hospital. Keep a journal to document the changes in mood. Keeping a log helped my doctor see my mood was cycling. A medication change was needed. There are many ideas on how people were helped or not by medicine. I will admit a couple […]

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Zika Virus as cause of Neurologic Disorders

The New England Journal comes thru with additional information on Zika. Perspective Zika Virus as a Cause of Neurologic Disorders Nathalie Broutet, M.D., Ph.D., Fabienne Krauer, M.Sc., Maurane Riesen, M.Sc., Asheena Khalakdina, Ph.D., Maria Almiron, M.Sc., Sylvain Aldighieri, M.D., Marcos Espinal, M.D., Nicola Low, M.D., and Christopher Dye, D.Phil. March 9, 2016DOI: 10.1056/NEJMp1602708 Zika virus infections have been known in Africa and Asia since the 1940s, but the virus’s geographic range has expanded dramatically since 2007. Between January 1, 2007, and March 1, 2016, local transmission was reported in an additional 52 countries and territories, mainly in the Americas and the western Pacific, but also in Africa and southeast Asia. Zika virus infections acquired by travelers visiting those countries have been discovered at sites worldwide. Aedes aegypti mosquitoes are the principal vectors, though other mosquito species may contribute to transmission. The virus was found to be neurotropic in animals in experiments conducted in the 1950s, and recent experiments have shown how it can cause neural-cell death. A rise in the incidence of Guillain–Barré syndrome, an immune-mediated flaccid paralysis often triggered by infection, was first reported in 2013 during a Zika outbreak in French Polynesia. An increase in the incidence of microcephaly, a clinical sign that can be caused by underdevelopment of the fetal brain, was first reported in northeastern Brazil in 2015, after Zika virus transmission had been confirmed there. These reports of excess cases of Guillain–Barré syndrome and microcephaly led […]

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Zika:Sharing Data in a Public Health Emergency

Sharing Data in a Public Health Emergency The case for sharing data, and the consequences of not doing so, have been brought into stark relief by the Ebola and Zika outbreaks. In response, the New England Journal of Medicine has become a journal signatory to the following statement. “In the context of a public health emergency of international concern, it is imperative that all parties make available any information that might have value in combatting the crisis. As research funders and journals, we are committed to working in partnership to ensure that the global response to public health emergencies is informed by the best available research evidence and data. Journal signatories will make all content concerning the Zika virus free access. Any data or preprint deposited for unrestricted dissemination ahead of submission of any paper will not preempt later publication in these journals. Funder signatories will require researchers undertaking work relevant to public health emergencies to establish mechanisms to share quality-assured interim and final data as rapidly and widely as possible, including with public health and research communities and the World Health Organization. We urge other journals and research funders to make the same commitments.” The New England Journal of Medicine has substantial files available at the link below.  http://www.nejm.org/page/zika-virus?emp=marcom&query=NEW I have additional information to verify, once completed a new post will share new information. I urge you to visit The New England Journal of Medicine for extensive data on […]

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FDA Medwatch-Drug Safety Labeling Changes

03/14/2016 The FDA MedWatch-February 2016 Safety Labeling Changes includes 21 products with safety labeling changes to the following sections: CONTRAINDICATIONS, WARNINGS, PRECAUTIONS, ADVERSE REACTIONS, or PATIENT PACKAGE INSERT/MEDICATION GUIDE. The “Summary Page” table provides a listing of product names and safety labeling sections revised: http://www.fda.gov/Safety/MedWatch/SafetyInformation/ucm489329.htm The following drugs had modifications to the CONTRAINDICATIONS, WARNINGS, and PRECAUTIONS sections: Atacand (candesartan cilexetil) Tablets Atacand HCT (candesartan cilexetil/hydrochlorothiazide) Atripla (efavirenz/emtricitabine/tenofovir disoproxil fumarate) Tablets Avalide (irbesartan/hydrochlorothiazide) Tablets Cimzia (certolizumab pegol) Lyophilized Powder and Solution for Subcutaneous Use Complera (emtricitabine/rilpivirine/tenofovir disoproxil fumarate) Tablets Depacon (valproate sodium) Injection Depakene (valproic acid) Capsules Depakene (valproic acid) Oral Solution Depakote (divalproex sodium) Delayed Release Tablets Depakote ER (divalproex sodium) Extended Release Tablets Depakote Sprinkle Capsules Fluorescite (fluorescein injection) Fosrenol (lanthanum carbonate) Chewable Tablets and Oral Powder Gilenya (fingolimod) Capsules Invirase (saquinavir mesylate) Capsules and Tablets Stribild (elvitegravir/cobicistat/emtricitabine/tenofovir disoproxil fumarate) Tablets Tecfidera (dimethyl fumarate) Truvada (emtricitabine/tenofovir disoproxil fumarate) Tablets Vistaril (hydroxyzine pamoate) Capsules and Oral Suspension Complete and submit the report Online: http://www.fda.gov/MedWatch/report. Download form or call 1-800-332-1088 to request a reporting form. Then complete and return to the address on the pre-addressed form, or submit by fax to 1-800-FDA-0178  

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FDA Statement: Eye Drops-Potential Risk

FDA MedWatch – Eye Drops: FDA Statement – Potential Risk of Loose Safety Seals 03/15/2016 Eye Drops: FDA Statement – Potential Risk of Loose Safety Seals AUDIENCE: Consumer, Eye Care ISSUE: FDA is warning the public about eye drop bottles that have loose plastic safety seals or tamper evident rings below the bottle cap that may fall onto the eye when the product is used. See Safety Statement for example photo. FDA has received reports of six adverse events associated with loose safety seals on eye drop bottles. FDA is in the process of identifying all relevant products and will require a change in the packaging design. BACKGROUND: The plastic safety seal or tamper-evident ring, also known as a collar, or band, should stay connected to the bottle neck. However, some eye drop bottles are losing the safety seals or rings when consumers tilt or squeeze the bottle to place eye drops into their eyes. A loose safety seal or ring presents a safety risk as it may cause eye injuries. RECOMMENDATION: Consumers and health care providers who have these products should not attempt to remove the ring or seal because there is a potential to contaminate the tip of the dropper. FDA strongly recommends when using tamper-evident rings, the bottle/cap design include a positive-retention mechanism similar to those on disposable plastic beverage bottles to prevent the rings from coming off while using the product. FDA is continuing to investigate […]

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Andy Warhol’s “So Sweet” *Live For Today*

Original post 5/2014 I had to buy this Warhol because it was the complete opposite of my childhood. I saw the happy little girl and thought about me in kindergarten. She’s carrying a bag of candy and a good report card, again not me. What makes it so special is my mother told me I was stupid all the time. I began to believe her. You look in the corner and see “So Smart”, words I love to hear. I wasn’t stupid, just carrying a heavy load. No kindergartener can handle the burden of that secret. Warrior

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Survivors Blog Here Welcome's Casey Alexander to our team

Survivors Blog Here is breaking out the cupcakes and sparklers. We might even do the Snoopy Dance. Why you ask? We are thrilled to announce Casey Alexander from blog Adoption, caseyalexanderblog.wp.com  has joined our team. Casey brings you along on her journey of adopting two children, short stories and shares her other  interest. You will laugh and cry when you read the calamities with their house. She has a thirst for knowledge, participating in Blogging 101. Her post are honest, educational and raw. She has a positive attitude :), totally funny and always makes my day. The Survivors Blog Here team welcomes Casey to the team. survivorsbloghere.wp.com 🙂 Melinda

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ما ديني تقول حقا حول المرأة * آخر باللغة العربية *

Hello friend, I use Google Translator, please excuse if translation not correct. I’m an American, do not speak Arabic and wanted to reach out by doing my first post in Arabic. I would love to hear your comments. May Allah bring you and your family blessings. Melinda آلاء مرابط مكانةُ المرأة الحقيقية في ديني في طريقي إلى هنا، أجريت محادثة شيقة مع الراكب الذي بجانبي خلال رحلتي قال لي :”يبدو أن الولايات المتحدة تُعاني من البطالة لأنهم يختلقون بعض الوظائف فقط: كعالم نفس القطط و مدرب للكلاب و متعقب الأعاصير” بعد بضعة ثوان سألني: إذن ما عملك ؟ وقلت له :”داعية للسلام ” (ضحك) كل يوم أعمل لدعم صوت النساء، ولتسليط الضوء على تجاربهن ومشاركاتهن في عمليات السلام و حل النزاعات. وبسب عملي أدركت أن الطريقة الوحيدة لضمان المشاركة الكلية للنساء عالميًا هي عن طريق استعادة الدين. والآن، هذا الموضوع في غاية الأهمية لدي كامرأة مسلمة شابة ، أنا فخورة جدًا بديني. فهو يعطيني القوة والقناعة لإتمام عملي كل يوم. وهو السبب في وقوفي أمامكم. لكن لا يمكنني ان أتغاضى عن الضرر الذي حصل باسم الدين، ليس ديني فقط، ولكن كل الديانات في العالم. التحريف وسوء الاستخدام والتلاعب بالنصوص المقدسة كل هذا أثر على معاييرنا الاجتماعية والثقافية، و قوانينا وحياتنا اليومية، إلى حد لا ندركه في بعض الأحيان. انتقل والديّ من ليبيا في شمال افريقيا لكندا في أوائل سنة 1980. وأنا الطفلة الوسطى من بين 11 طفلًا. نعم،11. و خلال نشأتي رأيت والديّا متدينين و روحانين؛ يصلون لله و يحمدونه […]

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The Sunshine Award from Michelle of Putting my Feet in the Dirt

  My friend Michele from Putting my Feet in the Dirt puttingmyfeetinthedirt.com   nominated me for the beautiful Sunshine Award. Thank you Michelle Michelle’s Blog is Christian based Blog with a wide variety of post on travel, children, short stories. She is funny and serious when needed. Michelle is a great supporter to the WordPress community. Do yourself a favor and stop by to see what’s she’s up to. Rules for participating. Have fun. Thank the person who nominated you. Answer the questions from the person who nominated you. Nominate a few other bloggers. Write the same amount of questions for the bloggers you nominated. Notify the bloggers on their blog. Put the award button on your blog.   1. If a zombie apocalypse would happen right this very minute, are you going to            tweet about it? But seriously, are you going to fight or run? Why? I’m running. I don’t know what Zombie’s can do so I’ll get out of there. 2. How would you spend a million dollars? Make contribution to charities I support. Then get on airplane and see the world. 3. What thing would you want to change yourself? I cuss too much, it’s a bad habit I’ve had since childhood. 4. What’s your chinese birth year sign? I’m best suited for breeding.   5. If you could invent something, what is that? why? This is hard, there so many. Clean drinking water […]

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Living a Beautiful Life nominated me for Dragon Loyalty Award

My friend Danica of Living a Beautiful Life danicapiche.wordpress.com nominated me for the Dragon Loyalty Award.  I like this award because everyone can participate. The bottom line is how active are you on WP. I’m thrilled to run side by side with Dragons everyday.  What is the Dragons Loyalty Award? The Dragon’s Loyalty Award is an award for the loyal follower/commenter, fan, […]

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College Campus Sexual Assaults *Colegio Campus Assults Sexuales

RAINN  Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network Help is available 24/7 through the National Sexual Assault Hotline: 800-656-HOPE and online.rainn.org, y en español: rainn.org/es. Survivor Spotlight: College Campus Sexual Assault (August 10, 2015) — Ti’Air was happy that someone she met a few years ago reached out to help her through the process of moving to a new university campus, where she was beginning to study for a Ph.D. in biomedical engineering. “He was very friendly and helpful. We talked every day,” she says. “But suddenly, he became extremely flirtatious and aggressive.” One night, he invited her to karaoke. He took her back to her home at the end of the night, and when they arrived at her apartment, he raped her. Although Ti’Air reported her rape to her university and the police, the case did not move forward. She channeled her frustration with this experience into founding a student group on campus. “The reason I started Students Against Rape and Violence (SARA V) was due to the lack of resources I found on my campus to help me cope,” she says. Ti’Air hopes SARA V can be a vehicle of change by educating students about sexual assault and providing a safe space for peers to share their experiences. Ti’Air says there were a number of challenges she faced after her sexual assault. She had trouble focusing at school, developed post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), and faced harassment from friends of her […]

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I'm Mourning and She is Still Alive

Originally posted February 27, 2006 My grandmother passed away in 2005 from Dementia brought on by two strokes. I’m reposting for caregivers with a loved one with Alzheimer’s or Dementia. For those who have not been a caregiver, the post may help you down the road. Caregivers commit every ounce of energy to keep their loved one comfortable, take care […]

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Ted Talk-What My Religion Really Says About Women

I became interested in other cultures after meeting two Jordanians in High School. Both were so generous, answering every question asked of them. I heard about the Muslim religion for the first time. My dream of traveling the world meant learning other cultures. I thank both for sharing the beauty of Jordan and opening up to me as a friend.  I have no agenda to offend anyone or call out any religion as good or bad. I continue learn other cultures and religions, it’s my life goal.  XO Melinda

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Lyme Journal Entry 12 *Summer Refresher, NO ONE Is Immune To Lyme*

I’ve been sick for years without a correct diagnoses. I took a wild guess and found a Lyme doctor. A reckless one. He gave me a lab report saying I had three times the level of lead than normal. We spent three days looking for LEAD. I called the office, while on hold I realized this wasn’t my labs. Chronic Lyme Disease is a long battle. I wanted the best Doctor possible, off to D.C. for my first visit with Dr. Jemsek. I learned the Lyme Disease has progressed. My cognitive ability is 50-60%, I have Adrenal Fatigue, it can take five years of treatment to get well, or well as I’ll get. The tests were positive and will allow for IV Infusion Treatment. The next step is how much insurance will cover. Without insurance coverage the cost of IV Infusion Treatment for six months is $40-60K. I also have to fly to D.C. every month for checkup.  FUN! FUN!  I sincerely thank my friends, you’ve lifted my spirit with every comment of well wishes.   I’ve included videos showing people who have Chronic Lyme. One video is my doctor, Dr. Jemsek. The crowd is mainly patients he’s treated over the years. Celebrating the premier of his movie Under Our Skin.  XO  Melinda Jemsek speaks out Avril Lavigne **Everyone who spends time outside or has children playing near wooded areas. The video is an hour-long homemade video made by her husband. […]

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Third and Last Day of The Quote Challenge

“This to shall pass” Believed to originated in writings of the Medieval Persian Sufi Poets.  The quote appeared in tales by the English Poet Edward Fitzgerald and in speech by Abraham Lincoln before becoming president.  My granny used the quote probably before I was born. Times were very difficult for the family when her father died in 1930, granny was 9 years old. They had no money, insurance and no idea what tomorrow would bring. Both my granny and her mother were deeply religious, my guess this quote comforted them. I started using at some point simply because if I can survive, tomorrow can bring a blessing. The quote was not a religious quote to me. Fast forward to being a caregiver to both of my grandparents. I loved my gramps so much but several times a day I wanted to strangle him. I’d say to myself  “This to shall pass”. I tell you the above because the quote “This To Shall Pass” is religious to me now.  I changed in the 10 years taking care of my grandparents, what came after depression, ECT, hospitalization, Heart problems and Lyme Diease…….One day I woke up and the quote felt different, like God sent a message I’m at the wheel. Today there is a warmth in my heart to help others. The awakening gave the strength to become an Ordained Minister and start charity, God’s Tree of Life Ministries. I have enjoyed the […]

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It's my sixth anniversary on WordPress *Get out the streamers*

I received a reminder from WordPress today, it’s my 6th year anniversary! Wow, time fly’s when having fun or not. I’ve written 303 post on Looking for the Light, in less than two years. I must have a lot to say. I had several blogs before starting Looking for the Light. The greatest reward of blogging is the people I meet daily and hearing about the adventures of long-term followers. Thank you for reading, commenting and filling my heart with joy. Enjoy the Picasso, photo taken in D.C. ACHIEVEMENT 6 Year Anniversary Achievement Happy Anniversary with WordPress.com! You registered on WordPress.com 6 years ago! Thanks for flying with us. Keep up the good blogging! M

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Happy Fathers Day Gramps *Memories Fill My Heart With Joy*

I love you Gramps. The memories we made fill my heart with joy. Teaching me how to fish. The first fish I caught, standing up almost turning the boat over. At 13 you gave me a 16 gauge shot-gun, we went to the levees to practice. I shot a duck out of season, you were pretty cool about that. Laughing when I shot at dragonflies. I will always remember throwing trash cans in truck, heading to levy for driving lessons. He picked up more cans on parallel parking. Gramps didn’t hear this song, he didn’t know Carrie Underwood. He would rather listen to Buck Owens or George Jones, old-time country. This song touched me deeply, I can’t listen to without crying. I’ll see you soon. I know this is my temporary home.  XO Melinda

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One Among Many Surprised Me With Versatile Blogger Award

Being recognized by my peers is the greatest compliment. One Among Many  oneamongmany@glannste.wp.com has nominated me for The Versatile Blogger Award. He loves to a write on a wide range of subjects, poetry and advocates for mental illness and I can’t forget his sense of humor. Please visit his site for the topic of the day.  The rules as I understand: Thank the blogger who nominated you. List the rules and display the award. Share 7 facts about yourself Nominate 15 ( Or what you can do) other amazing blogs and comment on theirs. To let them know you nominated them. Then the 7 magic facts 7 Magic Facts about me. Not sure they are Magic? My Magic seven facts  The Internet is my connection to wonders of the world. I graduated Irving High School class of 1981, 600 walking across a stage in the old Cowboys Stadium. I’ve  parasailed in Aruba, jumped out of plane in Dallas and toured Maui by helicopter. I look for fun every trip. It’s the joy of traveling. I’m left handed and always in the right side of my brain. My first encounter with a shark was in Florida, he was 4-5 feet long. Not much to worry about. I encountered JAWS in St.John,Virgin Island. My ex-husband always had the camera, which means, as his “Buddy” I had to check his equipment and mine. We were 60-70 ft. down, I went to explore. I […]

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National Alliance of Mental Illness * Advocacy Update *

NAMI Advocacy Update  NAMI Advocates works tirelessly to educate, their website is a great resource, most important is they are always working for us and injustices.   XO Warrior 21st Century Cures Bill Passes House Committee The House Energy & Commerce Committee passed 21st Century Cures on May 21st— a bipartisan bill designed to push for the development of new therapies for diseases that are not being treated successfully. This bill includes new dollars for the National Institutes of Health Opportunity Fund totalling $10 billion over five years. The bill does not target specific diseases or illnesses, but it does leave open the possibility of investments in new clinical trials or therapeutic interventions for schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, major depression, and other mental health conditions. The 21st Century Cures bill is expected to come to a vote in the full House of Representatives in June. View NAMI’s letter of support for this important bill. 17 U.S. Senators Write Letter To HHS Citing NAMI Parity Report In a first step to addressing some vital concerns in Affordable Care Act health plans, a group of U.S. Senators sent a letter to Secretary Sylvia Burwell (U.S. Department of Health and Human Services) calling for action to ensure transparency and mental health parity. The letter cites NAMI’s report “A Long Road Ahead” noting, among other issues, that consumers cannot get the detailed information they need to make informed decisions when buying a health plan. Read the […]

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Books Matter *Anti-Defamation League Update By Change.org *

Books Matter: An update from ADL by the Change.org team Jun 1, 2015 — The Anti-Defamation League (ADL) would like you to support and share with others the launch of their exciting new education initiative for educators and parents which uses children’s books as a mechanism to discuss bias, prevent bullying and promote discussion and awareness of diversity and social justice. Anyone who has ever read to or with a child knows that books have the potential to create lasting impressions. Beyond their educational benefits, books have the power to instill empathy, affirm a sense of self, teach about others, transport one to unfamiliar places and inspire action. “Books Matter: The Best Kid Lit on Bias, Diversity and Social Justice” is a bibliography of over 600 books organized into 11 categories and reviewed by ADL’s anti-bias education experts. The categories include anti-bias, bullying awareness, anti-Semitism, racism, religious bigotry, gender and sexism, genocide and the Holocaust, LGBT people and issues, and social justice. As part of the initiative, ADL is also featuring a series of podcasts including interviews with children’s authors whose works are highlighted in the Book of the Month. http://www.adl.org/education-outreach/books-matter/#.VWzIH1xViko Books Matter

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Survivors Blog Here is thrilled to announce Robert Goldstein has joined our team.

“As far as your eyes can see, the universe can see farther”  Oprah Survivors Blog Here http://survivorsbloghere.wp.com is breaking out the happy dance. We’re excited to announce Robert Goldstein has joined our team. Stop by, pull up a chair, his site http://artbyrobertmgoldstein engulfs you then pulls you back looking for another gem. Robert is a strong advocate for mental illness, he […]

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Throw Back Thursday * Triple Shot Best of Best U2 *

I look at the global influence of U2 today, it’s hard to think of them as young choir boys. Bono’s strong religious beliefs shine thru many top hits. Moment of Surrender grabs me not wanting to let go. Grab a relaxing chair, sip your drink till fill some warmth. Get ready rock, Then come down slowly with Moments of Surrender. I hope you enjoy the tunes and have great weekend.  XO  Warrior 

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Nine year old Hiba with Down Syndrone now allowed to attend same school as brother

WORDPRESS MAKES A DIFFERENCE CHANGE.ORG PETITION UPDATE We Won!! Saadia Qureshi Glendale Heights, IL Apr 22, 2015 — After a 5 hour heated resolution meeting, the school district agreed to send Hiba to her home school of Churchill Elementary in Glen Ellyn beginning in August. Hiba will finally be able to attend school with her little brother!! It took almost 2 months, 14,000 signatures, and $1,800 +, which you all helped us raise. We are so humbled and grateful for everyone’s support. This could not have been possible without you. So thank you from the bottom of our hearts for helping us give our daughter a voice and an opportunity to live and work to her highest potential. By the way, due to safety concerns at her current school, we decided to home school Hiba for the next six weeks (until the end of the current school year). If you or someone you know has experience homeschooling their child in Illinois, we would appreciate any tips, advice, resources you can give us to help us during this next chapter of our lives. Feel free to email us directly at qureshis22@gmail.com.

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Special Throw Back Thursday *Recognizing The Bridge School*

THE BRIDGE SCHOOL Our Mission The Bridge School is a non-profit organization whose mission is to ensure that individuals with severe speech and physical impairments achieve full participation in their communities through the use of  augmentatation & alternative means of communication (AAC) and assistive technology (AT) applications and through the development, implementation and dissemination of innovative life-long educational strategies. The Bridge School is an internationally recognized leader in the education of children who use augmentation and alternative communication and has developed unique programs and trained highly skilled professionals in the use of state of the art assistive technology. Please look at the great work the school does and how you can help. http://www.bridgeschool.org XO Warrior

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What can we learn from Alaska's law on Domestic Violence……

I flipped to the National Geographic channel to find Alaska State Troopers one day. Watching was a blessing. The show opened my eyes to ending  domestic violence. Ending domestic violence is happening now, not somewhere in the future. We have to raise our voices louder and demand the same protection for all abused in other states. Below are notes taken while watching several episodes. Fairbanks, Alaska has the highest number of domestic violence cases in the America. Domestic violence calls dispatch to Troopers as top priority status. Everyone on scene interviewed, once established as domestic violence case, it’s an automatic assault charge and trip to jail. Other charges will follow based on situation. This is a very condensed version of what I watched: A fight escalates, the female screaming loudly to get out of house. Punched multiple times, raped and once outside pulled by the hair back into house. When police arrive she’s in front yard in bra and panties, visible marks of being hit in face, crying and trying to convince police nothing happened. Troopers receive education on domestic violence behavior. One officer goes in to house with gun drawn. The second keeps lightly pushing, why is she in the front yard in her bra and panties with visible marks to her face. The male taken to side of house, interviewed, handcuffed and lead to car. Officer’s provide jacket to cover herself  and support, she tells what happened leaving out being raped. Her disheveled appearance tips one […]

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Throw Back Thursday Triple Shot of U2 * Meaningful words will touch your heart *

I’m a huge U2 fan, Joshua Tree my first album.  The words caught my attention and who couldn’t notice the Irish accents. I watched interviews, learning they were childhood friends and belonged to choir in school. Money can change the core beliefs of people. I don’t feel U2 has strayed from their original beliefs. I was the kid who always played the B side of every single and albums, finding gems with an open mind. These three songs have more than surface meaning to me. I hope you will put aside any ideas you have of what U2 are as a band, let your mind hear the words. The music is world music. Grab the headphone, kick off the shoes and clear your head. Be ready to see another side of U2.  XO Warrior

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Please watch new video from One.org and Sign to end Ebola now

http://one.org/ebola?source=taf&referring_akid=6682.4074310.QdVk3j ONE.org We waited too long to react to Ebola. We’re still waiting for world leaders to finish the job. We can’t wait to stop crises like Ebola once and for all. Watch our new video with Morgan Freeman, Akon, Will Ferrell (and more). And sign our petition right here (more than 200,000 have now added their name). Let’s end Ebola now. Our petition says: Dear World Leaders, We’re counting on you to quickly make and deliver bold commitments and help end the Ebola epidemic now. Some countries – like the US – have stepped up. But there is more to do. We need Congress to pass emergency funding for Ebola now. Talk is cheap. It’s time for action. Add your name to our petition here: one.org/ebola – ONE  XO Warrior  

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Love Is A Verb, It Ain't A Thing **Gramps Thank You For Showing Your Love**

Gramps would skip my nick name “Pud” and go straight to first name asking why I wrote this. Because I love you and want to thank you for being the father I never had. You taught me thru love when I needed it most. Your rules strict and set in cement. You taught me responsibility by setting an example. The nuggets we learn and realize when we’re older. I work to live by your example except for telling dirty jokes and I cuss way more. I went to work at 15 years old and drove his car. He had me pay $50 for yearly insurance and $8.00 a week for gas, gas cost 0.89 at the time. My first car was a puck green Dodge Duster, the car was ugly but the tunes blared out. I was jamming. The rules were clear-cut, I could only drive my car to school, work, journalism, girls basketball and granny to mall. Granny told me years later he checked to make sure I was working on school paper, I was, he never checked again. When I started dating at 17 years old my curfew was 12:00, not 12:05. No phone calls after 9:00 PM, no leaving the house after 9:00PM, “you could get into no good if leaving after 9:00PM”. If not working I was home by 4:30PM for supper. Both of my grandparents showed me their love. He only raised his voice one time. His […]

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Can Anyone Tell Me What Day It Is? **Yosemite National Park Here We Come**

      I’ve been in the house so long there’s no reason to keep up with the day of week. Today is a perfect example, Throw Back Thursday is on Wednesday. I want to cry and laugh at the same time. The neurological effects of Lyme Disease sucks. In the Chronic phase the virus can set up house in the brain causing neurological damage. To remain as positive as possible I don’t focus on the effect to my brain. There is no way to know if the damage is permanent or not. One side effect is memory loss, like walking to the kitchen and not remembering why. It’s annoying and a reminder you have a virus boring thru your brain. I choose not to focus on the what or why even with constant reminders. I am not at the wheel and trust God to get me to the other side.I’m on a long journey that will give plenty chances to laugh, laugh with me, not at me. Overlook the missing words in a post, thanking you for stopping by more than once and Throw Back Thursday on Wednesday. Life is too short to worry about the little things. Let’s laugh, then focus on how we can help someone and have our collective voice heard. Sending a heart-felt thanks and Texas size hug to you. M  

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Lyme Journal Entry Six **Kicked Around But Never Down**

God blessed me with the ability to feel empathy. He also filled my heart with sunshine. Today my husband participated in the Ice Bucket Challenge. My heart shines as I watch this challenge cross the globe. If we look, there is someone suffering more than ourselves. I work hard to keep in mind on the tough days.  M I’ve had a cold for a couple of days, germs rode in on husbands back. Thank you for the prayers and kind words, you lift me up. I have a positive outlook, no pity party here. Lyme Disease may kick me around but never down. A special shout out to my Twin in Germany, she keeps me rolling in laughter with vomit stories. You had to be there. This is a list of probiotics, supplements and shots taken in preparation for my antibiotic treatment. My next appointment is 9/17/14, I’m hopeful he will start the antibiotics. Supplements Magnesium Malate 1,250mg  1 daily Omega 3,2126mg  1 daily Alpha Lipoic Acid 600mg  1 daily Multi Vitamin 1 daily Acetyl L-Carnitine 500mg  1 daily Reservatrol 150mg  1 daily B12 Shot three times a week  Methylocobalamine 25mg/ml injection 1cc 3 x week Probiotics 2 pills in AM One liquid probiotic packet daily In an effort to improve overall health, I starting drinking all natural beverages. I discovered the Suja Life brand, they are certified organic by CCOF. The drinks are cold-pressed, organic, no growth hormones, all […]

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Important Change.org Petitions Need Your Support **Violence Against Women**

I only post petitions from Change.org that really disturb me. I feel strongly you want to see the injustice and take part in forging change. There are so many in my e-mail I can’t do individual post for each. I’m asking you to click on the links below or go directly to http://www.change.org to check currents petitions. Sign up for direct notices if you like. There are many opportunities to make your voice heard. One signature can make a difference. I will post an update on petitions which have seen victory and positive change. We have to make our collective voice heard, violence is not acceptable and people will be accountable for their actions with proper penalties.   M Violence Against Women NFL must update policy against violencee. https://www.change.org/p/roger-goodell-nflcommish-set-consistent-punishment-guidelines-for-nfl-players-who-commit-violence-against-women High School Violence Against Women https://www.change.org/p/steubenville-high-school-remove-convicted-rapist-from-big-red-football-team End Teen Dating Violence https://www.change.org/p/south-carolina-state-senate-pass-sierra-s-law-to-end-teen-dating-violence-in-south-carolina  

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Eric Clapton and Steve Winwood Jam to Presence of the Lord **Live from Crossroads**

I haven’t gone off the deep edge or forgotten what day it is. This song is the most beautiful rock song about finding God. This is dedicated to my friend/followers. Thank you for the kind words of support, prayers and overall positive thoughts. It would not be right if I didn’t mention EC is the master guitar rocker. The Rock Star in my head plays like my guitar idol. Have a great weekend. 🙂  M

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Throw Back Thursday **Rock Out With Legends Robert Palmer & Steve Winwood**

This weeks selection is awesome. Robert Palmer in 1978, long before Shania Twain in mens shirts is awesome. I particularly like the song, the words never escape me. I love Steve Winwood, old or new all of his work is seared in my brain. Take a break, kick back and think back to where you were listening the songs. I hope you are enjoying the music. Do you have a request for the DJ, leave it in the comments.  Warrior

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Update on Change.org Petition for Nikki's Cochlear Implant **Power to the people**

We are in the home stretch for Cigna’s approval for Nikki’s Cochlear Implant. Please pass post to everyone you know and if you didn’t sign first time please do. President Obama made a promise, all petitions with over 100K signatures would get attention. She received almost 170K first time around. Let’s get Cigna’s attention. We can deal with Obama later.  Warrior Change.org Update Cochlear Implant

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5 year old shots and kills another 5 year old with family gun **Ignorance is no different than parent shooting the child**

Why aren’t parents with guns using gun locks, keeping guns in a safe, child proofing and not going to jail when their child shots and kills someone? I believe everyone has the right to own a gun and use for self defense.What I can’t get my head around, is why are children/teens gaining access to guns. There are headlines weekly about children/teens gaining access to parents guns. This is fixable and impacts all children/teens. Why does another child have to die for ignorant behavior of a parent. The article is from a British Newspaper, Pierce Morgan tweeted the article to his followers with less than kind words about America. It’s sad, I had to agree with him. The killing of a child with your gun is no different from you pulling the trigger. Parents need  a life sentence for killing the child. This is my opinion, if you have another please comment.  Warrior http://www.upi.com/Top_News/US/2014/08/01/5-year-old-girl-in-Idaho-shot-dead-by-another-5-year-old/1421406904662/

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Humbled With Nomination For Very Inspiring Blogger Award*Celebrate Dance to the Music*

Alygeorges surprised me with a nomination for the Very Inspiring Blogger Award. I’m honored she finds my blog worthy of the respected award. Alygeorges has a very uplifting site focused on Christian scripture. With a focus on how to apply the scripture to our lives. I can always find a great reminder of what God gives us in her post. She shares without preaching. She’s a long time friend/follower to lookingforthelight.me I will answer the questions and complete nominees at another time.Due to my health, I’m not able to list the worthy blogs to nominate for the award.There are many great blogs,what a problem to have. I have a big smile on my face. The Very Inspiring Blogger Award Seven Things about myself: I can’t have to many watches, this is a twenty year passion. I only have two expensive watches, one being my first splurge a Tag Hauer. I think I’m a tech guru, on the MAC that is so from the truth. I won’t drink milk out of date. Before Lyme, I was a fanatic about a clean desk. I usually have four or five books I’m reading at same time. I listen the same three artist every night, James Blount, John Mayer and Josh Groban. I love Black & White photography. I’ll have to come back and finish up the requirements and nominations. Be patient with me, it may take a long time. Thank you Alygeorges for […]

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Lyme Journal Update: Entry Two

I have learned several lessons since the last journal entry.  A word of caution. For those who enjoy the outdoors anywhere in the US, Canada, Germany and  parts of England, please educate yourself on Lyme Disease. If detected early doctors can usually treat with a short round of antibiotics. It is hard to think a tick the size of a […]

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