A Little Backstory
My life is blessed, I understand life is about ups and downs and how we respond can change our life’s course. With the ups and downs I’ve experienced, my backbone is much stronger which helps when I feel pushed around, lately by doctors.
My new Psychiatrist who I’ve only met once in person and one video call. We haven’t established a relationship, that takes time. Every time we’ve talked, I leave with more questions. He’s all business which is great but he interrupts me and keeps on talking until he changes the subject, not anymore! At times I feel like he’s charted my future and I won’t fit a peg. Our meeting in January will not be more of the same. I’m taking back control of the topic even if I have to wait until the end of the meeting.
I want a collaborative relationship, which means I am a blank slate and WE fill in the blanks as we go. Taking a predefined peg board and pushing me into the holes will not work and it’s focused on what you want not what I need. He is up on new studies and he likes to mention them as if they are the only way to treat a patient. I will continue seeing him because finding another Psychiatrist is hard, they need extensive training on Bipolar Disorder.
My Life
When I look forward, all I see is the same
I have no extended family
No friends
The only people I see are doctors and my hairdresser
I can only drive in a 3-4 radius of the house due to cognitive impairment and Agrophobia
Have to coordinate schedules when I need my husband to take me to appointments
Lack of joy and hobbies
My Hobbies
Blog
Photography
Bird watching from the kitchen window
Green Thumb inside and out
Ancestry
Reality
Driving limited
Agoraphobia
Dealing with multiple chronic illnesses
Cognitive Impairment
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This is a glimpse into my daily life or the lack of it. It’s hard to rebuild your life with several chronic illnesses, cognitive impairment, and Agrophobia. I’m building a new Bucket List that fits my new life. I kept fooling myself that I could complete my old list but it’s not possible now.
If you don’t already have a Bucket List I encourage you to start one, it may change your life.
I work hard not to think about what I can’t do, and stay focused on the here and now.
How do you deal with life challenges?
I can’t wait to see how you respond, and what I can learn from you.
Melinda
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You’re much stronger than you think. Sending you strength and positive energy. Always remember, there’s a light at the end of the tunnel and you’ll find your light soon.
As of now, my life is quite sorted i can say. Obviously, there’s a fair share of ups and downs but that’s how life is. It’s not supposed to be hunky-dory always.
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So true! :)
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Morning Melinda, first off, I am sending you a big gentle bear hug and all my blessings. You are not alone. If you ever want to reach out, I am here.
As for my life challenges? It takes time for me to accept them. I have many issues that have developed over time with age and accidents… We are close in age and have similar issues… I am preparing myself mentally to end up in a wheelchair, unable to walk anymore, but I push on. I push myself to move, every day, and still get outside every chance I get. Life is too short to dwell on what I can’t do, so I try to focus on what I can, from one day to the next, as it changes. I stay in the moment of everything I do, so I can absorb how it feels for the days when I can no longer do it. Even washing dishes has turned into a sensory production.
I push myself to find my limits, sometimes even go past them, so I can learn how far I can go. I have social issues that came out from being bullied, but I fight it and do what I want anyway. I don’t let my fears control what I do or don’t do, especially if it is important to me. I miss driving myself and miss the freedom it gave me, but it causes too much pain so had to give it up. I use public transit here, which is right outside my door and takes me where I want to go when I am able.
As you said, focus on what you can do and make it a positive sensory production, every single time and eventually it will become second nature to you to see the positives in every situation. It will lift you up, rather than bring you down and show you that you still have value.
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Thank you so much for share your ideas. I continue to look for joy daily, sometimes it comes. Have a great day. :)
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I wish you a wondeful day and awesome week ahead!
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