Children · Family · Health and Wellbeing · Internet Good/Bad · Men & Womens Health · Mental Health

What Every Parent Needs To Know About Only Fans!!!!!

Only Fans has some celebrity pages but there is more hardcore pornography on the site than regular content.


I’m sure you’ve heard the news about kids being expelled from school because the parents have an Only Fans sticker on their vehicle, the sticker is so big it covers the entire back window. One woman not only had the sticker but was advertising her page. 


These parents are advertising a porn site at school and they know their kid will be expelled from school. How would you feel if your child was exposed to a porn site at school? I bet you would blow a stack!


The schools have told parents with the sticker to park on the street but they refuse. The school needs to call Social Services to visit the parents, if they determine that the kid is in an unhealthy environment they will take custody of the kid. The school needs to take photos of the license plate and the sticker to show Social Services. No telling what a visit from Child Services will find.


I don’t play around when it comes to kids, I go for the throat.


The kids are innocent. Can you imagine the stress, anger, and mental health of the kids? I want to know how many kids have committed suicide after being expelled. To kids, their world has crashed down on them. That’s my homework for today. 


I can’t imagine a parent more interested in making money instead of the student’s education and the stress it causes. Today alone I’ve read two stories about kids being expelled for what their parents are doing.


What is wrong here?


One kid was expelled because he was looking up people on Only Fans on a school computer. In this case, the kid made a very bad decision and knew better. The school said they would reconsider having him back but not right now. That kid should be kicked out. In this case, it was a private Christian school with strict rules and the parents signed a document saying they would comply with the rules, which includes the student’s behavior. 


They will go as far as showing up to pick up their kid, the parents are warned and the next day come back with the Only Fans stickers still on there and will continue to come back and their kid gets expelled from school. What is wrong with this picture? What kind of example are they teaching their kids.


I think it’s time to punish the parents, not the kids. There are many options like banning them from entering the school campus, having off-duty police at the entrance of the campus who will keep them from entering, a restraining order, and going to the police to report pornography and advertising to underage kids. I would also look to see if they can be charged for trespassing. When the police hear pornography and kids they will be very interested. I would also look to see if the parent can be charged for trespassing.


I would also call Child Services so the parents clearly understand they could lose custody if they continue. Harsh? Hell Yes! 


That’s what it is going to take.  We can’t let our kids be expelled from school because their parents are self-centered. The kid’s education and mental health will suffer. 


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fPud8KhQqZU


The information in the video is on YouTube. I have not vetted the video as accurate information but that should not stop you from watching, it’s eye-opening. I had no idea who they were, I’ve seen the stickers but never went to their website until yesterday. 

Even though the site says over 18, there are many ways kids are getting membership, including using their parent’s credit card or fake documents.


When I went to the site, on the first page it showed people having sex, it was hardcore pornography. They get paid based on how many people visit their page and it costs to look at their site, every time. The same goes for any page you look at. Some go as far as offering a membership to their site for a monthly fee. 


I would not want my kid to be exposed to pornography until they leave home and they can make their own decisions. If they are old enough they already know about porn from their friends. 

Parents who will not take the Only Fans sticker off the car or park off campus, are selfish and don’t care if their kid gets kicked out of school. What kind of logic is that? I

A letter needs to be sent to all parents saying if your vehicle has an Only Fans sticker you must park off the school campus and park on the street. The parents already know but use stronger language and tell them that if continue there are serious consequences. No exceptions. Many schools have this problem and need to punish the parent, not the kid. 


I don’t know what can be done but I want to find out more. The link is to a story about a kid who committed suicide because other students were showing him photos of his mother. 

My cognitive impairment is worse, today, if something doesn’t flow or half of a sentence is missing, be gentle with me. 

Melinda


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#Weekend Music Share-John Mayer with Keith Urban-Don’t Let Me Down

John Mayer’s music rocks my world.

It’s the weekend!!!!!!

 I’m glad you joined me for another edition of Weekend Music Share this week.

Have a great weekend!

Melinda

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AI · Health and Wellbeing · Internet Good/Bad · Men & Womens Health · Mental Health · Moving Forward

Ask the Doctor: How Safe Is AI for Mental Health Information?

It’s critical to remember AI pulls information from all souces and can’t be relied on as factual information.

AI offers quick information, yet it lacks the human insight required for safe, individualized mental health care.

Artificial intelligence (AI) has quickly become part of our daily lives. Whether it’s a chatbot answering questions online, an app offering mental health “coaching,” or a website summarizing medical information, the presence of AI in healthcare is growing rapidly. 

For many, these tools feel like an easy, convenient first step when they’re worried about a symptom or seeking information. And used wisely, AI can indeed be helpful. It is essential, however, to recognize the limitations and pitfalls of AI. 

What AI Can Do Well

AI tools are very good at providing general information. If you want to know the common side effects of drug “A,” the difference between two medications, or the meeting times for Alcoholics Anonymous meetings in your community, a quick query can often bring up what you need. A Google search uses AI. These tools can scan large amounts of digital information and summarize it in seconds. 

They can remind you of questions to ask your clinician or point you toward community resources you might not have known existed. As an educational tool, AI can help us feel more prepared and informed for a medical visit.

Where AI Falls Short: It Cannot Replace Human Insight

Problems arise when we begin using AI as a replacement for the clinical judgment of an experienced care provider. Clinical skills are developed over years of training and experience in patient care. The expertise acquired involves integrating judgment, logic, and reasoning on a background knowledge of the patient and circumstances. AI lacks this “lived and learned” experience and the insight that emerges only through direct clinical practice.

AI cannot understand the nuances of your personal history, context, values, or medical complexity. It cannot look you in the eye, notice subtle changes in your mood or tone of voice, or sense when you need extra reassurance or immediate intervention. These human qualities are a cherished and vital part of the clinical appointment. 

AI Can Make Mistakes — and Miss Warning Signs

Most importantly, AI tools can, and do, make mistakes. They may sound confident and reassuring while giving incomplete, misleading, or even inaccurate health information. 

It can be hard to know whether information, even when it sounds plausible, is outdated, incorrect, or completely made up (an AI “hallucination,” a term for when the system invents information that sounds believable but isn’t).

AI also lacks the ability to recognize emergencies. Someone searching phrases like “I can’t go on,” “I feel hopeless,” or “how to hurt myself” may receive generic wellness advice rather than the urgent, clear direction to reach crisis services. For individuals in distress, delays or misdirection carry serious risks.  

Human emotions and suffering are enormously complex, and it must be recognized that a significant number of individuals who die by suicide have seen a care provider in the weeks prior. Suicide is notoriously difficult to predict.

Chronic and pervasive thoughts of wanting to pass from this world are common among those living with mental health conditions. What are the signs of imminent action? Many who spend time with a provider in the weeks before death by suicide do not reveal a plan. If they had, the provider would be expected to put in place the process for immediate help. 

What they wouldn’t have done is what AI did in the past year, namely, helping write an explanatory letter about their upcoming suicide.  

Privacy Risks Are Real

There is also the major concern of privacy. Most AI systems collect data, more than we users realize. What you type into a chatbot is likely stored, used in some way, and may be shared with other systems. It’s important to be thoughtful and cautious about sharing personal details.  

Using AI Safely: A Helpful Tool, Not a Decision-Maker

So what is the safest way to use AI in mental health? Think of these tools simply as what they are: tools. Use them to gather background information, learn about treatment options, or locate community resources. AI can help you understand the vocabulary of mental health care, remind you of questions to ask your clinician, and empower you to participate more fully in your treatment.

But when it comes to making diagnostic decisions, adjusting medications, interpreting symptoms, or determining whether a treatment is right for you personally, AI should never replace the guidance of a trained clinician

Mental health care involves listening, observing, collaborating, and understanding people within the context of their lives. Follow-up questions for clarification are the hallmark of an experienced clinician. No matter how sophisticated the technology becomes, these human dimensions cannot be automated.

A Helpful Companion, With Careful Limits

AI is a useful tool, and I use it daily, as do many of my patients. But like any tool, it must be used carefully and wisely. Stay curious, stay informed, and above all, stay connected to the professionals who can provide the clinical judgment and personalized care that AI cannot.

Remember AI is a tool for basic information but is not factual.

Melinda

Reference:

https://www.bphope.com/ask-the-doctor-how-safe-is-ai-for-bipolar-disorder-information/?utm_source=iContact&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=bphope&utm_content=Best+-+Dec2+-+AI

Celebrate Life · Daily Writing Prompt · Health and Wellbeing · Men & Womens Health · Mental Health

Daily Writing Prompt

Daily writing prompt
What could you do less of?

For me, it’s what I could do more of because less is my way of life. A couple of years ago, I decided to live in the slow lane because of high stress levels and medical conditions requiring attention in addition to having Agoraphobia.

I’m fortunate that my stress levels have come way down since my husband retired in April 2025.

I wake up every day thinking about working in the garden, photography and driving again. Remaining positive will manifest good things in life.

Stay focused on the future and never give up.

Melinda

Looking for the Light

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#Weekend Music Share-Blues Brothers: Soul Man -SNL 1978

What a great classic tune. Their physical style of humor is still the best.

It’s the weekend!!!!!!

 I’m glad you joined me for another edition of Weekend Music Share this week.

Have a great weekend!

Melinda

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Feel free to use the Weekend Music Share banner in your post, and use the hashtag #WeekendMusicShare on social media so other participants can find your post.

Financial · Health and Wellbeing · Men & Womens Health · Mental Health

How Financial Stress Affects Your Wellbeing

Are worries about tariffs, inflation, and the future of your 401(k) causing you to stress eat and lose sleep? Unfortunately, for most people, financial stress is nothing new. 

“Studies have shown for decades that financial concerns are one of the leading causes of stress in our country, and until it is no longer a taboo topic, that’s not likely to change,” says Ashley Agnew, director of financial wellness and certified financial therapist at Centerpoint Advisors in Needham, Massachusetts.

Chronically high levels of anxiety about money can take a toll on your well-being, and even increase the likelihood of chronic illnesses like high blood pressure and heart disease.

All of this points to the importance of learning coping strategies that can help you manage financial stress and protect your mental and physical health.

When Financial Stress Becomes Toxic

“Normal financial stress tends to be situational; it’s often based on a specific event like moving or the holidays,” says Megan McCoy, PhD, associate professor at Kansas State and certified financial therapist in Manhattan.

If financial stress isn’t based around a specific event, and lasts more than three months, this may be a sign that your stress is turning into financial anxiety that may negatively impact your health, says Dr. McCoy.

According to McCoy, signs that could indicate severe or chronic financial stress include:

  • Persistent worries, panic attacks, excessive rumination about bills or debts, and fear of checking bank balances — or going in the other direction, and compulsively checking bank or retirement balances
  • Physical symptoms like recurrent headaches, stomachaches, or sleeping difficulties due to financial woes
  • Avoiding looking at or paying bills
  • Overusing alcohol and drugs to cope
  • Overspending due to anxiety or hopelessness
  • Relationship issues such as frequent arguments, withholding financial information from a partner, and lying about spending

How Financial Stress Impacts Your Health

Financial stress that’s gotten out of control can have health consequences.

Mental Health Issues

“People who have higher financial stress are at greater risk for anxiety disorders and clinical depression,” says McCoy.

Research suggests that financial strain — basically, the inability to cover expenses with available resources — is significantly associated with depression.

A review of 40 studies concluded that financial stress was linked with a greater likelihood of experiencing depression across all income levels, although this link was stronger for people with low incomes.

An online survey of over 1,600 adults found that 42 percent reported financially related panic or anxiety attacks. Younger generations such as Gen Zers and Millennials were particularly affected, with nearly half reporting these attacks — nearly double the rate found among Baby Boomers.

Shame and guilt can creep in due to financial stress, says McCoy. “Clients in financial therapy often describe feelings of unworthiness or guilt around unpaid debts or perceived poor financial decisions, making mental distress even worse,” she says.

A report on how financial stress impacts work found that worries about money caused a 34 percent increase in absenteeism and tardiness, and that financially stressed employees miss about twice as many work days each year compared with their non-financially-stressed counterparts.

Financial stress can also lead to negative coping behaviors, says McCoy. “Alcohol or drugs may be used to numb stress, creating dual crises — financial and addictive — that require integrated therapy approaches,” she says.

Sleep Problems

“People often report difficulty falling asleep or staying asleep when debts or bill payments weigh heavily on the mind,” says McCoy.

Experiencing financial strain is linked with insomnia, poor sleep quality, and not sleeping the recommended amount.

While a restless night here and there isn’t cause for concern, sleep issues that persist and become chronic can increase the likelihood of many chronic conditions, including dementia, heart disease, type 2 diabetes, and even cancers of the breast, colon, ovaries, and prostate.

Heart Disease and Other Chronic Illness

Stress triggers a series of physical reactions — your heart rate quickens, muscles tense, and breathing quickens — thanks to increased levels of the stress hormonescortisol and adrenaline (which act like messengers, readying the body to cope with a perceived threat). 

If this response is chronic, as can be the case with financial stress, it can lead to problems like hypertension, high cholesterol, and muscle pain.

Research suggests that people who are frequently stressed about having enough money to pay their rent or mortgage have double the risk of heart disease compared with people who saw themselves as financially secure.

A review of five studies that looked at heart health outcomes found that people under financial stress had a 19 percent greater risk for heart disease or a major cardiac event like a stroke or heart attack.

Financial stress has also been linked to worse biological health as measured by inflammatory biomarkers. Researchers found that financial strain was “the most detrimental to biological health,” compared with other kinds of stress, including death of a loved one or divorce, although the study authors said that more research was needed to confirm this finding. They theorized financial stress was the hardest on the body because it can affect so many areas of life, “leading to family conflict, social exclusion, and even hunger or homelessness.”

And for people who already have chronic conditions or health issues, financial stress may exacerbate the problems. “When money is scarce, people are more likely to skip doctor visits, ignore recommended treatments, or fail to fill prescriptions,” says McCoy.

How to Cope With Financial Stress

There are ways to manage financial stress that don’t involve winning the lottery. Remember, financial wellness is about feeling secure about your money matters (even if funds are low) and not feeling overwhelmed to the point where it takes a toll on your health.

“Acknowledging the problem is essential — avoidance only heightens fear,” says McCoy.

With her clients, McCoy normalizes stress around money and finances by reminding clients that many people struggle with the same issues and that help is available. “This helps them move past shame to tangible action,” she says.

From a financial therapy standpoint, improvement usually takes both practical financial steps and attention to emotional/behavioral patterns. McCoy suggests a potential plan of attacking your financial fears:

Create a realistic budget or spending plan. Track income and expenses, prioritize needs, and set attainable goals, like saving to create a small emergency savings target.

“A values-based approach can help you align spending with personal or family values, making the process more meaningful and less punitive,” McCoy says.

Engage professional support. Work with a financial counselor or planner to help with debt management, savings strategies, and long-term planning.

These financial wellness specialists include certified credit counselors, accredited financial counselors (AFC), or financial therapists who are trained to integrate financial knowledge with mental health.

Leverage workplace or community resources. Employee Assistance Programs (EAPs) often provide free short-term counseling and financial education. Additionally, community nonprofits like cooperative extension offices or local credit unions may host free classes on budgeting or debt management.

Incorporate stress-management techniques. Consistent exercise, mindfulness, or journaling about money anxieties can help reduce the emotional intensity of financial worries. 

Build an emergency savings fund a little at a time. Even $50 a month can accumulate into a basic safety net. Small, steady progress fosters a sense of accomplishment, which is key to reducing stress.

The Takeaway

  • A certain amount of stress is normal, particularly when it is situational and related to a specific event.
  • Chronic financial stress, however, can harm both mental and physical health, increasing the risk of anxiety, depression, sleep problems, and heart disease.
  • While you can’t control all your financial stressors, you may be able to manage your response through realistic budgeting, professional support, and stress-reducing habits.

Resources We Trust

Melinda

Reference:

EveryDay Health

Celebrate Life · Daily Writing Prompt · Health and Wellbeing · Men & Womens Health · Mental Health · Self-Care

Daily Writing Prompt

Daily writing prompt
Are you more of a night or morning person?

Good question for which I have mixed answers for. I naturally tend towards being a night person because I love to sleep in a bit however during my working years, being a morning person was not an option and in fact towards the end of my career, I enjoyed waking up early to have a cup of coffee at home instead of on the way to work, to me coffee doesn’t taste the same while driving.

Now, I’m a bit of both because many nights I can’t sleep or sleep only a couple of hours which means I tend to take a nap mid-morning.

I’ve not been one to jump out of bed at 5:00 am to greet the day, what am I going to do at that hour?

Photo by Moon Bhuyan on Pexels.com

Melinda

Looking for the Light

Health and Wellbeing · Healthy Life · Medical · Men & Womens Health · Mental Health

Eating Disorders Often Undiagnosed In Boys And Men

It may surprise you that more boys and men are diagnosed with Eating Disorders than girls and women? Part of the reason for not reaching out is the stigma around Mental Health support and the lack of education about the disorder.

Eating Disorders are complex and treatment directed toward males can be limited. Helping someone overcome an Eating Disorder requires patience, therapy, or a stay at an in-house treatment center. I’ve only read a couple of books on Eating Disorders and will say it’s a very long road of relapses to reach recovery.

Due to their own stigma parents and family often overlook the early warning signs and do not reach out for help until it’s a crisis.

EATING DISORDERS IN MEN & BOYS

In the United States alone, eating disorders will affect 10 million males at some point in their lives. But due in large part to cultural bias, they are much less likely to seek treatment for their eating disorder. The good news is that once a man finds help, they show similar responses to treatment as women. Several factors lead to men and boys being under- and undiagnosed for an eating disorder. Men can face a double stigma, for having a disorder characterized as feminine or gay and for seeking psychological help. Additionally, assessment tests with language geared to women and girls have led to misconceptions about the nature of disordered eating in men according to the National Eating Disorder Association.

COMMON SYMPTOMS OF AN EATING DISORDER

Emotional and Behavioral Symptoms

  • In general, behaviors and attitudes that indicate that weight loss, dieting, and control of food are becoming primary concerns
  • Preoccupation with weight, food, calories, carbohydrates, fat grams, and dieting
  • Refusal to eat certain foods, progressing to restrictions against whole categories of food (e.g., no carbohydrates, etc.)
  • Appears uncomfortable eating around others
  • Food rituals (e.g. eats only a particular food or food group [e.g. condiments], excessive chewing, doesn’t allow foods to touch)
  • Skipping meals or taking small portions of food at regular meals
  • Any new practices with food or fad diets, including cutting out entire food groups (no sugar, no carbs, no dairy, vegetarianism/veganism)
  • Withdrawal from usual friends and activities
  • Frequent dieting
  • Extreme concern with body size and shape
  • Frequent checking in the mirror for perceived flaws in appearance
  • Extreme mood swings

Physical Symptoms

  • Noticeable fluctuations in weight, both up and down
  • Stomach cramps, other non-specific gastrointestinal complaints (constipation, acid reflux, etc.)
  • Menstrual irregularities — missing periods or only having a period while on hormonal contraceptives (this is not considered a “true” period)
  • Difficulties concentrating
  • Abnormal laboratory findings (anemia, low thyroid and hormone levels, low potassium, low white and red blood cell counts)
  • Dizziness, especially upon standing
  • Fainting/syncope
  • Feeling cold all the time
  • Sleep problems
  • Cuts and calluses across the top of finger joints (a result of inducing vomiting)
  • Dental problems, such as enamel erosion, cavities, and tooth sensitivity
  • Dry skin and hair, and brittle nails
  • Swelling around area of salivary glands
  • Fine hair on body (lanugo)
  • Cavities, or discoloration of teeth, from vomiting
  • Muscle weakness
  • Yellow skin (in context of eating large amounts of carrots)
  • Cold, mottled hands and feet or swelling of feet
  • Poor wound healing
  • Impaired immune functioning

The list of symptoms is long because it’s all-encompassing.

I encourage you to visit National Eating Disorder Association for a breakdown of the seven types of Eating Disorders and other behavioral and food concerns. Finding the underlying causes requires a trained professional in the right setting, an individual plan, and most importantly support from family and friends.

When looking for the right professional, talk with them about their approach and experience before introducing them to the patient. Finding the right approach may require research and time. It’s important to do this on the front end if possible. An approved method and training will make all the difference on the road to recovery. Disruptions during treatment can interfere with the recovery process making the patient resistant to continued treatment.

Melinda

References

National Eating Disorder Org.