Amber vs Johnny

I don’t write many opinion posts, that’s not why you visit my site. In the wake of the Uvalde mass shooting, the whole trial seems like nonsense. 

This whole media circus has bothered me from the start. No cameras should have been allowed in the courtroom, the judge knew this was a drama-filled case. One thing that burns me is this circus took six weeks, most murder trials don’t last that long.

If you know me at all, you know I am against abuse of any kind with all of my soul. I grew up in a domestic violence household and it took a major toll on me.

This trial was about whether Amber defamed Johnny by insinuating that she was abused in her op-ed. It was not about if Johnny abused Amber or Amber abused Johnny.

It was a defamation case! Nothing more.

I’m not vested in either one of them so this is not a yeah Johnny post.

The fact is she insinuated that Johnny abused her in the op-ed and it had a negative impact on his career.

Amber did not come out and say Johnny abused her, she didn’t own it.

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These are a few of her comments after the trial along with my thoughts.

“It is a setback. It sets back the clock to a time when a woman who spoke up and spoke out could be publicly shamed and humiliated.

Amber didn’t speak up like so many women and men do every day. They speak up loudly and get the hell away from the abuser as soon as they can.

“It sets back the idea that violence against women is to be taken seriously.

This trial wasn’t about violence against women.

“I’m sad I lost this case. But I am sadder still that I seem to have lost a right I thought I had as an American – to speak freely and openly.”

She did not speak freely and openly, she insinuated abuse. There is a huge difference.

I think they are both guilty of many things but that wasn’t what was on the table. I have to look at the facts, this was a defamation case not a domestic violence case.

I don’t like her saying that the verdict sets women back. The #MeTOO movement is about women and men calling out their abusers and wanting justice. The brave women and men that finally break away from an abusive relationship want to get far away from them not write an op-ed to bring attention to something she never owned up to. If she had said he abused her it would be a different case.

I know many very strong women who have or are in the process of leaving their abuser. It’s a horrific experience and one that puts them in a very vulnerable position. I can say without hesitation that they said out loud they were abused and once they break away they run far away if they can.

What are your thoughts on the circus?



  1. I only paid a little attention to this and the actual verdict. It garnered far too much attention in my opinion, especially with other more pressing matters going on in our world right now.
    I mean you’re right, she didn’t “own it.” She only hinted at it and acted like a victim
    I feel like because everyone thinks she’s a liar and such for writing that op-ed, that it sends a message not to believe women in real abusive situations that have actual claims. She sets a bad precedent. I mean did something happen to her? We’ll probably never know.
    They both were in a highly toxic relationship… but it was clear she was trying to defame him

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  2. I didn’t see it the way you write but now I do. I felt they were a very toxic couple and if anything the abuse was mutual. She takes no ownership of her words which have consequences. And I feel the fact she has this letter right out the gate for the Press she say the writing in the wall. I am sure her lawyers told her to be prepared but to keep riding the me to movement when there is proof she could of allowed him to walk away or the fact she admits she hit him and states who’s going to belief Johnny himself was abused is ludicrous. I think it hurts both men and women not just the me movement sentiment

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    1. Shame on the judge too. It was not easy to rght that post because of how I feel about abuse but I don’t like someone saying they have set the movement back is going to far. She was a celebrity and knew her words would have weight, she just thought wrong about slander. They are both toxic an dI feel sorry for both of them. Thanks for sharing your opinion.


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