I hope you enjoy some of my favorite old and new Christmas songs. This year may look different than in years past but the music remains the same and so does the reason for the season.
You can’t go wrong with Bruce Springsteen sing a Christmas song!
In health,
Melinda
I hope you enjoy some of my favorite old and new Christmas songs. This year may look different than in years past but the music remains the same and so does the reason for the season.
This isn’t the official video for the song but I couldn’t pass this one up. I’m a big Micheal Jackson fan and it’s awesome to see the genuine smile on his face. Not to mention the little boy dancing.
In health,
Melinda
I hope you enjoy some of my favorite old and new Christmas songs. This year may look different than in years past but music remains the same and so does the reason for the season.
In health,
Melinda
It’s the weekend!!!!!! I’m so glad you’ve joined me. Today starts my week of Christmas music. I hope you enjoy it. Have a great weekend!
In health,
Melinda
Welcome back to Weekend Music Share; the place where everyone can share their favorite music.
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It’s Friday! So glad you stopped by today. I hope you have a great weekend and stay safe.
In health,
Melinda
Your Garden needs gentle care and attention throughout the year. Of course, in the spring and summer, we clean away the winter debris, ready for outdoor parties and barbecues. Or simply just to relax in your little private space.
However, when the winter is coming upon us, leaves from a Fall, as well as the severe weather, can cause damage to your garden. It is very important that you take a couple of steps to get your garden looking gorgeous.
Photo by Arno Smit on Unsplash
Throughout the autumnal months, there will be many leaves falling, and a lot of rain too. It is very easy for your garden to go from clean and tidy to look a little bit messy, and it eventually will become hard to keep tidy.
Head out and pick up all of the debris; then set it aside because you can use this for a protective layer of mulch for your seedlings.
Take a pair of shears or some secateurs and strip away any loose or dead branches.
If you have furniture in your garden, it is a great idea now to buy some furniture covers; this can protect your furniture when the weather gets more severe. Bring your furniture over the winter months also makes it much easier to clean when springtime comes around.
Now is also the perfect time to cover your barbecue or put it in the shed, ready for use next year.
Depending on what type of pond, you will change how you need to prepare it for the winter months. If you have wildlife in your pond, it is essential that you prepare it correctly for the winter months. Getting a pond maintenance services company out to check over your pond it’s a great idea and can avoid any costly repairs or severe damage over the winter months.
You must start at the bottom and work your way up. Sweep up as much as possible, and also, it is a great time to scrub your patio or your decking. This will mean there is limited damage or weathering over the fall and winter months.
To clean your decking, you simply need to have a firm, stiff brush your brush and apply pressure or use a pressure washer. The pressure washer, of course, being in the fastest way to clean those stains.
After that, move to trimming back trees and bushes, wrapping roots in protective layers, and topping up any birdhouses with food.
If you have plans that are dead or dying, you might have many planters that can be good and used for springtime planting. Remove all of the dead or dying plants and their roots and put them into your compost if you have one.
Most often, the soil can be re-used, so put it somewhere safe ready for your big springtime planting session.
Your garden can be perfect all year round with just a few hours of maintenance here and there.
This is a collaborative post.
In health,
Melinda
It’s Wednesday! I’m so happy you’re here! This is a sculpture of a Samari Warrior taken by my husband in Tokyo. I’ve also included an artistic interpretation of a beautiful ceiling panel found in a monastery. I hope you enjoy it.
In health,
Melinda
Are you currently feeling lost, not knowing what to do or where to go? While you may be confused and unsure of yourself in certain moments, you have much more clarity than you may be willing to admit. The feeling of confusion arises when you have too many conflicting thoughts running through your mind, and you do not have a way to hold them back and keep them at bay.
But life is full of ups and downs. So, it is not a surprise that anyone can fall victim to confusion. Even though you may feel all alone, you are not. Try focusing on persevering and getting through the problem.
But how do you go about it? What should you do when you are feeling lost and confused with life?
Running from problems never solves anything. Rather than pretending that everything is okay, admit that you have a problem and take responsibility for it. You will only make the situation worse by ignoring it. The first step towards solving any confusing situation is by admitting that you have a problem. Only then can you get clarity of the confusing situation that you are facing and find a solution.
Every time you run from a problem, there is a high probability of panicking and developing anxiety—panic and fear sets in when you start becoming afraid. If you allow it to drive you, you may create negative thoughts that may lead you to make the wrong decisions.
Instead, it would help if you strengthened yourself to face the problem through relaxation. Relaxing helps to quiet your mind making you feel calm and peaceful. Relaxation is not only good for overcoming confusion but also for stress relief. Some relaxing methods you can use include practicing mindful meditation, listening to soothing music, soaking in a warm bath, and breathing exercises.
When confusion sets in, your mind may be thrown through a web of repetitive and consistent thoughts without a beginning or end. To get yourself out of such a situation, you should focus more on first solving what you can understand. Only then can you slowly lift off the cloud of confusion that hovers over your life.
Confusion is a sign that you need to take some more time before making a decision. You should accept and be at peace with the fact that you may not have all the answers. Instead of rushing to make a decision when your mind is clouded with confusion, you should take a step back and consider listening to your gut feeling.
You do not have to make your decision quickly. Take your time until you are comfortable and confident enough to trust your gut.
Apart from stress, panic disorder, and anxiety, several other reasons may lead to confusion. For this reason, you should seek medical attention if you or anyone you know shows signs of confusion and anxiety. It may not be very comforting at first, but you can quickly deal with it by taking immediate action to boost your mental health.
Being stuck in confusion is not necessarily bad. It highlights that no matter the path you decide to take, you will overcome the feeling of being lost.
This is a collaborative post.
In health,
Melinda
Every year, one out of four people will experience some form of mental health problem. If you feel as though your anxiety and depression are taking hold, then here are some suggestions that will help you.
Take charge of your own wellbeing and try and share any concerns you might have. Believe it or not, talking can help you to put everything into perspective and it can also help you to feel way more supported and less isolated too.
Did you know that fish can be very relaxing if you feel as though you are constantly overwhelmed by stress? Fish are easy to take care of and Tiger fish are especially beautiful. When you do invest in a tank, you can kick back, enjoy, and relax for years to come.
Regular exercise can easily help you to sleep and it can also boost your self-confidence. Your brain and all of your vital organs will benefit, and you will feel way better mentally as well. Of course, if you are having a hard time staying active because you don’t feel comfortable going to the gym, then you have nothing to worry about. There are many exercises that you can do from the comfort of your own home and you may even find that you are able to burn more calories this way as well. If you are always out of the house and if you have a hard time really finding the time to exercise, then you have nothing to worry about. You can still incorporate exercise into your routine if you simply choose to walk to work or even if you ride to work instead of taking the bus, as this can help you with your stress even more.
Ensuring that you have a balanced and nutritious diet will benefit your mental health in more ways than one. It will also help you to ensure your own wellbeing as well. If you are having a hard time eating well because you are busy then this is understandable, but you do need to try and take the time to try and change your lifestyle so that you can accommodate your eating. This could include you trying to pack a healthy lunch the night before so you don’t have to eat junk food during the workday or it could even mean that you need to try and explore healthy alternatives when dining out. Sure, this may require you making conscious choices but at the end of the day it will help you out way more than you realize.
It’s so important that you stay in touch with your friends and your family. You can do this in person, or you can do it online. When you do, you will soon find that it is easier than ever for you to stay grounded and supported at all times. You don’t need to cope on your own. Ask your family or even your friends to see if they can give you some local support so you don’t feel overwhelmed.
This is a collaborative post.
In health,
Melinda
What is Seasonal Affective Disorder?
Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) is an older term for Major Depressive Disorder (MDD) with a seasonal pattern. It’s a psychological condition that results in depression which is normally provoked by seasonal change. The condition most often occurs in women, adolescents, and young adults.
Many times people will start to see a pattern to their depression as the seasons change. This is common in the winter months and in areas where it is darker more than there is light outside. SAD is more common the countries like Alaska and Canada than in South America.
SAD is classified into two types, one in the Summertime and the other in the Wintertime. The symptoms are markedly different.
Summertime symptoms are:
agitation
difficulty sleeping
increased restlessness
lack of appetite
weight loss
Wintertime symptoms are:
daytime fatigue
difficulty concentrating
feelings of hopelessness
increased irritability
lack of interest in social activities
lethargy
reduced sexual interest
unhappiness
weight gain
How do you know if you have Seasonal Affective Disorder?
If you notice these symptoms you should talk with your doctor right away and it would help if you kept a journal as to when the depression started. This will help the doctor make a correct diagnosis especially if you notice the changes appear to be seasonal. The more information you can provide the doctor more accurately they can diagnosis your depression.
How do you treat Seasonal Affective Disorder?
Your doctor can determine the best treatment and in severe cases, may prescribe medication or a combination of treatments. One treatment known to help is Light Box Therapy or a Lamp because they are specially designed to put out a minimum of 10,000 Lux full-spectrum light.
Here’s my post on the Top 5 SAD Lamps
I hope you will seek out more information and talk with your doctor if your symptoms are troubling you.
In health,
Melinda
Reference
https://www.healthline.com/health
This year…..
I’ve driven myself four times.
Had 15 doctor’s appointments, only three of which were Telehealth.
One CT Scan.
One Bone Scan.
Two Mammograms.
Seven X-rays.
Nine Lab appointments.
Six referrals to specialists.
Four steroid shots, one shoulder, three in the knee.
One round Botox for TMJ.
Rescheduled Colonsocpy twice due to pandemic, on indefinite hold now.
Haven’t slept a solid night since July due to pain, wake up between 1:30-3:30 a.m. after pain medication wears off.
Six new prescriptions.
Diagnosed with new immune disorder, Hypogammaglobulinemia.
TB Test, two Pneumonia shots, two Shingles shots, and one flu shot.
I’m one of the lucky chronically ill patients, I feel relatively good.
In health,
Melinda
It’s the weekend!!!!!! I’m so glad you’ve joined me. I almost skipped this weekend, thought maybe you needed a break but then this song popped into my head this morning. Have a great weekend!
In health,
Melinda
Welcome back to Weekend Music Share; the place where everyone can share their favorite music.
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In health,
Melinda
Dec 11, 2020
Sending warm wishes to you and your family on this religious occasion. May your days be filled with peace, love and good food with friends and family.
In health,
Melinda
Aromalief’s founder Annabel has written a timely post about how cold weather affects pain levels. My pain does tend to get worse in the colder months and I have felt it lately with several cold fronts. I have tried several of the recommendations in the post including being a daily user of Aromalief. I use the Lavender scent at night and the Orange Ginger during the day. One thing I love is how both soak in quickly without the greasy feeling so I can get back on the computer or go right off to sleep.
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December 08, 2020
Do you feel like your pain gets worse during the cold, winter months? If you do, you’re not alone! A study revealed that 92% of chronic pain patients felt like their symptoms were exacerbated when the weather was cold. We know some of you might be experiencing this, which is why we couldn’t wait to share this blog post with you! In this week’s blog, we’ll go over the possible connection between cold weather and pain, and four ways to prevent or reduce those uncomfortable cold weather pains this winter.
While winter can be a wonderful time of year with decorative twinkle lights, hot chocolate by the fire, and family gatherings, for some people with chronic pain, it can be a dreaded time of year.
Many people express that their chronic pain conditions get worse as the weather gets colder. If you’re in this camp, you’re certainly not alone. In fact, one study revealed that a whopping 92% of patients with chronic pain felt that their symptoms were exacerbated when the weather was cold.
What does science have to say about this? Well, it’s a bit of a mixed bag, but there are some popular theories from doctors and researchers that could explain the apparent connection:
Regardless of the cause, the bottom line is, it hurts! We want to help you feel better during these cold, winter months so that you can enjoy time with your loved ones.
Here are four ways to prevent or reduce those uncomfortable cold weather pains this winter.
Sipping on a warm drink is a great way to warm up your body, however, it’s recommended to stay away from caffeine if you’re experiencing chronic pain. Consuming caffeine can cause your blood vessels to temporarily narrow, which restricts blood flow to your extremities. This has the potential to lead to increased nerve pain, which nobody wants! Thankfully, there are many delicious alternatives to that cup of coffee that will actually support your body, rather than hinder it.
Also, don’t forget to drink enough water or other water-rich beverages! It’s easy to forget to hydrate when the weather is colder, but it’s especially important if you experience pain flare-ups when the temperatures dip. Water helps keep your body balanced and flowing, and helps lubricate your joints.
When it’s really cold outside, you probably just feel like snuggling up with a cozy blanket in front of the fire, right? Who doesn’t! It’s very important, however, to stay active in the colder winter months, especially if you’re dealing with chronic pain. Taking part in light cardio can warm up your muscles and promote good circulation, which can help ward off cold weather-induced neuropathy. There’s no need to go crazy—a gentle yoga session, a walk around your neighborhood or in nature, a quick elliptical session, or a light swim in a heated pool will all help immensely.
It’s time to break out the winter essentials: a warm coat, hat, scarf, gloves, and thick socks. Properly dressing when you go outside in cold weather will help you maintain your body heat which, in turn, will help your body maintain good blood flow and prevent muscle stiffness and nerve pain. Pay special attention to bundling up your feet and hands, as they are usually affected the most. Try using Aromalief Compression Gloves or Workvie Copper Compression Gloves either in the house or during your outings. These gentle compression gloves are perfect for keeping your hands nice and toasty and to reduce pain made worse by the cold.
During these cold, dark months, you’re more vulnerable to developing a Vitamin D deficiency, particularly if you live in an area that doesn’t get much sunlight in the winter.
A 2010 study in Nutrition Journal discovered that 42 percent of U.S. adults were deficient in Vitamin D. That’s almost half of the people in America!
Vitamin D deficiency can cause a number of health issues including muscle, bone, and joint pain. It’s easy to test your level—just ask your family doctor to give you a blood test at your next visit. If it’s determined your level is low, you can take an inexpensive Vitamin D supplement daily. You can also make it a point to get out in the sunlight when it’s available.
Don’t let the winter months bring you down
We know that winter can be hard when you have chronic pain, but we hope that these suggestions make these cold days a little bit warmer and less painful.
Get some light exercise, bundle up, stay hydrated, and spend some time in the sun! If you follow these simple tips, you’ll be feeling a bit better in no time.
It is always important to ask your doctor before using these or any other creams. Even though products don’t require a prescription, it is still important to get their medical opinion.
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Please consult a medical professional prior to using this or any other product for pain relief.
References:
https://www.bustle.com/p/how-to-manage-cold-weather-chronic-pain-according-to-16-people-18804960
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/11838853/
https://lifesworkpt.com/2019/03/cold-weather-pain/
https://ntc.lluh.org/blog/four-tips-combat-nerve-pain-during-cold-weather
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What extra steps have you found effective in fighting off the pain flares in the colder months?
In health,
Melinda
It’s Wednesday! I’m so happy you’re here! This is an artistic interpretation of a photo my husband took in Tokyo. I have several more to share with you in the coming weeks. I want to go see all the sights but not sure I can deal with all the people, it’s so crowded.
In health,
Melinda
Fast Company
11-29-20
BY JORY MACKAY
How often do you feel like you just don’t have enough time? Despite trying every time management technique and productivity strategyin the book, do you find it impossible to shake the feeling that time is slipping away? This is called time anxiety.
Similar to productivity shame–the feeling that you’ve never done enough–time anxiety is when you feel you never have enough time to meet your goals or that you’re not maximizing the time you do have.
“Time is what we want most, but what we use worst.” — William Penn
In our productivity-obsessed world, it’s common to feel overwhelmed with your schedule and workload from time to time.
But time anxiety is more than just a momentary spike in your workday stress. It’s an emotional specter that haunts your days, causes you to procrastinate on important tasks, and can even lead to burnout.
Unlike other aspects of our lives, time can never be controlled. So how can you move past the anxiety of time’s uncontrollable nature and learn to feel good about yourself and your work?
Time anxiety is the terrible feeling that you never have enough time and aren’t doing enough with the time you do have. But to understand why you feel this way, you first need to understand your relationship with time.
As children, time usually doesn’t mean much to us. Yes, we follow a bit of a schedule. But for the most part, we’re left to fill long, unstructured days with games and learning.
As we become teenagers, however, time starts to gain importance. We have school and sports and hobbies and friends to fill it. Not only that, but we’re often told that “wasting time” now will ruin our future.
Then, suddenly, time becomes our most important and scarce resource. As adults, we have college, work, families, and all other sorts of serious responsibilities that demand our time and attention.
As we get older, time becomes something we not only have to consider but try to control.
But here’s the irony: The more we focus on the limited time we have, the more limiting our time feels.
In other words, the more you worry about time, the more time feels like something you need to worry about.
In this way, time anxiety is a lot like the Pink Rhinoceros problem.
If I ask you not to think about a pink rhino, it’s going to be the first thing that pops into your mind.
Psychologists call this ironic process theory–the process where the deliberate attempt to suppress certain thoughts makes them more likely to surface.
That’s why you can’t tell someone to just stop worrying about time. The more you try to stop time anxiety, the more you’re likely to worry about it.
Instead of ignoring time anxiety, you need to understand how it impacts your thoughts, behaviors, and even habits. That’s because time anxiety impacts our thinking beyond just feeling stressed over your daily schedule.
In fact, time anxiety shows itself in multiple ways. Here are a few examples:
Now more than ever we demand that we make our time meaningful. This translates into anxiety about how we spend our time today, but also about how those actions impact our future.
The common answer is to focus on what you’re doing right now.
Create a schedule that supports all your goals. Build better habitsand remove distractions that waste your time. Get better at estimating projects. Prioritize important work, so you feel accomplished at the end of the day.
And while all those strategies work to help you use your time better, they don’t address the underlying issue.
Overcoming time anxiety comes down to awareness, understanding, and action.
In this sense, RescueTime was built to help people deal with time anxiety. We saw how our friends and colleagues constantly got to the end of the day and asked “Where did my time go?”
RescueTime observes how you spend time in apps, websites, and projects and gives you in-depth reports on your habits. It helps shine a light on where your time goes, which is a massive help in reducing time anxiety. The RescueTime dashboard shows you how you spend your time in apps, websites, and tools. But can too much observation of where your time goes actually add to your time anxiety?
The short answer is yes. Obsessing over any aspect of your life will lead to anxiety and stress and time is no different.
However, being unaware of where your time is going is just as stressful and can be one of the causes of time anxiety in the first place.
Think of it like the dieter wanting to lose weight. Obsessing over every calorie and carb is stressful and unsustainable. But ignoring what you’re eating won’t bring the results you want. It’s all about finding a balance between awareness and action so you can continue living your life.
If you want to remove time anxiety and feel better about your days, here are a few strategies to try.
1. Acknowledge your relationship with time
It’s probably been a long time since you thought about what time means to you (if ever).
But time anxiety builds when we ignore or try to manipulate the ways that time impacts our day. To start, you need to accept some truths about time:
This might seem like a silly first step, but acknowledging time’s impact on your life is a powerful way to quell anxiety and start moving forward.
2. Ask what ‘time well spent’ means to you
Time anxiety comes from feeling like you’re not spending your time in the best way possible. But do you really know what the ‘best possible way’ is?
If it helps to spur ideas, list activities under the categories from Darius Foroux’s ‘Six Spoke’ theory:
3. Understand the planning fallacy (and why you have less time than you think)
Listing out lots of activities can lead to more time anxiety if you’re not careful. Instead, the goal here is to be realistic about what you can do with the time you have.
Unfortunately, most of us are pretty bad at planning. We believe that eight hours of work means we have eight hours of time to schedule. However, study after study shows most people have at best 2.5 hours of truly productive time a day.
We’ve written a full guide on the planning fallacy here. However, what it comes down to is that at work, most people spend:
And that doesn’t include time spent on breaks (which are a necessity) or on nonwork activities.
The same can probably be said for your time outside of work. You might have five hours between when you get home and when you go to bed, but are you considering things like dishes, shopping, cleaning up, etc.?
This isn’t meant to stress you out further but rather to help you understand that you do have limitations you have to work within. Time can’t be stretched to fill your to-do list.
4. Make space for the things that matter (and just do them)
Time anxiety can feel paralyzing. But the worst thing you can do is sit back and wait for motivation to spend your time in a better way.
Instead, psychologists have found that motivation does not precede action, action precedes motivation.
In other words, to feel motivated and happy, you need to act.
Look at your time well-spent activities and decide how they will fit into your day. This doesn’t necessarily mean scheduling a specific time for them (although many people do this with great success).
Instead, think about how your most meaningful tasks will fit into a real day.
Will you do them in the morning before work? On your commute? After dinner when the kids are in bed? Make space for them and time will sort itself out.
When you come to terms with your limited supply of time, it’s easier to turn off the TV, log off Twitter, and do things that make you feel good.
Thinking through your day like this can also help you cut out the time-wasters and distractions that add to your time anxiety. When you come to terms with your limited supply of time and what truly matters, it’s easier to turn off the TV, log off Twitter, and do things that make you feel good.
5. Practice being a ‘Satisficer’ instead of a ‘Maximiser’
An often overlooked aspect of time anxiety is how we think about the future. Many of us stress out over making the best choice possible. But there is no ‘perfect’ decision.
Psychologists have identified two types of decision-makers:
(If it helps, studies have found that maximizers actually often make worse choices and suffer stress and anxiety in the process.)
We all want to spend our time in the best way possible. But stressing out over the seconds and minutes we have does us more harm than good.
As writer Maria Edgeworth wrote back in the 1800s:
“If we take care of the moments, the years will take care of themselves.”
Be realistic about your time, know what makes you feel accomplished and the rest will take care of itself.
This article originally appeared in RescueTime’s blog and is reprinted with permission.
I don’t typically pay much attention to Fox News but this article was a good one. I quit drinking over 15 years ago and the reason may seem strange to some, my mental illness. My doctor knew I drank with all the medication I took and said it was okay from a medical standpoint. He said it made the medication less effective. After years of ups and downs and hospital stays with ECT treatments, I decided that if a little extra effectiveness would help I wanted it. I’m fortunate that I’ve had no cravings since the last drink.
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On the surface, celebrities seem to have it all: fortune, fame and success.
But behind closed doors, a number of Hollywood’s leading stars struggle with alcohol, drugs and other substances. In a year of uncertainty and drastic change with a global pandemic, a wave of confessional gratitude has swept through Hollywood with more A-listers opening up about facing their demons and their sobriety journeys.
“There does seem to be a bit of a cultural shift in our attitudes towards alcohol with an awareness that less alcohol is good for your health and that periods of sobriety may be something to aspire to,” addiction expert Dr. James C. Garbutt told Fox News.
“Of course, if someone has a true alcohol use disorder then sobriety is a very positive thing and something to be celebrated,” he said.
MILEY CYRUS SAYS SHE ‘FELL OFF’ AMID PANDEMIC, REVEALS SHE’S TWO WEEKS SOBER
From decades-long milestone accomplishments (Elton John) to one-year anniversaries (Heather Locklear) and even brave admissions of a relapse (Dax Shepard), celebrities have embraced 2020 to speak candidly about getting clean.
In some cases, stars speak out to help provide support to other addicts and show a pathway to sobriety. While others share their stories for a sense of freedom and to be open with their fans.
“For good or for bad, we are very interested in the lives of celebrities and value their opinions about the world often more than we do those with expert knowledge,” said Garbutt, an adjunct professor of psychiatry at the University of North Carolina’s School of Medicine.
“Therefore, I think when well-known celebrities acknowledge that they have had problems with substance use but have changed their lives and have become sober, it gives folks a sense of hope and confidence that they can also do it. It is a signal that: ‘I’m not some bad person, even successful people have my problems.’”
ELTON JOHN CELEBRATES 30 YEARS OF SOBRIETY, SAYS HE’D ‘BE DEAD’ IF HE DIDN’T SEEK HELP
Miley Cyrus
Miley Cyrus recently admitted she ‘fell off’ her path to sobriety amid the coronavirus pandemic. (Mike Coppola/FilmMagic)
Miley Cyrus was forced into sobriety after undergoing major vocal cord surgery in November 2019, and the singer confirmed she was six months sober in June this year, saying part of her decision to change her lifestyle was because of her family history of mental illness.
“I did a lot of family history, which has a lot of addiction and mental health challenges,” she told Variety at the time. “So just going through that and asking, ‘Why am I the way that I am?’ By understanding the past, we understand the present and the future much more clearly.”
Her mom, Tish Cyrus, 53, also paid tribute to her daughter and insisted the public’s perception of the “Can’t Be Tamed” hitmaker is misplaced.
“Everybody thinks Miley is like this wild thing,” Tish said on an episode of “Chicks in the Office” in July. “She’s the cleanest person I know. She’s like, she’s just so solid.”
However, her sobriety recently took a stumble amid the pressures of the pandemic.
The former Disney Channel star admitted having a setback amid the pressures of the pandemic.
MILEY CYRUS’ MOM TALKS SINGER’S SOBRIETY, SAYS SHE’S THE ‘CLEANEST PERSON’ SHE KNOWS
Revealing she was two weeks sober, Miley told Zane Lowe in an Apple Music’s New Music Daily interview: “I fell off and I realized that I now am back on sobriety, two weeks sober, and I feel like I really accepted that time.
“One of the things I’ve used is, ‘Don’t get furious, get curious.’ So don’t be mad at yourself, but ask yourself, ‘What happened?’ To me, it was a f–k up because I’m not a moderation person, and I don’t think that everyone has to be f–king sober.”
Garbutt told Fox News how the “new normal” of isolation can be a trigger to some people in their sobriety mission.
“The [COVID-19 pandemic] is putting stress on nearly everyone and leading to increased isolation,” he said.
“We know that both stress and isolation lead to anxiety and depression and are triggers to use alcohol and drugs. It is clear that anxiety and depression are higher, so it is to be expected that alcohol use has gone up as well.”
Elton John
Elton John celebrated the 30-year anniversary of being sober in July. (Joel C Ryan/Invision/AP)
Elton John’s addiction to drugs and alcohol was heavily portrayed in the 2019 biopic “Rocketman” – and the singer admitted this year he’d be dead if he didn’t get help.
Celebrating a monumental 30 years sober in July, the “I’m Still Standing” singer, 73, posted to Instagram: “Reflecting on the most magical day having celebrated my 30th Sobriety Birthday.”
The star continued: “I’m truly a blessed man. If I hadn’t finally taken the big step of asking for help 30 years ago, I’d be dead. Thank-you from the bottom of my heart to all the people who have inspired and supported me along the way.”
Jessica Simpson
Jessica Simpson revealed in her first memoir, released earlier this year, that she battled an addiction with alcohol and pills to cope with the sexual abuse she endured as a child.
The singer and fashion designer, who shares three children with her husband, Eric Johnson, bravely opened up about how much her problems affected her day-to-day life, and her family, after hitting rock-bottom on Halloween in 2017.
JESSICA SIMPSON SAYS ALCOHOL WAS ‘SILENCING HER’ BEFORE GETTING SOBER
Jessica Simpson got candid about her sobriety journey in her memoir released earlier this year titled ‘Open Book.'(Raymond Hall/GC Images)
“It was 7:30 in the morning and I’d already had a drink,” she wrote, recalling how later that day she and Johnson were prepping for a Halloween party and he asked her if she could help get the kids ready.
“I was terrified of letting them see me in that shape,” she confessed. “I am ashamed to say that I don’t know who got them into their costumes that night.”
The “Dukes of Hazzard” star told People in January: “When I finally said I needed help, it was like I was that little girl that found her calling again in life.” She added: “Honesty is hard, but it’s the most rewarding thing we have. And getting to the other side of fear is beautiful.”
Her action in recovery is endorsed by Garbutt.
“The first step is to recognize when alcohol use is getting out of control, for example, drinking to excess regularly and having negative consequences from drinking,” he told Fox News. “Overcoming shame and guilt are the next big hurdles.”
As well as her dramatic 100-pound weight loss after giving birth last year, Simpson has been glowing in recent social media posts, with fans noting she looks more radiant than ever.
While Simpson has been sober for three years, staying sober for 30 days can also reward your well-being, according to Hilary Sheinbaum, author of “The Dry Challenge: How To Lose The Booze For Dry January, Sober October, And Any Other Alcohol-Free Month.”
“There are so many benefits to a dry month, including: saving money on drinks, late night munchies, hangover remedies and more, having more energy, losing weight by not taking in empty calories in alcoholic beverages and from said munchies, [as well as] better sleep and better skin,” said Sheinbaum, whose book is not specifically geared toward people in recovery.
Dry months can be typically a tool for cutting out alcohol temporarily, and can certainly lead to eliminating alcohol in the long-term, the trend journalist said.
Brad Pitt
Brad Pitt credited actor Bradley Cooper for helping him get sober. (Steve Granitz/WireImage)
Brad Pitt paid tribute to fellow-actor Bradley Cooper earlier this year for helping him get sober.
In a heartwarming moment at the National Board of Review Annual Awards Gala in January, where Cooper presented the “Once Upon a Time in Hollywood” actor with the best supporting actor award, Pitt told the crowd: “Bradley just put his daughter to bed and rushed over here to do this. He’s a sweetheart. I got sober because of this guy and every day has been happier ever since.”
Cooper revealed he quit drugs and alcohol at the age of 29 — five years before starring in his breakout movie “The Hangover” – in an interview with The Hollywood Reporter in 2012.
Pitt, 56, first spoke publicly about his alcohol problems in May 2017.
“I was boozing too much. It’s just become a problem. And I’m really happy it’s been half a year now, which is bittersweet, but I’ve got my feelings in my fingertips again. I think that’s part of the human challenge, you either deny them all of your life or you answer them and evolve,” the Oscar-winner told GQ.
Pitt confessed he had to change his lifestyle because he didn’t “want to live that way anymore.” He reasoned: “Truthfully I could drink a Russian under the table with his own vodka. I was a professional. I was good.”
Joe Rogan
Joe Rogan got candid last month about participating in “Sober October,” a short-term one-month abstinence from alcohol. (Michael S. Schwartz/Getty Images)
Comedian and podcaster Joe Rogan announced last month he committed to “Sober October” – a short-term one-month abstinence from alcohol, akin to the other popular trend “Dry January.”
The former “Fear Factor” host posted on social media screenshots of text messages with friends who had partaken in the short-term sobriety with him for the previous two years – but they refused to join him because the pressures of life in the pandemic made it too tempting to drink.
“It’s helpful – and certainly more encouraging – to have a sober month support squad that is participating in a dry month with you, so you have someone to cheer you on and vice versa,” according to lifestyle expert Sheinbaum.
“COVID-19 and 2020 as a whole have presented a unique set of obstacles and a great deal of stress. Many people drink alcohol as a way to blow off steam,” the author – whose book is available to pre-order ahead of its Dec. 29 release – continued.
“On the flip side, because there are fewer opportunities to attend social get-togethers, parties and large gatherings such as in-person networking events, weddings, concerts and the like that often serve alcohol or offer it. For some people, there may be less of an outside influence to consume alcoholic beverages, too.”
Other stars who have enjoyed sober months include Kelly Ripa, Rumer Willis and Lo Bosworth, CEO of LoveWellness, who wrote the foreword to Sheinbaum’s book.
Tim Allen
The ‘Home Improvement’ star recognized his 22 years of sobriety this March. (Michael Kovac/Getty Images for Moët & Chandon)
Tim Allen had credited stand-up comedy for saving him after a past that included time served in a federal prison for cocaine possession, being arrested for a DUI and a stint in rehab.
After a self-commitment to change, the “Home Improvement” actor proudly discussed his 22 years of sobriety during an appearance on “The Kelly Clarkson Show” in March.
“I’ve been drugs- and alcohol-free for about 22 years,” Allen, 66, said, revealing that someone reached out to him before he got sober.
“Because I had money and I was a star, people help, they enable you to get by,” recalled the comedian.
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“The program I practice, it’s all about as soon as you get it, you gotta give it away. A kid can’t hold on to all these toys, and every time he sees a new toy, and he goes, ‘Mine,’ you gotta drop one of those before you can grab another one.”
He acknowledged his radical transition “doesn’t happen overnight. It’s a day-to-day thing.”
Garbutt praised that outlook.
“Realizing that ‘Rome wasn’t built in a day’ is important, and there will be ups and downs, but over time one’s life can improve immensely,” he said.
Heather Locklear
Heather Locklear celebrated one year of sobriety this March. (Jeffrey Mayer/WireImage)
Heather Locklear revealed she celebrated a year of sobriety in March after a tumultuous two years that saw the actress hospitalized, sued and in an outpatient drug rehab after many personal tribulations.
The former “Melrose Place” star, 59, announced the milestone in a post on Instagram, noting that social distancing during the pandemic meant physical contact would have to wait.
“Hugs will come later! 1 year sober today!!!,” she proudly wrote.
‘MELROSE PLACE’ ALUM HEATHER LOCKLEAR CELEBRATES 1 YEAR OF SOBRIETY: ‘HUGS WILL COME LATER’
The message was shared alongside an image of a lengthy quote – attributed to Maya Angelou – about “life” and what it means to “live”.
A part of the passage read: “I’ve learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow.”
Dax Shepard
Dax Shepard is in therapy with his wife, Kristen Bell, after admitting to a relapse earlier this year. (Cindy Ord/Getty Images)
Dax Shepard has never shied away from speaking candidly about his sobriety journey, and he recently confessed he relapsed and was abusing prescription pills.
The 45-year-old actor – who was 16 years sober before the slip – underwent surgery in August after breaking multiple bones in a motorcycle accident. He also shattered his left hand in an off-road accident earlier in the year.
As part of his recovery, the “Bless This Mess” star was prescribed painkillers and admitted to taking too much Vicodin for his pain, before progressing to taking the more powerful painkiller Oxycotin, downing eight 30mg pills a day.
He apologized to his wife, actress Kristen Bell, for “this enormous secret” and “gaslighting” her during an episode of his “Armchair Expert” podcast in September.
“My tolerance is going up so quickly that I’m now in a situation where I’m taking, you know, eight 30s a day, and I know that’s an amount that’s going to result in a pretty bad withdrawal. And I start getting really scared, and I’m starting to feel really lonely. And I just have this enormous secret,” he confessed.
Speaking out about his relapse, Bell confirmed she would stand by her husband of 7 years (they also have two daughters – Lincoln, 7, and Delta, 5).
“We have a plan. If he has to take medication for any reason, I have to administer it. But he was like, ‘So we need a stronger plan. I was faltering, and I have to do some sort of emotional work to figure out why I wanted to use again,'” she said
Ornament my granny gave me in the 1980s
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Collector 1988 Lladro ornament
Ornament for the year we got married
Collector 1992 Waterford ornament my boss gave to me
Our new 2020 ornament
Have a great holiday season, remember the reason for the season.
In health,
Melinda
We all have the ability to chart our own course. Some will have a harder time than others but we can all take the wheel and carve out a life we want to live.
We achieve this by making small decisions every day that make a big impact on the whole. It’s not always the big steps we take, but it’s the small steps that will steer our path in the long haul.
One of the biggest steps I’ve taken to find happiness is to avoid negativity, which includes limiting the amount of news I watch daily, severe negative relationships, and limit social media interaction.
Another big step this year has been to make my mental health a priority. This includes self-care, tackling new challenges, and above all seeing about my physical health daily. That means taking my medication, keeping my critical doctor’s appointments, moving more often than sitting, eating a little better, and setting realistic expectations.
I work hard to give myself credit for what I accomplish each day, no matter how small it may seem. I work within my limits and don’t beat myself up if I can’t go the extra mile.
Last but not LEAST, I’m grateful. I try to look at the smallest things like I dropped a pill on the floor and I found it before my dog’s grateful.
The key is I’m driving the car, I’m behind the wheel.
What steps do you take each day to change your destiny?
In health,
Melinda
“I was acutely aware of my dad’s struggles with depression, it manifested in addiction at times,” Zak Williams said
By Gabrielle Chung November 23, 2020 08:09
Zak and Robin Williams | CREDIT: KEVIN MAZUR/WIREIMAGE
Robin Williams‘ son Zak is speaking out about the importance of mental health six years after the actor’s death.
On Tuesday’s upcoming episode of The Dr. Oz Show shared exclusively with PEOPLE, Zak opens up about Williams — who died by suicide in August 2014at the age of 63 — and the dark times he personally experienced after losing his father.
“I was acutely aware of my dad’s struggles with depression, it manifested in addiction at times, and he took great lengths to support his well-being and mental health, especially when he was challenged,” he says. “It was something that was a daily consideration for him.”
The PYM founder continues, “The main thing for me was noticing how he went through great lengths to support himself while he could show up for others. It was clear that he prioritized his mental health throughout most of his life, at least that I experienced with him.”
Zak says he found himself struggling with depression and addiction as well following the death of his father and realized that he needed help.
“I found myself hitting rock bottom when I wanted to just be numb. I found myself wanting to drink alcohol and just not think,” he recalls. “That was something that was really dysregulating for me.”
“I found myself waking up in the morning and feeling like I was having a dissociative experience, but I just didn’t want to be living the life I was living. I realized something had to give,” he says.
For Zak, he says finding “forms of healing, specifically relating to not only a healthy lifestyle, but also connecting with people,” has helped his mental health immensely.
RELATED VIDEO: Zak Williams Says His Dad Robin Was His Best Friend: I Understood What He Was Going Through
“I can’t stress how important service is to my life,” he says. “The other thing is I found community support groups to be really helpful. I’m in a 12-Step program, that’s very helpful for me personally. For others, it might be connecting through community organization or through sports, there’s any number of things.”
Prior to his death, Williams suffered from Lewy Body Dementia, a type of brain disease that affected his thinking, memory and movement control. It’s the second-most common type of progressive dementia after Alzheimer’s disease.
Earlier this year, Zak shared with PEOPLE about how he’s keeping his father’s spirit alive — which includes working with organizations such as Inseparable, a national policy and advocacy group that aims to ensure Americans are granted access to mental health care amid the coronaviruspandemic.
“I stay away from drugs and alcohol, I commit to support groups,” he said in May. “One thing I found very healing for me through my experience has been service and commitment to service work specifically around mental health and mental health support organizations. Eating well, committing to a healthy lifestyle. Things that I need in my weekly and daily regimen to better support my well-being.”
In October, Zak — who shares 18-month-old son McLaurin “Mickey” Clement with wife Olivia June — opened up to PEOPLE about how far he has come in his mental health journey.
“I’m thrilled to have a family and live the life that I always wanted to live,” he said. “I’ve learned I’m not broken. Despite experiencing traumatic events, I can recover. And I am now on a path of healing and being the person I always wanted to be.”
If you or someone you know need mental health help, text “STRENGTH” to the Crisis Text Line at 741-741 to be connected to a certified crisis counselor.
If you or someone you know is considering suicide, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255), text “STRENGTH” to the Crisis Text Line at 741-741 or go tosuicidepreventionlifeline.org.
PSYCHOLOGY TODAY
Posted Nov 16, 2020
For the adolescent, confidencecan often be hard to come by.
During childhood, the girl or boy may have felt relatively self-assured in the smaller, simpler, and sheltered world of home and family. But with the onset of adolescence (around ages 9 to 13), developmental insecurity begins. Now the teenager separates from childhood and parents to start the daunting coming-of-age passage through the larger world toward young adult independence – to young womanhood or young manhood.
Growing up keeps introducing more changes and challenges in the teenager’s path, creating fresh cause for self-doubt. “I can’t keep up!” “I won’t fit in!” “I’ll never learn!” “How will I get it done?” Parents may not always appreciate how, when youthful confidence is lacking, adolescence requires acts of courage to proceed. “Some days just showing up at school can feel scary to do!”
Coping with lack of confidence
How to help a young person cope with lack of confidence? By way of example, consider the common case of social shyness in middle school that can keep a young person more alone than she or he would like to be.
The child who had playmates in elementary school can become more socially intimidated in the push and shove of middle school when physical self-consciousness from puberty and social competition for belonging and fitting in can make making friends harder to do. As young people vie for standing, there can also be more social cruelty – teasing, rumoring, bullyingexcluding, and ganging up – to assert and defend social place.
As I was once told on lonely eighth-grader authority: “With all the meanness going around, middle school can be a good time not to have a lot of friends.” At the same time, she had a fervent desire to have a more socially satisfying high school experience. But how to accomplish this change when lack of confidence from shyness was holding her back?
I suggested that like all feelings, shyness can be very a good informant about one’s unhappy state, but it can also be a very bad advisor about how to relieve it. For example: “I’m not confident mixing with people, so I’ll feel better if I just keep to myself.” Following this emotional advice only makes shyness worse.
While it’s true that feelings can motivate actions; it’s also true that actions can alter feelings. So the prescription for the shy middle school student lacking social confidence was to put on an act. “Pretend to be more outgoing, and you’ll build confidence as you increasingly practice behaving that way.”
Empowering confidence
Worth parents listening for and affirming are adolescent statements of confidence. These express a can-do attitude and they come in many forms, a few of which are stated below.
“I can earn money.”
“I can make friends.”
“I can lift my spirits.”
“I can perform well.”
“I can finish what I start.”
“I can compete to do my best.”
“I can sustain important effort.”
“I can solve problems that arise.”
“I can speak up when I have need.”
“I can make myself do what needs doing.”
“I can keep agreements to myself and others.”
“I can work with people to help get things done.”
One job of parents is to encourage practices that enable their adolescents to make these and other kinds of self-affirming statements.
Confidence matters. It can inspire determination, empower effort, and support a sense of effectiveness: “I’m going to give it a shot.” Lack of confidence can reduce motivation, discourage effort, and lower self-esteem: “There’s no point in trying.”
Within the family, parents need to keep a tease-free, sarcasm-free, embarrassment-free home. Why? Because such belittling, like criticism, can injure confidence at a vulnerable age when believing in oneself becomes harder to do. So, no put-downs allowed.
Caution
All this said, supporting confidence in adolescents is not enough. Teaching adolescents how to direct it must also be done. After all, while human confidence can create much good, it can also inflict a great deal of harm. As history unhappily instructs, people who are very confident that they are right can commit a lot of wrong. So, by instruction and example, imparting ethical and responsible conduct matters even more.
Melinda
Carl Pickhardt Ph.D. is a psychologist in private counseling and public lecturing practice in Austin, Texas. His latest book is WHO STOLE MY CHILD? Parenting through four stages of adolescence.Online:Website: Carl Pickhardt Ph.D.
It’s the weekend!!!!!! I’m so glad you’ve joined me. Pink Floyd Is one band I did not get the chance to see but would loved to have seen live. There music is so interesting and sometimes very deep emotionally. I was a teenager when The Wall came out and spent many a night partying to the album. What are your Pink Floyd stories?
In health,
Melinda
Welcome back to Weekend Music Share; the place where everyone can share their favorite music.
Feel free to use the ‘Weekend Music Share‘ banner in your post, and don’t forget to use the hashtag #WeekendMusicShare on social media so other participants can find your post.
Earlier in the year, Annabel at Aromalief wrote a blog post comparing Aromalief and Voltaren Gel. The feedback was great and she was asked to do another post about Aspercreme. Annabel is the founder of Aromalief and is very hands-on with the business, if you have questions don’t hesitate to ask her. You can check out my review of the Lavender Pain Cream here.
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In health,
Melinda
It’s Friday! So glad you stopped by today. I hope you have a great weekend. Stay safe. I know it’s hard right now but we have to live in our family bubbles so we can get past this virus.
In health,
Melinda
EUREK ALERT
NEWS RELEASE 11-NOV-2020
New longitudinal research shows combined lifestyle interventions promote mental wellness
NICM HEALTH RESEARCH INSTITUTE, WESTERN SYDNEY UNIVERSITY
A cross-sectional and longitudinal analysis of data from the UK Biobank, involving almost 85,000 people, has found that lifestyle factors such as less screen time, adequate sleep, a better-quality diet, and physical activity strongly impact depression.
With evolving data exploring the link between depression and lifestyle factors, the international research team led by Western Sydney University say their findings published today in BMC Medicine may help inform public health policy.
The study found:
“The research is the first assessment of such a broad range of lifestyle factors and its effect on depression symptoms using the large UK Biobank lifestyle and mood dataset,” said lead co-author, Professor Jerome Sarris, NICM Health Research Institute, Western Sydney University.
“While people usually know that physical activity is important for mood, we now have additional data showing that adequate sleep and less screen time is also critical to reduce depression.
“The findings also suggest that one’s dietary pattern is partly implicated in the germination or exacerbation of depressed mood.
“The results may inform public health policy by further highlighting the important relationship between people being encouraged and supported to engage in a range of health-promoting activities. In particular, maintaining optimal sleep and lessening screen time (which is often an issue in youth), while having adequate physical activity and good dietary quality, may reduce the symptoms of depression,” said Professor Sarris.
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The authors’ research also supports the use of a personalised, combined lifestyle interventions to help manage mood and promote physical wellness. This is in alignment with their recent World Psychiatry paper, led by senior author Dr Joseph Firth, a UKRI Future Leaders Fellow, from The University of Manchester, and Adjunct at NICM Health Research Institute, Western Sydney University.
Additional contributors to the study included NIHR Maudsley Biomedical Research Centre and King’s College London, United Kingdom, and the University of Padua, Padua, Italy.
The paper, Lifestyle factors associated with depression, is available online (https://doi.org/10.1186/s12916-020-01813-5) in the Journal BMC Medicine.
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Growing old can be tough on both your physical and mental health. Losing mobility can mean that you lose independence, and unfortunately, it’s all too common to start losing those around you due to health conditions and other issues that affect the elderly. Offering your support to an elderly relative during their time of need could change their quality of life dramatically, giving them a pep in their step and a reason to carry on. It needn’t be difficult to provide your elderly relative with the helping hand that they need to thrive, as there are a few key areas in which you can focus your efforts to keep them as happy and healthy as possible. So, if you would like to find out more, then read on to uncover some of the best tips and tricks that you can utilize today!
The first step you should take when you gain the responsibility of caring for an elderly relative involves visiting their healthcare specialist to get a better idea of their current situation. They will be able to inform you of any specific issues such as difficulty with mobility, signs of Alzheimer’s, and any other potential issues that may need to be considered during your care. Their healthcare specialist will also be able to advise you on whether they believe your elderly relative can live comfortably in their own home or may feel better inside a specialized care facility that can meet their medical needs.
If it’s recommended that your elderly relative should stay in the comfort of their own home, it’s vital that you are able to make some adaptations to suit their requirements. This could mean installing grab bars in places such as the bathroom and corridors, as these can be used for extra balance and mobility when your relative moves around their house independently. In addition, a stairlift is an essential investment for a home that’s laid out over more than one level, as stairs are a real hazard area for the elderly and it simply isn’t worth the risk.
Staying social by meeting up with friends and family is something that you most likely take for granted, as this just isn’t possible for elderly people. It would be such a miserable existence if your elderly relative were to sit inside their care facility, watching and waiting for a visitor that never arrives as they see other residents meet with their nearest and dearest. You must make an effort to go and see them as much as you can, especially if they no longer live in their own home, as they need interaction with people they know and love! This will also give them the chance to discuss any issues they have, as unfortunately, care facilities can encounter malpractice. You should aim to learn more about how to deal with such a scenario, as the facility has a commitment to outstanding care and these expectations must always be met.
This is a collaborative post.
In health,
Melinda
Hi, it’s Wednesday! I’m thrilled you’re here! My husband brought these beautiful beads back from Tokyo and I added them to the OM hand. This is an artistic interpretation of a the photo I took.
In health,
Melinda
IDEAS.TED.COM
Nov 21, 2019 / Daryl Chen
Feel free to do the challenges in any way that suits you, whether it’s in back-to-back days or spread out over weeks or months. Then, if some of them resonate with you more than others, focus on those and save the rest for another time.
The key is discovering the practices that increase the gratefulness in your life. Enlisting a gratitude buddy — someone else who will do these exercises at the same time as you so you’ll able to share your experiences — can help, too.
In 2008 Hailey Bartholomew, who lives in Queensland, Australia, was struck with a bone-deep case of the blahs. “I had two healthy kids, a lovely partner, but I just did not feel anything for my life.” she recalls in a TEDxQUT Talk. Bartholomew went to a counselor, who asked her to do this exercise for 10 days: Take 10 minutes at the end of every day to reflect on the things she was grateful for, and write them down. This activity led her to notice moments and objects she’d have otherwise missed. At the end of 10 days, she decided she wanted to continue — but with an important twist. “I needed a lot more of that,” she says. “Being a photographer, I decided I was going to do a photo a day for a whole year.”
Bartholomew took photographs of the sights that stirred her gratitude — the color green, her favorite umbrella, weeds blowing in the wind, a bug perching jewel-like on her daughter’s shirt. But when she zoomed in on an object and the appreciation it aroused in her, something else happened in her: She found herself looking beyond her preconceptions and stale stories.
Take her husband. She felt he wasn’t romantic — he didn’t take her on dates, buy her flowers, or enact other known tropes. One day, she was trying to figure out the subject for her daily gratitude photo. “I was looking around the room, and then I saw my husband serving dinner,” she says. “In the corner of my eye, I watched as he put the biggest piece of pie on my plate, and I was like, ‘Whoa’ … And he was doing that every day — he was putting me fully first. But I was not seeing it because I was not looking.”
What good things in your life would you see if you just took the time to look? This particular challenge has an obvious perk: Whenever you need a reminder of what really matters to you , you’ll have your photos to look back on.https://www.youtube.com/embed/zaufonUBjoQ?feature=oembed
“Gratitude is not an emotion that comes naturally to me,” writes AJ Jacobs in this excerpt from his book Thanks A Thousand. “My innate disposition is moderately grumpy, more Larry David than Tom Hanks.”
A few years ago, Jacobs — who is based in New York City — set out on a quest to thank everyone behind one thing in his life that he couldn’t function without: his daily coffee. He thanked the farmers, the person who designed the disposable cup, the truckers who transported the beans, and many, many others.
Early in his journey, Jacobs went to his local coffee shop to thank Chung, the barista who served him most days. In a TED Talk, he says, “Chung has had people yell at her until she cried, including a nine-year-old girl who didn’t like the whipped cream design that Chung did on her hot chocolate … But Chung said that the hardest part is when people don’t even treat her like a human being. They treat her like a vending machine. They’ll hand her their credit card without even looking up from their phone. And while she’s saying this, I’m realizing — I’ve done that. I’ve been that a-hole. At that moment, I pledged: When dealing with people, I’m going to take those two seconds and look at them, make eye contact … That little moment of connection is so important to both people’s humanity and happiness.”
Note: Jacobs says both people. Because when we’re busy treating someone like they’re a vending machine, we’re not experiencing our own humanity either. The next time you get ready to make eye contact with a barista or cashier and thank them, consider also doing one or more of the following: remove your headphones or earbuds, smile, offer a sincere compliment.https://embed.ted.com/talks/aj_jacobs_my_journey_to_thank_all_the_people_responsible_for_my_morning_coffee
Many of us spend our lives chasing after happiness — searching for the people, jobs, possessions and/or philosophies that will lead us to contentment. After we get there or get enough of those things lined up, we’ll have all the time in the world to be grateful. Right?
Nope — we’ve got the relationship between happiness and gratitude backwards, according to Benedictine monk and spiritual teacher David Steindl-Rast. In a TED Talk, he asks, “We all know quite a number of people who have everything … and they are not happy because they want something else or they want more of the same. And we all know people who have lots of misfortune, misfortune that we ourselves would not want to have, and they are deeply happy … Why? Because they are grateful. So it is not happiness that makes us grateful. It’s gratefulness that makes us happy.”
Br. Steindl-Rast believes that being grateful is as easy as crossing the street — and it consists of the same three steps: “Stop. Look. Go.” He adds, “But how often do we stop? … We have to get quiet. And we have to build stop signs into our lives.”
As an example, he recalls, “When I was in Africa some years ago and then came back, I noticed water. In Africa where I was, I didn’t have drinkable water. Every time I turned on the faucet [after I returned], I was overwhelmed. Every time I clicked on the light, I was so grateful. It made me so happy. But after a while, this wears off. So I put little stickers on the light switch and on the water faucet … I leave it up to your own imagination. You can find whatever works best for you, but you need stop signs in your life.”
You can put up the kinds of signs he suggests, but you could also “stop” to take photos of the things that provoke gratitude as Hailey Bartholomew does. Or, you might pick a point on your daily commute to “stop” and take note of something you appreciate. Maybe you could set your phone to buzz during the day, and let that be your prompt to survey your surroundings and your life for what’s good. (Br. Steindl-Rast is the cofounder and senior advisor to A Network for Grateful Living, and there are several other gratitude practices on their website.)
Ready to be grateful? Stop. Look. Go.https://embed.ted.com/talks/david_steindl_rast_want_to_be_happy_be_grateful
When Keka DasGupta was 17, her life was punctuated by tragedy. Her father was burned in an accident, and he passed away two weeks later. She never had a chance to tell him what he meant to her before he died.
DasGupta, an Ontario, Canada-based marketing and PR strategist, didn’t want to experience that same regret with her mother, whom she’s very close to. In a TEDxWindsor talk, she recalls, “One day, I sat down and I wrote her a living eulogy. In it, I poured my heart out about the things that I admired about her the most, the way that she impacted my life, the things that I saw from her. Then I gave it to her.”
DasGupta didn’t receive an immediate response, and when she next saw her mom, she found out why. Her mother said, “I wanted to call you, but to be honest, I was so overcome by joy … I wanted to run out the front door and shout out to the world and say, ‘Look at this! Look at what my daughter wrote for me!’”
Think of that phrase her mother used: “Overcome by joy”. Wouldn’t it be great to cause someone to feel that? Start writing a eulogy.https://www.youtube.com/embed/m8Gbbf5sU8Y?feature=oembed
One day, southern California therapist Laura Trice had an insight about herself. While she had no problems asking for exactly what she wanted in much of her life — shoes in her size and not a size bigger or smaller, a steak cooked medium rare and not one that was medium or rare — she didn’t do the same with the thanks or praise she received. Instead, she accepted any scraps that came her way and also accepted when there were no scraps at all.
When she looked around, she saw that many of us do this. In a TED Talk, she says, “I know a gentleman, married for 25 years, who’s longing to hear his wife say, ‘Thank you for being the breadwinner so I can stay home with the kids,’ but won’t ask.” She thought about what kept her from stating her needs, and explains, “It’s because I’m giving you critical data about me. I’m telling you where I’m insecure … Because what can you do with that data? You could neglect me. You could abuse it. Or you could actually meet my need.”
Of course, not everyone is so reticent. Trice adds, “I know a woman who’s good at this. Once a week, she meets with her husband and says, ‘I’d really like you to thank me for all these things I did in the house and with the kids.’”
Try this out with the people you’re closest to: your family and your friends-who-are-essentially-family. And while you’re telling them what you want to hear, be sure to ask them what they’ve wanted you to say to them.https://embed.ted.com/talks/laura_trice_remember_to_say_thank_you
Daryl Chen is the Ideas Editor at TED.
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