Dedicated To My Dearest Friend Gavin
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Dedicated To My Dearest Friend Gavin

Looking for the Light

I wrote this post in 2015 and ran across it today, Gavin and I are even closer now and I wanted to send him some love. Be sure to check out his blog, you will want to stay a while.

 

GAVIN THANK YOU FOR BEING A FRIEND

Gavin and I met through the blogosphere on 3/31/14. He is truly amazing with a camera and only started in 2009. He can take everyday objects and present them in different perspective. 

He started in color then fell in love with black and white and the rest they say is history. I am amazed at what we can do with light. He doesn’t give himself enough credit, he is a professional without question. 

Please stop by his Word Press site sedge808.com  for a look at his creative style. You can find his masterpieces on Fluidr,  AUS of Flickr. fluidr.com/photos/sedge808/interesting.

Gavin is a great friend, sometimes we go long periods without talking and when we do, it’s like yesterday. He is a survivor of a traumatic background yet he stands tall. Gavin has taken the smart route, surround yourself with friends and family you can trust. 

I’m blessed to have Gavin in my life. We BS, lend a shoulder, and make each other laugh. Please pull up a chair, you’ll be amazed at his artistic ability.

Taking in the beauty of Sydney, Australia

Opera House

 

Melinda

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17 thoughts on “Dedicated To My Dearest Friend Gavin”

  1. I’m so happy for you that you’ve met Gavin and he’s still in your life, Melinda. It’s surprising how close friendships can be made over the blogosphere, isn’t it? I have a special and very kind and lovely male WordPress friend here, too. Although he’s on the other side of the planet, I like to think we could meet one day, although I doubt that’ll happen because of the difficulties of flying as a disabled person alone. But then, you never know what’s around the corner. I haven’t flown since 1977!! Probably before you were born! That was on my honeymoon at age 19.5 years (a big mistake, that was, too). I will definitely take the time to look into Gavin’s blog tomorrow, as I’m just going up to bed now.

    I keep meaning to comment on your post about parental alienation, which I’ve got lots of experience with because of the situation my two young grandchildren are in. It’s heartbreaking at times. I really do want to read what you have written about that; I’ve still got it on an open tab on my laptop, so should find it easily enough tomorrow, which will be a quieter day, I hope. Today has been chaos and I’m shattered now. Take care of yourself ~ Ellie Xx 😘

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      1. You are the same age as my younger sister (one of them; I have three, no brothers); she was born in 1962. I rarely see her as she lives in Devon, UK, and she doesn’t ever come up this way, and Devon is too far me to travel to in my wheelchair, Alfie.

        Now, I am working with my newish therapist, who is wonderful, I am coping much better with my past (and present) traumas. I still fall down occasionally, but am quicker at picking myself up again these days. We are going to make a start on my inner child work this or next week, which I’ve wanted to do for a long time.

        I hope you are well in yourself, Melinda, and I will take a look at Gavin’s blog today, as I have the day to myself for a change. The photographs are just exquisite. Thank you for sharing them, and for the introduction to your dear friend’s blog. X 💐

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        1. The inner child work is hard but critical, take it slow, don’t force yourself. If you can share the memories along with the pain, you don’t have to go through step 4. It’s hard work and can take years. Accept each as a victory and that memory will heal. You won’t forget but the trauma will no longer be associated with it and you will start to feel much better and live a more full life. Take good care.

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          1. Thank you for sharing that helpful guidance, Melinda. I really appreciate that. I know it will be long, hard work and am prepared to do that. I wasn’t aware there were stages, since we’re only starting this work on Wednesday. What is step 4, please, and why don’t you have to go through it. I’ve googled it, but can’t find anything about steps or stages. I’d very much appreciate you letting me know a little more about this. Thank you for your kindness, Melinda. Take care of you, too X 🌼

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          2. The four stages are acknowledging, sharing your story, accepting and attaching emotions to the memory. If you can share with memories with the emotion attached there is no step four. So you are on your way. The exact language is medically different but the same basics. You’ve already acknowledged, step 1, and after you start with each memory with the emotion attached that memory will skip stage 4, it’s complex but doing the work is what is important. Your therapist can share the steps with you in medical terms and probably more detail. I wish you nothing but the best.

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          3. Thank you for explaining this, Melinda. It is very helpful. I will be seeing my therapist on Wednesday, so hope to make a start on my hopeful journey to healing, even at the age of 66. It’s never too late. X 🌷

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