Book Review · Celebrate Life · Health and Wellbeing · Men & Womens Health

Expand your horizons and widen your world with 35 new books from TED speakers

Building for Hope: Towards An Architecture of Belonging by Marwa al-Sabouni (TED Talk: How Syria’s architecture led the foundation for brutal war
Architects do more than provide the blueprints for shelter, writes Syrian architect Marwa al-Sabouni. Instead, they respond to humans’ five basic emotional fears — death, need, treachery, loneliness and boredom — and create buildings that provide abundance, safety, creativity and community, she says. 

The Handshake: A Gripping History by Ella Al-Shamahi (TED Talk: The fascinating and dangerous places scientists aren’t exploring)
Before celebrating (or mourning) the current disappearance of the handshake, consider this: The ritual of extending one’s hand as a greeting, peace offering or deal sealer has been around for millennia. The practice all but disappeared after the plague in the 14th century and the Spanish flu in 1918 only to reappear in their respective aftermaths. Paleoanthropologist Ella Al-Shamahi explores the history of this global custom, which can be found from executives in corporate boardrooms in industrialized countries to Indigenous tribes in Papua New Guinea and the Amazon. 

The Frontlines of Peace: An Insider’s Guide to Changing the World by Severine Autesserre (TED Talk: To solve mass violence, look to locals
Severine Autesserre is an award-winning peacebuilder whose humanitarian work and field research have taken her to countries deeply impacted by war, such as Kosovo, Afghanistan and the Congo. In this book, she presents evidence that while large philanthropic donations and headline-making policy changes may get most of our media attention, they are not the only tools to achieve peace. The world really can be changed one person at a time.

Whole Brain Living: The Anatomy of Choice and the Four Characters That Drive Our Life by Jill Bolte-Taylor (TED Talk: My stroke of insight
When 37-year-old neuroscientist Jill Bolte-Taylor had a massive stroke in 1996, she lost her ability to form words and move her body, but also experienced what she would later describe in her TED Talk as “euphoria”. Here, she shares what has happened since her recovery and corrects common misconceptions about how brains function. For over 50 years, society has agreed that the brain is defined by its right (emotional thinking) and left (rational thinking) sides, but Bolte-Taylor believes that this definition is too reductive. She also contends that we have more control over how we use our brains than most of us realize. Understanding your own brain’s “characters” can help you identify how you make decisions, what gets in your way and how to achieve greater serenity. 

You Are Your Best Thing: Vulnerability, Shame, Resilience and the Black Experience edited by Tarana Burke (TED Talk: Me Too is a movement, not a moment) and Brené Brown (TED Talk: The power of vulnerability)
“Systemic racism isn’t a vague notion, but a real enemy that may turn and come after me, at the moment when I am too joyful to pay attention,” writes Austin Channing Brown in 1 of the 20 essays curated by #MeToo movement founder Tarana Burke, and researcher Brené Brown. The anthology’s all-star contributors come from the fields of academia, advocacy and the arts and include YA and middle-grade author Jason Reynolds, actress Laverne Cox, and professor and UpFront host Marc Lamont Hill. In their contributions, the writers share their varied responses to the traumas of racism and systemic inequity — denying joy to one’s family out of fear, habitually “rehearsing tragedy”, and finding hope against all odds, just to name a few. 

Leading from Anywhere: The Essential Guide to Managing Remote Teamsby David Burkus (TED Talk: Why you should know how much your coworkers get paid
Hard to believe, but in 2018, only about 3 percent of US employees worked from home, reports management researcher David Burkus. Then COVID hit and suddenly office buildings emptied, while bosses searched in vain for an instruction manual on how to motivate employees from afar. This guide is here to fill that void, providing research-based insights about how organizations can grow and keep their employees happy and motivated, even when we’re all online.

Remember: The Science of Memory and the Art of Forgetting by Lisa Genova (TED Talk: How your memory works — and why forgetting is totally OK)
Relax: Forgetting where you parked your car at the mall doesn’t mean your brain is getting less sharp. Chances are, you just never bothered to remember it in the first place. Neuroscientist and novelist (Still Alice) Lisa Genova explains what we remember, how we forget and why your fading memory is usually not a sign of early dementia but actually proof that your brain is working astonishingly well. 

Women and Leadership: Real Lives, Real Lessons by Julia Gillard and Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala (TED Talk: 6 essential lessons for women leaders
When women comprise roughly 50% of the global population, why do they still make up less than 10 percent of world’s leaders? Sexism and gender bias, report Julia Gillard, Australia’s first female Prime Minister and Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala, Nigeria’s former Finance Minister. For this book, Gillard and Okonjo-Iweala interview eight remarkable female leaders from all over the world — including New Zealand Prime Minister Jacinda Arden, former US Secretary of State Hillary Rodham Clinton and European Central Bank President Christine Lagarde. Among their other revelations: When it comes to barriers to political power for women, the situation does not appear to be improving. Still, these uniquely experienced women offer timely insights and hope for the future. A great read for future leaders of any gender.   

Terra Incognita: 100 Maps to Survive the Next 100 Years by Ian Goldin (TED Talk: Navigating our global future) and Robert Muggah (TED Talk: The biggest risks facing cities — and some solutions
Maps of highways, trails and the mall tell us where we are and how to get where we want to go. In this book, the maps and accompanying texts from economist and professor Ian Goldin and political scientist Robert Muggah provide a different sort of guidance. Using historical maps such as Gerardus Mercator’s world map of 1569 right on through to today’s Google Earth satellite maps, the authors trace everything from changing sea levels to pandemic patterns in order to explain where we are now and what routes to take for the safest journey into the future.

Think Again: The Power of Knowing What You Don’t Know by Adam Grant (TED Talk: What frogs in hot water can teach us about thinking again)
According to organizational psychologist and podcast host Adam Grant, people tend to think and talk in one of three ways: the preacher (who digs in their heels on personal ideologies and delivers sermons to convert others), the politician (who surveys the community and tries to win them over) and the prosecutor (who pokes holes in opponents’ arguments). Unfortunately, these mindsets are too limiting when we’re making decisions and we’d all benefit from shifting our thinking to be like scientists who float ideas, test hypotheses and last but not least, question and rethink those ideas at every turn. We would all benefit from embracing doubt, says Grant. For those who’d like to be more like a scientist, here are two ways to start: Surround yourself with people who have a variety of viewpoints,  and ask open-ended questions during your disagreements. (Read an excerpt here.

The Menopause Manifesto: Own Your Health with Facts and Feminism by Dr. Jen Gunter (TED Original Video: What really happens to your body during menopause
Menopause is not a disease, states ob/gyn Dr. Jen Gunter, author of the best-selling book The Vagina Bible. What’s more, “hot flash” is a misnomer; she prefers hot “flush” since they often last far longer than a moment. In this book, she corrects misconceptions about this phase of life that researchers hypothesize evolved to serve a social purpose — allowing grandmothers to care for grandchildren — and provides accessible medical advice to women going through this process. (Read an excerpt here.

The Data Detective: Ten Easy Rules to Make Sense of Statistics by Tim Harford (TED Talk: A powerful way to unleash your natural creativity
Tips like “Search Your Feelings” (the book’s first rule), “Ponder Your Personal Experience” (the second) and “Get the Back Story” (and third) may sound better suited to helping you start a relationship than make sense of statistics. But the latter is the focus of this book from quick-witted economist and journalist Tim Harford. One standout is the section about “Premature Enumeration,” the human tendency to quickly turn numbers into ratios or other calculations without fully understanding what the numbers refer to. He believes we should all question the numbers, stats and data points until we understand them, and his writing is a great way toward achieving that understanding. 

The Lonely Century: How to Restore Human Connection in a World That’s Pulling Apart by Noreena Hertz (TED Talk: How to use experts — and when not to
Did you know that the UK appointed a Minister of Loneliness? Loneliness is a worldwide 21st-century phenomenon, according to academic and broadcaster Noreena Hertz. In addition to presenting anecdotes and research about loneliness, including one study that reveals how many people don’t know their neighbors or can’t name a close friend, Hertz suggests how each of us can connect with each other and form lasting, supportive communities. And even if you don’t identify as lonely, this book will give you insights into the pain that so many people are feeling today. 

Between Two Kingdoms: A Memoir of a Life Interrupted by Suleika Jaouad (TED Talk: What almost dying taught me about living
“What would you write about if you knew you might die soon?” asks Suleika Jaouad, who had to face her own mortality in 2011. Then, at 22, Jaouad was a recent college graduate living abroad when she was diagnosed with acute myeloid leukemia. She returned to New York City for three-and-a-half years of treatment, spending much of it in a hospital room in isolation. While there, she started a blog, which grew into a column for the New York Times, and led to long-distance friendships with readers engaged in their own battles with loss, illness and loneliness. Eventually, she travelled to visit those who wrote to her. This memoir is an account of how she healed and a look at her different journeys, whether through illness or through the world. 

Professional Troublemaker: The Fear-Fighter Manual by Luvvie Ajayi Jones (TED Talk: How to be a professional troublemaker
“This book is a middle finger up to fear,” declares writer Luvvie Ajayi Jones. In it, she unapologetically speaks truth to power, haters, cheaters, swindlers and anyone else who needs a stern talk. Chapter titles include “Dream Audaciously,” “Own your Dopeness” and “Fail Loudly.” You’ll read, you’ll laugh — and you’ll leave feeling inspired to cause some trouble of your own. (Read an excerpt here.

Extra Life: A Short History of Living Longer by Steven Johnson (TED Original Video: The playful wonderland behind great inventions
As recently as 1880, life expectancy at birth in wealthy countries was just 40 years old. This doubled to age 80 by 2010. Global life expectancy was a respectable 72.6 years in 2019. How did we get there? Science, says writer Steven Johnson. In particular, he credits advances in public health including vaccines, toilets and safety devices like seatbelts with granting us all those extra years to learn, create, live and, yes, read about it. 

Noise: A Flaw in Human Judgment by Daniel Kahneman (TED Talk: The riddle of experience vs. memory), Olivier Sibony and Cass Sunstein 
There are two factors that adversely affect our decision-making — bias, or conscience or unconscious preconceived ideas; and noise, or conflicting opinions and subjective feelings. While bias tends to get all the attention, noise can be just as destructive, say authors Kahneman (a Nobel Laureate for his work in behavioral economics and author of Thinking Fast and Slow), strategy professor Olivier Sibony and legal scholar Cass Sunstein. They provide tips to help you develop better “decision hygiene” to reduce the noise in your life and improve the outcomes of your choices.

Four Hundred Souls: A Community History of African America, 1619-2019edited by Ibram X. Kendi (TED Talk: The difference between being “not racist” and antiracist) and Keisha N. Blain 
For this volume, historians and writers Ibram X. Kendi (How to Be an Antiracist) and Keisha N. Blain (Set the World on Fire) assembled a powerhouse multi-disciplinary group of 90 historians, poets, journalists and professors. Each writer was assigned to cover five years of African-American history, starting in 1619 (with the first boat of 20 kidnapped African people being sold as slaves) up through 2019. The entries are presented in a variety of forms, including academic histories, thoughtful essays and pieces of fiction, that echo the diversity of the contributors and of African-American history itself. 

Dusk, Night, Dawn: On Revival and Courage by Anne Lamott (TED Talk: 12 truths I learned from life and writing
Giving hope to late bloomers everywhere, beloved memoirist, novelist, writing instructor and grandmother Anne Lamott chronicles life as a first-time newlywed at age 65 in her new book. Other essays touch upon surviving the raging wildfires of Northern California and monitoring the presidency of Donald Trump in real time. In trademark Lamott fashion, she shows how we can continue to choose joy, faith, love and humor even when life — and the world — brings dark times. 

You’re Invited: The Art and Science of Cultivating Influence by Jon Levy (TED Talk: What makes us influential?
Quick question: What did 1960’s white, self-described “formerly fat housewife” Jean Nidetch, the founder of Weight Watchers International, have in common with Black 19th-century formerly enslaved abolitionists Harriet Tubman, Frederick Douglas and Sojourner Truth? All of them were able to catalyze lasting change as a result of the connections they had forged with other people, according to behavioral scientist and business professor Jon Levy. Here, Levy tracks why communities are necessary for your progress and how you can build your own in order to achieve your goals and find greater life satisfaction. 

Your Turn: How to Be An Adult by Julie Lythcott-Haims (TED Talk: How to raise successful kids — without overparenting
No matter where you live, your living conditions, marital status or choice of job aren’t the only markers of adulthood, argues author Julie Lythcott-Haims. In this follow-up to her successful book How to Raise an Adult which spoke to parents, she addresses their kids — the emerging grown-ups — and tells them how they can thrive by embracing new adulthood milestones like paying your own rent, managing your own medical appointments and caring for others. Give it to the emerging grown-up in your own life. 

The Sum of Us: What Racism Costs Everyone and How We Can Prosper Together by Heather McGhee (TED Talk: Racism has a cost for everyone
White Americans today earn 13 times the median income of Black Americans, according to policy analyst and racial justice advocate Heather McGhee. Yet white Americans are far more likely than Black Americans to view racism as a “zero-sum game,” believing that if life improves for Black people, it will be at the expense of white people. McGhee presents a bracing rebuttal to this flawed thinking and creates a blueprint of how we could start to create a more equitable society for all of us. (Read an excerpt here.

Wild Souls: Freedom and Flourishing in the Non-Human World by Emma Marris (TED Talk: Nature is everywhere — we just need to learn to see it
Human behavior such as deforestation and breeding of exotic pets has led us to a planet with compromised ecosystems for plants and animals (and extinction for some species). Environment journalist Emma Marris invites readers to go with her on a global tour of researchers working in different habitats. She wonders: How can we humans help wild animals thrive? And what is our moral obligation to help the habitats we’ve already compromised? Marris floats potential solutions — and one of them is potentially introducing plant-based proteins to polar bears.

A World Without Email: Reimagining Your Work In An Age of Communication Overload by Cal Newport (TED Talk: Why you should quit social media)  
The average number of daily business emails sent and received per person just keeps growing — from 50 in 2005 to 92 in 2011 to more than 120 by 2019.  And that’s not taking into account the increased digital communication required by remote work during this pandemic, says Cal Newport, a computer science professor. In the past, he has encouraged a limit on social media and other tech because they interfere with work, especially deep work (also the title of one of his books). Here, he argues that when we constantly check our email, we’re harming our productivity and our peace of mind. 

The Extended Mind: The Power of Thinking Outside the Brain by Annie Murphy Paul (TED Talk: What we learn before we’re born
Why limit your thinking to only what happens between your ears? Science writer Annie Murphy Paul uses research to explore and explain how we can increase our knowledge and understanding by using our physical movements, the space that surrounds us and the minds of others around us, rather than relying solely on our own brains. When we tap into what Paul calls “extra neural pathways” — which include our senses — we can increase our creativity and problem-solving skills. 

This Is Your Mind on Plants by Michael Pollan (TED Talk: A plant’s eye view
Here, journalist Michael Pollan takes a close look at three mind-altering, plant-derived substances — opium, caffeine and mescaline — that have changed the world. He dives deep into the history, science and biases we hold about them to reflect on how we humans view plants and our brains, and what each can teach us about the other. A perfect read to accompany a morning cup of coffee or tea. 

No One Succeeds Alone: Learn Everything You Can from Everyone You Canby Robert Reffkin (TED Original Video: 5 ways to create closer connections
Starting from an early age, Robert Reffkin has made it his specialty to connect with people from different backgrounds and walks of life. Growing up as the only Black kid at synagogue and the only Jewish kid among his Black friends taught Reffkin “to talk to white people and Black people.” Later, as a White House Fellow and entrepreneur, he expanded his circles to “Wall Street types and nonprofit types.” In this chatty, conversational guide, Reffkin explains how reaching out to potential mentors and overcoming your fears of failure are two things — the book has more! — that can help you achieve your goals. 

Futureproof: 9 Rules for Humans in the Age of Automation by Kevin Roose (TED Talk: The value of your humanity in an automated future
Many people spend time debating the questions “Will robots steal our jobs? Or, will they end up making our lives easier?” Tech journalist Kevin Roose believes that we shouldn’t be focused on those queries; instead, we should ask “Since robots are already here, how do we work with them?” And in this book, he sets out rules to calm people’s anxieties about robotic world domination. To maintain humanity in a world increasingly relying on artificial intelligence, his common-sense principles include “Demote your Devices” and “Treat AI Like a Chimp Army” (AI is useful for some tasks but not everything). Tech is here to stay, and this user guide makes that reality an agreeable proposition. 

Finding the Mother Tree: Discovering the Wisdom of the Forest by Suzanne Simard (TED Talk: How trees talk to each other)
Suzanne Simard, who was born into a family of loggers and trained as an ecologist, compares the forest floor to a human brain’s neural network. Through fungal connections, mother trees — the largest trees in the forest — are able to communicate with the youngest seedlings, emitting chemical signals that are similar to human neurotransmitters. This is how mother trees communicate with, identify and nurture their offspring. Simard’s discoveries are not only awe-inspiring, but they also challenge assumptions of how to preserve forests and what we can do to create a more sustainable future. 

How the Word Is Passed: A Reckoning with the History of Slavery Across America by Clint Smith (TED Talk: The danger of silence)
In this nonfiction book, poet and journalist Clint Smith examines the legacy of slavery in the US by exploring specific locations — and they’re not all plantations in the South. The places that Smith visits, unearthing historical records and interviewing current residents, include Angola Prison and New York City. Here, he demonstrates his gift for revealing uncomfortable but illuminating truths that have been hiding in plain sight all along. 

Goodbye, Again: Essays, Reflections, and Illustrations by Jonny Sun (TED Talk: You are not alone in your loneliness)
Johnny Sun is a person of many talents: He’s an MIT- and Harvard-educated producer, TV writer, creator, writer and illustrator. But don’t let intimidation of all of his credentials deter you from this book. It reads like dispatches from an old friend — his grace, gentle wisdom and humor infuse these thoughts and images (and even a recipe or two), which are loosely centered on how we find our place in the world. (Read an excerpt here.

Sharing the Covers: Every Couple’s Guide to Better Sleep by Wendy Troxel (TED Talk: Why school should start later for teens)
Sleep has been linked to better health, greater productivity and higher life satisfaction. So, how far are you and your partner willing to go for a good night’s sleep? Opposite corners of the mattress, twin beds like Ricky and Lucy, or even further? One out of three US couples purchasing high-end homes opt for two master bedrooms, according to psychologist and researcher Wendy Troxel. Troxel traces the social history and science of sleeping with a partner and provides evidence-based advice to help you achieve more restful nights and stronger relationships, whether you’re larks or owls or somewhere in between. (Read an excerpt here.

The Empathy Diaries: A Memoir by Sherry Turkle (TED Talk: Connected, but alone?
These days “empathy” is an often used word but one that’s rarely defined. MIT professor, ethnographer and author Sherry Turkle defines it as “the psychological capacity to put yourself in the place of another person and imagine what they are going through.” Her memoir details the influences of two men who lacked that ability — her much-older academic husband, and her biological father whom her mother had divorced when Turkle was five (and whom she later hired a detective to find). 

As a Woman: What I Learned about Power, Sex, and the Patriarchy after I Transitioned by Paula Stone Williams (TED Talk: I’ve lived as a man and as a woman — here’s what I learned
In 2012, Pastor Paul Williams was a leader of an evangelical church. But that year, he came out as transgender — and was promptly fired from his position and ostracized by the religious community that he’d belonged to for more than three decades. Williams transitioned and became Paula, and then she experienced another shock. Her transition not only changed her body but opened her eyes. Despite having heard of the inequities, biases and challenges that women face every day, she got to experience firsthand how women are routinely overlooked and ignored. Anyone interested in transgender journeys or the vast difference between how men and women are treated by society can learn from Williams’ candid account. 

You Are What You Risk: The New Art and Science of Navigating an Uncertain World by Michele Wucker (TED Talk: Why we ignore obvious problems — and how to act on them)
There’s an incredibly lengthy list of factors that affect how you evaluate any given risk. On the short list are personal history, cognitive bias, geography, upbringing and what you just ate, says author and policy analyst Michel Wucker. Identifying your “personal risk fingerprint”– all the factors that consciously and unconsciously affect how you decide — can help you better understand yourself and better select the personal, professional, financial and emotional risk to take. Hint: Reading this book is low-risk, with potential for high reward. 

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Pamela Stock is a writer based in Brooklyn, New York. 

Melinda

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Book Review For Degloved: Every Scar Has A Story 

 I want to say a special thank you to Laura Sebright, Marketing & Ecommerce Executive at Trigger Publishing for sending this very interesting book for review.

About the Author

On October 18th 2014, Adelaide was in a bike crash that would change her life. She went through the driver’s side window of a car that pulled in front of her, suffering injuries that almost killed her – and emotional trauma that would continue for years to come. In addition to facing the physical injuries and PTSD, Adelaide worried about how the crash would affect her ability to cope with her bipolar II. After an arduous recovery, she returned to riding, eventually qualifying to become a professional triathlete. She is an advocate for cyclists’ safety and strives to help others who have suffered life-threatening crashes. Adelaide lives with her husband Kennett and their dog Maybellene. 

Blurb

When the red Fiat pulled out in front of Adelaide, she squeezed her bike’s brakes so hard that she left 50 feet of skid marks along the highway. The last thing she remembers is being lifted into the ambulance and someone saying, “Her face is peeled off.”

She spent five days in a medically-induced coma, during which surgeons picked glass from her face, reconstructed bones and inserted a stomach tube. She spent another six days unable to talk, at times gasping for air, enduring leech treatments to keep her necrotizing lip alive, and fearing a crippling bipolar episode. Without knowing what neurological damage or permanent disfigurement she’d be left with, her boyfriend Kennett proposed to Adelaide daily in the hospital, until she became conscious. But her recovery would extend far beyond the hospital and the visible physical injuries. 

DEGLOVED is about perseverance as well as failure, written to give hope to those living with mental illness, and anyone who has had a traumatic event thrust upon them, which threatened to destroy their lives.

My Thoughts

Where do you go after an accident almost cost took your life? For Adelaide, it’s moving forward slowly with an eye on recovery and sharing her story to help others. Not only was she in a coma, but also had reconstructive surgery, leech treatments, and fears that her Bipolar Disorder will pop its ugly head.

When you suffer from a traumatic injury it can cause PTSD and slow the recovery process. It can be more complicated if you have a mental illness, like Bipolar Disorder. For me, stress is a huge trigger for my Bipolar Disorder and it’s something I have to keep an eye on. It can throw me into depression very quickly.

Degloved is a book of tragedy and triumph with great lessons to learn about life after unsurmountable odds. Adelaide is a strong person and her perseverance against the odds gave her life back. She’s also a walking example of what our body can do when it comes back from hell.

Adelaide pushes herself thru unimaginable odds to go on to not only compete again but is now a professional Triathlete.

This book is for anyone who has been involved in a traumatic event or knows someone that has. The book is great for caregivers.

I recommend the book hands down. It’s a great read and a very inspiring story.

Trigger Publishing

TriggerHub.org is the first mental health organization of its kind. We are bringing mental health recovery and balance to millions of people worldwide through the power of our books. We have built a first-class resource of curated books produced and published in-house to create a unique collection of mental health recovery titles unrivaled in quality and selection. We work with experts, psychologists, doctors, and coaches to produce our books, but we also work with real people looking to share their stories to reach out to others and provide hope, understanding, and compassion. These brave authors also aim to raise awareness of mental health’s “human” face and its impact on everyday lives. 

Melinda

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Book Review Mind Over Mountain-A Mental and Physical Climb to the Top by Robby Kojetin

I want to send a special thanks to Laura Sebright at Trigger Publishing for sending me Mind Over Mountain-A Mental and Physical Climb to the Top by Robby Kojetin to review. 


Inspirational


About the Author


Robby Kojetin lives in Johannesburg, South Africa, and is a high-altitude adventure. Since his accident in 2006 which resulted in him breaking both of his ankles, he has gone on to become one of only a handful of people to have stood on top of the world’s highest mountain, Mount Everest. He has also climbed Kilimanjaro nine times, completed the Ironman triathlon, and scaled five of the Seven Summits. Known as an inspirational and engaging speaker on stage, he presents on the topics of failure, self-doubt and persisting against all odds, in the hopes of inspiring people of all ages and backgrounds facing the daunting mountains and obstacles in their own lives.


Robby is a proud husband and father who also coaches people to reach their personal summit goals. He is a regular contributor to a number of radio programmes, magazine articles and TV features, including DiscoveryChannel’s Everest: Beyond the Limit.

Blurb

A simple mistake at an indoor climbing gym sentenced 28-year-old Robby to a year in a wheelchair, shattering his aspirations of becoming a mountaineer. In the months that followed, Robby faced depression, anxiety, suicidal thoughts and a complete loss of his sense of identity.

But from somewhere deep inside him, he summoned up the strength to keep going even when all seemed lost; he embarked on a monumental journey, a feat of mental and physical strength. His weakness became his power. This story is more than a biography or an account of a mountaineering expedition – it showcases the human spirit and shows us all how it is possible to rewrite the definition of what is possible. From those dark days, Robby has become the embodiment of perseverance and possibility, overcoming the odds to join the handful of people who have summited Mount Everest.

One reviewer said “I laughed, I cried, got angry at why something so terrible could happen to someone so good, but most of all I was in awe of what Robby overcame!! A must-read for anyone!!”

My Thoughts

At 22 years old Robby’s identity and self-confidence were tied to rock climbing and all the adventure it brought. He was paving away in a career that he enjoyed that gave him the time off needed to continue his climbing adventures. 


Until one fateful day, while practicing on a climbing wall, he jumped off as he had done many times before, the floor gave way causing Robby to shatter both ankles, fracturing several bones and rupturing the tendons from the shin down. 

This is a devastating blow to anyone but for an avid rock climber, this could be the end of the adventure. With the love and support of family and friends, Robby concentrates on recovery and walking again. The recovery period is slow, very painful, and takes a toll on his mental health. Some days are dark with no light at the end of the tunnel but he pushes forward. 

What Robby does from here is miraculous, not only does Robby walk again but goes on to climb the highest mountain in the world Mount Everest. This book is a fast and very enthralling read. It’s a story of grit and what the mind can allow us to accomplish. I would recommend this book to anyone. 

Trigger Publishing

TriggerHub.org is the first mental health organization of its kind. We are bringing mental health recovery and balance to millions of people worldwide through the power of our books.

We have built a first-class resource of curated books produced and published in-house to create a unique collection of mental health recovery titles unrivaled in quality and selection. We work with experts, psychologists, doctors, and coaches to produce our books, but we also work with real people looking to share their stories to reach out to others and provide hope, understanding, and compassion. These brave authors also aim to raise awareness of mental health’s “human” face and its impact on everyday lives. 

Melinda

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Book Review Finding Joy with an Invisible Chronic Illness by Christopher Martin

I was kindly gifted an advanced copy of Finding Joy with an Invisible Chronic Illness, Proven Strategies for Discovering Happiness, Meaning, and Fulfillment by Christopher Martin from NetGallery for a review. 

Published 2021

I am a school psychologist, husband, father, and – pertinent to this website – an author who has multiple invisible chronic illnesses. 

 And an invisible chronic illness is a beast.  On top of draining you physically, a chronic illness can impact all aspects of your life ranging from causing financial hardship to harming your relationships to dampening your spirits.  Try to be cheerful when you have this unremitting “monkey on your back” known as an invisible chronic illness that constantly demands your attention 24-7.  Needless to say, it’s easy to let yourself and others down. 

      Plus, your family or friends can’t see your illness, as it’s invisible, and they may not understand.  Most with an invisible illness are familiar with “advice” ranging from “stay positive” to “you look good” to “Have you tried ___ for your condition?”  Yup, you probably have, and it didn’t work. 

      On top of that, best wishes in accessing (and maintaining) high quality medical care when you are too tired to even take care of yourself.    

      Welcome to the world of an invisible chronic illness.  I should know.  I suffer from multiple invisible chronic illnesses, including a primary immune deficiency disorder and bronchiectasis. 

 But it doesn’t have to be this way – for you or for me.    While I am not cured of my illness, I enjoy a fulfilling life and experience ongoing joy, peace, and happiness.  Because of outstanding medical care, extensive self-educating and self-care, a supportive family, and a strong faith, I effectively manage my chronic illnesses.  But I didn’t want to be the only one to benefit.  It was my goal, in turn, to give back to others by doing what I love to do:  authoring books on these conditions. 

Blurb

“Finding Joy is a vital guide on how to best manage and navigate life with a chronic illness.”—James Nestor, New York Times bestselling author of Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art

“Finding Joy provides a comprehensive, evidence-based roadmap for not only coping with chronic illness, but personally optimizing self-growth and resiliency from the experience.” —Joanne Joseph, PhD, professor of psychology and interim dean of the College of Health Sciences, SUNY Polytechnic Institute, and author of The Resilient Child: Preparing Today’s Youth for Tomorrow’s World

* How can you experience those good thoughts and feelings, enjoy life to its fullest, and de-stress when faced with relentless physical suffering?

* How can you enhance your relationships, find support, respond to the naysayers, and possibly even help them understand you and your illness?

* When seeking medical care, how can you get the answers you deserve, and access and maintain quality healthcare?

Early Reviews

“”Finding Joy is absolutely phenomenal. Chris Martin’s heartfelt approach offers numerous meaningful strategies to thrive when faced with the many unseen and unrecognized issues of living with an invisible chronic illness.””—Heather Lewis-Hoover, MS, CAS, school counselor

““Finding Joy is a vital guide on how to best manage and navigate life with a chronic illness.””—James Nestor, New York Times bestselling author of Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art

“Finding Joy provides a comprehensive, evidence-based roadmap for not only coping with chronic illness, but personally optimizing self-growth and resiliency from the experience.” —Joanne Joseph, PhD, professor of psychology and interim dean of the College of Health Sciences, SUNY Polytechnic Institute, and author of The Resilient Child: Preparing Today’s Youth for Tomorrow’s World

My Thoughts

I think Chris says it best, the diagnosis is a step forward, it’s not the last. 

Finding Joy with an Invisible Chronic Illness is a great find, one for all to read, patients, loved ones, and, family members. It is a simple and practical approach to taking control by understanding how we think and what we have control over when it comes to our chronic condition and healthcare treatment. 

Enjoy Reading,

Melinda

Looking for the Light

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Book Review For Heal Your Wound By Alvin May, MD

I want to send a special thank you to Dr. Alvin May and Erin Cernuda from Jackson Clara Publishing, LLC for sending me Heal Your Wound to read and review.

About the Arthor

Dr. Alvin May is a general surgeon and wound care physician serving the Southern California area for over ten years. He is a graduate of Harvard Medical School and trained in general surgery at the Boston Medical Center. Shortly after starting his career, Dr. May helped launch a national wound care company providing physician-directed wound care services to nursing homes and long-term care facilities.

This book breaks down complex medical concepts into simple, actionable steps. “Heal Your Wound” offers a unique blend of expert advice and real-life stories, showing you exactly how to accelerate your healing process. You’ll uncover the critical factors that might be holding your recovery back, from underlying medical conditions to poor wound care techniques. With practical tips and proven strategies, this book will empower you to take charge of your health.

Heal Your Wound: A Doctor’s Guide For Hard-To-Heal Wounds

5 Star Rated

Available on Amazon

Wound Healing Journal: My Path To Wound Closure

5 Star Rated

Available on Amazon

My Thoughts

Dr. Alvin May was inspired by a personal experience to write on this all to important topic which receives very little attention. One of the first things you will notice is it’s not written in medical talk, the explanations are complete and easy to follow. In addition to his writing, he shares graphics which explains the different types of would and the care needed. If you are in the medical field, a caregiver or caring for yourself this is a must have book for you.

Some Topics Covered:

Chronic Wounds: Not your typical wound

The non-healing wound

Wound Healing Basics

A Holistic Approach

Surgical wounds

Dr. May also shares stories of others who have experienced hard to heal wounds.

Thoughts on Wound Healing Journal

The journal is invaluable, it provides pages to manage care on a daily and monthly basis, areas to mark medication taken, doctor’s appointments as well as other notes. The journal is a life saver.

Heal Your Wound and the Wound Healing Jornal deserves a permanent place on your bookshelf.

Melinda Sandor

Looking for the Light

Book Review · Health and Wellbeing · Medical · Men & Womens Health · Mental Health

Book Review Navigating Panic Attacks By Dr. Rita Santos

Blurb

Author Dr. Rita Santos is a clinical psychologist who specialises in cognitive behavioural therapy, anxiety and anxiety disorders.

One of the key symptoms of anxiety is panic attacks. However often, or infrequently, you experience them, it is possible to take steps to change how you react. There are ways that you can loosen their grip, potentially even stopping them from happening altogether.

Dr. Rita Santos will you help you to discover how to: 

  • Understand what panic attacks are and why they happen
  • Identify your warning signs and personal triggers 
  • Open dialogue with family and friends
  • Recognise and manage your anxious anticipation surrounding panic attacks 
  • Practice tailored self-care with the aim of reducing the number of panic attacks you have. 

Using these practical strategies, you can promote understanding, self-awareness, and self-care.  

My Thoughts

Wellbeck has done it again! They brought us another great self-help book with tools we can implement right away and use for future reference as needed. Dr. Rita Santos gives you real-life examples and tools to use in helping you deal with and overcome Pank Attacks.

She covers topics like:

Communicating with others

Laying out a self-care plan

Recognizing triggers

and much more.

I recommend this book highly to anyone who has Panic Attacks to understand and communicate with a friend or loved one who does. It’s real-world tips that are easy to implement.

Wellbeck Publishing

Wellbeck Publishing Group is an exciting, fast-growing independent publisher based in London, dedicated to publishing only the very best and most commercial books spanning a number of genres and categories, from leading authors and well-known brands to debut talent. We live for books that entertain, excite and enhance the lives of readers around the world.
From building our boutique fiction and narrative non-fiction lists to shaping our world-renowned illustrated reference, gift and children’s titles, our aim is to be a market-leader in every category in which we publish.  Our books and products come to life for adults, children, and families in 30 languages in more than 60 countries around the world, selling through a variety of traditional and non-traditional channels. We are constantly looking for new ways to deliver our exceptional content and new ideas to inspire readers and listeners everywhere.
www.wellbeckpublishing.com

I highly recommend the book and hope you will check it out. It could make a difference for you or someone you love.

Happy Reading

Melinda

Book Review · Celebrate Life · Health and Wellbeing · Men & Womens Health · Mental Health

Book Review Navigating Loneliness By Cheryl Rickman

I was kindly gifted an advanced copy of Navigating Loneliness by Cheryl Rickman from Maddie Kirby-Dunne at Wellbeck Publishing Group for an honest review. Thank you, Maddie.

About the Author

Cheryl Rickman is a qualified Positive Psychology Practitioner and Sunday Times bestselling author and ghostwriter of twenty self-help, wellbeing and business books.

After her parents’ lives were cut short, Cheryl decided to devote her life to helping others make the most of their own precious lives through the books she writes.

She specializes in writing practical books to help people fret less and flourish more, and is a Wellbeing Ambassador for the Network of Wellbeing.

Having qualified with a Certificate in Applied Positive Psychology in 2016, Cheryl also runs wellbeing retreats and delivers workshops on acceptance, balance and compassion, The ABC of FlourishingTM.

Cheryl lives with her husband, daughter and two dogs in a country cottage in Hampshire, UK. She is an unashamed tree- hugger and nature-lover, has an overflowing bookshelf and her favourite colour is rainbow. She loves pizza and the seaside, but is not a fan of mushrooms or spiders.

You can find out more at http://www.CherylRickman.co.uk

OTHER WELLBEING BOOKS BY THIS AUTHOR

Be More Wonder Woman: Fearless Thinking from a Warrior Princess

(DK, 2020)

The Flourish Colouring Book: Art Therapy Mindfulness

(CreateSpace, 2015)

The Flourish Handbook: How to Achieve Happiness with Staying Power, Boost Your Well-Being, Enjoy Life More and Reach Your Potential (CreateSpace, 2013)

The Happiness Bible: An Ultimate Guide to Sustainable Wellbeing

(Godsfield Press, 2019)

The Little Book of Resilience (Gaia, 2019)

The Little Book of Serenity (Gaia, 2020)

May You Be Well: Everyday Good Vibes for the Spiritual (Pyramid, 2021)

You Are Enough: Embrace Your Flaws and Be Happy Being You

(Summersdale, 2021)

Blurb

Navigating Loneliness is part of a Trigger Publishing series of books about managing mental health issues. Throughout this book you’ll learn what actions you can take to tackle the main causes of loneliness and reduce it.

My Thoughts

The book is a very fast read at only 155 pages long and includes helpful resources at the back of the book. 

Welbeck Publishing Group

Welbeck Publishing Group is an exciting, fast-growing independent publisher based in London, dedicated to publishing only the very best and most commercial books spanning a number of genres and categories, from leading authors and well-known brands to debut talent. We live for books that entertain, excite and enhance the lives of readers around the world.

Melinda

Book Review · Celebrate Life · Chronic Illness · Health and Wellbeing · Men & Womens Health · Mental Health

Book Review Finding Joy with an Invisible Chronic Illness by Christopher Martin

I was kindly gifted an advanced copy of Finding Joy with an Invisible Chronic Illness, Proven Strategies for Discovering Happiness, Meaning, and Fulfillment by Christopher Martin from NetGallery for a review. 

Published 2021

I am a school psychologist, husband, father, and – pertinent to this website – an author who has multiple invisible chronic illnesses. 

And an invisible chronic illness is a beast.  On top of draining you physically, a chronic illness can impact all aspects of your life ranging from causing financial hardship to harming your relationships to dampening your spirits.  Try to be cheerful when you have this unremitting “monkey on your back” known as an invisible chronic illness that constantly demands your attention 24-7.  Needless to say, it’s easy to let yourself and others down. 

      Plus, your family or friends can’t see your illness, as it’s invisible, and they may not understand.  Most with an invisible illness are familiar with “advice” ranging from “stay positive” to “you look good” to “Have you tried ___ for your condition?”  Yup, you probably have, and it didn’t work. 

      On top of that, best wishes in accessing (and maintaining) high quality medical care when you are too tired to even take care of yourself.    

      Welcome to the world of an invisible chronic illness.  I should know.  I suffer from multiple invisible chronic illnesses, including a primary immune deficiency disorder and bronchiectasis. 

 But it doesn’t have to be this way – for you or for me.    While I am not cured of my illness, I enjoy a fulfilling life and experience ongoing joy, peace, and happiness.  Because of outstanding medical care, extensive self-educating and self-care, a supportive family, and a strong faith, I effectively manage my chronic illnesses.  But I didn’t want to be the only one to benefit.  It was my goal, in turn, to give back to others by doing what I love to do:  authoring books on these conditions. 

Blurb

“Finding Joy is a vital guide on how to best manage and navigate life with a chronic illness.”—James Nestor, New York Times bestselling author of Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art

“Finding Joy provides a comprehensive, evidence-based roadmap for not only coping with chronic illness, but personally optimizing self-growth and resiliency from the experience.” —Joanne Joseph, PhD, professor of psychology and interim dean of the College of Health Sciences, SUNY Polytechnic Institute, and author of The Resilient Child: Preparing Today’s Youth for Tomorrow’s World

* How can you experience those good thoughts and feelings, enjoy life to its fullest, and de-stress when faced with relentless physical suffering?

* How can you enhance your relationships, find support, respond to the naysayers, and possibly even help them understand you and your illness?

* When seeking medical care, how can you get the answers you deserve, and access and maintain quality healthcare?

Early Reviews

“”Finding Joy is absolutely phenomenal. Chris Martin’s heartfelt approach offers numerous meaningful strategies to thrive when faced with the many unseen and unrecognized issues of living with an invisible chronic illness.””—Heather Lewis-Hoover, MS, CAS, school counselor

““Finding Joy is a vital guide on how to best manage and navigate life with a chronic illness.””—James Nestor, New York Times bestselling author of Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art

“Finding Joy provides a comprehensive, evidence-based roadmap for not only coping with chronic illness, but personally optimizing self-growth and resiliency from the experience.” —Joanne Joseph, PhD, professor of psychology and interim dean of the College of Health Sciences, SUNY Polytechnic Institute, and author of The Resilient Child: Preparing Today’s Youth for Tomorrow’s World

My Thoughts

I think Chris says it best, the diagnosis is a step forward, it’s not the last. 

Finding Joy with an Invisible Chronic Illness is a great find, one for all to read, patients, loved ones, and, family members. It is a simple and practical approach to taking control by understanding how we think and what we have control over when it comes to our chronic condition and healthcare treatment. 

Enjoy Reading,

Melinda

Looking for the Light

@LookingLight

Book Review · Celebrate Life · Health and Wellbeing · Medical · Men & Womens Health · Mental Health

Book Review One Step At A Time By Francesca Giacomozzi

I was kindly gifted a copy of One Step At A Time, My Eating Disorder Dairies by Francesca Giacomozzi from Soraya Nair at Cherish Editions for an honest review. Thank you, Soraya.

About Author

“Francesca Giacomozzi has lived in the UK since April 2016.

After quitting a full-time job that wasn’t fulfilling her, she studied to become a yoga teacher and reflexologist and now owns her own yoga teaching and massage therapy business.

Her drive to help others overcome mental health issues has pushed her out of her comfort zone, leading her to raise awareness about eating disorders as a daily mission.

Francesca has two degrees and can speak five languages.”

Excerpt From: Francesca Giacomozzi. “One Step at a Time.” Apple Books.

Blurb

“My long-winded journey into a fuller and healthier self. Written with the hope that if you are lost, you will soon be found. This is the honest and unfiltered truth about me and my experiences as a warrior in eating disorder recovery. All the people mentioned in this book are real, and therefore have been made anonymous unless they provided consent to be spoken about by name.”

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Francesca Giacomozzi found herself on the verge of a crisis, exhausted from waking up day after day without a sense of purpose. Determined to get her life back on track, she decided to take on a challenge to engage both her mind and body: a two-week walk along the South West Coastal Path.

She invested in kit and prepared – or so she thought – for the solo trek. Little did she know, her journey would leave her with a completely different outcome to the one she expected. Her diary pages are filled with two tales: what happened on the trail, and how it made her feel on the inside.

My Thoughts

When you’re faced with your demons, you have two paths you can take. You can tackle them head-on or you can turn and run. Francesca found herself at a crossroads and decided to face her demons in the most interesting way. She set out to trek 360 miles across England to find herself and found so much more. 

Armed with her diary, she sets out and discovers the generosity of others feeds her need for food. When you struggle with an eating disorder, you over focus on food and look for an emotional fulfillment which doesn’t come. Fran struggles with her thoughts and self loathing along the way but as she reaches her destination there is a new sense of self. A sense she can overcome and ask for help. 

Ask for help she does, she sees a therapist for the first time and starts a new, more informed and self assured chapter. I beleive she is living her best life and inspires others with deep rooted struggles that there is light at the end of the tunnel. 

Fran sprinkles in poetry throughout the chapters. She is a great writer and the book is a fast read, you can’t wait to see what adventure she will encounter next. You can also fully relate to the insecurities she feels about herself and in social situations. 

I struggled with an eating disorder for years and can say this book hit home. It’s real and gives a look at the true mental and physical toll an eating disorder can take in the body. 

This book is a great read for most types of mental health struggles, not just eating disorders. The guilt, anger, insecurities and shame are universal. 

I highly recommend One Step At A time and give it 5 stars! 

Cherish Editions

Cherish Editions is the self-publishing division of Trigger Publishing, the UK’s leading independent mental health and wellbeing publisher.

We are experienced in creating and selling positive, responsible, important and inspirational books, which work to de-stigmatise the issues around mental health, as well as helping people who read them to maintain and improve their mental health and wellbeing. By choosing to publish through Cherish Editions, you will get the expertise of the dedicated Trigger Team at every step of the process.

We are proud of what we do, and passionate about the books that we publish. We want to do the very best for you and your book, holding your hand every step of the way.

Happy Reading!

I know you will enjoy the book as much as I did and encourage you to pick up a copy today.

Melinda

Book Review · Celebrate Life · Health and Wellbeing · Men & Womens Health · Mental Health

Book Review for Where Do We Go From Here? By Bethany Hacker

Jessica Owen from Cherish Editions kindly gifted me Where Do We Go From Here? by Bethany Hacker for an honest review. Thank you, Jessica. 

Release Date June 10th, 2021

You will find Bethany’s book at Amazon and Cherish Editions.

Where Do We Go From Here?: An Inside View of Life in a Mental Health Hospital by [Bethany  Hacker]

Blurb

Where Do We Go From Here tells the true story of what life is like in a psychiatric hospital? From the good to the bad and the ugly, every bit of life in the hospital is exposed. The book acknowledges how easy it can be to go down the rabbit hotel of depression, whilst also providing the reader with hope and the knowledge that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. In this deeply absorbing memoir, Bethany Hacker shares a slightly humorous look into the brain of a normal girl with a lot of trouble going on inside of it.

About The Author

Bethany was born in Italy to American parents who worked as teachers on a US military base. She spent her developmental years there and ended up moving to the US for University where she studied Political Science. After deciding that Europe felt more like home, she moved back to Italy and onward to the UK where she was treated for various mental health issues. She currently works at a charity helping families with children in hospitals while trying to gain skills to eventually become a therapist to help others cope with any kind of mental illness.

My Thoughts

“Where do you go when you’ve lost hope? When there’s no end in sight? How do you pick yourself up when you can’t get out of bed in the morning? 

Where Do We Go From Here? is the perfect book to help family members understand where you go and what’s it’s like when you’re in the hospital. It will help others better understand what it takes to get on level ground and there are no quick fixes. I think it will help open lines of communication and bring more understanding.

Cherish Editions

Cherish Editions is the self-publishing division of Trigger Publishing, the UK’s leading independent mental health and wellbeing publisher.

We are experienced in creating and selling positive, responsible, important and inspirational books, which work to de-stigmatise the issues around mental health, as well as helping people who read them to maintain and improve their mental health and wellbeing. By choosing to publish through Cherish Editions, you will get the expertise of the dedicated Trigger Team at every step of the process.

We are proud of what we do, and passionate about the books that we publish. We want to do the very best for you and your book, holding your hand every step of the way.

What makes us different?

Visit About us to find out more.

Where Do We Go From Here? is a must-read and a great book to help friends and family understand what daily life is like when you’re in a Psychiatric Hospital. I think it will open communication and bring a new understanding.

Once you’ve read, be sure to tell me what you think. 

Melinda

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