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Triple Shot Thursday *Rebirth, Love and True Friends*

Rebirth, life lessons, stretching, separation, payback

Unconditional Love, what if, can I count on, will you be there

Real Friends, love, anger, time apart, life at stake, friends are the last to give up

I listened to new songs tonight, wanting something to kick me hard, make me think. What do I stand for?

I stand for truth, falling to pieces, rebirth, existence, people who would die for my life. My life isn’t complete, there’s many potholes, shame, fear and depression. I know in my heart Life Is About To Get Good.  I hope you enjoy.  M

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Charlie Doesn’t Know He’s “Terminally Ill,” But He Knows He’s Loved

Love can conquer all, no words have to exchange. Smiles, loving hugs, stroking or gently touching and feeling a heart beat can express the deepest love. M

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“They adopted him just over a year later, not expecting him to live much beyond 2 years old.” But in June Charlie celebrated his third birthday.

Now doctors think he might live to be 10–12 years old, barring any medical complications.

It’s a heart breaking journey, but as Cori says, “Broken hearts can heal.”

You can read the whole story here.

I know this is a tough subject, but when I read the story and watched the video, I had to share this story of love and hope. I share this in memory of my sister who lovingly volunteered with severely handicapped and terminally ill children in a group home back in the 70’s.  I imagine she’s had a great time running, laughing, and  loving  them in heaven.

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Communist Yugoslavia Verdict Against Croatia’s Blessed Aloysius Stepinac Quashed

Ina Vukic is a tireless volunteer on humanitarian aid and fundraising for victims of war in Croatia, Bosnia and Herzegovina, especially war orphans. Ina was awarded two medals of Honor by the first President of the Republic of Croatia in 1995. Her Blog is a wealth of knowledge, present and past. Please visit Ina’s site.

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Zagreb County Court Friday 22 July 2016 centre: Judge Ivan Turudic, presiding Quashed 1946 communist Verdict against Blessed Aloysius Stepinac Photo: HINA/ Damir Sencar/dsZagreb County Court Friday 22 July 2016
centre: Judge Ivan Turudic, presiding
Quashed 1946 communist Verdict
against Blessed Aloysius Stepinac
Photo: HINA/ Damir Sencar/ds

A true, brilliant face of justice stepped out into the streets of Croatia and the world last Friday!
On 22 July 2016 Zagreb Country Court issued a judgment of great historical and political importance, announcing the complete annulment of the sentence against the archbishop of Zagreb, Aloysius Stepinac, passed by the politically rigged communist Yugoslav court 70 years ago, in October 1946.
The Zagreb County court in Croatia, a panel of judges presided over by Judge Ivan Turudic, annulled, quashed the 1946 communist Yugoslavia treason conviction against Archbishop Aloysius Stepinac, ruling that he did not receive a fair trial. Belgrade (Serbia) driven anti-Croat hoards, whose mission was to ensure that Croatia was the only Yugoslav federation state to be made responsible for the crimes of the…

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Beyond ADHD-Overcoming the Label and Thriving by Jeff Emmerson

I met Author Jeff Emmerson on Twitter, he’s motivating, a tireless advocate for Mental Heath and shines a bright light on ADHD for which he was misdiagnosed. Jeff’s book Beyond ADHD-Overcoming the Label and Thriving is on pre-order at Amazon and with an August release date.

          By Jeff Emmerson and Robert Yehling

Beyond ADHD weaves Emmerson’s personal story of his ADHD diagnosis, exploring along the way the latest medical, scientific and societal explanations and tools for managing and living with the condition. Including interviews with a number of experts at the forefront of next-generation ADHD diagnostics and treatment, he questions the cookie-cutter way ADHD is commonly diagnosed and treated. Suggesting that the list of symptoms often used to identify ADHD can be attributed to many other disorders and conditions, he explores how and why ADHD diagnoses have increased by 50% in the last ten years.

Jeff Emmerson is a mental health advocate, popular video blogger and leading social media figure focused on reframing how we view ADHD, with a passionate mission to prevent mis- and over-diagnoses, and help people whose lives are impacted by the condition.

He has more than 600,000 followers on his @IAmJeffEmmerson Twitter account, 15,000+ LinkedIn connections, a large viewership on YouTube, and is currently gaining about 7,500 followers per week. His e-mail list has over 26,000 subscribers.

Emmerson is aligned with a number of leading medical, neuroscience and behavioral experts, many of whom are quoted prominently in his book. He’s written for EverydayHealth.com, AdditudeMag.com, and AOL Health, and has been interviewed on NPR.

Robert Yehling is the author of ten books and ghostwriter of seven others, and is increasingly specializing in titles pertaining to mental health, behavioral and fitness issues.

His most recent title, Just Add Water, the biography of autistic surfing great Clay Marzo (2015: Houghton Mifflin Harcourt), has been nominated for the Dorothy Gray Children’s Literature Award and an International Book Award.

He also works with author Kevin Hines, whose Cracked, Not Broken (2013: Rowman-Littlefield) is revered worldwide for its discussion of bipolar disorder and suicide prevention. Yehling has also edited published titles on traumatic brain injury, post-traumatic stress disorder and autism. Another book on which he provided direct author assistance, Home Sweet Anywhere by Lynn Martin (2014: Sourcebooks), was a bestseller.

A professional journalist since 1976, Yehling was the recipient of the 2007 Independent Publishers Book Award for his title, Writes of Life: Using Personal Experiences in Everything You Write. He also has won national awards for his work in magazine journalism, online journalism, website editing, and a Bank of America Liberal Arts Award.

Besides writing and editing, Yehling teaches cause-based writing and other topics at writers’ conferences and workshops throughout the United States.

Singing His Praise

“Courageous, tenacious, smart, and full of a hockey goalie’s all-star heart,
Jeff Emmerson probes behind the slogans and labels to get at the truth.
A man on a mission, Jeff does the world of ADHD a great service with this book.”

– Edward Hallowell, MD, author of Driven to Distraction and many other books;
Founder of The Hallowell Centers; host of the weekly podcast Distraction

“A beautiful amalgam of lived experience and first rate science writing. Helpful
and inspiring for those who suffer with ADHD; essential for those who need
protection from misdiagnosis and careless drug prescriptions.”

– Allen Frances, MD, DSM-IV Task Force; and professor emeritus, Duke University School of Medicine

Where to find Jeff’s book, Beyond ADHD

You can pre-order on Amazon.com or dates listed below. 

Rowman & Littlefield Publishers
Pages: 260 • Size: 6 x 9
978-1-4422-7510-2 • Hardback • August 2017 • $36.00 • (£24.95)
978-1-4422-7511-9 • eBook • August 2017 • $35.99 • (£24.95) (coming soon)
Subjects: Psychology / Psychopathology / Attention-Deficit Disorder (ADD-ADHD), Psychology / General, Self-Help / General, Self-Help / Mood Disorders / General

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Understanding Your State Law on Rape Kit Reform

END THE BACKLOG is an initiative of the Joyful Heart Foundation to shine a light on the backlog of untested rape kits throughout the United States. Our goal is to end this injustice by conducting groundbreaking research identifying the extent of the nation’s backlog and best practices for eliminating it, expanding the national dialogue on rape kit testing through increased public awareness, engaging communities and government agencies and officials and advocating for comprehensive rape kit reform legislation and policies at the local, state and federal levels. We urge you to learn more about the backlog, where it exists and why it matters. We invite you to take action and support efforts to test rape kits. Help us send the message that we must take rape seriously. 

Survivors’ Voices Drive Rape Kit Reform in Texas

Today’s guest author is Wendy Davis, former Texas state senator and founder of the advocacy organization Deeds Not Words. Here, she discusses the rape kit reform laws she sponsored in the Senate and addresses the need for survivors’ voices to drive policy solutions.

I first started working on the issue of sexual violence in 2009 while serving in the Texas Senate. A representative from the state’s forensic lab came to my office, sat down with my staff, and laid out their belief that we had a significant number of untested rape kits sitting in law enforcement evidence rooms across our state. At this point, Illinois had already started the same self-analysis and had exposed an alarming problem—thousands of untested kits on evidence room shelves.

The First Step: Counting Kits

I started by working with survivors and stakeholders to pass a law requiring law enforcement agencies throughout the state to conduct an inventory of their untested kits. This should be easy, I thought. It’s simply a matter of counting them, and we aren’t asking that they be tested at this point, so no funding will be needed—or so my logic went.

Boy, was I wrong. To my surprise, several law enforcement agencies began to push back behind the scenes (rather than coming to committee hearings to publicly oppose the bill). How dare someone tell them what they needed to do with their evidence? If they had untested kits, their argument went, they had them because they had made the judgment call not to test the kits, believing testing them would not yield anything helpful to a criminal investigation.

We pushed back hard with the help of jurisdictions like Fort Worth, Dallas, and Houston, where leaders understood we had a problem and wanted to be part of the solution. Ultimately, we were successful in passing the audit requirement, making Texas the second state to conduct such an analysis.

We were not prepared for the result. We discovered almost 20,000 untested kits—the highest number uncovered in any state to this day—collecting dust on shelves throughout Texas. This number is still not complete because—believe it or not—there are still jurisdictions that have not reported their numbers.

Understanding the Impact: Testing Kits and Funding Reform

Following the inventory, we knew that approximately 20,000 untested rape kits sat on shelves. What next?

Around this time, I heard the story of Lavinia Masters, who was raped by a stranger in her home when she was only 13. After filing a police report, Lavinia was taken to a hospital and subjected to the hours-long, invasive process of collecting DNA evidence left behind by the attacker. Lavinia and her family were never told what happened to her kit. Two decades later, Lavinia saw a news story about the backlog, and wondered, was my kit ever even tested? After waiting for months while police searched for the missing kit, forensic technicians analyzed it, developed a DNA profile, and ran it through the national database. Lavinia’s rapist was finally identified. He was already in prison for other crimes and no longer eligible for prosecution for her rape. The statute of limitations had run out.

Lavinia’s story was a wake-up call for me. The backlog wasn’t just a number. It wasn’t just a matter of thousands of boxes sitting on shelves. It was a matter of thousands of real people—survivors—who had never received the justice they deserved.

It was also a matter of wrongful convictions secured through incomplete investigations. It was the story of Johnny Pinchback, who was in his 20s when he was accused of two rapes he didn’t commit. He was sentenced to 99 years in prison, and spent 27 years behind bars, before being exonerated when the state began testing backlogged rape kits.

These stories launched me on a journey, working alongside wonderful, committed advocates from the Texas Association Against Sexual Assault (TAASA), Sexual Assault Nurse Examiners (SANEs), law enforcement leaders, and local elected officials on reform.

In 2011, we passed a law requiring that all kits collected from that point in time be submitted to the lab for testing within 30 days. In 2013, we successfully set aside $11 million in the state budget to help test the backlogged kits. We were also successful in securing $5 million in grants awarded to law enforcement jurisdictions in Dallas, Houston, and Austin to address their own backlogs.

We were finally going to address the backlog and ensure that this never happened again.

Ensuring Victims’ Rights to Notice and Tracking

In 2013, we also passed a law requiring law enforcement jurisdictions to keep rape survivors apprised of the status of their kits. Last year, we learned that the law was not working as we’d hoped. A survivor reached out to her elected official, State Representative Donna Howard, and explained that she didn’t have any real way to know the status of her rape kit. Rep. Howard set out to find a solution. If UPS can track a package from one part of the world to another using a barcode system, why can’t we do the same for a rape kit?, she thought. Rep. Howard worked tirelessly this year to pass a law that will create a computerized tracking system to aid police jurisdictions in keeping track of their evidence and, more importantly, will allow survivors to log in and check the status of their kits.

By creating this statewide tracking system, Texas became the first in the nation to implement the six key pillars of legislative rape kit reform, as recommended by Joyful Heart. Work remains, but we are proud to be the first in the nation to achieve this milestone.

Survivors’ Voices Drive Change

There is a common thread in every step of reform. Each success occurred because someone who had been traumatized by rape came forward and made their story known. They shook us out of our comfortable realities and laid bare the need for each of us to do something.

If there is anything I have learned in my public service career, it’s that there is no challenge you can’t overcome with the strength of a courageous individual who is willing to come forward, share her or his unique story, and work to create change. Knowing who, rather than just what, we are fighting for is the most important incentive for a policymaker when faced with obstacles in making change.

There is still so much work to be done—not only to create appropriate criminal justice responses and remedies for survivors of sexual assault, but also to prevent assaults from occurring. It is slow and often frustrating work. But we are chipping away at it, one legislative solution at a time, thanks to each brave person who comes forward and reminds us who it is we are fighting for.

-By Wendy Davis, July 18, 2017

http://endthebacklog.org/ending-backlog/state-responses

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Triple Shot Thursday * We Are One*

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I had a hard time deciding what to play this week. I let me heart take the lead and I enjoyed the journey. As the show Pickers say “we’re free styling”.

My hope is you enjoy the music and soak in the message.  M

https://youtu.be/2zIW8qDPhos

https://youtu.be/kR9CiWyzcKw

https://youtu.be/M9BNoNFKCBI

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Keep Students Safe From Sexual Assault & Enforce Title IV

Change.org Petition

 

Ask Betsy DeVos to keep students safe and enforce Title IX

This petition will be delivered to:

The current Administration is planning to weaken the enforcement of Title IX, a move that would be devastating for students especially those who are LGBT and of color. Survivors and our allies across the country are coming together to ask Education Secretary DeVos to listen to survivors, keep students safe, and enforce protections Title IX has long provided.

Join Know Your IX and End Rape on Campus and ask DeVos to commit to the following :

  • Maintain the Department of Education’s guidance documents clarifying schools’ legal responsibilities to prevent and address sexual harassment under Title IX
  • Continue to recognize preponderance of evidence (i.e. “more likely than not”) as the appropriate standard of proof in campus sexual harassment investigations;
  • Maintain federal transparency in Title IX enforcement by continuing to publish lists of schools under investigation for Title IX violations and those who have claimed religious exemptions allowing them to discriminate against LGBT, pregnant, and parenting students

DeVos will have the power to enforce Title IX protections and ensure that every student is able to attend school without fear of violence.

It’s up to us to make sure that she does.

Mahroh Jahangiri

Executive Director, Know Your IX

https://www.change.org/p/dearbetsy-keep-students-safe-and-enforce-title-ix

Celebrate Life · Fun · Moving Forward · Survivor

I’ll Ride My Pony, Today is My Birthday

I planned a nice gallery of photos from different times in life. Planned but it is not happening. In this photo I’m smiling ear to ear galloping around the kitchen on my second birthday. My grandparents bought the pony I dreamed of.

I’m overjoyed to have my WordPress friends here, let’s share the day with hugs, best wishes and lots of chocolate and vanilla cake. Sorry Vegans, I can offer a cold bottle of water.

The video reminds me we are all miracles and can do anything we apply ourself to. It’s touching around the World people can relate.

M

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Male Child Sexual Abuse and Homosexual Confusion

Blogging started as a coping mechanism to grieve my Granny. Spending years writing about how my grandparents unconditional love saved me from myself. Before long my post centered more around my traumatic background, it was seamless not a conscious decision. I have learned everyone’s trauma is different, even when they appear the same.

I knew nothing of men’s sexual abuse. Five years ago I met several male friends who were sexually assaulted as children and adults. None of my traumatic experiences prepared me for how different boy’s and men process sexual assault.

To all the Men Survivors of Sexual Assault, please know you are loved and supported by those without understanding the pain and trauma inside. You are loved for who you are.

I found this video on YouTube by Mark Sanford. I don’t know him and not endorsing in any way. I am acknowledging his trauma, the pain and deep emotional suffering he went thru. Honestly, I don’t know if the video will help anyone. Please know I’m committed to learning all I can about Male Sexual Assault because I care. I know the pain of dragging the self-hatred around for years.

If the video is crap please tell me, I learn from feedback. Share what’s helpful, thought-provoking or out of left field.

I’ve been asked to write for Men’s Movement, http://www.mensmovement.com  an organization supporting men’s mental health and personal development. Please check out their site. Soon to come a post shining the light on Men’s Movement with an in-depth overview. I’m submitting my first post soon.

For M

Xx M

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Support Parents Efforts to Save Baby *Let Parents Decide on Critical Illness, Not Judge*

This family is having their most difficult times spread across the news. The British government has ruled in favor of the hospital to keep baby on life support and not allow parents to come to America for an experimental drug. I think it’s a sad day when government over rides parents in the welfare of their baby.

People are so supportive of the family, having rally’s outside the hospital, American hospitals have offered to treat him free of charge. With the out pouring of support, it’s mind numbing to think government and the hospital have more rights than the parents. They want the best for their son. It breaks my heart to see the parents plea and cry.

M

https://www.aol.com/article/news/2017/07/10/british-judge-looks-for-new-evidence-in-case-of-critically-ill-b/23024052/

Men & Womens Health · Moving Forward

Not Every Day

An important post from my partner in Survivors Blog Here. You can find her work at http://www.survivorsbloghere.wordpress.com. The cycle of abuse impacts men and women alike.  M

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Triple Shot Thursday*Ed Sheeran Hallelujah*

If you weren’t an Ed Sheeran fan before his new LP will blow your mind. After promoting his previous album with a World tour, he said in an interview “I was fat, exhausted and didn’t know myself anymore”. Ed is a smart bloke, he took a year off traveling, fell in love with a friend of 15 years, is self-confident and happy. The album showcases intelligence, honestly, raw emotion and the sheer joy in his heart. I’m so happy for him! Have a great day.  M

MY ROMANTIC HEART FAVORITE

THINKING OF YOU GRANNY

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DonorsChoose.org Helping Teachers Helps Students Learn

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DonersChoose.org

Supporting a great cause doesn’t require a large donation, any amount stacks up and when the goal is reached you feel satisfaction. I live in Plano, Texas where a number of school are underserved and underfunded. When I receive an email from a School Teacher needing help, I look for projects with matching funds, ask myself if this the project hits my heart? The amount donated isn’t the point, you donate to Teachers and Children, who are our future. The children are already several steps behind other students, if I can make a difference in a child’s life, it’s a privilege.

Teachers listen up, this is a nationwide project and changes are one of your fellow teachers has submitted a project or the school isn’t aware of resource. 

“Listen to Reading”

My students need personal CD players so that they can hear what fluent reading sounds like and so that they can become more fluent readers themselves.

My Students

“When you can read then you can go to Kalamazoo or Idaho”. This is a line from one of my favorite poems. It is so true and my goal as a first grade teacher is for my students to learn to read and to love to read!

I teach first grade to ESL, bilingual, and regular ed children at a Title 1 school in an urban district.

The majority of my students are low socioeconomic and they are all very active and really need activities that will keep them focused and engaged. They are eager to learn and love our Daily 5 (literacy center) time. They really enjoy listening to books on tape, but don’t always want to listen to the same book as their neighbor.

My Project

In our classroom we use the Daily 5/ CAFE form of Guided Reading. While I am working with a small group the others are completing work independently. I would like to give my students the freedom to choose their own books and listen to them; encouraging them to become independent readers. With these CD players and headphones my students will be able to listen to a book or song of their own choosing.

I cannot express what an extremely important grade first grade is and how passionately I feel about my students learning to read and learning to LOVE reading.

In order to do that it is crucial to give them exciting activities that make them want to learn and want to read.

Where Your Donation Goes

MATERIALS COST QUANTITY TOTAL
FF335X – Student CD Player – Set of 4• LAKESHORE LEARNING MATERIALS $149.00 1 $149.00
FD236 – AC Adaptor • LAKESHORE LEARNING MATERIALS $11.99 4 $47.96
Materials cost $196.96
Vendor shipping charges FREE
State sales tax $0.00
3rd party payment processing fee $2.95
Fulfillment labor & materials $30.00
Total project cost $229.91
Suggested donation to help DonorsChoose.org reach more classrooms $40.57
Total project goal $270.48
Still needed View calculation $0.00

Our team works hard to negotiate the best pricing and selections available.

 

Previous Projects Funded

Dear Melinda

Thank you all so very much for your donations! My Reluctant Mathematicians will be so excited to see this new piece of technology added to our station rotation. With budget cuts abound this really cushions the blow. There are so many great resources available in apps that this will really give my kids an edge.

I will create a folder for each student on the iPad for them to have specific games that are chosen to meet the needs of their specific deficits. There are so many great features on the iPad. I can’t wait to let them use the video camera for them to tape themselves solving a tricky problem and then use that as a tutorial for another student who is working on that same problem.

Thank you again!

Melinda Sandor from Texas gave in support of Rebuild Moore Schools with a gift card from Warby Parker

 

Dear Melinda

We were so excited to have our grant fulfilled! It has really changed how we are able to run stations during math and science groups. I didn’t tell the kids that we were going to get a new technology tool, so when I came to group and pulled the iPad and keyboard from my bag they were so surprised.

The students have really enjoyed getting the opportunity to work on the iPad everyday. There are so many free educational apps, I have yet to find a skill we were working on that there was not an app for. The kids enjoy having fewer kids per station when they come to work with me during intervention time. They look forward to getting their turn on the iPad and trying to beat their classmates scores on different educational games.

I have individual folders organized onto the iPad for each student group. They go straight to their folder and have the ability to choose from those apps which game the would like to play. I am able to easily rename the folders to them up to date to reflect the curriculum we are currently working on. One of our favorite things to do now is to solve a problem correctly and then have a partner video them solving the problem. We then save the file with the name of the assignment and question number. That way when a peer is struggling with that question they can go watch their friend’s tutorial video on the iPad. We are also using the iPad in the science lab to take pictures that show the progression of projects.

I really don’t know how we even functioned without our iPad. Groups are running more smoothly, students are more engaged, and they are anxious to get a problem correctly and explain their thinking on a video. The iPad has also created a competitive streak in our group to see who can have the highest score on different apps. All in all, and invaluable tool in our classroom. Thank you for your support and generosity!

Post inspired by my friend AOA. She dedicated to the effort of her students in multiple schools with learning difficulties. Thank you AOA, you’re an inspiration.

M

Men & Womens Health · Moving Forward

Every Conversation Starts Somewhere

Bring Change To Mind

For our 2017 campaign, we focused on one of the biggest challenges in discussing mental health: getting started.

We gathered a team of performers, many of whom have connections to mental illness in their own lives. We asked them to roleplay different conversations, touching on various diagnoses and relationships.

The videos show that no matter what you’re facing, or who you’re reaching out to, you can make a real connection. Not every conversation will be perfect, but each one fights the stigma around mental illness. And, that’s a conversation worth having.

http://bringchange2mind.org/learn/psas/talk-to-anyone

M

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Shop Amazon Smiles, Donate to Your Choice Cause

Amazon donates to International Lyme and Associated Diseases Educational Foundation when you shop at AmazonSmile. Please bookmark the link http://smile.amazon.com/ch/51-0604603  so all your eligible shopping will benefit ILADEF.

If you have any questions, please sign in to http://org.amazon.com and click on the Help tab to see our FAQ topics.

Thank you for your participation in the AmazonSmile program!

Thank You Melinda

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Good Morning World *Remember a Loved One Today*

Shaggy

Baby Shaggy

Shaggy eating dirt

Face Plant in Dirt

Shaggy

Gardening Buddy and Protector Shaggy

My Love

My loving Truffles

Truffles sleeping on my desk

RIP Truffles 

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Loving Human like Banjo aka JoJo

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RIP My Banjo 

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Lyme Update #19 *My Last Nerve*

Am I healing from Chronic Lyme Diseases? Who knows? Lyme doesn’t have a cure, only times of remission. There’s no way to plan for lingering health problems you will get, will or won’t recover from. Symptoms may go away over time, stay same or get worse. There’s no definitive test to gauge how your major organs are affected unless the damage is severe.

The symptoms I struggle with daily are pain, pain pain, lack of balance, some memory has returned looking like a Tommy Gun practice. There are days when I can remember for a few minutes instead of seconds. If you’ve read my post the past two years, you’ve seen the cognitive issues. I can’t recall the proper name of items, have no concept of time and don’t fully recognize inflection. After two years in bed, I started to relearn walking in mid March. Falling is a physical daily threat.

As my body gets physically stronger there are years of doctor and dentist appointments to catch up on. Before Lyme I started to develop Agoraphobia which has manifested to extreme levels anxiety leaving the house. Every doctors appointment is a challenge.

The Lyme doctor prescribed a drug in the same class as one I take for my mental illness. I became Psychotic, waiting a week to touch down in reality. While Psychotic I wanted to hurt people, I was ANGRY. The person I became was not me, yelling, screaming, almost going to jail, wanted to leave my husband, I was a maniac. Sleeping was not possible, I walked in a big circle inside the house 24/7. I had no filter, the words coming out of my mouth were hurtful causing scars.

I normally don’t take a drug until reading the prescribing information on FDA.gov. Feeling rough and not checking the FDA site for two weeks, I started taking the drug. An up to date med list was on file with the Lyme Clinic. As a patient we expect a base level of responsibility. One is to look at med chart to confirm no interactions happen. The step was skipped and a drug for Narcolepsy was called in. I made an emergency call to her making her aware of the grave error. The response, it works differently in the brain.

NOT. A simple search revealed the drug was indeed in the same category as D-Amphetamine. D-Aphetamine is an older drug in the category, new meds come along but taking at the same time can be a disaster. They took no accountability for the error. The message back days later was to stop taking. Fortunately my Psychiatrist jumped in to help, creating havoc with my stable meds. Months later he is still increasing dosages to get me stable.

As I mentioned I have to concept of time or how long the post are. This one is long, I’ll wrap it up. Bottom line that error was on my last nerve. I’m no longer a patient and flying solo as I put together a local team to manage my brokenness.

I appreciate you for overlooking mistakes, misused words and post that make no sense. I haven’t reached remission but continue to put one foot in front of another. Thanks for being my anchor. :)

M

Moving Forward · Survivor

Unconditional Love-The Sacrifices Never End

My grandparents loved me unconditionally with words, most importantly their actions. They saw the effects of abuse and neglect from a distance, I never said anything or make accusations. Granny spent extra time with me, giving me a long bath, washing my hair, scrubbing dirty feet, knees and elbows. She pampered me with few words spoken. She had the ritual, after drying off and hair not dripping she would wrap me in the towel, carry me to the bed, put baby powder on me then tell what a cute and funny/beautiful/any compliment I could comprehend at the age.

Granny knew I was dead inside from years of abuse, she never spoke bad of my mother even though tormented by my pain  My grandparents made sacrifices until God deemed the time was right. My music teacher called me into the hall and would not accept my explanation for the bruises all over the my face. She asked me go to the Counselors office, I begged you don’t understand saying anything only makes it worse for me. I arrive in Counselor’s office, asking to call my Granny. I told her everything, she had seen the bruises, my underarms bruised and bleeding from my mothers stabbed finger nails.

Some of the most traumatic years followed. God knew when the time was right, at 12 yrs old my grandparents received full custody. It came with one condition, giving the Sate of Texas custody for one year for punishment by placing me in a reform school.

At 12 yrs old I was probation for carrying a gun, skipping 45 days of school, underage drinking, disturbing the police, resisting arrest and distribution of marijuana. I meet with the probation officer monthly, never saying a word until the seven month. The State of Texas wanted me committed to a reform boot camp style facility. My thug behavior had to change before I could function in a positive environment. I had visions of my behavior getting violent, kill before being killed, I had no fear of dying.

My grandparents knew I would not reform or make it out alive with other violent girls. Granny worked with the probation officer to come up with another solution. She remembered a girl when she was younger who went to a Convent School for bad girls. As it happened, the Convent had converted to a school again for girls with severe behavioral problems. At first glance it was the perfect solution until expenses were laid out. This was the mid 1970’s and cost $2000 per month, a strict lengthy list of uniforms, every detail down to how many towels and the money in an account to buy a soda and candy bar.

Unconditional love, my future and not having the money clashed. The probation officer called back with an option. Give custody to the State of Texas for a year and the state would cover the $2000 a month.

My grandparents put their faith in my probation officer, they wanted me to turn the right direction. I needed discipline in a strict structured environment. The Convent boarding school taught me about positive affirmations, I wanted so much more, it was missing in my bones. Responsibility, leadership and controlling my mouth. A year later, without a single disciplinary action, I left a better person. The lessons learned have served me well in life.

Children are precious, require proper discipline, parents must make decisions out of love not revenge. Most important is a child’s mental health, safety and happiness.

M

Fun · Moving Forward

Triple Shot Thursday *Love is in the Air*

 

For your listening pleasure this week, love is in the air. One thing I know for sure, there’s not enough love in the world.   M

 

Moving Forward · Survivor

Have You Noticed My Twitter Feed Recently?

 

I hit the jackpot and can’t wait to share with you.

 

 

 

Have you peaked at my Twitter timeline lately?  My passion has changed from Rock Stars to Support Resources, from Charities, Organizations and OutReach Programs who support the issues closest to my heart. The mix includes resources for PTSD, Sexual Abuse of Men and Women and Mental Health, Child Abuse and Physical Challenges. I follow 40 Charities, Organizations and Survivors. There is a learning curve, I will share thru post once comfortable how support services are delivered. 

I hope you will take at look at the retweets, conversations and resources on the Twitter feed, updated daily. Once confident my understanding of the group/mission,  I’ll share via post. When possible, I’ll ask a few questions and ask them to talk about the who, what, when and why. One of the few lessons learned in Journalism class.

In sixth grade I set a goal to work as a Photo Journalist for Life magazine. Tossed aside when I turned down a scholarship and passed on college. Men’s Movement has asked me to write for them, my pride bubbles over. At 53 the opportunity is far greater than Life magazine, now defunct. 

 Everyone I’ve talked with seems genuine, in a few short weeks I have over 100 followers, many of which have visited my site. Taking my Advocacy work to Twitter looks like a good decision.

I’m interested in your ideas and suggestions.

M

 

Men & Womens Health · Moving Forward

Opiate Addiction Grows in over 50

Addiction to Opiates Rise to Alarming Rate.

AMERICANS OVER 50 are using narcotic pain pills in surprisingly high numbers, and many are becoming addicted. While media attention has focused on younger people buying illegal opioids on the black market, dependence can also start with a legitimate prescription from a doctor: A well-meant treatment for knee surgery or chronic back troubles is often the path to a deadly outcome.

Consider these numbers:

• Almost one-third of all Medicare patients — nearly 12 million people — were prescribed opioid painkillers by their physicians in 2015.

• That same year, 2.7 million Americans over age 50 abused painkillers, meaning they took them for reasons or in amounts beyond what their doctors prescribed.

• The hospitalization rate due to opioid abuse has quintupled for those 65 and older in the past two decades.

From pain to addiction

Behind the numbers are the shattered lives of many who never dreamed they’d become drug abusers.

Cindy Thoma, 63, who owns and operates a bookstore in Muskegon, Mich., became addicted to opioid pain pills after being injured in a car crash with a drunk driver who ran a red light. “I was running away from my pain,” she says. “I did well at first. But I began to take them sooner, which meant I needed more. I needed more because my body got used to the narcotics.”

The way opioids are often prescribed, dependence can set in after just a few days, experts say. “Within one week you’ve made that person physiologically dependent on the drug, meaning they feel some discomfort or side effects when they stop using,” says Andrew Kolodny, executive director of Physicians for Responsible Opioid Prescribing.

“I was very, very sick. My mind was not right for a long, long time.”

—Cindy Thoma, 63, sober for five years following an eight-year opioid addiction

Thoma stopped abusing opioids after years of struggle. But for too many, their story’s end badly.

Nearly 14,000 people age 45-plus died from an opioid overdose in 2015 — 42 percent of all such deaths in the U.S., according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC).

The actual number is likely much higher. Overdoses in older people are often mislabeled as heart failure or falls, Kolodny says.

“The deaths of older people are an untold part of it,” says Jeremiah Gardner, public affairs manager of the Hazelden Betty Ford Institute for Recovery Advocacy. Gardner speaks from personal experience: His mother died two years ago from an overdose after becoming dependent on painkillers prescribed for chronic pain and a surgery. She was 59.

So how did we get here?

Cynthia Thoma in her Gracie's Book Store, Faces of Addiction, Opioids AARP

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The sin of overprescription

“We overestimated the benefits of opioids and underestimated the risks,” says Deborah Dowell, senior medical adviser at the CDC. “We assumed without adequate evidence that they would work as well long term as they did in the short term.”

Pharmaceutical companies have marketed opioids aggressively to physicians, especially after the Federal Drug Administration approved OxyContin in 1995. “The campaign that led to the increase in opioid prescriptions was multifaceted,” Kolodny says.

For example, Purdue Pharma, the maker of OxyContin, held pain management conferences in states like Florida that were attended by more than 5,000 doctors, nurses and pharmacists.

So beginning in the late ’90s, when older patients suffering from chronic conditions like arthritis or back issues asked for pain relief, their doctors innocently wrote prescriptions for OxyContin, Vicodin, Percocet and other opioid painkillers.

By 2012, addiction rates and the number of overdose deaths had soared. In that year, 259 million opioid prescriptions were written — enough for every adult in the U.S. to have one.

 “Many doctors still think seniors can’t get addicted.”

Andrew Kolodny, executive director of Physicians for Responsible Opioid Prescribing

The trade group representing most opioid manufacturers, PhRMA, did not return calls for comment. Purdue Pharma said in a statement, “The opioid crisis is among our nation’s top health challenges,” and the company is committed to being “part of the solution.”

The teaching in medical school used to be that opioid medication is not addictive as long as it is given to someone in legitimate pain — something we now know not to be true, says Vivek Murthy, who left the job of U.S. surgeon general in April.

It did not help that in 2009 the American Geriatric Society encouraged physicians to use opioids to treat moderate to severe pain in older patients, citing evidence that they were less susceptible to addiction. Though the society revised those guidelines, the myth persists. “Many doctors still think seniors can’t get addicted,” Kolodny says.

Last August, then-Surgeon General Murthy wrote a letter to every doctor in America. “Nearly two decades ago, we were encouraged to be more aggressive about treating pain, often without enough training and support to do so safely,” the letter said.

“This coincided with heavy marketing of opioids to doctors. Many of us were even taught — incorrectly — that opioids are not addictive when used as pain relief. The results have been devastating.”

The CDC issued guidelines last year recommending that doctors drug-test their patients before and during opioid therapy, to ensure that the medications are taken properly.

But doctors still overprescribe. A 2016 survey by the nonprofit National Safety Council found that 99 percent of physicians prescribe opioids beyond the dosage limit of three days recommended by the CDC.

Thoma had no trouble getting opioids. “I could get them from different doctors, and there was no communication between them about what they were prescribing,” she says. “You could get it fairly easily.” In eight years, she lost her job and home and went bankrupt. Finally, she forced herself to stop. “I was very, very sick. My mind was not right for a long, long time.”

A need for treatment options

As people age, they can become more at risk for dependence or overdoses. To start, they are more likely to have serious pain. Kidney and liver function slows with age, increasing the time drugs remain in the system. And memory loss can make it harder to manage opioid medication effectively.

Solving the problem will require major changes, experts say. There is an urgent need for more treatment centers able to administer to older patients. That includes counseling tailored to older patients. It doesn’t work to have “a buttoned-up elderly person sitting next to a guy in his 20s who is pierced and tattooed,” says David Frenz, a Minneapolis physician certified in addiction medicine. And doctors need to be trained on medications used to treat opioid addiction, experts say.

There also needs to be a major attitude shift. “Some people still hold the mistaken belief that it’s a moral failing instead of a chronic medical condition that requires treatment,” says Melinda Campopiano, senior adviser for the federal Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration.

But there are happy endings.

Thomas has been opioid-free for several years. She bought her bookstore in 2013, which helped refocus her life. She offers this advice for those who are dealing with drug issues: “Ask your provider to monitor your intake very closely. Consider trying nonaddictive options first. Be patient with yourself. Involve family members and friends to encourage you with your fight. And be prayerful.”

Rick Schmitt did additional reporting for this story


Men & Womens Health · Moving Forward

Department of Health & Human Services Grants 17 Colleges $4.9 million

The Department of Health and Human Services (HHS) awarded $4.9 million in grants to a total of 17 colleges and universities across the United States. The grants, varying in amount from $47,494 to $102,000 annually, will be funded over three years by the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) through its Garrett Lee Smith Suicide Prevention Program. The awards support a range of activities for the promotion of mental health, suicide prevention, substance abuse prevention, and more. This includes training faculty, students, and staff to recognize a student at risk for suicide and to intervene. The awardees include community colleges, small and large campuses, and state and private institutions. More…

https://www.samhsa.gov/newsroom/press-announcements/201706200200

Men & Womens Health · Moving Forward

Walgreens Plans to Test Three Million People for Mental Health by end of 2017

Time will tell if Walgreens accomplishes the goal and how people are helped by the initiative. Another drug store chain publicity stunt?    M

I write about healthcare business and policy

A year after Walgreens Boots Alliance WBA -0.06% expanded access to behavioral health treatment by adding an established mental health screening, most patients took “active steps for follow-up,” the drugstore giant said.

Walgreens and its partner, nonprofit Mental Health America (MHA), say nearly 75% of visitors to the drugstore giant’s mental health site who completed MHA’s free screenings are moving toward follow-up treatment. That’s important because patients with mental health needs are known to not seek treatment or medication even once they know their diagnosis, behavioral health professionals say.

 

“One of our primary objectives when first launching this program was to help meet the growing need for resources and access to care,” Walgreens chief medical officer Dr. Harry Leider said in a statement.

Mental Health America is helping the drugstore giant connect its customers to free community-based screenings for mental health conditions that include depression, anxiety and bipolar disorders. Walgreens is also working with Mental Health America and other experts in the field to improve training and education of its more than 27,000 pharmacists and more than 1,100 nurse practitioners and physician assistants.

Walgreens’ update Tuesday on the expanding reach of its mental health initiative didn’t come with any financial figures. But the company is looking to expand later this summer, offering round-the-clock access to Walgreens pharmacists on MHA’s web site.

Increasingly, drugstore giants, including rival CVS Health CVS +0.24%, are pushing further beyond a pharmacy chain’s traditional role of dispensing and managing customer prescriptions. Fred’s, Inc., which will buy at least 865 Rite Aid RAD +2.08% pharmacies should Walgreens’ acquisition of Rite Aid win Federal Trade Commission approval, is transforming from its past heritage as a “Super Dollar” store to focus on personal healthcare.

Though no financial figures were released, Walgreens said its relationship with MHA is paying off. Data from the collaboration’s first year showed Walgreens customers were more likely to want a referral to someone who can help them at a higher percentage than those who went directly to MHA’s screening tools.

I like diabetes and heart disease. But patient adherence to treatment is known to be worse for mental health conditions than physical illnesses, so Walgreens set out to expand access to its customer base, which includes two million people who come to the pharmacy chain’s digital properties that include the company’s web site and mobile app.

https://www.forbes.com/sites/brucejapsen/2017/05/23/walgreens-mental-health-platform-spurs-follow-up-care/#6f1363e761e5

Survivor

Former Vanderbilt Football Player Found Guilty of Rape

By Tim Ghianni | NASHVILLE, TENN.

A Tennessee jury on Friday found a former Vanderbilt University football player guilty of raping an unconscious female student in a teammate’s dormitory room in 2013.

The Nashville jury found Brandon Banks, 23, guilty of aggravated rape and aggravated sexual battery after deliberating for about 15 hours over two days. The case stoked simmering concern about sexual assault on college campuses by athletes.

Banks faces at least 15 years in prison, Assistant District Attorney Roger Moore told media. Sentencing will be Aug. 18.

“We are very satisfied with their verdict,” Moore said.

Defense attorney Mark Scruggs did not respond to a request to comment. He was quoted by The Tennessean newspaper as saying that Banks was “shocked but understands that this is only the first part of this process. There’s a lot more to do from here on.”

Teammates Brandon Vandenburg and Cory Batey, two of the four former Vanderbilt football players charged in the case along with Banks, were found guilty when tried together in January 2015 but a mistrial was declared.

Batey was later retried, convicted and sentenced to 15 years in prison. Vandenburg was found guilty in June 2016 and sentenced to 17 years in prison.

A fourth player, Jaborian “Tip” McKenzie, who testified against his three teammates, has yet to stand trial in the case.

The players used cell phones to record their crimes, and those videos – shown to the jurors in all the trials – played crucial roles in the prosecution’s case.

Vandenburg and the victim, who had been dating, met for drinks at a bar popular with Vanderbilt students. Both had been drinking prior to meeting, according to testimony.

Vandenburg tried to take the victim, who was unconscious, to her apartment, but could not get in. He then took her back to his dormitory, where the other three men charged in the case helped cart her to his room, which was the site of the attacks, prosecutors said.

The victim, who has not been named, testified against all three men for their roles in the rapes.

Banks testified in his own defense and said he was intimidated by the other players and participated because he was scared of retribution that night and later on the football field.

(Reporting by Tim Ghianni; Writing by Jon Herskovitz; Editing by Leslie Adler)

http://www.reuters.com/article/us-tennessee-rape-trial-idUSKBN19F01V