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Let’s Celebrate Columbus Day!

To think for one moment about what Christopher Columbus accomplished is mind-blowing. He shaped our world, taught us about countries we didn’t know existed, and built solid teams committed to the cause. I would love to feel what Christopher felt when he landed in America, what was the emotion?

Who was Christopher Columbus?

Christopher Columbus (born between August 26 and October 31?, 1451, Genoa [Italy]—died May 20, 1506, Valladolid, Spain) was a master navigator and admiral whose four transatlantic voyages (1492–93, 1493–96, 1498–1500, and 1502–04) opened the way for European exploration, exploitation, and colonization of the Americas. He has long been called the “discoverer” of the New World, although Vikings such as Leif Eriksson had visited North America five centuries earlier. Columbus made his transatlantic voyages under the sponsorship of Ferdinand II and Isabella I, the Catholic Monarchs of Aragon, Castile, and Leon in Spain. He was at first full of hope and ambition, an ambition partly gratified by his title “Admiral of the Ocean Sea,” awarded to him in April 1492, and by the grants enrolled in the Book of Privileges (a record of his titles and claims). However, he died a disappointed man.

Christopher’s world travels lived on with many new discoveries including the Mayflower heading to America. 

Melinda

References:

https://www.britannica.com/biography/Christopher-Columbus

 

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Soldiers Field Memorial Rochester, Minnesota

The memorial is very nice, it was opened in 1996 and Rochester is very proud of the soldiers who gave all.

The day was extremely windy so I was not able to get many photographs but I’m thrilled with the ones I did, The images itched into the granite are breathtakingly real.

Melinda

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Good Morning From Rochester, Minnesota

We landed last night with just enough light to find our car and head to Trader Joe’s for some goodies. We grabbed some dinner there so all we had to do was bring half a ton of luggage into the room and eat. My husband was happy because a college football game was on. After watching for a few minutes, I laid down to rest after an exhausting day at airports, walking and pulling luggage.

It’s very chilly here compared to home so I’m glad I brought my extra warm clothes. We’ve slept in this morning and plan to head out to see a few sites. I don’t know everywhere we’re going but I have the Vietnam Veterans Memorial at the top of my list. I like to pay my respect when I travel, that’s the very least I can do.

Tomorrow is Columbus Day and a holiday for many, I will write a post about it this afternoon. We have free days until Tuesday and then it’s off to The Mayo for meetings with doctors, getting blood work, testing, and leaving with a diagnosis.

Have a great day.

Melinda

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National Depression Education and Awareness Month

This awareness month is critical for all ages, even the youngest of children can feel depression and even though you may think they should blow it off, it’s not that easy and you can alienate them from talking to you again. Today life is so hard on kids, from an early age they are judged for the way they look, and who their friends are, for any reason because there are so many who don’t know who to communicate with and are haters. Kids also mimic their parents, if your child is having problems, look at your own behavior.

Young girls are fed to believe that these so-called influencers are real perfect-looking people who are pumping the greatest products they have to have. It never crosses their mind that the person is not an influencer, they are made up to look like the girls want to be and they are selling a product they make money on. They don’t get it or don’t want to. They are bullied for being a certain weight or not looking like someone else’s unrealistic standards.

Mix in real life as they get older and a deeper depression may present itself, it could be short-term term or it could be from unresolved issues, one you may not even know about. The key is to get your children the help they need at every step. As they age, professional help may be the answer. Don’t let stigma keep your child from getting the help they need.

As for adults, life can get messy, people can hurt you deeply, someone you trusted can betray you and family can hurt the worst. Some people may be more predisposed to depression whereas others may be situational driven. Adults have their own stigma and don’t seek out help, some men don’t think they need help and some just don’t know where to turn because the answer is not their parents. This is where a therapist comes in, therapy can be short-term just to get over a hump or more long-term because you have many buried issues that need to be addressed.

October is Depression Education and Awareness Month | Newsroom ...

October is recognized as Depression Awareness Month each year. The purpose is to increase understanding, decrease stereotypes, and help educate on how depression and other mental health issues impact people.

Awareness months give people affected by a specific condition a chance to share their stories. The goal is to help increase the overall understanding of depression or other conditions and help overcome stereotypes.

Depression is a common mental health concern in America and throughout the world. Far more than just “feeling sad,” depression negatively impacts how a person feels, thinks, and acts. It can cause disruption to school, work, and personal interests.

Misconceptions and misunderstandings of depression contribute to continuing stigmas about people living with the condition, the reasons it occurs, and their willingness to seek care.

In a 2018 study, researchers conducted a survey to assess the public’s knowledge of depression and the severity of the stigma surrounding it. Key findings included:

  • 30% reported believing a “weak personality” causes depression
  • 58.9% reported believing that pharmaceutical interventions or medications are not an effective treatment
  • over 70% reported understanding the importance of rest and that a person may appear happier than they actually are when living with depression

Depression can wear you out at the exact time you need all of your strength to fight. Trying to cope is extremely tiring — and it’s often difficult to know when others are suffering. That’s why, during October, we observe National Depression Education & Awareness Month. This important holiday helps teach us about the signs, symptoms, and treatment options for depression. It also lets all of us know that seeking help — either from a counselor, a trusted friend, or your community — is a sign of hope and strength.

Signs of Depression to look for

  1. Feeling sad, hopeless, or empty.
  2. Losing interest in activities that you used to enjoy.
  3. Changes in appetite, weight loss, or weight gain.
  4. Difficulty sleeping or sleeping too much.
  5. Feeling tired and lacking energy.
  6. Difficulty concentrating, making decisions, or remembering things.
  7. Feeling irritable or restless.
  8. Thoughts of death or suicide.
  9. Withdrawing from social activities and isolating themselves from others.
  10. Difficulty performing daily activities and taking care of themselves.
  11. Feeling guilty or worthless.
  12. Changes in behavior, such as increased substance use or reckless behavior.
  13. Unexplained physical symptoms, such as headaches or stomachaches.

This is not an exhaustive list but it’s a good start to start looking for when you or your child it not themselves. It’s sometimes hard to see depression in yourself and you need someone you trust to give you feedback and it can be hard to hear. Work to have an open mind.

Melinda

References:

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/depression-awareness-month

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NAMI Texas Advocacy Newsletter

The newsletter talks about how to vote, the players in Texas who are up for election, and additional resources. Sometimes these newsletters publish a link, not sure why I can see the content but WordPress turns it to a link. Please click on the link or copy in paste on your computer to read. This message is important to all Texans. 

October 2024 


We are less than one month out from General Election Day!  It is critical that Texans get out and vote as policymakers elected in 2024 will make major decisions regarding individuals and families affected by mental health conditions. Furthermore, exercising your right to vote ensures representation, the individuals we elect will be our voice at the local, state, and federal levels. When you participate in elections, we hold our elected officials accountable for their actions and decisions. Additionally, voting has the ability to drive social change as voters have the opportunity to advocate for policy reform and issues that are important to us.

Finally, voting promotes equality, providing an opportunity for all citizens to have a say in the decision-making process.  Important Dates:   General Election Day: Tuesday, November 5th, 2024  Early Voting: Monday, October 21st-Friday, November 1st, 2024   Last day counties can receive mail-in ballot requests: Friday, October 25th, 2024    Find out what’s on your personalized ballot by checking out Vote411


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Get involved & encourage others to do so too!   The NAMI Texas team encourages you to check out NAMI National’s #Vote4MentalHealth campaign webpage where you can pledge to vote for mental health, learn more about why mental health is more than a single policy issue and several ways to get engaged. Furthermore, the campaign provides resources like finding your voting options, requesting an absentee ballot, and planning to vote.   

#Vote4MentalHealth Videos  Check out this video that highlights the importance of voting in all elections, from those at the White House to local school board elections.  Additionally, watch this educational video on how votes for education, economy, and healthcare all impact mental health!  

Please note: #Vote4MentalHealth is nonpartisan – the NAMI Alliance will never tell people what party or candidate to vote for; instead, it focuses on understanding how every person’s vote impacts mental health.   NAMI Texas Voter Guide:  
 
Additionally, check out NAMI Texas’ General Election 2024 Voter Guides! The Policy Team has collected information from Texas candidates on various mental health topics. This guide can be used to help you gather information regarding where candidates stand on various mental health systems and what they hope to improve upon if they are elected. Please note, that all candidates were contacted and only those who responded are in the guides. 

Texas House of Representatives General Election Voter Guide   

Texas Senate General Election Voter Guide

Let’s get out and vote!!!!!!! Our voice needs to be louder than ever if policy changes are going to happen.

Melinda

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Empowering Survivors to Vote Safely

Ahead of the upcoming US presidential election, NO MORE is committed to helping survivors of domestic violence and stalking participate safely in the democratic process. This month we launched a new State Voting Guide for Survivors, outlining key options to help survivors protect their privacy and security while making their voices heard. 

 

By consolidating this critical information in one place, the guide simplifies the voting process every step of the way. NO MORE will continue to provide information for survivors, as well as for their friends, employers, and communities to help support them. 

No More State Voter Guide

Thank you, No More for supporting and thinking of how to protect us in each situation.

Melinda

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Blogger Highlight-John Malone

Thank you for all the great feedback on the Blogger Highlight series, I’ve enjoyed meeting each blogger and sharing their site with you. This week we highlight John Malone and his blog. We haven’t followed each other long but we have become fast friends and I feel like a kindred spirit to him. John has brought my sense of creativity alive, he’s whip-smart, funny, and knows how to express himself through words. I could sit and talk with John for hours and would still have more questions, he’s interesting.  

John Malone

‘This then I can say about my life:

I have two cats, a dog.

three children

and a wife’

except I no longer have a wife or pets, except a cat called Rosco, but have accrued numerous grandchildren and yes, I still whistle while I walk 🙂

I have five books of poetry published, two of which have been self published and many , many poems anthologized. Between 2000 and 2012 I had over 170 childrens’ poems published in major magazines, in the North America, NZ and here in Oz, some of which are still earning royalties from being republished.

I also have three educational titles with major publishers, guides to creative writing in classrooms which schools use, written during the same period. 

I sometimes think I should write children’s poems again but I wrote them for/with my grandchildren while they grew up in my presence.

To dig deeper into John’s career accomplishments click here.

I asked John  three questions:

What was your first job and what did you learn from it?

A secondary English teacher; learnt how to ;handle’ teenagers, not always successfully; learnt how to impart my love of literature and get them to write poetry themselves: we were a vibrant writing community.

What is your greatest career accomplishment?

My first book of poems by a major publisher was a thrill. Also between 2001 and 2013 I had over 70 children’s poems published in literary magazines for children in Australia, the Us and NZ. The three poems I’m proudest of are ‘Fork’, ‘Fearless’ and ‘The Mothering Tree’ 

Did you have a goal for your blog and have you achieved it?

As for the blog I just wanted to get my stuff out there and get immediate feedback instead of going through the delayed process of magazine submissions. I’ve built a lively following and feel part of a vibrant ever evolving literary community: a tribe !

A couple of my favorite recent posts:

New Direction

John’s post New Direction was a surprise and a day to rejoice. We had been talking about his accomplishments which I greatly admire and later this post arrived. I’m thrilled John gave me some credit but most importantly, he wrote a new short story after taking many years off from writing. I’m counting the days until it’s published so we can read it on his blog. I look forward to new stories as John has his mojo back.

Rough “N” Ramshackle

This post makes me think of all the journals and notebooks I carried around for years, starting as a child, they included writings, drawings, goals, and daydreams. They were my calm, my comfort, they knew my inner thoughts and they never betrayed me. John’s notebook was no doubt just as special, holding his thoughts, stories, and many ideas. The cover is fitting with its lived-in look and who would want to change that?

One of John’s favorite tunes:

 

I set a goal in 5th or 6th grade to become a Journalist for Life Magazine, but that isn’t where my career took me for multiple reasons. John’s career accomplishments are not directly related to my goal but I can imagine that being published gives you the same high and sense of accomplishment. I admire his accomplishments but what’s more important is that John is humble, no boasting, there are no airs about him and I admire him for that.

Be sure to stop by and say hello to John and while there browse through his extensive archives. You will not be disappointed and you may find yourself following John as well.

Melinda

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Unboxing Menopause: Why fear shouldn’t dictate our health choices

America’s leading menopause advocates lead the way for changing the way we speak about menopause.

The black box warning labels on local estrogen products are costing menopausal women their wellbeing, and their money, and HELLO’s not-for-profit partner, Let’s Talk Menopause is on a mission to remove them. 

Along with the Menopause Advocacy Working Group, Let’s Talk Menopause is calling for the removal of the outdated FDA-mandated boxed warning from local vaginal estrogen products used to treat Genitourinary Syndrome of Menopause (GSM).

GSM is a condition that affects up to 84% of menopausal women, manifesting in symptoms such as vaginal dryness, urinary urgency, and recurrent urinary tract infections, aka UTIs. Despite the proven effectiveness of local vaginal estrogen in treating GSM, an outdated boxed warning prevents many women from accessing this essential treatment.

The black box warning labels on local estrogen products are costing menopausal women their wellbeing, and their money, and HELLO’s not-for-profit partner, Let’s Talk Menopause is on a mission to remove them. 

Along with the Menopause Advocacy Working Group, Let’s Talk Menopause is calling for the removal of the outdated FDA-mandated boxed warning from local vaginal estrogen products used to treat Genitourinary Syndrome of Menopause (GSM).

GSM is a condition that affects up to 84% of menopausal women, manifesting in symptoms such as vaginal dryness, urinary urgency, and recurrent urinary tract infections, aka UTIs. Despite the proven effectiveness of local vaginal estrogen in treating GSM, an outdated boxed warning prevents many women from accessing this essential treatment.

Get involved and learn more by visiting the Unboxing Menopause campaign website and sign the consumer advocacy letter to the FDA.

The Real Cost of the Boxed Warning

The boxed warning on local vaginal estrogen has caused unnecessary fear and confusion for millions of women suffering from GSM. This barrier to treatment has led to higher healthcare costs, multiple doctor visits, and prolonged discomfort. 

“The boxed warning poses a massive economic burden on women — and on society,” said Jen Weiss-WolfLet’s Talk Menopause Board Member, author, and Executive Director at Birnbaum Women’s Leadership Center. “Untreated GSM leads to higher healthcare costs, lost productivity, and unnecessary suffering.”

Advocating for Change

Let’s Talk Menopause and the Menopause Advocacy Working Group are calling on women and healthcare providers to join their campaign to demand the FDA remove the boxed warning from local vaginal estrogen products.

“Vaginal estrogen is the gold standard treatment for GSM,” Dr. Robin Noble, an OBGYN and Let’s Talk Menopause’s Chief Medical Advisor tells HELLO! “It targets the problem at the source, helping women regain their comfort, their sexual function, and their quality of life with minimal risk.”

“Fear shouldn’t dictate our health choices,” explains Tamsen Fadalauthor, journalist, filmmaker, and Let’s Talk Menopause board member. “The black box warning is costing us our well-being and our money.”

Join the Campaign

Let’s Talk Menopause and the Menopause Advocacy Working Group urge women and healthcare providers to advocate for removing the outdated boxed warning, making local vaginal estrogen more accessible. For more information on how to get involved or to learn more about GSM and local vaginal estrogen, visit the Unboxing Menopause campaign website and sign the consumer advocacy letter to the FDA.

Women have the right to know how Box Warnings are decided upon by the FDA. There have been several occasions that I’m aware of where the data has been misapplied and it can take many years before the correct information comes to light.

Melinda

Reference:

https://www.hellomagazine.com/healthandbeauty/health-and-fitness/718793/unboxing-menopause-why-fear-shouldnt-dictate-our-health-choices/

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Nicole Kidman & Keith Urban-Quotes To Live By

So many celebrities and wanna-be are plastic it’s refreshing to hear the raw truth, “Nothing Is Perfect”. I read one UK celebrity magazine/trash mag and sometimes it inspires me. Today, it was a story about Nicole Kidman and Keith Urban

Here are a few of their quotes:

Nicole

“There’s no perfect anything,”

“Anything that’s presented as perfect… forget it,”

“We don’t want to be a pin-up couple,”

“We just want to be a couple that has a great life together.” 

“Everyone has the right to their own relationship. We are just very protective of our little bubble. What works for us is what works for us.”

Keith

“I have no advice for anybody,” 

“You guys figure out whatever works for you…We’re figuring it out. You figure it out. Everybody’s different. There’s no one size fits all.”

I live for this type of honesty which is reality! Not all the other plastic lives. 

Melinda

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Sending A Special Thanks To The Countries That Have Visited My Blog-Iceland, Equatorial Guinea, Jordan, Peru and Cameroon

Thank you for visiting my blog and allowing me into your life. I have not been to any of your countries but they are on my bucket list and all are so inviting. My travel fix comes from you as I often do a search on each country to learn more about it.

 

 

I hope you found a post or two that caught your attention and that you will return soon.

Melinda

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How to Tell Others About Your Bipolar Disorder

By

Julia Métraux

Medically Reviewed

by

Allison Young, MD

Published on September 26, 2023

While some people may not struggle to tell friends, family members, or an employer about their bipolar disorder, for others it can feel very nerve-racking. These 7 tips can help.

At age 31, Julie A. Fast — now a bipolar disorder expert and researcher — was diagnosed with the condition. Later on, she was diagnosed with schizoaffective disorder, bipolar type (a psychotic disorder involving symptoms of both schizophrenia and bipolar disorder).

Bipolar disorder wasn’t entirely new to Fast, now 59, when she was diagnosed. Her partner at the time was diagnosed with the condition in 1994, just one year before.

Still, in her social circles, she found that most people did not know or understand her condition. “I’d go to a party, and maybe two or three people would say, ‘I know of bipolar disorder,’” says Fast, who coauthored the book Take Charge of Bipolar Disorder with John Preston, PsyD. 

Because awareness of bipolar disorder and its symptoms is increasing, many people with the condition, like Fast, feel more comfortable sharing their diagnosis with others. “I can deal with whatever happens when I disclose my illness to others,” Fast says. “It will show who can help me and who can’t.” 

But some people with bipolar disorder may still feel hesitant to share their diagnosis, in part because of stigma and fear about how others will respond, experts say.

Why Sharing a Bipolar Disorder Diagnosis Can Feel Challenging

Factors like shame, embarrassment, or stigma — negative and often untrue beliefs society holds about someone or something — make some people with bipolar disorder feel hesitant to talk about their condition, research shows.

Many people with bipolar disorder experience a form of stigma called “public stigma,” which is related to how other people view and act toward people with bipolar disorder, according to research published in February 2022 in the Australian & New Zealand Journal of Psychiatry. Public stigma is linked to more anxiety symptoms, worsened ability to function, and problems at work, per the same research.

Although public stigma can come from anyone around them, many people with bipolar disorder experience it from people close to them — family, friends, or even their healthcare providers, per the same report.

Fear of how others may respond as a result of stigma is another potential barrier. “They may worry that disclosure could negatively affect their relationships with friends, family, or romantic partners,” says Leanne Quigley, PhD, an assistant professor in clinical psychology at Yeshiva University in New York City.

Public stigma and how others view bipolar disorder can lead many people with the condition to feel negatively about themselves, according to the aforementioned report.

“[They] may also experience internalized stigmas where they report low self-esteem, low quality of life, and limited engagement in their communities,” says Adrian Jacques H. Ambrose, MD, MPH, the medical director of the psychiatry faculty practice organization at Columbia University in New York City, who treats people with bipolar disorder. This is what’s known as “self-stigma,” per the aforementioned report.

RELATED: A Therapist Speaks: What Is Bipolar Disorder Stigma, and How Can We End It?

When to Tell Someone About Your Bipolar Disorder Diagnosis

The decision about when to share your diagnosis with someone else is very personal. It can depend on the type of relationship you have with the other person and whether they seem to have some sort of understanding of conditions like bipolar disorder.

When It Comes to Your Significant Other or Someone You’re Dating …

For romantic relationships, Fast recommends sharing a bipolar diagnosis as soon as possible. “I don’t really support the idea of getting in a relationship with somebody unless you have fully discussed the impact of bipolar on the relationship,” Fast says.

That’s important because the symptoms can affect the way someone with bipolar disorder thinks, feels, acts, and communicates with their partner, according to the United Brain Association. For instance, during a manic episode, someone with bipolar disorder may experience intense irritability toward their partner or may have a higher chance of engaging in risky behaviors like unprotected sex or heavy spending, which could lead to tension or mistrust in a relationship, per the United Brain Association. 

If you haven’t talked about your condition with your partner, it can be difficult for them to know what to say or do to help.

When It Comes to New Healthcare Providers …

It’s also crucial to be up-front about your diagnosis with any new healthcare providers you see, Fast Adds. They need to know about your health history and any medications you take. Research shows that certain medications, such as corticosteroids like prednisone, can trigger mania and psychosis in people with bipolar disorder.

That’s why Fast told her doctors before a recent minor surgery that she was not comfortable being prescribed steroids, which are sometimes used to help reduce inflammation. “When they suggest steroids, and so many doctors use steroids, I explain why I can’t use them,” she says, adding that her doctors were receptive to her needs.

Some antidepressants, such as fluoxetine (Prozac),  also trigger mania in people with bipolar disorder.

When It Comes to Your Friends and Family …

When it comes to telling friends and family, it might take you some time to feel comfortable doing so — and that’s okay. Prioritize telling close friends and family members that you interact with frequently and who you feel understand you well — rather than people you rarely interact with, Fast advises.

Before sharing your diagnosis with friends or family, Dr. Ambrose recommends asking yourself the following questions:

  • Do you feel ready to share?
  • Is there anything pressing or urgent happening that makes it important to tell them sooner rather than later, such as the onset of a mood episode?

When It Comes to Your Employer …

When it comes to your work environment, it’s important to weigh the possibility of discrimination, says Ambrose. You could look to see if the company has in recent years tried to reduce mental health stigma, which research suggests could make the workplacemore welcoming for workers with mental health conditions. 

And if you don’t feel comfortable revealing your specific diagnosis, that’s okay. You can still bring a note from your healthcare provider asking for accommodations based on how your mental health condition impacts your functioning, according to the U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission.

7 Tips for Talking About a Bipolar Disorder Diagnosis

If you feel ready to share your diagnosis with someone else, here are seven expert tips to get the conversation started.

1. Prepare Yourself for All Sorts of Reactions

Just as people diagnosed with bipolar disorder may have a range of reactions to their diagnosis, reactions from others can vary, too. “We can allow the other person to ask whatever questions they want, have any type of response that they want,” says Fast.

Although some people may react positively to hearing about your diagnosis, others may react in a negative way. “Remember that your self-worth is not determined by a diagnosis of bipolar disorder or others’ reactions to your disclosure of a diagnosis,” Dr. Quigley says.

2. Talk About How Your Bipolar Symptoms May Affect Others

During a manic episode, some people with bipolar disorder may be more prone to engaging in risky or hurtful behaviors, such as cheating or lying. This can be common for people who are undiagnosed, Fast adds.

Whether you’ve just gotten your bipolar disorder diagnosis or you’ve received treatment for a new mood episode, it could help to reach out to people who may have been harmed by your words and actions during the episode. It could be a message like, “I’d love to talk to you about my diagnosis because I know my behavior impacted you,” says Fast.

But it’s important to recognize that not everyone will want to engage in this conversation, especially if they feel really hurt by actions like cheating or stealing, for instance, Fast adds.

If behavior related to a bipolar diagnosis hasn’t yet come up in your relationship with someone else, the person you’re telling may have questions about how it could affect the relationship in the future. Be prepared to discuss how any episodes could manifest.

3. Have a Summary on Hand

After sharing a bipolar disorder diagnosis, some people may have follow-up questions about your symptoms or, in the case of work, any accommodations you might need. “In certain situations, your loved ones [or employer] may know very little about mental health conditions, so it may be helpful to prepare a short summary about the condition,” Ambrose says.

The summary could be either written or verbal (or both), depending on what you’re most comfortable with.

4. Work With Your Therapist on a Plan to Tell Others

If you feel nervous or worried about sharing your diagnosis with others, your doctor or therapist could help you come up with the best strategy for you for sharing your diagnosis, says Fast. “Share most of your concern and your worries with your healthcare professionals because they’re trained to handle it,” Fast says.

5. Understand Your ADA Rights (and Note That They Vary by State)

While the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA), which prohibits discrimination against people with disabilities at work and all other areas of life, is a federal law in the United States, some states offer more protections than others when it comes to employment laws related to disability discrimination, says Ambrose.

“Given the complexity of work-related rights, you should learn more about your specific state’s legal statutes,” Ambrose says.

If you’re in an area with less protection, it might be worth talking to a third party, for example your state labor office, about the best approaches for disclosing a bipolar diagnosis at work. State government offices belonging to the U.S. Department of Labor can help you better understand your rights as a worker in the state you live in. The Department of Labor has a directory of state labor offices.

6. Offer Different Information in Different Situations

If you’re only comfortable disclosing the entirety of your diagnosis to some people and not others, that is perfectly fine. “You may choose to discuss certain parts of your experience with bipolar disorder and not others,” Quigley says. “It is okay to maintain boundaries and not share everything.”

7. Give Yourself Grace

It can be difficult to figure out how to tell others about your diagnosis. It’s important to take care of yourself during this time. “It’s even more important to cultivate a sense of empathy and grace for yourself during the process,” Ambrose says.

Julia Métraux

Author

Julia Métraux is a journalist whose work touches on disability, mental health, and chronic illness. She went to the University of California in Berkeley Graduate School of Journalism. Métraux lives with vasculitis, a traumatic brain injury, and hearing loss.

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I know how hard telling others about your mental illness can be, especially family members. Many family members looked at me differently because they were from a different generation that did not believe in mental illnesses. I did not tell friends or my employers because it wasn’t their business. One of my employers fired me from a high-level job because they found out I had a mental illness, yes I could have sued the billion-dollar company but why go down that multi-year road through the rabbit hole. I caution everyone to think hard before telling your employer, it can be held against you and they can find a way to fire you.

Melinda

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Nourish Your Mind and Heart: A Guide to Mental and Emotional Well-being by Guest Blogger My Mind Strength

Mukta has been a regular Guest Blogger on Looking for the Light because she writes about complex topics in a style all can understand and her writing is smooth. I have followed her for a long time and always find her posts enlightening. Be sure to stop by and say hello, pull up a chair, and read through her archives, no doubt there are many posts you will relate to. 

Learn how mindful inputs can transform your mental and emotional health. “When you are mentally and emotionally strong, you are able to handle your thoughts skillfully and regulate your emotions in healthy and helpful ways.” This seemingly simple sentence holds a profound truth about the essence of our mental and emotional well-being. Our thoughts, which … Continue reading

Melinda
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Friday Quote

Thank you for joining me for this week’s Friday Quote.

Winston Churchill was a great leader and his quotes are so on point. I read them and do not question what he is saying. Must be a respect thing.

best anxiety quotes winston churchill

 

 

Melinda

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12 Celebrity Quotes That Perfectly Describe Life With Bipolar Disorder

By Tanya Hvilivitzky 

When famous people share their personal battles with bipolar disorder, it serves as a reminder that no one is isolated in this struggle. After all, bipolar disorder is indifferent to wealth, fame, or success.

It’s easy to believe that celebrities — actors, musicians, or comedians — enjoy lives of perfection. However, what is publicly seen represents just a fraction of their actual lives. The truth is, bipolar disorder doesn’t discriminate. It makes no distinction between a person’s age, gender, race, or bank account size.

So, when stars living with bipolar disorder share their own struggles, it signals to others that they are not navigating the complexities of this brain-based disorder alone, reinforcing the message that, together, managing it is within reach.

Here are personal and powerful quotes from 12 such celebrities:

1. Taylor Tomlinson

It took a little while for comedian Taylor Tomlinson to accept her bipolar diagnosis. She explains to E! News her reaction upon learning about her mood disorder. “I was surprised that I felt embarrassed when I first found out. Because I think I’m very open-minded. I have friends who have bipolar. And you never judge your friends. You never felt like that was a big deal. But then when it’s you, you somehow realize you have all this deeper stuff from when you were a kid.”

2. Cameron Esposito

After telling her fans earlier this year of her bipolar diagnosis, Cameron Esposito, standup comic, actor, and writer, took to her Instagram channel on her birthday in October 2023 to reflect on the year: “… you know what? I’m lucky. I’m lucky that I figured it out. I’m lucky that I had a place to go. I’m lucky that I was enough in my faculties that I was extremely persistent with following up after that experience, and getting my meds and finding a psychiatrist. All that s&*t is impossible and so expensive. I have healthcare coverage; I have insurance. I just want to say to anybody who’s had to navigate this [mental health care] system … you are a hero! Look at you! Look at what you’ve been able to do!

3. Alan Ritchson

Actor Alan Ritchson, star of Prime Video’s Reacher, was diagnosed with bipolar at age 36. In a February 2024 interview with CBC Radio’s “Q” program, Ritchson explains why he’s been sharing his story to help others: “As much as I would like to ignore that I’m a suicide survivor, if I didn’t share what I’ve learned I feel like my life would be meaningless,” he says. “I’ve always been a happy-go-lucky guy, but once you experience the grip [of depression] — the talons it can sink into you — you realize how sinister this thing is and how out of control the biology can really be for somebody in the midst of it.”

4. Carrie Fisher

“In my opinion, living with manic depression takes a tremendous amount of balls. Not unlike a tour of Afghanistan (though the bombs and bullets, in this case, come from the inside). At times, being bipolar can be an all-consuming challenge, requiring a lot of stamina and even more courage, so if you’re living with this illness and functioning at all, it’s something to be proud of, not ashamed of. They should issue medals along with the steady stream of medication.” — Carrie FisherWishful Drinking, 2008

5. Ye (Kanye West)

As a guest in 2019 on David Letterman’s Netflix series, My Next Guest Needs No IntroductionYe (Kanye West) uses the term “ramping up” to convey the process of entering a hypomanic or manic bipolar mood episode: “When you ramp up, it expresses your personality more. You can become almost adolescent in your expression. … When you don’t take medication every day to keep you at a certain state, you have the potential to ramp up … and even end up in the hospital.”

6. A.J. Mendez

In an interview with bp Magazine, former pro wrestler A.J. Mendez (AJ Lee) says, “I see bipolar disorder as the gift of extraordinary emotions. It makes me bold, brave, loud, and capable of withstanding whatever obstacles the world throws at me. It has made me empathetic. It has given me a lofty imagination, a belief in the impossible, and has made me confident beyond reason. I was 90 pounds and five feet tall and believed I could succeed in the world of giants … because I didn’t have that voice of doubt holding me back.”

7. Richard Dreyfuss

Richard Dreyfuss has starred in blockbusters like JawsAmerican GraffitiClose Encounters of the Third Kind, and The Goodbye Girl (which earned him an Academy Award for Best Actor). Of his bipolar diagnosis, he says, “No matter what you call it, this is an illness no different from, say, diabetes or asthma — and like those conditions, [it] should be neither ignored nor stigmatized. Feeling ashamed would mean surrendering to someone else’s judgment — an ignorant judgment at that.”

8. Linda Hamilton

The Terminator actress Linda Hamilton uses a holistic health plan to help her stability, with a structured and balanced lifestyle, exercise, and medication. “Exercise is an incredible key to feeling well. But for people with mental illness, taking care of the body is not an automatic thing. The mind is in such chaos, it’s hard to come up with a plan. So, to people like us, it’s more important than ever to follow a regimen.”

9. Maurice Benard

Daytime actor Maurice Benard — who plays Michael “Sonny” Corinthos Jr. on General Hospital — talked with bp Magazine on life with bipolar“I’ve lived a productive life having bipolar. I’ve talked to people who don’t want to talk about [having bipolar] because it’s embarrassing. I’m proud of it because I know it’s made me the actor I am and the person I am. It’s given me strength. If I can go through being in a mental hospital, and that kind of pain, and that kind of fear, I can do anything.”

10. Maria Bamford

In an interview with bp Magazine’s Melody Moezzi, the comedian Maria Bamford talked about being diagnosed: “I was surprised how prejudiced I was against myself. They tell you it’s the brain chemistry also working its magic, but I was really surprised at how resistant I was to going on a mood stabilizer, taking any time off of work, acknowledging that I needed to be hospitalized. I was just so angry. I didn’t want to go on the meds. It wasn’t until it got bad enough to where I was starting to feel unsafe by myself that I reconsidered.”

11. Stephen Fry

In an interview with bp MagazineStephen Fry said of creativity, “It is not a coincidence, it can’t be, that so many comedians suffer from depression. As for whether the hypomanic side of bp can be said to help creativity, I hesitate to say yes because of all those out there living with the disorder who are not in creative industries. … But certainly, the energy, self-belief, exuberance, tirelessness, optimism, and, yes, grandiosity that mark out hypomania can really help one achieve much in terms of writing and creation.”

12. Mariah Carey

In 2018, during an interview with People magazine, Maria Carey spoke about the confusing ups and downs of bipolar disorder: “For a long time I thought I had a severe sleep disorder, but it wasn’t normal insomnia. … I was working and working and working. … I was irritable and in constant fear of letting people down. It turns out that I was experiencing a form of mania. Eventually, I would just hit a wall. I guess my depressive episodes were characterized by having very low energy. I would feel so lonely and sad, even guilt that I wasn’t doing what I needed to be doing for my career.”

UPDATED: Originally posted June 19, 2020

Tanya Hvilivitzky

Tanya Hvilivitzky has spent more than 30 years in the communications field — a career that has included stints as an investigative journalist, managing editor for a lifestyle and wellness magazine, corporate communications director, and researcher/writer. She has been with bpHope (and bp Magazine) since 2016, serving in roles such as features editor, interim editor, and, currently, senior editor. She has been devoted to mental health awareness since she was the editor of Schizophrenia Digest in her early days, and now with a particular focus on highlighting the complexities of bipolar disorder through compassionate, service-based journalism. As an award-winning writer/editor, Tanya received the Beyond Borders Media Award for her 2012 investigative exposé about human trafficking for Niagara Magazine. Her work on this critical topic also earned the Media Freedom Award “Honouring Canada’s Heroes” from the Joy Smith Foundation to Stop Human Trafficking.

I dislike what Carrie Fisher had to say. It’s not appropriate to compare an illness to those who fought in Afghanistan and I do not think people with Bipolar Disorder deserve a medal and more medication. My thoughts about her have remained the same, she used her Bipolar Disorder as an excuse for her bad behavior and to make money. My opinion. 

Melinda

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What Is Your Family’s Experience With School-Based Mental Health Services?

 

Hello Advocates!   NAMI Texas is continuing our efforts to elevate your stories and lived experience! As we prepare for the 89th Legislative Session starting January 2025, we are focusing on gathering specific stories. This is the third month in our Storytelling Series, for the month of August , we are featuring school-based mental health services. Your stories related to this issue are vital, and rest assured, confidentiality is imperative to us. With your permission, we may reach out for further insights. Additionally, if you are interested, you could participate as a storyteller at one of our events or at the Texas Capitol. Your story has the power to strengthen written and/or oral testimony, presentations, policy briefs, and media coverage.   School-based mental health services are vital in promoting students’ well-being and academic success. These services may include counseling, psychological assessments, and the development of individualized education programs (IEPs) for students with mental health needs. For instance, a student struggling with anxiety might receive regular counseling sessions with a mental health provider such as a psychologist or social worker to develop coping strategies. Another student with ADHD might have an IEP that includes accommodations like extended test-taking time or a quiet space for exams. These comprehensive support systems not only address immediate mental health issues but also equip students with the tools they need for long-term success. We invite you to share your experiences with school-based mental health services. Your stories and insights can help us better understand the impact of these services and advocate for their continued support and improvement.  Additionally, if your child or children are enrolled in Medicaid and are facing significant issues with hard limits on treatment services (whether in policy or practice), behavioral health services, or services for medically complex conditions, we would greatly appreciate it if you could share your story with us.  Head over to our Advocacy Campaign  to share your lived experience! Your story can provide valuable insights into the landscape of school-based mental health services. By sharing your experiences, you can help us advocate for the strengthening of these services, ensuring they better meet the needs of all students.  Please feel free to share with your networks! As always, feel free to reach out to our Public Policy Director, Lyssette Galvan, publicpolicy.director@namitexas.org, or Peer Policy Fellow, Christine Busse, peerpolicy.fellow@namitexas.org.       

With gratitude,   The NAMI Texas Public Policy Team   

 

Melinda

 

 

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The Email Open Statistic Is Incorrect, Another Failure From WordPress

I have known for some time that the statistics provided by WordPress are not accurate and today it was cemented in my mind. When you publish a post it goes to each follower including those who subscribe to receive the post via email. The catch is that WordPress counts all of your posts as email which is the opposite of what the explanation of what the statistics are.

I have around 20-25 followers who receive my posts via email yet today I looked at a post from a few days ago and it showed 917 received my posts along with the number of email opens and unique opens, whatever that means. If you take the numbers at face value that means that out of close to 4K followers only 917 received the posts and that even fewer read the posts and fewer are commenting.

Commenting I understand, I don’t comment on every post I read but I have a hard time swallowing that the community has turned off receiving my posts. Maybe this is naive of me but when I see the level of long-time followers, new followers, comments, and the level of conversations I’m having with many people the number isn’t consistent.

This is no surprise, I have a long-time follower friend whose husband is a Statistical Engineer and he stated that the statistics on WordPress are inaccurate. This is not a rant, just an explanation for others who are perplexed with their statistics.

I’ve been blogging on WordPress for 24 years and have spent countless hours frustrated working with the Happiness Engineers to understand the issue I was having. Many, many years ago asking for help became futile and I gave up on contacting them. I did recently contact WordPress to let them know about the Bots that were enjoying my archives but as usual, I received no response. When I have a question now, I ask the community or go to Copilot for an explanation. Copilot has helped me understand what the statistics mean at a high level however the answers don’t apply to WordPress.

I hope this information helps others make sense out of what doesn’t make sense. :)

Melinda

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89% Of Blind Riders Are Being Denied A Ride By Lyft And Uber

I could not believe it when I heard on the national news that 89% of blind riders were being denied a ride by Lift and Uber. This looks like a driver issue with the service dogs and not wanting them in the vehicle. This behavior is against the law not to mention the company’s policies. The riders have a way to report a driver but those interviewed said nothing happened. One woman even recorded a driver refusing her a ride after she had already reported this behavior to Lyft. Rideshare companies are condoning this behavior and are accountable for the driver’s decisions. I’m sure there is a loophole in there that needs closing.

This type of behavior and failure to accommodate the blind is a Class Action lawsuit that is way overdue. I’m shocked no one has sued the companies for breaking the law and doing nothing when its customers report a driver. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not one to say jump on a lawsuit, quite the opposite but this is not a frivolous issue. If the ride-share companies refuse blind riders they need to lose any government contracts they may have and if cities have a choice to allow the rideshare company to do business in the city, they need to reverse the approval.

I know a few people who are blind and life is challenging enough and for their transportation to refuse them a ride is shameful. Apparently, it’s been happening for years but it’s not been in the media which is typical for the media, just feed us the same day after day instead of pressing the important issues.

I feel so strongly about the issue that I created a Change.org petition that I hope you will support by going to https://www.change.org/p/require-rideshare-services-to-accept-blind-riders-with-guide-dogs/share_for_starters?just_created=true and signing.

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This petition is deeply personal because it strikes at the heart of disability discrimination, a struggle that blind individuals face daily. It’s both shocking and disheartening when a company that provides a critical service like transportation discriminates against individuals with disabilities, specifically those who rely on guide dogs. According to the American Foundation for the Blind, millions of people in the US are experiencing vision loss. And many of them, depend on guide dogs to navigate and live independently.

However, troubling instances have surfaced where these individuals are refused service by rideshare companies simply because of their guide dogs. This is not only inconvenient but also unlawful – the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA) prohibits discrimination against individuals with disabilities in all areas of public life, and that includes transportation.

Apart from being illegal, such practices are inhumane and show a complete disregard for the rights and dignity of people living with disabilities. Furthermore, it contradicts the spirit of rideshare services which aim to provide convenient and accessible transportation for everyone. All this considered, it’s high time for all rideshare companies to commit to full accommodation for blind riders with guide dogs.

We cannot allow this blatant discrimination to continue. Together, we can change this. Please sign this petition to send a strong message across: Require Rideshare Services to Accept Blind Riders with Guide Dogs.

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My husband told me that once he signed the petition Change.org asked for a donation, a donation is not required. Change.org is a global organization that is free and as such they solicit donations. This is common but you are never required to donate or I would not work with them.

Melinda

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Things I’ve Learned In 61 Years Part Five

If your boss beats you down in front of others in a meeting, makes you the scapegoat, and never stands up for you, look for another job immediately. If you have the cash to float, give them the finger, you’re getting fired anyway.

If your department has been cut to the quick and you are forced over and over to cut, run like hell. You’re next.

If the President of your company beats you down in a meeting with your peers and gives a directive to your boss regarding your department, give them the finger and run like hell.

Even if you are on a salary that doesn’t mean you’re available 24/7 to take calls. If they are a top-level executive, they made the decision to marry their job, other employees are not paid the same, and should not be expected to be available you your beck and call.

If you schedule time off work and are expected to work, cancel the PTO day. Why lose pay when you’re working.

When you actually get to take a day off, don’t answer your phone, period. Nothing is so important that your boss can’t take care of, if so then let them fall on their face.

If you walk and push your baby stroller in my grass instead of the sidewalk, you might find a few big surprises next time.

If you let your shrubs grow in my yard, I will trim them myself. Tall trees are different, I will let you know when it’s time to call the tree company for a trim. I have one clueless neighbor. One year the city wrote them fines for their trees growing too far into the street. He had let them grow for years and when the tree guy came out, they cut a ton off and butchered the trees. That’s what you get when you use the lawn guy to cut trees.

The way to trim a tree if you are getting too much shade is not to cut the top of the tree off. You might as well chop it down. And don’t forget to have the stumps removed, they are unsightly and if you can’t afford to remove the stump, how can you afford to buy the house. It brings down the value of your neighbor’s houses.

If you have trees in your yard, learn how to take care of them and have them trimmed by professionals. The money spent will come back when you sell the house.

If you are treated unacceptably write the corporate headquarters, send the letter to the CEO and any other executives you think are responsible for the department which you received the treatment from. Don’t send an email, write an actual letter on the computer or by hand and mail it to each one. They will be shocked to receive a letter and you will already have their attention. That doesn’t guarantee a response back but no doubt the issue will get looked into. The first thing to remember is to cool your temper first, spend a few days drafting the letter, and take a look inside, ask yourself, are you the problem or is it the companies? Don’t write the letter in a negative tone, instead write to inform them of an issue or issues that you believe need their attention.

If your pharmacy fills a prescription you didn’t need or fills it incorrectly, don’t accept it and make them put it back on the shelf or correct it. It doesn’t matter if the prescription is free or not, they still make money if you accept it.

If your pharmacy regularly tells you the wrong answer, get in the habit of writing down the name of the person you are talking to. My pharmacy is famous for this behavior. Pharmacists have too much power and at least at my location they interpret the law and rules differently.

It’s important to know how your pharmacy fills prescriptions. Do they refill on the date it was filed or the date it was picked up? They are very different and if they don’t use a solid process, you may have to run to the pharmacy today because you’re out.

If your partner or friends interrupt you before saying the second sentence or make a comment that isn’t relative it is frustrating but not worth fighting over because they will not change. 

If you work for a Japanese company that has a facility in America, they expect you to have a Japanese work ethic which is work long after your boss calls it a day, work when you are off work, and have late-night meetings to accommodate the time frame difference every week, they will distrust you and will always believe whatever a Japanese employee says before you. You also have to be available 24/7 and it’s a tick against you if you’re not. If you far exceed the American work ethic but your work ethic isn’t up to Japanese standards you’re considered a slacker. 

Using a company’s reward perks can pay off if they have a good program. Amazon where I shop for almost everything has a Subscribe & Save program. If you know you buy an item at the same time every month, subscribe and save money. Sometimes it’s 5% and others it’s 15%. I’m learning to take advantage of these savings and it’s reassuring to know you can change or cancel anytime.

Melinda

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When a Loved One Denies Their Bipolar Diagnosis

By Julie A. Fast 

Medically Reviewed by Allison Young, MD

Last Updated: 21 Aug 2024

Although it’s incredibly frustrating when someone is in denial of having bipolar disorder, it’s important to remember that acceptance cannot be forced.

It can be upsetting, stressful, and downright incomprehensible when someone with a diagnosis of bipolar disorder denies the mental health condition and refuses treatment. You may find yourself watching helplessly as behaviors tied to untreated bipolar lead to family distress, broken relationships, problems at school and work, money woes, and alcohol and drug abuse.

If you try to help someone in denial, you will probably be accused of interfering if you even mention the word “bipolar.” This is confusing, because it’s very easy for you to see what’s wrong, and naturally you want to point out the problem in hopes that the person will then get help. Often, however, your attempt just makes things worse.

RELATED: 8 Essential Things to Know When First Diagnosed With Bipolar Disorder

It hurts when a person in denial shuts you out, but, sadly, it’s common.

What’s even more confusing is that you can have an honest conversation about bipolar when your loved one is stablereviving your hopes that the person will enter or stick with treatment. Then … boom! Here comes the denial again.

Learning to Accept That Your Loved One Is in Denial About Their Bipolar Diagnosis

It may be cold comfort to learn that it is very typical behavior for people with bipolar disorder to deny they are “sick” and to avoid treatment, even if they have been in the hospital or taken medications for bipolar in the past.

Also, it’s important to remember that people in denial are usually miserable, in a great deal of internal pain, and can’t see a way out. It’s easy to believe they really can’t see what’s going on. But unless denial is a result of a mood swing — such as strong mania or paranoia — the affected individuals usually know what is happening. They respond to your concern with aggression, because they are trying to protect their decision to deny the brain-based disorder.

It hurts when a person in denial shuts you out, but it’s common. The person prefers to be around others who don’t mention bipolar, and will paint you as the “bad guy” because you are the one who is stating the truth.

RELATED: 10 Ways to Support Someone Who Has Bipolar

There is good news, however. I’ve talked with hundreds of people who moved through denialto eventually admitting that bipolar is at the root of their problems and they needed help. Over and over again, I’ve been told how, despite their relentless inner pain and confusion, they refused help and pushed away the people who cared about them.

It’s when someone realizes they no longer want a life controlled by bipolar disorder that they begin to listen to loving advice instead of fighting back.

Steps to Take When a Loved One Is in Denial About Their Bipolar Diagnosis

If your loved one continues to be in denial of their bipolar diagnosis, here are a few things to keep in mind.

  • Find the sweet spot: Are there periods when your loved one is more open to discussion? Oftentimes, people are more receptive during a mild depressive episode. Once you see a pattern in your loved one’s moods, you’ll have a better sense of when to gently start a conversation.
  • Set expectations: If a loved one with bipolar is living with you, you have the right to set expectations for behaviors, such as drug use, drinking, yelling, staying in bed all day, staying out all hours, and yes, refusing treatment. You are always in control of what works best for you. It’s not always about the person with the mental health condition. It will be up to you to decide the consequences — and set and reinforce boundaries — if your expectations aren’t met.
  • Understand the challenges: Always remember that bipolar is a mental health condition. No one chooses to have bipolar disorder. People in denial can be very unpleasant, and it’s easy to walk away from them, but don’t forget they are suffering. It’s okay to address this directly. Go ahead and say you understand that it must be hard to have someone tell you what to do. Say that you can tell they feel misunderstood. People in denial may get angry or refuse to reply, but they have heard you. Many times, when they get better, they will tell you they heard you.
  • Hold onto hope: I’ve known many people who accepted treatment after years of being in denial, often when loved ones learned simple strategies and got them help at the right time. It isn’t easy to hang on until then. Nothing with bipolar disorder is easy! But bipolar is treatable, even for those who currently refuse to admit they are unwell and need help.


UPDATED: Printed as “Fast Talk: The Denial Factor,” Summer 2011

Julie A. Fast

Julie A. Fast is the author of the bestselling mental health books Take Charge of Bipolar DisorderLoving Someone with Bipolar Disorder: Understanding and Helping Your PartnerGetting It Done When You’re DepressedOMG, That’s Me! (vol. 2), and The Health Cards Treatment System for Bipolar Disorder. She is a longtime bp Magazine writer and the top blog contributor, with over 5 million blog views. Julie is also a researcher and educator who focuses on bipolar disorder prevention and ways to recognize mood swings from the beginning—before they go too far and take over a person’s life. She works as a parent and partner coach and regularly trains health care professionals, including psychiatric residents, pharmacists, general practitioners, therapists, and social workers, on bipolar disorder and psychotic disorder management. She has a Facebook group for parents, The Stable Table, and for partners, The Stable Bed. Julie is the recipient of the Mental Health America excellence in journalism award and was the original consultant for Claire Danes’s character on the TV show Homeland. Julie had the first bipolar disorder blog and was instrumental in teaching the world about bipolar disorder triggers, the importance of circadian rhythm sleep, and the physical signs of bipolar disorder, such as recognizing mania in the eyes. Julie lives with bipolar disorder, a psychotic disorder, anxiety, and ADD.

Melinda

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Has The Reader Button Disappeared From Your Page

Yesterday I noticed the button to reach Reader was missing, this morning I looked everywhere including places I knew it would not be. Has this happened to you as well? I know WordPress is a a mess to work with and this is probably another one of their issues that will correct itself at some point. If nothing else I want to make sure it’s not just me or a possible issue with my browser software.

I appreciate all relies. :)

Melinda

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The Behaviors That Get On My Last Nerve

This post isn’t a rant, it’s more of a message for those who behave this way. I have no tolerance for bad behavior, it’s rude and uncalled for. 

Here is a sampling of bad behaviors I can live without.

Cutting in line, or leaving a beer in line doesn’t count. Go to the back of the line.

Harassing the elderly.

Feeling entitled.

Weaving in and out of traffic.

Driving 40 miles over the speed limit.

Thinking you’re better than others.

Throwing trash anywhere.

Thinking the rules aren’t for you.

When you drive in water that is too deep, you get what you deserve. You need to pay to be rescued.

Thinking you aren’t responsible for paying off your college loan.

Parking your car in front of your house when there is room in the driveway.

When the neighbor’s pool company parks their truck in the alley and blocks traffic.

When someone talks over another person, unless it’s an emergency shut up and wait your turn. You’re not that important.

People who don’t flush the toilet.

Someone decides for me, it’s not your place and I have a perfectly good brain.

If someone rides my bumper, I may slam on the brakes. Gun or not, I’ve done it before.

If you talk down to someone, you need a bitch slap.

Crosswalks at a street light are for people, not your vehicle. 

If you are in front of someone while entering or leaving a building, you have the extra few seconds to let them go first and hold the door open for them.

Don’t take photos of others without their permission unless they are committing a crime, following you, or vandalizing property.

These are a few that come to mind this morning.

Melinda

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13 Celebrities Who Embrace Their Bipolar Disorder

 

These 13 celebs accept their bipolar and are using their platforms to break the stigma and push for acceptance of brain-based conditions.

By Jade Zora Scibilia

Whether you love them or “love to hate them,” celebrities can make a real difference, especially when they take a stand for something positive. The following stars with bipolar disorder use their fame (and occasional notoriety) to draw our attention to what really matters, start meaningful conversations among loved ones and policymakers, break the silencing effect of social stigma, and enhance both awareness and acceptance of this brain-based disorder. These celebrities — among others — have had a life-affirming, morale-boosting impact. Whether through a “tell-all” interview or memoir, a powerful pop song, or a moving on-screen performance, these stars continue to rally people with bipolar — and their supporters — to power through and find the hope of a new day.
1. Faye DunawayIn the HBO documentary Faye, the iconic Faye Dunaway, now 83, talks about her lifelong battle with mental health, including her bipolar disorder diagnosis.“Emotion is a strength, not a weakness,” she shared with The Independentat the documentary’s premiere in Cannes in May 2024. Dunaway reflects on how her intense emotions fueled her performances but also contributed to her reputation for being difficult on set — earning her the nickname “the dreaded Dunaway” (and “Dread” for short) from Jack Nicholson during Chinatown. In the documentary, Dunaway candidly discusses how she’s worked with doctors and taken medication to manage her mood swings. She acknowledges it’s been difficult, but “it’s something I’ve had to deal with and overcome and understand. It’s part of who I am.” 
2. Alan RitchsonYou may know Alan Ritchson as the star of Prime Video’s Reacher, but did you know he also lives with bipolar disorder? Diagnosed at 36, the now 41-year-old actor has been open about his struggles.“As much as I would like to ignore that I’m a suicide survivor, if I didn’t share what I’ve learned, I feel like my life would be meaningless,” Ritchson told CBC Radio’s “Q” program. “I’ve always been a happy-go-lucky guy, but once you experience the grip [of depression] — the talons it can sink into you — you realize how sinister this thing is and how out of control the biology can really be.”

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Jade Zora Scibilia is a former editor at bpHope, bp Magazine and Esperanza. She was formerly the managing editor at Prometheus Booksand the senior editor of Seventh Street Books and Pyr. She is also the author of two nonfiction children’s books.


I applaud anyone who steps out and embraces their mental illness, there is still a stigma, and those who are public about it are brave and very strong.

Melinda

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National Grief Awareness Day August 30

Grief has touched millions of lives at one point or another and many have grieved several times. I know grief well, two of my close friends in high school died, my father died in 1992, my Granny died in 2005 and my Gramp’s in 2010. Everyone grieves differently and there is no time frame regardless of what people say. Who would tell a parent how long to grieve for their child, I would pray that no one is that uneducated. My father commited suicide and I spent seven years grieving yet as much as I loved my Grandparents and as close as we were, I grieved less. Maybe it was because I was a caregiver to both.

The key to grieving is giving yourself the time you need yet not get stuck there. We all have to move forward.

What Is National Grieving Awareness Day About?

This National Grief Awareness Day on August 30 is dedicated to raising awareness of the myriad ways in which individuals cope with loss. It offers resources to those going through personal losses and reminds us to support people we know who are grieving. National Grief Awareness Day, founded by Angie Cartwright in 2014, hopes to encourage open communication on loss and bereavement and better inform the public on the facts of grief.

Grief is one of the oldest and most enduring aspects of the human experience. If you haven’t yet experienced grief, it’s unfortunately likely to happen. The term ‘grief’ encompasses all of the emotions around a loss, and ‘mourning’ is defined as the external expression of the pain. ‘Bereavement’ is another commonly-used term for grief. Throughout human history, there have been many attempts to describe and heal grief, and they have changed significantly over the years.

Due in part to our vastly improved physical and mental healthcare, grief is understood far differently today than even as little as 100 years ago. While we often have the privilege (for some, even the expectation) of only losing our loved ones when they are at a ripe old age, comfortable, and with family nearby, this has rarely been the case throughout history. The lack of modern transportation often separated loved ones, wars ravaged populations, and poor medical and sanitation knowledge led to too many untimely deaths. Throughout history, the deaths of loved ones have been far more common, and grief was understood differently.

Melinda

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Are TV Depictions of Bipolar Helpful or Harmful? 

By Stephanie Stephens 

Medically Reviewed by Allison Young, MD

Last Updated: 16 Feb 2024

TV characters with Bipolar Disorder can show that treatment leads to stability. But dramatized portrayals of manic extremes may perpetuate stigma and misconceptions.

“Surely there is someone out there who will take me for who I am: the good, the bad, the full story of love.”

That’s award-winning actor Anne Hathaway as Lexi, prognosticating optimistically about her romantic future as a woman with bipolar disorder. Lexi’s adventures take up the third episode of Modern Love, an Amazon Prime Video streaming series that debuted in October 2019.

At the splashy New York City premiere that Amazon hosted to launch the series, Hathaway did a bit of optimistic prognosticating herself — namely, that her Modern Love segment would help make it easier for people to put bipolar on the table.

“I think those conversations are starting to happen,” she told Variety, adding that people weren’t putting off those talks because of shame “but because we don’t know how to start.”

Hathaway brought up another important point about seeing characters with bipolar on TV: Making the condition, and those who live with it, visible in the mainstream.

“This episode is going to mean so much because it offers some form of representation,” she said.

How Bipolar Disorder Is Represented on TV

For viewers today, the question isn’t so much whether people with bipolar are represented on TV shows, but rather what form that representation takes. Is it more like reckless Ian Gallagher on Showtime’s Shameless? Or more like Kat, the struggling figure skater at the heart of the Netflix original series Spinning Out?

Ian (played by Cameron Monaghan) embraces denial and mostly avoids treatment. Over the show’s 10 seasons, he’s been prone to poor judgment and rash acts — including trying to steal an Army helicopter. He’s gone through stints of sexual promiscuity and fallen into religious fanaticism. (Truth to tell, though, he’s far from the only troubled member of the dysfunctional Gallagher clan.)

Over on Spinning Out, which debuted in January 2020, Kat (Kaya Scodelario) couldn’t be more different. Sure, she’s got her romantic difficulties, her mother-daughter drama, her angst over where to take her skating career. But managing her bipolar slots quietly alongside all the other challenges in her life.Lest we miss out on negative stereotypes, however, Kat’s mother also has bipolar. She’s shown behaving unpredictably and aggressively when she gets lackadaisical with her meds.

Do These Representations Help or Harm?

For Anita of Mt. Vernon, Illinois, portrayals of bipolar on TV do more to mislead than to educate because there’s no way they can be well-rounded and realistic. For one thing, there’s a lot about living with bipolar that just doesn’t make for good drama — or comedy.

“There’s absolutely nothing glamorous, hilarious, or entertaining about actually having bipolar illness,” says Anita, who received her bipolar 2 diagnosis at age 15. “The audience would not be interested in a character who just lies in bed [onscreen] and cries for 30 minutes straight.”

For another, the time limits on television programming make it impossible to accurately show the long, arduous arc of maintaining wellness.

“People are conditioned to believe that all of life’s problems can be resolved in less than an hour because television and movies have taught us that,” Anita says.“Having people around us who are ‘enter-trained’ to believe that their favorite beloved character got through her panic attack in the last episode with flying colors doesn’t help the rest of us at all,” she says. “Real life doesn’t work that way.”

Aiming for Accurate Depictions of Bipolar Disorder

Within the constraints of the genre — and the selective editing that necessarily goes into shaping a script — the people who produce and write TV shows nowadays try not to let gross inaccuracies filter through. Actors do their research, too, reading up on bipolar and consulting with people who actually walk the walk.

Each of Modern Love’s eight episodes is based on a first-person essay from the weekly New York Times column of the same name. Hathaway’s episode was inspired by a piece titled “Take Me as I Am, Whoever I Am,” by Hollywood entertainment lawyer-turned-author Terri Cheney.

Translated to the small screen, we have Hathaway as an attractive, successful Manhattan attorney hoping to move beyond dating into a meaningful relationship. That’s not so easy while trying to hide her bipolar moods.

Instead of dishing up a happily-ever-after romantic finale, the episode ends on a hopeful, truthful note. Hathaway’s character decides to be upfront about all aspects of herself, adding her diagnosis to her online profile on a dating website.

Of course, the hope and the truth originally belonged to Cheney. Before her essay was published on January 13, 2008, Cheney kept her bipolar 1 disorder on the down low. Publishing in the NYT column was her loud-and-proud moment.

“At that time, there wasn’t a vocabulary for the way it really feels to have bipolar disorder,” recalls Cheney, who went on to publish the memoirs Manic and The Dark Side of Innocence. “Writing helped me feel like I control the experience, that I own it and it doesn’t control me anymore.”

For the TV adaptation, Amazon’s production team sought Cheney’s input. She also had discussions with Hathaway, who pored over Manic to get a better feel for her role.

Is the episode perfect? Cheney wouldn’t change a thing about it — and especially adores the musical elements, a trademark of director John Carney — but concedes that “you can’t be all things to all people. A 30-minute episode has to be condensed for dramatic purposes. For example, my own mood switches are not that instantaneous.”

A Daytime Drama’s Truth About Bipolar Treatment

In 2006, half a decade after prime-time TV took the plunge, mob boss Sonny Corinthos was diagnosed with bipolar 1 on ABC’s iconic soap opera General HospitalMaurice Benard, whose own bipolar was diagnosed at age 22, has played Sonny since 1993 — netting two Emmys over the years.

Even as his character brought bipolar to the notice of the show’s viewers, Benard spoke candidly about real-life experiences in interviews and other public settings.

In his memoir Nothing General About It: How Love (and Lithium) Saved Me On and Off General Hospital, Benard writes more in-depth about the challenges of controlling his mood symptoms while filming on a daily basis and about the support he received from colleagues.

Benard has told bp Magazine that he “gave a ton of input” on how a mood episode and managing bipolar might play out. For example, he insisted Sonny be shown taking his meds.

On occasion, Benard objected to elements in certain scripts. As an industry insider, however, he accepts that the nature of a melodrama sometimes works against accuracy.

The Young and the Restless, aka Y&R, gave long-running character Sharon Newman a bipolar diagnosis in 2012. Josh Griffith, co-executive producer and head writer of the CBS soap, put considerable thought into responsibly portraying a character with bipolar.

“I looked at some of the emotional journeys the character had taken over the years, picked up what seemed to be a pattern of up-and-down behavior that might fit with bipolar disorder, and saw a chance to, (a) tell a compelling and dramatic story, and (b) explore an important and topical issue that affects millions of people,” he says. “We wanted to be medically accurate with both behavior and treatment, and as dramatic as possible,” he adds.

The Harm of Stereotypes on TV

As far as greater representation in mainstream programs, Cheney doesn’t think television in general has normalized bipolar because stereotypes still prevail most of the time. Notably, “plotlines when a character goes off their medications and becomes manic. … I felt it inferred blame on people for their condition,” she explains, apologizing if she sounds “cranky” about it all.

Nevertheless, Cheney remembers being “so excited that bipolar disorder was being acknowledged at all” when the NBC hospital drama ER introduced the character of Maggie Wyczenski 20 years ago.

Sally Field won an Emmy for her portrayal of Maggie, who first appeared in the November 16, 2000, episode called The Visit. She dropped in on her daughter, Abby Lockhart, one of the show’s main characters. Maggie returned in another 11 episodes over the following seasons, usually demonstrating some extreme or disruptive behavior feeding into a dramatic conflict.“Now I sort of cringe to see how over-the-top her character was when she was manic — wearing a skimpy red dress and flirting shamelessly with all the young interns,” Cheney says. “It’s not exactly inaccurate, just less nuanced than we are today.”

Increased Representation of Bipolar Disorder on TV

Maggie seemed to blow open a door for the industry. In 2001, the HBO comedic drama Six Feet Under went even further, including a character with bipolar as a regular part of the ensemble cast. While not one of the central figures, Billy Chenowith (Jeremy Sisto) familiarized viewers with the fact that bipolar is a treatable condition.

Over the show’s five seasons, however, Billy sometimes went off his meds with stereotypically destructive results. As the Los Angeles Times noted, “Billy can be sullen, seductive, filled with rage or decimated by self-loathing, depending on whether he’s taken his medication.”

Throughout the decade, that remained the motif on a variety of programs: a minor, recurring or ensemble character exhibiting manic behavior if not in treatment — but also demonstrating that medication can pave the way to stability.

Then came Homeland.

The Showtime spy thriller, which premiered in October 2011, puts its character with bipolar front and center. That would be CIA officer Carrie Mathison, played by high-profile actor Claire Danes. Carrie is a top-ranking counterterrorism agent, operating in a high-pressure environment. Her bipolar is an integral aspect of her characterization and a seamless element in the plot.

No one would put Carrie on a pedestal for carefully managed wellness, but she introduced viewers to a more complex view of living with bipolar. She’s shown choosing to go off her meds in order to exploit the sharper thinking of hypomania. She demonstrates obsessive behavior during manic episodes. Her depressive episodes get written into the script.

Some critics slammed Homeland for sensationalizing the disorder. Hannah Jane Parkinson, a columnist for the British newspaper The Guardian, was one viewer who argued back. Parkinson, who has bipolar, found Danes’ portrayal “accurate and refreshing.”

The 2014 opinion piece continued: “Most of the time, the show gets it right. … In a world in which mental health stigma is still devastating, it’s fantastic that films and TV programs are upping their game when it comes to representation.”

How Actors Prepare to Play a Character With Bipolar Disorder

Danes captured two Emmys for her work on Homeland. As with Hathaway on Modern Love, she turned to Cheney’s memoir Manic as part of her research on how to play the character.

“Claire is a terrific actor, and yes, there were episodes of [Carrie] going off her meds, but she paid more attention than usual to her character’s bipolar disorder,” says Cheney. “She did a very good job at representing depression.”

Showtime initially consulted Julie A. Fast, an author, speaker, and personal coach specializing in mood disorders. Homeland’s showrunners enlisted Fast’s help before filming the pilot and used her book Take Charge of Bipolar Disorder to help develop Danes’ character.

“Claire was wonderful, lovely, down-to-earth and very welcoming, and tried really hard to get bipolar right,” says Fast, a longtime bp Magazine columnist. “She treated me beautifully as an equal and asked very intelligent questions, especially about mania.”

Unfortunately, Fast says, her own illness didn’t sync well with the stressful demands of that job.

“I love the work, but have to find a balance between the TV world and my own stability. This creates a lot of loss — and [that’s] not something the TV shows talk about very often,” she muses.

What TV Shows Have Gotten Right About Bipolar

One thing Homeland did get right, Fast says, was illustrating “the superpowers we feel during a euphoric manic episode.”

She adds, “Going off meds to intentionally get manic is a very realistic portrayal of how we want the meds to help with depression, but often we miss the high energy of being manic.Mania makes us feel invincible. And as always happens, Claire’s character made terrible decisions when she went off her meds.”

Fast praises Homeland for showing the fallout of Carrie’s decisions when they didn’t end well or safely.

Alas, Homeland wrapped in spring 2020. Ditto for Fox’s Empire. That series about scheming music executives in New York City, which first aired in 2015, also concluded in 2020. 

The character of Andre Lyon on Empire moved depictions of bipolar a huge step forward. He has a successful management career, nimbly navigating the treacherous waters of the family dynasty. He has a business degree from the prestigious Wharton School. He’s in a stable marriage with his college sweetheart. (He’s also a Black man, bringing a whole new dimension to representation.)

Mental health activist Ruth C. White, PhD, MPH, MSW, singles out Andre as a more realistic example of someone with the disorder than is usually seen. He’s active and effective, follows his treatment plan, and is able to successfully manage stress.

“He sees his doctor to tweak his meds on occasions and… doesn’t fall apart when his baby dies,” White, a clinical associate professor of social work at the University of Southern California, told VH1.

Storytelling and Social Awareness of Bipolar

“On screen, it’s really important to continue to reinforce what bipolar disorder is and what it is not,” says Marie Gallo Dyak, president and CEO of the Entertainment Industries Council.

“Stories tell us that people can be accurately diagnosed, can be safely treated, be productive, and sustain a lifestyle they are comfortable with,” she says. “These are really important stories that need to be told.”

The council is a Hollywood watchdog group established in 1983 to promote accurate depictions of behavioral health and social issues in films, TV shows, and other media. It provides science-based resources to scriptwriters and their colleagues.

Dyak has definitely seen big strides forward. She says bipolar “is more mainstream than when we first started talking about it — especially in a clinical way.… Now, when someone says something about bipolar disorder, it’s not uncomfortable.”

Some advancements may be more subtle, she notes. For example, “instead of someone asking, ‘What’s wrong with you?’ [in a scene], a character can ask, ‘What’s happened to you?’”

Fast keeps her finger on the pulse of how bipolar is shown in various media and measures progress in increments. In her opinion, greater representation on the small screen has increased awareness of mental health challenges.

Compared to a decade ago, she sees more open and uplifting dialogue in both post-show chatter on social media and in general. Despite the limited lens on living with the illness, every character we see on TV does a little bit to chip away at silence and stigma.

“Is it positive?” Fast asks rhetorically. “Absolutely.”

The Persistence of Bipolar Stereotypes on TV

In fall 2017, Declan O’Hern, then a communications student at Elon University in North Carolina, authored a research paper that analyzed portrayals of bipolar disorder in television dramas over the preceding decade.

O’Hern noted that at least 16 TV shows since the early 2000s incorporated characters with bipolar either as a protagonist or recurring character. She tracked the accuracy of depictions in ERFriday Night LightsShamelessHomelandEmpire, and the Canadian franchise Degrassi.

Factors included how treatment and recovery were shown, the character’s social and professional functioning, and incidents of dangerous or violent behavior blamed on the illness.

O’Hern cited earlier entertainment tropes that linked “the actions of murderers, molesters [and] egomaniacs” to mental disorders. That was in the dark ages before mental health awareness campaigns and school curricula on mental wellness. However, more recent TV scripts still rely on exaggerated behaviors — as might be expected from writers looking to provide a dramatic hook.

“All shows collectively hit on almost every stereotype at least once and, in general, television depicted violent and criminal behavior far too often,” O’Hern concluded.

Furthermore, the shows frequently failed to put such behaviors in context to make the actions more understandable.

On the plus side, O’Hern added, viewers were given more realistic exposure to the existence of professional incompetence, unwillingness to accept treatment, and the fact that recovery doesn’t happen instantaneously.

The final verdict: “Despite recent progress, contemporary bipolar protagonists still have progress to make before depictions can be classified as wholly realistic.”

Stephanie Stephens, M.A is an 18-year journalist and content producer, specializing in health and healthcare, investigations, celebrities, pets, lifestyle, and business. She writes for magazines and online publications, networks, hospitals and health systems, corporations, nonprofits, government agencies, as well as advertising and marketing agencies. Her work has appeared in Kaiser Health NewsEveryday HealthWebMD, in content for the American Academy of NeurologyNational MS SocietyAmerican Heart AssociationAmerican Lung Association, and more. She has written for TODAY.com, Family Circle, Cooking LightParadeUSA Today and others. She’s currently producing a television series, and completed her master’s in journalism at New York University. Stephanie has lived in 16 cities, is a resident of New Zealand by application, and is committed to improving animal welfare. Follow Stephanie at mindyourbody.tvLinkedInTwitterInstagram, and YouTube.

I have often felt the media does not depict Mental Illness correctly, how could they if the writers do not have a Mental Illness. Not to mention that media is all about drama and making money. If depicted correctly it wouldn’t always make for the best ratings. That’s why we have to look beyond the surface for reality, reality TV is not the least bit of reality.

Melinda