About Me

Looking for the Light is a Health and Lifestyle blog started in 2005 under the name Defining Memories. I spent my early years blogging about my grandparent’s death, sharing the grieving process and caregiving tips. I openly talked about being sexually assaulted, growing up in house of domestic violence, alcoholism, emotional, physical and sexual abuse. I went thru the grieving process of losing my father to suicide in 1992. When it comes to baggage, I have it multiples.
In 2014 I needed a new direction, there wasn’t light at the end of my tunnel as they say, I went to look for it and hoped to share my life lessons with others who may not be in the same place and Looking for the Light was born.
Today I’m a happy, mostly healthy, pretty adjusted woman who is working hard to lift others up.
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Looking for the Light

A portion of my post are dedicated to subjects of Chronic Illnesses, for which I have a few. Lyme Disease, an Immune Deficiency Disorder, Fibromyalgia and Bipolar Disorder. I call myself an armchair advocate, by that I try to educate and share what I know and learn thru my blog not thru a charity or an agency. Due to my ongoing health issues I’m not able to volunteer at this time.
I have a wide range of interest from Travel, World History, Ancestry, Education for Children, Global Warming, Animal Abuse, Reading, Writing and Photography.
I would love to hear from you. You can leave your thoughts in the comment section below.
So glad you took the time to read my About Me page, I’ve updated it on 9/14/22.


  1. I’m so sorry you have been through so much trauma, pain and loss. I can totally identify with everything you have mentioned, as you’ll no doubt know from some of my posts that you’ve read. I have huge admiration and respect for you for having been able to move on from many of those very negative experiences and into a better way of life. However, I appreciate that you have many physical illnesses to deal with. I admire your courage and strength. I find your blog very inspiring, and it gives me hope for a better future for myself. You have certainly been writing for many years – that takes discipline and determination. I think you’re pretty remarkable in turning things around. I hope I get to that place in time. I’m looking forward to reading more of your work. Thank you for sharing these facts about yourself. Take care … Ellie x πŸ’•

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    1. Hi Ellie,
      You’re way too kind and thank you from a person who has problems accepting compliments. But you’re right, anyone that can walk thru the storm, every day no matter how small is an amazing person. I’m so glad you found each other’s blogs. I think the writing is part of my therapy, I can share as much as I like or give you the gore. I’m at a good place with my trauma but struggling right now with my health and working to get back in charge of a few places in my life. Since you’re fairly new to my blog if you would like the front page and tell me does it look professional? is easy to manuver? any hassles? or ideas of where to move a widget. I want to stay static with my page and I can’t look at it from the reader’s perspective. If you have a minute. Have a great weekend. We must keep moving forward, even if’s one step a day or a week. πŸ™‚

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      1. Hi, Melinda, Just a quickie for now. Thanks for your reply. I’m sorry I haven’t been able to take a proper look at your website as you requested. I haven’t been very well this weekend. Hopefully, I’ll be feeling better tomorrow and should have time to check out the features you mentioned and will then get back to you again. I’ve certainly liked what I’ve found so far. I just wanted to reassure you I wasn’t ignoring you and hadn’t forgotten. I hope you are well and that your weekend has gone smoothly. Xx 😘

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        1. Hello, Melinda. I’m feeling a little better physically, at least not so much mentally or emotionally. Still, I’ve taken a good look at your blog and wanted to get back to you regarding this. I love your static front page, as I can see all the different posts you’ve written with a little excerpt from each one. This is very effective and is something I’d like to display on my own blog, but I want to keep my theme the same. I think people can recognise our individual themes before they even read a post. I just wanted to let you know that I know that works for me. I’ve only changed my theme two, perhaps, three times since I started blogging in 2014, but it takes people a while to recognise our new themes. So, I think your theme works really well, and I wouldn’t be inclined to change it if I were you. Your side widgets seem to be well-placed. I love your little images – personal touches are important. I like that you have embedded your Twitter platform, too; something else I’ve never managed to suss out for my own blog. I also think that displaying your ‘ Community’ is helpful. With me, I like to hover over some of their Gravatars, and if I know you admire these bloggers’ posts, I feel more inclined to pop over to that person’s blog – almost as a recommendation from you. I hope all that makes sense – I really couldn’t see anything I’d change. Good luck with continuing your blog. I’m so glad we’ve ‘met’. Xx πŸ€—πŸ’•

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  2. Thank you for your beautiful and inspirational words. My blog too tries to seek “the light” in an often difficult world. I have written several short stories about my Irish born mother who was a unique inspiration and loved by all who knew her. As my Irish aunt says “if you are not laughing you are crying.” I love the title of your blog as I work part time as a Psych Tech and at every turn try to get our patients to hold on to even a glimmer of hope. Your thoughts become your life it is often said. And, if they cannot find the strength I always loved the quote “If you cannot look on the bright side, I will sit with you in the dark…”

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  3. Hi M, I hope you’re well…
    I am deeply inspired by your experiences. Sometimes I feel overburdened by the sad moments in my life, but then I think of everything you’ve been through, and I tell myself, whatever’s bugging me is nothing really. You’re a hero in so many ways. I hope everyone who stops by your beautiful blog feels inspired by you like I am. Thank you for all the encouragement you give me.
    I send you so much love.
    May the coming year be one that’s full of God’s abundant blessings, on you and all your loved ones.
    Happy New Year 2022!

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    1. Thank you so much for the kind words, my friend. It seems like yesterday when we first spoke yet it was years ago. You were a young woman about to go off to uni and start to become a woman. You’ve accomplished so much despite the obstacles in your daily life. Our lives are not that different, just different challenges, all of which make us who we are. Better than the situation we come from and we have control of where we go from here. So happy to see your life unfolding and I know when the time is right God will put the right man in your life. It doesn’t mean it will be the forever man, just a great man for the right time. When the right one comes along, you’ll know. Don’t push it, that doesn’t pay and hurts everyone involved. God is watching over you and will guide you in the right direction, just keep listening. Hugs.

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