What To Do If You’re Unhappy In Your Marriage

No one wants to be unhappy or feel sad in a marriage. However, the reality is that relationships are hard and take a lot of work. Not all are successful, and some will eventually end. The upside is that there are actions you can take if you’re unhappy in your marriage.

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What you don’t want to do is nothing and be miserable in silence. It’s better to address your emotions and problems and try to work through them than to brush them aside for another day. Be proactive and do your best to rectify the situation and then see what happens. Remain flexible and adaptable and open to where life takes you after you put in the hard work.

Evaluate What’s Not Working

If you’re unhappy in your marriage, then you should take a step back and evaluate what’s not working and know the warning signs. There may be problem areas that you can identify and work through to help you two get to a better place. For example, maybe it’s that you don’t spend enough quality time together or that there’s a lack of communication in your marriage. Identify the issue or obstacle and then get together to try to come up with solutions you both feel comfortable with and can get behind.

Seek Professional Help

You may also want to seek professional help if you’re unhappy in your marriage. There are marriage counselors out there who specialize in this type of therapy and can try to mediate and offer suggestions for improvement. For it to work, you both must be willing to go and be open and honest about your emotions and feelings. It’ll be an ongoing process instead of a quick fix so you need to be committed to it for the long haul if you’re going to come out stronger on the other side as a couple.

Consider A Split

You may have thought about it and have concluded that you’re truly unhappy in your marriage. Maybe you’ve tried all you could do and feel like there’s no going back or it won’t get better. In this case, you might want to consider a split and hire a team of divorce lawyers who can guide you through the process and ensure the best outcome for you. They can assist you in making the tough decisions and stand up for you to protect your rights.  

Practice Self-Care

It’s easy to get lazy about taking good care of yourself or feel unmotivated to do so when you’re unhappy in your relationship. However, you’re only hurting yourself when you take this approach. Instead, practice self-care and do your best to stay healthy and well even though it may be a tough situation for you. Get enough sleep, talk to your friends and family, and exercise to help reduce the stress and anxiety you’re feeling.


These are a few choices you have if you’re unhappy in your marriage and looking for ways to improve your circumstances. While it’s okay to feel sad or down about it, you also need to remain positive and take actions that will help move your relationship or life in the right direction. 

This is a collaborative post.

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  1. An excellent collab with some really pertinent points. I’ve never been married but I can appreciate the difficulty of getting almost stuck in a situation, where so much is intertwined with another person and feeling trapped or not being sure of what to do for the best. Really helpful tips to give people the courage and confidence to take those first steps. xx

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    1. It’s harder the longer and if children are involved. I think having kids is the biggest complication. I think that’s why we see so many people divorce after 20 years, they wait till the kids are in college and then split. My friends from the Uk, years ago said that you had to be separated for two years before you can get divorced. I think there is some logic to that, maybe some can work things out. My friends didn’t but maybe some do. Here it doesn’t take much to get divorced unless money or kids are involved. 🙂 When you get married, you’ll be sure since you’re older. I do think the younger you are the more you change and the chances of growing apart are high. You’ll have to get a beautiful white lace stoma bag! I bet they are available.

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      1. You make excellent points, and I’d agree with you on everything you’ve said. Apart from me getting married. Did you know I wanted to, when I was 19? I’d found the love of my life, then health got in the way… I don’t think I could actually have a partner now, for a few reasons (some of which I’ve not spoken about openly), so it’s a bit soul crushing to think about marriage as it’s something unlikely to be in my future. I do, however, love the idea of a white lace stoma bag cover! I’m going to see if I can get one, or attempt to make one myself. That would be so pretty! xx

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        1. We all have or baggage, past and current. I believe there are several people who are the love of our lfie and we have to find them at the right time. Don’t put on your blinders. Well then if you like white lace for day then why not go sexy with a back lace for evening! LOL

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