Thanks for sharing. Melinda
“Mothers cannot give from a depleted source. Every mother needs emotional, mental, physical and spiritual validation, nourishment and support. When a mother is respected and well cared for, she, and her whole family, will benefit.”
I think this has been the post I’ve mostly put off. There is a lot of things that happened, that it scares me a bit to see it typed out. This was a time for me where I didn’t know how strong I could be until I had no other choice.
When my first daughter was born, I was 19. I instantly fell in love with the idea of having a little person of my own, so I wouldn’t feel so lonely. My pregnancy wasn’t planned or meant “to trap” anyone. I used every method possible to prevent from becoming pregnant, but nonetheless she came and she brightened my world. Soon after I gave birth to…
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At 55 this is romance? Have a great day! M
The memories are forever etched in my mind. Back when concerts were fun, everyone passed it down, no privacy policies or lawsuits from a balloon touching their head. Another Jethro Tull favorite in Auqalung, we played the card game Spades listening to the LP often. This may be the best 70’s spin all year! Have a great day. M
The Sunshine Award comes to me from two close friends Danica Piche http://email@example.com and Robert M. Goldstein http://robertmgoldstein.com. They are so special I took my No Awards sign down to participate. The sign is back up, I forgot how much work these are.
The rules are:
Thank the blogger who nominated you for the award and link to their blog.
Thank you Danica and Robert, surprised I accepting the award?
List the rules and include the Sunshine Blogger Award Logo in your post.
Answer the 11 Questions asked of you.
Write a new list of 11 Questions for your Nominees
Nominate 11 Bloggers for the Sunshine Blogger Award
Many of the blogs on the list of nominees are award free blogs so those bloggers will know I’m thinking of them.
For those of who accept the award I hope you’ll find my questions interesting or crazy!
I’M USING ROBERT’S QUESTIONS SINCE HIS AWARD CAME IN FIRST. I STILL LOVE YOU DANICA, OF COURSE HEDGEHOG TOO.
Why do you blog?
Blogging started as a way to help grieve my Granny as time went on I wanted to share what I had learned as a caregiver. The rest they say is history.
What most frustrates you about blogging?
When I’m to sick to write or write anyway and its complete gibberish.
What do you enjoy most about blogging?
Learning, meeting people from every corner of the globe, feedback and helping others. Blogging also fulfills my 6th grade goal of being a Journalist. Not quite the same but I’ll take it.
How do you define success?
The internal knowledge I did my best.
What is the one thing you most want from your followers?
Feedback, feedback, feedback, feedback!
What is the one thing you most want to give the people you follow?
How do you define the difference between positive and negative criticism?
You can learn from all feedback if you can peel your ego away. Try not to curse too much.
How do you deal with moments when a blogger you like posts something you don’t like?
I’m all ears……everyone has an opinion, doesn’t mean there’s not another side to story.
Is your blog a journal, a literary experiment, performance art or none of that?
I have three blogs each are different and are what the followers want’s them to be.
What is success as a blogger?
Feeling good about the post you write or information you share. The icing is always comments, but the world is moving faster and it’s hard for people to always take the time.
By your definition, do you consider yourself successful?
I’m successful in life by putting one foot in front of the other. Any day out of bed is a great day and leaving the house gives me the chills.
Questions (You can make your own up if you like, be a rebel)
What song do you listen to that always pumps you up?
As a child did you color inside the lines?
Best vacation parents ever took you on?
As a teenager what was dream job? Did you find your dream?
The first and last song on your playlist?
Walking along the surf or jump in for swim?
Two examples of a perfect day.
Hiking or Parasailing?
Before Blogging did you write journals, professionally?
THE AWARD WOULD NOT SEE THE LIGHT OF DAY IF I HAD TO PICK 11 BLOGS. INSTEAD THIS IS A SHOUT OUT TO ALL THAT FOLLOW LOOKING FOR THE LIGHT BLOG AND SURVIVORS BLOG HERE. I WOULD BE REMISS IF I DID NOT MENTION THE CONTRIBUTORS OF SURVIVORS BLOG HERE. BOTH HAVE TRUELY CHANGED MY DAYS, WEEKS AND YEARS. ESPECIALLY MY SICKEST YEARS.
INSERT YOUR NAME HERE AND SPREAD SUNSHINE.
New research suggests that people with binge eating may be at increased risk.Source: Photo by Kristina Tripkovic on Unsplash
Could people struggling with binge eating be at an increased risk for suicide? That’s what a new study suggests. While it has long been recognized that people with anorexia nervosa and bulimia nervosa are at increased risk for suicidal behaviors, little has been known about the risk for people struggling with binge eating and binge eating disorder (BED)—until now.
A recent study by Brown et al (2018) published in BMC Psychiatry suggests that people struggling with binge eating are at an increased risk of suicide, with those at higher weights having the highest risk. The study examined data from 14,497 participants in a large, diverse, nationally representative US database (the Collaborative Psychiatric Epidemiologic Surveys) and found that among participants with a history of binge eating (approximately 4% of the sample), 1/3 (34.2%) reported ever thinking about suicide, 1/5 (18.6%) had a history of attempted suicide, and 10.1% experienced suicidality in the past year.
Results were similar for those with a history of binge eating and those who met full criteria for BED, indicating that the risks of subclinical binge eating may be similar to the full-spectrum disorder.
Binge eating and BED were significantly associated with lifetime suicidality, and BMI did not explain this relationship. The relationship between binge eating and suicidality was stronger for women than for men. Results did indicate a significant interaction between BMI and binge eating on the likelihood of suicidality; meaning that those with binge eating who were at a higher BMI were at higher risk for suicidality.
Unfortunately, this study did not examine the role of weight stigma so we do not know what impact this has in the relationship between binge eating, BMI, and suicidality. Prior research suggests that weight stigma increases the risk of eating disorders and disordered eating, including binge eating and BED, and I imagine it also plays a role in the increased risk of suicidality for people struggling with binge eating who live in larger bodies. What do you think?
Alexis Conason is a clinical psychologist specializing in the treatment of overeating disorders, body image dissatisfaction, psychological issues related to bariatric surgery, and sexual issues. She is the founder of The Anti-Diet Plan (sign up for her free 30 day course). Follow her on Twitter,Instagram, and Facebook.
Brown KL, LaRose JG, and Mezuk B. (2018) The Relationship between Body Mass Index, Binge Eating Disorder, and Suicidality. BMC Psychiatry, 18: 196
Here are newer releases from people or bands I like. Not sure about the effects used but with a few more views I might change my mind. Leave me a comment on your thoughts. I love to spin for you, request line open 24/7. Have a great day. M
I had the pleasure of interviewing David Kanigan at Live & Learn http://www.davidkanigan.com. He is well-loved as reflected by the large number of glowing comments left by followers. He is funny, gracious and well read. David thank you for taking time to talk, play phone tag, it was a pleasure.
Best vacation parents ever took you on? We used to go to Radium Hot Springs in the summer. They had large swimming pools. Here’s the link: https://www.radiumhotsprings.com
As a teenager what was dream job? Did you find your dream? I was born and raised in a small town in British Columbia. My dream job was to work in NY. I work in NY!
The first and last song on your playlist? I rotate my playlists so there is no constant first and last. And have an eclectic music taste. Love Dave Matthews Band. Many groups from 70’s (eg, Doobie Brothers, Fleetwood Mac, etc)
Walking along the surf or jump in for swim? Walking along the surf, for sure.
Two examples of a perfect day. Reading a great book. Saturday morning in solitude after a long work week.
Hiking or Parasailing? Neither. Suffer from acrophobia even though I fly a good deal for work.
Before Blogging did you write journals, professionally? Never wrote a stitch before blogging.
Guest Margie Lakefield shares the trauma of Postpartum Psychosis in a multi series post.
I read Margie’s post in tears, feeling empathy, above all I knew she was a strong woman. A woman who made tough decisions for the better of her children’s future. Her story touched me deeply, I had to meet her. We worked together on the series. Unfortunately Margie had a family emergency and can’t be with us.
She is dedicated to sharing her story at the cost of lingering pain. Margie takes us thru the arrival at hospital until the moment she reached out for help.
The Series will post starting next Monday and consecutive Mondays. Margie’s participation in the app is dear to her heart. She encourages everyone to download the app, get familiar with the resources available and the DNA initiative.
Hope for the Helpless suffering from Post Postpartum Depression.
The pactforthecure app is a new initiative. Available at App Store. Giving Hope for the Helpless Suffering PPD •
March 28, 2016 •
Thank you to the University of North Carolina, Chapel Hill , for this initiative. I will forever be indebted to your servitude.
This past week I noticed a story on CNN of an upcoming app that was to be released. I am submitting this after receiving an email today giving me permission to submit my article to the organization responsible for this International Study of Women Suffering/or have suffered from Postpartum Depression, and/or, Psychosis. It is my sincere hope that you will spread this information in an effort to draw attention to this program. They are looking to collect thousands of participants for this study. You can find the app, for free. Look for PPD ACT app. I found it through the Apple Store.
I literally had tears running down my face when I read that this initiative was taking place. In 1984, at the time of my episode, there was not much information readily available to women suffering from PPD. This study will no doubt change that, and with it, the lives of thousands upon thousands of women. It is my understanding that one in five women will experience some sort of the so-called, ‘baby blues’ and some will not be as fortunate as those of us who have survived the mayhem of insanity that swallowed our souls. Thankfully, we have returned to tell a story, using genetic markers they may one day find the answer to helping others from being driven into the abyss.
Bring hope to those who have lost theirs by sharing this initiative. Again,
I thank you.
WordPress sent a nice badge informing me Looking for the Light Blog was celebrating its ninth anniversary. I can’t find the badge and will improvise.
Looking for the Light became an outlet to share past trauma. The shame, guilt, self-hatred, my father’s suicide, each beating and bruise remembered. During this time I met many people going thru trauma and pain. I also met many supporters. Being able to unleash the secret box inside was life changing. Survivors Blog Here, http://firstname.lastname@example.org was born during this time. I’m so proud of the contributors and the knowledge gained from followers. Thank you!
Looking for the Light Blog was a “Where is Waldo” moment when WordPress Support Engineers took a two-week holiday leaving me with a big problem I could not fix. Like life, things worked themselves out. Looking for the Light Blog was born.
I thank you, celebrate our conversations, your prayers, support and understanding. Looking for the Light Blog would not be the same without you. More importantly neither would I.
You may notice Blog was dropped from the name on this theme.
“Accept and acknowledge your own brilliance. Stop waiting for others to tell you how great you are! Believe it for yourself and about yourself.”
I had not planed to spin for you today but it didn’t feel right. Hoping everyone had a safe fireworks show, don’t forget the burn bans. Have a great Thursday. Don’t forget I love your comments and request. M
Believe me, dear Sir: there is not in the British empire a man who more cordially loves a union with Great Britain than I do. But, by the God that made me, I will cease to exist before I yield to a connection on such terms as the British Parliament propose; and in this, I think I speak the sentiments of America.
This post is dedicated to the nervous parents whose kids are learning to drive. Hope you enjoy the tunes. Have a great day. M
National Fibromyalgia Association
1. ALWAYS believe in yourself emotionally and physically. No one can tell you what you are experiencing is not real! FM is a chronic medical disorder just like diabetes, hypertension, & asthma. While there are still gaps in our complete understanding of FM, the symptoms are real, & patients’ concerns are legitimate.
2. NEVER feel guilt for your illness. FM isn’t something you wished for & it isn’t something you can wish away. FM is not a character flaw, it’s a neurological disorder.
3. FIBROMYALGIA can wax and wane, so on the days that are extra-challenging, remember it will get better. FM is much more than just pain. In fact, surveys of patients have consistently suggested that fatigue may be just as problematic. Other symptoms associated with the disorder include: sleep disturbances, stiffness, & problems with concentration referred to as “Fibro Fog”. Patient self-management techniques can help keep flares under control.
4. FIBROMYALGIA “affects” many more people than it “afflicts”. Everyone who knows someone with FM is affected. It is now estimated that more than 10 million Americans have FM, and it is considered a global health issue. Studies have shown that FM is a disorder of the central nervous system.
5. FIBROMYALGIA can sometimes make you feel very alone. Keep in mind that over 10 million Americans have FM and most feel like you do! Although there are standard criteria that have been established to help a health care provider to diagnosis FM, it is important to recognize that people with FM can experience variations in their symptoms. Since systems which send pain signals and interpret pain signals in the brain involve many different processes, it is possible that different types of problems can arise, in different people.
6. FIND ways to improve your quality of life. It is important to find health care providers who want to partner with you along your journey. Ideally, the relationship between
a healthcare provider and a patient should be comfortable and based on mutual respect.
7. EDUCATION is empowerment! Learn as much as you can about FM and then put what you’ve learned into practice. Often simple remedies can have a big impact on your health – and the more you know, the more options you will have. The U.S. Food and Drug Administration has granted approval of drugs specifically to treat fibromyalgia. Some patients have experienced significant benefit in terms of reduced pain from these medications.
8. DON’T MAKE DECISIONS while in terrible pain. Never make rash decisions, especially when you are hurting! Finding a treatment strategy that works best for you may take time. Be open-minded and know that improvement will occur over time.
9. REMEMBER to be good to yourself. Every day should include activities that make you happy. Don’t forget to stop and smell the roses! Management techniques are key. Control your sleep hygiene, find motivational techniques that will keep you active, & eliminate stress through life-style management.
10. EVERY DAY advances are being made in awareness, research, and the treatment of FM. There are all kinds of organizations and companies that are working to secure a better future for people with FM.
“The clearest way into the Universe is through a forest wilderness.” ― John Muir After two soul-crushing treks into the wilderness; one where I came within millimeters of plummeting off a cliff before arresting my fall and the next where another fall and injury sapped my strength and caused me to doubt my ability to make it […]
What a day! Checked in at 1:00 processed at 3:00. Next step is the questions, why so many questions. Telling your traumatic experiences to a stone faced woman waiting for her shift to end. Now a strip search and off to search my bag.
No CD player or wire bound journal someone may hurt themselves. Losing it, I’m screaming fuck you over and over till my lungs hurt.
No room was available, I stayed on the criminal ward. It was late when taken over to building, nothing looked different. The next morning was a surprise, one shower for entire group with no shower curtain, bathroom stalls with no locks. Talk about privacy.
Under suicide watch the first week, someone had to bring my meals. The same meal the entire week. I’m not allowed to close my door, it’s a prison not a Mental Hospital to help people move forward or past an episode.
I checked in for ECT, not meetings, making friends or being fucked with. The stories of ECT treatments going bad….everyone had something to add. One woman had 40 treatments, she was lying or very sick.
Planning to stay three weeks I brought 10 books to pass the time. I stay in my room three days waiting for an EKG. This is how extra money is made, it was a week before my first ECT treatment. A week waisted.
to be continued……..