It isn’t so much of changing my mind as it is changing a mindset. Most girls are raised to believe they will grow up and be a mommy just like theirs with a family and that’s not reality. I wasn’t pushed hard growing up about having babies, it was an unsaid given and when I got married there was no pressure from my family on when we were going to start a family. Unlike some of my friends.
10 years later I was unmarried, without children and diagnosed with Cervical Cancer, because Ovarian Cancer ran on both sides of my family, a total hysterectomy was recommended, and that’s what I did. We have to make decisions based on what is right for us, our health, our life, not others or other’s expectations of us or women.
Children are great, they are a blessing and a gift of God but not every women wants or can have children and their lives are just as fulfilling.
Melinda
Looking for the Light 
I was not that interested in having children, knowing that there were already too many humans on the planet, but ended up having two. Now, I want more grandchildren, but remind myself, there are already too many humans on the planet. Plus, I have grand dogs!
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I know they are a blessing to you and that is what God wanted in your life. God had other plans for me and honestly I’mn thankful. With my traumatic childhood of abuse, I told a Psychiatrist at 12 that I didn’t want children because I didn’t want to make the same mistakes. I’m. suree that’s not why God didn’t bring them into my life however at 28 with cancer and a total hysterectomy it did change my life in my outlook on reality. Because I have a serious mental illness, everything worked out for the best. When you live alone and can’t take care of yourself, how can you take care of a child? As my Granny always said Godn has a plan, we may not understand it but he knows what is best for our life path.
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I agree with your Granny: God has a plan. God can take any situation and make use it for something good so that everything works out. You have overcome much. I’m thankful for you, Melinda.
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Your words mean so much to me. I’m blessed to have overcome the trauma and cae out the other side as a good woman.
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<3 Blessings abound!
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