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Things I’ve Learned In 61 Years Part Three

President Trump knew about COVID-19 in January 2020 but did not tell the public until March of that year. I heard the words myself during a phone interview with highly respected journalist Bob Woodward. Bob asked President Trump about the virus and he admitted it was deadly yet in public he said it was no worse the the seasonal flu and would go away quickly.

The most complete overview of the conversation with Bob Woodward and President Trump.

https://www.pbs.org/newshour/show/audio-recordings-prove-trump-lied-about-coronavirus-danger

Here are a few articles on the subject by respected organizations

https://www.bbc.com/news/world-us-canada-54094559

https://www.nbcnews.com/politics/congress/trump-white-house-made-deliberate-efforts-undermine-covid-response-report-n1286211

During the months that President Trump refused to listen to his top national advisors, the government was not ramping up its national supplies which is why hospitals found themselves without masks, proper protective gear, enough ventilators, and enough staff. I remember seeing hospitals overrun with patients and having to make the hard choice of who would get treatment or continue to get life support. This is not a weight that any individual employee needs to make, several committed suicide and washed out of their field and many caught COVID-19 themselves.

For conspiracy theorists and anti-vaxxers, you are misinformed and misguided, and no doubt you live lost in the same state of mind in the other areas of your life. People need to look at factual information and make up their own minds, conspiracy therorist are being controlled by others. That makes you a follower.

The total number of deaths from COVID-19 in the United States to date

We at USAFacts have endeavored to provide comprehensive, real-time pandemic data from all 50 states. However, the growing prevalence of at-home testing and the potential for individuals to contract the virus multiple times have skewed the government data we receive. These developments, plus the end of the public health emergency — and the required data reporting that came with it — have made it difficult for us to present a clear and reliable picture of COVID-19 in America.

We are committed to presenting thorough, accurate data, but the fact is that collecting that data on COVID-19 data is a significantly more challenging that it used to be, if the data is even out there at all. Therefore, we will no longer update the data on this dashboard. We appreciate your understanding and encourage you to remain vigilant in observing health protocols and guidelines. For more information about broader health outcomes, visit US Health Statistic and Data trends

  Total Reported  
Cases 99,596,741  
Deaths 1,104,000  

STATE-BY-STATE DATA (TOTALS)

State 7-day avg. cases 7-day avg. deaths Cases Deaths 7-day avg. hospitalizations 7-day avg. hospitalizations per 100k
Alabama 0 0 1,659,936 21,138 30 0.6
Alaska 0 0 287,319 1,457 4 0.6
Arizona 0 0 2,486,671 29,852 152 2
Arkansas 0 0 977,662 13,062 30 1
California 128 0 11,300,486 102,356 377 1
Colorado 0 0 1,769,981 14,522 92 1
Connecticut 0 0 982,973 11,034 20 0.6
Delaware 13 0 334,466 3,440 83 8
District of Columbia 0 0 169,149 1,392 5 0.7
Florida 0 0 7,627,999 89,075 246 1
Georgia 0 0 2,343,807 42,351 129 1
Hawaii 96 0 393,757 1,955 27 2
Idaho 0 2 526,118 5,513 17 0.9
Illinois 0 0 3,706,263 39,381 189 1
Indiana 0 0 2,033,879 25,959 34 0.5
Iowa 0 0 892,628 10,538 24 0.8
Kansas 0 0 946,564 10,229 35 1
Kentucky 0 0 1,713,220 18,094 45 1
Louisiana 0 0 1,459,308 18,136 43 0.9
Maine 18 1 324,378 3,085 25 1
Maryland 0 0 1,270,844 15,578 110 1
Massachusetts 268 0 2,048,722 21,035 52 0.8
Michigan 157 3 3,119,532 43,191 67 0.7
Minnesota 0 0 1,552,840 12,806 45 0.8
Mississippi 0 0 1,000,415 13,474 14 0.5
Missouri 0 0 1,592,300 20,776 189 3
Montana 0 0 333,758 3,712 17 1
Nebraska 0 0 563,028 4,827 20 1
Nevada 74 0 892,252 12,084 26 0.8
New Hampshire 0 0 375,618 2,972 19 1
New Jersey 0 0 2,995,906 35,774 115 1
New Mexico 0 0 681,525 9,236 19 0.9
New York 429 -37 6,706,390 77,423 177 0.9
North Carolina 0 0 3,501,415 29,059 258 2
North Dakota 13 0 292,065 2,232 5 0.7
Ohio 0 0 3,449,990 42,299 108 0.9
Oklahoma 0 0 1,305,761 16,157 73 1
Oregon 0 0 910,700 8,726 46 1
Pennsylvania 0 2 3,565,278 51,344 264 2
Rhode Island 0 0 442,671 4,148 3 0.3
South Carolina 0 0 1,481,646 17,869 78 1
South Dakota 0 0 283,342 3,245 11 1
Tennessee 0 0 2,364,399 28,113 41 0.6
Texas 0 0 8,508,204 92,378 194 0.7
Utah 0 0 1,099,978 5,397 21 0.6
Vermont 0 0 151,477 910 9 1
Virginia 210 0 2,323,255 23,769 204 2
Washington 184 2 1,969,833 15,972 34 0.4
West Virginia 15 0 652,772 8,163 34 1
Wisconsin 50 0 2,036,872 16,723 79 1
Wyoming 0 0 187,389 2,039 13 2

For more on how USAFacts collects coronavirus data, read this detailed methodology and sources page.

Not all the statistics add up over the last seven days but you get the overall message. Close to 100,ooo people died in Texas alone. 

I would like to see how conspiracy theorist explain the number of documented cases and deaths. Maybe the same way President Trump explains his very existence.

COVID-19 is on the rise in many countries, The United States has not been hit hard but the is no excuse for not taking precautions. Look at President Biden who recently contracted COVID-19, it can happen, and if we are not careful COVID-19 may return the the awful days of the pandemic. I pray not, it affected everyone, every business, and how we went about our daily life, people lost their jobs and businesses closed and life sucked all around.

I’m asking you to think about yourself, your family, and the community around you. Don’t read news about COVID-19 on social media, read news from respected news outlets, read briefings from the CDC and National Security within our government, and make an informed decision.

Our life and future depends on accurate information and making the right decisions which are not easy but ones you’ll be glad you made.

Melinda

References:

https://usafacts.org/visualizations/coronavirus-covid-19-spread-map/

 

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Blogger Highlight-Invisibly Me

Thank you for all the great feedback on the Blogger Highlight series, I’ve enjoyed meeting each blogger and sharing their site with you. This week we highlight Invisibly Me. Caz and I have known each other for years and I’m honored to call her a friend. She is a warrior in every sense of the word, she works tirelessly to balance her chronic illness, help her elderly parents, advocate for better access to healthcare, and also encourage others to take better care of themselves. I would be remiss if I didn’t mention how much she loves cats. 

Invisibly Me

Live a Visible Life Whatever Your Health   

Caz is a 30-something chronically ill blogger from the UK with a penchant for American crime thriller books, Dr Martens, chocolate and Hello kitty. She writes about life with chronic illness and pain, product reviews, tips, and general health information to raise awareness.

She writes on many topics but stays true to health, writing reviews about health products and other items that simplify life. Simple is far from the life that Caz leads, she’s a superwoman with what she accomplishes and you would be surprised by the number of disabling health issues she deals with each day. She’s snarky, has the greatest attitude, and has limits with the NHS healthcare system in England. But who doesn’t? 

She’s a proud member of the following organizations:

A photo of me standing up with hands on hips with a black top, jeans and long red hair. The top is pulled up slightly to show a red and white Hello Kitty themed stoma bag cover. Below is the blog post title: 14 ways having a stoma bag has changed my life.

You must stop by her blog to say hello, read through her archives, and get to know a remarkable woman. Caz is encouraging, raw, funny and always leaves me feeling better and loved. 

Melinda

Looking for the Light

 

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From Family Cookbook-Jeff Davis Pie

The family cookbook contains recipes, my Granny’s & Gramps used often and is the type of food I grew up on. Many with veggies and tomatoes from their garden. Good ole Southern food like my Gramps dumplings, to Grannies pecan pie.

I don’t know who Jeff David was but know that he was related to Granny’s mother, Carrie Bell whose maiden name was Davis. The pie sounds yummy with its 3 cups of sugar! 

 

 

What you need

3 cups Imperial sugar

1 cup butter

2 TBS flour

1/4 TSP salt

1 TSP vanilla

4 eggs beaten lightly

1 cup milk

How to make

Cream sugar and butter

Blend flour, salt, and vanilla into the mixture and beat well

Add eggs then stir in milk into the mixture

Line 2 9-inch pie pans with pie crust

Pour the filling and bake at 450 degrees for 10 minutes

Then reduce heat to 350 degrees for another 30 minutes or until pie filling is firm

I bet it tastes even better with some homemade vanilla ice cream on top. 

Melinda

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Wordless Wednesday-Red Roses In Antique Ball Canning Jar

I’m glad you joined me on Wordless Wednesday and I hope to see you soon.

This was one of my Grandparent’s canning jars and it’s the perfect size for flowers. I have all of their canning jars even though we have done very little canning. There’s something special about them, they hold memories of my canning green beans with my Gramps and of course, eating out of the jars year round. They also canned lots of tomatoes, okra with tomatoes and jelly. There is no comparison to the taste of food out of a canning jar, a can food will never measure up.

Melinda

 

 

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From Family Cookbook-Saucy Beef Over Rice

The family cookbook contains recipes, my Granny’s & Gramps used often and is the type of food I grew up on. Many with veggies and tomatoes from the garden. Good ole Southern food like my Gramps dumplings, to Grannies pecan pie.

This recipe was a staple on the days Granny worked. She cleaned new houses with her Sister-in-law for construction companies. Granny did it to buy me clothes that were more in line with what my classmates were wearing until I could work myself to pay for my clothes. She would leave early in the morning and arrive back home in time to make the dish for supper.

What you need

Reynold’s Wrap Oven Bag Large size 14X20

2 TBS flour

1 can 14 1/2 oz stewed tomatoes

1 envelop of onion soup

1/2 cup water

1/4 TSP pepper

1 pound beef sirloin steak, cut into thin strips

2 cups hot cooked rice

Set oven to 350 degrees

How to make

Shake flour in a bag and place it in a 13x9x2 inch baking pan

Add undrained tomatoes, soup mix, water, and pepper.

Squiggle bag to stir all ingredients

Add beef strips to bags

Arrange the beef strips and ingredients evenly on the pan

Close the bag with a nylon tie

Cut 6 slits in the top of the bag

Bake for 40-45 minutes until tender and serve over rice

Yummy!

 Melinda

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Blogger Highlight-Nutsrok

Thank you for all the great feedback on the Blogger Highlight series, I’ve enjoyed meeting each blogger and sharing their blog with you. This week we highlight Nutsrok.    

Nutsrok

The humor and humanity of storytelling

Now that I’m done with the bothersome business of the workday world, I am free to pursue my passion, capturing the stories I’ve loved all my life. The ones you’ll read on my blog are good old Southern stories, a real pleasure to relay. Here in the South, we are proud of our wacky folks. I’ve preyed shamelessly on my family, living and dead, friends, neighbors, and acquaintances, often changing names to protect the innocent and not-so-innocent. My mother illustrates my blog. I come from a rollicking family of nuts, hence the name of the blog Nutsrok Enjoy.

We’ve been following each other for a short time but we became fast friends. We have so many things in common and our families were poor and raised in tough conditions. Linda is hilarious, she makes me laugh daily and she is attentive by replying to her comments. She is part of the community, and her writing and professional life are impressive. She wrote her first book in 2016 and her mother illustrated it, she was 96 years old. What a treasured memory. Be sure to check out both of her books.

Everything Smells Just Like Poke Salad

by Linda Swain Bethea (Author), Kathleen Holdaway Swain (Illustrator)

Born to a struggling farm family in the deepest of The Great Depression, Kathleen enjoys a colorful childhood, enhanced by her imagination, love of life, and the encouragement of her family.

She’s determined to build a better life for herself, getting herself into hilarious situations all along the way. Distinguishing herself in school and the community, she never takes her eyes off her goal.

Just as she’s about to get started, she meets Bill, the man who is going to help her on her way. Everything changes. And then changes again. The true story of a remarkable woman who will inspire you, make you laugh, and see life from a new perspective.

 

Just Women Getting By Leaving a Legacy of Strength

 
WOMEN OF STRENGTH, FORTITUDE, AND BRAVERY In this collection of six serials, Linda Swain Bethea weaves narratives of women through several centuries. The stories span from 1643 to 1957. Beginning in England in 1643, a young couple travels to Jamestown, Virginia, to begin a new life on the American frontier. The rest of the stories travel from West Texas to North Louisiana to the Texas Panhandle to East Texas. Disease, death, starvation, and prison are faced with stoicism and common sense, and always, with a sense of humor. The women in each tale stand tall and possess the wisdom and tenacity to hold families together under the worst conditions. Through it all, they persevere, and Linda Swain Bethea’s storytelling is a testament to the legacy they left. Conversational and homey, you’ll fall in love with the women of Just Women Getting By – Leaving a Legacy of Strength, which celebrates the courage of those women who had no choice but to survive. BUY THIS BOOK TO BE CAPITIVATED BACK TO A TIME WHEN GIVING UP WAS NOT AN OPTION.

About the Author

Linda Swain Bethea grew up in a family with a strong story-telling tradition, and she always knew she had stories that needed to be told. Writing called to her, even while working for thirty years as a Registered Nurse.

I ask Linda to share her favorite post and you will like this one.

Awful Christmas

Melinda

Looking for the Light

 

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NAMI Texas Advocacy Newsletter July 25, 2024  

 
Hello Advocates,  Happy Minority Mental Health Awareness Month!  In 2008, the U.S. House of Representatives officially declared July as Bebe Moore Campbell National Minority Mental Health Awareness Month. Bebe Moore Campbell was a mental health champion who used her experience to highlight the profound impact that culture, community and connections have on mental health.  Minority Mental Health Awareness Month is crucial for many reasons: Health Disparities: Minority communities often face significant disparities in mental health care, including limited access to services, lower quality of care, and higher levels of stigma associated with mental health conditions. Raising awareness helps address and reduce these disparities. Stigma Reduction: Many minority communities experience higher levels of stigma surrounding mental health conditions. Awareness initiatives can help break down these barriers, encouraging individuals to seek help and support without fear of judgment or discrimination. Cultural Awareness: Mental health awareness in minority communities promotes the need for culturally sensitive care. It emphasizes the importance of understanding cultural differences and tailoring mental health services to meet the unique needs of diverse populations. Advocacy and Policy Change: Highlighting the specific mental health needs of minority communities can drive advocacy efforts and inform policy changes aimed at improving mental health care equity. For example, this may include funding, more inclusive programs, and systemic changes that strengthen support for BIPOC individuals. Fast Facts:Asian American and Pacific Islanders: Non-Hispanic Asian American adults are the least likely population to receive mental health treatment for their mental illnessIn 2022, only 36.1% of Asian adults with mental illness received treatment9% of Asian Americans are not fluent in English and limited availability of culturally appropriate mental health care creates a significant barrier when trying to access careBlack/African Ancestry Communities:In 2022, only 37.9% of non-Hispanic Black or African American adults with mental illness received treatmentProvider bias, whether implicit or explicit, and lack of cultural sensitivity often results in misdiagnosis and inadequate treatmentWhen expressing symptoms related to mood disorders, Black people are more likely to receive a misdiagnosis of schizophreniaHispanic/Latin Americans: Nearly half of Hispanic and Latino young adults ages 18-25 with a serious mental illness do not receive treatmentAccording to the Kiser Family Foundation, in 2022, 18% of nonelderly Hispanic people had no form of health insuranceCompared to the U.S. average of 50.6%, approximately 39.6% of Hispanic or Latino adults with a mental illness receive treatment each yearBebe Moore Campbell used her voice to pave the way; what an honor it is that advocates like you and I have the opportunity to keep her legacy alive by continuing to advocate for a more inclusive, equitable, and effective mental health care system that serves all individuals, regardless of their background or identity. With gratitude,The NAMI Texas Public Policy Team Source material and further information can be found on NAMI National’s 2024 Bebe Moore Campbell National Minority Mental Health Awareness Month Toolkit.————————————————————————————————————————————–P.S. As I transition out of my fellowship with NAMI Texas, I want to take a moment to express my gratitude to each and every one of you. It has been the honor of a lifetime being a part of the NAMI Texas Team and the community of incredible advocates that it encompasses. Having the opportunity to be in conversation and spaces with such passionate, driven and welcoming advocates like you is truly an indescribable feeling. While I will no longer be on staff, I have every intention of staying engaged with NAMI Texas and all of you.  Thank you for your kindness, support and willingness to share your stories with me over the last two years. You have made an everlasting impact on me, and I am so thankful for that.  With love and gratitude,Hannah 
Staff Spotlight: Meet NAMI Texas’ New Peer Policy Fellow! Join us in welcoming our newest team member, Christine Busse! Christine joined NAMI Texas as a Peer Policy Fellow in July 2024. She holds a master’s in social work from the University of Texas at San Antonio and a Bachelor of Science in Behavioral Neuroscience from St. Edward’s University. Her professional journey includes nearly four years as a Registered Behavior Technician, providing Applied Behavioral Analysis (ABA) therapeutic services to youth with special needs.  During her graduate studies, she honed her research and data analysis skills as a Graduate Research Assistant on the Bexar County Fostering Educational Success project, evaluating programs supporting foster care alumni. She gained valuable policy experience through internships at the National Association of Social Workers – Texas and the Hogg Foundation for Mental Health, actively participating in the 88th Texas legislative session. Most recently, Christine served as the Planning and Policy Coordinator at the Texas Homeless Network. These diverse roles provided Christine with strong experience in mental health and substance use policy, education, and behavioral health workforce challenges. She developed expertise in policy research, strategic advocacy, and legislative processes. As a lifelong Texan and Lebanese American with lived experience of mental illness, Christine is passionate about bridging the gap between research, policy, and lived experience to enhance effective mental health policies and support systems. She is committed to fostering community resilience and well-being to build a stronger, healthier Texas for all. NAMI National’s #Vote4MentalHealth Pledge Mental health impacts nearly all aspects of our lives. And at NAMI, we advocate on a wide range of policy priorities, from health care to criminal justice to housing and beyond. No matter the topic, we know that mental health matters. Your vote in the upcoming elections matters, too. Every elected official – from the president and Congress to county commissioners and city councilmembers – has influence on issues impacting people affected by mental health conditions. That’s why it’s so important to understand how voting impacts mental health. Take the first step: click the following link to pledge to #Vote4MentalHealth this November.  NAMI won’t tell you who to vote for. We encourage you to research candidates on your ballot, decide what issues are most important to you, and cast your vote this election season. July 2024 Health and Human Services Report: Behavioral Health Advisory Committee FY 2023 Annual ReportSenate 2024 Interim Legislative Charges: Notice of Public Hearing Thursday, September 5, 2024, at 9:00am Senate Finance Committee (E1.036) Mental Health Services and Inpatient Facilities: Monitor the implementation of Senate Bill 30, 88th Legislature, Regular Session, with regard to appropriations made for expanding mental health services and inpatient facilities across the state. Report on the progress of inpatient facility construction projects. Assess and report on the effectiveness of spending on mental health services. You can view the full hearing agenda, hereWednesday, September 18, 2024 Senate Health & Human Services Committee (E1.012) Children’s Mental Health: Review care and services currently available to the growing population of Texas children with high acuity mental and behavioral health needs. Make recommendations to improve access to care and services for these children that will support family preservation and prevent them from entering the child welfare system. Access to Health Care: Evaluate current access to primary and mental health care. Examine whether regulatory and licensing flexibilities could improve access to care, particularly in medically underserved areas of Texas. Make recommendations, if any, to improve access to care while maintaining patient safety. You can view the full hearing agenda, here. You can review the list of Interim Charges in its entirety, hereHouse 2024 Interim Legislative Charges: Notice of Public Hearing Wednesday, July 31, 2024, at 10:00am Youth Health & Safety, Select (E2.014) Update: the originally scheduled July 7th, 2024, hearing was cancelled due to Hurricane Beryl.  The committee will meet to hear invited testimony only on the following interim charge: Behavioral Health Services for At-Risk Youth: Evaluate programs and services currently available to children and families that are either involved with, or at high risk for becoming involved with, the foster care and juvenile justice systems. Study the current barriers for accessing community-based behavioral health services for children with intense behavioral health needs, with an emphasis on ensuring that parents do not have to give up custody of children to gain access to services. If you would like to submit written comments related to the above charge you may do so until the hearing is adjourned by visiting this link You can view the full agenda for the July 31st hearing here.  You can review the list of Interim Charges in its entirety, herePublic Policy Platform Development Input Our 2025-2026 Public Policy Platform surveys have concluded. Thank you much for your time and input on these important matters! We could not do this work without all of you. Stay tuned for our Public Policy Platform which will be published in the fall.  NAMI Texas Conference: Celebrating 40 Years of Hope and HealingEvery year, NAMI Texas hosts an Annual Conference and Awards Celebration. These events bring together individuals living with mental illness, family members, professionals, and the general public to highlight the latest updates in the mental health field, exchange information, and celebrate the year’s successes. With exciting keynotes, informative workshops, a lively exhibit hall, Continuing Education Credit, networking opportunities, and special surprises, the Conference has something for everyone. This year, we are celebrating 40 Years of Hope and Healing. We could not be more excited to be bringing the Conference to West Texas. All Conference events will be held in the heart of bustling downtown El Paso, primarily in the beautiful El Paso Convention Center. There are many nonstop flights to El Paso from major Texas airports. The local Affiliate in the area, NAMI El Paso, is eager to welcome Texans from across the state. We hope you will join us in November for this extra special celebration!  Early Bird Ticket Sale Alert! Purchase your ticket today in order to take advantage of the early bird ticket special! These discounted tickets will be available through September 1st, 2024. Click this link to purchase.  2024 NAMI Texas Annual Conference Call-for-Presentations! All topics related to mental health are welcome, but the Conference Planning Committee has identified the following 4 thematic categories of particular interest: 1.) Children, Youth, & Families, 2.) Underserved Populations, 3.) Criminal Legal System, and 4.) Innovation and Creativity. For further details and to access the form, check out the call-for-presentations webpageThe deadline to submit a workshop proposal is August 2nd, 2024. NAMI SMARTS Classes Grassroots advocacy is about using your voice to influence policymakers and make a difference. Turn your passion and your lived experience into advocacy for mental health with the NAMI Smarts for Advocacy training. NAMI Smarts for Advocacy will enhance your advocacy skills and help you shape a powerful and personal story that will move policymakers. NAMI Smarts for Advocacy gives you step-by-step tools and the hands-on practice you need to feel confident and ready to make a difference. The NAMI Texas Public Policy Team does not currently have any classes scheduled. Be sure to keep an eye on our calendar for forthcoming classes. 
If you have anything you would like to share with NAMI Texas advocates in these emails, please send the information to policy.fellow@namitexas.org

–       Hannah Gill and the NAMI Texas Public Policy Team
Mental Health in the Media A look at the Texas mental health workforce shortage“Today, 246 of Texas’ 254 counties are wholly or partly designated by the federal government as “mental health professional shortage areas,” and that’s in a state where roughly 5 million people do not have health insurance. This has had a particularly dire effect in rural, border, and frontier counties in Texas, as some regions might have only one mental health professional or none. If you look at the raw numbers, we don’t have enough providers, even if they were evenly distributed,” said Alison Mohr Boleware, the Hogg Foundation for Mental Health policy director.” Sherman PD teams up with Texoma Community Center on mental health co-response team“The Sherman Police Department and Texas Community Center have teamed up to make a mental health co-response program. TCC Assistant Director of Care Coordination, Tori Dyess, said the program was made possible through a grant. “We reached out to Sherman Police Department, and decided to collaborate to create a team that was embedded with them,” Dyess said. The TCC has qualified mental health professionals stationed at the police department seven days a week, from 10 a.m. to 10 p.m. The program’s goal is to get effective mental health care to those in crisis faster.”  Employment may be key to veterans’ mental health, UTEP study finds“EL PASO, Texas (KVIA) — A new study authored by two University of Texas El Paso researchers is showing employment may be key to emotional wellbeing for veterans. The study was published in the June issue of scientific journal ‘Stress and Health’. The researchers looked at 517 veterans experiencing mental health conditions such as depression, anxiety, and post-traumatic stress disorder. According to the study, employment correlated with positive emotional wellbeing in veterans struggling with their mental health. The study also said unemployed veterans were twice as likely to experience depression.” Gov. Abbott Announces 7 New State Hospital Projects, Including $1B+ for Two in North Texas“Seven new state hospital projects—including new ones in Wichita Falls and Terrell—have been announced to better serve people in need of inpatient psychiatric services. Gov. Greg Abbott said the Texas Health and Human Services Commission (HHSC) projects are funded by $1.5 billion approved by the Texas Legislature in 2023 to expand, renovate, and build new facilities across the state.” How many people are receiving mental health treatment in Texas
“More than 5 million American adults were receiving mental health treatment at a state-monitored mental health facility in 2022, according to a report from the Department of Health and Human Services released in April, an increase from last year. However, access to treatment can largely depend on where someone lives or what kind of insurance they have. More than half of adults receiving treatment lived in just 10 states, as many Americans lack access to mental health care.”
NAMI Texas is a nonpartisan nonprofit organization dedicated to improving the quality of life of all individuals living with mental illness and their families. Please visit our website at NAMITexas.org for more information. Help support our advocacy efforts by donating to NAMI Texas at https://namitexas.networkforgood.com/

Melinda
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Daily Writing Prompt

What’s the story behind your nickname?

This is a fun prompt. I have only had a few nicknames, but I enjoyed them; one is precious to me. My Gramps called me Pud all my life, it was an endearing one, not sure if it came from pudding or was an old-time term but I miss his voice calling my nickname. No one else called me that, it was special between us.

My younger step-brother had a horrific life, their mother was a drug addict and would leave them at home alone for weeks at a time. No food, no water, and P lived in the same diaper. It’s disgusting to think any mother could treat her children that way. Both of my step-brothers had regressed in age and P had gone back to being a baby from the trauma. My step-father gained custody of them and they came to live with us, the discovery of two children was a shock to my mother’s system. P had to learn to talk again, which was very difficult for him. My mother always called be my my middle name, Melody and P had problems saying so he called me Mody. He was a precious soul and his life ended tragically just as it had started.

I may have had other short-term nicknames but I don’t recall them. Of course, I’ve been called many things, and not all of them nice but when you speak your mind that is going to happen.

Any nicknames from the past you a particularly fond of?

Melinda

Chronic Illness · Family · Health and Wellbeing · Infectious Diease · Medical · Men & Womens Health · Tick Borne Illnesses

The strong voice of a teenager with Lyme disease

When my daughter Rachel was 13, she suffered a seemingly simple injury that led to an outbreak of inexplicable, debilitating, body-wide pain. This left her bedridden and needing a wheelchair.

Refusing to believe doctors who claimed either that she was “faking it” or that nothing could be done, our family searched for answers until we at last found the underlying cause—unrecognized chronic Lyme disease and co-infections.

We were lucky enough to find a knowledgeable Lyme doctor within two hours of our home and we started on the long hard slog to getting her better. But we soon found that medical treatment was only part of what our family needed.

There were so many other needs: how to keep Rachel from spiraling into depression, how to continue her education when she was too sick to attend school, finding out what foods supported the healing process best—and which of those she was willing to eat.

As it turns out, one of the most helpful therapies Rachel undertook was something she figured out on her own. Throughout those dark days, she recorded her daily experiences in a journal. It chronicled the bad—her anger at the doctors who didn’t believe her, her despair at ever getting past the pain. It also recorded good times with friends—lip-synching to Hannah Montana songs, visiting the beach to try out a beach wheelchair (yes, those are a thing.) That journal became a lifeline for her, and in my view, was as important as the many different treatments she went through.

In time, Rachel’s health improved—she left the wheelchair behind, graduated from high school and college, and embarked on a career and marriage. For many years, she avoided even looking at the journal, not wanting to revisit those traumatic times.

But then, she decided to share the story with others, and the two of us collaborated on Finding Resilience: A Teen’s Journey Through Lyme Disease. The main narration is based on the journal, interspersed with additional passages by me, giving the mother’s perspective of what was going on.

Capturing the right voice

In the months since publication, we’ve garnered a lot of positive feedback. Here’s one of my favorite reviews, by a judge from the Benjamin Franklin Award competition:

Finding Resilience is a wonderfully written book (by both mother and daughter) that chronicles a teenager’s struggle with both Lyme disease and the medical establishment too unwilling to consider the—at the time—difficult diagnosis. What makes this book so strong is the voice. It’s often difficult for an adult to capture the right voice when writing about earlier experiences, but Rachel Leland does it expertly. At no time did I waver in believing that a teenager was talking to me in real time, as a teenager. This is hard—exceptionally hard—to do well…The mother’s voice, too, is appropriate throughout. All of this worked so effectively that I found myself as a reader on the same emotional rollercoaster they were on.

That’s exactly what we were going for—the shared perspective of a teenager and her mom on this hideous disease and what it takes to get through it. We hope you’ll find it informative and inspiring. Click here for more info about the book.

TOUCHED BY LYME is written by Dorothy Kupcha Leland, President of LymeDisease.org. She is co-author of Finding Resilience: A Teen’s Journey Through Lyme Disease and of When Your Child Has Lyme Disease: A Parent’s Survival Guide. Contact her at dleland@lymedisease.org.

A story that pulls all the heartstrings, such anguish, and a parent’s worst nightmare for their child.

Melinda

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Things I’ve Learned In 61 Years Part One

Your family is yours for life, you don’t have to like them.

The previous generation’s mistakes don’t have to continue, you have a choice.

Times have changed, women don’t have to be housewives and serve their husbands hand and foot.

Having a life away from your family is the healthiest thing you can do for yourself.

There is no perfect and why knock yourself out trying. Do the best you can.

Toxic is toxic, cut all toxic relationships and habits from your life.

Don’t overfocus on your health issues, accept them and stay on top of but don’t wallow.

If you are to move forward in life you have to quit looking back. Deal with your issues and move on. Don’t wallow.

There is no bad or good day of the week, each day is a fresh start. If you expect a bad day that’s what you’re going to get.

When life seems to be going wrong, redirect your thoughts to what is going right.

Life is short, we were never promised it would be easy and quit feeling entitled, you’re not.

Find something no matter how small that makes you happy, it’s often the small free things that bring joy.

To be accomplished in life you have to focus on others, not your own needs. That makes you self-centered.

Learning about others is a joy in itself. You never know what you have in common.

Always thank someone for a kind gesture, it also makes you feel better.

The less you judge others, the less you judge yourself.

Melinda

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“Don’t eat me” protein–how Lyme survives the immune system

Important Read.

Bay Area Lyme Foundation, a leading sponsor of Lyme disease research in the U.S., has announced a study finding a new mechanism of immune evasion used by Borrelia burgdorferi (Bb), the bacterium that causes Lyme disease.

This study is the first to identify the specific Borrelia protein that acts as a “don’t eat me” signal to the body’s immune system in people with Lyme disease.

This offers insight into how the bacteria may persist in Lyme patients and introduces an entirely new research direction toward potential future treatments.

The research was conducted at Stanford University and University of California San Francisco and funded in part by Bay Area Lyme Foundation. This groundbreaking data posted on bioRxiv on April 30, 2024, is expected to be published in a peer-review journal in the future.

Evading the immune system

“One of the big mysteries of Lyme disease has been how Borrelia is able to evade and survive the immune system – and this study helps answer that question. We’ve unlocked a critical door to understanding how this bacteria, and possibly other pathogens, manage to trick the immune system to evade clearance,” said lead author Michal Tal, PhD, principal scientist, Massachusetts Institute of Technology.

Tal is a Bay Area Lyme Foundation 2018 Emerging Leader Award winner who has received additional funding from the organization for this project.

In this study, researchers found that P66, a known Borrelia surface protein and one of the IgG Western Blot testing “bands” used for diagnosis, can inhibit an important portion of the immune response.

“Patients need both a robust immune response and antibiotics to eradicate an infection – antibiotics alone are not usually sufficient. Addressing the mechanisms of immune evasion could help patients more efficiently eradicate the infection,” said Wendy Adams, research grant director, Bay Area Lyme Foundation, who also notes that persistent Lyme disease impacts more than two million Americans today.

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The “don’t eat me” signal

Harmful bacteria entering the body are usually targeted by macrophages—immune cells which look for invaders to engulf and eliminate. However, this study shows that P66 is a bacterial “don’t eat me” signal encouraging the macrophage to ignore the bacteria by binding to a receptor on the macrophages’ surface called SIRP-alpha.

This type of “don’t eat me” signal is a known mechanism in cancer and more recently, atherosclerosis. Specifically, the human “don’t eat me” signal protein CD47 binds the SIRP-alpha receptor on macrophages to signal that the cell shouldn’t be destroyed. Drugs that prevent CD47 from binding SIRP-alpha have been tested in clinical trials for the treatment of some cancers.

One of the study’s senior authors Irving Weissman, MD, professor and director of the Institute for Stem Cell Biology and Regenerative Medicine at Stanford University and a Bay Area Lyme Foundation scientific advisory board member, explains that this study is a discovery of how an established protein can protect the bacteria with which it has co-evolved. These exciting and field-generating observations will have broad-reaching implications.

Dr. Weissman is renowned for his pioneering work in identifying “don’t eat me” proteins and his lab discovered all four known mammalian “don’t eat me proteins”: CD47, CD24, PDL1 and B2M. He is also the founder of companies which have developed or are developing therapeutics that target these mechanisms in cancer and atherosclerosis.

Unleashing the immune system

Researchers hope that blocking P66 activity, like blocking CD47’s activity in cancer, could help unleash the immune system in recognizing and fighting Borrelia bacteria.

“This work could extend beyond the Borrelia genus. Further investigation into whether other bacteria have “don’t eat me” signal protein mimics is crucial for understanding bacterial interactions with the immune system,” said second author Paige Hansen, Tal Research Group Researcher, Massachusetts Institute of Technology.

Click here for the full text of the study.

For more information about the mechanism of persistent infection, please see this review article in mBio.

SOURCE: Bay Area Lyme Foundation

Melinda

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Things I’m Loving-Household Items The Best Investments

Here are a few products I’m loving with right now. I hope you find a product to add to your household or self-care routine. The list may also give you ideas for a surprise for friends, and family. Most products are found on Amazon. I am not an Amazon Affiliate and make no commission for you using the links. The links take you directly to the product company of the items and do not cost you more to use them.

 

Dyson Fan and Air Purifier

Dyson Pure Cool Link TP02 Wi-Fi Enabled Air Purifier, White/Silver

  • Dual Functionality: Purifies all year, cools you as a fan in summer; HEPA filter automatically removes 99.97 percent of allergens and pollutants as small as 0.3 microns including pollen, dust, mold spores, bacteria and pet dander from your home; Now works with Amazon Alexa
  • Dyson technology helps create a cleaner, healthier home – Our vacuums and purifiers are scientifically proven to capture particles as small as allergens and bacteria.
  • Second layer in filter contains activated carbon to capture household odors and volatile organic compounds like paint fumes, certified asthma and allergy friendly and awarded the quiet mark accreditation
  • Automatically monitors and reacts; Dyson Link app provides real time air quality reports and allows you to remotely control your machine from your smartphone standard data and messaging rates may apply
  • Features include night time mode, sleep timer, and an easy to clean aperture with no fast spinning blades so it’s safe for little fingers or paws
  • Other features include oscillation, 10 airspeed settings and automatic shut off if machine is tipped over; and no fast spinning blades so it’s safe for little fingers or paws; Refer to the PDF attached below in technical specification for user manual

This has been the best investment, it was expensive but it works so well at cooling the bedroom and the filter pulls the dander, dirt in the air, and dog hair. We bought ours in 2018 and I expect it to run for many more years. I buy Dyson filters but you can find less expensive ones on Amazon. It has been a lifesaver. 

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Levoit Purifier

  • A 45W long-life high-torque motor, a versatile 8.7″ x 8.7″ x 14.2″ size, a 7.48 lb weight, a 141CFM CADR and up to 219 ft² of purification area for original filter. Levoit Original Filter is HEPA-grade while operating in Sleep Mode, as tested by an independent lab
  • 𝐇𝐈𝐆𝐇 𝐏𝐄𝐑𝐅𝐎𝐑𝐌𝐀𝐍𝐂𝐄: Enjoy fresh air in minutes with the Core 300-P Air Purifier ( Model No.: Core 300), which has a CADR of 141 CFM/240 m³/h and can purify the air of 219 ft² space once/hour (based on Levoit’s Original Filters; not applicable to other replacement filters)
  • 𝐖𝐇𝐈𝐒𝐏𝐄𝐑 𝐐𝐔𝐈𝐄𝐓 𝐀𝐈𝐑 𝐂𝐋𝐄𝐀𝐍𝐄𝐑: Choose Sleep Mode at night and then forget all about your air purifier while you sleep. QuietKEAP Technology reduces noise levels to a near-silent 24dB in sleep mode, ensuring it won’t get in the way of a good night’s rest
  • 𝐒𝐋𝐄𝐄𝐊 𝐃𝐄𝐒𝐈𝐆𝐍: The Core300-P Air Purifier, Model No.: Core 300, practically serves your home while blending in with your decor. Its award-winning design (Red Dot, 2020) and modern white finish help your air purifier fit anywhere in your home/bedroom/room

These are the best air purifiers and they are affordable. We have three in the house, and they pull so much from the air that you’re surprised when you change the filters. The replacement filters are just as affordable. 

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Miele Vacuum 

Miele S2121 Capri Canister Vacuum Cleaner

  • Exceptionally lightweight
  • Air Clean filter
  • Dusting brush, upholstery tool, and crevice nozzle on VarioClip
  • 29.5-feet cleaning radius
  • Two floor tools included: Turbo Comfort turbo brush, ideal for low to medium pile carpeting, area rugs and all smooth flooring; and a Parquet floor tool for the gentle cleaning of smooth surfaces

This was another expensive item but boy it is worth it. We bought it in 2011 and it runs like a charm. They have the best vacuum bags that pull everything from the carpet, we use this vacuum throughout the entire house. The filters last a long time which was surprising considering we have two dogs. I expect we will have this vacuum a long time and they a highly respected brand. 

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Northwest Fireplace

Northwest 36 Inch Electric Fireplace with Wall Mount, Floor Stand, Remote, and Adjustable Heat and Brightness, Mahogany

  • ELECTRIC FIREPLACE HEATER – Add a luxe modern touch to any space with this wall fireplace. The included mounting hardware allows for easy installation as living room wall décor or use the removable stand for freestanding placement on your floor.
  • ADJUSTABLE SETTINGS – Featuring 2 heat modes (1500W or 750W) and adjustable flame brightness, the fireplace heater allows for customizable coziness. The flame effect on the fake fireplace can be used without the heater, making it ideal for all-season use.
  • SAFE AND CONVENIENT – With no actual flames, logs, or chimney required, this wall mounted heater is a convenient alternative to a real indoor fire, and the over-heating protection device makes the electric fireplace insert a safer option as well.
  • FUNCTIONAL HOME DECOR – The sleek black glass, mahogany paneling, and decorative faux logs on this top-vent wall fireplace electric with remote control will add a modern touch to any area, while warming any room up to 400-square-feet.
  • PRODUCT DETAILS – Materials: Tempered Glass and Steel. Dimensions (LxWxH): Without Stand: 35.5″ x 4.25” x 22″; Stand: 27.8″ x 3.8” x 8.4”; Cord: 71″. Power: 750/1500W, 110-120V, 60Hz. Includes: Mounting Hardware, Remote, and Faux Logs. Color: Mahogany.

I have this fireplace in my office; it can quickly heat up a room. It’s perfect for the size of my office and it makes a nice backdrop while working on my blog. I’ve had it since 2021 and have had no problems with it at all. Be sure to read the instructions and don’t have anything hanging too close to the fireplace. I have mine hanging on the wall so I can’t speak to having it on a stand, that doesn’t sound safe to me. 

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Melinda

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Why some people with Lyme disease don’t test positive for it

Important Read.

By Nancy Dougherty

The immune response in Lyme disease has been described as dysregulated or maladjusted.

This is supported in part by the fact that many individuals who clearly have Lyme disease do not make a detectable immune (antibody) response to Borrelia burgdorferi (Bb), the tick-borne pathogen that drives the disease.

Research at the Johns Hopkins University School of Medicine may provide insights into why this occurs.

Dendritic cells (DCs) are a broad class of immune cells that reside at strategic sentinel sites in the body, including the skin and GI tract.

Dendritic cells stand watch for pathogens

DCs constantly monitor their environment by gobbling up the fluid that surrounds them to sense when pathogens arrive on the scene. When they detect a pathogen, DCs stop capturing material and move to the closest lymph node.

There, DCs interact with T lymphocytes (T cells) to activate and drive pathogen-specific T cells to help initiate a strong immune response to clear the pathogen and resolve the infection.

When everything is working right, activated dendritic cells provide three signals to T cells (signals 1, 2 & 3) that synergize to generate a strong T cell activation.

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In a 2023 Johns Hopkins study, using proteomic and genomics-based approaches,  researchers found that DCs exposed to Borrelia burgdorferi were fully capable of generating signal 1 but signals 2 & 3 were abnormal. In fact, the features discovered overlapped with what is found in a tumor microenvironment, a site where immune responses are known to be suppressed and dysregulated.

A lead author of the publication, Mark Soloski, PhD, Professor Emeritus, Johns Hopkins University School of Medicine, divulges, “It has been known for some time that Borrelia burgdorferi is highly capable of evading the immune response, and this disruption of dendritic cell activation signaling is likely another clever way that Borrelia mutes the immune response.”

He adds, “Further study is needed to better understand the precise nature of the dendritic cell driven T cell responses in patients with Lyme disease.”

There are immediate implications, however.

Clearly, antibody-based diagnostic tests (the current standard) are going to miss those who are not making a normal antibody response due to Borrelia burgdorferi’s immune response disrupting behavior.

The need for direct testing

The need for effective direct diagnostic tests that identify Bb DNA or proteins directly has never been more obvious. Misdiagnosis and delayed diagnosis are indeed a common Lyme disease occurrence. Resulting treatment delays lead to worse prognoses, including potentially disabling chronic illness.

Fifty years after the discovery of Bb as the causative agent of Lyme disease, there are still no FDA-approved direct diagnostic tests for Lyme disease or treatments for persistent Lyme disease. These need to be developed, validated, and become broadly available.

Given that dendritic cells play such a key early role in immune response initiation, the novel features identified in Borrelia burgdorferi exposed cells may suggest new therapeutic targets that could help generate stronger, more robust immune responses in Lyme disease that could result in enhanced bacterial clearance and disease resolution. Immune modulators are effective therapeutic targets in cancer and could be promising therapeutic approaches for Lyme disease as well.

Nancy Dougherty is an education and communications consultant for the Johns Hopkins Lyme Disease Research Center

Melinda

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Lone star ticks “extremely active” in Kansas this year

As of May 29, the Kansas Department of Health and Environment (KDHE) has received over 200 laboratory reports of tick-borne diseases.

Additionally, KDHE has received several reports of tick bites and complaints of high numbers of ticks, which indicates that tick activity and density are increasing and are occurring earlier in the season this year.

Numerous tick-borne diseases caused by bacteria are present in Kansas.

These include ehrlichiosis, Rocky Mountain spotted fever and other spotted fever group rickettsioses (SFGR), and tularemia. Two rare tick-borne viruses, Heartland virus and Bourbon virus, have also been identified in Kansas in both humans and ticks.

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All of these tick-borne diseases are transmitted by the lone star tick, the most abundant tick in Kansas. Lone star ticks can be found widely throughout at least the eastern two-thirds of the state in a variety of habitats and are aggressive human biters.

This year alone, KDHE has investigated several tick-borne disease cases with severe health outcomes, including hospitalizations due to Rocky Mountain spotted fever and tularemia, and a fatal case of Bourbon virus.

“Vector-borne diseases, both those that are transmitted by ticks and those transmitted by mosquitoes are extremely active this year,” Dr. Erin Petro, KDHE State Public Health Veterinarian, said.

“I really encourage people to take the risk of vector-borne diseases seriously and take personal protective measures for themselves and their pets to reduce their chance of acquiring an illness from a tick or mosquito bite. We’re also seeing emerging tick-associated conditions, like alpha-gal syndrome, which can have lifelong consequences for those affected, which is why bite prevention is so important.”

SOURCE: Kansas Department of Health and Environment

Melinda

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Avril Lavigne, who has sung about Lyme, named to Order of Canada

Singer/songwriter Avril Lavigne has been named to the Order of Canada, that country’s highest civilian honor. It recognizes individuals for their “exceptional contributions” to Canada and humanity.

According to the official website for the Order of Canada:

Avril Lavigne is one of the best-selling female artists of all time. With over 50 million albums sold worldwide, she paved the way for female-driven punk-rock music and continues to do so today. Generous with her time, she supports individuals with serious illnesses, disabilities and Lyme disease through the Avril Lavigne Foundation. A global ambassador for Special Olympics, she promotes inclusion and helps end the stigma around intellectual disabilities.

Lavigne became severely debilitated by Lyme disease in 2014 and was bed-bound for two years. In 2018, she released the single “Head Above Water,” based on her Lyme experience.

The Avril Lavigne Foundation supports people with Lyme disease, and other serious illnesses or disabilities. Through programs and grants, it provides funding, education and encouragement for its beneficiaries.

Watch her official video of “Head Above Water” here:

She has done a great deal to educate the younger generations about Lyme Disease.

Melinda

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Let’s Honor Those Who Fought For Our Fredom This Independence Day On The 4th of July!

The 4th of July is one of the most important days for the Americas who are proud to call America home. To me, the 4th of July stands for what being American is about, bravery, honor, and doing what it takes to keep our country safe and free. Yes, we have our problems but I’m so proud to be America and it’s home for me. So many brave souls fought for our freedoms, many gave all but they were proud to fight for our country. I look beyond the surface of it being a day off work and fireworks but it is a day I’m deeply proud of and thank those that fought for my freedom. 

My Gramps and many of his brothers fought in WW11 and after my divorce at 19 years old I wanted to join the Air Force, Gramps said I was not cut out for the service, as the rules would be too hard on me. After 911 I wanted to list but the cut-off had been changed to 38 years old and I was 40. Gramps was right the service was not right for me and is not right for everyone but those who enlist are the ones who fight for our freedom today. I thank them for their sacrifices.  

Below is a great speech given by President Ronald Reagan called Patriotic Speech and a few songs I love about being an American. The one from Jonny Cash is especially moving. 

 

 

 

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July Awareness Days

It’s fascinating how the months were named and when. I didn’t learn this in high school History class. 

When Julius Caesar became Pontifex Maximus, he reformed the Roman calendar so that the 12 months were based on Earth’s revolutions around the Sun. It was a solar calendar, as we have today. January and February were moved to the front of the year, and leap years were introduced to keep the calendar year lined up with the solar year.

Fragile X Month

Frech-American Heratige Month

National Minority Mental Health Month

National Bison Month

Nation Cleft & Craniofacial Month

Sarcoma and Blood Cancer Month

UV Safety Awareness Month

Disability Pride Month

Minority Mental Health Awareness Month

Plastic Free July

Malala Day July 12th

Be Love Day July 16th

International Self-Care July 24th

World Heart Day July 29th

International Tiger Day July 29th

Melinda

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Why Does A Pain Relief Cream Burn?

I have been a proud Affiliate of Aromalief for many years and have written several reviews about their products. This post contains affiliate links that don’t cost you more, take you directly to their site, and help keep my coffee habit supplied.

OUR STORY

Hi, I’m Annabel! Welcome to Aromalief, a brand dedicated to helping women like you beat pain. I started Aromalief in 2018 to help my mom who was in pain. After wasting money on several products, I decided that my mom deserved better. 

With the help of a naturopathic chemist, we developed formulas that are clean, easy to apply and smell like rich essential oils. The experience of using Aromalief is like applying a luxurious body cream and not your grandfather’s pain reliever. 

Thousands of women across the US love and trust Aromalief and I am so proud of all the people who work at our small business (including my mom). 

– Annabel founder/daughter/mom

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Posted by Annabel Mendez on June 24, 2024

When you’re in pain, reaching for a pain relief cream can feel like a quick and easy solution. However, many people are familiar with the uncomfortable burning sensation that often accompanies the use of traditional pain relief creams. Understanding why this happens and how some products, like Aromalief, differ can help you make a more informed choice for your pain management needs.

Sensitive Skin

WHY DOES A PAIN RELIEF CREAM BURN?

1. ACTIVE INGREDIENTS

Many traditional pain relief creams contain ingredients like menthol, camphor, or capsaicin. These substances are known as counterirritants, meaning they create a mild irritation or sensation (like burning or cooling) on the skin to distract pain receptors from deeper pain.

  • Menthol and Camphor: These ingredients produce a cooling effect that can be intense, sometimes causing a burning sensation on sensitive skin.
  • Capsaicin: Derived from chili peppers, capsaicin works by depleting a neurotransmitter called Substance P, which is responsible for sending pain signals to the brain. The initial effect, however, can be a strong burning feeling as the nerve endings react.

2. SKIN SENSITIVITY

Individuals with sensitive skin or certain skin conditions like diabetes may experience heightened reactions to these active ingredients, resulting in a more pronounced burning sensation.

3. APPLICATION AMOUNT

Using too much cream or applying it too frequently can increase the intensity of the burning sensation. The concentration of active ingredients in the cream can lead to an overpowering effect if not used as directed. Some creams can have up to 25% active ingredients and even though this may sound like a good idea, the burning sensation may prove to be worse than the actual pain.

HOW AROMALIEF IS DIFFERENT

Aromalief has developed a premium formula that addresses pain relief without the intense burning sensation commonly associated with traditional creams. Our unique blend of active ingredients, nutrients, and botanicals are not found in other creams. When it comes to getting relief without the burning sensation here’s how:

Why Is Aromalief Different

1. SLOW RELEASE COOLING CRYSTALS

Aromalief incorporates slow-release cooling crystals in its formula. These crystals provide a gradual and gentle cooling effect, rather than an immediate and intense one. This slow release mechanism ensures sustained pain relief without the harsh burning feeling. Most companies don’t use this technology because it is 20x more expensive than traditional menthol or camphor. 

2. ALOE VERA

Aloe vera is well-known for its soothing and healing properties. It helps to calm irritated skin and reduce inflammation. In Aromalief, aloe vera works synergistically with the cooling crystals to enhance the overall soothing effect, making the cream more comfortable to use even on sensitive skin.

3. ALMOND OIL

Almond oil is a natural emollient that helps to moisturize and nourish the skin. It provides a protective barrier that not only enhances the skin’s hydration but also helps to minimize any potential irritation from the active ingredients. This makes Aromalief a gentler option for those with delicate skin.

Aromalief Vegan Pain Relief Cream

THE BENEFITS OF CHOOSING AROMALIEF

  • Gentle Yet Effective: Aromalief’s balance of slow-release cooling crystals, aloe vera, and almond oil offers effective pain relief without the discomfort of a burning sensation.
  • Skin-Friendly: The natural ingredients in Aromalief are designed to be kind to your skin, providing hydration and soothing effects along with pain relief.
  • Sustained Relief: The slow-release formula ensures that the cooling effect is long-lasting, providing extended relief from pain without the need for frequent reapplication.

CONCLUSION

While traditional pain relief creams can offer quick relief, the burning sensation they often cause can be a significant downside. Aromalief’s innovative approach with slow-release cooling crystals, aloe vera, and almond oil provides a more comfortable and skin-friendly alternative. By choosing Aromalief, you can experience effective pain relief without the burn, making it an ideal choice for those seeking both comfort and efficacy in their pain management solutions.

This blog post is not intended to provide medical advice. Please consult a physician.

I love the Hemp Pain Relief hand cream in Lavender and Orange the best.

Melinda

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New Rickettsial Pathogen Discovered In California

IMPORTANT READ!

Add a new spotted fever group Rickettsia to the long list of pathogens carried by West Coast ticks.

Researchers with the California Department of Public Health (CDPH) have identified a new species of rickettsial bacterium, called Rickettsia sp. CA6269. It is now confirmed to cause severe illness in humans.

The report, published in the July 2024 issue of CDC’s Emerging Infectious Diseases journal, documents two severe cases of Rocky Mountain spotted fever-like illnesses in patients residing in Northern California.

First found in rabbit ticks

The pathogen was first detected in rabbit ticks (Haemaphysalis leporispalustris) in Northern California in 2018. The researchers who discovered the pathogen have proposed naming it Candidatus Rickettsia lanei, after Robert S. Lane, PhD, Professor Emeritus of Medical Entomology, at the University of California, Berkeley.

Professor Lane, internationally recognized for his research on ticks and tick-borne diseases since the mid-1970s, has served on California’s Lyme Disease Advisory Committee since its inception in 2000 to the present.

For this study, CDPH researchers examined blood samples taken from a 2023 patient (first case below) and eight confirmed rickettsiosis cases collected over the past 20 years.

They used triplex real-time reverse transcription PCR (rRT-PCR)—a highly specialized tool to quickly detect specific RNA sequences. With this technique, researchers identified a new species of Rickettsia that very closely resembles Rickettsia rickettsii—the cause of Rocky Mountain spotted fever (RMSF).

Both patients were in San Francisco Bay Area

In the first case, the patient had been golfing several times in the San Francisco Bay Area but had no recollection of a tick bite. In the second case, the patient had been camping at two different parks in the San Francisco Bay Area. He remembered seeing a tick crawling on his body but did not recall a bite. (Note: In nearly half of all reported Rocky Mountain spotted fever cases, individuals do not recall a tick bite.)

Neither patient had traveled outside the San Francisco Bay Area in the two to three weeks prior to becoming ill.

In both cases, they were admitted to the hospital for high fever, severe headache, nausea, vomiting, diarrhea, abdominal pain, and other symptoms. One patient had a rash characteristic of RMSF. The other developed cutaneous necrosis (irreversible injury to skin cells) and gangrene, and lost portions of several fingers on both hands.

Each patient was started on a triple-combination of antibiotics that included ceftriaxone and vancomycin but did not include doxycycline.

Within days of being hospitalized, each patient went into a coma and respiratory failure and was transferred to intensive care. Each was then given a presumptive diagnosis of RMSF and started on doxycycline.

The first patient spent 22 days in the hospital, the second 13 days before being sent home. Both had continuing symptoms upon discharge.

Severe illness

In the United States, spotted fever rickettsiosis is spread by several species of ticks that are known to bite humans, including:

  • American dog tick (Dermacentor variabilis or D. similis)
  • Brown dog tick (Rhipicephalus sanguineus)
  • Gulf Coast tick (Amblyomma maculatum)
  • Lone star tick (Amblyomma americanum)
  • Rocky Mountain wood tick (Dermacentor andersoni)
  • Pacific Coast tick (Dermacentor occidentallis)

Based upon these cases, Rickettsia CA6269 (lanei) can progress into a severe life-threatening illness. While the rabbit tick rarely bites humans, it may have been the vector in at least these two cases although that awaits confirmation.

Rickettsial infections are prevalent worldwide but remain significantly under-diagnosed because clinicians are not aware of them, the general public also is not aware of them, and diagnostic tests are either not available, slow to detect infection, and/or non-specific.

At a “public engagement meeting,” on June 11, Anne Kjemtrup, DVM, MPVM, PhD, with the California Department of Public Health, gave an update on RMSF.

In the image below, the number of reported California cases of RMSF is summarized by county of residence. Of those cases acquired outside of California, 36% were from tick bites in Mexico, and 34% were from visits to the Southeastern U.S.

Signs and Symptoms of RMSF

Early signs and symptoms of RMSF can be vague and non-specific, including fever and headache. However, the disease can rapidly progress to a life-threatening illness, even before a rash appears.

Signs and symptoms can include:

  • Fever
  • Headache
  • Rash
  • Nausea or vomiting
  • Stomach pain
  • Muscle pain
  • Lack of appetite

The CDC advises immediate treatment with doxycycline whenever rickettsiosis is suspected.

LymeSci is written by Lonnie Marcum, a physical therapist and mother of a daughter with Lyme. She served two terms on a subcommittee of the federal Tick-Borne Disease Working Group. Follow her on Twitter: @LonnieRhea  Email her at: lmarcum@lymedisease.org.

 

Resources

References

Probert WS, Haw MP, Nichol AC, Glaser CA, Park SY, Campbell LE, et al. Newly recognized spotted fever group Rickettsia as cause of severe Rocky Mountain spotted fever–like illness, Northern California, USA. Emerg Infect Dis. 2024 Jul [date cited]. https://doi.org/10.3201/eid3007.231771

Eremeeva ME, Weiner LM, Zambrano ML, Dasch GA, Hu R, Vilcins I, Castro MB, Bonilla DL, Padgett KA. Detection and characterization of a novel spotted fever group Rickettsia genotype in Haemaphysalis leporispalustris from California, USA. Ticks Tick Borne Dis. 2018 May;9(4):814-818. doi: 10.1016/j.ttbdis.2018.02.023. Epub 2018 Mar 1. PMID: 29545107.

I this adds to the knowledge bank but remember there are more undiscovered than discovered.

Melinda

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The Unsung Heroes: Supporting Loved Ones Through Pain By Guest Blogger Mind Strength

 
 
Discover the Strength Behind Those Who Share the Burden of Their Loved Ones’ Suffering When we think about pain, our minds often turn to the person who is directly suffering. But what about those who feel the pain of someone else? It’s a complex and challenging experience that can leave one feeling helpless and unsure … Continue reading
 
 
Her words resonate with me, with each post she helps me look inward and take what I’ve learned outward. Pull up a chair and visit her archives.
 
Melinda 
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Happy Father’s Day Gramps

Many of you know I was extremely close to both of my Grandparents, we loved each other dearly. Not only did they pull me from rock bottom, but they made sure I had the tough love needed to get away from the bad crowd I was hanging with, my drug addiction, and recover from my childhood trauma. It was truly unconditional love. I went to live with them after a year of bad girl boarding school at the age of 14 and they became my legal guardians. 

My Granny worked with my Social Worker to find the right type of rehabilitation, it was a boarding school at a Convent that she remembered from her youth. It was just what I needed. They paid for my uniforms, the necessary towels and sheets, and a monthly allowance of $40 to buy a soda pop and a candy bar daily and they bought my cigarettes. Since I was a ward of the State of Texas, the state paid the yearly tuition. They came every Wednesday to the family group sessions and Granny would make enough goodies for my dorm or bring enough of the good candy everyone loved. We weren’t allowed to talk but the nuns let them come in for a minute to give me the goodies to share. 

My Gramps had just retired and no doubt thought more about hunting, fishing, and his daily squirrel run to the levees. But he embraced me and taught the lessons of life, the ones that matter, they became my foundation. They cooked every day except for Saturday when they went to El Chico’s for Mexican food, I joined them long after leaving home, it was a special time between us. 

A sketch I did of Gramps playing scratch-off games

Gramps enjoyed scratch-off games and we often gave them as treats, he would not but for himself. So we did.

These were his core values:

Work hard

Do it right the first time

If you borrow something, give it back in better shape

Always make time for family

Don’t hate

Stand up for yourself

Marriage was sacred

If you can do it yourself it means more

He was right on target and I have those values today and what I looked for in my husband.

He was very protective all my life but when it came to boys, he was extra tough.  With a strict curfew, I couldn’t drive my car on weekends, only to school, to take Granny shopping or doctor appointments, and to work. He knew my schedule like clockwork. I had to pay him 8 dollars a week for gas and 50 dollars for the extra insurance. He taught me responsibility and accountability. There were no excuses unless it was a freak thing and I had to call before my curfew. Even 5 minutes late was late. I can’t thank him enough.

My Gramps was from a very poor family who were sharecroppers and self-taught wielders. He joined the Army in 1939 to leave poverty and build a better life for himself and he did just that. After leaving the Army, he worked as a mechanic for Greyhound Bus Line’s for 38 years, and he never accepted a promotion, he felt most comfortable working with his hands alone and had no BS from management. I can understand that.

 He married only once to my Granny and loved her to the day she died. He had the strength to move forward and he built a full life after her death, by going to the recreation center every day, eating a 1 dollar lunch, always giving his milk to a man who needed it, and then playing dominos, for an hour or two. He made great friends there and they were in his life until the end. He tried indoor swimming which shocked me, even had a couple of friends visit him and he visited them. He believed in taking something every time he visited someone.

Money was important to build a simple humble life, never wanting more than he needed to provide. He accepted my Granny’s only son, my father, and no doubt he was a handful. He didn’t discipline my father, that was Granny’s job because he never wanted to impose on her. He was a happy man, witty, like a clean but dirty joke, not raunchy. He accepted people for who they were and felt everyone was equal except for a few. He was racist towards blacks, I’m not sure where that came from. He didn’t hate them but didn’t allow them in his house. He never spoke ill of anyone even though many family members deserved it. 

He loved his family and the ones that mattered the most to him who were still alive, visited him during the last few weeks of his life. He didn’t tell anyone until I brought the phone book into the living room one day and said it was time to call family and friends. 

The mold was broken when they made my Gramps, he was a proud man, who kept his word and took people at face value even to a fault. There were many hillbilly’s in the family and a few shady dealers but it didn’t matter to him. 

Gramps called me Pud since I was a child until the end. It was something just between us and always meant love to me. I’m the person I am today abuse of their love and faith in my future. He only went to 3rd grade and Granny to 5th grade, that is what happens when you are poor and can’t afford the clothes or were needed at home to work. They made sure I went to school every day except the few occasional Granny would write a note so we could go have fun shopping for the formals I needed for high school. We pinched pennies, went to outlets, and found all my formals for under 20 dollars. Gramps wore nothing but Dickies work pants and they wore them out before buying new. I learned late that you don’t need more, but the best you can afford, don’t show off and be proud of what you have. 

I spent the last 5 months of his life caring for him around the clock, sleeping in the front bedroom/junk room, and boy was he a handful. He expected me to be like Granny and keep everything like clockwork which is exhausting when you’re a caregiver. He was hard-headed and I get that from him. 

My Gramps was a true American, as Toby Kieth sings, he fixed everything with a Craftsman wreck and WD 40, always drove American cars, did all the maintenance and car repairs he could, was an excellent lawnmower repair man, and fixed many for others.  

I can go on and on but I will leave it here for another time. He was the only father I had, yes, I had a biological father but he didn’t know how to be a one due to an undiaonosised mental illness and he was an alcoholic.  

The video says it all. RIP Keith, your songs added to the fabric of our lives. 

 

Melinda

 

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A Country Boy Can Survive

The Story of Hank Williams Jr. is rich in music history but did you know he had an horrific fall during an avalanche that almost took his life. It’s a story of the strength, strength we all have inside to live and to fight for it. It was a catapulting moment for him. Watch the entire video, you’ll see the magic. 

A Country Boy Can Survive was written by Toby Keith and his breakout song. He believed strongly in songs he wrote himself and stayed true to his roots. RIP Toby, we know you have the sunshine. The video was taken during a tribute to Country’s Greatest Music Heros. It tells Hank Jr.’s story and you can see him proudly sitting in the front row beaming. 

Toby Keith – A Country Boy Can Survive

God does answer prayers. 
 
Melinda
 
I have no clue why WordPress shows the post correctly as I’m writing yet when I preview and once it’s posted there is all this space between. That’s on WP, as always. 
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I’m Sending You Joy This Rosh Hashanah-Sunset September 23, 2025 –

Happy New Year! I pray you’re surrounded by friends, family and good food. As I understand it, Rosh Hashanah starts the New Year and many rituals follow back to the bible.

Melinda

 

 

 

 

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Holy Day Yom Kippur

Yom Kippur translates from Hebrew to English as Day of Atonement. Traditionally, Jews spend the holiday fasting and reflecting on sins committed over the past year. Even if you’re not Jewish, you can acknowledge the holiday, and it is indeed respectful to share well wishes to your friends and colleagues who do observe.

According to tradition, it is on Yom Kippur that God decides each person’s fate, so Jews are encouraged to make amends and ask forgiveness for sins committed during the past year. The holiday is observed with a 25-hour fast and a special religious service. Yom Kippur and Rosh Hashanah are known as Judaism’s “High Holy Days.”

God judges all creatures during the 10 Days of Awe between Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur, deciding whether they will live or die in the coming year. Jewish law teaches that God inscribes the names of the righteous in the “book of life” and condemns the wicked to death on Rosh Hashanah; people who fall between the two categories have until Yom Kippur to perform “teshuvah,” or repentance. As a result, observant Jews consider Yom Kippur and the days leading up to it a time for prayer, good deeds, reflecting on past mistakes and making amends with others.

Yom Kippur is one of the Holiest of days of the year along with Rosh Hashanah. I pray you can look into your heart and reflect on the sins you’ve made against God. L’shana Tova. 

Melinda

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Will Having Children Change Your Marriage?

There is no denying that your life is going to change once you have children. This is the biggest change in anyone’s life. You and your partner have created another human. You will experience a love you have never experienced before. You will have a sense of responsibility you have never experienced before. You will be doing and learning about things you have never done before. It is only natural that this has an impact on the dynamic of your relationship. So, with that being said, let’s take a look at some of the common ways that relationships change once you have had kids.

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Your relationship will end up getting a bit neglected 


This is only natural. You don’t end up nurturing or prioritizing your relationship in the way that you should because you now have a crying baby to attend to all of the time. You will not have the attention and time you did for one and another before the baby. This can be difficult. However, it is important to try and make some time for one and another whenever you can. If your family offers to look after your baby so you can have a date night, take advantage of it. 

You have a new bond 

No matter how tough it gets, you will find that you have a new bond. Yes, lack of sleep takes its toll. Nevertheless, you have brought a beautiful baby into the world, which makes you smile and laugh. You will feel closer than ever. Despite the ups and downs, this strong sense of unity will be there. 

You might hate your partner a little bit 

Hate is a bit of a strong word here because it is rarely genuine hate, although it can feel like it at the time. You may find yourself snapping at your partner 24/7 or resenting them for going to work. It is important to recognize that your hormones are all over the place. You may think you need a divorce lawyer, but try to be patient and work through it. Of course, there are cases whereby divorce is the only option but take your time here. Most people refer to this stage as early mood swings. Not only have you gone through hormonal changes but you are probably suffering from a severe lack of sleep too. This is completely normal, so long as it does not turn into postpartum depression. 

As you can see, there are a number of different ways that your relationship may change once you have had children. Some of these changes are positive and some are negative. However, it is important to acknowledge and accept these changes. Don’t be hard on yourself or your partner. You are both adjusting to a new way of life, and that in itself can be a challenge. Nevertheless, it is the most beautiful challenge of them all! 

This is a collaborative post.

Melinda

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How Cultures Around The World Think About Parenting

What can American parents learn from how other cultures look at parenting? A look at child-rearing ideas in Japan, Norway, Spain — and beyond.

The crisis of American parenting, as anyone who has looked at the parenting section of a bookstore can attest, is that nobody knows what the hell they’re doing. Yet despite this lack of confidence and apparent absence of knowledge, many American parents zealously believe that their choices carve out their children’s futures. Indeed, they seek the advice of expert after expert in the field in order to succeed at one goal: to raise the happiest, the most successful, and the most well-adjusted leaders of the future.

But what dangers lay in thinking that there is one “right” way to parent? How much of how we parent is actually dictated by our culture? How do the ways we parent express the essentialness of who we are, as a nation?

“Americans have no script,” says Jennifer Senior (TED Talk: For parents, happiness is a very high bar), author of All Joy and No Fun: The Paradox of Modern Parenthood. “We believe we get to invent our future, our opportunities and who are our children are going to be. Which is wonderful, but also very troubling.”

In reporting her book, says Senior, when she asked mothers who they went to for parenting advice, they named friends, websites and books. None named their own mothers. Only the most current child-rearing strategies were desired, in order to best position their children for achievement in the future.

In other words, that which is most American about us — our belief that the future is unwrit — is what is driving us mad as parents. Senior paraphrases Margaret Mead, who wrote this in 1942: In America, there are only this year’s children.

In Norway, childhood is strongly institutionalized, says Norwegian sociologist and economist Margunn Bjornholt. Indeed, most children enter state-sponsored daycare at 1 year old (parents first get almost a full year of state-sponsored leave from work), then enter school and organized activities.

Norwegians believe that it is better for children to be in daycare as toddlers. At daycare, methods reflect the country’s fetishistic dedication to fresh air. So even in Oslo, where arguably the indoor air quality is fresher, and even in Scandinavian winters, children are bundled up and taken outside to nap in their strollers.

Craziness? Culture. In Japan, where Gross-Loh lives part of the year, she lets her 4-year-old daughter run errands with her 7-year-old sister and 11-year-old brother — without parental supervision. Her kids don’t hesitate to take the Tokyo subways by themselves and walk on busy streets alone, just like their Japanese peers. But when she comes back to the States, Gross-Loh doesn’t allow the same.

“If I let them out on their own like that in the U.S., I wouldn’t just get strange looks,” she says. “Somebody would call Child Protective Services.”

Both in Japan and Norway, parents are focused on cultivating independence. Children do things alone early, whether it’s walking to school or to the movies. The frames, however, are different. In Scandinavia, there is an emphasis on a democratic relationship between parents and children. In Sweden especially, the “rights” of a child are important. For example, a child has the “right” to access their parents’ bodies for comfort, and therefore should be allowed into their parents’ bed with them in the middle of the night. If a parent doesn’t allow them, they are both denying them their rights and being a neglectful parent. In parts of Asia, meanwhile, co-sleeping with a family member through late childhood is common. Korean parents spend more time holding their babies and having physical contact than most. But within a family, obedience is key — not democracy.

In Jewish tradition, says Wendy Mogel, a clinical psychologist and author of The Blessing of a B Minus: Using Jewish Teachings to Raise Resilient Teenagers, there’s a teaching in the Talmud that every parent has an obligation to teach their child how to swim.

“We’re supposed to be raising our children to leave us,” she says. “They must develop self-reliance and resourcefulness and resilience, which is a challenge, because we must allow our children to make mistakes.”

This is enormously hard for American parents to do. “Parents are genuinely anxious about really big things like the melting ice caps and collapsing economy and the unending stories about violence and predators and college admissions,” says Mogel. “They displace all of these fears of things they can’t control onto the one thing they believe they can control, which is children.”

American parents are highly focused on making sure that their children’s talents are groomed for success. Sara Harkness, a professor in the Department of Human Development and Family Studies at the University of Connecticut and a pioneering researcher on parenting and culture, found that nearly 25 percent of all of the descriptors used by American parents were a derivation of “smart,” “gifted” or “advanced.” “Our sense of needing to push children to maximize potential is partly driven by fear of the child failing in an increasingly competitive world where you can’t count on the things that our parents could count on,” Harkness suggests.

This is not unlike many Asian nations, where parenting, from a very early age, is focused highly on academics and college acceptance. One Korean mother who Harkness interviewed played English tapes to her 2-month-old baby “because it’s never too early to start,” she says. The parent’s primary role is as an educator, and the child’s role is to respect the parent and repay them with sacrifices.

In the Netherlands, meanwhile, parents used “smart” to describe their children only 10 percent of the time. Dutch parents believe strongly in not pushing their children too hard. “People would talk about a cousin who got a PhD and was very unhappy because there were no jobs at universities, and said that you shouldn’t teach your child to read before they got to school, because then your child would be bored at school and not have any friends,” says Harkness.

Instead, regularly scheduled rest, food and a pleasant environment are the top priorities for Dutch parents.

But in Spain, where families are focused on the social and interpersonal aspects of child development, parents are shocked at the idea of a child going to bed at 6:30pm and sleeping uninterrupted until the next day, instead of interacting and participating in family life in the evenings. “They were horrified at the concept,” says Harkness. “Their kids were going to bed at 10 p.m.”

In the U.S., we want to be Korean and Dutch and Japanese and Jewish and Norwegian and Spanish, all at once. “What is unique to us is the desire to be happy all the time and experience no discomfort and achieve,” says Mogel. “These are competing values.”

The American desire for solutions is starting to radiate outwards. A growing awareness of the scarcity of resources, and the potential for true social mobility, is increasing the pressure on parents globally to “parent” their kids, as a verb. In Taiwan, the most popular parenting books are translations of American guides.

Yet parental anxiety is a terrible idea to export. Instead, “we should be learning from each other,” says Harkness, “and recognizing that there are very different successful pathways to raising children.”

The diversity of ideas should be liberating, not stress-inducing, agrees Gross-Loh. “It was incredibly freeing to realize that there was no single way to do things and it’s totally okay to make mistakes as a parent,” says Gross-Loh of her research. “It gave me space to let my children be who they are, and let them grow into that.”

The U.S., home to immigrants who bring their own traditions from around the world, is uniquely positioned to both learn and let go. American parents can recast their scriptlessness as they see fit, drawing on both global tradition and present theory. Will they? Tomorrow’s children may decide.

For those who live outside of America, I would love to hear your perception’s, please leave a comment. I can take the good, bad and the ugly.

Melinda

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Amy S. Choi is a freelance journalist, writer and editor based in Brooklyn, N.Y. She is the co-founder and editorial director of The Mash-Up Americans, a media and consulting company that examines multidimensional modern life in the U.S.

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Researchers: Parents can help their children to face anxiety

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Behavioral science expert gives some ways to help your child beat separation anxiety

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NEW HAVEN, Conn. – According to the National Institutes of Health, the numbers of kids and adolescents struggling with anxiety, depression, and other mental health conditions have been steadily on the rise. Cognitive-behavioral therapy, which teaches the child coping skills, and medication may help. But for some kids and their families, there is little relief. Now, researchers are studying a new method that helps parents help their children.

Bedtime for some families can become a struggle. But when the goodnight routine for Nicole Murphy’s son began to stretch for up to three hours, she knew she needed help with his separation anxiety.

“His little mind was always racing nonstop. So, it was kind of hard for him to shut that off, I think,” Nicole explained.

Eli Lebowitz, Ph.D., Psychologist, Yale School of Medicine Child Study Center, and his colleagues, developed a method of training parents to support anxious children. It’s called SPACE, or supportive parenting for anxious childhood emotions. Parents go through training to help their child face anxiety. Lebowitz says the first step is to show support and not downplay what their child is feeling.

“I get it. This is really hard, but I know you can handle it,” shared Dr. Lebowitz.

Lebowitz said parents also learn to help their children by not accommodating them. For example, a parent who would limit visitors for a child who gets anxious around strangers, or speaks for a child who gets nervous speaking, learns not to take those steps. In a study of 124 kids and their parents, the Yale researchers examined whether SPACE intervention was effective in treating children’s anxiety.

“Even though the children never met directly with the therapist and all the work was done through the parents, we found that SPACE was just as effective as CBT in treating childhood anxiety disorders,” stated Dr. Lebowitz.

The Murphy’s used the techniques learned through SPACE to coach their son through bedtime. Within a few weeks, he was falling asleep in 30 minutes.

“For us, it was like life-changing, honestly,” smiled Nicolle.

Melinda

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Review of Aromalief Lavender Hemp Pain Relief Cream

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I’m reviewing Aromalief Hemp Pain Relief, Hemp 1000MG as a member of Chronic Illness Bloggers

I was thrilled to find the product is cruelty-free, vegan, PETA approved, and in a relaxing Lavender scent. I have not tried Hemp cream products before because of the smell and was eager to see how well the cream worked.

This post may contain affiliate links in which I earn a small commission. They don’t cost you extra to use and help fund my coffee habit. 

Here’s some information about Aromalief

What about the safety of the product?

Aromalief is made in an FDA registered facility and each ingredient has a Safety Data Sheet and Certificate of Analysis. We buy only high-quality ingredients from reputable suppliers and do our own internal testing for everyone’s peace of mind.

How do you make sure Aromalief is Vegan and Cruelty-free?

Every ingredient that we source comes with a written letter from the ingredient manufacturer that the product does not contain any animal ingredients and that they do not test it on animals. The manufacturing line also has a strict vegan-only policy. Aromalief is proud to have PETA’s Vegan & Cruelty-free designation.

What type of pain is Aromalief good for?

Pains of the body and the soul. This includes muscle, joint, nerve, and chronic pains PLUS stress, anxiety, and sadness. Our ingredients are the best in the market to help relieve pain due to arthritis, back pain, herniated discs, carpal tunnel, tennis elbow, and more. If your type of pain isn’t listed here, we still encourage you to try it. If it doesn’t help you, then simply return it. Have a little faith and try Aromalief.

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The cream has a subtle lavender and menthol scent, not overpowering. I have slightly sensitive skin and the cream didn’t cause any sensitivity. There are other scents available that I have not tried. I love this one and keep buying this scent, I need to give another scent a try.  

It rubs in quickly, no greasy fingers on the keypad. It has a warming sensation that eases inflammation. I focused on three areas, neuropathy in my feet, sore shoulder muscles, and arthritis in my hands.

Right away I noticed a difference in my feet, they could touch each other without pain. It lasted long enough for me to go to sleep. My shoulders are always tense and I have a problem relaxing at night. I used the cream on my worst shoulder and it did warm up the muscles helping me to relax and sleep.

The thing I love the most about the cream is how well it worked on arthritis in my fingers, I also noticed neuropathy relief in hands. The fact that the cream dries enough to get right back on the computer is a huge bonus.

I have already bought six tubes to make part of my daily self-care routine. Aromalief is a great everyday hand cream too. There are several scents to try, it’s made in The USA and is women-owned. Let’s support our women-owned business when possible. 

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A special thank you to Annabel at Aromalief and Chronic Illness Bloggers.

In health,

Melinda

 

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Happy Mothers Day

I’m sending kind thoughts to all the mothers out there. My hope is your children know how deep your love goes and that love never goes away.

Melinda