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Blogger Highlight-Susana Cabaço

Thank you for all the great feedback on the Blogger Highlight series, I’ve enjoyed meeting each blogger and sharing their site with you. This week we highlight the blog of Susana Cabaco.    

Susana Cabaço

Spiritual Insights & Personal Empowerment

Susana Cabaço, PhD, is a biologist who graduated from the University of Algarve (Portugal), where she worked for many years in scientific research on ecology, and a mystic who, for decades, has been journeying the paths of spirituality. Love for Spirit and Nature led her naturally to share her unique spiritual visions and more conscious ways of living, namely veganism, in order to bring forward individual and global expansion of awareness, balance, and well-being.

Copyright © 2024 Susana Cabaço. All rights reserved.

Susana and I started following each other this week and I can already tell you she’s generous. Check out her blog and the books she has written.

Melinda

Looking for the Light

 

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Do You Take Multi-Vitamins? Do They Work?

Just like Supplements, you have to be vigilant when shopping for Multi-Vitamins. Many manufacturers put a variety of supplements in the dose and you may not be aware of it. Vitamin is a huge market, think about all the manufacturers have to do to grab your attention. To me the louder they shout the more I run away. I go to the manufactures site for information and Amazon for reviews and probably buy.

One of the top-level searches I request is Vegan and Bunny certified. You probably won’t find the Bunny certification unless they make other products that are certified. Putting Vegan in any search, even make-up I use Vegan to sort out the masses.

I would do a few searches on the top-selling multivitamins. That will hopefully pull up the most recent reviews. Another secret weapon is to go to Amazon. You can search and go to manufacturers’ websites or go straight for reviews on Amazon. You can ask the Pharmacist if the multivitamin has an effect on your other prescriptions. You might not get the complete answer but you will probably get a referral for a trusted brand.

Millions of Americans take multivitamins and other supplements, but convincing scientific evidence of any true health benefit is lacking, experts say. Now a new study explores why people continue to consume nutritional supplements.

“Most people were using supplements because they believe it will improve their health, but we really don’t know whether that’s true,” said study lead author Regan Bailey, a nutritional epidemiologist in the Office of Dietary Supplements at the U.S. National Institutes of Health.

“Moreover, the vast majority of supplements used in the U.S. are based on personal choice, not because they are recommended by health care professionals,” she added.

Nearly half of U.S. adults use dietary supplements, Bailey noted, and supplements are a $30-billion-a-year business.

“People have very strong beliefs about these products and I don’t know where they are getting their information,” Bailey said. “It’s not from the doctors. The majority of scientific data available do not support the role of dietary supplements for improving health or preventing of disease.”

Should I Take a Daily Multivitamin?

Nearly half of adults in the U.S. and 70% of older adults ages 71+ take a vitamin; about one-third of them use a comprehensive multivitamin pill. [1] But is this truly a necessity?

There are certain diseases caused by a lack of specific nutrients in the diet. Classic examples include scurvy (from a lack of vitamin C), beriberi (vitamin B1), pellagra (vitamin B3), and rickets (vitamin D). But these conditions are rare in the U.S. and other developed countries where there is generally more access to a wide range of foods, some of which are fortified with vitamins. Individual vitamin supplementation may also be essential in certain cases, such as a deficiency caused by long-term poor nutrition or malabsorption caused by the body’s digestive system not functioning properly.

Who May be at Risk for a Nutrient Deficiency?

For those who eat a healthful diet, a multivitamin may have little or no benefit. A diet that includes plenty of fruits, vegetables, whole grains, good protein sources, and healthful fats should provide most of the nutrients needed for good health. But not everyone manages to eat a healthful diet. When it comes to specific vitamins and minerals, some Americans get less than adequate amounts, according to criteria set by the National Academy of Medicine. For example, more than 90% of Americans get less than the Estimated Average Requirement for vitamin D and vitamin E from food sources alone. [2]

Certain groups are at higher risk for a nutrient deficiency:

  • Older age. The elderly are at risk for poor food intake for various reasons: difficulty chewing and swallowing food, experiencing unpleasant taste changes caused by multiple medications, or isolation and loneliness that can depress appetite. They also have trouble absorbing vitamin B12 from food. The National Academy of Medicine, in fact, recommends that people over the age of 50 eat foods fortified with vitamin B12 or take vitamin B12 pills that are better absorbed than from food sources. [3]
  • Pregnancy. Getting enough folate, a B vitamin, is especially important for women who may become pregnant, since adequate folate can help lower the risk of having a baby with spina bifida or anencephaly. For the folate to be effective, it must be taken in the first few weeks of conception, often before a woman knows she is pregnant. Yet in the U.S., half of all pregnancies are unplanned. That’s why the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention recommend that all women of childbearing age (ages 15 to 45) consume 600 micrograms a day of folic acid. [3] This amount and other important nutrients for pregnancy—iron, calcium, vitamin D, and DHA—are available in a prenatal multivitamin.
  • Malabsorption conditions. Any condition that interferes with normal digestion can increase the risk of poor absorption of one or several nutrients. Examples:
    • Diseases like celiac, ulcerative colitis, or cystic fibrosis.
    • Surgeries that remove parts of digestive organs such as having a gastric bypass for weight loss or a Whipple procedure that involves many digestive organs.
    • Illnesses that cause excess vomiting or diarrhea can prevent nutrients from being absorbed.
    • Alcoholism can prevent nutrients, including several B vitamins and vitamin C, from being absorbed.
  • Certain medications. Some diuretics commonly prescribed to lower blood pressure can deplete the body’s stores of magnesium, potassium, and calcium. Proton pump inhibitors prescribed for acid reflux and heartburn can prevent the absorption of vitamin B12 and possibly calcium and magnesium. Levodopa and carbidopa prescribed for Parkinson’s disease can reduce the absorption of B vitamins including folate, B6, and B12.

Which Multivitamin Should I Choose? 

Multivitamins come in various forms (tablets, capsules, liquids, powders) and are packaged as a specific combination of nutrients (B-complex, calcium with vitamin D) or as a comprehensive multivitamin.

Supplements are a multibillion-dollar industry, with endless designer labels of brands from which to choose. However, an expensive brand name is not necessary as even standard generic brands will deliver results. Look for one that contains the Recommended Daily Allowance amounts and that bears the United States Pharmacopeia (USP) seal of approval on the label. This seal ensures that the ingredients and amounts of that ingredient listed on the label are contained in the pill. The USP also runs several tests that confirm the pill to be free of contaminants like heavy metals and pesticides and has been manufactured under sanitary and regulated conditions.

That said, you may wish to consider the following factors before starting a multivitamin or any supplemental vitamin.

Reasons to use a multivitamin:

  • I am eating a limited diet or my appetite is poor so I am eating less than usual.
  • I am following a restricted diet for longer than one week. This could be prescribed such as a liquid diet after a surgical procedure, or a self-imposed diet such as one with the goal of weight loss.
  • I have a condition that reduces my body’s ability to absorb nutrients (celiac disease, ulcerative colitis) or have undergone surgery that interferes with the normal absorption of nutrients (gastric bypass surgery, Whipple procedure).
  • I temporarily have increased nutrient needs, such as being pregnant.
  • I’m very busy and just can’t eat a balanced diet every day.

Reasons that may not need a multivitamin:

  • I eat well but am feeling tired all the time (discuss first with your doctor so they can investigate other possible causes).
  • I eat a pretty good diet but want to improve my health as much as possible, so it couldn’t hurt to get some extra nutrition from a vitamin.
  • I have osteoporosis and need more calcium, or I have iron-deficiency anemia and need more iron (in both scenarios, you may only need to take those individual nutrients rather than a comprehensive multivitamin).

If you are unsure about taking a multivitamin, you may wish to consult with a registered dietitian who can evaluate your current diet to determine any missing nutrients. At that time, suggestions to improve your food intake of those nutrients will be provided, or one or more supplemental vitamins may be prescribed if that is not possible. Always inform your doctor of all supplements you are taking in case of potential interactions with medications.

The bottom line for me is, if you think it works, it works. Be sure to research the ingredients so you know how the ingredients or other supplements can affect your medications. The approach to multivitamins seems to try to see what sticks on the wall. I’m amazed at some of the other supplements I find when searching for a multivitamin.

Look for one that contains the Recommended Daily Allowance amounts and that bears the United States Pharmacopeia (USP) seal of approval on the label.

Melinda

References:

Web MD

Harvard

 

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Just Pondering

 

What a gift it is when something captures our attention while we are going through our everyday routines.

A flower growing in an unlikely place, a rainbow appearing in a puddle….. 

What is something that recently made you stop and take in its beauty?

Yesterday, I enjoyed two woodpeckers eating, we have 2 species of woodpeckers, one is tall and the other is a small Ladderback. They are so cool and happy to share food and birdbath.

Melinda

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American Awareness Days For April

Irritable Bowel Syndrome Awareness Month

National Autism Awareness Month

National Child Abuse Prevention Month

National Donate Life Month

National Minority Health Month

National Parkinson’s Awareness Month

National Public Health Week (April 1- 7)

National Youth HIV/AIDS Awareness Day (April 10)

Congenital Diaphragmatic Hernia Awareness Month

No doubt April has many important awareness days and they are worth checking out.

The month of May looks full of Awareness Days.

Melinda

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Use Essential Oils To Ease Headache And Migraine Pain

Willow & Sage by Stamptington

Headaches fall into four categories-migraine, tension, sinus, or sugar and each category can be treated with essential oils to ease the pain. A migraine is often caused by insomnia, stress, anxiety, or hormonal changes, while a tension headache usually comes from stress or strain. A sinus headache occurs when the nasal passages become clogged and cause pressure to build up within your sinuses, and a sugar headache stems from low blood sugar levels. Here are a few tips for treating each type with essential oils.

Migraine

Rub lavender or peppermint essential oil on your temples and back of the neck to relieve pain and nausea.

Tension

Rub eucalyptus or peppermint essential oil on your temple, forehead, and wrists. Or draw a warm bath and add 5-10 drops of lavender essential oil before soaking 10-20 minutes. Make sure to get in slowly and drink plenty of water afterward.

Sinus

Rub eucalyptus essential oil on your temples, chest, and nose to help open up nasal airways.

Sugar

Mix equal drops of lavender essential oil, rosemary essential oil, and coconut oil, and rub on your temples, forehead, and back of the neck.

 

Essential Oil Benefits 

Peppermint: cooling effect, inhibits muscle contractions, and stimulates blood flow.

Rosemary:  improves alertness, stimulates blood flow, and soothes nausea

Lavender:  relieves tension, treats neurological conditions, and helps regulate sleep.

Eucalyptus:. helps remove toxins, opens nasal passages, and promotes emotional balance.

Notes

Make sure to test out the oil on a small patch of skin before using.

For sensitive areas such as the face, dilute the oil first with a carrier oil.

Melinda

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Just Pondering

What is the one routine you have that makes you feel content and satisfied?

Why do you value it so much?

 

Melinda

Field Guide by Stampington

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Fibromyalgia Thoughts #12-Celebrating

This post is really more of a celebration of my Fibromyalgia staying under control or flare’s have been lighter. This year my other health issues have taken center stage, and I was lucky to avoid a total flare.

Some days I wake in a fog, I don’t fight it and go lie down. How productive is staring at a computer screen or out the back window?   I’m more forgiving of myself now and know I’m blessed to be able to focus on my health. I can’t imagine how hard it is to have Fibromyalgia, or any chronic illness, and work, care for kids, or other family matters. My hat’s off to those who manage daily life.

Don’t overdo it! 

I have Bursitis in both hips and receive steroid shots to manage the pain. The shots start to wear off in two months but I have to wait until the three-month mark. This is when my hip pain elevates, and having a flare on top of is excruciating. Some days it’s hard to walk, especially the stairs, these are the days my husband jumps in to help me manage the day.

I send well wishes to everyone who has Fibromyalgia, remember towmorrow is a new day.

You’re not alone and talking to someone could change the mood of your day.

Melinda

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From Family Cookbook-Dump Cake

The family cookbook contains recipes, my Gramps & Granny used often and is the type of food I grew up on. Good ole Southern food like my Gramps dumplings, to Grannie’s pecan pie.

What you need

 

9 x 13-inch baking pan

1 cup crushed pineapple, drained

1 can Cherry Pie Filling

1 yellow cake mix

1 cup pecans

How To Make

 

Butter a 9 x 13-inch baking pan

Add pineapples, cherry pie filling, and yellow cake mix

Combine well. 

Spread evenly over the fruit

Melt a stick of butter and pour over the dry cake mix

Sprinkle 1 cup pecans over the top

Bake at 350 degrees for about one hour

Enjoy!

Melinda

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Blogger Highlight-Grace of the Sun

Thank you for all the great feedback on the Blogger Highlight series, I’ve enjoyed meeting each blogger and sharing their site with you. This week we highlight the blog of Grace of the Sun.

 

Grace of the Sun

My true intention
is to share,
what brings me joy
because I care.

If what you see
brings on a smile,
then follow me
read for a while.

We have followed each other for the past year, probably more. Her words flow and are soothing. You must check out her blog and read for a while.  

Melinda

Looking for the Light

 

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From Family Cookbook-Pound Cake

The family cookbook contains recipes, my Gramps & Granny used often and is the type of food I grew up on. Good ole Southern food like my Gramps dumplings, to Grannies pecan pie.

It’s super easy to make and the rewards are high.

What You Need

 

2 cups sugar

1 cup margarine

4 eggs

2 1/2 TSP. vanilla

1 cup Butter Milk

3 cups flour

1/2 TSP soda

1 TSP salt

Like many recipes, they are old and faded and my Granny made items enough that she didn’t add instructions. This is one of the recipes. I’ll try to read her mind.

Who To Make

 

In a large bowl add sugar and margarine

Mix eggs beaten well

Add vanilla, buttermilk and salt

Add flour and soda

Combine all ingredients

Cook at 350 degrees for 1 hour to 1 1/2

I winged it on the instructions, if you’ve been backing a long time it might make sense to you. If it tastes bad you can say it’s because it had no instructions.

Cooking is fun!

Melinda

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From Family Cookbook-Quick Fudge Frosting

The family cookbook contains recipes, my Gramps & Granny used often and is the type of food I grew up on. Good ole Southern food like my Gramps dumplings, to Grannies pecan pie.

What You Need

 

1/2 cup granulated sugar

2 TBS Cocoa

2 TBS butter or margarine

1/4 cup milk

1 TBS light corn syrup

Dash of salt

1/2 to 3/4 cup confectioners sugar

1 TSP vanilla

How To Make

 

Mix sugar and cocoa in a saucepan

Add buttermilk, milk, corn syrup and salt

Heat to boiling, stirring frequently

Boil vigorously for 3 minutes, stirring occasionally

Cool  and beat in confectioners’ sugar and vanilla

I love chocolate everything and Granny’s frosting was always so creamy.

Enjoy!

Melinda

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Why Is Asbestos So Dangerous?

Asbestos: the word itself carries a weight of danger, a whisper of caution in its syllables. But why exactly is this substance so feared, so notorious? In this blog post, we’ll delve into the depths of asbestos, uncover its origins, explore its dangers, understand its symptoms, and shed light on the process of making a claim with asbestos lawyers if you’ve been affected.

What is Asbestos?

Let’s start at the beginning. Asbestos isn’t a single entity but rather a group of naturally occurring minerals that boast impressive resistance to heat, fire, and electricity. This made asbestos a popular choice for a wide range of applications, from insulation in buildings to components in automotive brakes.

The key types of asbestos include:

  • Chrysotile – Also known as white asbestos, it’s the most commonly used type.
  • Amosite – Known as brown asbestos, it’s often found in cement sheets and pipe insulation.
  • Crocidolite – This is blue asbestos, known for its extremely fine fibers and is considered the most dangerous type.

Why is Asbestos So Dangerous?

The danger of asbestos lies in its microscopic fibers. When disturbed, such as during renovation or demolition work, these fibers can become airborne and easily inhaled. Once inside the body, they can cause serious health issues over time.

Health Risks Associated with Asbestos Exposure

  • Mesothelioma – A rare and aggressive form of cancer that affects the lining of the lungs, abdomen, or heart.
  • Asbestosis – A chronic lung condition caused by prolonged exposure to asbestos fibers, leading to scarring of lung tissue.
  • Lung Cancer – Asbestos exposure increases the risk of developing lung cancer, especially in smokers.

Recognizing Symptoms

Asbestos-related diseases often take decades to manifest, making early detection challenging. However, being aware of potential symptoms can prompt timely medical intervention.

Common Symptoms Include:

  • Shortness of breath
  • Persistent cough
  • Chest pain
  • Fatigue
  • Unexplained weight loss

If you have a history of asbestos exposure and experience any of these symptoms, it’s crucial to consult a healthcare professional promptly.

Making a Claim

If you’ve been diagnosed with an asbestos-related illness, you may be entitled to compensation. Seeking legal advice from experienced solicitors is essential to navigate the complex process of making a claim.

Steps to Making a Claim:

  1. Consultation – Schedule a consultation with a reputable solicitor specializing in asbestos-related claims. They will assess your case and advise you on the best course of action.
  2. Gathering Evidence – Collect any relevant medical records, employment history, and documentation related to asbestos exposure.
  3. Claim Submission – Your solicitor will help prepare and submit your claim to the relevant authorities or asbestos compensation schemes.
  4. Negotiation and Settlement – Your solicitor will negotiate on your behalf to secure fair compensation for your injuries and losses.
  5. Legal Proceedings (if necessary) – In some cases, legal proceedings may be required if an agreement cannot be reached through negotiation.

The Importance of Asbestos Awareness

Key Steps in Asbestos Awareness:

  • Education – Providing comprehensive training and information to workers and the public about the risks of asbestos exposure and how to safely handle asbestos-containing materials.
  • Regulation – Enforcing strict regulations and standards for asbestos management, removal, and disposal to ensure safe practices in all industries.
  • Regular Inspections – Conducting routine inspections of buildings and infrastructure to identify and address any asbestos-containing materials promptly.
  • Safe Handling Practices – Implementing protocols for the safe handling, removal, and disposal of asbestos to minimize the risk of exposure to workers and the surrounding community.

FAQs About Asbestos Claims

Q: How long do I have to make a claim?

A: The time limit for making a claim varies depending on the jurisdiction and the specific circumstances of your case. It’s best to consult with a solicitor as soon as possible to avoid missing any deadlines.

Q: Can I make a claim on behalf of a deceased loved one?

A: Yes, if a family member has passed away due to an asbestos-related illness, you may be eligible to make a claim on their behalf. Again, seeking legal advice is crucial to understand your options.

Q: Will making a claim affect my employment?

A: It’s illegal for employers to discriminate against employees who make legitimate compensation claims. Your employer’s liability insurance typically covers compensation payments, not the employer directly.

Conclusion

Asbestos may have once been hailed as a miracle material, but its dark side has left a trail of devastation in its wake. Understanding the dangers of asbestos, recognizing symptoms, and knowing how to make a claim are essential steps in protecting yourself and your loved ones from its harmful effects. If you believe you’ve been exposed to asbestos or are experiencing symptoms of asbestos-related illness, don’t hesitate to seek medical attention and legal advice. Your health and well-being are paramount.

This is a collaborative post.

Melinda

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From Family Cookbook-German Chocolate Frosting

The family cookbook contains recipes, my Gramps & Granny used often and is the type of food I grew up on. Good ole Southern food like my Gramps dumplings, to Grannies pecan pie.

What You Need

 

1 1/2 cup sugar

3 TBS. flour

1 1/2 milk

1 stick butter

8 oz bag angel flake coconut

1 TSP vanilla

1 cup chopped nuts

How To Make

 

Bring to a boil, add the butter and angel flake coconut

Cook on low heat for 7 minutes or until thick

Add vanilla, chopped nuts

Cool and frost cake.

This is one of my favorite types of cake. She would make it for my birthday.

Melinda

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I’m Mourning and She’s Still Alive

Originally posted in 2005

My grandmother passed away from Dementia from two strokes in 2005. I’m reposting for the caregivers dealing with a loved one with Alzheimer’s or Dementia. For those who have not been a caregiver, these posts may help you down the road. For the caregivers who give every ounce of energy, just one piece of advice if I may. Take time to clear your head, 10 or 30 minutes whatever you can for yourself each week. I did not have anyone to offer suggestions and had a brain drain after both of their deaths. My body was physically broken down. Due to the nature of the illness, it’s hard to take an eye off them, 24/7. I was fortunate we had hospice care for both of my grandparents. My grandfather was healthy enough to help my grandmother. 

I’m Morning and She’s Still Alive

As the caregiver for my grandparents, my hands are full yet my mind runs at a high level by switching to what I call “caregiver mode”. I can manage tons of information about what drugs they take, schedule appointments, discuss test results, or anything else needed to take care of two people who are dying and “switch back” when at home.

Before her fall and a broken hip, my grandmother knew me. Our conversations were limited but sharing memories with her made my day. She really enjoyed a photo book I put together with many photos of her beloved dog, Blackie. Thinking about Blackie always made her smile, even though he died twenty years ago she remembers him like it was today.

On the way to their house, last week tears started rolling down my face, I could not stop crying. It took a few minutes to figure out what was causing so much pain. My mind had switched to caregiver mode from granddaughter and realized my grandmother no longer knew me. We would not share our memories again. I knew the day would come and say prayers for the memories we shared. The realization was much harder to accept. I am in mourning and miss my grandmother so much.

Xx  M    aka Warrior

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From Family Cookbook-Candy

The family cookbook contains recipes, my Granny & Gramps used often and is the type of food I grew up on. Good ole Southern food like my Gramps dumplings, to Grannies pecan pie.

The candy tastes great and it’s so easy to make. Don’t think about the calories as you eat.

What You Need

 

1 jar marshmallow cream

1 1/2 cups sugar

2/3 cup evaporated milk

1/4 TSP salt

1 pkg 12oz semi-sweet chocolate pieces

1 TSP vanilla

1 cup pecans

How To Make

 

Combine marshmallow cream, sugar, evaporated milk, butter, and salt in a 2-quart saucepan

Bring to a full boil, string constantly

Continue to boil over medium heat string constantly for 5 minutes

Remove from heat, stir in chocolate pieces and vanilla

Beat well and put in pecans

Put in a greased 8″ cake pan

Chill in refrigerator and cut into squares

 

Melinda

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How To Be More Confident

I believe self-confidence starts with good parenting, not the ones who are on the phone the entire evening. Parents show how important their kids are when they attend all the plays, musicals, and ballet practices.

I built mine by taking the smallest job, the job no one wants, and doing the job without complaint. Your actions will be noticed and your confidence grows.

Admit when I am wrong, and move on. You have to get out of your comfort zone to grow. I joined a wine club and even met a couple of clients there. From there I went to museums and took a few night school classes. I stayed focused on the goal and knew I wanted to achieve it. My confidence grew a little at a time. 

So many successful people credit their sense of self and their confidence to their success. But not many people really explain how to build confidence, or how to become confident. It’s tricky, because confidence is built on different things, but overall it is built on choices and accomplishments that feed your passion, and that make you feel happy and proud of who you are. Discovering these things is one of the most worthwhile pursuits of your life according to Forbes.

Be yourself, don’t fake it, and remember the client is right, most of the time. 

 

Melinda

References:

https://www.forbes.com/sites/francesbridges/2017/07/21/10-ways-to-build-confidence/?sh=6d24cac3c594

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Just Pondering

Learn to light a candle in the darkest moments of someone’s life. Be the light that helps others see, it is what gives life its deeper significance.

Melinda

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From Family Cookbook-Date Balls

The family cookbook contains recipes, my Gramps & Granny used often and is the type of food I grew up on. Good ole Southern food like my Gramps dumplings, to Grannies pecan pie.

What You Need

2 TB butter

2 eggs

1 cup pecans

Flaked coconut

1 cup sugar

1 cup chopped dates

2 cups Rice Krispies

How To Make

Melt butter in skillet

Add sugar, eggs, dates, and mix

Cool until it thickens

Add pecans and Rice Krispies

Make into balls and roll in coconuts or pecans

Grease your hands before rolling the balls.

If you like dates, you’ll love these.

Melinda

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My First Post In 2005 – Dementia Induced Thought’s Of Suicide

I looked back at my very first post written as a blogger, the site was different, it was called Defining Memories but I have since published on Look for the Light. I started Defining Memories in 2005 to help me mourn my Granny. It was a very dark time and writing was the perfect outlet.

I hope reading this post is as cathartic for you as it has been for me. The subject matter has changed since 2005 but the feeling and release it gives me is the same.

Thank you so much for reading and following me on my journey.

Photo by Gilberto Olimpio on Pexels.com

Being a caregiver to a dying loved one can leave you drained of emotion, exhausted, and frustrated. All perfectly normal feelings. I felt a quilt mixed in my bowl of emotions. I grew up knowing my grandparents wanted to die at home. I would grant the wish if possible. They inspired me, saved me from abuse, and blessed me with unconditional love.

Helping my gramps when making difficult life decisions, while working hard to remember she is my Granny. There were uncomfortable conversations, articulate to doctors how she is progressing and butt heads with family members. I ran a tight ship and had no problem telling people it was time to leave, and not allowing people over every day. God blessed me with the ability to turn my depression down and step up to the next level. Love for my Granny drove my decision to give her an extra morphine stick. She died in my hands while I kissed her goodbye.

As our population ages, the number of caregivers increases. It can seem overwhelming at times. If you don’t have a blog I would suggest checking out, it gave me an outlet. Caregivers choose to open their hearts to emotional and physical challenges. 

Dementia-Induced Thoughts Of Suicide

Today I used one of four “in case of emergency” pills to keep my Granny from hurting herself during a dementia-related meltdown brought on by my Gramps going to the grocery store. She’s had many of these episodes since her stroke almost two years ago. Today I saw the beginning of the end in her face. As I look at the three pills in the bottle, I try to accept that we will need to “ease” the trauma more times before her memory is gone.

Her stroke caused dementia, and at 84 she continues to slide downhill. The meds do a good job of controlling the anger and aggression but on days like today, nothing short of a miracle works. I had to reach for “the emergency” stash and this sank in as I watched her doze off from the effects.

Today she did not recognize her own home and thought my Gramps abandoned her in somebody else’s house while going to the grocery store. She became enraged and very self-destructive by hitting herself in the head while saying that she would rather be dead than be left “here” by herself. I tried to calm her as I always do but today nothing worked. I tried to get her to focus on what I was saying but it was too late, she was lost in her painful reality. It was a very hard choice but a drug-induced calm over self-inflicted harm is the right thing to do.

While waiting for the drug to work I showed her photos of her and my grandfather from 24 years ago, a photo of my father on a pony when he was a child, and many others I took off the walls to see if she could connect to anything. She recognized my dad but several other family members were a blur. It was so painful to watch her lose touch, it ripped my heart out.

Those four pills were the “holy grail” and they took me back to the night of her stroke when Gramps went home to try to nap and she got upset that he was not there. It took six of us to hold down an 82-year-old who barely weighed 100 lbs. Her aggression reached a point where she needed restraining. Her arms were tied to the bed yet she managed to fight. I used all of my weight to hold her down to the bed, yelling at the nurse where the hell was a shot to knock her out. The nurse did not articulate to the doctor the situation’s urgency so he did not approve a sedative. I told her if she could not articulate the need, she would pass the phone to me. I would get the message across.  The doctor ordered a sedative.

Watching her lose touch with reality is like seeing your child get hit by a car in slow motion and not being able to get a word out. I’m thankful for the time we spent together no matter how painful. I focus on the good moments and do not hold on to difficult days like this.

M

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From Family Cookbook-Rocky Road Fudge

The family cookbook contains recipes, my Gramps & Granny used often and is the type of food I grew up on. Good ole Southern food like my Gramps dumplings, to Grannies pecan pie.

This recipe is a keeper! My brother and I would beg Granny to make it.

What You Need

1 can condensed milk

1 cup chocolate chips

1 cup peanut chips

2 cups tiny marshmallows

2 cups chopped nuts

How To Make

Stir and melt chips and milk over medium heat, don’t scorch

Stir all the time and fold in marshmallows and nuts

Spread on buttered oblong pan and cool.

This is worth forgetting about the calorie count.

Melinda

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From Family Cookbook-Chocolate Cream Pie

The family cookbook contains recipes, my Gramps & Granny used often and is the type of food I grew up on. Good ole Southern food like my Gramps dumplings, to Grannies pecan pie.

Another winner from my Granny, she’s the cake and candy chef.

What You Need

1 1/2 cup sugar

1/4 ts salt

6 tbsp flour

2 cups milk

2 egg yolks

2 heaping TB of cocoa

1 ts vanilla

1 unbaked pie crust

How To Make

Mix sugar, flour, cocoa, and salt together and mix well

Add milk and eggs

Blend in cocoa

Add milk and stir well

Beat eggs and add to the mixture

Stir the mixture slowly and stir the whole time until it gets thicks

Pour  mixture into unbaked pie crust 

Add vanilla either before or after

This is a fantastic and easy-to-make pie. 

Melinda

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Just Pondering

 

The first book you remember reading?

I wasn’t interested in reading until my boarding school counselor gave me several books to read including Man Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl. The book is a game changer.

The book was given to me at 13 years old and what sticks in my mind is how he survived the Holocaust Concentration Camps. He is a very strong man and is a great example of how we can take control of our lives.

Melinda

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Zero Waste Glass Cleaner

Willow & Sage by Stampington

You Will Need

Funnel

2 cups of distilled water

1/4 cup white vinegar

1/4 cup isopropyl alcohol/rubbing alcohol

1 tsp arrowroot powder

10 drops of lemon essential oil

Glass spray bottle, 16oz

How To Make

Using a funnel, add all ingredients to a glass spray bottle and shack to combine

Shack the bottle before each use because the arrowroot powder settles to the bottom

Use newspaper to clean windows and mirrors

This is an easy way to be kinder to the earth.

Melinda

 

 

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Favorite Health & Wellness Shower Steamers-Great Gift

These shower steamers are great for self-care and make great gifts. I’ve looked on Amazon and was surprised by how expensive Steamers are. Treat yourself and friends and family with the steamers.

Willow and Sage by Stampington

 

1 cup baking soda

1/2 cup citric acid

1/3 cup arrowroot powder

1/4 cup kaolin clay

Bowl: Large non-metallic

Spray the bottle with water

Nitrile gloves

Silicone mold: cylinder

45 drops of rosemary essential oil

45 drops peppermint essential oil

30 drops of chamomile essential oil

Dried leaves/herbs (optional)

150 drops of eucalyptus essential oil

Dried eucalyptus leaves, crushed (optional)

Mica: green (optional)

120 drops of peppermint essential oil

2 TB. menthol crystals Mica: Agua (optional)

How to Make

Add all the dry ingredients to a large, non-metallic bowl and whisk until blended. Drop the essential oils on the dry ingredients, and stir to combine. The essential oils can create droplets, which will dissolve in the following step.

Spray the mixture with a little water and incorporate it immediately to avoid a reaction. If you don’t have a spray bottle, sprinkle water on the mixture using a teaspoon.

When kneading the mixture, put on nitrile gloves to protect your hands as the citric acid can irritate sensitive skin and nail polish. The mixture should feel like damp sand and be wet enough to hold its shape when pressed together. If using colored mica and dried herbs or flowers, add them to the mixture.

Fill the silicone mold with the mixture, and press firmly into the mold using your fingertips, paying attention to the edges. Let the mixture dry for 24-48 hours. Shower steamers can be affected by the humidity; in a humid environment, the drying time may be longer. When they feel hard and solid, carefully peel back the mold and gently pop out of the disk. Store the steamers in an airtight container or jar, and ensure that the steamers aren’t exposed to water or moisture. The shelf life is one year.

Before use, let warm water run for several minutes to moisturize the air. It’s best to remove the steamer from the running water and the drain. Ideally, only the bottom of the tabs should be wet. You can also put a shower steamer in a soap dish. Breathe in deeply as the essential oils vaporize.

These are the all-around self-care gifts. Make a huge batch and then you have some for gifts. Don’t forget your self-care, save some for yourself. 

Melinda

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From Family Cookbook-Dumplings

The family cookbook contains recipes, my Gramps & Granny used often and is the type of food I grew up on. Good ole Southern food like my Gramps dumplings, to Grannies pecan pie.

This is  Gramps’ favorite, he loved them so much he carried the recipe in his wallet. My brother learned from Gramps and was much better at making them.

What You Need

1 1/2 cups white flour

1/2 ts baking powder

1/4 ts salt

1/4 cup shortening 

How To Make

Sift flour, baking, and salt together

Crumble in the shortening with your fingers

Add just enough milk to make a very stiff dough

Using a spoon to mix

Roll out the dough on a well-floured board until it’s very thin

Cut 1/8 thick 

Cut into strips and lay into 3-quart post-medium chicken

1 1/2 broth into until boiling stock

Lower heat and cook slowly for almost 20 minutes

Do not take off the lid

Gramps loved dumplings

Melinda

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Deep Thoughts

In this fast-paced social media world, it can be difficult to find the time to look within or back in time. I hope you find these quotes and questions interesting. So glad you stopped by today!

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From Family Cookbook- Dill Dip

The family cookbook contains recipes, my Gramps & Granny used often and is the type of food I grew up on. Good ole Southern food like my Gramps dumplings, to Grannies pecan pie.

What You Need And Instructions

Mash 8oz cream cheese and mix

1/2 cup of mayonnaise Not salad dressing

1 1/2 tsp Dill

2 tb parsley flacks

1 tsp celery salt

4 greens onions chopped

1/2 tsp Accent

Mix together and chill overnight

  • You may not be able to find Accent, it’s an old product. Unfortunately, I don’t know what to replace it with. You can probably find it on the Internet and if nothing else you can see what ingredients are used and make your own.

Granny loved this dip and made it often.

Melinda

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Spiced Lavender Whipped Shea Butter

Willow & Sage by Stampington

Sounds like a relaxing butter, a great one to use at bedtime, of course, you can use it anytime.

You Will Need

Large bowl

1 cup organic shea butter

1/2 cup organic coconut oil

Hand-held or stand mixer

3 drops lavender essential oil

3 drops sweet orange essential oil

3 drops of clove essential oil

Airtight container

How To Make

Add the Shea Butter and coconut oil to a large bowl and blend until the mixture is creamy and whipped. Be patient, the whipping process can take some time to achieve consistency

Once completely whipped, fold in lavender, sweet orange, and clove essential oils

Store in an airtight container of your choice

Kick back and take the smell in to get the full effect.

Melinda

 

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From Family Cookbook-Lemon Jello Cake

The family cookbook contains recipes, my Gramps & Granny used often and is the type of food I grew up on. Good ole Southern food like my Gramps dumplings, to Grannies pecan pie.

This is so good and easy to make. My brother loved this cake so Granny made it often.

What You Need

1 pkg. Duncan Hines Lemon Supreme cake mix

1 pkg of Lemon Jello

4 eggs

2/3 cup oil

2/3 water

1 tsp lemon extract

How To Make

Dissolve Jello in warm water

Add oil, cake mix, and eggs. One at a time and beating well

Add extract and beat until smooth & creamy

Bake 50 minutes at 350 degrees

Icing instructions

Dissolve 1 cup of powdered sugar in 1/4 cup of lemon juice

Combine well and pour over the cake while it is still warm

You can make this cake any time of year and it will not let you down.

Melinda