Celebrate Life · Fun · Mental Health · Music

#Weekend Music Share-LL COOL J – Saturday Night Special ft. Rick Ross, Fat Joe

This is the rap I like! The lyrics are real, not trash, not raunchy, with no half-dressed woman being demeaned and you can understand the words. LL Cool J is the greatest, he is multi-talented, an awesome actor, respectful, has a heart of gold, and sets a great example for all. Always keep your word!

It’s the weekend!!!!!!

I’m glad you joined me for another edition of Weekend Music Share this week.

Have a great weekend!

Melinda

Welcome back to Weekend Music Share, the place where everyone can share their favorite music.

Feel free to use the Weekend Music Share banner in your post, and use the hashtag #WeekendMusicShare on social media so other participants can find your post.

Art · Celebrate Life · Health and Wellbeing · Mental Health · Photography

Blogger Highlight-Yolanda and Her Creative Scream

Thank you for all the great feedback on the Blogger Highlight series, I’ve enjoyed meeting each blogger and sharing their blog with you. This week we highlight the blog Yolanda and her creative mind.    

Yolanda and her creative scream

My name is Yolanda. From the beginning, I wrote a lot here to teach people about mental illness. I do that sometimes in the present, but now I mostly share my creative perspective in photography, photoshop art, and poetry most of the time.

Yolanda picked up photography when she moved to Stockholm five years ago. 

These are one image and one photo she likes and I wanted to share them with you.

Yolanda and her creative scream

Here is a recent favorite of mine.

Yolanda is also a published writer of the book Alternativt

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Baksidan lyder:
”Alternativt” är en bok som jag har skrivit när jag har varit frisk och när jag har varit sjuk. I grunden har jag Aspergers syndrom och lider av bipolär sjukdom. Som person är jag väldigt kreativ. Jag har tidigare givit ut en annan bok, som jag gav namnet ”I skuggan av en siluett skör som glas”. Både den och den här boken är mest baserade på dikter. Den förra boken innehåller även målningar och teckningar. ”Alternativt” bjuder på dikter och texter skrivna av en kreativ och alternativ kvinna, som är mycket mer än bara sina diagnoser.

Finns nu att köpa på Vulkan: https://www.vulkanmedia.se/butik/bocker/alternativt-av-yolanda-christoffersson/

”Alternativt” finns även att köpa i de flesta nätbokhandlarna!

Here’s a great review. 

”Your talent bestowed within u by God endowed you to write and inspire others with the beauty and skills of your royal talent.”_-Van Prince

The interpretation of the photos she takes is amazing. She has Asperger Syndrome which I know very little about but I can feel the world around her and despite her challenges, she gets up and keeps living life. That is what we can all do. Live life.

Be sure to stop by and say hello, not only is she talented, she’s so sweet and grateful. I know you will enjoy her blog, pull up a set and stay awhile. 

Melinda

Looking for the Light

 

Celebrate Life · Family · Health and Wellbeing · Mental Health

Happy Father’s Day Gramps

Many of you know I was extremely close to both of my Grandparents, we loved each other dearly. Not only did they pull me from rock bottom, but they made sure I had the tough love needed to get away from the bad crowd I was hanging with, my drug addiction, and recover from my childhood trauma. It was truly unconditional love. I went to live with them after a year of bad girl boarding school at the age of 14 and they became my legal guardians. 

My Granny worked with my Social Worker to find the right type of rehabilitation, it was a boarding school at a Convent that she remembered from her youth. It was just what I needed. They paid for my uniforms, the necessary towels and sheets, and a monthly allowance of $40 to buy a soda pop and a candy bar daily and they bought my cigarettes. Since I was a ward of the State of Texas, the state paid the yearly tuition. They came every Wednesday to the family group sessions and Granny would make enough goodies for my dorm or bring enough of the good candy everyone loved. We weren’t allowed to talk but the nuns let them come in for a minute to give me the goodies to share. 

My Gramps had just retired and no doubt thought more about hunting, fishing, and his daily squirrel run to the levees. But he embraced me and taught the lessons of life, the ones that matter, they became my foundation. They cooked every day except for Saturday when they went to El Chico’s for Mexican food, I joined them long after leaving home, it was a special time between us. 

A sketch I did of Gramps playing scratch-off games

Gramps enjoyed scratch-off games and we often gave them as treats, he would not but for himself. So we did.

These were his core values:

Work hard

Do it right the first time

If you borrow something, give it back in better shape

Always make time for family

Don’t hate

Stand up for yourself

Marriage was sacred

If you can do it yourself it means more

He was right on target and I have those values today and what I looked for in my husband.

He was very protective all my life but when it came to boys, he was extra tough.  With a strict curfew, I couldn’t drive my car on weekends, only to school, to take Granny shopping or doctor appointments, and to work. He knew my schedule like clockwork. I had to pay him 8 dollars a week for gas and 50 dollars for the extra insurance. He taught me responsibility and accountability. There were no excuses unless it was a freak thing and I had to call before my curfew. Even 5 minutes late was late. I can’t thank him enough.

My Gramps was from a very poor family who were sharecroppers and self-taught wielders. He joined the Army in 1939 to leave poverty and build a better life for himself and he did just that. After leaving the Army, he worked as a mechanic for Greyhound Bus Line’s for 38 years, and he never accepted a promotion, he felt most comfortable working with his hands alone and had no BS from management. I can understand that.

 He married only once to my Granny and loved her to the day she died. He had the strength to move forward and he built a full life after her death, by going to the recreation center every day, eating a 1 dollar lunch, always giving his milk to a man who needed it, and then playing dominos, for an hour or two. He made great friends there and they were in his life until the end. He tried indoor swimming which shocked me, even had a couple of friends visit him and he visited them. He believed in taking something every time he visited someone.

Money was important to build a simple humble life, never wanting more than he needed to provide. He accepted my Granny’s only son, my father, and no doubt he was a handful. He didn’t discipline my father, that was Granny’s job because he never wanted to impose on her. He was a happy man, witty, like a clean but dirty joke, not raunchy. He accepted people for who they were and felt everyone was equal except for a few. He was racist towards blacks, I’m not sure where that came from. He didn’t hate them but didn’t allow them in his house. He never spoke ill of anyone even though many family members deserved it. 

He loved his family and the ones that mattered the most to him who were still alive, visited him during the last few weeks of his life. He didn’t tell anyone until I brought the phone book into the living room one day and said it was time to call family and friends. 

The mold was broken when they made my Gramps, he was a proud man, who kept his word and took people at face value even to a fault. There were many hillbilly’s in the family and a few shady dealers but it didn’t matter to him. 

Gramps called me Pud since I was a child until the end. It was something just between us and always meant love to me. I’m the person I am today abuse of their love and faith in my future. He only went to 3rd grade and Granny to 5th grade, that is what happens when you are poor and can’t afford the clothes or were needed at home to work. They made sure I went to school every day except the few occasional Granny would write a note so we could go have fun shopping for the formals I needed for high school. We pinched pennies, went to outlets, and found all my formals for under 20 dollars. Gramps wore nothing but Dickies work pants and they wore them out before buying new. I learned late that you don’t need more, but the best you can afford, don’t show off and be proud of what you have. 

I spent the last 5 months of his life caring for him around the clock, sleeping in the front bedroom/junk room, and boy was he a handful. He expected me to be like Granny and keep everything like clockwork which is exhausting when you’re a caregiver. He was hard-headed and I get that from him. 

My Gramps was a true American, as Toby Kieth sings, he fixed everything with a Craftsman wreck and WD 40, always drove American cars, did all the maintenance and car repairs he could, was an excellent lawnmower repair man, and fixed many for others.  

I can go on and on but I will leave it here for another time. He was the only father I had, yes, I had a biological father but he didn’t know how to be a one due to an undiaonosised mental illness and he was an alcoholic.  

The video says it all. RIP Keith, your songs added to the fabric of our lives. 

 

Melinda

 

Celebrate Life · Health and Wellbeing · Mental Health · Self-Care

Things I’m Loving-Household, Nutrition, Dog Bones, and Dead Sea Salt

Here are a few products I’m loving with right now. I hope you find a product to add to your household or self-care routine. The list may also give you ideas for a surprise for friends, and family. Most products are found on Amazon.

Bambaw Insulated Bottle 32 oz

Insulated Water Bottle 32 oz, Blue Water Bottle Stainless Steel, Reusable Water Bottle, BPA Free Water Bottle, Big Water Bottle 32oz, Cold and Hot Water Bottle

The arthritis in my hands has made my old bottles hard to open and these are working much better with the twist of the lid and handle. I love that they are made in Belgium and are a Climate Partner-certified product. 

Orgain

Organic Nutritional Protein Shake, Creamy Chocolate Fudge – 16g Grass Fed Whey Protein, Meal Replacement, 20 Vitamins & Minerals, Fruits & Vegetables, Gluten Free, Non-GMO, 11 Fl Oz (4 Pack)

Nutrition summary
4.0 servings per container | 1 carton (330ml)
250 270mg 1g 12g 16g
Calories Sodium Dietary Fiber Sugars Protein
These are YUMMY! I’m underweight and working hard to gain weight the healthy way, these drinks are helping me. 

Dr. Ohhira’s Probiotics

Original Formula with 3 Year Fermented Prebiotics, Live Active Probiotics, and The only Product with Postbiotic Metabolites, 30 Capsule

DR. OHHIRA’S PROBIOTICS are backed by over 20 scientific studies and recommended by digestive health and immune system health care providers. Does not include artificial additives, chemicals, preservatives, coloring, flavoring, animal by-products, chemical fertilizers, pesticides, or herbicides. Non-GMO and 100% vegetarian. Hypoallergenic (no dairy or gluten). Guaranteed free of soil-based organisms (SBOs).

Paw & Pantry

2-3″ Soft & Chewy USA-Chicken Mini Bones – Pack of 24 Rawhide Free Chicken Dog Treats – Highly Digestible & Chewy Grain Free Dog Treat Mini Bones – Great Non-Rawhide Chews for Small Dog with 100% REAL USA-sourced chicken as our ingredient, Paw & Pantry dog chicken treats are densely packed with natural protein.

Grain? Gluten? Antibiotics? Never heard of ’em! Our chicken treats for dogs are made without all of that extra junk, creating a highly digestible treat and a great rawhide alternative for every dog to enjoy

Zevo

Flying Insect Trap, Fly Trap, Fruit Fly Trap (2 Plug-in Bases + 2 Refill Cartridges)

Effortless 24/7 continuous attraction works day and night to help protect your family from pesky flying insects. Designed for any room or area of your home where flying insects gather including kitchens, bathrooms, garages, and living spaces.

We checked them on Sunday and they work! 

Minera Dead Sea Salt – 2 lb. Bag Fine Grain

Minera Dead Sea Salt dissolves easily in warm water to help cleanse and nourish your skin. Our Minera salt is harvested from the Southern end of the Dead Sea, where the mineral content of the water is at its highest. The salts are delivered to our customers in their pure, raw form, containing all the essential minerals that the Dead Sea is famous for.

I have purchased this brand for years and have never been disappointed. Dead sea salt is like no other, not only does it have minerals that are great for your skin but it also removes dead skin without effort. Be sure to rinse after bathing to remove the remaining salt. 

What are some of your go-to products?

Melinda

Men & Womens Health · Mental Health · Moving Forward · Survivor

Memories: I Was Stalked For Six Years

Repost from 2017 and the memory wasn’t a trigger, just life. Be aware of how people with an agenda can reel you in and they can take years to do it. Don’t fall for it.

On my first business trip, I was 24 years old and clueless. The company was celebrating a milestone. Once we were bored, around 20 of us found a bar and settled in. This is the time for a stalker, large groups of people, and pick your target.

First, he sent me a dozen white roses every day to my office. I was young and naive about stalking. I assumed he had money.

The cards started coming and he started asking me to come to Boston. The phone calls were coming more often. I didn’t know how a stalker reeled in their target.

After months of roses and cards, I gave in. Once in Boston, his lies were easy to see. The parents owned the house, he lived over the garage. My radar is up about but nothing else. There was a party at a friend’s house, let’s see how many are losers. The party was fun I talked about food, and one conversation about escargot stood out, they were amazed I knew how to say it right, wine, and traveling. He paraded me around like a 100-lb piece of meat.

We had a selection of drugs, hash, cocaine, and some using a needle. I don’t use a needle period. I enjoyed the selection of smokes. We left heading for his house, he was high and driving. We arrive and had problems with the stairs, we were too high, and laughing our ass off. I told him before arriving, that I would not sleep with him, ok no problem he said. We started doing a line of coke, no memory of how many lines, it didn’t matter

I was stoned. He tried to get to lay on the bed and he wouldn’t touch me. The other sleeping option was the couch, I chose the couch. His personality changed to anger. He begged me for what seemed like an hour. He finally gave up, leaving him to plan his next move.

I left my cell phone at home and used his phone to call Granny. BAD MOVE. We had lunch with his parents. They seemed normal, which was good, maybe the thoughts were a reaction from past experiences.

We went to the mall so he could buy me a leather jacket. WEIRD. Before leaving he takes me to a 5-star restaurant on the water. Then off to the airport, and listened to more lies.

The calls to my office and home were nonstop, leaving messages on my phone with his voice getting angrier, making threats. What can he do to me he’s in Boston. NAIVE.

The fear escalated over six years, always looking over my shoulder, and avoiding crowds. Years went by and I thought it was over, in 1992 I moved to another city 70 miles away for my job.  He wrote me a letter at my new address. Dating was worse, you have to tell them about this crazy person. One guy I dated had two boys, and afraid for them he would go to the car alone in case a bomb ignited.

In 2017 someone I knew from WordPress started stalking me only now there was technology that allowed them to intrude on my entire life. I’m not a kid anymore and I still get scared. I thought the stalker had left me alone, yet they were still watching, always there, letting me know via text. This went on for two years and ended with the police pulling a gun on me in front of my house and neighbors.

I wrote in an earlier post about how I taunted the stalker. Don’t take my lead and attack back, by expressing your anger their aggression can escalate.

Don’t keep the secret to yourself, it’s a heavy load.

Don’t allow yourself to become bait, you know when something is off. Your gut will tell you.

RAINN is an organization I strongly believe in and they are on the top of my yearly donation list. The link is to resources for Stalking and Cyberstalking.

Melinda

Celebrate Life · Health and Wellbeing · Mental Health · Moving Forward · Survivor

A Breakdown Last Monday Night And There Is More To Share

I want to thank everyone for their prayers and notes of encouragement, they have been important to my healing. After resting a little there is more to share. I only recall two other breakdowns, the first when I was nine years old and again at 12 years old.

As the violence in the house escalated, we went to our bedrooms, I left my bedroom door cracked open and watched my step-father beat my mother again. Throwing her head from side to side, hitting the wall each time, you could hear her begging for her life. They stopped in front of my bedroom, he had a knife to her throat and she closed her eyes and begged under her breath.

I was 12 years old, can’t remember the events other than it included my dad and me wanting to kill him. I spent two weeks on my bed catatonic, rocking back and forth.

My childhood was a constant trauma until I was 14 years old. When I was 28 years old, my father committed suicide. He was living with an undiagnosed mental illness with no medication by choice. For seven months after his death, I looked inward and sought out a Psychiatrist. After a few false starts, I found an exceptional Psychopharmacologist and he treated me for over 32 years.

Early on he said I needed therapy and introduced me to my current therapist who I’ve seen for over 30 years. With her I was able to slowly unpack the locked box of memories, sharing my life without emotions. I’ve gone through the first three steps of healing from trauma and have chosen not to take the fourth step which is reliving the memories and feeling the emotions. I won’t feel the pain again.

Monday’s breakdown was a combination of many factors. I’m on a new medication and my mood is not stable, that morning a trauma was triggered that had long been forgotten and packed away since I was 19 years old. The memory didn’t shake me, there was no emotion at the time. I’ve also been watching a violent series mostly centered on gang violence and the trafficking of women. Over the past 5-6 episodes I’ve watched one woman who was broken and dead inside, be beaten again and again. Running for her life, she realized there was nowhere to go, so she went back to the man who broke her.

I cried for her each episode but the reality of her future became clear. It broke me, sitting in the chair I sobbed uncontrollably as I grabbed the sides of my body. I fell to the floor, the pain was overwhelming. My husband came over to help me, and I screamed over and over don’t touch me. I grabbed my Xanax and took two. I started to hyperventilate and reached for another Xanax, my husband said no, and my response was quick. At the top of my voice, Fuck you, Fuck you, Fuck you all the way upstairs to my office. I sat in the dark, took another Xanax, and stayed still, soaking in all the pain over again. A short time later, I packed the night away in my box and went to bed only to spend the night away, crying under my breath.

I have experienced many other traumas in life, including being stalked three times, police pulling a gun on me in front of my house and neighbors, and being raped more times than I care to count, yet here I am.

You may be asking yourself why and how can I write this post without a tear? The short answer is I’m a survivor. Buring your trauma in a box is a coping mechanism I learned at birth, it allows you to move forward in life. 

I’m raw but crawling, healing my mind and body, and need time to recover. I will not be writing anything traumatic or deep for some time. 

Melinda

Celebrate Life · Fun · Men & Womens Health · Mental Health

Just Pondering

Hi, I’m glad you stopped by and I look forward to seeing you soon. 

“Learn to light a candle in the darkest moments of someone’s life. Be the light that helps others see; it is what gives joy its deepest significance.”

Melinda

 

Health and Wellbeing · Mental Health

5 Ways to Be More Organized in Life

Being organized can be an effective way to minimize stress and make your life easier. However, it can be tricky to know where to start, particularly if being organized isn’t a natural strong point. To help you implement long-lasting changes, take a look at these five ways you can be more organized in life:

Declutter Your Home

When surrounded by too many things, it can be hard to relax and unwind but, equally, it can be difficult to focus and concentrate. To give yourself a productive environment and calm surroundings, start by decluttering your home. Donating, selling, or discarding the items you no longer need or want will allow you to free up space and make the most of your home. 

Streamline Vehicle Ownership

Most people own a car and yet few people are really proactive about the maintenance involved. From knowing when your insurance renewal is due to getting your vehicle serviced, there is a myriad of tasks involved. Start by making sure you have important contact numbers stored in your phone. From a recovery or towing service to your mechanic’s number and the contact details of your insurance company, you should have everything you need on your phone or written down, in case you need it when you’re on the road. Similarly, diarize your vehicle’s service and insurance renewal to book in advance and get the cheapest cover. 

Use Time Management Strategies

When you use your time best, you can get more done and increase your productivity levels. Employing a time management strategy can be an easy way to make positive changes in your life. With plenty of software and free apps available, you can take a digital approach to time management and make it work for you. 

Stop Multitasking

People tend to assume that multitasking enables them to operate more efficiently but this is rarely the case. Instead, tasks often get left unfinished because you get distracted by something else, or errors are made because you’re not giving a particular job your full attention. Inevitably, this means that things actually take longer to get done. 

If you want to be more organized and more productive, stop multitasking and try focusing on one thing at a time instead. This allows you to give it your full attention and complete the task more quickly, before moving on to the next one. 

Identify Your Priorities

When you’re living a fast-paced life, it can be difficult to keep track of everything. From managing your kid’s social calendar to furthering your career or running a home, there are endless things to do. However, identifying your priorities can help to streamline your workflows and will ensure that the most important things are always done ahead of time. 

Staying Organized

If you want to stay organized, be sure to use habits that are easy to replicate when you’re making your life more structured. Often, it’s the relatively small but sustainable changes that have the biggest impact, so be sure to use these to your advantage as you become more organized. 

This is a collaborative post.

Melinda

Celebrate Life · Fun · Mental Health

Just Pondering

Thanks for stopping by, I look forward to seeing you again. 

Spending some time near water can be healing for the mind and soul. Take yourself to a source of water, such as the ocean, a river, or even a small pond. Close your eyes and take in the sounds. 
What effect does being near water have on you?

Melinda

 

Celebrate Life · Men & Womens Health · Mental Health · Survivor

A few things I’ve learned in 60 years

the majority of people are good at heart

tremendous trauma can be overcome

life is a work in progress

we all have positive and negative emotions, it is how we use them

self-confidence can be built

there is no right or wrong answer

life is not black and white, it is grey

money doesn’t solve all

effort isn’t always rewarded

life isn’t fair

there are no shoulds

we are all different yet we are human

a heartbeat is a heartbeat

a baby’s cry can have many meanings

there is no mold for life, we learn

belief in ourselves is critical 

there is not one religion but many

there is evil in this world

we can control the negatives in our life

we have to set boundaries with everyone including ourselves

words are words

feelings have to be felt

only we can allow ourselves to feel shame

every personality is different, avoid those who harm you

never, never, never give up

fight for what you believe in and in a peaceful manner

there is no room for us versus them

every day is different, even when it looks the same

we can’t control others and no one can control us

we make choices, the best at the moment

survival isn’t pretty

life is short

accomplishment is different for everyone

not everyone wants to get married or have children

we can’t compare life stories, there is no measurement

make the best of what you have

make choices based on your heart and gut

look past the cover

we are one, yet different

Melinda

Celebrate Life · Men & Womens Health · Mental Health

June 6th Marks The 80th Anniversary Of D-Day Landings

In France, June 6th will mark the 80th anniversary of D-Day landings during World War II. I imagine young soldiers with so much life ahead of them, facing the battle straight on, fighting for their countries to protect the citizens, not thinking about themselves but focused on their commitment to serving and protecting. How can we ever repay the soldiers who died fighting, how can we make their families whole again, what about the children left without fathers? We can’t repay them for their courageous acts, every single one, down to the last soldier on the ships and ground. 

We can acknowledge, and celebrate their lives and thank them for their sacrifices. Without our allies and their military capabilities we would live in a very different world and one I hope to never see. My heart overflows with sadness, joy, and forever gratefulness. 

All the countries that fought to abolish Hitler and his unspeakable crimes saved so many Jews and ultimately many other lives who now live in freedom. The concentration camps, the torture, and the sheer evil are a reminder to all that there is evil out there and we must fight to protect the innocent and for freedom for all. 

Let’s come together. Put our political and religious differences aside to celebrate and give thanks to those who gave all and those who survived to tell their stories. The story of each individual is important, as is the reason for the war. Never forget the reason behind each war, learn from it, celebrate our heritage, accept one another, and above all else help each other heal.

 

I celebrate my Gramps for his commitment to our country during WWII, like most who experience wartime trauma, he didn’t share much but I saw the pride in his eyes. He was a proud man and I’m blessed to have had him in my life. He was so young in this photo, and he was decorated with many medals over his career including a Bronze Star which he kept in his dirty toolbox. It was not the medals that made him the man he was. He didn’t want a military funeral but I couldn’t agree, he deserved the respect. I’m so thankful that during a time of war, Fort Hood in Texas found enough soldiers to send him home properly. 

I picked this song because these women keep the spirit alive.

 

Melinda

Celebrate Life · Fun · Mental Health

Flora & Fauna

An interesting twist on a search I requested from Copilot. I’m so addicted now!!!!!

Flora 🌿

  1. Wildflowers: Sprinkled across the meadow, wildflowers add bursts of color to the otherwise green canvas. Imagine delicate buttercups, vibrant daisies, and perhaps a few shy violets. Their petals sway in harmony with the breeze, creating a soft symphony of hues.\
  2. Tall Grasses: The grasses here are not mere blades; they’re tall and graceful. Their feathery heads catch the sunlight, turning golden as the day progresses. When the wind dances through, the grasses ripple like waves on a tranquil sea.
  3. Ancient Oaks: A few ancient oak trees stand sentinel. Their gnarled trunks tell stories of centuries gone by. Their leaves, a rich emerald, provide dappled shade for our contemplative woman. Perhaps a squirrel or two scampers along their branches, gathering acorns.
  4. Whispering Willows: Down by the water’s edge, willow trees lean gracefully. Their long, slender branches dip into the pond, their leaves trailing like veils. When the wind rustles through, it’s as if the willows murmur secrets to the water.
  5. Ferns and Moss: In the shaded nooks, ferns unfurl their delicate fronds. Their greenery is lush and inviting. Moss clings to rocks and fallen logs, creating a velvety carpet. Tiny insects—nature’s architects—flit about, weaving their own stories.

Fauna 🦋

  1. Butterflies: Butterflies, those ephemeral creatures, flit from flower to flower. Their wings carry patterns of iridescent blue, orange, and black. They sip nectar, their delicate feet barely disturbing the petals.
  2. Songbirds: Hidden among the branches, songbirds serenade the landscape. Robins, sparrows, and finches create a melodic chorus. Their notes blend seamlessly with the rustling leaves and the distant babble of the brook.
  3. Dragonflies: These jewel-toned insects zip through the air, their gossamer wings catching the light.

Melinda

Mental Health · Survivor

How I begin to heal after a Nervous Breakdown

I take all the pain in, let myself feel all of it, everyone’s pain, the pain I don’t know but know is out there. I ball on the floor, push it in, feel it, harder and harder. I take 3 Xanax and go to my office alone. I breathe, breathe deeper, and think of what has been drug up.

Working to avoid a panic attack, I close my eyes, let the thoughts set in, and remain still. I take a hot bath and scrub my skin hard three times making sure to remove the slime. I listen to Elvis sing “In the Getto” until I no longer cry. I listen to Bad Company sing “Bad Company” to take me back there, and I listen to John Mayer play my favorite live version of “Gravity” twice.

I ask for prayers.

I put the pieces back in.

Melinda

Celebrate Life · Health and Wellbeing · Mental Health

My first AI story & images from Copilot

My first go-round with Copilot image creation. I’m so impressed with the product. I’m working on an avatar but not there yet, it’s so hard to create the image and felling you want to represent.

 

Celebrate Life · Mental Health

Childhood memories of Elvis with my Father

I was 5 years old when this song came out and my father was a huge Elvis fan. He would play the albums over and over and we would dance and sing until we were exhausted. It’s a cherished memory of my father for which I don’t have many.

Elvis Presley – Jailhouse Rock (’68 Comeback Special)

Here are a few of my favorite Elvis songs.

Elvis Presley – Blue Suede Shoes (’68 Comeback Special)

Elvis Presley – Baby, What You Want Me To Do – Impromptu Jam (’68 Comeback Special)

Elvis Presley- Always on My Mind

Elvis Presley – In The Ghetto (Music Video) (1969)

 

Melinda

 

Celebrate Life · Men & Womens Health · Mental Health

What does BS Look Like? by Guest Blogger Hyperion Sky

Daniel and I have known each other since 2012-2013 and he was a co-founder of  Survivors Blog Here. I’ve never met a man as talented at writing, his imagination is expansive. He’s a deep thinker, life lover, husband, a father and I’m so glad to call him a friend. This post is deep, it took a minute to soak in but I find truth in it. Thank you, my friend. You would be remiss if you didn’t check out his blog. 
 
In the early years of blogging, there were many unresolved traumas and I felt broken, this was my avatar. It’s an image Daniel is familiar with. 
 
Melinda
Celebrate Life · Fun · Mental Health

Do you know the history behind Frank Sinatra’s song My Way? The backstory is music hisotry

I love the song and it’s a bit of an anthem for me but now that I know the backstory I’m happy he sang the lyrics that Paul Ankna personally wrote for him, Frank asked his good friend Paul to write a song for his retirement. It was deeply personal for both and it revived Franks’s career.

Here is the link to the article in People Online. https://people.com/frank-sinatra-my-way-the-strange-saga-of-a-standard-8655019

It’s a shame, Frank stopped liking after so many years of singing and getting demands for the song. I think it was his best song. Many went on to record his version or changed versions of the song. The Elvis version is great, I’m a huge Elvis fan and believe he sang it properly even though Paul Anka didn’t want Elvis to record it, they were close friends as well. 

The story is quite interesting in musical history,

Here are my two favorite videos, one of Frank Sinatra and the other from Elvis.

Frank Sinatra – My Way (Live At Caesars Palace/1978)

 

Elvis Presley – My Way (Aloha From Hawaii, Live in Honolulu, 1973)

 

I love music history in many genres.

Enjoy.

Melinda

 

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Blogger Highlight-Mitch Teemley The Power of Story

Thank you for all the great feedback on the Blogger Highlight series, I’ve enjoyed meeting each blogger and sharing their site with you. This week we highlight the blog Mitch Teemley The Power of Story.    

Mitch Teemley The Power of Story

I’m a storyteller (writer, filmmaker, composer, public speaker) with the audacity to believe others might actually want to read, watch or hear the things I come up with. I live in Cincinnati, Ohio with my wise and gorgeous wife Trudy. Together we’ve created our magnum opi: two adorable, wildly creative daughters. More? Well, if you insist: there are mini-bios on me at Wikipedia and IMDb.

Mitch’s post is a ray of sunshine and a dose of reality. He has an incredible storytelling ability. You must check his blog out!

Melinda

Looking for the Light

 

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Just Pondering

Hi, I’m glad you stopped by and I look forward to seeing you soon. 

The quest to create a cozy home doesn’t need to be limited to your indoor space. No matter what size your outdoor space may be, you can add special touches to make it feel extra homey and inviting.
What’s the one thing you can do to make your backyard, balcony, or porch a little cozier?

 

Melinda

 

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Piece of Advice By Guest Blogger Muslim Life

I’ve followed Muslim Life for a while now and love the common sense posts, they are great reminders of how to live our life. I respect Muslims, their religious practices are different than my own, and that’s cool with me. 
 
Christians, Jews, and Muslims believe in God, and I embrace them. 
 
I know without a doubt that being a Muslim does not make them terrorists, and shame those who think that way. 
 
 
Melinda
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Things I’m Loving-Double Duty Self-Care Products

Here are a few products I’m loving right now. I hope you find a product to add to your household or self-care routine. The list may give you ideas for friends, and family. Most products are found on Amazon except for the candles.

 

 

Double-duty self-care products are extra special when they require you to rest and enjoy the benefits.

 

Grace & Stella

Gold Eye Mask

 

Royal Nectar Face Mask

Shield Mask with Bee Venom & Manuka Honey

 

Soon Skincare

Shea Butter Hand Mask for Dry Hands, Moisturizing Gloves, Hand Moisturizer for Cracked Hands Repair, Hand Mask Gloves with Green Tea and Tea Tree Skincare

 

Soon Skincare

Peony Foot Mask, Feet Masks for Dry Skin, Foot Mask for Dry Cracked Feet, Dry Feet Treatment, Cracked Feet Treatment, Moisturizing Foot Mask 

 

Soon Skincare

Lip Masks for Soft Lips, Masks for Lip Care, Korean Skin Care Lip Treatment, Collagen Masks for Lip Hydration, Lip Masks with Aloe Vera

 

cleo+coco 

Natural Dry Shampoo Powder – For Body & Hair – For Women – Absorb Odor & Sweat – Essential Oils & Arrowroot Powder – Free of Talc & Parabens – PCR – Made in USA – Grapefruit Bergamot – 4oz

 

Diptyque Candles

My Favorites are Cafe, Paris, Figuier and Baies

I’ve also purchased the Figuier (Fig Tree) – Home Fragrance Diffuser Behind the Faceted Glass, a summer landscape,  it smells awesome. I only used 3 reeds so the fragrance isn’t overwhelming. 

Most candles are made in France

 

*Korean skincare products like Soon Skincare are awesome. Korea takes skin care seriously and can be less expensive and more effective. 

 

Melinda

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Just Pondering

Hi, I’m glad you stopped by and I look forward to seeing you soon. 

“I admire the people who drink from the water of the storms in their lives and grow flowers in the most unlikely places because of it.”
S.C. Lourie

Melinda

 

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A Special Thanks To Vietnam, Tanzania and Pakistan For Visiting

I get such a thrill out of seeing what countries stop by my blog, and I like to shout out to countries new to my site.

Thanks. :)

Melinda

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Why You Need to Redefine Self-Care Beyond What the Media Shows

It’s really sad to say, but to a degree self-care has become a buzzword frequently portrayed in media and online as indulgent bubble baths, retail therapy, and the occasional junk food binge. Not just in shows, or in advertisements triyng to sell you stuff, but even on social media by the people you know, and of course by content creators too. 

While yes, buying indulges and buying things that you love can actually be a really nice way to show yourself some life, you have to keep in mind that these also only offer temporary relief, and so true self-care is far more profound and personal. It’s about nurturing your mental, emotional, and physical well-being in ways that genuinely enrich Dr your life. So, with that said, it’s best to explore what self-care really means and how you can embrace it in a more meaningful way.

Understanding True Self-Care

Self-care is often misunderstood as a quick fix or an escape from reality. However, true self-care involves intentional actions that support your overall health and happiness. It’s about listening to your body and mind, understanding your needs, and taking steps to meet those needs in healthy and sustainable ways. This might mean setting boundaries, saying no to commitments that drain you, or seeking help when you need it.

Mindful Self-Practices

Basically, the less love and care you show yourself, the higher the chances of stress and even the potential of forming anxiety. Actually, true self-care is often found in the small, mindful practices that help you stay grounded and connected to yourself. This might include a daily walk in nature, practicing yoga, or spending time on a hobby that you love. It’s about finding joy and peace in the everyday moments.

But this isn’t always the case; mindful practices will vary from person to person. While one person might feel relaxed walking out on a trail in nature, there might be someone else who feels more at ease and relaxed if you’re at home and using delta-8 THC gummies since these offer a more calming and gentle effect. But overall, mindful practices help prevent chronic anxiety from forming, and again, the best way to go about it really varies from person to person. 

The Illusion of Instant Gratification 

The media often promotes self-care as something that provides instant gratification—like a shopping spree or indulging in comfort food. By all means, yes, while these activities can offer momentary pleasure, they don’t address the deeper issues that may be affecting your well-being. 

In fact, relying on these quick fixes can sometimes lead to feelings of guilt or regret afterward. So, you have to understand that true self-care involves making choices that contribute to your long-term well-being, even if they don’t provide immediate pleasure.

You Have to Think About Emotional Health

Just think of it this way: You’re spending money on things that give you small bits of gratification immediately, like junk food, but at the end of the day, you’re going to feel bad for the money you spent, and you might feel physically bad too because, well, it’s junk food. The same goes for shopping sprees too. Now, emotional health usually gets overlooked in mainstream portrayals. You need to understand your thoughts and gain clarity on what you need to feel balanced and fulfilled. 

This is a collaborative post.

Melinda

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Learning To Recognize And Cope With PTSD

We all experience stress. That’s a normal part of life. However, there are different levels of stress, and, for some people, it can be much more than they may be equipped to deal with, alone.

If you have experienced some form of trauma in the past, and you have begun to experience nightmares, mood swings, and flashbacks, and you’re having difficulty controlling your emotions and reactions to things, such as becoming much more easily startled, then you might be experiencing PTSD. Here, we’re going to look at what you can do to start to heal from it, and how you can begin to feel like yourself again.

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Seek professional help with it

First of all, it’s worth noting that PTSD is well beyond the average person’s ability to deal with it on their own. A lot of people are reluctant to seek help because of the lingering stigma associated with mental health, but at some point, you have to put your wellness in front of how you fear you might be perceived. Cognitive behavioral therapy, or CBT, has been noted as being particularly helpful, allowing individuals to reframe negative thoughts and develop healthier thought patterns. Talk to your doctor about the help available to you.

Considering medication

There are also medication options that can help manage the symptoms that are associated with PTSD. For instance, you might want to consider antidepressants such as SSRIs that can help you regulate your moods to some degree. Anti-anxiety medications are also typically prescribed on a short-term basis to help people avoid the more extreme symptoms of anxiety disorders, such as panic attacks. Talk to your doctor about the medical options available to you, but do be aware that therapy and medication together tend to provide the best odds of success, rather than choosing just one.

Find the right therapeutic relief

While direct therapy is going to do a lot of heavy lifting in helping you process the thoughts and emotions associated with PTSD, some treatments can help you find comfort, improve your mood, and heal, such as service dogs for PTSD. Service dogs are very effective, and forming a relationship with one can also provide a sense of purpose and motivation when it might feel like life is otherwise directionless. Service animals can even sense when their human partner is experiencing a stressful or anxious episode to provide comfort when it’s needed.

Finding a support group that understands

While talking to loved ones can help you, and a therapist can give you many of the tools to work through your emotions, there is a specific benefit to spending time with people who understand your experience that’s well worth seeking. Consider finding a PTSD support group, allowing you to connect with others who have similar experiences, and providing a sense of community and understanding. Peer support can be incredibly validating and can help reduce feelings of isolation. You can also get some practical tips from others who have been on the same journey as you.

Be mindful of your psychological triggers

While it is likely to be, in part, a subject of part of your therapy sessions, it’s worth starting to become aware of the concept of psychological triggers. Triggers are stimuli, whether they’re sights, sounds, smells, emotions, people, places, or otherwise, that can elicit a strong emotional or stress response from you. A lot of people who have experienced trauma in the past can develop these triggers in association with them that, even when you’re safe and comfortable, can suddenly rise up to completely change your emotional state. Becoming aware of your triggers is the first step to dealing with them.

Taking care of yourself

Your mental and physical states are intrinsically linked. By putting care into yourself, physically, it can help you mentally, as well. For one, exercise can help reduce stress and anxiety, improve mood, and enhance overall well-being. A balanced diet can be vital to good mental health, and good sleep hygiene is crucial, as poor sleep can exacerbate PTSD symptoms. Even taking the time to show yourself a little self-care can be good for your self-esteem, which can make your mood swings less severe.

There is no magic pill for PTSD. A lot of people who live with it will experience the symptoms for a long time, and some aspects might never go away entirely. However, there is always a way to get better and to heal. Keep that in mind and consider the tips above.

This is a collaborative post.

Melinda

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Lightening Strikes

Lightening lights up the sky

Shaking me to the core

Trees sway from side to side

Violent rain pouring down

Hail stones beat against the house

The aftermath spread across the streets

Melinda

Lightening Strikes comes from a song for which I no longer remember. I can hear John Mayer singing.  Maybe you know?

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From Family Cookbook-Aunt Dorthy’s Nut Rolls With Filling

The family cookbook contains recipes, my Granny’s & Gramps used often and is the type of food I grew up on. Many with veggies and tomatoes from the garden. Good ole Southern food like my Gramps dumplings, to Grannies pecan pie.

This is from my husband’s Aunt Dorthy’s recipes who writes BEST at the top of the card.

Recipe

1 pkg yeast in 1/4 cup warm water and 1 TSP sugar

Let stand 5 minutes

Sift 4 cups flour, 4 TBS sugar and 3/4 TSP salt

Melt 1/2 TBS of butter

Add in 1 cup of canned milk

4 eggs yolks beaten

Pour over flour

Add yeast

Knead

Cover

Place in refrigerator overnight or for 5 hours

Divide into 4 sections on a lightly floured surface to approx 10″x13″

Size to fill

Roll up

Let rise

Bake 350 degrees for 25 minutes

Filling

Beat 4 eggs whites with 1/2 cup powdered sugar, 1/2 cup ground walnuts

Okay, from here my guess is that you get an icing tube, add the filling insert into the roll, and by squeezing until you see the filling has spread in the roll.

This sounds great because I like walnuts, which are so good for you. This one I’ll have to try.

If you make the recipe, please provide feedback on your thoughts or what the recipe brings to mind.  

Melinda