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Thoughts on my 11 Year Lyme Anniversary

Originally posted on Lyme Light Fight:
11 years ago this week I contracted Lyme disease.  I was 15 years old, energetic, happy, looking forward to college, and planning to be a missionary to Thailand.  I traveled a lot that summer and never found the tick bite, so it’s unclear when exactly I was bit.  It was most likely at my high school summer camp, given the woodsy nature of the camp. I came down with a flu-like illness with bad body aches.  But unlike the flu, the pain didn’t go away.  Instead it grew stronger and more symptoms sparked up over the next 5 years before I was diagnosed.  I became more and more sick as the bacteria was spread unchecked to every bodily system.  By the time I finally was diagnosed with Lyme disease, I had colorful spots and large white opaque shapes in my blurred vision.  I had night terrors, anxiety, and sleep paralysis, when I wasn’t fighting insomnia.  I had moderate to sometimes severe joint pain in every inch of me from my hands, to my toes, to everything in between.  I had terrible nausea and dizziness.  My muscles sporadically twitched at random, I had hot flashes and chills.  I had difficulty controlling my hands to produce legible letters; words and letters would be in the wrong order as I wrote. Both my longterm and short term memories were affected, as I sometimes got lost on my…

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Friday Quotes

Thank you for all the get well wishes, shout out’s and comments, they mean so much to me. I’m mending slowly and should be good as new in a few weeks. I want to send a special message to my Twitter followers, you showed me love, I thank and appreciate you. Melinda

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Mini Health Update

I have Thyroid & Parathyroid surgery tomorrow and will be out of pocket for a couple of weeks. Ok, it will be hard to stay completely away but considering moving my neck in any direction will hurt, I won’t spend much time on WordPress. Please don’t stop the comments, I’ll take all the encouragement I can get. There are tumors […]

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Today in History

  Thank you for stopping by my blog today, I appreciate you. Have a great day, enjoy today and be safe. Melinda 1054 Chinese astronomers spot a “guest star” in the sky, so brilliant it can be seen in the daytime. It will remain visible for some two years, be observed in Asian, Arab, and possibly American lands, and later […]

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Make Your Own Sea Salt Spray

Photo by Pixabay on Pexels.com What you’ll need 8-10 ounce Glass Spray Bottle 1 cup of warm water 1-2 tsp. sea salt or Epson salt 1 tbsp. coconut oil, Aragon oil or 1/2 of each less for oily hair 4-5 drops essential oil of your choice: mint, lavender, rosemary or lemon are good options. Directions In a measuring cup, add […]

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Side Effect Indunced Illnesses

    All drugs, prescription, over the counter and holistic have side effects, short and long term side effects. One important fact to know is holistic, supplements and over the counter drugs are not put thru clinical trials or FDA supervised. Basically, these products can make any claim, true or false and it’s not backed by the FDA. I’m not […]

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Today In History June 27

  1971 Concert promoter Bill Graham hosts the final show at the Fillmore East, with performances by Albert King, The J. Geils Band, The Beach Boys, and The Allman Brothers Band, among others. The venue had featured iconic acts since 1968 but proved to be too small for the growing concert industry. 1972 Nolan Bushnell and Ted Dabney, designers of the first arcade […]

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Looking For The Light’s 10 year anniversary

I started blogging with WordPress in 2005 with a blog called Defining Memories. After greiving my granny the blog took on a different look and a name change made sense. Looking For The Light is the name of my blog but also how I look at life. My life’s history is not completely resolved hence Looking For the Light. Through blogging I have grown in ways never imagined. Bloggers have provided support, another view, similar backgrounds to learn from and most of all a sense of community. I’m a more understanding person, less shallow, open hearted and loving person from blogging. Thank you and let’s keep rocking! Happy Anniversary with WordPress.com! You registered on WordPress.com 10 years ago. Thanks for flying with us. Keep up the good blogging.

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Sulfates, Parabens, Phthalates…..What?

There are toxins in many of the products we buy every day, baby lotion, shampoo, makeup, lipstick, deodorant, the list goes on. Here are a few toxins to avoid, Parabens, Sulfates, Phthalates, and Sodium Lauryl. You’ll have to look closely at the ingredients to find the toxins listed. M Phthalates Health Risks of Phthalates. Aside from increasing inflammation in premature babies, […]

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Learning Doctor Talk

Repost from 2014 I started seeing my Psychopharmacologist in 1992 and he intimidated me. He’s not a chipper guy and it took years to see through his shell. I was in a very dark place and spiraling down. I didn’t think he understood how depressed I was. He only provides medication management, 15-minute appointments at most. We had a couple of frustrating meetings. I didn’t know how to reach him, I didn’t know doctor talk. He is one of the best in Texas and finding a Psychopharmacologist is difficult. I wasn’t walking away. During another frustrating meeting, he left the room to talk to a therapist he worked with. He did me the biggest favor and no doubt saved my life by asking me to talk with the therapist. I sat down with her and expressed my frustration in getting thru to him. They had worked together for 13 years, she could provide insight into his personality and how best to communicate with him. Once we were on the same page, he was able to give me the help I needed. Psychopharmacology:  is the scientific study of the effects drugs have on mood, sensation, thinking, and behavior.The field of psychopharmacology studies a wide range of substances with various types of psychoactive properties, focusing primarily on the chemical interactions with the brain.Psychoactive drugs interact with particular target sites or receptors found in the nervous system to induce widespread changes in physiological or psychological […]

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#SoCS Prompt for week *Leaves

I don’t like all the leaves falling in Winter. I really don’t like when my husband leaves his lunchbox on counter. I love when he leaves money for me on the table. This is the best I could do today, I’m in severe pain. Have a great weekend and be safe. M Your Friday prompt for Stream of Consciousness Saturday is “social.” Use it any way you’d like. Have fun! Join us for the fun and sharing good media stories   For more on the Stream of Consciousness Saturday, visit Linda Hill’s blog. Here’s the link:https://lindaghill.com Here are the rules for SoCS: Your post must be stream of consciousness writing, meaning no editing, (typos can be fixed) and minimal planning on what you’re going to write. Your post can be as long or as short as you want it to be. One sentence – one thousand words. Fact, fiction, poetry – it doesn’t matter. Just let the words carry you along until you’re ready to stop. There will be a prompt every week. I will post the prompt here on my blog on Friday, along with a reminder for you to join in. The prompt will be one random thing, but it will not be a subject. For instance, I will not say “Write about dogs”; the prompt will be more like, “Make your first sentence a question,” “Begin with the word ‘The’,” or simply a single word to get […]

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#Weekend Music Share

  The temperature yesterday was 100 and felt like 109 with the humidity, needless to say, it’s hot in Texas. This time of year I think of swimming, hanging out with friends and eating good BBQ. This weekend I will make one of those happen. Time for a party tune or two. Be safe, drink tons of water to stay […]

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Dementia Thoughts

Dementia sucks, it’s fucking life sucking. I watched my granny die from Dementia, you don’t wish that type of death on anyone. Once she no longer knew who she or anyone else was it was crushing. I don’t want to die that way and have been vocal about it to the surprise of my husband, Therapist and Psychiatrist. My decision […]

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Why Do Women Get More Migraines than Men?

National Migraine Institute Posted on August 27, 2018 by Staff Researchers have found a potential mechanism for migraine that may explain why women get more migraines than men. The study, in Frontiers in Molecular Biosciences, suggests that sex hormones affect cells around the trigeminal nerve and connected blood vessels in the head.  They found that estrogens, which are at their highest levels in women of reproductive age, are particularly important for sensitizing these cells to migraine triggers. “We can observe significant differences in our experimental migraine model between males and females and are trying to understand the molecular correlates responsible for these differences,” explains Professor Antonio Ferrer-Montiel from the Universitas Miguel Hernández, Spain. “Although this is a complex process, we believe that modulation of the trigeminovascular system by sex hormones plays an important role that has not been properly addressed.” Ferrer-Montiel and his team reviewed decades of literature on sex hormones, migraine sensitivity and cells’ responses to migraine triggers to identify the role of specific hormones. Some (like testosterone) seem to protect against migraines, while others (like prolactin) appear to make migraines worse. They do this by making the cells’ ion channels, which control the cells’ reactions to outside stimuli, more or less vulnerable to migraine triggers. Some hormones need much more research to determine their role. Estrogen, however, stands out as a key candidate for understanding migraine occurrence. It was first identified as a factor by the greater prevalence of migraine in menstruating […]

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Today In History June 20th

Thanks for stopping by today, I appreciate you. Have an awesome day! M   1893 Following a sensational Massachusetts murder trial, Lizzie Borden, 32, is cleared of charges that she killed her father and stepmother with multiple blows from a hatchet. Borden will never shake off the notoriety, however, inspiring a gruesome folk rhyme still sung today. 1947 A drive-by shooter […]

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Change.org New Bill to protect LGBTQ

Please visit Change.org to see the original petition to sign. Change.org Melinda — A new bill in Congress would be the first national nondiscrimination law for LGBTQ Americans. If it passes, those in the LGBTQ community would no longer have to worry about losing their jobs because of who they are. Mark decided to start this petition because he sees […]

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Thoughts Job Hunting: Working Temporary

I started as a Recruiter in 1982 placing employees in light industrial jobs. My clients hired, warehouse workers, packing, anything in the warehouse that didn’t require heavy lifting or above a certain OSHA rating. It was a tough job, we had people not get their time card in on time and want to kick my ass, more than once. We had […]

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Caregiver to Grieving in Four Days

Each day was a roller coaster by how he felt and how exhausted I was. I learned so much being a caregiver to my grandmother and grandfather. As the population ages many of you will take on the responsibility. One of the most difficult changes was going from granddaughter to caregiver. Even at 92 my grandfather had a strong mind and felt he didn’t need help. I prayer for strength everyday. My grandfather died in 2010 at the young age of 92 years old. I spent more time with him 2010 year than I spent at home. I cherish the time we had together, no matter how painful. They are my memories and my life changed forever with his death. His health declined so fast that for two days I did not realize that he was dying now, not in a couple of weeks. He was at home under hospice care and would not get in the hospital bed until two days before he passed. He fell out of bed that morning, he was so weak it was difficult for me to get him back in bed. I don’t think we would have been able to talk him into moving to the hospital bed if he had not fallen. For him the bed meant death and he was still fighting. My grandfather had End Stage Kidney Disease. An emergency trip to the hospital for his AFIB is how we learned he had about two months to live. We knew his kidneys were losing function but I was not ready for […]

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Caregiver 101 Tips I Missed

Reblogged from 2009 I care for my 92-year-old gramps and have been here five weeks. He had three surgeries in seven days. Without Caregiving 101 training, I learned the hard way. *Ask the doctor what happens if the  procedure does not work. *If a second procedure does not work, is there a third option. *What is the recovery time and type of […]

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Lost in Caregiver Twilight Zone

Written on 12/21/2009 I’m caring for my 92-year-old grandfather following three surgeries in seven days. I’m so tired it’s numbing, it’s impossible to think about doing it again tomorrow.  My grandfather is a man of habits driven by the time of day, maybe from his military background. One morning he was upset when the hospital had not brought his coffee and could not see he was the problem. We’re in a hospital not the Hilton. At home it was far worse. It does not matter that I have changed the sheets again this morning, changed his soiled underpants more than once and got him dressed for the day. If the coffee is not ready when he expects or I don’t have the newspaper yet, I hear about it. My grandparents raised me and I love my grandfather dearly but it’s hard to bite my tongue. I want to ask doesn’t he realize or care that I’ve been moving since 5:00 a.m. to take care of him. At 92 he lives at home alone, still drives (very limited), buys groceries and goes to the local Senior Center several times a week to play dominos. He amazes me with each year. He is the healthiest dying person I know and in his mind he is much younger and more capable. This makes it impossible for him to understand recovery will take several more weeks at least. I catch him doing things he […]

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I’m Mourning and She’s Still Alive

My grandmother passed away with Dementia from two strokes in 2005. I’m reposting for the caregivers dealing with a loved one with Alzheimer’s or Dementia. For those who have not been a caregiver, these post may help you down the road. For the caregivers who give every ounce of energy, just one piece of advice if I may. Take time to clear your head, 10 or 30 minutes whatever you can for yourself each week. I did not have any one to offer suggestions and had brain drain after both of their deaths. My body was physically broken down. Due to the nature of the illness, it’s hard to take an eye off them, 24/7. I was fortunate we had hospice care for both of my grandparents. My grandfather was healthy enough to help with my grandmother. I don’t know how to turn my brain off. I’m Morning and She’s Still Alive As the caregiver for my grandparents, my hands are full yet my mind runs at a high level by switching to what I call “caregiver mode”. I can manage tons of information about what drugs they take, schedule appointments, discuss test results or anything else needed to take care of two people who are dying and “switch back” when at home. Before the fall and broken hip, my grandmother knew me. Our conversations limited yet sharing memories with her made my day. She really enjoyed a photo book I put […]

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Dementia Induced Thought’s of Suicide

Being a caregiver to a dying loved one can leave you drained of emotion, exhausted and frustrated. All perfectly normal feelings. I felt quilt mixed in my bowl of emotions. I grew up knowing my grandparents wanted to die at home. I would grant the wish if possible. They inspired me, saved me from parental abuse and blessed me with unconditional love. Helping my gramps when making difficult life decisions, while working hard to remember she’s my grandmother. There were uncomfortable conversations, articulate to doctors how she is progressing and butt heads with family members. I ran a tight ship, no problems telling people it’s time to leave, not allowing people over everyday. God blessed me with the ability to turn my depression down and step up to next level. Love for my grandmother drove my decisions down to the last morphine stick. As our population ages the number of caregivers increase. It can seem overwhelming at times. If you don’t have a blog I would suggest checking out, it gave me an outlet. Caregivers choose to open their hearts to the emotional and physical challenges.  Dementia Induced Thoughts Of Suicide Today I used one of four “in case of emergency” pills to keep my Grandmother from hurting herself during a dementia related meltdown brought on by my Grandfather going to the grocery store. She’s had many of these episodes since her stroke almost two years ago. Today I saw […]

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#Weekend Music Share

I’ve had a rough week physically, my Fribomyalgia has set in from the hips down. I’m in the mood for a fun song, I’m picking one of my favorite country artist Blake Shelton. Have a great weekend. Be Safe. M Welcome back to Weekend Music Share; the place where everyone can share their favourite music. Feel free to use the ‘Weekend Music Share‘ banner in your post, and don’t forget to use the hashtag #WeekendMusicShare on social media so other participants can find your post.

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Homeade Orange Cream Milk Bath

Willow and Sage by Stampington You will need Yields 2 jars 1 cup powdered milk 1/4 cup baking soda 1/4 cup cornstarch 11-12 drops orange essential oil Glass jars Sharpie Kraft labels: round Baker’s twine To Make Mix all the ingredients together and scoop into glass jars with tight fitting lids. Write a label for the top and tie a […]

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Today In History June 13

    I’m having a rough day and haven’t included birthdays. Thanks for stopping by today and have a great weekend.  M   1777 Gilbert du Motier, Marquis de Lafayette, disembarks in America after a two-month sea voyage from France. The wealthy 19-year-old will befriend future presidents Washington and Jefferson, and help train and lead revolutionary regiments against the British in […]

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Chronic Pain: Swimming Therapy

  Most people don’t think of Mental Illness when discussing Chronic Pain. Mental Illness can be physically debilitating with many spending large amounts of time in bed. For someone like me who is challenged by both, daily life can be difficult. Today I’m in bed juggling my laptop on one knee trying to avoid the pain screaming on the left […]

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Pain Warriors

As Ambassador for U.S. Pain Foundation I want to share the latest news on a meeting offered by U.S. Pain Foundation and Coilition for Headache and Migranes Patients. Melinda Sandor Ambassador-Texas U.S. Pain Foundation. Dear pain warriors, Those with chronic pain, including migraine and headache disorders, can have an especially tough time finding a doctor they click with. Have you ever wanted to find a way to better communicate with your doctor, get the most out of your visits, and maximize your treatment plan?If yes, please join us this Thursday, June 13, at 7 pm ESTfor an intimate conversation between neurologist and headache specialist Abby Chua, DO, and patient advocate Katie Golden. Dr. Chua and Katie will discuss what patients and doctors can learn from one another, and offer tips for interacting.Dr. Chua is a headache specialist at Hartford HealthCare Headache Center in Connecticut. She also is program director of their Headache and Facial Pain Fellowship Program, one of the few such programs in the country. Dr. Chua brings a special level of compassion to her practice as a person living with vestibular migraine, and advocates tirelessly on behalf of patients. Katie lives with chronic migraine disease, and has emerged as a leading voice for the patient community. She is the Migraine Advocacy Liaison for U.S. Pain Foundation and a member of the steering committee for CHAMP. She was the recipient of the Impact Award 2017 for the Association of Migraine Disorders and writes […]

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This NBA Superstar Used 2 (Surprising) Words to Teach a Valuable Lesson in Emotional Intelligence

By Justin BarisoFounder, Insight It’s rare for professional athletes to admit weakness. It’s even rarer for them to do this. As the Toronto Raptors and Golden State Warriors continue their slugfest to determine the NBA’s 2019 champion, one player is already preparing for next season: The Milwaukee Bucks’ Giannis Antetokounmpo. Not that long ago it appeared that Antetokounmpo and the Bucks would be playing the Warriors for this year’s championship. The Bucks had cruised through the playoffs, and were up two games to zero against the Toronto Raptors. But the Raptors went on to win the next four games in a row–a remarkable feat considering the Bucks hadn’t lost three games in a row the entire season. The Raptors managed to defeat the Bucks by tooling their defense to focus on stopping the young team’s star (who’s affectionately known as “the Greek Freak” due to his Athens upbringing and monstrous athletic prowess). In a recent interview with The Athletic, Antetokounmpo acknowledged that Raptors players Kawhi Leonard and Marc Gasol gave him particular trouble. Giannis admitted that now the series is over, “every day in his head,” he continues to see Gasol and Leonard coming at him. Then, Antetokounmpo went on to say something remarkable to his opponents: “Thank you. Thank you, because Gasol and Kawhi made me a better player. I’m not trying to be sarcastic. I’m being honest. They’re going to push me to be better.” “Thank you.” It’s rare for professional athletes to admit weakness or to credit opposing players for […]

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Blair Underwood: Ava Duvernay Made A Grief Counselor Available On The Set Of ‘When They See Us’

HelloBuzz Shamika Sanders, Sr. Entertainment Editor Posted May 31, 2019 Ava Duvernay was just a teenager when five young Black boys, from Harlem, were arrested and convicted for the rape of a white woman in Central Park on the night of April 19, 1989. So when Raymond Santana, one of the “Central Park 5” sent her a wishful tweet about bringing the Central Park 5 story to the screen, “it meant a lot” to her, she revealed to NPR. Ava and Netflix’s When They See Us chronicles the events of the Central Park Five case that captivated the nation. The four-part series will span 25 years, taking on the wrongful conviction of the boys, as well as highlight their exoneration in 2002 and the settlement reached with the city of New York in 2014. Antron McCray, Yusef Salaam, Raymond Santana, Jr., Kevin Richardson and Korey Wise were beaten upon arrest, forced into making false confessions and convicted of a crime they did not commit. They served between seven and 13 years in prison and were later exonerated only to have a convicted murderer, who was serving a life sentence, eventually confess to the crime. Their story is perfectly aligned with Duvernay’s mission to raise awareness around the injustices of the prison industrial system, which she explored in her critically acclaimed documentary the 13th. When They See Us stars a stellar cast Michael K. Williams, John Leguizamo, Niecy Nash and Blair Underwood, who opened up to us about this role […]

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RAINN Stands with LGBTQ Survivors

RAINN Newsletter JUN 03, 2019   Each June, communities and individuals around the world recognize pride month—a joyful celebration of all genders and sexualities as well as a solemn reminder of the difficulties many lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer (LGBTQ) people continue to face. Sexual violence is an issue that affects all people, regardless of gender or sexual orientation. LGBTQ […]

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23andMe Scientist to Present Data on the Genetics of Type 2 Diabetes at American Diabetes Association Conference

June 3, 2019 By 23andMe under 23andMe Research, Education By Eloycsia Ratliff, MPH, 23andMe Medical Education Project Manager We know that diet and exercise play an important role in a person’s likelihood of developing type 2 diabetes, but what role does genetics play? That’s a question 23andMe researchers have been investigating, and at a meeting of the American Diabetes Associations (ADA) Annual Conference on June […]

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Weekend Music Share Tom Petty #weekendmusicshare

Welcome back to Weekend Music Share; the place where everyone can share their favourite music. Feel free to use the ‘Weekend Music Share‘ banner in your post, and don’t forget to use the hashtag #WeekendMusicShare on social media so other participants can find your post. I’ve battled this week with my physical and mental health. I realized today how hard I was fighting and it made me think of a great Tom Petty Song. Melinda

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Today in History June 6

  1944 Four years and two days after Allied forces evacuated from the European mainland, they return in the Normandy landings, the largest amphibious military assault in history. By the end of the day, 5,000 vessels land 160,000 troops on the French coastline, launching the push to defeat Germany. https://youtu.be/0wg5x5WaZPo 1844 George Williams, formerly of rural Somerset, England, and now working […]

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Clean Air With A Homemade Oil Diffuser

Willow & Sage by Stampington You will need Wooden diffuser sticks Lavender essential oil Tea Tree essential oil Fractionated Coconut oil Glass bottle Blend essential oils into fractionated coconut oil at a ratio of about 1-4, fill glass bottle halfway and insert sticks. Use a bottle with the smallest opening possible, and use as many sticks as you can fit into […]

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INVISIBLE PROJECT: MIGRAINE THIRD EDITION NOW AVAILABLE

As an Ambassador for the U.S. Pain Foundation I invite you to read the latest issue of Invisible Project. Melinda Sandor Ambassador-Texas U.S. Pain Foundation June 3, 2019/ U.S. Pain Foundation/ 0 Comments In time for Migraine & Headache Awareness Month, U.S. Pain Foundation has released its third edition of the INvisible Project focusing on headache and migraine diseases. The publication depicts the reality of life with pain, and why people living with headaches diseases need and deserve more help, treatment options, and research. It also serves as an inspiration to those living with the disease, offering hope and resources. The magazine features profiles of 10 inspiring individuals, including: Danielle Byron Henry: On March 24, 1999, at age 17, Danielle took her own life due to migraine disease; a life lost to unbearable pain from a serious neurological condition. In 2019, her family observed the 20th anniversary of her passing. The family honors Danielle’s life and legacy through the Danielle Byron Henry Migraine Foundation, which was formed in 2016. The foundation provides support and care for all those with migraine disease. Tom Sayen: Since the age of 17, Tom has lived with blinding headache pain. It took 48 years, and endless nights of unbearable pain, for him to find the correct diagnosis of cluster headaches.  He has become an advocate, ensuring that all individuals living with cluster headache are provided with the necessary education and treatment. Melissa Carlson Kelly: Melissa serves as […]

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Gallery Travels: The Musee d’Orsay

Originally posted on For the Love of Art:
If you love the Impressionist period art, the d’Orsay has the largest collection of masterpieces in the world. It’s a travelers delight. The architecture of the building, an old train station, is worth the trip alone. The Left Bank has a completely different vibe than the Right Bank. The crowd is younger, it’s more affordable and less Rodeo Drive. I stayed in a small family run hotel, quaint, friendly and close to many attractions. Just blocks from Norte Dame, now sadly what’s left of Notre Dame.   Melinda ? The Musée d’Orsay (French pronunciation:  [myze dɔʁsɛ]) is a museum in Paris, France, on the Left Bank of the Seine. It is housed in the former Gare d’Orsay, a Beaux-Arts railway station built between 1898 and 1900. The museum holds mainly French art dating from 1848 to 1914, including paintings, sculptures, furniture, and photography. It houses the largest collection of impressionist and post-Impressionist masterpieces in the world, by painters including Monet, Manet, Degas, Renoir, Cézanne, Seurat, Sisley, Gauguin, and Van Gogh. Many of these works were held at the Galerie nationale du Jeu de Paume prior to the museum’s opening in 1986. It is one of the largest art museums in Europe. Musée d’Orsay had 3.177 million visitors in 2017.       The museum building was originally a railway station, Gare d’Orsay, constructed for the Chemin de Fer de Paris à Orléansand finished in time…

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Maisie Williams on how ‘Game of Thrones’ stardom impacted on her mental health

Nick Reilly May 16, 2019 10:13 am BST Read more at https://www.nme.com/news/tv/maisie-williams-says-game-of-thrones-stardom-affected-her-mental-health-2488647#ZzzRIZF429jpTWLX.99 “You can just sit in a hole of sadness” Game of Thrones actress Maisie Williams has explained how finding fame on the hit show adversely affected her mental health. The actress, who has drawn widespread acclaim for her portrayal of Arya Stark, told Fearne Cotton’s Happy Place podcast how it was tricky to navigate fame as a teenager. The star was just 13-years-old when she was cast in the role and said that she often became overwhelmed by negative comments on social media. “It gets to a point where you’re almost craving something negative, so you can just sit in a hole of sadness,” Williams said. While Williams now gives less attention to negative thoughts, she admits that she still considers how they affected her. Maisie Williams as Arya Stark ” I still lie in bed at, like, 11 o’clock at night telling myself all the things I hate about myself,” Williams said. “It’s just really terrifying that you’re ever going to slip back into it. That’s still something that I’m really working on, because I think that’s really hard. It’s really hard to feel sad and not feel completely defeated by it.” Describing her desire for a “normal life” after the show ends on Sunday, Williams admitted: “I don’t want any of this crazy, crazy world because it’s not worth it.” READ MORE: ‘Game of Thrones’ season 8 episode 5 review: Did Daenerys just jump […]

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Hero Biker Helps Father Get Unconscious Daughter To The Hospital Through Heavy Traffic #WATWB #24

                    May 31, 2019 This is the incredible moment a hero biker saved the life of a young girl having an epileptic fit by rushing her to the hospital while her family was stuck in a traffic jam. Credit: Viral Press The girl’s father Sorachat Sadudee, 51, was driving home after picking up his two daughters from school in Phitsanulok, central Thailand last week. His youngest daughter Kaimook, 8, told him that she felt sick and very tired, so he tried to make his way home as quickly as he could. But the girl had a potentially deadly seizure and started to foam at the mouth before she eventually passed out on the passenger seat while they stuck at a junction. The father was trying to drive the child to the nearest hospital but he was stuck in heavy traffic. So, he opened the window and shouted for help. Passing biker Itthiphon Petchphibunpong, 28, noticed the panic-stricken family inside the black sedan frantically trying to wake the girl up. He offered to ride her to the hospital. Footage shows the motorcycle weaving through rows of cars waiting at junctions. Kaimook finally arrived at the emergency ward within four minutes – far quicker than her father would have been able to have arrived if he had stayed in the traffic jam. She was saved and later transferred to another hospital. “I couldn’t […]

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We Need To Stop Focusing On the Mental Health of Mass Shooters

By Deborah DoroshowDeborah Doroshow is a physician and historian of medicine at Yale University and the author of “Emotionally Disturbed: A History of Caring For America’s Troubled Children.”May 20 In the two decades since the massacre at Columbine High School, digging into the psychology of mass shooters has sadly become an all-too-familiar habit — now something we seem to do almost weekly. After the Virginia Tech shooting in 2007, media coverage pointed to the shooter’s odd behavior as a child and his near-mutism as a college student. After the mass shooting at Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newtown, Conn., in 2012, newspapers described the shooter as “withdrawn and meek” and suggested that he might have had Asperger syndrome. The two people responsible for the shooting at STEM School Highlands Ranch in Colorado on May 7 are already the subjects of forensic investigation of their presumed troubled pasts. This practice is not just a phenomenon of the post-Columbine era of mass shootings. It has its roots in the early 20th century, and it represents an effort to shift blame and find an area of consensus after massacres that could otherwise force uncomfortable conversations. In the process, this practice fosters stigma against one of the most vulnerable groups of Americans: the mentally ill. In the late 19th century, reports of mass shootings were typically very brief. But by the turn of the century, coverage grew more detailed, often describing how the shooter had […]

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Today in History May 30

1806 Already infamous for his quick temper, Andrew Jackson challenges Charles Dickinson to a duel for publishing an article citing Jackson’s wife’s bigamy. America’s future seventh president takes a bullet that lodges near his heart, and then carefully aims at his foe, fires, and kills him. 1911 The world’s best drivers compete for a purse of $27,550 at the 1911 International 500-Mile Sweepstakes Race, […]

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My CBD Experience. (So Far)

Originally posted on The Lessons of Lyme:
Lately I have been going on a lot about CBD products, and their benefits. I have tried quite a few, and have found what I think is going to be my go-to brand. I will share that with you in a moment. For the last 6 years, I have been plagued by Lyme Disease, and it’s lengthy list of symptoms. Mine is a chronic condition, and although I have tried to treat with many protocols, none seemed to quite do the trick. After reading up on the possible benefits of using CBD, I began trying different brands, and I will tell you from experience, that not all CBD is created equal. CBD, and Medical Marijuana use is on the rise, and many people, companies, and countries are trying to cash in. If you are truly seeking the health benefits, do your homework. Don’t buy Gas Station CBD. Disclaimer: The following is an unsolicited review, and recommendation. After doing a Google search for “Top CBD Brands” I came across a link for Lazarus Naturals.  It can normally be found based on reviews, within the top 5-10 brands listed. Lazarus Naturals was formed in 2014 and is one of the largest CBD companies in the Pacific Northwest (U.S.A.) They have dedicated themselves to delivering high-quality CBD products that are accessible to everyone, especially those who need them most. This is highlighted by their Assistance Program that offers…

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Weekend DIY Pool Sun Shade

I enjoyed the swimming pool for the first time in years. Because of massive antibiotics to treat Lyme dieases I couldn’t be in sun for more than 5-10 minutes without a major burn. My husband installed a sun shade for my swimming enjoyment. Yeah! I hope you had a great holiday weekend. M

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Anesthesia for Chronic Pain?

  Ketamine is an anesthesia used since the 1960s and has since been proven to work for Chronic Pain and Mental Illness. My pain levels have been through the roof and walking the last 15 days has been difficult. I made the decision to try something radically different. I had my first Ketamine treatment was yesterday. I  read about the LSD […]

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#Weekend Music Share Bon Jovi

Welcome back to Weekend Music Share; the place where everyone can share their favourite music. Feel free to use the ‘Weekend Music Share‘ banner in your post, and don’t forget to use the hashtag #WeekendMusicShare on social media so other participants can find your post.   Memorial Day Weekend is a day to honor our military who made the ultimate sacrifice. I will never say enough […]

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Stream of Consciousness Saturday Prompt *Rhymes with Rosy* #SoSC

We’ve been working on the pool for weeks, cleaning, getting the chemicals just right, and stocking up on supplies. The highlight for me is being able to swim, I hear it is great therapy for pain. I haven’t swum in years because I get burnt very quickly from all the antibiotics taken during Lyme treatment. This year he is installing a wind sail over the pool with blocks most of the sun. I ask him about it every day. I sat outside yesterday for a few minutes talking to him about the install date, maybe tomorrow he said. I had SPF 50 all over my face and body but still got quite rosy. Third degree burns are what we’re trying to protect from, that’s what happened the first year on antibiotic therapy.   Short but fitting for a holiday weekend. Be safe and have a great time with family and friends.  Melinda   Join us for the fun and sharing good media stories   For more on the Stream of Consciousness Saturday, visit Linda Hill’s blog. Here’s the link:https://lindaghill.com   Here are the rules for SoCS: Your post must be stream of consciousness writing, meaning no editing, (typos can be fixed) and minimal planning on what you’re going to write. Your post can be as long or as short as you want it to be. One sentence – one thousand words. Fact, fiction, poetry – it doesn’t matter. Just let the words […]

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America’s Mental Health Crisis-Bring Change to Mind

Bring Change To Mind Washington Post Live     Last week, our Co-Founder Glenn Close spent the day on Capitol Hill at the invitation of U.S. Senator Debbie Stabenow (D-MI) to advocate for Stabenow’s Excellence in Mental Health and Addiction Treatment Expansion Act.This legislation would renew and expand funding for clinics that provide a comprehensive set of mental health and addiction treatment services. Glenn started the day with a Washington Post Live event on mental health and the addiction crisis and participated in a number of meetings with House and Senate leaders throughout the rest of the day.Photo: BC2M Co-Founder Glenn Close, U.S. Senator Roy Blunt (R-MO), and U.S. Senator Debbie Stabenow (D-MI).  Learn More

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Today in History May 23rd

1934 A stolen Ford Deluxe is met with a hail of bullets as it passes an ambush of lawmen lying in wait on a rural highway in Louisiana’s Bienville Parish. Bonnie Parker and Clyde Barrow’s car is hit by 130 rounds, and the FBI’s most wanted criminals are brought down after a 2-year manhunt. 1969 The Who release the double-album rock opera […]

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Fibromyalgia Thoughts #2

The pain has moved to my lower body, it attacks every joint and muscle I have. For the past 10 days, my leg has caused a big problem, it’s hard to walk. Any pressure on my leg makes me scream out in pain. I can’t stand up by myself unless there are objects strong enough to pull me up. My husband isn’t a little guy and it takes two or three tries because I start to cry out. I have no idea what is happening, this level of pain is new for me. It’s not so much the level but the time in constant pain. I’ve been going to bed between 4:30-6:30 p.m. every night thinking resting is the only answer. So far that seems to be the case. I can now move my knee closer to a normal sitting position. Try getting on and off the toilet, it’s been a painful 10 days. I’ve forced myself to bed in order to get better. I’m not looking for total pain relief, that’s not my goal. Right now I want to be able to get out of a chair by myself. The rest of my body feels the normal everyday dull pain, my shoulder still screams out at night. Pain meds, topical patches and ointments the doctor gave me on Friday have provided no relief. I’m laying in bed with one leg balancing the computer, trying not to walk any more than […]

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#SoSC Weekly Prompt *Start with Adverb*

Briskly I head to the garden to see what damage the storm did to our tomato plants. The rain is still pouring down, more storms are on the way, my flowers are getting their share of water. Now a weather alert comes on television and I worry about my flower garden but the tomatoes are our prized plants this year. Short but sweet this week. M ——————————————————————————————————- Join us for the fun and sharing good media stories  For more on the Stream of Consciousness Saturday, visit Linda Hill’s blog. Here’s the link:https://lindaghill.comHere are the rules for SoCS: 1. Your post must be stream of consciousness writing, meaning no editing, (typos can be fixed) and minimal planning on what you’re going to write. 2. Your post can be as long or as short as you want it to be. One sentence – one thousand words. Fact, fiction, poetry – it doesn’t matter. Just let the words carry you along until you’re ready to stop. 3. There will be a prompt every week. I will post the prompt here on my blog on Friday, along with a reminder for you to join in. The prompt will be one random thing, but it will not be a subject. For instance, I will not say “Write about dogs”; the prompt will be more like, “Make your first sentence a question,” “Begin with the word ‘The’,” or simply a single word to get your started. […]

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Weekend Music Share

Feel free to use the ‘Weekend Music Share‘ banner in your post, and don’t forget to use the hashtag #WeekendMusicShare on social media so other participants can find your post. Last week I shared a song that brought back sad memories from my teenage years. The song this weekend is one of my favorite songs, it gives me the boost that I can do anything, just do it. Though the song ends in death, overlook that part since that’s not my story. Thank you for reading/listening, have a great weekend.

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Friday Quote

I’m having problems with Brainy Quotes, it doesn’t allow me to copy the graphics. This is the second time, are you having a problem with their quotes? Find another…..there’s always another. Have a super weekend, I’ll be watching for the HummingBirds to start their migration to the south. Feeders out and we’re ready. M

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Today in History May 16th

  1988 US Surgeon General C. Everett Koop reports on the addictive properties of nicotine, described as on par with cocaine and heroin. A dedicated campaigner against smoking, his public advocacy will be credited with helping spur declines in cigarette use during his tenure and beyond. 1929 On this day in 1929, the Academy of Motion Picture Arts and Sciences hands out […]

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What Are Parabens—and Do I Need to Worry About Them?

Real Simple By Eleni N. Gage Updated: October 12, 2017   These preservatives are common, but health concerns have cropped up.  Parabens have been widely used in products to prevent bacteria growth since the 1950s. “About 85 percent of cosmetics have them,” says Arthur Rich, Ph.D., a cosmetic chemist in Chestnut Ridge, New York. “They’re inexpensive and effective.” New York City dermatologist […]

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Survivor & So Much More *First Posted 4/21/2014*

I am alive, happy, productive and helping other Survivors. I’m very blessed. My childhood and teenage years were so difficult I truly believed suicide was the only answer. My first attempt was at 9 years old, I took all the pills in my dad’s medicine cabinet. I got a buzz then my stomach pumped. Suicide was always on my mind since the abuse was every day. If it wasn’t physical abuse, it was constant mental abuse by my mother. At the same time, I saw my mother physically and emotionally abused by my alcoholic stepfather. At 13 years old I left my abusive life behind. It sounds great but you are so wounded you don’t want to look anyone in the eye, they may hit you or call you names. My mind stripped down and filled with trash, my mother took every drop of confidence I had. Over time my confidence grew and I started building who I am today. I did get called names and had a couple good fights. Sounds like any teenager trying to spread their wings. I have many unresolved emotions, responses, and fears. Who doesn’t? What I can say for sure, I’m a survivor and so much more. Survivors have to dig really deep after being kicked down. It took years for me to discover what I liked and longer to get over my fear of failure. My mother told me I was stupid all the time. I know better […]

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For Kids With Anxiety, Parents Learn To Let Them Face Their Fears

April 15, 20195:00 AM ETHeard on  Morning Edition ANGUS CHEN The first time Jessica Calise can remember her 9-year-old son Joseph’s anxiety spiking was about a year ago, when he had to perform at a school concert. He said his stomach hurt and he might throw up. “We spent the whole performance in the bathroom,” she recalls. After that, Joseph struggled whenever he had to do something alone, like showering or sleeping in his bedroom. He would beg his parents to sit outside the bathroom door or let him sleep in their bed. “It’s heartbreaking to see your child so upset and feel like he’s going to throw up because he’s nervous about something that, in my mind, is no big deal,” Jessica says. Jessica decided to enroll in an experimental program, one that was very different from other therapy for childhood anxiety that she knew about. It wasn’t Joseph who would be seeing a therapist every week — it would be her. The program was part of a Yale University study that treated children’s anxiety by teaching their parents new ways of responding to it. “The parent’s own responses are a core and integral part of childhood anxiety,” says Eli Lebowitz, a psychologist at the Yale School of Medicine who developed the training. For instance, when Joseph would get scared about sleeping alone, Jessica and her husband, Chris Calise, did what he asked and comforted him. “In my mind, I was […]

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Prince Harry and Oprah Winfrey are joining forces on a new documentary series about mental health and well-being.

by Imogen Calderwood  April 16, 2019 The pair will be co-creators and executive producers of the series, according to an announcement on Wednesday from Kensington Palace via Harry and Meghan’s new Instagram account, SussexRoyal.  The multi-part series is due to be broadcast next year on the recently announced US streaming service, Apple TV+, which will launch this autumn. It’s not yet known, however, how viewers in the UK will be able to watch.  According to the statement, the show will “focus on both mental illness and mental wellness, inspiring viewers to have an honest conversation about the challenges each of us faces, and how to equip ourselves with the tools to not simply survive, but to thrive.”  The palace said the series would build on the Duke of Sussex’s extensive work on mental health.   Instagram Harry has previously spoken out about the “quite serious effect” the death of his mother, Princess Diana, had on his life, and said that he has “probably been very close to a complete breakdown on numerous occasions.”  “I truly believe that good mental health — mental fitness — is the key to powerful leadership, productive communities, and a purpose-driven self,” said Harry, in a statement about the documentary.  He also revealed that he feels the “huge responsibility to get this right as we bring you the facts, the science, and the awareness of a subject that is so relevant during these times.” “Our hope is that this series will be positive, enlightening, and inclusive — […]

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Being Bullied Thru Junior High

I was always the odd kid out, didn’t make friends easy, would only have one friend at a time, lied to get attention and cut myself to see who cared. When you’re abused as a child you keep your world silent, I told no one, that’s the key reason I didn’t want to have friends. My step-father was a drunk […]

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For school shooting survivors, trauma has no time limit

Associated Press April 18, 2019 By TERRY SPENCER, KELLI KENNEDY and COLLEEN SLEVIN PARKLAND, Fla. (AP) — Alex Rozenblat can still hear the cries of a wounded boy calling for help as she hid from the gunfire that killed 17 people at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School last year. Talking to therapists at the school in Parkland, Florida, didn’t help. Each session had a different counselor, and she found herself rehashing traumas she had already expressed. She would rather turn to her friends, who understand what she went through. “There is slight pressure to get better as quickly as you can, and since it’s been a year, everyone thinks that you are better,” the 16-year-old said. The mental health resources after a school shooting range from therapy dogs and grief counselors at school to support groups, art therapy and in-home counseling. But there is no blueprint for dealing with the trauma because each tragedy, survivor and community is different. Many survivors don’t get counseling right away — sometimes waiting years — making it difficult to understand the full impact. The struggle is getting them to seek help in the first place. In the two decades since the Columbine High School massacre, a network of survivors has emerged, reaching out to the newest victims to offer support that many say they prefer to traditional therapy. As the anguish festers, the danger grows, illustrated by the recent suicides of two Marjory Stoneman Douglas survivors […]

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Weekend Music Share *New Kid in Town*

Welcome back to Weekend Music Share; the place where everyone can share their favourite music. My parents divorced when I was six, we moved around a lot until my mother remarried. I went to live with my father at age 12 and found myself the new kid in town. When this song came out, it reminded me of those lonely […]

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Friday Quote

No man has a good enough memory to be a successful liar. Abraham Lincoln                                                     —————————————————————————————- To succeed in life, you need three things: a wishbone, a backbone and a funny bone. Reba McEntire ———————————————————————————————– […]

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Today in History

1914 Since 1905, Anna Jarvis has lobbied various officials to adopt a holiday honoring mothers, and she’s succeeded in convincing many US states to take part. Today, President Woodrow Wilson proclaims the second Sunday in May to be Mother’s Day and a US federal holiday. 1958 A tale of manic obsession and cruel deception, Alfred Hitchcock’s latest thriller has its world premiere. ‘Vertigo‘ will disappoint at the box […]

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