Health and Wellbeing · Men & Womens Health · Mental Health · Moving Forward

Moving Beyond Anger

The word persistent has two meanings. Persistent as in great salesperson or persistent in that not give up on those who wronged me. I fit both and the second is not good when I’m wronged.

I’ve written several posts on my stay at UTSW Psych Hospital and my traumatic experience with one doctor. One day I found all of the doctor’s notes and almost had a coranary. I printed out 19 pages of notes and labs and then started marking all the half-truths, conversations that didn’t happen, and flat lies.

I was enraged! These notes were all negative toward me, I’ve never had a doctor act like this. These notes go on my medical records and all I wanted to do was attack him at all levels.

No one would validate my concerns, not even a blah blah We are aware of your concerns, that have sattified me. I did receive a letter about how to change my medical notes. It’s not a correction to the notes, it’s an amendment. I thought about it for two days and decided that adding my note of complaints would not help me and possibly hurt me down the road.

I also received a letter from Legal to acknowledge my concerns. I filed two complaints with the Texas Medical Board.

I’ve sent a few emails about my concerns but received no feedback. While resting today I decided the anger has to go for me to move on.

Getting letters from Medical Records and the Legal Dept. gave me what I needed, to validate my concerns. I realized it’s time to move beyond anger.

I felt lighter, not happy yet but the block around my ankle had been cut off.

Now comes the difficult process! It requires a clear picture in your head of where you’re going. 

Here’s my plan

Grieve the pain I felt after being traumatized.

Acknowledge that I made the best decision by moving forward. 

Prepare how you’re going to respond if anger creeps in. 

Break down the tasks that need attention and accomplish at least one task a day.

Start to look for a new house.

Catch up on appointments I’ve been putting off.

I will keep looking for positive reinforcement.

Challenges

Only drive 3-5 miles from the house.

Have to check with my husband to see if the appointment date works for him, in case he has to drive me. 

Cognitive issues

Agoraphobia

I dislike his huge truck. It’s hard to park if anyone is next to me, often causing me to park far from the building entrance. The guard rails on truck are not ergo and it takes precision to get in.

Spend less time on the computer.

I’m not a doctor as you know but at 60 years old, I’ve been around the block before and have a few ideas. 

There will be ups and downs but I’m confident in success.

What do you do to move past anger?

Melinda

References:

https://academic.oup.com/book/25080/chapter-abstract/189217644?redirectedFrom=fulltext

Celebrate Life · Health and Wellbeing · Men & Womens Health

September Awareness Days

Hi,

I hope you are happy and healthy. The Awareness Days listed are for America. You would be shocked if you saw how many days are observed in the UK. September is a busy month for Awareness Days and maybe even get you to the doctor.

Blood Cancer Awareness Month

Childhood Cancer Awareness Month

Healthy Aging ® Month

National Atrial Fibrillation Awareness Month

National Childhood Obesity Awareness Month

National Cholesterol Education Month

National Sickle Cell Month

Ovarian Cancer Awareness Month

Pain Awareness Month

Prostate Cancer Awareness Month

World Alzheimer’s Month

 

Melinda

References:

2023 Health Observances Calendar

 

 

 

Health and Wellbeing · Men & Womens Health

What To Do If You Suspect You Have Allergies

While over 100 million people in the US alone have allergies, not everyone is born with them, and they can develop as an adult, during childhood, or be present from birth. The only way to know you are truly allergic to something is to be exposed to the potential trigger. And, you can be allergic to thousands of different things. You can have pet allergies, be allergic to bee stings, severe food allergies, and common household materials and chemicals such as hair dyes and cleaning products

Talk to your doctor.

In the first instance, you should talk to your doctor if you are concerned you might have an allergy. Your doctor can arrange tests for you to identify if you are allergic to anything and exactly how you are allergic to it. Keep notes of any symptoms and potential triggers you voiced and how you feel. They can talk you through the allergy treatments available and get you started if needed. 

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Know Your Signs 

Prevention is always better than a cure for allergic reactions, but knowing the signs and symptoms of an allergy attack can help you get the treatment you need fast. Some people only experience mild discomfort when coming into contact with their allergens, for others, it is an instant severe reaction that quickly becomes life-threatening. Know your signs, your triggers, and how best to help yourself. This is especially important if you have yet to be diagnosed, as medical professionals can use this information to analyze your allergy and treat your symptoms quickly.

Common allergy symptoms include;

  • Runny nose or sneezing
  • Pain or tenderness in or around your face, nose, and throat
  • Bodily swelling
  • Difficulty breathing
  • Itchy skin or rash
  • Feeling sick

If you experience these symptoms, you should head to your doctor or pharmacist. In the event of more severe reactions, you should go to the nearest emergency room for immediate treatment.

Treatment Options

Some treatment options are available for people with allergies, from using an Epi-pen for more severe reactions, which can be life-saving, to using OTC allergy relief medication. Your doctor can advise you on the right type of medication for you. Be it antihistamines, topical creams for itch relief, desensitization, or immunotherapy to lessen the reaction or avoid the trigger altogether. You can work with them to help you develop a suitable treatment plan based on your lifestyle, specific triggers, and the severity of your reaction. From here, you can adjust your lifestyle to accommodate your allergy and live as healthy as possible.

It is vital that if you are diagnosed with an allergy, you take the proper steps to keep yourself safe. This can be via informing others of your allergy to reduce exposure, carrying around your medication should you need it, or being proactive in asking if your allergens are present in food or environments so you can make a more informed decision. Failure to do this can put you at risk of triggering an allergy, and you will likely suffer the consequences. Always remain vigilant regarding your allergies to ensure you are always prepared.

This is a collaborative post.

Melinda

Celebrate Life · Men & Womens Health

Happy Labor Day

Happy Labor Day!  In 1882 work life was very different than today. Think of the computer/phone users today, they don’t need a union but work conditions in 1882 were deplorable, working outrageous hours, and the list goes on. 

I respect every person who participated and spoke about their needs. Your voice made a difference and still does in 2023.

It’s because of the people 

 

 

A sketch shows a large crowd gathered to watch a parade. The image is labeled September 5, 1882, New York City. The First Labor Day Parade.

I had forgotten the walk-out was union-driven. No posturing on their part? Only the most dangerous jobs need a union. Unions get their money first, and no they don’t care about you. As you can tell I don’t believe in unions. A Starbucks upstate went union, WFT!

Let’s share a toast to the workers who walked off their jobs with no pay. That’s true commitment. Their actions on September 5, 1882, sparked the laws we work under today.

Have an awesome day. 

Melinda

Celebrate Life · Health and Wellbeing · Men & Womens Health · Mental Health

Blogger Highlight-The Amethyst Lamb

Thank you for all the great feedback on the Blogger Highlight series, I’ve enjoyed meeting each blogger and sharing their site with you. This week we highlight the blog of The Amethyst Lamb.

 The Amethyst Lamb

I’m a 29-year-old child advocate/social worker. I’m also a certified yoga teacher. I’m vegan and I love animals and nature. I mostly post poetry on my blog, but I also draw and am working on some stickers right now

Be sure to check out her interesting blog and say hi! 

Melinda

Looking for the Light

 

Health and Wellbeing · Men & Womens Health

6 Signs You Are Dealing With Addiction

There is nothing funny about feeling compelled to drink, take drugs, or smoke. Addiction is not a joke, and if you are in the throes of one, there is every chance that you don’t even know it. Engaging in something that you find pleasurable is not inherently bad for you, but there is a very fine line between having fun and enjoying yourself and feeling an unavoidable compulsion to do something. One of these isn’t healthy, and I bet you could guess which one!

Whether it’s a compulsion to binge eat, watch Netflix, drink alcohol, or take prescription drugs, you need to know that your compulsion could get you into massive amounts of trouble. You could call Leyba Mathew if you find that your addiction has led you to dangerous territories, but before you get there, you need to know that you definitely are dealing with addiction. With that in mind, we’ve put together six clear signs that it’s an addiction that you’re dealing with. Let’s take a look:

Clear Wine Glass Filled With Purple Wine

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It’s Become Something So Important To You

The importance of the thing that you are doing goes beyond your job, your family, and your friends. At any cost, you will do the thing you NEED to do. You can determine how important something is to you by how much you’re not doing other things in favor of that one thing you are doing. For example, if you’re not paying your mortgage to afford wine, there’s a problem!

You Feel Better When You Do It

The reason we call it being a shopaholic is that shopping triggers a relaxed, happy response. The endorphins released because we are shopping make us feel good. When you take drugs, you do it for the high. Of course, it doesn’t feel too good when you’re involved in a DUI, but it feels good at the moment. The reward response is a clear reason to continue to do it. And that’s when the issues arise.

There Is No “Enough”

The more you do the thing you are doing, the more you want to do it. It takes precedence over every other thing that you have in your life, and that’s becoming an issue. When you’re carving out more space in your day-to-day life for this new compulsion, you’re putting more emphasis on the thing you’re doing.

You Get Anxious When You Can’t

There is a reason that employers give their staff smoking breaks. A lack of nicotine leads to anxiety, irritability, and angst in someone addicted to cigarettes. Smoking breaks “take the edge off” the anxiety and make them feel better, so they are able to take paid breaks to have a cigarette. When you are feeling bad on the inside when you can’t binge eat, watch Netflix, or even shop, it’s a good sign you’re addicted to what you’re doing.

It’s Consuming Your Life

If drugs, alcohol, or even shopping are starting to consume everything else in your life, taking over your money and putting you into debt, there is a problem. You should be able to enjoy most things in moderation, but when you can’t help it and you MUST drink, you need to seek some help.

You Can’t Help Yourself

You wake up in the morning and say today is the day you won’t drink. Then you get to the evening and before you know it, you’re pouring out your third glass of wine, promising yourself that tomorrow is the day. The problem with addiction is that tomorrow is never the day, and you need to speak to the professionals to make sure that you can reach that tomorrow.

Getting help is vital before your addiction costs you your life or someone else’s life.

This is a collaborative post.

Melinda

Celebrate Life · Fun

#Weekend Music Share-Eddie Money-Shakin’

It’s the weekend!!!!!!

I’m so glad you’ve joined me this week for another edition of Weekend Music Share.

 

Have a great weekend!

Melinda

Welcome back to Weekend Music Share, the place where everyone can share their favorite music.

Feel free to use the Weekend Music Share banner in your post, and use the hashtag #WeekendMusicShare on social media so other participants can find your post.