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Feeling Sad for No Reason? Potential Causes and Coping Tips

Feeling sad all the time for no specific reason doesn’t always mean you have depression, but it does suggest you could be experiencing something more complex than sadness alone.

Sadness is a temporary state that often has a clear cause, like a big disappointment, the loss of someone close to you, or bad news from someone you love. 

This type of sadness can fluctuate throughout the day. In certain moments, the emotional burden might feel particularly heavy. You might cry often, feel numb or drained, and struggle to concentrate. 

At other times — when you get lost in something you enjoy or when a loved one distracts you — your sorrow may seem light enough that you can barely feel its weight. While it might linger in some form for days or weeks, it generally begins to ease naturally.

Persistent sadness is something else entirely. It can wrap around you like a heavy blanket, muffling the sensations and joy of everyday life. This sadness can leave you feeling low, empty, and defeated. You don’t know what caused your unhappiness, so you have no idea how to start feeling better.

Feeling sad isn’t at all unusual. After all, sorrow is a normal human response to disappointment and loss. Sadness that doesn’t have a clear reason behind it and doesn’t seem to improve, however, may suggest something else is going on.

Could it be depression?

While not everyone with depression will feel sad, unexplainable sadness you can’t seem to shake is one of the primary signs of depression. 

If your sadness does relate to depression, you’ll likely feel sad nearly all of the time — almost every day, for most of each day, for a period of 2 weeks or longer. Sadness, in other words, seems to become a constant companion. 

With depression, you’ll experience other symptoms, too. If several of the signs below accompany your sad or tearful mood, there’s a good chance you’re dealing with depression:

Chronic sadness, especially when related to depression, might also prompt regular thoughts of death or suicide. Even if you don’t have a plan to act on these thoughts, it’s always best to talk to someone you trust and get support right away (more on how to do this later).

Other factors to consider

You might begin to notice your feelings of sadness, along with any other symptoms you experience, follow a specific pattern. Depression can take different forms, and various underlying factors can have an impact on the way your symptoms show up. 

A few things to look for:

Rapid shifts in mood

People living with bipolar disorder often experience episodes of depression as part of a cycle that also includes episodes of mania or hypomania

You might notice you suddenly feel intensely happy, even euphoric. This abrupt change in mood might also involve:

  • impulsive behavior
  • restlessness and irritability
  • a renewed sense of energy that leaves you fixating on certain projects or activities
  • an increase in confidence and self-esteem
  • less of a need for sleep

This episode might last a week, or longer. 

Somewhere around 40 percentTrusted Source of people with bipolar disorder have what’s known as mixed features. You could experience sadness and other symptoms of depression at the same time as mania. 

This combination of symptoms can make it harder to understand what you’re experiencing, which could add to your distress. 

Seasonal sadness

Maybe your sadness seems to arrive or intensify around the same time of year the days begin to shorten. Once the longer, sunnier days of spring and summer arrive, you feel better, year after year.

It’s pretty common to feel a little low in autumn and winter. The nights get long and cold, and there are plenty of days when you may not even see the sun.

If this seasonal sadness persists and becomes serious enough to affect daily life, you could have seasonal affective disorder (SAD), a type of depression that occurs along with seasonal changes. 

Along with other common depression symptoms, you might also notice:

  • angry, pessimistic, or frustrated thoughts about the weather
  • withdrawal or increased avoidance of social settings 
  • an increased desire to eat and sleep

To read the complete article here.

There are many reasons we feel sad, and luckily, there’s a wealth of knowledge to help you navigate. My first step would be to call your doctor.

Melinda

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5 Creative Projects To Help Focus Your Mind

A creative project is a great way to focus your mind and spend some downtime. Art, gardening, craft, and DIY are all very therapeutic. You’ll feel more relaxed and gain some perspective. Creativity is the perfect way to channel stress and anxiety. Put your overactive mind to good use and make something you’ll cherish forever. There are plenty of different kinds of ideas depending on your interests. Here are five creative projects to help focus your mind.

                                                                                                                Photo by Daria Shevtsova on Pexels.com

Paint by numbers

Paint by Numbers is an example of a trendy craft gone viral during lockdown. It is incredibly therapeutic and relaxing, and not just for kids anymore. Even though you’re following instructions, it still requires a lot of patience and hard work. Paint by numbers is a good compromise if you like art but aren’t necessarily an experienced painter. You’ll be able to enjoy the results without being a natural artist. You can display your painting proudly for all your family and friends.

Winter Flowers

There are several reasons why gardening is so therapeutic. It’s a great way to get back in touch with nature and gain some perspective. Sun and fresh air also go a long way. Even when the seasons start to change, this doesn’t mean you have to be a fair-weather garden. There are plenty of winter flowers you can plant such as pansies and jasmine that grow all year round. If you want to keep it inside you could even build your own mini zen garden, or decorate the house with plants.

Customize your car

If you’re the type that likes to get your hands dirty then why not sink yourself into a project in the garage? Customize your car to your liking this fall. Automotive Stuff is an example of a site where you can find your own parts. You can even trade car parts online with other car owners. If you prefer, start small with the interior, or even work under the hood. If you’re passionate about cars you could invest in a used vehicle to revamp.

Make your own bath products

You’d be surprised how many simple products you can make at home. All you need is some essential oils and a couple of household ingredients, and you can make a variety of bath products. This is a more eco-friendly option as well, not to mention thrifty. If you want to use your creativity to make something you’re going to use, then bath products are ideal. You can even give them as gifts to your family and friends.

Upcycle your furniture

Whether you decide to flip the furniture or keep it, it’s easy to see why upcycling has become such a popular pastime. You could invest in some second-hand furniture at your local thrift store and turn it into a creative project. For example, you could find an old photo frame, print your Domonique Rodgers NC State print, and hang it on the wall. Creating Upcycling is a fun way to revamp furniture or repurpose other items. Perhaps you can find a new use for some old things around the house. It’s very therapeutic and satisfying. 

This a collaborative post. 

Melinda

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#Weekend Music Share-Foreigner – I Want To Know What Love Is (Official Music Video)

My life without Foreigner would be an empty one. I love every tune and have had so many great memories with the tunes playing in the background.

It’s the weekend!!!!!!

 I’m glad you joined me for another edition of Weekend Music Share this week.

Have a great weekend!

Melinda

Welcome back to Weekend Music Share, the place where everyone can share their favorite music.

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Unconventional Treatments To Tackle Menopause

The media plays a role not only in misinformation about menopause but also in how it portrays women with menopause. Tune out the riff-raff and look for real answers. Menopause has been a woman’s curse long before I knew what it was and how it affected the lives of women. There are thousands of books on the market about menopause and I thought maybe it was time to look at the unconventional ways women deal with the debilitating symptoms.

Let’s look at unconventional options to help with menopause

Acupuncture

Acupuncture involves inserting thin needles into specific points on the body to balance energy flow. Some women report reduced hot flashes, night sweats, and improved mood after regular sessions. While scientific evidence is mixed, it might be worth a try if you’re open to alternative therapies.

Herbal Remedies

  • Black Cohosh: Often used for hot flashes and mood swings. Some studies suggest it can be effective, but it’s not suitable for everyone.
  • Red Clover: Contains plant-based estrogens that may help with hot flashes, though results vary.
  • Evening Primrose Oil: Known for helping with breast pain and hot flashes. Always consult a healthcare provider before starting any herbal supplements.

Yoga and Meditation

These practices can help manage stress, improve sleep, and enhance overall well-being. Yoga, in particular, can increase flexibility and strength, which is beneficial during menopause.

Dietary Changes

Adopting a diet rich in fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and lean proteins can help manage symptoms. The Mediterranean diet, known for its anti-inflammatory properties, can be particularly beneficial.

Essential Oils

  • Lavender Oil: Known for its calming properties, it can help reduce stress and improve sleep.
  • Peppermint Oil: Can provide a cooling sensation, which may help with hot flashes.

Biofeedback

This technique involves learning to control certain physiological functions, such as heart rate and muscle tension, with the help of a biofeedback device. It can be effective in managing stress and related symptoms.

Hypnotherapy

Some studies suggest hypnotherapy can reduce the frequency and severity of hot flashes and improve sleep quality.

Remember, it’s essential to consult with a healthcare professional before starting any new treatments, especially if you have underlying health conditions.

Health-Related Reading Material

Understanding the Connection Between Menopause and Heart Rate Changes

Why Does Menopause Increase Your Risk of Heart Disease?

Natural Treatments for Menopause Symptoms

Maybe you can find something that works for you or at least reduces the symptoms.

Melinda

Reference:

https://copilot.microsoft.com

Healthline

https://www.webmd.com/menopause/menopause-natural-treatments

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Blogger Highlight-Croatia, the War, and the Future

Thank you for all the great feedback on the Blogger Highlight series, I’ve enjoyed meeting each blogger and sharing their site with you. This week we highlight the blog Croatia, the War, and the Future. We have followed each other for several years and I have learned much from her. I’m not particularly interested in Croatian politics but her posts teach the history, and how Croatia has evolved.

Croatia, the War, and the Future

Ina Vukic – Croatia: people, politics, history, economy, transitioning from communism to democracy

Ina has been a tireless volunteer on humanitarian aid and fundraising for victims of war in Croatia, Bosnia and Herzegovina, especially war orphans. From 1991 to beginning of 1994 she contributed in lobbying for international recognition of Croatian independence and Croatia’s rights in defending its territory and people from military aggression by Serbian forces. For this dedicated voluntary work Ina was awarded two Medals of Honour by the first president of the Republic of Croatia in 1995 (Commemorative Medal of the Homeland War and Order of the Croatian Trefoil). Ina has also written hundreds articles for newspapers in Australia and Croatia on the plight of Croatian people for freedom and self-determination, developing democracy in former communist countries. She holds two graduate and one post-graduate university degrees, specialising in behaviour, clinical and political psychology and management.

Ina has done some incredible work in her career including working with Vietnam Veterans for which I’m grateful. 

Questions I ask Ina:

M.

I remember you saying you worked with Vietnam Veterans, can you share a paragraph about your work? 

I.

I guess Australia was not different to the USA when it came to Vietnam Veterans suffering PTSD and for many it became chronic and lifelong. I believe up to 30% of Vietnam Veterans suffered PTSD, some acute and relatively short term and for most it became chronic albeit in varying degrees of severity of symptoms between individuals.  As a Clinical Psychologist in Sydney Australia, I worked in the Mental Health Hospital system mainly concentrating on disorder diagnostics and behaviour therapy in people with disabilities including dual diagnosis with mental illness as one of the two and cognitive impairment as the other. Outside my normal working hours, I also maintained into the late 1990’s a private psychological service through which I offered therapy and support to several Vietnam Veterans who had chronic PTSD and needed long-term support in order to maintain employment and family relationships at a good level. The purpose of my work was to reduce symptoms of PTSD especially concentrating on spousal relationship, which is an aspect of normal life that often suffers the most in PTSD sufferers and their spouses. Being useful in life, being and staying meaningfully employed and managing family and personal relationships were the main focus points to living with PTSD despite the horrors seen and experienced on the war front that haunt sufferers for decades.   

M.

Are there other jobs you are extremely proud of?

I.

Paid jobs I am extremely proud of revolve around my roles as Manager and then CEO of disability services that focused on closing institutions in which people with disabilities lived and helping them move into normal houses in the community. This was achieved by early 1990’s in the state of New South Wales in Australia and I was so proud to have played a significant and instrumental role in this in Sydney. After that my job as CEO of government-funded disability services for more than two decades was to ensure that people with disabilities become a part of the normal community they live in, that human rights and anti-discrimination measures are in place and that access to everything a community life has to offer, with appropriate assistance, happens for them.   

The unpaid job I am extremely proud of over the many years, which I applied myself to in my free time, was political activism and lobbying foreign governments from Australia to help Croatian people achieve independence from communist Yugoslavia. My family was one of hundreds of thousands families that in late 1950’s and early 1960’s, as applicable to my family, felt hard communist oppression to the point of being denied work because one did not accept the communist party, and consequently had no alternative in life but to emigrate from Yugoslavia in search of freedom and living life without fear. Australia offered a safe haven and “the sky is the limit” if you put your mind to it sort of opportunities in life.  After in May 1991 almost 94% of voters in Croatia voted for independence at the referendum I became one of the most politically active women of Croatian origins in Australia (and Western-world-wide) with view to help Croatia achieve independence and win the was of aggression that was waged against her because people wanted independence from Yugoslavia and a rule of democracy, not communism, not socialism.  Besides these activities I engaged relentlessly in fundraising for humanitarian aid, particularly for the many refugees, displaced, and children who had lost one or both parents in the war. I was and still am very proud of the two Medals of Honour I had received in 1995 from the President of Croatia for my exceptional and significant contribution to the Homeland War and the creation of the democratic and independent state of Croatia. 

M.

 Do you have a favorite post to share?  

I.

https://inavukic.com/2013/09/11/croatian-hero-of-911-lt-anthony-jovic/

I guess the above post on 9/11 tragedy detail would be among my favourite posts because it holds within it the wonderful reality that people from all backgrounds and ethnic descents give their lives in efforts to save others no matter where they are or where they have grown up. And it this post it happens to be an American Croatian. 

I am also quite partial to this post as it demonstrates bravery for an “adopted” country that after immigration becomes the second homeland. 

https://inavukic.com/2013/11/11/war-veterans-in-u-s-a-of-croatian-descent/

One of my favorite post

Croatian Folklore Costume Culture in the Diaspora

I love seeing the national dress and culture of other countries. This post takes you there. 

Be sure to stop by, say hello to Ina, and pull up a chair to read her fascinating posts. 

Melinda

Looking for the Light

 

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Daily Om Courses And Daily Inspirational Thoughts

Daily Om came to my attention last week and I want to share all the great low-fee courses with you. You can also sign up to receive Daily Inspirations via email. I’m not endorsing the company and have not taken any of their courses but many of the topics look right up my alley.

Our Story 

In 2004, Madisyn Taylor and Scott Blum founded DailyOM with a prescient vision: to bring the world together by offering inspirational messages delivered to your inbox each day. This groundbreaking vision launched DailyOM as one of the first spiritual newsletters on the internet.

Now, nearly twenty years later, DailyOM has grown from a small community of a few hundred subscribers into a thriving global wellness movement of over 3.5 million people dedicated to personal empowerment, growth, and transformation. As DailyOM has evolved, we’ve expanded our offerings to include a growing library of courses, information, and products. Whether it’s self-improvement, spirituality, health, or fitness, our team and worldwide community of teachers empower people to realize their potential in mind, body, spirit, and heart.

Awaken to Your Full Potential

Our mission is to inspire and empower your journey to greater wellness, healing, and transformation through holistic courses and resources from leading experts around the world.

Inspirations

Inspirational thoughts for a happy and fulfilling day.

Read Today’s Inspiration

A few of the courses offered

Quitting Self-Created Loneliness

End Anxiety and Panic Attacks

Re-Parent Your Inner Child

Karmic Relationships: How to Identify Them and Break Free

You Are What You Think

One thing I like about the site is the drop-down menu which allows you to choose the type of courses specific to your needs.

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I will certainly browse the courses available, I’ve already seen a couple that looks interesting

Melinda

Reference:

https://www.dailyom.com/?aff=101&utm_source=bing&utm_medium=ppc&utm_campaign=brandeds&acct=F109XYCQ&msclkid=9c601715697919010470705198e35842&utm_term=om%20daily%20courses&utm_content=GS%20-%20US%20-%20General%20Branded%20Terms

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The Most Important "Sexy" Model Video Ever

The Most Important “Sexy” Model Video Ever

http://youtu.be/bOXMKEnra8w

Save the Children gets the point across.

Warrior

Repost from 2014

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Wordless Wednesday-Elf

I’m glad you joined me on Wordless Wednesday and I hope to see you soon.

 

Melinda

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I’m Having Surgery Next Week And Will Be Out Of Pocket

Next week I’m having Carpal Tunnel surgery on my left and at the same time he is removing the brace in my wrist from when I broke it in 2018. This will be the worst of the surgeries. I go back at the end of the month for Carpal Tunnel surgery in my right hand but that is a much easier surgery with a quick recovery. What makes it more frustrating is I have Ostearithrois of the carpometacarpal joint in both thumbs. This means, the cartilage in those joints has disintegrated and is bone on bone, and it’s quite painful.

My left hand will be bandaged for two weeks, and for several weeks after I can’t do any heavy lifting. I’m already practicing how to dress with my fingers only, boy that’s hard. You use your thumbs for so many things.

Luckily I have my husband to help me but he will be back at work so I’ll have to learn to do things for myself. I expect the first week to involve many pain meds and sleeping. After that, I’ll try my hand at writing to see if I can do it without hurting my wrist and thumb.

I will still read your post although I might not be able to comment.

I will miss your friendship and our conversations.

Melinda

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#Weekend Music Share-Simply Red – Holding Back The Years

His voice reaches deep into my soul and keeps my attention. He is smooth, strong, and hits the perfect high notes. Another classic for generations to come.

It’s the weekend!!!!!!

 I’m glad you joined me for another edition of Weekend Music Share this week.

Have a great weekend!

Melinda

Welcome back to Weekend Music Share, the place where everyone can share their favorite music.

Feel free to use the Weekend Music Share banner in your post, and use the hashtag #WeekendMusicShare on social media so other participants can find your post.

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Wordless Wednesday-Hello

I’m glad you joined me on Wordless Wednesday and I hope to see you soon.

 

I’m hanging the wreath on my office door, it cheers me up.

Melinda

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Blogger Highlight-SOLONGASICANBREATHE

Thank you for all the great feedback on the Blogger Highlight series, I’ve enjoyed meeting each blogger and sharing their site with you. This week we highlight the blog Solongasicanbreath. I’ve followed Marie for a short time but we connected straight away. She has ME which is a severe chronic illness and she graciously answered a question about the illness for me. Interestingly enough we have the same illness, ME and CFS are the same just different names. It sounds like CFS is more often used in America whereas the UK uses ME. I know the struggle and mine is not severe, I admire Marie’s outlook on life with the struggle she has. 

SOLONGASICANBREATHE

In late 2011 ME – Myalgic Encephalomyelitis – entered my world after a viral infection and while I lost my full time job in Accounting, my hobbies (which included hot yoga, running with my local athletics club and horse riding), and everything that once defined me, I gained a swathe of space and time.

Since then, I’ve used this time to observe this odd world of ours, amend how I view the term “living” and dabble in writing and tree planting (my friends, husband and I have planted about 100 mainly native trees in our 3/4 acre garden).

I’m passionate about our environment and live as sustainably as I can. We grow a lot of our own vegetables while buying into consumerism as little as possible.

My poems, short stories and non-fiction can be found in the books Poems from Conflicted Hearts, Observant Observings, magazines and journals such as Slant, Caustic Frolic, ROPES, JuxtaProse, online resources Glossy News, Every Writer and newspapers Irish Examiner and Irish Independent.

From 2014 to 2021, I wrote a regular column for the magazine Athenry News and Views.

One very important post she wrote is about having ME its called Losing Myself. It’s a long read but worth every minute. 

WHAT IS ME?

As per the CDC, ME is a serious and often long-lasting illness that keeps people from doing their usual activities.

It makes physical and mental exertion difficult.

Symptoms include trouble thinking, severe tiredness and other symptoms.

There is no known cause or cure. Care usually means treating the symptoms that most affect a person’s life.

HOW TO HELP PATIENTS WITH ME IN IRELAND?

There are many organisations available to patients and their carers.

Irish ME/CFS Association: https://irishmecfs.org/

The Irish ME Trust: https://www.imet.ie/

ME Advocates Ireland: https://meadvocatesireland.blogspot.com/

Patients with Severe ME  remain bedridden and need help with basic activities including nutrition and hydration.

Questions I asked

M.  You’ve published many articles, how did you get involved in writing for magazines?

M.  Like everything in life, by accident! In early 2014 after having some poems I submit to an anthology published, the publisher of the anthology asked if I’d enough material for a solo poetry book, which I did. And after that book Observant Observings was published and some articles appeared in local media to promote it, the editor of a local magazine reached out to me and asked if I was interested in writing a regular column for them. I said why not! I wrote an article for every issue from late 2014 to 2021 when the magazine ceased trading due to the impacts of the pandemic. And while I was writing for them, I began sending off work elsewhere which too has been published. Then, in 2016, after I wrote a letter to the editor of our national newspaper, The Irish Independent, following our general election at the time, and pointing out the reasons for anger in the country, the editor of the paper reached out to me, asking if I’d follow up with a full length journalistic piece, and that was published under my own name, which gave me another feather in my cap! Life lesson: take calculated risks! Have confidence in your ability and challenge yourself!

M.  How do you find joy in your day?

M.  Like many people living with long term illness, and being as limited as I am due to my ME, I’ve had to adapt and re-learn what living means without having a job or social life or the hobbies I once had (which included hot yoga, running with a local athletic club and horse riding). It didn’t happen overnight. But the more I sat with myself, the more I began to look outward, to see the seasons change, the light change within a day, etc. That’s where I now find joy. Watching the seasons roll in and watching how nature and her creatures react to each change. At present I have a hooded crow who for the last 3 years has showed up at my kitchen window for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. Joy can be found in the smallest of places, and you don’t even have to dip into your pocket to enjoy it!

Be sure to pull up a chair and read through Marie’s archives, you’ll leave with more knowledge than you came with. 

Melinda

Looking for the Light

 

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Meditative Painting to Heal Your Life Course

With all the discord in the world today, maintaining a positive and hopeful outlook can be challenging. So, how do you rise above it, maintain your positivity, and hold space for a world with more peace, love, and abundance? You have a choice, and it will require that you go within yourself, to your inner artist, and create what you desire, then radiate that inspiring energy, taking action that is in harmony with your dreams and deepest intentions. Painting has the power to bring you into the present and become a transformative and healing experience. For many, this is also one of the easiest ways to meditate, because you are allowing the “doing” of painting to guide you into the meditative state, rather than sitting still and trying to stop the mind.

Tap into Your Creative Spirit and Transform Your Life

In this empowering, 8-week course by creativity coach and mentor Whitney Freya, you’ll be guided into a new kind of meditation practice, meditative painting, which will help you become present to the part of you that is tapped into the frequency of love, possibility, and infinite abundance. You will activate your inner creativity, and empower yourself to be the change you want to see in the world through the act of painting your own sacred mandala. Mandalas have guided generations of healers, philosophers, shamans, and visionaries to their own sacred wisdom. With interactive lessons and video tutorials filmed in majestic natural locations, you will be transported to a peaceful place to process your feelings and experiences. By the end of this course, you will have a clearer vision of the life you want and move forward with more serenity.

What is included in this course:

  • Eight transformative lessons with videos that will teach you a powerful form of meditation to express your inner artist.
  • Step-by-step instruction on how to paint sacred mandalas through a process that is fun and playful.
  • Guided meditations and practices that will connect you to Mother Earth’s wisdom and nourishing energy.
  • Mindfulness techniques for getting centered and ways for setting your intentions to manifest what you desire.
  • Insights on how to raise your vibration in order to be a part of the collective that will help heal our world.
  • Artistic practices to help you release judgment and boost your creative confidence.

Who should take this course:

  • Individuals who want to experience deeper healing and balance in their lives.
  • People seeking a spiritual practice that is imaginative and playful.
  • Meditators looking for a different way to meditate that will deepen their connection with their inner vision and dreams.
  • Those that might have insecurities about their creativity and want a non-judgmental, safe environment to tap into and release their creativity.
  • Artists that would like to expand their skills.
  • Everyone that wants to work with their intuition and spiritual, creative energy.

In this course, be prepared to have fun, tap into your imagination, and let your creativity run free!

$55.00 USD Value • Pay What You Want

$19.00, $35.00, $55.00

This is the total amount for all lessons.

Pay extra to give more to our instructors and to help create new courses. No matter how much you pay, you’ll get the same course as everybody else.

What a great opportunity to invest in your life and learn new skills.

Melinda

Reference:

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#Weekend Music Share-Lionel Richie – All Night Long

Lionel Richie is a musical genius! I remember listening to all the Commador’s music before he started his solo career. Here’s a tip you may not be familiar with. Shania Twain had not been singing for years and had lost her confidence. Lionel invited her to his tropical paradise to see if he could help her. He worked miracles, and she restarted her career. Look at what she’s doing today—she’s bringing in huge crowds. He looks like a gentle soul.

It’s the weekend!!!!!!

 I’m glad you joined me for another edition of Weekend Music Share this week.

Have a great weekend!

Melinda

Welcome back to Weekend Music Share, the place where everyone can share their favorite music.

Feel free to use the Weekend Music Share banner in your post, and use the hashtag #WeekendMusicShare on social media so other participants can find your post.

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Wordless Wednesday-Colors of Fall

I’m glad you joined me on Wordless Wednesday and I hope to see you soon.

 

 

 

 

Melinda

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Join No More On 11/25/24 For The International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women

NO MORE

Dear Supporter,

You’re invited to join us on Monday, November 25th, the International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women, for a very special worldwide broadcast to increase awareness, solidarity, and concrete actions to address the global crisis of gender-based violence. Hosted in partnership with Peace One Day, and sponsored by Avon and the Centre for Public Impact, this event will feature an incredible lineup of survivors, advocates, performers, and global leaders.

They will share powerful stories, insights, and steps we can all take to fuel meaningful change in our communities and culture. Every day, millions of women around the world face the devastating reality of gender-based violence. One in three women will experience sexual or domestic violence in her lifetime, and more than 60% will never seek help. Of those who do, fewer than 10% will report their experience to the authorities. Now is the time to come together and say NO MORE!

So please plan to tune in to the #EVAWDay Broadcast on November 25th, starting at 1PM GMT / 8AM ET. You can watch at peaceoneday.org or on Peace One Day’s and NO MORE’s social channels. We will be in touch soon with more details, including a full list of the speakers and performers. In the meantime, please help us get one million viewers for the broadcast! Share this invitation with your friends, family, and colleagues because when we come together, we can create a world free from gender-based violence. Thank you for your support! 

Sincerely,

Pamela Zaballa Global CEO
 

This is a great opportunity to support women while learning first hand from the awesome speakers. 

Melinda

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Humane Society Anniversary Day – November 22

I can’t think of a better way to bring awareness to the good work the Humane Society does every day, 365 days a year. You can help them save more animals’ lives even with the smallest donation, they all add up. Also, look for weeks this time of year where your donations are matched by 2 or 3 times.

Happy Day Humane Society Custom Ink Fundraising

 

 

Who is The Humane Society International?

Sixty-five years ago, four animal advocates, determined to fill “a great vacuum, at the national level, in American humane work,” came together in a Denver living room to found a new organization with a bold vision, a broad reach and a principled commitment to making the world better for animals—all animals.

The four borrowed money against their life insurance policies to fund the group’s first few months, recruited a representative group of peers for their board of directors, and made the decision that a national organization needed to be based in the nation’s capital. They resolved to build a national constituency and train their energies on the era’s greatest animal welfare challenges—the inhumane slaughter of animals raised for food, the unrestrained use of animals in research, testing and education and the tragedy of animal homelessness.

Just as importantly, the organization they sought to build, from the start, would confront cruelty to animals wherever it occurred, “no matter by whom committed and without concern for who might be offended or alienated.”

Today, the fruits of their labors are known to all those who have supported the mission of the Humane Society of the United States through the years, and this week, we acknowledge our founders, Larry Andrews, Marcia Glaser, Helen Jones and Fred Myers. Their selflessness, their realism, their inclusiveness and their deep devotion to the ideals of animal protection are the beacons and signposts of our contemporary campaigns. Succeeding generations of advocates, on staff and on our board, along with our volunteers and our supporters, have helped to make real on the promise and the boldness of those who first conceived of an organization that would take on the biggest fights and root out cruelty. Each day, our skilled and dedicated staff here in the United States and around the world works to implement their vision. Our affiliates have expanded our scope further, with Humane Society International taking on animal protection issues in more than 50 countries around the world, and the Humane Society Legislative Fund working to strengthen federal policy for animals stateside.

I admire the four founders for thinking about animal welfare 65 years ago and for the organization’s growth to include farm animals. Please help if you can.

Melinda

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Blogger Highlight-etikser

Thank you for all the great feedback on the Blogger Highlight series, I’ve enjoyed meeting each blogger and sharing their site with you. This week we highlight the blog of etikser. I have followed both blogs for a long time and truly enjoy the poetry as much as the photography.   

etikser

My story is a simple one. About five years ago, I decided to start a blog where I could post things I write, as well as some of the photos I take. I found etikser one day when I was shopping for plants. The stone sculpture was sitting on a wood crate, surrounded by outdoor pottery, green plants in plastic pots, and tables and tables of colorful flowers. Something about its friendly face caught my eye, and I named it etikser, and made it the representative of my blog. The word ‘etikser’ started out with the words, ‘red kite’, which is to me a visual symbol for freedom. It ended up etikser, just because I liked the way it sounded. 

I post at etikser whenever I have something I want to share (approximately once or twice a month), although I host another blog at clover and ivy, where I post mostly nature photos and ‘a flower for your friday’ each week.

Questions I asked

M.  Why did you not use a capital letter in each blog’s name?

E. I believe I started the blog with the lowercase ‘e’ in ‘etikser’ because it seemed more simple and more unpretentious, and I liked the way it looked, as opposed to ‘Etikser’.  My blog design was rather simplistic and ‘Etikser’ just doesn’t feel or look right to me. Once I designed the blog with the lowercase ‘e’, it felt natural to me, including with ‘clover and ivy’. The bottom line is it was simply a style thing, and I didn’t give it much thought.

M.  What is your favorite post and why?

E.  My favorite post? That’s a more difficult question than it should be. “Ferns” is perhaps my favorite. I love fern pictures, and the writing in that post represents how I feel about nature, how we experience nature, and its charm, with our senses and emotions. I always try
to write the way I think, and “Ferns” represents to me the way we think and interact with the most basic elements of nature.

He loves nature and this is one of his favorite posts is fern.

A post that resonated with me is grounded.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Be sure to pull up a chair with a nice warm drink and enjoy reading through the archives, and before you know it, hours will have passed. No doubt, you will want to follow. 

Melinda

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Why does the post look correct when I’m writing yet when I proofread the last sentences are way down the page? Oh yeah, it’s WordPress. 

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What I’ve Learned In 61 Years Part 8

If you must drive 10 miles under the speed limit, and get in your lane, it’s called the slow lane.

Whatever the speed limit is except in school zones you can safely drive five miles over the limit. What cop has time to stop you for five miles over?

If a cop is driving in front of you that doesn’t mean you have to slow down by 10 miles an hour. Once you pass the jacklegs on the road, drive at your normal speed, no more than five miles over the limit. If you have a broken tail light, expired tags, or smoking pot out the window, I would stay far behind the cop. They may make your day.

If you are pushing a baby cart, you don’t have the right to walk without looking around and cutting people off, especially those who depend on walking aids. Motherhood is great, but you’re not that important.

If you leave the house with a horrible cough put a mask on, not doing so is rude. Do you want someone to make your family sick?

Leaving verbal reminders on your phone while waiting in the doctor’s office is as annoying as listening to you talk on the phone. If you have to do something with yourself while waiting, step outside the building and talk all you want.

My patience is tested when older people think waiting for the doctor is the time to call all their family members to catch up. Go outside or save for the afternoon when you have nothing to do.

If we have to wait more than 30 minutes for our appointments, we should be paid for our time, and the front desk needs to ask us politely if we would like to reschedule. I don’t care that your computer system has been down for two hours, that’s not my problem, it’s yours. My Orthopedic doctor’s practice has had major issues with the new system since September. What about training? What is their tech support doing?

If you don’t love each other enough to get married, you don’t love each other enough to have a baby.

If you don’t love yourself, you don’t have enough love to have a baby. Having a baby will not fill the void inside.

If you’re engaged for multiple years, what are you waiting for? Are you taking a test drive?

This post is meant to be fun, I’m just sharing my opinions. If you disagree with something I say that’s cool, we all have our opinions. I’m not trying to make my opinion yours and I don’t want you to try to change mine. It’s a free world, we still have free speech.

Melinda

 

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Meditation For Inner Peace — The Beginner’s Guide By Guest Blogger

In the 21st century, Everyone is so caught up in their lives that they don’t even have time to enjoy themselves and have peace of mind. Among different options, meditation provides a much-needed relief from the fast-paced lifestyle. It sounds hard but it’s simple and rewarding to start meditating. What is Meditation? Normally, we think … Continue reading

Sujata is a new blogger on WordPress but she impressed me and you may want to follow her as well. 

Melinda
 
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#Weekend Music Share-Chicago – Hard To Say I’m Sorry (Official Music Video)

It’s too hard to pick a favorite Chicago tune because everyone is great!

It’s the weekend!!!!!!

 I’m glad you joined me for another edition of Weekend Music Share this week.

Have a great weekend!

Melinda

Welcome back to Weekend Music Share, the place where everyone can share their favorite music.

Feel free to use the Weekend Music Share banner in your post, and use the hashtag #WeekendMusicShare on social media so other participants can find your post.

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Validation as a Healing Tool for Your Trauma

by Maya Capasso

Medically Reviewed by: Matthew Boland, PhD

Trauma looks different for everyone, and sometimes we don’t even recognize our own. But learning to do so is important — and one of the first steps toward healing.

Last week a friend of mine reached out to me because they’re struggling. They recently broke up with their partner of 4 years and shared with me that they’re angry at themselves for still feeling depressed weeks after the initial breakup.

The thing is, my friend deserves to be kinder to themselves. For them, their breakup was extremely distressing and left them feeling overwhelmed as they worked to rebuild their life. Some might even consider this type of event “little t” trauma.

If you’ve experienced a stressful event in your life that affects you after the fact and you don’t know why, you might benefit from seeking treatment. It’s important to know that your response to any stressor is valid and deserves attention.

“Big T” vs. “little t” trauma

In the broader sense, trauma can be defined as an emotional response to any event perceived as dangerous by the person who went through it.

Some people use the terms “big T” and “little t” trauma to distinguish between different kinds of stressful experiences and responses. While researchers and most mental health professionals don’t currently use these terms, they helped me better understand that various forms of stressors can have an impact on your mental health.

“Big T” trauma

“Big T” trauma typically refers to events that are universally understood as dangerous or life threatening.

This form of trauma is what often comes to mind when we think of traumatic events, such as serious injuries, sexual violence, or natural disasters. Events like these are specifically referred to in the diagnostic criteria for post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).

“Little t” trauma

“Little t” trauma refers to events that may not involve potential death or serious injury but can be stressful enough to negatively affect your mental health.

“Little t” traumas can include — but are by no means limited to — sexual harassment, financial hardship, or breakups.

Pros and cons 

For some trauma survivors and psychologists, the terms “big T” and “little t” trauma do more harm than good.

Licensed marriage and family therapist Robyn E. Brickel believes that the terms “big T” and “little t” trauma can minimize and invalidate people’s traumatic experiences. “It’s unhelpful in mental health practice to conceptualize some traumatic events as less or more significant than others,” Brickel writes.

She explains that by doing so, trauma survivors may feel more stigma around their response to an event if it’s considered only “little t” trauma.

Researchers avoid this terminology for a different reason. Within the field of science, trauma specifically refers to life threatening events because of the unique ways in which this degree of danger can affect our brains — such as developing PTSD — and the unique ways in which these symptoms or conditions should be treated.

Referring to extremely stressful but non-life-threatening events as “little t” trauma runs the risk of indicating that such events have the same type of impact on our brains and should be treated in the same way as “big T” trauma. For example, while both “big T” and “little t” trauma can lead to serious mental health conditions, like depression or anxiety, only events that fall under “big T” trauma can cause PTSD and might require specialized treatment.

Despite these important differences, understanding the concept of “little t” trauma was a huge step for me in my recovery.

The concept made me feel validated because it demonstrated that all forms of stressors can have a strong impact on your well-being and should be taken seriously. 

If I had never learned about “little t” trauma, I would still believe that I shouldn’t be suffering because other people have it worse than I do. Learning about “little t” trauma helped me stop minimizing my pain and seek treatment.

Trauma validation as a pathway for healing

Acknowledging my trauma and facing it head-on was essential to my recovery journey. I used to have the mindset of: “why does it matter if we acknowledge our trauma? Isn’t it easier to continue minimizing it and pretending it doesn’t exist?”

Today I say, “No, not at all!” For me, avoidance and minimization were actually a big part of my own experience and what led me to be diagnosed with PTSD. 

According to the National Center for PTSD, “If you go out of your way to avoid thoughts, feelings, and reminders related to a traumatic event, your symptoms may get worse. Using avoidance as your main way of coping with traumatic memories can make PTSD symptoms worse and make it harder to move on with your life.”

If you realize that you engage in avoidant behaviors when it comes to tough memories from your past, you can change that. The first step toward healing for me was validating my trauma and acknowledging that it impacted my life.

Here are some tips that helped me get there:

1. Self-validation

A great place to start is with yourself. If you don’t yet feel comfortable reaching out to loved ones or a professional for help, that’s OK. You can take some actions to feel validated all by yourself.

  • Grab your journal: Write down your thoughts, feelings, and symptoms to begin processing.
  • Get creative: If you don’t feel comfortable writing about your own life, try writing a poem, fictional short story, song, or making visual art about your struggles instead.
  • Learn more: Take time to self-educate. There are so many stigmas and stereotypes about mental health floating around in our society, but also thousands of resources to help teach you the facts. 

2. Community validation and support

Connecting with others and being vulnerable in safe spaces can be incredibly healing.

  • Turn to a loved one: Talk to a trusted friend or family member about your feelings and experiences.
  • Use the community: Try to be vulnerable in safe community spaces like mental health support groups, creative writing workshops, art classes, etc. 

3. Trauma specialty care

Reaching out to a therapist who specializes in trauma is essential. Many therapeutic practices can help you process your trauma or stressful event in a safe environment.

The takeaway

If you’re like my friend from the beginning of this article, you might be struggling with your mental health but avoiding the pain by telling yourself that others have it worse than you.

For me, the real healing began when I stopped minimizing and started validating my painful experiences. In facing the impact of these events, I was able to move forward and start my journey to recovery.

Sharing her journey can help many people and I’m proud of her for writing. 

Melinda

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Wordless Wednesday-White & Burgandy With A Twist

I’m glad you joined me on Wordless Wednesday and I hope to see you soon.

 

I was treated to a large arrangement from Costco last weekend. They are larger than Kroger’s, so I’m always happy when he makes the monthly trip. The white pumpkin says it all and I’ve left it in the arrangement because it matches my Fall decorations.

Melinda

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The 12 Best Mental Health Books

Medically reviewed by Bethany Juby, PsyD — Written by Jillian Goltzman — Updated on September 27, 2022.

A quick look at the 12 best mental health books:

Books are more than just a comfort. They can be a portal to different worlds, a bridge to a new past or future, an outpost for philosophies, and a support system for times of need. 

In a literal sense, research shows that reading has the power to change your brain and create different patterns within it. On a practical level, reading allows you to learn new information and skills you might’ve not known before. 

While dealing with a mental illness can feel isolating, 20 percent of the U.S. population experiences mental illness each year. Therapy and mindfulness are powerful steps in seeking help. For those looking to learn new skills outside of therapy, libraries and bookstores are teaming with options written by experts and licensed professionals. 

Mental health books can be a useful way to process your experiences, learn about psychology, and often find techniques and tools to help you in your daily life. They can aid your mental health toolkit by providing different techniques, scientific research, and stories of others who have faced the same hurdles. 

Melinda

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Blogger Highlight-Veselin

Thank you for all the great feedback on the Blogger Highlight series, I’ve enjoyed meeting each blogger and sharing their site with you. This week we highlight the blog Veselin. We have only followed each other briefly, but his photos grabbed my attention at first sight. His site isn’t just photography, he participates in The Daily Prompt, book reviews, and writes posts as well. 

 Veselin 

My name is Veselin Nikolov. I work as the lead of the WordPress.com MarTech team. My hobbies are Books and Walking. I’m active on X as dzver and on Goodreads. I am 45 and live in Sofia. I read, work, and try to be a good parent of my 2 kids.

Questions I asked Veselin

M. When did you get into photography and why?

V.  My blog is personal, I take these photos to capture some nice traces from my life. Things I saw. I know very little about photography, unfortunately, and rely on the iPhone camera to do the work for me.

M. Do you have a favorite photo or post?

V. Maybe this old post from 2018 on Active Listening:
https://veselin.blog/2018/01/22/active-listening/

M. Did you start counting your steps to lose weight and add a goal to your life?

V.  I’m a software engineer who works remotely. I don’t have many reasons to leave the room. This lead me to inactivity and health issues, and I didn’t even realize I’m doing it. I thought going to the gym is enough. It wasn’t. There’s no need for me to lose or gain weight, it’s a quality of life choice. I want to be able to climb mountains again, and at least to reach higher floors without an elevator. So the steps are a way to get there, and a an attempt to change my life. I am close to achieving my goal of averaging 10K steps/day over an entire year. For the next year, I have a peak 🙂

One of my recent favorite posts is Stop By.

I love this photo, it reminds me of my European travels. 

Be sure to stop by and say hello to Veselin, read through his archives, and be prepared to relax. 

Melinda

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