I watch a lot of streaming television shows as well as movies. Hence, in general, I avoid advertisements. Yesterday, I happen to be watching Buffy The Vampire Slayer again. The television series; not the movie. The only way to watch it is on Hulu streaming service where I am exposed to commercials. Sigh. And, they […]
It’ll never be today, again — psychologistmimi
“The War of the Worlds”—Orson Welles’s realistic radio dramatization of a Martian invasion of Earth—is broadcast on the radio on October 30, 1938. Welles was only 23 years old when his Mercury Theater company decided to update H.G. Wells’s 19th-century science fiction novel The War of the Worlds for national radio. Despite his age, Welles had been in radio for several years, most notably as the voice of “The Shadow” in the hit mystery program of the same name. “War of the Worlds” was not planned as a radio hoax, and Welles had little idea of how legendary it would eventually become.
On October 30, 2003, 18-year-old basketball prodigy LeBron James scores 25 points, grabs six rebounds and dishes out nine assists, but his Cleveland Cavaliers lose to the more experienced Sacramento Kings, 106-92. His debut is one of the most impressive in league history—only …read more
On October 30, 1811, Jane Austen’s Sense and Sensibility is published anonymously. A small circle of people, including the Prince Regent, learned Austen’s identity, but most of the British public knew only that the popular book had been written “by a …read more
On October 30, 1864, the town of Helena, Montana, is founded by four gold miners who struck it rich at the appropriately named “Last Chance Gulch.” The first major Anglo settlement of Montana had begun just two years before in the summer of 1862, when prospectors found a sizeable …read more
On October 30, 1991, the so-called “perfect storm” hits the North Atlantic producing remarkably large waves along the New England and Canadian coasts. Over the next several days, the storm spread its fury over the ocean off the coast of Canada. The fishing boat Andrea Gail and its six-member crew were lost in the storm. The disaster spawned the best-selling book The Perfect Storm by Sebastian Junger and a blockbuster Hollywood movie of the same name.
Have an awesome day!
Melinda
Enjoy!
Melinda
Reference:
https://www.thefactsite.com/top-100-random-funny-facts/2/
Grief behaviors after the loss of a loved one can be extreme. Unexpected behaviors during grief are to be expected
31 Unpredictable Behaviors of Grief — Runawaywidow
“Offer yourself patience where memories still bleed.” I, also, wish you didn’t still bleed. I know it is hard. It takes time.
Quote of the Day — Don’t Lose Hope
Hey! So glad you stopped by today, I look forward to your comments each week.
Melinda
Stress and anxiety are common experiences that can have a significant impact on your daily life. While some stress is normal and even necessary, too much stress can lead to problems. Understanding the causes of stress and anxiety can help you find ways to manage these feelings and improve your overall well-being.
There are many possible causes of stress and anxiety. Some people may be more prone to these feelings due to their genes or brain chemistry. Others may experience stress and anxiety in response to specific life events or circumstances. And still, others may have a medical condition that contributes to these emotions.
In many cases, stress and anxiety can be caused by a combination of factors. For example, someone who is dealing with a serious illness may also be experiencing financial stressors. Or someone who is going through a divorce may also be facing work-related challenges.
While some amount of stress and anxiety is normal and even beneficial, as it can help you to stay alert and motivated, too much can have negative consequences. Prolonged periods of stress can lead to physical health problems such as heart disease, high blood pressure, digestive issues, and sleep problems.
When it feels like the world is against you and everything is going wrong, it can be difficult to cope. Stress and anxiety can leave you feeling overwhelmed, exhausted, and hopeless. But there are ways to manage stress and anxiety and regain control of your life.
Are you someone who internalizes stress and worries a lot? Do you have trouble letting go of things? Are you constantly comparing yourself to others? Identifying the root cause of your stress and anxiety is the first step in learning how to manage it. Once you know what’s triggering your feelings of stress and anxiety, you can start to address them.
Negative thinking is one of the main contributors to stress and anxiety. If you’re constantly putting yourself down, ruminating on past failures, or worrying about the future, it’s no wonder you’re feeling stressed out! Start by challenging your negative thoughts. When you catch yourself thinking something negative, ask yourself if it’s really true. Chances are, it’s not.
There are a number of different relaxation techniques you can try to help ease stress and anxiety. Deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, and visualization are all effective ways to relax your mind and body. Experiment with different techniques to see what works best for you.
Exercise is a great way to relieve stress and boost your mood. Even just a few minutes of physical activity can make a big difference. Taking a brisk walk, going for a swim, or taking a yoga class are all great options.
Isolation can make stress and anxiety worse. Make an effort to connect with friends, family, or a support group. Talking about your stress and anxiety can help you feel better and may give you some helpful perspectives.
It’s important to make time for activities that make you happy and help you relax. Whether it’s reading, listening to music, spending time in nature, or taking a yoga class, find an activity that brings you joy and stick with it. Making time for yourself will help reduce stress and improve your overall well-being.
Learning how to manage stress and anxiety takes time. Be patient with yourself, and don’t expect overnight results. Remember that you’re not alone in this journey and that you can get through this. With a little effort, you can start to feel better and live a more peaceful life.
It’s also important to avoid unhealthy coping mechanisms, such as alcohol or drug misuse. These can actually make your stress and anxiety worse in the long run. In addition, they can also lead to other health problems. On the other hand, it can be extremely positive to find good coping mechanisms for the things that are affecting your mental health. For example, talking to a professional about penis augmentation procedures or arranging CBT sessions.
Lifestyle changes can also help reduce stress and anxiety. This might involve simplifying your schedule, getting more sleep, eating a healthy diet, or buying Delta 8 Gummies to take the extra edge off. Again, the key is to find what works for you and stick with it. Implementing these changes can be difficult, but the results are worth it.
If you’re struggling with stress or anxiety, it’s important to seek help from a qualified mental health professional. He or she can help you identify the causes of your emotions and develop an effective treatment plan. Treatment may include medication, therapy, lifestyle changes, or a combination of these approaches.
With proper treatment, most people are able to manage their stress and anxiety and live relatively normal lives. However, if left untreated, these conditions can have serious consequences. For example, people with untreated anxiety disorders are at an increased risk of developing depression, substance abuse problems, and even suicidal thoughts or behaviors.
If you’re struggling with stress or anxiety, don’t hesitate to reach out for help. There are many resources available to you, including mental health professionals, support groups, and hotlines. With the right help, you can overcome these challenges and start living the life you want to live.
There are a variety of things that can cause stress and anxiety. It’s important to identify your triggers and find healthy coping mechanisms. If you’re struggling to manage your stress and anxiety on your own, don’t hesitate to seek professional help. Finally, be sure to take care of yourself both physically and mentally. When you do, you’ll be better equipped to deal with whatever comes your way.
This is a collaborative post.
Melinda
You look up and it’s October, pushing November, where did the time go? I’m doing an annual check of how I’m doing at Looking for the Light. I’ll keep it short, please take a minute to give your feedback.
I’m asking a few questions about my blog but please chime in on anything else.
How do you feel about the layout and flow of my blog?
Are my post informative and easy to read?
Is the font large enough?
What topics would you like to see more of?
What organizations would you like me to add to the page Organizations That Can Help?
Thanks a million, I truly appreciate you reading my blog and helping me to make it better.
Melinda
This morning while taking my coffee pods out of their carousel it hit me how grateful I am. Sometimes we get caught up in the stressors that come our way and life in front of us disappears. The world’s problems slip away from our minds and we need a reset.
Maybe you want to keep an I’m Grateful For Journal, I know many friends that do and they say it’s a great way to start the day. Many formats of journals are out there.
LED lightbulbs
Coffee
Free Speach
A roof over my head
Houseplants
My dogs
Melinda
What is vaping? This is a question that many people are asking, especially since it seems to be becoming more and more popular. Vaping is the act of inhaling and exhaling the vapors from an electronic cigarette or vape pen. People started vaping as a way to quit smoking, and it has turned into a huge trend over the past few years. There are many different reasons why vaping is so popular, but we will discuss some of the most common reasons in this post.
Smoking cigarettes is extremely harmful to your health, and it is one of the leading causes of death in the world. If you are looking for a way to quit smoking, vaping can be a great option. There are many different types of electronic cigarettes and vape pens on the market, so you can find one that suits your needs. Vaping is much less harmful than smoking cigarettes, and it can help you kick your nicotine addiction.
Cigarettes are expensive, and they are only getting more expensive as time goes on. If you are looking for a cheaper alternative to smoking cigarettes, vaping is definitely the way to go. You can save a lot of money by switching to vaping, and you will be able to enjoy your habit without breaking the bank.
Smoking cigarettes can be a hassle, especially if you are trying to quit. Vaping is much more convenient than smoking, and you can do it almost anywhere. There are no rules against vaping in most public places, so you can vape wherever you want. You also don’t have to worry about carrying around lighters or ashtrays.
As we mentioned before, smoking cigarettes is extremely harmful to your health. If you are looking for a safer alternative to smoking, vaping is the way to go. Vaping is much less harmful than smoking, and there is no risk of secondhand smoke.
Smoking cigarettes can be a very isolating experience, especially if you are trying to quit. Vaping is much more social than smoking, and you can share your vape pen with your friends. Vaping is also a great way to meet new people, and you can find like-minded people in vape shops and online forums.
If you are looking for a way to relax, vaping can be a great option. There are many different types of e-liquid on the market, and you can find one that suits your needs. You can also customize your vaping experience with different types of e-liquid and cartridges. For example, Delta 8 THC Vape Carts are a great way to relax and enjoy the benefits of THC without smoking cannabis. If you are feeling stressed out, vaping can help you relax and unwind.
These are just some of the reasons why vaping is so popular. If you are looking for an alternative to smoking cigarettes, vaping is definitely the way to go. There are many different types of electronic cigarettes and vape pens on the market, so you can find one that suits your needs. Vaping is much less harmful than smoking cigarettes, and it can help you kick your nicotine addiction.
This is a collaborative post.
Melinda
National Bullying Awareness Month is something I can relate to. In my day bullying was just that bullying, calling people names, playing pranks, hazing, and fist fighting. The norm, but today it’s a whole new ballgame because of the Internet, and social media.
When you are abused as a child and live in a domestic violence home you don’t trust anyone, I didn’t want anyone to know, not even my grandparents. My mother was good at keeping the bruises hidden so no one would know. For this reason, I didn’t make many friends and was not very social.
When I was in 6th grade I was bullied to the extreme. The girls, about 4-6 people would follow me walking home. They normally stay a short distance behind me calling me names of all sorts. If the bullying wasn’t damaging to a 6th grader’s ego, one day two of the girls came up close behind me and hit me over the head with a coke bottle then started kicking me. It left a huge bump and it hurt but I didn’t cry until I got home.
The worst was the girl I lived next to when younger said to meet in her backyard for a fight. When I arrived there were at least 25 people there to watch me get my ass kicked. They all joined in calling me names and then out of nowhere she hit me upside the head, that was only the first blow. I knew if I got into a physical fight I would pay for it at home so I barely defended myself. After what seemed like forever it was over.
I knew better than to say something but I needed something for my head, it was bleeding. I told my mother and stepfather. Boy what a mistake, my alcoholic stepfather was tanked and went to kick the father’s ass. Oh boy, would I get more beatings for that at school? Luckily, he was too drunk to drive and that was the end of that. No compassion, no advice, nothing.
That was bullying then, today the landscape has changed and bullying hits you from any direction from faceless people. They are cowards, hiding behind the wall of the internet they troll you. From the news stories, I hear it can be relenting. I’ve known friends from WordPress who were hassled so bad they shut their site down and started over. I understand because someone started stalking me for seven months, even hacking my computer, it was frightening not only because of the fallout but were they nearby and watching me? That seven months took a toll on my health and I couldn’t go anywhere by myself for fear of being followed.
That is one way people bully you today. Don’t even get me started on social media. I have a very strong feeling about the role parents play in a child/teen’s life. I’m not going to get on my bandwagon but will say if parents aren’t monitoring their children’s Internet and phone activity, they are making a big mistake and doing their children no favors.
As reported on the 2019 Indicators of School Crime and Safety report, about 20% of students ages 12-18 reported being bullied in 2017. Among students ages 12-18 who reported being bullied during the school year, 15% were bullied online or by text. National Bullying Prevention Awareness Month is a month-long observance to educate and raise awareness about bullying and cyberbullying prevention. Addressing and preventing bullying is something that everyone can do, every day.
Educators and teachers can create a safe, supportive learning environment and a classroom culture of positivity, inclusiveness and respect. They can reward students for positive social behavior. Schools can communicate bullying policies at their school to parents, students, teachers and staff and follow through on them. Monitoring bullying ‘hot spots’ around the school campus can also help prevent bullying.
Parents and caregivers can talk with their children about their school and digital life, and the many roles children can play in bullying. By asking open-ended questions, they can talk about their children’s experience and communicate expectations about appropriate behavior – in person and in their digital world. Parents are the primary role models for their children, and when they model the behavior they expect from their children, they teach through actions.
Youth who experience bullying can reach out to a trusted adult to talk about it and get support. If they’re being cyberbullied, they can capture screenshots. They can block the people who are bullying. If they witness bullying, they can change the conversation and deflect it. If they feel they can do it, they can stand up for the person being bullied, either on their own or with friends as a group. If they don’t feel safe doing that, they can reach out to the person being bullied to let them know that they don’t agree with it. If youth witness cyberbullying, they shouldn’t participate or share the posts or texts. They can learn more about how bystanders are essential to bullying prevention. They can also talk to a trusted adult for advice.
Check out these videos on how to handle different bullying situations.
Melinda
References:
https://www.stopbullying.gov/blog/2020/10/21/october-national-bullying-prevention-awareness-month
Melinda
Dec 9, 2021
The holidays are here — a time for family, friends and festivities. But it’s also a season of consumerism, which is costing our planet a hefty price.
This year, the world has seen the biggest increase in ship emissions in over a decade (along with endangered whales getting struck by congested cargo ships.) In the US alone, returned packages will generate around 15 million tons of carbon pollution (equivalent to 3.2 million cars driven on the road for one year). And then there are the environmental harms caused by the gifts themselves, which could include polluting fast fashion items, plastic toys made from fossil fuels, or sweet treats that are driving deforestation.
But it is possible to show your loved ones you care while also caring for our collective home. We asked TED speakers to share planet-friendly gift recommendations, and here are 16 ideas for a merry — and more sustainable — holiday season.
[Editor’s note: One of the greatest gifts you can give is the gift of lifelong learning. For your favorite curious soul, consider sending them a TED Membership, where they can enjoy exclusive programs and events throughout the year as well as access to a global community of like-minded people. Learn more here.]
I love the ritual of presents, and I’ve found that digital subscriptions are great gifts. Here are three:
1) An annual gift subscription to Duolingo (Plus or Family), because learning another language is a beautiful gift to ourselves and to the world. It creates stronger bonds and connects with other cultures.
2) An annual subscription to Body Groove. During the pandemic, I learned that dancing at home does wonders, physically and mentally. We need to keep strong!
3) An annual subscription to a magazine that will introduce you to great writing and emerging voices. Because in an age marked by existential struggles — climate, COVID, inequality — we need fiction and non-fiction. We need the power of stories to help us expand our imaginations and transcend our everyday lives.
— Monica Araya (TED Talk: How cities are detoxing transportation)
Some of the most impactful gifts are those that can replace “sleepwalk consumption” products — the things we buy repeatedly without much thought. Luckily, many of these products can be replaced with sustainable alternatives, and many companies have made delightful, whimsical and giftable versions of them. By giving a beautiful sleepwalking product as a gift, you could change one person’s — or one family’s — impact over the rest of their lives. Here are a few ideas: 100 percent Slave-Free Chocolate, “Give” Holiday Edition Toilet Paper, Oatly Chocolate Milk, Brew Dog Beer Advent Calendar, Bite Toothpaste or Dirty Labs Laundry.
— Mariana Prieto (TED Talk: Why animals need design)
If you live in the UK, why not give your loved one a pack of 105 tree saplings to plant, thereby helping save the planet by removing more carbon dioxide from the air and providing valuable new habitats? They can be obtained from The Woodland Trust — and the best thing is that they’re free. I helped plant 210 saplings last week! And if you don’t live in the UK, there may be a similar scheme where you are, but even if there isn’t, give someone some trees anyway.
— Ian Firth (TED Talk: Bridges should be beautiful)
Being that change is certain but not predictable, I’ll suggest a gift from BioLite, which offers great products for outdoor adventures and off-the-grid and emergency energy. I love Biolite’s awesome commitment to serving both campers and people who still lack access to reliable power, and the company has also won the prestigious 2021 National Design Award from the Cooper Hewitt, Smithsonian Design Museum. I’m getting my pal who has frequent outages an Alpen Glow 500, so she can charge her devices with it too.
— Wendy Brawer (TED Talk: How green is my city?)
My planet-friendly gift recommendation for any Americans on your list is an annual pass to the US National Parks. It’s a great gift, because what could be more fun than spending time outdoors with your loved ones learning about the beautiful planet we live on? The money also goes towards the National Parks Service, which has conservation as an essential part of its mission (and has since its founding in 1916).
— Zoe Pierrat (TED-Ed Lesson: Earth’s mysterious red glow, explained)
My favorite climate-friendly gifts are refurbished antiques. It’s a wonderful way to repurpose a once-functional item from the past into a beautiful gift. I am also an environmental science teacher, so every year I create a bulletin board that suggests other green holiday ideas to my students because there are so many ways to offset your carbon footprint.
— Kim Preshoff (TED-Ed Lesson: What’s a smartphone made of?)
My sustainable holiday gift recommendation is a mushroom grow cube that allows you to easily grow a delicious, sustainable food source from your kitchen, basement, bathroom — wherever is convenient for you. It’s fun to watch them grow (quicker than you would expect!) with very little effort, and they come in several mushroom varieties. You can get them from a variety of sources online, but to make the gift more sustainable, you can look into a local mushroom grower online or get them in person at your local farmers’ markets. (For example, here is a local mushroom grower near me in Maryland.)
— Noah Bressman (TED-Ed Lesson: The fish that walk on land)
Most of us have enough stuff, so this holiday season, why not give a gift that will create a legacy? While the Archangel Ancient Tree Archive won’t sell you their certified champion Giant Sequoia seedlings, they will plant one for you — or even an entire forest. What better gift can you give than one that will be around for thousands of years?
— Camille Seaman (TED Talk: Connection and purpose: tales of polar photographer)
The Brave Robot cake mix uses a non-animal whey protein that replaces the equivalent of three eggs! It produces an animal-free yellow cake that doesn’t use aquafaba, flax seeds or other traditional egg replacements that can mess with flavor or texture. The protein is made by reprogramming microflora to produce the same whey found in cow milk — it’s cellular agriculture in action!
— Isha Datar (TED Talk: How we could eat real meat without harming animals)
Who doesn’t love a good map? Humans have been using them ever since our ancestors started drawing on cave walls. My planet-friendly gift recommendation is a map of your city or town. If you want, circle your favorite places that are accessible on foot, bicycle, bus and metro, such as parks, vistas, buildings and shops. You could give it in either digital or paper form — and bonus points if you can find an old map at an auction site or local map store and get it framed. Maps can help people rediscover the amazing diversity of their natural and built environment, support local business and help keep everyone’s footprint local.
— Robert Muggah (TED Talk: The biggest risks facing cities — and some solutions)
While we fight climate change, we can still do the things that are most important, like hugging grandmothers, meeting friends and celebrating holidays. A ticket to a local theater might be one of the most climate-friendly gifts, and it strengthens the community.
Here in Iceland, a book has been the most popular Christmas gift for the last century. We have what is called jólabókaflóð, or the Christmas book flood. Most books are published in November and December to become Christmas gifts, and for most people, there is no holiday without going to bed with a new book.
So I would recommend giving a book, perhaps by a local author from a local bookstore. The book can last decades, and it never becomes obsolete. You can pass it on; it is not run by evil algorithms; does not monitor your behavior; give you likes; or collect your data in energy-intensive data farms. A good book lets you dive into other people’s minds — and at best, it can change your life.
— Andri Snær Magnason (TED Talk: On time and water)
Native wildflower seeds make a wonderful gift. As they bloom, they become the foundation of local ecosystems for pollinators and birds, while improving soil health and preventing erosion. They won’t break your bank, and your recipient will smile every time they see them.
— Jeff Kirschner (TED Talk: This app makes it fun to pick up litter)
We know the fashion industry has disproportionately negative impacts on the environment — it is responsible for 20 percent of our water pollution, 10 percent of carbon emissions, and every time we wash synthetic fibers, we are contributing to microplastic pollution. That’s why I created a company that produces clothing made by hand with only three ingredients — sun, plants and mountain water — and without using any electricity, chemicals, plastics or fossil fuels. Another clothing and textile company that’s aiming to do things more sustainably is Rough Linen. They create beautiful linen products from natural fibers, including sumptuous bathrobes, PJs, aprons, tea towels and so much more, and all products are handmade in the US. With each gift, you can remind your cherished giftee that our consumer choices can impact industries.
— Angel Chang (TED Talk: How ancient textiles can help the future)
Personally, I try to move away from purchased items for my giftees, as consumerism results in significant carbon emissions and awe-worthy amounts of waste. Instead, I try to spend money on shared local experiences that bring joy and create shared memories. These can be regionally specific and vary considerably in price; however, the plentiful availability of virtual workshops does make this a highly accessible gift idea. In the past, my giftees and I have learned the art of falconry as well as how to scuba dive, race sled dogs, zip line, blow glass, metalsmith, cook pasta, taste whiskey, bead jewelry and sew. Last but not least, we’ve visited baby goats and learned to make cheese and garden!
— Anne Madden (TED Talk: Meet the microscopic life in your home — and on your face)
Give the gift of learning to reconnect with nature, which is at the heart of solving our environmental crisis. Create a homemade “nature experience gift card” to suit your loved ones’ interests — creating a personalized day out in nature that’s organized by you. Depending on where you live and what you enjoy doing with them, it could be a mountain hike, a walk on a quiet beach, a visit to a botanic garden, or a picnic in a local park. While you are there, invite them to sit quietly; observe the sounds, smells and feel of the surroundings and the visual beauty; and simply notice what happens.
— Carol Farbotko (TED-Ed Lesson: Where will you be able to live in 20 years?)
How about giving a gift that gives back? I’m thinking of a gift that can build someone’s skills to pursue a life of purpose and dignity. These resources already exist in us today, but we don’t utilize them enough. Why not gift someone a workshop or course that enhances their skills so they can be confident, empowered and encouraged? I like to gift a basic survival skills course that will teach them to deal better when in crisis. Your giftee will thank you for it!
— Rumaitha Al Busaidi (TED Talk: Women and girls, you are part of the climate solution)
Can having less stuff, in less room, lead to more happiness? Writer and designer Graham Hill lays out three rules for editing your life:
Thank you for all the great feedback on the Blogger Highlight series, I’ve enjoyed meeting each blogger and sharing their site with you. Each week I highlight a new blogger, this week is Peace From Panic.
Thank you for visiting my blog! My name is Jeni Driscoll. I’m a mom with a wonderful husband and two beautiful daughters, both in their 20s.
I’ve had panic attacks since I was ten years old. At that time, I had no idea what was wrong with me. I never told anyone because I didn’t know how to describe my scary and weird sensations. I thought there was something really wrong with me that could never be fixed.
Stigma prevented me from talking about my problem. I finally reached out for medical help when I was in my early 30s. My diagnosis: panic disorder with agoraphobia.
I’m now recovered. Anxiety no longer rules me.
I learned so much from her blog. Be sure to check Jeni’s blog.
Melinda
I’ve lived in the hell of Domestic Violence. Instead of giving you statistics, I want to share some thoughts and experiences. In this post, I also share ideas on how to proactively prepare for the day you leave.
This chart is great to use for teaching tweens/teens and as a reminder for yourself. If children are taught early, you can help them see the warning signs, and help them gently with the words to break off the relationship before it goes any further. Teens can be a handful but early learning will help.
There are resources on the Internet on how to listen to your child if you are worried about them. Talking to a therapist about coping skills and how to teach your children about abusive relationships will help immensely.
My world was walking on eggshells, listening to my mother get beat day after day. My stepfather hit her head against the wall as they went down the entire hallway and stopped at my bedroom door. I had to listen to my mother begging for him to stop, it traumatized me.
I was nine years old, my parents were going to bed, and I thought we had made it thru another day. A few minutes later I hear her screaming and them coming down the hall, wincing every time her head hits the wall. They landed in front of my door but across the hall, I could peek out my door and see everything. My stepfather dragged her by the hair, up against a wall, and had a knife to her throat. My mother saw me I could tell she was afraid for her life. I saw a trickle of blood and freaked out. I had fears of him hurting us four children.
Even though my mother and I had a very fractured relationship, you don’t want to see your mother killed. I was panicked, and could not get to the phone to call my grandparents. I gather up the little money I had hidden and took off on my bike. I rode across town to my boyfriend’s house. Long story short, my mother arrived acting nice until we got in the car. She slapped me all the way home. Everything was fine, it was my fault.
If you are in a Domestic Violence relationship and you are planning to leave, there are some steps you can take to make the move less stressful. If you have a family member or friend that would allow you to pack some items and leave them until the night you leave that would not cause alarm at home. If you don’t have anyone to help you directly, hiding essentials in the trunk of your car is possible. The key is to be prepared as possible because once you leave the house, it may take a while before you get your items returned or are able to move back in the house.
You have to get crafty when it comes to money. If you withdraw the money too quickly they will find out. He’s what comes to my mind. You have to plan your escape seriously and it has to be precise or it may escalate. If both of your names are on the credit card or bank try to get your name taken off and get a new account sent to a safe address. Run as fast as you can with what you can! Life will be insane for a while but living in those conditions is inhumane.
Save small amounts of money and hid it from your partner, after you have a small amount of money, take it to your friend’s house for safekeeping. You will need to save money for some time to help you once you leave. I’ve heard of many women being cut off from money, it’s probably one of the leading causes. Many times one partner will be left without money, for who knows how long.
If you have children you will need escape bags for them too. I’m talking like one small suitcase for all. If you have a job it’s easier, in that you can control your future. Once you settle into a shelter, family, or friends, new routines can form. Shop different stores, and do everything to avoid him even if that means driving out of way to pick items up. The last thing you want is a confrontation. This can escalate very quickly and turn into a bad ending.
I’ve talked to many women and men from Domestic Violence homes and leaving is always hard. There are so many fears. Have someone on your side to talk to if you can. The key is planning, where to go, and when to go, you have to plan a couple of days’ clothing if possible because it may be that long before an Officer can go with you and let you in the house. Tell as few people as possible and get a burner phone so he can’t track you.
It may sound far-fetched but many abusers don’t want to lose their partner, they say I love you and how sorry they are, and it will never happen again. LIE! They want to continue to control you and will stop at nothing. I’m not talking about killing you, even though in a worst-case scenario it could happen, what I’m talking about is the hassling, all the time, calling you or your employer, calling your family members, they will work hard to have you back in their life.
I will firmly say the first time you leave is the easiest, if you go back and many do, they will keep an eye on every move you make. Don’t let that stop you from leaving again you have to try a different technique. The saddest is the children involved in the turmoil. Years of therapy helped me deal with my traumatic background.
Please check out my page Organizations That Can Help, the number of resources I have for Domestic Violence is fairly short but there are other resources you may need along the way listed too. There are some great blogs that discuss Domestic Violence, seek them out to learn tips on how to diffuse situations to how to prepare to leave.
I’m proud of you wherever you are in life and pray you are happy and healthy. Please remember I’m talking about what happened in my life. I won’t say I know yours or that I’m an expert, I’m not. Just a 59-year-old recalling traumatic memories. Therapy has saved my life. One thing I know is the less you keep bottled up, the better your mental health will be.
One thing you need is a couple of people to follow and learn from those who have been where you are. You’ll get ideas from following others, not only for learning but also for building your confidence. A blog I read a long time ago went as far as how to protect yourself inside the home if you are trying to get in.
KEEP MOVING FORWARD!
Melinda
I’m thrilled to introduce Lynda Faye Schmidt author of The Holding and The Healing along with a companion Journal. She is kicking off her blog tour, on October 21-25th and I’m supporting her with my interview. Lynda Faye Schmidt is a storyteller who writes from the heart. Her novels are emotionally impacting and character-driven.
Before becoming a writer, Lynda earned a Bachelor of Education. She taught in a variety of settings, sharing her love of reading, writing and creating. After her move to the Middle East in 2015, Lynda kicked off her writing career with her blog, Musings of an emotional creature. She was also a contributor for DQ Living magazine. <img id="
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The Holding is a prequel to The Healing. Based on true events, the story takes us back to the beginning, where Cate Henderson is born in a small prairie town in Canada. Six weeks premature, baby Cate is tiny, but feisty. Even as an infant, Cate’s radiant smile lights up a room. But the heart of this novel is the relationship that unfolds between Cate and her father, William. An emotional read, The Holding delves into both harsh realities and healing journeys. From childhood abuse and bullying to the power of love to transform; it is a story of resilience, a father’s devotion, and an unbreakable bond between father and daughter that will have the reader engaged right up to the last scene.
Thank you Lynda for taking the time to talk with me today. Why don’t we jump right in?
Absolutely! I was born in a small prairie town in western Canada in the mid-sixties. I lived with my parents and older brother in a succession of small towns until a traumatic event had us move to Calgary, Alberta in 1980. Uprooted, uncertain, and rebellious, I got pregnant at the age of sixteen and my life took off on a whole new direction. With the support of my parents, as well as a stack of student loans and grants, I earned my Bachelor of Education at the university of Calgary in 1988. I married in 1989 and had two more children. I wasn’t into the marriage long before I realized my husband had serious mental health challenges. I did my best to support him and to follow through with my commitment, but things continued to break down. I finally found the courage to leave after all three of my children were done high school, more than twenty-five years later. I packed up everything I could fit into my car and embarked on a new life adventure on Vancouver Island. I delved into healing, and not long after, I met my soulmate, David. We married in 2014 and together we adopted his step-daughter. In 2015, David found work in Riyadh, Saudi Arabia, and we moved to the Middle East. We lived there for seven years before choosing to become expats once again, and moved to Panama in August, 2022.
The move was huge in creating space and opportunity for my writing career to manifest. My husband’s work schedule didn’t work well with the school calendar, so continuing my career as a teacher didn’t feel like a good option. I’d always dreamed of being a writer and besides keeping a daily journal, had written many poems and short stories as a hobby throughout the busy years of working as a teacher and raising a family. Not long after the move I decided to start a blog, and created Musings of an Emotional Creature. A chance acquaintance led to an opportunity for me to write articles for the local Diplomatic Quarter magazine. I uncovered the five pages of inspiration for a novel I’d scribbled out back in 2012, and decided it was time to write the story. A chance discussion on the local shopping bus had me reaching out to Anne O’Connell of OC Publishing, and my first novel was launched in partnership with her in April 2021.
The move was huge in creating space and opportunity for my writing career to manifest. My husband’s work schedule didn’t work well with the school calendar, so continuing my career as a teacher didn’t feel like a good option. I’d always dreamed of being a writer and besides keeping a daily journal, had written many poems and short stories as a hobby throughout the busy years of working as a teacher and raising a family. Not long after the move I decided to start a blog, and created Musings of an Emotional Creature. A chance acquaintance led to an opportunity for me to write articles for the local Diplomatic Quarter magazine. I uncovered the five pages of inspiration for a novel I’d scribbled out back in 2012, and decided it was time to write the story. A chance discussion on the local shopping bus had me reaching out to Anne O’Connell of OC Publishing, and my first novel was launched in partnership with her in April 2021.
I think I answer that in the previous question, but I’ll add that it was, and still is, a huge leap of courage and faith. It isn’t an easy industry and I’ve had to learn all kinds of things I never anticipated in the fields of marketing and social media, but I love learning new things and I love writing so all it’s all good.
After I published my first novel, The Healing, I had a few readers interested in the back story that was only hinted at. They wanted to know about what kept Cate in an unhealthy relationship for so long as well as details about what created her resilience. I had a dusty old manuscript I’d written after my father passed away in 2000 and it became the bones that transformed into my second novel as prequel to the first, The Holding. I received feedback from many reviewers and interviewers who were intrigued by Cate’s journaling practice, which is conveyed in-depth in both novels, and that became my inspiration for the Companion Journal.
I invite readers to approach the journal in whatever method works for them as unique individuals. My hope is that it will ignite their curiosity and that will in turn expand their self- awareness. I would be delighted if, after working through the journal, readers embraced the idea of some form of regular journaling practice, to continue their journey of self-reflection and growth and expand their consciousness as human beings.
For me, the writing process is so dynamic, it’s difficult to contain with a timeline. I’m forever jotting down ideas in my journals and on random scraps of paper. With each new book manifested into reality, my own writing practice evolves. When writing The Healing, I wasn’t as committed to a daily writing schedule, so it took the longest. I would estimate each project took around a year to get the raw manuscript to light and then another year for editing and design.
Yes, absolutely, I’m an avid reader, although these days I seem to have less time for the pleasure of leisure reading, I do consider reading an important part of developing my skill as a writer. I read from many genres and my choices have varied greatly over the years. Currently, I’m drawn to novels based on real life, historical fiction, and memoirs. I also appreciate both novels and non-fiction on themes of spirituality, purpose, creativity, and living with intention.
I’m a devout yogi and you can find me on my mat most days of the week. Sometimes I only manage to squeeze in a fifteen-minute meditation and breath-work session. On others, I go for it and move my body through an hour and half of postures that integrate balance, strength, and flexibility. Besides reading, I enjoy watching movies and hosting dinner parties. I love to experiment with ingredients to prepare savory dishes and sweet desserts. Recently I’ve been adding in my love of wine to explore food and wine pairings. Travel is fascinating for me, as I value learning about other cultures and experiences. My husband is an avid gym-enthusiast, so I tie up my trainers to join him in our home gym for solid work-outs on the treadmill and lifting weights too. Now that we’ve moved to Panama, I’m relishing the myriad of natural spaces to explore, including beaches, jungle-forests, and mountain ranges, but I’m not a hard-core hiker by any means. Animated conversations with friends, live music at local establishments, and connecting with people I love brings me a sense of belonging and joy.
I would love to hear from fans in whatever format resonates best with them. On my website, www.lyndafayeschmidt.com, I have a stay in touch form to sign up for emails and submit questions. I also have an author page on Face Book and LinkedIn which I check daily for notifications. I have a YouTube channel where viewers can leave comments. I’m on Goodreads, and fans can follow, review and comment on that platform as well.
“The Holding took me on an emotional journey. I could relate to Cate’s challenges and rallied with her as she found the inner strength to endure life’s tribulations.”
— Michelle Jones
“Had me captured from the first page to the last.”
— Linda Smith
“Plot-wise, The Healing is an immensely entertaining, feel-good novel…the storyline truly waxes in emotions… If you are charmed by stories like Eat, Pray, Love, The Healing is the book for you.”
— Vincent Dublado, reviewer for Readers’ Favorite <img id="” class=”Apple-web-attachment Singleton” style=”font-style:normal;font-variant-caps:normal;font-weight:400;letter-spacing:normal;orphans:auto;text-align:start;text-indent:0;text-transform:none;white-space:normal;widows:auto;word-spacing:0;-webkit-text-size-adjust:auto;text-decoration:none;color:#000000;font-family:Optima-Regular;font-size:18px;opacity:1;”>Thank you Linda for sharing your time with me, you have had such an interesting life.
Melinda
The fact about grapes is news to me. I fed my dog Sasha grapes and it didn’t kill her. I don’t suggest you try.
Enjoy!
Melinda
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#Weekend Music Share-@Alanis Morissette – Hand In My Pocket (The Prince’s Trust Masters Of Music 1996)
Hey! So glad you stopped by today, I look forward to your comments each week.
Melinda
I woke up, the sleeping pills making me drowsy I go for the computer. It’s Friday and I have blogging to do. I ask my husband several hours later if today was Friday, no it is Thursday.
My mind working along the pace of this river, I dropped the ball.
Those who looked today, a big thank you. You’ll see them again tomorrow.
Melinda
Here are a few products I’m in love with right now. I hope you find a new product to add to your household or self-care routine. The list may also give you ideas for a surprise for friends, family, or co-workers.
Nature Vally Wafer Bars in Peanut Butter Chocolate taste out of this world and have made my weight loss journey easier. My husband also eats them every day, no weight loss journey, they’re that good. They have multiple flavors and at 100 calories per bar, it makes a great breakfast or snack. Your children will love these too!
You can purchase it at Kroger.
Ohio Tea Company, wow this is a true tea place. If you want it, chances are they will have it in stock. Teas I had not heard of and have bought a few small packs of exotics just to taste. The flavor I’m in love with is the Monks Blend. It’s the perfect drink anytime tea, I’m drinking right now. One page on their site says they have over 400 teas in stock, surely you can find a few blends for you. Makes great gifts!
You can purchase it online at OhioTeaCo.com.
Bach Rescue Pastilles in Lemon are homeopathic and trusted generations. They have been a lifesaver since my diagnosis of Sjogren’s Syndrome, I have difficulty making saliva and my mouth is always dry. These help to produce saliva and taste great. They are soft round pastilles that come in a yellow round tin and contain 35 pastilles in each tin.
You can purchase it off Amazon.
The flatbreads have made my weight loss journey easy and when you are cramped for the time they’re the perfect match. We create all types of flatbreads for dinner with all types of goodies on them but I also eat them for lunch or dinner. Each flatbread is 100 calories which works for me, I often add peanut butter or honey to one and that fills me up.
You can purchase it at Kroger.
I would like to hear what products you have added to your life lately that you love? Leave me a note in the comment section below.
Melinda
Learning about Osteoporosis happened to me at the tender age of 16 years old. Granny had Osteoporosis and participated in a Clinic Trial to see if Citracal helped over a years time. Unfortunately, Granny didn’t get much help from the study except she now knew she had to take calcium every day. This was the late 1970’s and they knew little about how to treat the illness.
Fast forward to today and look at all the knowledge we have and the RX medications we have for treatments. Participating in a respected Clinical Trial could help you or a loved one. At a minimum, it advances our society.
*One important note about Clinical Trails is you need to know exactly who is the company behind the study, pharmaceuticals? higher education? or to gather information? If you don’t have a relationship with the person who asked you to join, have them send you all the brochures about the study including the treatments or medication being evaluated.
I have never had a bad experience while participating in Clinical Trials, which were all Mental Health focused. The last thing you want is a scam.
Let’s talk more about what is Osteoporosis and what its causes are.
Make no bones about it, World Osteoporosis Day on October 20, is the time to learn about osteoporosis. Celebrate good health and educate yourself and others about the value of taking care of your body and protecting your bones and muscles from disabling and life-threatening fractures.
It’s interesting to note that prior to 1994, osteoporosis wasn’t even considered a major disease. But in 1998, two prominent organizations committed to educating the public about osteoporosis, combined to create the International Osteoporosis Foundation.
One of the most important events for WOD is checking bone density. Bones that are less dense are more liable to easily break or fracture at sudden movement or during minor falls. These bone density tests are available on WOD all over the world.
This disease is caused majorly by the lack of calcium and vitamin D in the body. Low calcium consumption leads to the reduction of bone density and bone loss. Being underweight, smoking, lack of exercise, malabsorption [1], aging, and genetics are also causes of bone weakening in the body. A bone density test [2] is conducted to check for osteoporosis. It is the use of an x-ray to check the density of the bones in your spine, wrists, and hips. Osteoporosis is also known as porous bone.
The first stage of osteoporosis begins between the age of 30 to 35. However, it may begin earlier in some person’s, ranging from the age of 25 to 30. This first stage is a state of equilibrium and is the first stage in the decline of the bone’s mineral density [3]. This procedure can be called leaching [4].
In this stage, the rate at which the bones in the body are being broken down will be faster than the rate at which the body builds bones. Bone loss then begins to occur at approximately 0.25% per year. This however varies, depending on environmental and genetic factors.
Through the ages of 45 to 55, the breakdown of bones occurs at a faster rate. In women, this is an effect of menopause, which leads to a reduction in the hormone oestrogen [5] which is significant in ensuring that all body tissues including bone ligaments, muscles, and tendons are in a good state. Women tend to lose up to 10 to 20% of their bone density in the first five years of menopause. Some women even lose up to 30%. For men, the changes in bone density occur between the ages of 60 to 65. This is caused by a decrease in the hormone testosterone.
This stage is usually characterized by an increase in the fragility of the bones. Where a fall, walking into a door, running, and even bending down to pick something off the floor, which are activities that were considered easy in younger years, may now be enough to cause a fracture.
Osteoporosis reaches this stage when there is no intervention or treatment done to the condition of the bones. In this stage, the effects and consequences of bone loss become quite visible. Factors like continual softening of the bones and the accumulation of fragility fractures, in the body, lead to deformity[6]. With this deformity, comes a lot of pain and discomfort. The individual day by day finds it harder to perform normal daily activities like getting into a car, sitting down, climbing stairs, reaching for something above them, etc.
Certain lifestyle changes can also go a long way in preventing and maintaining osteoporosis. Including plenty of calcium and vitamin D in your diet is as important as the medications being taken. Physical activity and exercises like walking, hiking, and dancing is also a good way to treat or prevent this condition.
I hope you’ve learned a great deal about how to deal with Osteoporosis.
Melinda
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Melinda
Thank you for all the great feedback on the Blogger Highlight series, I’ve enjoyed meeting each blogger and sharing their site with you. This week I highlight a new blogger, Ms. C. Loves.
If music be the food of love, play on✨
In my world, where my life is ever so happening yet my memory is ever so fleeting, I have decided to dedicate some time weekly to preserve those precious moments for my future wrinkly self.
So here, I present to you: my valiant attempt to document all the big and small things in life that capture my heart (cheesy, I know!)—enjoy!
Check out her website for great insight.
Melinda
On October 16, 1934, the embattled Chinese Communists break through Nationalist enemy lines and begin an epic flight from their encircled headquarters in southwest China. Known as Ch’ang Cheng—the “Long March”—the retreat lasted 368 days and covered 6,000 miles, more than twice the distance from New York to San Francisco.
On October 16, 1923, Walt Disney and his brother Roy found the Disney Brothers Cartoon Studio in Hollywood, California. The studio, now known as the Walt Disney Company, has had an oversized impact on the entertainment industry and is now one of the largest media companies in the …read more
On October 16, 1923, Walt Disney and his brother Roy found the Disney Brothers Cartoon Studio in Hollywood, California. The studio, now known as the Walt Disney Company, has had an oversized impact on the entertainment industry and is now one of the largest media companies in the …read more
On October 16, 1987, in an event that had viewers around the world glued to their televisions, 18-month-old Jessica McClure is rescued after being trapped for 58 hours in an abandoned water well in Midland, Texas. The drama unfolded on the morning of October 14, 1987, when …read more
On October 16, 1847, Jane Eyre is published by Smith, Elder and Co. Charlotte Brontë, the book’s author, used the pseudonym Currer Bell. The book, about the struggles of an orphan girl who grows up to become a governess, was an immediate popular success. Brontë was born in 1816, …read more
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Melinda
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Melinda
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