People who walk away while you’re talking to them are not interested in what you have to say. No need to get angry, they are self-centered and will not change.
People who ignore your no-soliciting sign are morons and wasting their money because who would buy from them.
If your lawn crew speaks Spanish and sprays poison on your beloved rose bush, have custom signs made that say “Do Not Spray Poison In The Flower Beds” in Spanish.
If your partner thinks that certain tasks are your responsibility, you have a choice, stop doing the other task or have a serious talk about their logic.
If there is something you’re good at whether it be a hobby or otherwise, don’t stop because you have other responsibilities. You have to make time for yourself every day for your mental health to enjoy the time you have available and celebrate your skill and the joy it brings you.
If you don’t think you’re important, people will not treat you that way. Grow your confidence and project it. Never let anyone put you down.
If a loved one puts you down or expresses shame about you, stop it right away. Set boundaries. Have a serious talk with them about how they talk to and about you. If they don’t understand or refuse to change, don’t go around them. If your partner or spouse doesn’t stand on your side they are confirming what others are saying, and the abuse will continue. After a talk with them, and they don’t get it, it’s time to move on. You deserve better and will thank yourself later.
If someone asks you to dress a certain way that is not your style, tell them you’re an individual and will dress the way you feel comfortable. If they insist, turn the tables and start telling them how to dress. The message will hit home or not. If not, they will want to control other parts of your life and you don’t need that from anyone. You are your own person. They are asking you to do something that makes them feel better about themselves because they have low confidence.
Beware of anyone who tries to pressure or guilt you into buying something. They are selling to make money only, not focused on what your needs are.
Melinda
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These are great! Making time for hobbies and setting boundaries are two of my priorities that I’m focusing on right now.
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They are hard to make a habit of, we naturally put ourselves last but that only affects out mental health and doesn’t build our confidence. I’m just as bad, I’ve made several good habits but I’m still working on others. I think it’s a process. One at a time. :)
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All the lessons I need to learn, just look at my posts and that’s evidence that I don’t think of myself important or worthy of anything good. I really just want to sleep and not deal with anybody anymore.
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Sleep sounds good!
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It does in healthy doses 🙃😂
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Important lessons! I especially like the self-esteem reinforcements!
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I was slow on the upake on that when I was in my 20’s.
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Me too. Self-esteem has been a challenge for me off and on through my life with steady improvement overall.
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Ugh. I’ve encountered some of these. And it’s a full moon tonight, so everyone is a bit edgy.
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A full moon, wow do we live in different states, the moon has a partial eclipse here in Texas.
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Good points for sure!!! Preach it Melinda🫶🏽❣️
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Thank you Cindy. How is Hunter today?
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awww how sweet of you to ask. found out he has cytoplas something antigen (bacteria). Treating with an antibiotic and doing bloodwork for TAMU to see about the missing enzymes potentially from his mom (no where to be found) All the pups have this issue but one. .. thanks truly for caring. ❣️💗
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What a rough start for him.
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🙏🏼💕💗🐕💔
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Great lesons, thank you for sharing your wisdom!
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Thank you for the kind words.
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These are good lessons at 21 I wish I had learned…. I hope you’re good Melissa :-)
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Oh, what pain and suffering I could have missed if I mnew these things at 21. :) I guess that’s the wisdom my Granny talked about when it comes to getting older.
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That’s the thing isn’t it? We get these tools as we get older but we needed them when we were younger.
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So true!
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Lots of good lessons Melinda! I agree with you on all counts!
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I guess some wisdom does come with age.
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Thank you for sharing these lessons. They serve as a powerful reminder to stay true to ourselves and to advocate for our own well-being in all aspects of life.
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I may have learned that late in life but so glad I learned and I am now a confident, mostly happy, certainly blessed and a caring person. I also have God in my corner so what could go wrong? Right?
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Amen

God Continue to Bless You Sis.
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Agree, just ignore negative behavior.
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Who needs it? Not me.
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I realized long ago I knew what was best for me. It helps.
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It makes all the difference.
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Correction: “never let anyone put you down”!!
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I knew where you were going! :)
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LOL
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I love “never let anyone you down.” It’s so important to walk confidently to your own beat.
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It took me a long time to learn but so glad I did. The feelings it brought in my younger life were never comfortable.
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