Everyone Will Have An Emotional Crisis In Their Life

How can I say that? We are emotional people, even those who try to be strong will have crises. When a spouse or child dies, a bad car wreck, you lose your job, your child is addicted to drugs, the list goes on. This is not a mental illness it’s an emotional crisis from what is happening in your life.

My crisis started with low-grade depression, being diagnosed with Kidney Disease, my husband being diagnosed with two types of cancer, and I had two repressed memories come back to me. With all that being down on me, I couldn’t handle it anymore.

We’ve all had or will have something traumatic happen that will affect us deeply and cause emotional distress. We are human beings and as such we do get emotional scars we have to work thru. Sometimes it’s as simple as talking to someone and having a good cry, other times you may need a Therapist to work thru the pain. They are trained to listen and talk about ways to help you cope. I’ve been seeing a Therapist for 30 years, she has helped me process the trauma of my childhood and is a good ear when a new issue comes up and I’m not sure how to handle it.

According to Vice Chair of Adult Psychology Elissa Epel, Ph.D., If you feel in crisis or overwhelmed, it may be helpful for you to make a list of what you can and cannot control right now. In this guide, we suggest radical acceptance of the situations we cannot control, and focus on what we can do.

I’ve experienced my share of trauma and have moved past the pain, it was holding me back in life. My Therapist was a big part of overcoming the trauma that ruled my life and I am stronger for it. I believe stress and trauma can turn your life upside down. I’ve already stopped watching the national news, too much politics that get me extremely worked up. I feel less stressed already.

Before you experience an emotional crisis, look at your habits, really examine your life and cut negative people out of your life, I don’t care if they are family, you don’t want negative influences around you. If your friends aren’t supportive of you, they are not your friends, if politics get you jacked up, don’t watch the news.

I think social media can have a negative effect on our health. The way I look at social media is it’s a place I share my post with. I follow very few people and I always assume the person on the other end is not who they say they are. That’s reality. You see news stories every day of stalking, raping, or trolling. If you have a mindset that people are not who they say they are, you won’t get pulled into a bad situation. That might sound harsh but it’s a reality. You do not know the person on the other end, and you don’t know their motive, instead look at them as Social Media friends, not the type of friends you have in your life outside of Social Media.

We can never prepare for when an emotional crisis will hit us, we can do everything right and we’re still going to face a crisis in our life. Talk to someone, don’t keep it inside for the pain and stress don’t go away on their own.

When my grandparents died I was devastated, how could I live without them, they were my rock and my parents because my parents were abusing me. Long before I went into therapy, my granny was the one I talked to about teenage trauma. She always said it would pass, I would say if your emotional crisis is interfering in your life in the least, go talk to a therapist.

I’ve worked thru most of my emotional crisis but still have two repressed memories to discuss, luckily they are not interfering in my life and I will see my Therapist soon.

An emotional crisis is NOT a mental illness, I will say as a person with Bipolar Disorder that an emotional crisis can bring on depression but being depressed about losing someone you love is natural and from our heart. It’s when our heart is breaking that an emotional crisis can happen.

Melinda

References:

https://psychiatry.ucsf.edu/copingresources/wellbeing