Deep Thoughts
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Deep Thoughts

Looking for the Light

In this fast-paced social media world, it can be difficult to find the time to look within or back in time. I hope you find these quotes and questions interesting. So glad you stopped by today!

Our lives become happier when we make an effort to celebrate the little things in a big way.

What’s one small thing you really want to celebrate?

 

Melinda

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  2. I truly celebrate the self-awareness process; we not only fortify our mental well-being but also pave the way for genuine connections with others. It’s a continuous path of enlightenment and self-appreciation.

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  3. People ask me why
    I never find a place to stop
    And settle down, down, down
    But I never wanted all those things
    People need to justify
    Their lives, lives, lives

    You see, you were born
    Born, born to be alive
    (Born to be alive)
    You see, you were born
    Born, born (born to be alive)

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  6. Great Post! One thing I know I can celebrate is this year, it’s been 6 years I’ve been out of all psych hospitals and state psych hospitals. For me, that’s a huge accomplishment. The journey has been long and quite a treacherous and extremely difficult one to get where I am today. It certainly shows growth and I am very proud of that and myself

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      1. Thank you Sweetheart. When I begin sinking back into my depression and having those intrusive and unsafe thoughts, I remember back to my dark days and how it traumatized my girls and family and how I Never want to put them through all that again. It’s like a slap in the face and it’s helps my mental and emotional health bounce back

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          1. Thank you. I’ve caught myself a few times falling back into my depression that was mainly caused by triggers. But over the last several years, I’ve been able to better cope and manage my depression alot better than I did in the past….In the past I was a cutter and a burner to kill the monster on the inside. I haven’t done that in over 6 years. I’ve learned healthier ways to cope, thanks to many years of mental health therapy and mental health case management….Also while we are on that topic, I am at a place iny life that I don’t need mental health therapy and mental health case management. I graduated from that last year because I found it to be more of a nuisance than it was helping. That’s when I discovered I am healed enough where I don’t need it anymore. Since being graduated from it, I’ve been doing amazing….Now, do I still have my down days, yes absolutely. But doesn’t everyone. Those down days are muuuuch shorter, compared to several years ago…They only last a few days. After those few days, I pick myself back up and move past it.

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          2. I would continue seeing a therapist, your triggers have not been felt with. That requires a professional. I’m proud of you and how far you’ve come. Just remember, triggers will continue until you talk thru them and have a therapist guide you. Take care. :)

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          3. Yah you do have a point there. I’ve been left with some tools and ways to cope with my triggers from my therapist. But it’s ultimately up to me when I decide o want to face my triggers head on…..I have however faced some triggers head on and I am better able to handle them when they arise. Let’s take for example, Smells. My abuser wore old spice deodorant and cologne and for the longest time I had a really bad time even just seeing old spice at the store without having really bad flashbacks or a panic attack. But now that I’ve some what conquered that trigger, I’m able to look at and smell that deodorant and cologne without reacting to it. My next trigger I’m still kinda sensitive to, which this one anyone would be sensitive to, is seeing a woman being ra**ed on tv. I don’t like watching that if it comes on without my knowing. So I just have my husband fast forward it….It still brings back flashbacks but I try to block it out and not dwell on that flashback. I try as hard as I can to think of something positive or imagine a positive image….The only major trigger I struggle with is feeling unloved and unwanted. So when I start feeling like that, I speak to my husband about it and he tries to do what he can to make me feel loved and wanted. My second trigger is I have severe trust issues and abandonment issues that stems back to my past. It has caused alot of problems in my marriage but I’m still continuing to work on that. It’s certainly not easy, but I’m trying….With my hypervigilance and PTSD, it makes it that much harder. When I catch myself beginning to worry and freak out over something tbatay not even be happening, I try to rationalize the situation and try to keep my mind from lying to me and believing those lies. Alot of times I try so hard to redirect my thinking and focus my mind on something else…..So it’s not that I need a therapist to help me deal with my triggers, I have the tools I need. But a therapist can’t make me use those tools. It’s ultimately up to me to take that first step….I have taken those steps it’s just a little bumpy. But I’ve been working on it. It’s just taking me a little longer than it would for most….Thank you for your encouragement and kind words. 💕

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          4. You’re right, only you can make that decision, the decision to stay in therapy. I’ve been seeing mine for 30 years and it’s hard to believe how she has helped me resolve most trauma experiences. Keep an open mind, if triggers are happening, it’s a clear sign you have not resolved the experience. This is not something that anyone can alone. I know you are determined, and smart. No amount of searching the Internet is going you how to mend yourself. Yes, there is a ton of articles out there but it may not be solid information, you may think you understand research papers but you don’t know that it directly applies to you. This is a problem I had years ago, I would search for answers for hours and hours and decided not to over focus on my ailments. Laying off the searches for awhile will help your mental heath. You and I are smart but we are not doctors or therapist, nor do we know how to solve all of the issues at hand. I’ve been around the block, remember I’m 60 years old and have a past full of truama. :)

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          5. Yah you are right. No amount of research will give me all the answers I need, nor be of any help to me. The main reason I haven’t stayed in therapy is because the mental health counseling center we have here can’t seem to keep therapists. So throughout the years I’ve been switched from therapist to therapist and that is a problem for me. Just when the therapist and I are beginning to make a break through, they up and move me to another therapist. That is sooo frustrating! To me it does more damage mentally and emotionally moving me from therapist to therapist because once I move to a new therapist, I have to start all over again. The many years I’ve been in therapy, this has happened numerous of times and I feel it delays my healing and it sets me back. In my opinion, having steady and consistent mental health therapy with the same therapist without being uprooted from what the original therapist and I were working on does more good mentally and emotionally versus being constantly moved around and having to start over with the new therapist. Plus it doesn’t help when the new therapist hasn’t studied much of my case and doesn’t know squat about my past trauma and abuse and why I am so mentally messed up. So to sum it up, I honestly feel it’s best to stay right where I am. I know my limits and if at any point in time in my life I feel life and my mental health are down spiraling and I just can’t cope and manage my depression, that is when I will decide to seek therapy again. But for right now, I feel I am doing pretty good mentally and emotionally. I’m at a good place in my life. Granted life isn’t perfect, as it will never be and I do still have some things I struggle with but at this point in time, I’m okay without therapy for right now.

            I do appreciate your concern, guidance, and wisdom and kind responses and I know you are only trying to help and I do appreciate that but I’m good. I’m okay for right now. God will get me through this, as he has for half my life. I’ve been coping and managing my depression and triggers alot better than I did in the past…..If you saw me and knew me back in 2010 through 2017, compared to now, you wouldn’t recognize the person I am now and how much a huge positive turn around I’ve made. You can ask all my family and friends and they will tell you the same thing. I’ve come a very long way compared to living in darkness darkness and pits of hell I was in throughout those 7 years of psych hospitals, psych meds, cutting, burning, and trying to take my own life.

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          6. You are in much better place now and you’re moving forward. The key is notice the signs of depression before it gets worse. I had forgot you were in a Psych Hospital that long, I have to go to your site to read more about that time. Is the center the only place that has Therapist? I’ve been with my therapist for 30 years, that kind of turn over is a problem. Take good care.

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          7. I do try and keep notice of the signs of my depression coming back and when I catch myself sinking back into that dark pit again, I definitely reach out to a trusted friend or family member who knows a great deal of my past childhood trauma and abuse. It sometimes just helps talking about what’s going on in my head and how I feel. That usually brings me out of my slump….Well, that and a good cry. Okay so take this morning for example, I’ve been noticing my hypervigilance was at an all time high and my husband noticed something was wrong with me and asked me what was wrong. Well I instantly shot him down at first and told him I just have alot on my mind and I didn’t want to talk about; in fear that it would cause a huge argument and I just didn’t have the mental energy to handle a big blow out with my husband. So shortly after shooting him down, I mustered up the courage and spoke to him about what was going on in my head and made him aware that my hypervigilance was at an all time high. So we sat outside and talked about it calmly. Then I looked up what a person with hypervigilance experiences and I read it to him to help my husband better understand what I was experiencing. And let me tell you what, after pouring my heart out to my husband, it literally felt like a huge weight was lifted off my chest. I felt myself relax, there was less tension in my body and I was better able to breathe. So alot of times just speaking about it, helps in more ways than one.

            Now as far as the mental health therapy here being the only place. Well, yes and no. If I wanted to go to a different mental health therapy place, I would have to drive about 30-45 out of town. And unfortunately that’s just not feasible for us right now, seeing how finances are extremely tight right now and gas prices are absolutely ridiculous.

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