Where Do You Turn When Teacher is Bullying

This is a repost from 2014, the point is schools have gone from sending notes about children being overweight to lunch shaming. I look back at my childhood, kids were bullied by other kids if they had a lunch coupon. I didn’t understand the problem then and certainly find it unacceptable this is happening by school staff today.  




Monday, May 26, 2014

Mom Upset That 9-Year-Old Girl Brought “Overweight” Notice Home From School

Great video, please see the kids reaction to letter.


The mother of a third-grade girl says she’s upset that the city Department of Education sent home a health assessment in her daughter’s book bag that categorizes the 9-year-old as “overweight.” Roseanne Colletti reports. Each year, 870,000 New York City public school students in kindergarten through grade 12 are handed their Fitnessgram assessments and told to bring them home without peeking inside.

Laura Bruij Williams says her daughter, Gwendolyn Williams, looked at hers, and asked her about it one night while getting ready for bed at their Staten Island home. Gwendolyn is 4 feet 1 inch tall and weighs 66 pounds.
The analysis said her Body Mass Index is “overweight.” “She said ‘Mom, school told me that I’m overweight,'” Williams told NBC 4 New York. “I was very angry and upset because I don’t want this to be the kind of thing that sticks with her.”

The Department of Education says the assessments are “based on whether an individual student is in the Healthy Fitness Zone for their age and sex.” They are supposed to be sealed and given to parents only, so that the adults can start conversations with their kids about good eating habits and exercise. Williams, who says her daughter is active and healthy, said she would have preferred the assessment be given directly to parents so that children aren’t even tempted to look. She said a friend of Gwendolyn’s was in tears about her assessment. “I think they should be sent to parents, mailed home or have them finished for conferences,” Williams said.


Sometimes we think magazines and media portraying extremely thin girls and women result in body image issues. I have not seen any studies yet know first hand how it feels to have a warped sense of your body. I had unhealthy body image issues by fifth grade and dreaded P.E. class. I was probably 10 pounds under weight but wanted to look like my Farrah poster. I would not take part in sports because I imagined how fat I looked in the short shorts running track or playing basketball. I think most teacher’s understand the pressure on all kids today. This school and Teacher became part of the problem. Talk to the school Principle and Teacher to discuss their process for communicating with parents. If you feel the process it lacking or potentially harmful to your child let them know. Then write a letter to School Board addressing concerns. I would be the soft-spoken mother who loses it, the school is bullying the kids and parents. The scars on the kids that can last a lifetime. Not all parents would recognize weight issues that young and could miss an opportunity to save their kids and themselves much grief. You pay taxes for your child’s education, speak up and hold school accountable. 



  1. Your article about the ‘teachers bullying’ is interesting. I’d love to hear your insights, information on the current events problems of teachers that are bringing their political preferences into the classrooms — of students of all ages — and , using their political preferences against their students , and sometimes against the parents. To be more specific, what do you think of the teachers that have turned to bullying any President Trump supporters or voters or families that back President Trump? We’ve all been reading the news articles about teachers that have been put on suspension and some that were fired because of these very same reasons. What’s your take on the whole thing? Maybe the question should be , should teachers be permitted to bully students or to treat students differently (than other students) if the teacher finds out that the students support President Trump? Merry Christmas peace artfromperry

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  2. Thank you so much for this post. I can relate because I was viciously and relentlessly bullied in a small Tennessee town when I moved there after having been an Army brat and living all over the world. I moved to this town in the 6th grade and the torment lasted from then until I finally changed schools during my senior year in high school. With that said, a few teachers also bullied me, joining the class in the harassment.

    Teacher on student bullying is much worse because there’s not much you can do about it due to the power dynamic. And it sets the expectation to the classmates that it’s perfectly okay to bullying the target.

    Again, thank you for addressing a problem that’s rarely talked about.

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  3. The school often doesn’t have a complete picture of each child’s medical history. In our case, the pediatricians have always let us know if there was a risk. Little AoA was diagnosed with hypothyroid at the age of about 6 or 7. She started out in life being premature and very much under normal length and weight. Her BMI is pretty high, and she can’t always tell when she is full- slow metabolism. It just seems heartless for someone who doesn’t know the history, or have been asked to give an assessment, to do this. In my world of special education, we must have parent permission BEFORE doing ANY type of assessment.

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    1. No child should be shamed, if the school has an issue it needs to speak directly with the parent not send a note for the kid to read. I feel horrible for these kids from low-income families being shamed by schools including School Principle because their parents owe money. One child was refused lunch, I can’t imagine anyone denying a child a lunch.

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