Book Review I Can’t Have That, I Have Allergies by Katie Kinsella

August 25, 2025 Looking for the Light2 Comments

I want to give a special thanks to Managing Editor Soraya Nair for sending me I Can’t Have That I Have Allergies by Katie Kinsella for review.

Blurb

All the animals in the woodland are headed to a party – that is, except Hedgehog, who can’t attend because of his food allergies. But one of his kind friends, Deer, decides to learn more about his condition, and she comes up with a plan so that Hedgehog can safely celebrate, too!

I Can’t Have That, I Have Allergies is a sensitively written story by a mother whose daughter has life-threatening allergies. It will enlighten those unfamiliar with the severity of such allergies, and it will help children who suffer from them to know that they aren’t alone.

My Thoughts

Have you missed school on a special day? You were probably sad that you could not participate in the fun. The Hedgehog has a similar story, he has severe allergies which limit what he can eat. It’s not fun going to a birthday party and not being able to eat cake.

As each of the Hedgehog’s friends stop in on the way to a birthday party, he explains why he can’t go to the party. His friends go on their way but they have a big surprise for him. They cared so much for their friend, they contacted his mother to get a list of what he can’t eat and they made a cake he could. They show up at Hedgehog’s house and have a big Birthday party which allows the Hedgehog to have fun and not worry about what he can or can’t eat.

The book does an excellent job of describing Allergies children can understand. I think the bigger picture is when Hedgehog share’s with his friends why he can’t go, they didn’t abandon him, they embraced him instead. It’s important for kids to know they can talk about their problems instead of keeping everything in.

For every parent who has a child with Allergies of any kind, this is the perfect book to show if you share what is going on with your friends they will have your back.

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We have built a first-class resource of curated books produced and published in-house to create a unique collection of mental health recovery titles unrivaled in quality and selection. We work with experts, psychologists, doctors, and coaches to produce our books, but we also work with real people looking to share their stories to reach out to others and provide hope, understanding, and compassion. These brave authors also aim to raise awareness of mental health’s “human” face and its impact on everyday lives.

Melinda

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Happy Birthday Daddy 1940-1992

August 24, 2025 Looking for the Light19 Comments

The morning after you killed yourself, we went to secure the house. I knew immediately you suffered slowly. Among the papers, trash, and clothes and I found your lockbox. The divorce paperwork to my mother, every card I gave you as a child. I found the pad you were writing on. Your Bible on the coffee table, dried tears as you were reading Job in the Bible.

The note had 11:30 a.m. written in the corner. I could see you called your best friend and the phone number to a suicide line. There were words and a drawing that made no sense. Granny paralyzed, crying, asking why. The house ransacked, nothing anything made sense to her.

Dirty dishes piled high, nothing in the refrigerator, how did you live like this, how long? You phoned me several times in the months before your death. Delusional and highly paranoid each time. Someone was tapping your phone, they were trying to get you and the rest I could not understand, you were already gone. As much as I hated you, I cried, begged you not to kill yourself, trying to reason with him that Granny would never be the same. I paid your bills for months. You weren’t in touch with reality.

The outcome will not change if determined. I knew you would take your life and told no-one. I’ve wondered what went through your mind in the hours doodling to writing the note, then killing yourself. I received the call at 10:00 p.m., Gramps said your dad has done away with himself. I called right back to see if you were dead or going to the hospital.

The boxes of cassettes next to your bed, taking months to listen to. You were mentally ill, not under the care of a Psychiatrist, no medications. Your temper went 1-10 in seconds, obnoxious, loud, racist, screaming, out of control.

You had hit the bottom and I didn’t know because we were estranged,

I’ve experienced being suicidal more than once, God and my husband saved me. If you are thinking about suiside, call your Psychiatrist right away or go to closet hospital, be open with your doctor and follow all medications instructions, these actions may save your life. I’ve stayed in Psychistratic Hospitals multiple times, I had 21 ECT Treatments, and I feel no shame. My mental heath is critical to living a balanced life.

I think of you one day a year.

Melinda

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I’ll Be On Hiatus For At Least Six Weeks

August 19, 2025September 11, 2025 Looking for the Light35 Comments

It’s crazy to think I had two hand surgeries in December 2024 and tomorrow I’m having a shoulder replacement surgery. I will wear a sling three to four weeks and go right into Physical Therapy. OUCH!

I could not find the button to turn off comments, now your comment’s will be held in moderation. I’ll starting reading and replying once I’m able.

You’re appreciated and I’ll miss reading and chatting with you.. See you soon.

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Chronic Illness and Marriage

August 18, 2025 Looking for the Light19 Comments

When you get married you commit for “better or worse and in sickness and in health”. You don’t think those two things will happen early in your marriage if you think about them at all. Marriage is full of ups and downs, good and bad, and is very hard at times. When you add a chronic illness to the mix it can get complicated. Not every person is ready for the “better or worse, or in sickness and in health”.

Sacrifices are essential to living with someone with a Chronic Illness. There were years where my husband had to fill my medicine case each week, cook every meal, do all the laundry, help me shower, get me dressed, help me in and out of the car, walk me up and down the stairs, the list goes on and on. I haven’t seen the inside of a grocery store in years.

He gave up several hobbies he loved to make sure there was always time to take care of my medical and mental health needs. It comes at a cost to the partner’s mental health. I encouraged him to seek counseling which he did and it helped a great deal.

My husband has been caring for me and my health since we first married. Long before Lyme Disease, an Immune Deficiency Disorder, and Fibromyalgia, there was my Mental Illness to care for. I have Bipolar Disorder, which is a serious Mental Illness that requires constant monitoring and several medications to stay well.

From the very beginning, he had to keep an eye out for signs and symptoms. Ask gently if I had taken my medication and help me deal with my depression when the Black Dog moved in.

One of the things I asked from the very beginning was for him to sit in on my appointments with my Psychiatrist. I wanted him to understand how sick I was and hear it from the doctor, to hear me talk to the doctor. This would prove immensely helpful in the years to come.

One critical step my husband took is put my health before his career, it was a huge guilt trip for me. He passed up promotions and great opportunities to travel so that I would not be home alone. Just last week his boss asked all of the VP’s to lunch and he had to decline due to the rising cases of Omacrom. Ouch, that burns sometimes!

I don’t know what I would have done over the past 23 years without his sacrifices. If you have a chronic illness make sure you are transparent in the struggle and what may be required of them. If a dating relationship can’t withstand that challenge then a marriage certainly won’t.

Melinda

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Must-Read Non-Fiction for Personal Growth by Guest Blogger Damon Ashworth Psychology

August 17, 2025 Looking for the Light1 Comment

I enjoy reading Damon’s post, he is a great writer, makes complex subject matter easier to read and is a nice guy. Be sure to stop by, read through his archives and be sure to say hello.

Must-Read Non-Fiction for Personal Growth

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Daily Writing Prompt

August 16, 2025 Looking for the Light4 Comments

Daily writing prompt

What positive emotion do you feel most often?

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Even though I consider myself as jaded by my life’s experiences, makes me gratefull everyday. No matter if life is good or bad being grateful keeps me focused on the positive things gong on in my life.

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Friday Quote

August 15, 2025 Looking for the Light1 Comment

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Daily Writing Prompt

August 14, 2025 Looking for the Light13 Comments

Daily writing prompt

Create an emergency preparedness plan.

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I have started an emergency backpack for each of us. They are not complete but here’s what’s packed so far.

Flip flops

Whistle

4 small recharable flashlights and charger each

Small first aid kit

Pop up dog bowls

New leash and harness for both dogs

Copies of dog’s shot’s

I have a few personal items to add to mine and may think of other items. My backpack is large, I’m hoping to have time to get my phone and laptop. The key is to get us and the dogs out of the house in an emergency. Items can be replaced.

Melinda

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Hobbies Can Boost Your Mental Health

August 14, 2025 Looking for the Light6 Comments

We all know that life can get busy. As a result, it can be hard to find the time to treat ourselves or indulge in doing the things that we really love. However, there are a number of reasons why having a hobby can be a really great thing. Hobbies are often much more than just enjoying ‘me time as they can also be something that can be so vital for our overall well-being and our mental health. A hobby is one of the best ways that you can spend your spare time, unwind from your normal routine, and feel happier and healthier as a result.

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In fact, there is research that has shown that people who have hobbies are much less likely to feel stressed, low mood, or depressed. So if that isn’t enough reason to find a hobby that you love, we don’t know what is! No matter what kind of hobby you choose, from an academic hobby, a creative hobby, an athletic hobby, or something else more personal, it is important to find things that give you meaning and that you ultimately find enjoyable. When you enjoy it, you will want to carve out time for it to make sure that it happens. So with all of this in mind, here are a few hobbies that can work wonders for your mental health. What would you choose?

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Music

If you have an interest in music and want to learn to play an instrument, then it can be an amazing hobby for a number of reasons. Playing music is something that is a fantastic way to help yourself to feel less stressed, and it can be useful when wanting to channel any uncomfortable feelings or emotions that you might have. You can also enjoy the social aspect of a musical hobby if you are interested in joining a group, a band, or an orchestra. Having goals is all part of beating anxiety or depression, and there are plenty of things that are goal-orientated when it comes to music. You will also have the distraction of learning an instrument as you need to fit in time to play it. That will require your focus and mean that you don’t have to focus on other things that are causing you stress or worry.

Gardening

Gardening is a great hobby for people that love to be outdoors and be at one with nature. Even if you’re not too keen on the outdoors, getting out in your yard can work wonders when you are feeling low. You can plant your favorite flowers which will require planning or research, as well as planting fruits and veggies. You will need to do research to know what will be best to do and when, and it can be a hobby that can definitely help you in a physical way, as well as from a mental health perspective too.

Gardening can be a hobby that is very rewarding, as you will see things that will grow because of your efforts in taking care of them. Appreciating nature and the outdoors can also go a long way to help your stress levels, as well as anxiety. So it should be a hobby to consider if you are looking for something new to try.

Cars and automobiles

If you have a passion for cars and automobiles, then it can be a good idea to incorporate those into a hobby of yours. You could have a hobby of making kit cars, which can be extremely rewarding as you see something come together that you can then use, all from your hard work, research, and expertise. You could look at replacing things like car batteries, but make sure that you use a good battery finder to get the right one for your needs. You could also look into repairing engines and learning how to do things like oil changes, which can be such a useful thing to know and save you a lot of money down the line.

From another point of view, you could also get into cars and automobile hobbies by getting into racing. It could be off-road racing, it could be sports car racing, or even something like biking, trail bikes, and even BMX biking.

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Yoga

There are a number of benefits to our mental health that come from physical exercise. Yoga is one of those ways that you can exercise that does have a benefit to mental health. It has grown and grown in popularity in recent years, due to it being a way to move and be active and help your mental health. Yoga works well as a hobby because it can calm our nervous system. It can also help with depression and help to reduce any muscle tension. You can watch classes online or attend them locally. Some easy poses can be done at home, although it is a good idea to seek advice from an instructor if you want to take things to the next level. When you are doing something new, your focus is on the task at hand, which can take your mind off other things.

Writing

Writing is a great hobby, and it is one of the most simple choices out there. It costs very little and can be done at any time. Writing out on pen and paper, rather than on a computer or phone notes can do great things for your mind. You could have the creative element of writing a novel or using the time to write more of a journal which can be very cathartic. As a result, it can offer a number of benefits, and help you to relieve stress, help depression, eliminate anxiety, and even help your memory and improve your sleep.

Putting thoughts down on paper means that you can identify some negative thoughts and behaviors, and then they are no longer in your mind. You can also use this time to write down how things are going as a way to replace negative thoughts with happier and more positive ones.

This is a collaborative post.

Melinda

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Wordless Wednesday-Red Striped Roses

August 13, 2025 Looking for the Light10 Comments

I’m glad you joined me on Wordless Wednesday and I hope to see you soon.

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Overcoming Stress & Depression – 5 Tips to Bring Back the Sunshine

August 12, 2025 Looking for the Light3 Comments

Mental health is in decline across the world. Many people are quietly struggling with stress and depression, and it is causing mental breakdowns and suicides. It is especially sad considering that these conditions can be managed and treated.

Here are five easy and reliable tips to overcome stress and depression:

Talk to Someone

Social support is one of the best remedies for stress and depression. People are social beings, and their mental health requires healthy social ties. To this end, loneliness has been identified as a catalyst for stress, depression, and other mental conditions.

You will feel your emotional and mental woes ease when you talk to someone about your troubles. Your friends and family members will offer unconditional love and support to help you overcome your problems.

Additionally, you can get professional help by talking to a therapist if your depression feels too difficult to bear. Bottom line: talk to someone and surround yourself with a positive company.

Distract Your Mind with Entertainment

Don’t get lost in your mind. You will just keep pondering over your problems and making them feel bigger than they are. It will be more exciting and relaxing to distract yourself with something entertaining.

You have lots of entertainment options at your fingertips. You could listen to some soothing music or watch a thrilling movie. Just ensure that it is something you like, and preferably something that will make you laugh.

Exercise

Exercising can work miracles for depression. Working out helps you feel like you are physically unloading your mental and emotional burdens. Exercising also helps reduce the levels of stress hormones in the body and triggers the production of hormones associated with relaxation. Additionally, the physical and health benefits of exercising are a confidence booster.

Exercising is also recommended for seniors struggling with depression because of their physical and mental conditions. For example, exercising can help improve memory retention, easing the depressing effects of Alzheimer’s.

Learn Something New

Learning is another way of distracting your mind and doing something productive in the process. For example, some therapists recommend learning new skills such as cooking as a form of therapy. Other people struggling with depression find solace in photography.

There is no limit to the variety of new hobbies or activities you can undertake to manage your depression. However, make sure that it is something that interests you if you want it to work.

Get a Pet

Pets are unconditionally loyal, loving, and everything nice. They always have time for their masters, and they are the best listeners. More importantly, they will learn new tricks just to please you. To this end, a cute pet such as a dog can ease the emotional and mental strain causing stress and depression. A pet will keep you company and bring you back to your loving self as you both bond.

Final Thoughts

Stress and depression can make life look gloomy, without an end in sight and they can lead to worse mental conditions and even drive patients to suicide. As such, practice these tips for yourself or a loved one to overcome depression and stop suicide in its tracks.

This a collaborative post.

Melinda

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“You mourn the life he was supposed to have”: a family’s unfolding Lyme story

August 12, 2025 Looking for the Light4 Comments

Eight-year-old Ben Kuhl of Myrtle Beach, South Carolina, was once an energetic preschooler who loved exploring nature. But four years ago, a tick bite on a family hike changed all that.

At the time, doctors told his parents that as long as Ben’s tick bite did not have a bull’s-eye on it, he would be fine. But it soon became evident Ben was not fine.

According to his mother, LeeAnn, by the time he was finally diagnosed with Lyme disease, it had spread to all of his organs, including his brain.

He is only able to talk on some days, his motor functions have worsened, and he has painful inflammation throughout his body.

“You mourn the life that he was supposed to have, so you mourn the parent that you were supposed to be,” LeeAnn said.

Click to watch this report from WBTW:

https://www.wbtw.com/video/myrtle-beach-parents-strive-to-help-son-with-lyme-disease/10908489

Melinda

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Daily Writing Prompt

August 9, 2025 Looking for the Light4 Comments

Daily writing prompt

What is the most important thing to carry with you all the time?

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My phone is the most important item I carry with me. I have cognative impairment and agoraphobia, my driving is very limited but without a phone I can’t call my husband to help me home. If it weren’t for the health issues I would say chap stick.

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Friday Quote

August 8, 2025 Looking for the LightLeave a comment

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Free Vector | Inspirational quote on watercolor background

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Daily Writing Prompt

August 7, 2025 Looking for the Light5 Comments

Daily writing prompt

Describe your life in an alternate universe.

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I don’t believe in alternate universes which makes it impossible to describe my life living on one. My life would be the same bacause I like my life. The only fake universe I’ve seen is on the original Star Trek. Living in another universe doesn’t even cross my mind. That could be my thinking process is on the logical side.

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Healthy Aging and Exercise for Seniors

August 7, 2025 Looking for the Light4 Comments

What Do You Want to Know About Senior Health?

As health needs change with age, one thing remains the same. Healthy living is the best way to avoid disease, prolong life, and live happier. Living a longer, healthier life can be made easier with these simple steps.

Eat Natural Foods

Processed foods are often full of:

sugar
sodium
unhealthy fats
calories

Avoid the fake stuff and opt for:

fresh fruits and vegetables
whole grains
fiber-rich foods lean cuts of meat
fresh fish
poultry

Easy grocery shopping tip: Shop the perimeter of the store where the fresh foods are. Try to avoid the inside aisles where many of the boxed and processed foods reside.

Get Your Vitamins

You can get your vitamins with a daily multivitamin designed specifically for older adults, but eating vitamin-rich foods can serve extra benefits. Many foods full of vitamins also provide plenty of healthy fiber and minerals. Pack your meals with vitamin-rich foods, but keep taking the multivitamin for backup.

Get Moving

Physical activity is vital for developing the strong bones and muscles you need to help avoid falls or accidental injuries. Exercise is the best way to avoid obesity and many diseases in people of any age. If you haven’t been physically active in recent years or have concerns about beginning exercise again, talk to your doctor before you start. They may suggest a structured or supervised exercise environment like a rehabilitation clinic. Many hospitals have this type of clinic for patients and those with health concerns. Aim for 30 minutes of physical activity each day. You can break it up into three 10-minute sessions and get the same benefits.

Stop Smoking

Dump the cigarette habit. And stay away from those who do smoke. Second-hand smoke can be almost as dangerous. Once you stop, your risks for heart disease and some cancers will begin decreasing right away. The longer you go without smoking, the better. The risks continue to fall over time.

Prevent Falls

The risk for falls increases as we age. Morbidity and mortality rates connected to falls are also much higher in the older population. Older adults are more prone to injuries from falls or accidents, so it’s important to anticipate potential hazards in your home. These may include, stairs, high bathtub walls, and slippery floors. Also, exercise can improve your strength and balance. If you were to fall or have an accident, the fact that you are physically active may make recovery easier.

Have Regular Checkups

Seeing your doctor on a regular basis for annual screenings or to discuss your general health will help you stay on top of any potential problems. As an older adult, you may need to take a number of different medications. It’s helpful to review your prescriptions regularly so that your doctor can keep abreast of any changes or side effects.

Be Realistic About Driving

Older drivers aren’t always bad drivers. But things that come with aging like changes in vision and slower reaction times make driving trickier and may increase the chances of an accident. Don’t ignore any new problems you notice. Talk to your doctor about your difficulties and see whether there are any solutions.

Melinda

Reference:

https://www.healthline.com/health/senior-health?utm_term=feature&utm_source=Sailthru%20Email&utm_medium=Email&utm_campaign=alzheimers_carejourney&utm_content=2025-07-22&apid=36735751&rvid=7f053d6ecf820dccd09e4914833cbd49bdfe95bb517404ee9b41601767d1bace#avoid-falls

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Why single-dose doxycycline after a tick bite is bad medicine

August 6, 2025 Looking for the Light4 Comments

By Dr. Daniel Cameron

What if you did everything right after a tick bite—and still ended up sick?

That’s what happened to a 37-year-old woman who followed medical advice after a hike in New York’s Hudson Valley. She removed an engorged tick and went to urgent care. The provider gave her a single pill—200 mg of doxycycline—and told her it would prevent Lyme disease.

Weeks later, she developed brain fog, crushing fatigue, and joint pain. It turned out she did have Lyme disease, and possibly other tick-borne infections too.

Her case raises important ethical questions: Are patients being told enough? Are they being protected—or falsely reassured? And are we doing right by those who follow the rules?

The promise of a single pill after a tick bite

The CDC currently recommends a single dose of doxycycline after a tick bite in certain cases. The idea is simple: take the antibiotic early, and you might prevent Lyme disease from taking hold.

But there’s a catch: this one-pill approach was based on a small study published in 2001. It mostly looked at preventing the bull’s-eye rash—not the full illness.

What’s more, the study didn’t follow people long enough to detect cases of Lyme disease that develop without a rash, or cases involving co-infections like Babesia.

What this patient wasn’t told

This woman wasn’t warned about the limits of the single-dose strategy. She wasn’t told that:

It may not prevent the whole disease—just the rash.

It doesn’t protect against other infections ticks can carry.

It only works in very specific situations (right kind of tick, right timing, right area).

If symptoms appear later, Lyme disease testing can be unreliable.

Because she believed she was protected, she waited too long to seek further care—and her test came back negative at first, adding to the confusion.

By the time she arrived at my clinic, her illness had worsened.

Why This Isn’t Just a Medical Issue—It’s an Ethical One

1. Patients Deserve Full Information (Autonomy)

She should’ve been told that the one-pill approach isn’t a guarantee. Without all the facts, she couldn’t make a truly informed choice.

2. Care Should Be Tailored, Not Just Protocol (Beneficence)

She lived in a high-risk Lyme area. The tick was attached long enough to transmit disease. She might have benefited more from a longer antibiotic course. Instead, a “one-size-fits-all” approach failed her.

3. False Reassurance Can Do Harm (Non-Maleficence)

Believing she was safe delayed her diagnosis and treatment. That delay caused more suffering—and made recovery harder.

4. The System Isn’t Fair for Everyone (Justice)

This strategy doesn’t work well for kids under 8, pregnant women, or people who don’t have easy access to care. It assumes everyone knows what kind of tick bit them—and can get treatment within 72 hours. That’s not realistic for many.

What happened when she got the right help

When she finally got to my office, we ran new tests. Her Lyme Western blot confirmed infection. She also had symptoms of Babesia, a parasite that doxycycline doesn’t treat. On top of that, she had orthostatic intolerance (POTS), which had never been linked to her tick bite before.

With a more complete treatment plan—including antibiotics and supportive care—she began to feel better. But the road was longer than it needed to be.

Bottom line: A simple solution isn’t always the right one

The idea of “just one pill” sounds great—but it can create a false sense of safety. When patients aren’t told the full story, they lose the chance to make informed decisions. And when symptoms are dismissed, the consequences can last for months or even years.

We need to do better. That means:

Being honest about what the single-dose approach can and can’t do.
Offering follow-up when patients remain unwell.
Considering co-infections and other risks—not just following a checklist.

Because when it comes to Lyme disease, patients deserve more than a protocol. They deserve a plan.

Dr. Daniel Cameron is a nationally recognized expert in the diagnosis and treatment of Lyme disease. He is a past president of the International Lyme and Associated Diseases Society and a co-aauthor of the ILADS Lyme treatment guidelines. This blog first appeared on his website, danielcameronmd.com. He can also be found on Facebook.

Melinda

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Wordless Wednesday-Sunflower Sunshine

August 6, 2025 Looking for the Light2 Comments

I’m glad you joined me on Wordless Wednesday and I hope to see you soon.

It’s always a good day when Sunflowers greet you.

Melinda

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Blogger Highlight-Musings on Life with Fibromyalgia

August 4, 2025 Looking for the Light9 Comments

Thank you for all the great feedback on the Blogger Highlight series, I’ve enjoyed meeting each blogger and sharing their site with you. This week I highlight Musings on Life with Fibromyalgia. Sarah is a tireless advocate for Fibromyalgia and she breaks down the chronic illness is a way that everyone can understand. She also shares her experiences and what’s she’s learned along her journey.

Musings on Life with Fibromyalgia

I’ve lived with fibromyalgia for around a decade now, made many mistakes along the way, but learnt a lot about how to manage the condition and this is what I’m keen to share with readers of this blog.

So, if you want to find out more about living with fibromyalgia and other chronic illness, how life can change and yet still be full of everyday joy, then that’s where this blog aims to help.

I hope at least some of my blog posts will resonate with you – happy reading!

Sarah

Questions Asked

What is your favorite post and why?

My favourite blog post is this one about journaling. I’ve always journaled on and off since my teenage years and I find it such a powerful tool, not just for dealing with chronic illness, but for navigating life’s challenges generally. There’s real magic that happens with a pen and a blank page and it’s often amazing what will spill out onto the page.

What inspired you to start a blog?

After being diagnosed fibromyalgia, I thought my life was over. Everything changed for me – job, finances, physical capabilities and relationships (through not being believed about this illness). I hit rock bottom. Fortunately, my doctor suggested a CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) course for chronic illness, which started to turn things around. I learned to meet myself where I was at the time (not where I used to be or where I wished I was) and create some new goals.

Slowly but surely, over a period of several years, I began to rebuild my life. I then began to read blogs about fibro and chronic illness and was both informed and inspired by the content. From there, I thought that blogging would be a good way for me to share what I have learned. My blog is about the stuff that I wish that I’d known when I was first diagnosed with fibro. We get a lot of good medical information from health professionals. But where I struggled was with things like, how can I still lead a meaningful life when everything has been turned on its head? What can I do so that I don’t just give up and spend the rest of my life sitting on the sofa wishing things were different? My hope is that through the blog, I can share all of this with others who might be feeling as lost as I was in the beginning.

Published Work

Articles below have all been published in UK Fibromyalgia magazine.

February 2019 – Swimming, fibro and me

March 2020 – Gardening when you have Fibromyalgia

July 2019 – Reasons to Snuggle Up with a Book – the Value of Reading

2020 – Fibromyalgia Magazine – 20th Anniversary Issue

February 2020 – What I’ve Learned about Fibromyalgia from my Dogs

August 2020 – Fibromyalgia and the Perimenopause

September 2020 – My Experience of Lockdown Yoga

December 2020 – Chronic Pain and Rural Living

March 2021 – Benefits of Time Spent in Nature

April 2021 – Open Water Swimming when you have Fibromyalgia

April 2021 – Audiobooks

May 2021 – How Living with Fibromyalgia Might Change You as a Person

June 2021 – Childhood Symptoms that might have been Fibromyalgia

February 2022 – Navigating a Bad Fibro Day

July 2022 – Summertime Blues and Fibromyalgia – page 1 page 2

December 2022 – Anxiety, Fibro and the Festive Season

February 2023 – Experiencing Covid when you have Fibromyalgia

March 2023 – My Top Five Difficulties Living with Fibromyalgia

May 2023 – Reframing the Experience of Living with Fibromyalgia

She’s is also a contributor to The Mighty.

Stop by Sarah’s blog, read through her archives and be sure to say hello.

Melinda

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Chronic Illness · Chronic Pain · Health and Wellbeing · Lyme Disease · Medical · Men & Womens Health · Tick Borne Illnesses

Justin Timberlake reveals he has “relentlessly debilitating” Lyme disease

August 4, 2025 Looking for the Light2 Comments

Hear is a clear message to everyone! Lyme Disease is not picky who the host person is, everyone is prime picking for Lyme Disease’s.

Singer Justin Timberlake has revealed that he has Lyme disease, describing it as “relentlessly debilitating” both mentally and physically.

In a heartfelt Instagram post, Timberlake explained that the diagnosis helped him understand why he was experiencing nerve pain, extreme fatigue, and sickness—even while performing on stage during his two-year Forget Tomorrow World Tour

Despite the challenges, he chose to continue touring, saying:

“I decided the joy that performing brings me far outweighs the fleeting stress my body was feeling. I’m so glad I kept going.”

He also shared that he had been reluctant to speak publicly about his health struggles, but wanted to be more transparent to avoid misinterpretation and to help others facing similar battles.

Timberlake joins a growing list of celebrities—including Justin Bieber and Bella Hadid—who have publicly discussed living with Lyme disease.

Melinda

More coverage:

The New York Times

People

Celebrate Life · Daily Writing Prompt · Fun · Health and Wellbeing

Daily Writing Prompt

August 3, 2025 Looking for the Light6 Comments

Daily writing prompt

Describe one habit that brings you joy.

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Birdwatching gives me so much joy from the squirrels chase each other around the tree and enjoying learning a new call from migrating birds. We have two types of woodpeckers, the smaller one has the nicest little chirp, it’s like it’s telling me he has arrived. There’s also Red Tail Hawks in the area, luckily they hang out in a near by tree top and I watch the majestic wings when they leave to hunt.

Melinda

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Chronic Pain · Health and Wellbeing · Medical · Men & Womens Health

Mini Me Health Update 8/3/25

August 3, 2025 Looking for the Light16 Comments

My shoulder injury happened years ago, a Slap Tear for which I had injections for the pain for years. I was hopeful that it was on the mend when the pain let up and I stopped injections. That was until I took a tumble falling on the hardwod floor and land on the shoulder.

I dealt with the pain until I could no longer sleep on that side. I scheduled an appointment hoping that an injection would help. After looking at the Xray he said I needed surgery. He ordered a CT Scan to get more detail. The Radiologist who read the CT confirm there was more damage to the shoulder and surgery was recomended. They also found an area of arthritis in the shoulder.

I had two choices for surgery, the less invasive surgery was less painful and had a quicker recovery time. The second option included removing the arthritis. Though the less invasive sounded better but the arthritis would not be removed and would contiune to cause pain. I am having a right shoulder replacement, getting my head around at first was difficult, thinking abut the pain, three weeks in a sling and three months of Physical Therapy.

My mind has changed from thinking about the difficulties of the surgery, to living pain-free after the rehab is completed.

My surgery is 8/20/25 and I will be out of pocket until I can write without pain.

I’ll update you once we get closer to the date.

Melinda

Celebrate Life · Fun · Health and Wellbeing · Self-Care

Beetroot Face & Body Scrub

August 2, 2025 Looking for the Light2 Comments

You Will Need

Glass jar

3 TB Epson salt

2 TB powdered Goat milk

2 TB Moroccan red clay powder

2 TB mashed beets

2 TB avocado oil

1 TSP Castile soap

Spoon

To Make

In a clean jar, add Epson salt, powdered goat milk, Moroccan red clay powder, mashed beets, avacado il, and Castile soap, and mix together. Secure the lid. Use of the body in the shower, or store away for up to one week in the fridge before use.

Smells yummy!

Melinda

Reference:

Stampington

Celebrate Life · Health and Wellbeing · Men & Womens Health · Mental Health

Just Pondering

August 2, 2025 Looking for the Light3 Comments

Hi, I’m glad you stopped by and I look forward to reading your comments.

“Take solace in gentle rhythms of the ritual, in ceremonies of the ordinary. Are tea, fold cloths, knead bread, walk to mailbox. There is much savor in slowness, when quality attention allows noticing each detail-wisp of steam rising, soft folds in well-worn shirts, hands and dough working together, snow crunching underfoot at moonlight.Celebrate this walk through the dark days, this chance to do it differently, to revel in slowness while light waits its turn”

Heidi Barr

Melinda

Reference:

Stampington

Celebrate Life · Communicating · Health and Wellbeing · Mental Health

Friday Quote

August 1, 2025 Looking for the Light3 Comments

Thank you for joining me for this week’s Friday Quote..

Melinda

Celebrate Life · DIY · Health and Wellbeing · Men & Womens Health · Self-Care

Ideal Essential Oils For Hair Care

July 31, 2025 Looking for the Light3 Comments

Dry Hair

Lavender

Rosemary

Ylang-ylang

Rose

Chamomile

Geranium

Parsley

Rose

Sandlewood

Hair Loss

Lemon

Chamomile

Lavender

Thyme

Calendula

Frankincense

Peppermint

Sage

Rosemary

Hair Growth

Ginger

Lemon

Peppermint

Cedarwood

Tea Tree

Grapefruit

Cypress

Lavander

Rosemary

Enjoy

Melinda

Reference:

Stampington

Celebrate Life · Daily Writing Prompt · Family · Health and Wellbeing · Men & Womens Health

Daily Writing Prompt

July 30, 2025 Looking for the Light6 Comments

Daily writing prompt

What traditions have you not kept that your parents had?

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We eat in the living room vs the dining table most of the time. Our recliners have desk attached we can eat on it.

Long gone are the days of cooking every possible item for the holidays.

Only cooking on Thanksgiving and Christmas. The eve’s are spent eating a meal that includes, hard meats, several cheeses, olives, crackers and deserts of course. It’s a simple way to have a special meal without cooking.

Eating at 5:00 PM everyday.

Melinda

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Celebrate Life · Fun · Health and Wellbeing · Mental Health

Wordless Wednesday-Large Rosemary Plant

July 30, 2025 Looking for the Light8 Comments

I’m glad you joined me on Wordless Wednesday and I hope to see you soon.

How this plant survived winter outside is beyond me. I’m adjusting to new eyeglasses and the photo looks slightly burry. I apologize if my eyes were off.

Melinda