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Hi friends, I have a new home! Looking for the Light Blog @ WP.com

Hi everyone, I hope life is treating you well with a heart fun of sunshine. I’m officially at lookingforthelightblog.wp.com, previous content remains at  definingmemories.wp.com. The previous post may take another week to transfer, mostly health issues, it’s not been the best week. I apologize for the confusion and thank you for hunting me down. A big smile crosses my face when I see a familiar friend. I’m looking for a theme that excites me, you will see more versions before getting one to work. Please leave your comments if you like a theme. A special thanks to those who reached  to me and sending blessings. XO  M  

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Happy Birthday Gramps, Thank you for the lessons you instilled in me

A few sayings Gramps used to teach me about life If you’re going to be late for work, no need to go in. Always be on time. Nothing good happens after 9:00 PM. If he can’t be here by then, you’re not going. No phones calls after 9:00 PM. You will be home by curfew, if you can’t I better get a phone call. You’re accountable for yourself. There are no free rides. Be honest, you will only have to tell one story. You can do anything you want. If you want to be Miss America, you can. Every boyfriend had to meet gramps. Respect yourself and others. Happy Birthday, see you soon. I think of gramps everyday. One of our last memories was trying to feed you left-handed. We laughed so hard. He wished everyone left this life happy, great memories and someone to look forward seeing. Gramps looked forward to hugging granny. You and granny changed my life, saved my life and gave me the best life. XO  Melinda

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I am thrilled to accept the Respect Award from Robert at Robert Goldstein

I am thrilled Robert chose me for The Respect Award. If we don’t have respect what do we have? Robert works hard advocating for mental illness services. He also fights hard for complete access for mental illness services. He is an amazing artist, Robert writes informative and beautiful stories. I love when his post include artwork. Pull up a chair and dig in, you may find a new friend and someone to follow. Robert has Dissociative Identity Disorder. I’m proud he is completely open about his mental illness and how he’s open to helping others. Robert describes what his site is about. “I’m a writer and amateur photographer who lives in San Francisco. I enjoy good conversation, history, technology and learning new skills. I have strong political views, a lifelong interest in literature, poetry, and social justice. I think I’ve finally found a format for this blog that I can live with. It evolves as I learn. Thank you Robert  🙂 You’ve made my day. Rules for award Recipients don’t have to do anything for this award. They can choose to copy the award art created by Robert and pass it on to people who have earned their respect — or they can do nothing. The only requirement has already been met when the award is given: Being someone worthy of respect. I have tremendous respect for so many, you’re not forgotten in this award. I pass the award along to Coffee […]

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Brief Lyme Update #14 *Lyme-tough Me-still have fight in me*

I had surgery for a Port, it is required for IV Treatment. I choose IV Therapy because it has a record of healing faster. I can tell already a Port for 9-12 months is no merry-go-round. The surgical area’s not bad. I fell breaking my arm or it was run over by a monster truck before the trip. The procedure is short, it takes longer to prep than do surgery. A catheter goes into small section of heart, then is brought thru skin to take medicine thru tubing hanging down with blue top. Doctors do the procedure differently.The bandaging stays the entire time and is changed once a week. This is my basic regimen for those who don’t understand the horrible effects of Lyme IV Therapy. In a future post, I’ll talk about cost of treatment. If you would like to know more leave me a comment, or read all 13 of my Lyme post.  All ticks can carry Lyme, ticks the size of sesame seed to seed of rice. P.S. mosquitoes and flies can also carry Lyme. The best revenge is sunscreen with 20% DEET. If out hiking in pants tuck into socks. Wear light-colored clothes and search like crazy once home, think of a tick that small in your hair. Basic Regime  Five Supplements (everyday) Seven RX pills  (everyday) 10mg Morphine patch (one a week) M,W& F  Antibiotic Drip 2 times day with 2 shots Heparin All other […]

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Throw Back Thursday * Shelton…We're having a Party*

I’m the Country Star in my head tonight, not my usual choice of music yet some I can’t get enough of. It’s a triple shot of Blake Shelton. I picked fun, blow the roof off the house music this week. Blake is one of my favorite current day singers, oh I meant drinkers. His blue eyes and big smile shows me he loves  the job. He’s like 6’6…….oh back on track. I have surgery to implant the Port to start me IV Therapy on Tuesday. When I’m scared or nervous it’s usually chocolate, cookies, cookies. Instead of chocolate, I went for Blake, He always makes me feel good. He’s down home country boy, I picture him on a john boat fishing on his land. If you don’t like the words, no problem, no country for your taste, that’s ok. This weekend is have fun letting the bobby pins out. I’ll be thinking of you and what I’m missing out on. I’ll catch up when I get back.   XO M

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Cool Tennis Shoes help raise money for Breast Cancer Research

Ralph Lauren is dedicated to supporting Breast Cancer awareness year round. The Pink Pony collection supports Breast Cancer Awareness year round. During Breast Cancer Awareness month, he makes additional products to provide funds for Breast Cancer . He and wife Ricky are very involved year round. If your shopping for high top sneakers, take a look on the Ralph Lauren  on the internet. I love them so much I got very chatty.  It’s so exciting to see the number of companies supporting Breast Cancer. I appreciate the people who walk and run. The air is filled with excitement as everyone get ready to walk or run. Being around people who have been where they are, crying, laughing, hugs and cars driving by honking and waving to motivate those on the three-day walk. If your shopping look to see if the product or similar supports Breast Care Research.  Have a great day filled with sunshine and happiness XO M

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How Does Being Blind Change Your Life ?

Several months ago my vision changed drastically. I could barely read, saw things not there, my floaters looked like worms. My Lyme doctor looked and saw the worms and one of my Iris’s changed colors. Go see eye doctor she advised. It was time for new glasses and annual test. I left the eye exam shocked! I had lost vision in each eyes which did not look like glaucoma. The worms were there, one close to retina. He explained the test showing the print out at what it looked like. “I’ve never seen anything like this” Not what I expected to hear. Saying it looked like my optic nerve. He could not right a RX for glasses, I didn’t understand. He refered me to a Nuero-Opthomologist. Over two appointments I had 10+ test. The last test hurt, I had wires in my eyes for 30 minutes. A current went thru one tucked in under my eyelids. I don’t care for lidocaine in my eyes. I always try to get information from techs. This time tried different approach, asking what each machine tested for and what would the results tell the doctor. I asked about the test with wires, would results identify glaucoma, the machine wasn’t used for Glaucoma. He sends test to expert for their perspective, means no answers until appointment on 10/20/15.   Eye problems are mentioned in the Lyme Books I’ve read. I didn’t connect Lyme with eye problems. […]

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New Survey: Sexual Violence Big Problem on College Campus

RAINN  Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network   National Sexual Assult Hotline 1.800.656.HOPE(4673) (September 29, 2015) – A new survey of 150,000 students at 27 universities finds that 11.7% of students reported experiencing “nonconsensual penetration or sexual touching by force or incapacitation” since enrolling. The survey, by the Association of American Universities with support from Westat, is the largest of its kind. While the AAU survey results are similar to those found in other, smaller studies, there was significant variability among universities polled. The University of Michigan and University of Southern California, for example, reported rates of sexual violence nearly double those at Cal. Tech and Texas A&M. According to the report, “Undergraduates identifying as TGQN (transgender, genderqueer, non-conforming, questioning, or not listed on the survey) had the highest rates (12.4%), followed by undergraduate females (10.8%), and graduate (professional) TGQN students (8.3%),” compared to about 4% of males surveyed. Two of the biggest factors influencing incidence of sexual assault were the involvement of alcohol and drugs and class year. “Among freshmen, 16.9 percent of females reported sexual contact by physical force or incapacitation. This percentage steadily declines by year in school to a low of 11.1% for seniors,” the report says. Source: “Report on the AAU Campus Climate Survey on Sexual Assault and Misconduct” (Westat, 2015). The survey also measures cases involving sexual touching, the use of coercion, and the lack of affirmative consent (categories that may include many non-criminal acts). Using […]

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Survivors Blog Here Welcome's Casey Alexander to our team

Survivors Blog Here is breaking out the cupcakes and sparklers. We might even do the Snoopy Dance. Why you ask? We are thrilled to announce Casey Alexander from blog Adoption, caseyalexanderblog.wp.com  has joined our team. Casey brings you along on her journey of adopting two children, short stories and shares her other  interest. You will laugh and cry when you read the calamities with their house. She has a thirst for knowledge, participating in Blogging 101. Her post are honest, educational and raw. She has a positive attitude :), totally funny and always makes my day. The Survivors Blog Here team welcomes Casey to the team. survivorsbloghere.wp.com 🙂 Melinda

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Electro Convulsive Therapy *Perspective after 20 Treatments*

I’ve had 20+ ECT treatments. The treatments are necessary when I hit bottom becoming delusional and suicidal. I hope to shine a light on ECT and dispel the myths. Please keep an open mind,the procedure may save your life. In my experience a Psychiatric facility associated with a respected hospital is far superior to chain facility’s. This post is based on top facility in area. I will share the experience with the worst in another post. I’ve had treatment in-house and outpatient. For me a crisis with suicidal thoughts are best handled in-house with 24 hour care.  I’ll share step by step how ECT is handled at UTSW in Dallas. You arrive and change to a gown, the RN calls you to patient area to make sure your meds have not changed. UTSW has strict processes to prevent mistakes. You will be asked you name many times. The RN prepares an IV in your arm which is used for a short acting  anesthesia and muscle relaxer. When it’s your turn, you walk into a small operating room. There you will see your doctor, several RN’s and anesthesiologist You meet everyone, again double checking you ID bracelet. They ask if you have questions. Usually they are answered by doctor prior to treatment. The anesthesiologist will ask a couple of questions about allergy’s. You lay down in hospital bed, your heart is monitored throughout. The doctor is logging type of ECT. Usually the ECT machine […]

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Kevin Breel: Confessions of a Depressed Comic

I was Kevin’s age when diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder. A lack of understanding and feelings of shame, I kept a lid on my problems, until boiling over. I did not accept my mental illness until my father committed suicide in 1992. His death sent me down a path of research and learning how to take charge of my medical care. I accept Bipolar Disorder is not curable at this time yet confident in the future. TED Talk Playlist Presents Presentation #3 ted.com/playlists/296/let_s_end_the_silence_around_s

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Break the Silence for Suicide Attempt Survivors

Being a suicide attempt survivor, it did not occur to me specialized care may prevent the next attempt. I made my  first attempt 43 years ago at age nine with a razor blade. The attempts were not from mental illness but severe child abuse. I hated my parents for abusing me, hated myself, hated not having anyone to tell. I hated every aspect of my life, death my friend. TED Talk Playlist Presents Presentation #2 ted.com/playlists/65/personal_tales_from_the_edge_o

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ما ديني تقول حقا حول المرأة * آخر باللغة العربية *

Hello friend, I use Google Translator, please excuse if translation not correct. I’m an American, do not speak Arabic and wanted to reach out by doing my first post in Arabic. I would love to hear your comments. May Allah bring you and your family blessings. Melinda آلاء مرابط مكانةُ المرأة الحقيقية في ديني في طريقي إلى هنا، أجريت محادثة شيقة مع الراكب الذي بجانبي خلال رحلتي قال لي :”يبدو أن الولايات المتحدة تُعاني من البطالة لأنهم يختلقون بعض الوظائف فقط: كعالم نفس القطط و مدرب للكلاب و متعقب الأعاصير” بعد بضعة ثوان سألني: إذن ما عملك ؟ وقلت له :”داعية للسلام ” (ضحك) كل يوم أعمل لدعم صوت النساء، ولتسليط الضوء على تجاربهن ومشاركاتهن في عمليات السلام و حل النزاعات. وبسب عملي أدركت أن الطريقة الوحيدة لضمان المشاركة الكلية للنساء عالميًا هي عن طريق استعادة الدين. والآن، هذا الموضوع في غاية الأهمية لدي كامرأة مسلمة شابة ، أنا فخورة جدًا بديني. فهو يعطيني القوة والقناعة لإتمام عملي كل يوم. وهو السبب في وقوفي أمامكم. لكن لا يمكنني ان أتغاضى عن الضرر الذي حصل باسم الدين، ليس ديني فقط، ولكن كل الديانات في العالم. التحريف وسوء الاستخدام والتلاعب بالنصوص المقدسة كل هذا أثر على معاييرنا الاجتماعية والثقافية، و قوانينا وحياتنا اليومية، إلى حد لا ندركه في بعض الأحيان. انتقل والديّ من ليبيا في شمال افريقيا لكندا في أوائل سنة 1980. وأنا الطفلة الوسطى من بين 11 طفلًا. نعم،11. و خلال نشأتي رأيت والديّا متدينين و روحانين؛ يصلون لله و يحمدونه […]

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The Sunshine Award from Michelle of Putting my Feet in the Dirt

  My friend Michele from Putting my Feet in the Dirt puttingmyfeetinthedirt.com   nominated me for the beautiful Sunshine Award. Thank you Michelle Michelle’s Blog is Christian based Blog with a wide variety of post on travel, children, short stories. She is funny and serious when needed. Michelle is a great supporter to the WordPress community. Do yourself a favor and stop by to see what’s she’s up to. Rules for participating. Have fun. Thank the person who nominated you. Answer the questions from the person who nominated you. Nominate a few other bloggers. Write the same amount of questions for the bloggers you nominated. Notify the bloggers on their blog. Put the award button on your blog.   1. If a zombie apocalypse would happen right this very minute, are you going to            tweet about it? But seriously, are you going to fight or run? Why? I’m running. I don’t know what Zombie’s can do so I’ll get out of there. 2. How would you spend a million dollars? Make contribution to charities I support. Then get on airplane and see the world. 3. What thing would you want to change yourself? I cuss too much, it’s a bad habit I’ve had since childhood. 4. What’s your chinese birth year sign? I’m best suited for breeding.   5. If you could invent something, what is that? why? This is hard, there so many. Clean drinking water […]

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Amazon selling book series "thinly veiled guide to getting away with RAPE"

Important Change.org Petition Warning: This petition contains details about sexual assault. When I first read about Roosh V (real name Daryush Valizadeh), an American citizen and professional “pick up artist,” I became physically sick. His views on rape, women, and “dating” are that repugnant. His books, known as the “Bang” series, are thinly veiled guides to getting away with rape — a crime which he has repeatedly said should be made legal. And yet Amazon.com, the largest online bookseller, currently stocks all of his books. They’re making money from a man telling other men how to rape women. So is he. In one of the books sold on Amazon, “Bang Iceland,” he openly confessed to raping a woman: “While walking to my place, I realized how drunk she was. In America, having sex with her would have been rape, since she legally couldn’t give her consent. It didn’t help matters that I was sober, but I can’t say I cared or even hesitated. I won’t rationalize my actions, but having sex is what I do.” No, committing rape is what he does. Valizadeh claims protest against him only ‘makes him stronger’. So let’s hit him where it hurts — financially. Help petition Amazon to remove his works from their their stock; sign and share. To those who’ll cry ‘censorship’ – back off. He’s entitled to write and think and say what he likes. He’s not, however, protected from the backlash […]

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Living a Beautiful Life nominated me for Dragon Loyalty Award

My friend Danica of Living a Beautiful Life danicapiche.wordpress.com nominated me for the Dragon Loyalty Award.  I like this award because everyone can participate. The bottom line is how active are you on WP. I’m thrilled to run side by side with Dragons everyday.  What is the Dragons Loyalty Award? The Dragon’s Loyalty Award is an award for the loyal follower/commenter, fan, […]

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College Campus Sexual Assaults *Colegio Campus Assults Sexuales

RAINN  Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network Help is available 24/7 through the National Sexual Assault Hotline: 800-656-HOPE and online.rainn.org, y en español: rainn.org/es. Survivor Spotlight: College Campus Sexual Assault (August 10, 2015) — Ti’Air was happy that someone she met a few years ago reached out to help her through the process of moving to a new university campus, where she was beginning to study for a Ph.D. in biomedical engineering. “He was very friendly and helpful. We talked every day,” she says. “But suddenly, he became extremely flirtatious and aggressive.” One night, he invited her to karaoke. He took her back to her home at the end of the night, and when they arrived at her apartment, he raped her. Although Ti’Air reported her rape to her university and the police, the case did not move forward. She channeled her frustration with this experience into founding a student group on campus. “The reason I started Students Against Rape and Violence (SARA V) was due to the lack of resources I found on my campus to help me cope,” she says. Ti’Air hopes SARA V can be a vehicle of change by educating students about sexual assault and providing a safe space for peers to share their experiences. Ti’Air says there were a number of challenges she faced after her sexual assault. She had trouble focusing at school, developed post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), and faced harassment from friends of her […]

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Suicide is SECOND leading cause of Death in college-age students *Los estudiantes universitarios de suicidio

Suicide is the second leading cause of death in college-age students. In a recent study, one in ten students admitted to having considered suicide. My name is Conner Mertens. I am a sophomore at Willamette University and a placekicker for the Willamette Bearcats. Last year, I became the first active college football player, at any level, to publicly come out about my sexuality. Before doing this, I felt isolated by my secret. I had to constantly watch what I said and how I behaved, and endure the normal locker room culture that often included homophobic language and behavior. In those moments of profound loneliness, I wanted help, but felt I needed to steer clear of anything that, at the time, I thought made me seem weak (therapists, school counselors, etc.) Had I known then about an anonymous, judgment-free hotline I could call to get the help I so desperately needed, I might not have felt that same self-loathing, isolation. Still, I was lucky. When I finally decided to be true to myself and come out publicly, my coach, team and entire school rallied behind me. I finally had my depression under control. Unfortunately, many college students don’t get this relief, and too many of them choose a permanent solution to this temporary problem by taking their life. That’s why I am asking two of America’s largest university systems, the University of California and California State University, to include suicide hotline […]

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Help women and girls who have been kidnapped by ISIS * *الرجاء مساعدة الآن

Important Change.org Petition Petitioning President Barack Obama Help the women and girls from my home town who have been kidnapped by ISIS Feryal Pirali and Yazda, a Global Yazidi Organization. My name is Feryal. I live in Lincoln, Nebraska, but I grew up in a small town in Iraq called Sinjar. Last August, ISIS kidnapped thousands of women and girls from my hometown. For a year, ISIS has tortured and raped them. Many are teenagers just like me. Please urge President Obama to help save 3,200 women and children from my community — some as young as 11 — who were captured by ISIS, and have been raped and tortured for the past year. I and my family are part of the Yazidi, an ancient religious minority who live mostly in Northern Iraq. Because the Yazidi are not Muslim, ISIS extremists want us exterminated. I and my parents were able to escape, but most of my friends and family couldn’t. I think constantly about the girls my age who I was friends with growing up, who are now being raped every day by ISIS extremists. They can be saved. In fact, 1,800 have escaped or been rescued — but there are still 3,200 Yazidi women and children being held by ISIS. The Yazidi and the local government in Iraq want to rescue them too, but they don’t have the resources they need to get them out. If the United States […]

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TLC to air new documentary "Breaking the silence" about child sexual abuse

(August 13, 2015) – TLC has announced plans to air “Breaking the Silence,” a new documentary about child sexual abuse. The documentary will include interviews with members of RAINN’s Speakers Bureau and offer a look inside a Darkness to Light prevention training workshop. The program will air on Sunday, August 30, at 10/9c. RAINN and Darkness to Light are partnering with TLC on a multi-platform campaign to combat child sexual abuse in the U.S. Later this month, TLC will begin airing public service ads featuring the National Sexual Assault Hotline. Breaking the Silence will feature interviews with people impacted by sexual abuse, including Traci Lee and her daughter, Ter-rae Lee, who received help from RAINN’s National Sexual Assault Hotline. “I was sexually abused by my father from the age of 11 until 13,” said Ter-rae Lee. “With the support of RAINN, I gained the courage to extract a telephone confession from my father as the district attorney’s office silently listened in. This call led to my father’s conviction, allowing me to feel safe for the first time in years.” The program will also include the story of survivor Erin Merryn, who has led the campaign to pass Erin’s Law, which requires schools to educate students about sexual abuse. To date, 26 states have passed Erin’s Laws, and the U.S. Senate last month passed a bill to encourage the remaining states to implement such programs. “We are grateful to the survivors of […]

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Putting foot in the Dirt *Nominated Me For Liebster Award* Yay!

Michelle from puttingmyfeetinthedirt.wp.com  nominated me for the prized Liebster Award. Michele’s blog is informative, Christian based and makes you stop and soul search at times. I really enjoy talking to her and learning about her life outside of blogging. You have to check out her site puttingmyfeetinthedirt.wp.com , Michelle’s writing will inspire you. 11 facts about me I watch true crimes programs on tv. I’ve learned so much about basic self-defense, stalking and how many family members kill each other. It’s very informative. I’m concerned about underserved children in my community and shelters. My concern expands to children around the world. Working with children is the first initiative of the charity. I love Pop Tarts, grateful for delicious gluten-free brands. I loved jewelry as a child and have several necklaces made as a little one. Making  jewelry builds my confidence, growing when each piece comes out correctly. A family of Hawks hang out on the bird bath. They enjoy drinking and cooling off. Sometimes three get in bath, making it a bit overcrowded. I love to compost, worms and all. Love to decorate and or planning changes. Enjoy mapping my Ancestors, have found big surprises along the way. Enjoy learning, there are thousands of free courses. I recently started a course at Stanford University on Human Trafficking. Riding horses is a spiritual experience. Love antique Leica rangefinder camera’s. I have to duck out on nominations due to health. Take a look […]

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I'm Mourning and She is Still Alive

Originally posted February 27, 2006 My grandmother passed away in 2005 from Dementia brought on by two strokes. I’m reposting for caregivers with a loved one with Alzheimer’s or Dementia. For those who have not been a caregiver, the post may help you down the road. Caregivers commit every ounce of energy to keep their loved one comfortable, take care […]

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When Does RAPE Become RAPE? *You Might Be Surprised*

At nine years old my brother was my buddy. If someone was my brothers friend, they were mine. I was a tomboy and all my girlfriends lived to far away to play after school. Our gang of misfits would walk the creek nearby, play football, ride bikes, the normal kid activities. Walking home from school I noticed a couple of friends. One invited me in to the house, he had  something to show me. Several other guys were in foyer. I didn’t think anything about the numbers of people there, I just wanted to see what he had. He already owned a crocodile, I was thinking what can top that. Before I could blink, guys were holding me down, ripping my clothes off,  being choked. Every one violated me. I was crying and screaming for help as they choked and hit me. I cried as they touched and hurt me. Begging to let me go, when I was let go my mind was whirling, confused and body in pain. At nine years old I didn’t know about rape. I knew what they did was wrong. I had no one to tell. I aged a couple of years and realized that was gang rape. I was not a willing participant and not allowed to leave. I was held down, clothes ripping off, touching and kissing me. Each one put their fingers inside me, forced their penis down my throat. Every violation […]

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Ted Talk-What My Religion Really Says About Women

I became interested in other cultures after meeting two Jordanians in High School. Both were so generous, answering every question asked of them. I heard about the Muslim religion for the first time. My dream of traveling the world meant learning other cultures. I thank both for sharing the beauty of Jordan and opening up to me as a friend.  I have no agenda to offend anyone or call out any religion as good or bad. I continue learn other cultures and religions, it’s my life goal.  XO Melinda

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Lyme Journal Entry 12 *Summer Refresher, NO ONE Is Immune To Lyme*

I’ve been sick for years without a correct diagnoses. I took a wild guess and found a Lyme doctor. A reckless one. He gave me a lab report saying I had three times the level of lead than normal. We spent three days looking for LEAD. I called the office, while on hold I realized this wasn’t my labs. Chronic Lyme Disease is a long battle. I wanted the best Doctor possible, off to D.C. for my first visit with Dr. Jemsek. I learned the Lyme Disease has progressed. My cognitive ability is 50-60%, I have Adrenal Fatigue, it can take five years of treatment to get well, or well as I’ll get. The tests were positive and will allow for IV Infusion Treatment. The next step is how much insurance will cover. Without insurance coverage the cost of IV Infusion Treatment for six months is $40-60K. I also have to fly to D.C. every month for checkup.  FUN! FUN!  I sincerely thank my friends, you’ve lifted my spirit with every comment of well wishes.   I’ve included videos showing people who have Chronic Lyme. One video is my doctor, Dr. Jemsek. The crowd is mainly patients he’s treated over the years. Celebrating the premier of his movie Under Our Skin.  XO  Melinda Jemsek speaks out Avril Lavigne **Everyone who spends time outside or has children playing near wooded areas. The video is an hour-long homemade video made by her husband. […]

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Randstein nominated me for Once a Victim Now a Survivor Award

Thank you my friend Randstein A special thank you to Randstein for nominating me the Once A Victim Now A Survivor Award.  Randstein is a good friend, always happy to help, writes the most fantastic stories. His short stories give you plenty to think about. Randstien’s blog is hyperionsturm.wp.com. He’s a founding member of survivorsbloghere.wp.com I’m glad to have met him, my life has expanded. This award is for those who have gone through mental illness of any kind, abuse, trauma, and especially PTSD. The Rules: 1. Thank the blogger that nominated you 2. Nominate 5 – 10 bloggers to pass the award to 3. Post 5 questions for your nominees to answer (you may use the same as these below) 4. Inform your nominees and post a comment in their blog to let them know they’ve been nominated Questions: 1. In what ways do you feel that blogging can help people with psychological trauma or mental illness? I think writing can help in many ways. It’s perfect outlet to share, work thru pain and trauma. Blogging provides support from people who are a few steps ahead. The experience of putting your pain in a post can give a feeling of success. Writing thoughts down can help you see what needs more work. Posting takes a load off, no matter how small. We gain confidence one step at a time.   2. How has blogging helped you with your healing, or your personal journey? I started […]

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Robert Goldstein Honors Me with The Creative Blogger Award

  I’m thrilled, Robert Goldstein nominated me for The Creative Blogger Award. Robert advocates  for Mental Illness. He is a passionate artist, photographer, articulate and honest. Sharing his struggle with Mental Illness while providing support. If you haven’t visited his blog, I know you’ll enjoy his site.  Art by Robert Goldstein, http://www.robertmgoldstein.com. The Rules: * Display the Creative Blogger Award logo on your blog * Nominate 15-20 blogs and let know all nominees via their social media/blogs * Thank and post the link of the blog that nominated you (very important) * Share 5 random facts about yourself to your readers * Pass these rules on to them Five Facts:  You will see I was born looking for trouble. At 12 years, old I drove a friend of my fathers hot rod. He left the car at our house. I ask my dad first, hell no at top of lungs. Once he got on phone he would talk forever. I didn’t know how to drive. I grabbed the keys, drove the car around our street, came home and parked. I thought it was to far out in street, in my effort to correct, I jumped curb and hit fire hydrant. My dad did hear the bang, he ran out of house saying things I won’t repeat here. My first motorcycle ride was at 9 years old. I was a biker from that day forward. The only problem was stepping off bike […]

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Dementia Induced Thoughts of Suicide

Reblogged from 2005 Being a caregiver to a dying loved one can leave you drained of emotion, exhausted and frustrated. All normal feelings. I felt quilt mixed in my bowl of emotions. I grew up knowing my grandparents wanted to die at home. I would grant the wish if possible. They inspired me, saved me from parental abuse and blessed me with unconditional love. I felt terrible helping my Gramps make difficult life decisions. I worked hard to remember she is my grandmother. There were uncomfortable conversations, articulate to doctors how she is progressing and butt heads with family members. I ran a tight ship, no problems telling people it’s time to leave, not allowing people over everyday. God blessed me with the ability to turn my depression away and step up to next level. Love for my Granny drove my decisions down to the last morphine stick. It can get overwhelming at times. If you don’t have a an outlet, please take 10-15 minutes for yourself everyday. I started my blog to document what I was going thru, hoping someone could use the information. Blogging gave me an outlet. Caregivers choose to open their heart to the emotional and physical challenges. Granny died 10 years ago yet I’m crying like it was yesterday. I loved her so much, it hurts so deeply. ************************ Today I used one of four “in case of emergency” pills to keep my Grandmother from hurting herself […]

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Throw Back Thursday (Wednesday) *Let's Get Rocked*

I hit pay dirt this week. The first two are in pre-release, I think both drop later this month.  David Gilmore doesn’t have a video. None of the bands are new, you’ve heard many of their tunes here. The last video is my Guitar Hero, Eric Clapton. He sounded great even thru one ear. I not happy with Bose right now. If the music captures you, download and get your rock on anytime. Eric caresses the strings perfectly, I lose myself  every time. Grab your beverage along with a nice assortment of cheese, bread and toppings.  I wasn’t drinking any beverages posting today, just forgot what day it was. Music is the good for you fruit. Eric Clapton doesn’t sound as perfect as liked, I could not pass up the best solo I’ve hear.    A shout out to a Dragon friend of mine.   XO Melinda

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Caregiver Tips I Missed *What I Know Now*

I wrote the post 12/23/2009, Gramps died a year later. Many people are finding themselves in a caregiver role. I’ll post several on my experiences as the caregiver.  Breath.  As mentioned in earlier post I care for my 92-year-old grandfather, I’ve been here for five weeks. Here are a few lessons I missed in the Caregiver 101 manual. *Ask the doctor what happens if the procedure does not work. *If a second procedure fails does not work, is there a third option. *What is the recovery time and what type of home health services needed. Gramps went in for non-invasive surgery, nothing prepared me for the outcome. I’ve been through many surgeries with my grandfather. The procedure had not performed before however it was non-invasive. It actually sounded the least complicated procedure to date. I forgot nothing is normal or non -invasive at 92 years old. We went from going home that afternoon, to having three surgeries over the next seven days. I made the mistake of thinking the procedure would go as they had in the past. Age makes all the difference, just five years at this stage in life can change everything. I’m blessed to spend this time with my grandfather. We still have a long road ahead. It is very emotional and testing my patience I’ve become the parent and he doesn’t like me telling him anything especially when to take his medicine. He has raised his voice […]

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Care of the Adult Patient after Sexual Assault *NEJM Report*

New England Journal of Medicine Care of the Adult Patient after Sexual Assault Judith A. Linden, M.D. N Engl J Med 2011; 365:834-841  September 1, 2011DOI: 10.1056/NEJMcp1102869 This Journal feature begins with a case vignette highlighting a common clinical problem. Evidence supporting various strategies is then presented, followed by a review of formal guidelines, when they exist. The article ends with the author’s clinical recommendations. The author, Judith A. Linden, M.D. has written one of the most comprehensive medical reports on the care needed after Sexual Assault. The report is quite long, I’ve included the link. www.nejm.org/doi/full/10.1056/NEJMcp1102869 If interested in receiving their newsletter www.nejm.org XO  M

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Throw Back Thursday * Three of My Favorite Rock Love Songs *

The songs make me feel loved or falling in love. Wonderful Tonight is my number one tune. The words are beautiful and that’s how I feel every time. Stay the Night by James Blount paints a picture of getting to know each other and falling in love. Edge of Ecstasy by John Mayer speaks for itself. Drop a line tell me what you think of the songs. I would like to hear from you. Grab a drink of choice and be ready for something different.   XO  M

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TED Talk: Meet The First Women To Fight On Front Lines of an American War

I hope you’re eyes opened as much as mine. This is a tremendous change in policy. A policy now able to see the value of women on front lines. Some mixed feelings are swirling in my head. Time will tell if women are treated as equals. There other thoughts I’m not ready to express now, I need more time for all to sink in. I pray for justice for all and punishment on either sex if disrespectful.

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FDA Investigate Serious Side Effects Of Codeine In Children's Cough And Cold Medicine

FDA MedWatch – Codeine Cough-and-Cold Medicines in Children: Drug Safety Communication – FDA Evaluating Potential Risk of Serious Side Effects 07/01/2015 Codeine Cough-and-Cold Medicines in Children: Drug Safety Communication – FDA Evaluating Potential Risk of Serious Side Effects AUDIENCE: Family Practice, Pediatrics, Surgery, Patient ISSUE: FDA is investigating the safety of using codeine-containing medicines to treat coughs and colds in children under 18 years because of the potential for serious side effects, including slowed or difficult breathing. Children, especially those who already have breathing problems, may be more susceptible to these serious side effects. In 2013, FDA warned against using codeine in children who recently had surgery to remove their tonsils and/or adenoids. In April 2015, the European Medicines Agency (EMA) announced that codeine must not be used to treat cough and cold in children under 12 years, and that codeine is not recommended in children and adolescents between 12 and 18 years who have breathing problems, including those with asthma and other chronic breathing problems. FDA will continue to evaluate this safety issue and will consider the EMA recommendations. Final conclusions and recommendations will be communicated when the FDA review is complete. BACKGROUND: Codeine is a specific type of narcotic medicine called an opioid that is used to treat mild to moderate pain and also to reduce coughing. It is usually combined with other medications in prescription and over-the-counter (OTC) cough-and-cold medicines. RECOMMENDATION: Parents and caregivers who notice any […]

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TED Talk Steve Silberman: The Forgotten History of Autism

This short video taught me more than I can digest on Autism. Every parent needs to watch, the signs of bad behavior can also indicate symptoms on the Autism Spectrum.  XO M One in every 68 people is on the autism spectrum — a condition that, even just a few decades ago, was rarely diagnosed. To understand the history of autism, says writer Steve Silberman, we have to go back even further, to an Austrian doctor by the name of Hans Asperger, who published a pioneering paper in 1944 on the “little professors” he was working with. Asperger’s paper was buried by war and time — and much crueler theories of autism prevailed. Follow Silberman’s journey as he uncovers the lost history of autism. (This talk was part of a TED2015 session curated by Pop-Up Magazine; @popupmag.)    

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Third and Last Day of The Quote Challenge

“This to shall pass” Believed to originated in writings of the Medieval Persian Sufi Poets.  The quote appeared in tales by the English Poet Edward Fitzgerald and in speech by Abraham Lincoln before becoming president.  My granny used the quote probably before I was born. Times were very difficult for the family when her father died in 1930, granny was 9 years old. They had no money, insurance and no idea what tomorrow would bring. Both my granny and her mother were deeply religious, my guess this quote comforted them. I started using at some point simply because if I can survive, tomorrow can bring a blessing. The quote was not a religious quote to me. Fast forward to being a caregiver to both of my grandparents. I loved my gramps so much but several times a day I wanted to strangle him. I’d say to myself  “This to shall pass”. I tell you the above because the quote “This To Shall Pass” is religious to me now.  I changed in the 10 years taking care of my grandparents, what came after depression, ECT, hospitalization, Heart problems and Lyme Diease…….One day I woke up and the quote felt different, like God sent a message I’m at the wheel. Today there is a warmth in my heart to help others. The awakening gave the strength to become an Ordained Minister and start charity, God’s Tree of Life Ministries. I have enjoyed the […]

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