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The secret to making Zoom meetings meaningful for you and your coworkers — ideas.ted.com

Instead of “How are you doing?”, what’s a better opening question to ask on a video call? And why is it OK — even good — to let your coworkers see the dirty dishes in your kitchen sink? Organizational psychologist Adam Grant and his mentor Jane Dutton explain how to forge real connections in your online meetings.

The secret to making Zoom meetings meaningful for you and your coworkers — ideas.ted.com
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Glass Half Full: How Resilient People Cope

Psych Central

with Jessica Loftus, Ph.D.

Glass Half Full: How Resilient People Cope

By Jessica Loftus
Last updated: 6 Apr 2020~ 2 MIN READ

A psychologist offers tips she learned from her clients to cope with the threats posed by the COVID-19 pandemic.

During my 20 years as a psychologist and career counselor, I truly believe that I often learned more from my clients than they learned from me. During this global pandemic, I continue to be inspired by the courage shown by people who come to me for the treatment of their mental health disorders.

When the governor of my state issued a stay-at-home order, I stopped seeing clients at my office and offered counseling sessions via a simple telehealth platform. Providing services at no charge for those in need, I reached out to everyone on my caseload by email or phone per their contact agreements.

I beamed with pride to learn that my clients faced this crisis with amazing resilience and resourcefulness. Yes, they all were appropriately anxious. Yes, they exhibited more symptoms of OCD. Yes, they struggled more with sleep and overeating. And Yes, they all wished this too shall pass soon. But they all reported healthy ways to cope. Here I summarize them in a poem.

How to Cope Instead

Say things unsaid

Bake wholesome bread

Clear well your head

Savor books unread

Rest plenty in bed

Tend the homestead

Hear talks by Ted  

Cry tears unshed

Let creativity spread

Laugh till you’re red  

Play with Mr. Potato Head

On gratitude be fed

Through God be led

 Say Things Unsaid

Many people held essential conversations with loved ones, often about unresolved issues that smoldered for years. Many clients made breakthroughs they once thought unimaginable, seemingly miraculously.

Bake Wholesome Bread

People who loved to cook, never had to cook, struggled to cook tried new recipes. Several created a few of their own. They felt empowered to nourish their families and themselves.

Clear Well Your Head

Having plenty of spare time, many folks finally tried some of the stress-management tips that I provided them over the months and years. The Five-minute rule, deep breathing, aromatherapy and guided-imagery practices led the list in popularity.

Savor Books Unread

Avid readers rediscovered treasures on their bookshelves. Others ordered books online. Still, others asked me to suggest books. A personal favorite is the Chicken Soup for the Soul series.

Rest Plenty in Bed

No other event in our lifetime allowed people so much time to get plenty of rest. I often reminded everyone to stick to a consistent sleep schedule.

Tend the Homestead

I can’t count how many closets were cleaned, shelves were dusted, garages were de-cluttered and basements were transformed. Since home became the primary place to spend time, it needed to be as pleasant as possible.

Hear Talks by Ted

Ted TalksPsychCentral.com and many informative websites allowed many to learn new things and keep their minds sharp.

Cry Tears Unshed

Left with far fewer distractions, several people faced their grief over recent and remote losses. They allowed themselves to cry and express their grief with rituals at home.

Let Creativity Spread

They write, they draw, they journal, they tell stories, they sing, they knit, they dance, they sew, they make crafts – all in pursuit of creative pastimes.

Laugh till You’re Red

Comedy shows, sitcoms, reruns and movies provide plenty of amusing diversions.

Play with Mr. Potato Head

Card games, board games, video games, word games, question games, trivia games fill many hours with fun. Vintage toys like Mr. Potato Head inspires fond nostalgic memories.

On Gratitude be Fed

No question, simple blessings become more critical. For example, I was thrilled merely because my husband bought two rolls of toilet paper at a local drug store.

Through God be Led

Most people deepened their relationship with God. Many joined in worldwide prayers, worshipped in online services, read devotional books and heard daily scripture readings. Such practices encourage the positive virtues of humility, simplicity, generosity, forgiveness, faith, hope and love.

During these trying times, live life to the fullest by utilizing effective strategies to cope. This, too, shall pass.

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Jessica Loftus

Jessica Loftus has worked as a licensed clinical psychologist and national certified career counselor for more than 20 years. She currently offers counseling sessions via telehealth in the state of Illinois. Her website easywaystoeasestres.com outlines details. See her retired blog, “Pet Ways to Ease Stress” on PsychCentral.com.

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The Bee image made me think about how we are all working together much like Bees to protect our habitat and way of life. I appreciate you stopping by today! Please keep your distance and wash, your hands. Have a great weekend! Melinda

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#Weekend Music Share The Greatest

Have a great weekend. Be Safe. Melinda

Welcome back to Weekend Music Share; the place where everyone can share their favourite music.

Feel free to use the ‘Weekend Music Share‘ banner in your post, and don’t forget to use the hashtag #WeekendMusicShare on social media so other participants can find your post.

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Free Interactive Webinar with Howard Fradkin from Male Survivor

Join Howard Fradkin for a free Interactive Webinar, Tuesday, April 21 at 7pm.
In recognition of National Child Abuse Prevention Month, Howard Fradkin, Ph.D., to Reach Out to Male Sex Abuse Survivors Who Face Unique Pandemic Challenges – a live Webinar of Recovery for the MaleSurvivor community, Tuesday, April 21, 2020 at 7-8pm ET.
Dr. Fradkin will be the featured panelist for the webinar. He is co-founder of MaleSurvivor in 1995, and a nationally recognized psychologist, consultant and author focusing on male survivors, and strategies for healing and recovery.
Topics Will Include:+ Coronavirus / Social Distancing Impact to Survivors+ National Child Abuse Prevention Month+ Talking to Your Children About Child Abuse Prevention+ MaleSurvivor 25th Anniversary Celebration Kickoff – Recollections and Milestones+ After-hours Chat at MaleSurvivor Forum and Chat following the webinar
Advance registration is required. Limit of 100 attendees.
Webinar Details & Registration Link
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Hemp Trails

I’ve been using CBD oil, sprays, gummies, gels caps, and vaping for several years. I can’t say that I’ve noticed a difference in my pain. It’s hard to say since pain changes day to day.

So, I decided to buy bulk Hemp buds and rolled smokes.

The first thing I did was smoke one of the rolled smokes, easy, just me and a lighter. It’s scary how quickly I was holding the smoke just like I held my cigarettes. I sat outside enjoying the fresh air getting some Vitamin D and smoking. No smoking allowed in the house.

The first thing I noticed is the acid feelings in my lungs like when I smoked cigarettes. I don’t know what I expected but I quess my mind went back to my pot smoking days, I don’t recall those days being so harsh on the lungs. Maybe age has a big difference.

I looked around at what to buy for smoking and decided on a pipe, good ole grandpa pipe. The package came with filters, pipe cleaners, tool to clean ashes out of and screens for the bottom of pipe.

This morning I took the pipe and put two clumps of hemp in there and went outside for fresh air and a smoke. I was surprised how long the buds lasted, I didn’t break them down, I just put straight into pipe.

The smoke in the lungs was a little better but not enough to convince me to continue to smoke after this purchase is complete. I’ll be going back to oils, gel caps, sprays and vaping. My mind is still open and look forward to the day Texas legalizes majaruana, but hell may freeze over before that happens.

Melinda

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Vids n easy COVID feelgood: Help celebrate amazing 105-old! by da-AL —Guest Blogger Happiness Between Tails by da-AL

Please read bottom and send Birthday card to amazing man who’s 105th birthday is right around the corner. Melinda

What are your easy feelgood ways to get through a crisis?

Vids n easy COVID feelgood: Help celebrate amazing 105-old! by da-AL — Happiness Between Tails by da-AL
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If You Have Anxiety and Depression but Feel Better During Coronavirus, You’re Not Alone

The coronavirus pandemic is a devastating mass trauma—but some people with anxiety and depression have seen their symptoms improve.Laura BradleyEntertainment ReporterUpdated Apr. 06, 2020 10:27AM ET / Published Apr. 05, 2020 5:10AM ET 

When the novel coronavirus lockdown first began in early March, Grace Weinstein noticed something strange. In the span of 48 hours, three people reached out to her because they’d experienced an anxiety or panic attack. Weinstein has a diagnosed panic disorder, in addition to anxiety and depression—so for her newly distressed friends, she was an obvious person to consult.

But Weinstein herself has not had even one panic attack since the quarantines started. In fact, she’s been doing pretty well—so much so that she’s become a stabilizer for those around her.

“It’s suddenly becoming like a steady pace throughout this,” Weinstein told The Daily Beast during a recent phone interview. “Where people can come and [say], ‘I’m freaking out. I don’t know why you’re not freaking out, but please tell me what to do and how to get to where you are.’”

“To some degree I feel like I’m conditioned for this,” Weinstein said, “based on things I’ve experienced in the past.”

As COVID-19, the disease caused by the new coronavirus, has spread around the globe, many people have found themselves struggling to cope, regardless of their mental health histories. And to be clear, many if not most depression and anxiety patients have seen their symptoms worsen. But a fraction have, paradoxically, actually felt their symptoms alleviate. Like Weinstein, I am one of those people.

It’s not that I’m unaware of the terrible toll the global pandemic is exacting. I’ve cried about it late at night, like I imagine most have. I’ve worried for my grandmother, and boiled with rage as various wealthy blowhards suggested that the best thing she and other elderly people could do for this country is to die. I’m furious at the gross incompetence and indifference to human life within our country’s leadership. I check the news often—too often—staring at my phone in disbelief every night into the early hours of the morning.

And yet, when I wake up, I don’t feel as sluggish as I normally do. I find it easier to get out of bed. The intrusive thoughts that normally buzz around my brain like flies on a feeding frenzy have disappeared. My family is healthy, I tell myself. I am healthy. We are all doing what we can. And for whatever reason, that has been enough. My mood has stabilized after years of oscillating between paralyzing anxiety and debilitating, at times suicidal, depression. Despite everything, I realize, I am OK. More OK than I have been in years.

That’s a strange thing to admit. But evidently I’m not alone.

Grace Weinstein has a panic disorder, but friends and family ate turning to her for advice on how to cope.

Elizabeth Cohen, who has practiced psychology for 15 years with a specialty in anxiety, estimates that 20 percent of her clients have actually seen their symptoms alleviate in recent weeks. Roughly the same portion have seen their symptoms worsen, she says, while the remainder have seen little change. Elizabeth Visceglia, a psychiatrist who has practiced for 16 years (and, full disclosure, is the wife of our editor-in-chief Noah Shachtman), has not seen such a substantial number of her clients’ symptoms alleviate amid the outbreak—only one out of 20 she’d seen during the week of our interview fell into that category. But both offered several possible reasons that a person with a history of depression and anxiety might find some relief at a time like this.

A big part of anxiety, Cohen pointed out, is the anticipation of the unknown—worry about something bad that will inevitably happen. With the outbreak, she said, “a lot of people are saying, ‘The terrible thing happened.’ So in a lot of ways you’re not in the anticipating state.”

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Swimming Therapy can help Chronic Pain and Mental Health

Repost from June 2019

 

Most people don’t think of Mental Health when discussing Chronic Pain. Mental Illness can be physically debilitating with many spending large amounts of time in bed. For someone like me who is challenged by both, daily life can be difficult. Today I’m in bed juggling my laptop on one knee trying to avoid the pain screaming on the left side of my body.

Pool Shade

Over the holiday weekend my husband installed a pool shade so I can swim and get exercise without burning to a crisp lobster. They are very inexpensive and easy to install. He bought the sail on Amazon for less than $50.

One of the therapies the Pain Management doctor suggested was swimming and water exercises. Every other day I spend 30-45 minutes with my water noodle paddling around and doing basic exercises. I have noticed a difference in the muscles not used in ages.

I work on my shoulders by doing wide arm paddling, leg scissors for my back and hips, tiptoes for calves, stretching my back out till it hurts, and lunges. After spending years in bed I’m building stamina for the good days ahead.

Doing exercises in the water puts less resistance on the body which can help injuries. I’m rehabilitating my knee and it’s much easier than walking up and down the stairs repeatedly.

It helps my mental health by getting away from all the noise, I watch the butterflies and see how my flowers are growing. I work on meditating to keep my head clear. I’m also getting Vitamin D from the sun.

Melinda