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Technology didn’t change my job until the mid 90’s because computers weren’t used where I worked. We didn’t even have voice mail, messages came on a pink message slip. The old days had it’s advantages, like no social media and the level of violence we have today.
I retired in 2005 and technology has made a big difference in my life and it has affected me negatively as well. I recieve a data breach letter almost monthly. How can can large corporation not have more knowledge than hackers?
Melnda
I don’t have a hidden skill set, and I don’t wish for skills. If I want to learn or do something, I set a goal and go do it. Being diagnosed with Lyme in 2014 or 2015, my life was turned upside down. The Lyme spirokettes find a major organ to set up house, and they set up in my brain and caused cognitive impairment and other medical issues.
If I did wish for something it would be a cure to my illnesses and the ability to participate in the activities I love.
I do hope your wishes come true.
Melinda

Speaking of weather, have you notice how climate change has affected the weather around the world? I live in Texas which is considered the south, we are know for our blistering hot summers and milder winters. In the 80’swe had four seasons, not any longer. It says Spring on the calendar but it was 90+ the past two days. We only have to look at all the flooding, fires, more flooding and more houses being washed away during the floods.
As for my preference in weather, that depends if I’m traveling. Even though I’m freezing all the time, the weather didn’t deter me from going to Russia during their Winter. I always say in winter you can add more clothes.
I like all seasons yet some are less tolerated for very long. Spring is my favorite time of year but we’re having less Springtime weather here in Texas.
Melinda
Looking for the Light
Alive!
Melinda
Looking for the Light
I am not superstitious, my Gramps would say gibberish yet my Granny beat into my head about food expiration. They are not related but are similar in my brain. I throw food out a couple of days before expiration and only eat a left-overs within 2 days.
Sounds crazy?
Melinda
Looking for the Light
The link button is still not working.
The answer is complicated because everyday may be a different animal. The animals I would compare myself to is a Dolphin, Sloth, and Elephants. Why those animals? Dolphin’s are gentle, have fun and they don’t bite. The sloth is slow, can reach high places and appear gentle except for the large claws. I can relate to Elephants because they stay together as a family group, have emotions and if you don’t bother them, they won’t bother you.
Melinda
Looking for the Light
I have several challeges rolled into a big challenge. We closed on our new house a couple of weeks ago and my husband is working feverishly to get the upgrades and repairs completed so we can move in.
After we move in, it’s time to do upgrades on our house and sell it. We go back and forth on how much money we need to put into our house to sell it, I’ve stopped having the conversation. I know he has changed his mind because he is doing upgrades we had not planned on. YEAH!!!!!
Then there is timing of the contractors at the same time pushing hard because we would like to have our house on the market by May.
My health and hand conditions don’t allow me to pack as fast or as heavy as in the past. I have been in charge of picking out a few pieces of furniture we need and decorating. The last thing we are doing before moving in is having a maid service do a move-in clean so we can’t pack the house with boxes for them to deal with. I was there yesterday stuffing everything in cabinets to clear the counters.
The big unknows are what is next in my TMJ Therapy and if my right thumb needs surgery.
Not to mention all the money we are spending after being savers all these years. I have to remember, I don’t like this house and we have saved for 23 years to make my dream house a reality.

Not to worry, God has me in his palm.
Melinda
Looking for the Light
I am fortunate to have traveled to Russia alone, jumped out of a plane, took a hot balloon ride, and scuba dived on several islands. In the past I was up for adventure yet my health conditions have slowed me down completely.

As for lost interest, playing cards, street racing, embroidery, and knitting. I have a couple of activities to try once I’m able.
Have a great day!
Melinda
Looking for the Light
I apologize, WordPress is still not letting me add a link.
I went to live with my grandparents at 14 and my gramps was a year from retirement. Why would grandparents take on a 14 year old wild child a year before the freedom of retirement. WHY? Unconditional love.
Like all families, we have our issues yet that doesn’t stop us from getting together, mostly during the holidays and birthdays. My granny would cook enough for the neighborhood, not literally but everyone took goodies home with them.
My favorite tradition from childhood is going to a mexican restaurant with my grandparents and brother because they had a flag on your table to use when you wanted more food. My brother wore the flag out every time we went.
David and I have created a few traditions of our own, mostly holiday traditions. On Christmas Eve we eat a wide variety of cheeses, hard meats, olives, fresh rolls and a French Tart. We open our gifts after eating and kick back to relax after all that eating.
On Christmas morning David makes pancakes, another longstanding holiday tradition. He spends most of the day watching football until it’s time to start dinner. It’s much easier when you only have two people to plan for. Dinner is traditional with a spiraled backed ham, sweet potato, rolls and another desert!

Traditions can start or change at any time. I love my grandparents with my whole heart but that doesn’t mean I have to continue it.
I’m thinking of a tray of cheese, hard meats and a hot roll right now. :)
Melinda
To potty on the potty pads and not somewhere else, like my husbands bathroom. Griffy is totally laid back until she wants a snack. Jet’s close to the same size and is calm until he thinks it’s time of a snack ot petting.


Melinda
I’m retired so by far this is the best job. At 12 I had a paper route to make some play money and my second job was being a cashier in a grocery store. Every job I’ve worked has taught me new lesson’s. There were plenty of jobs I didn’t like and other’s I gave all to.
After retiring and giving my body time to decompress, I had a store on Ebay for five years. It was a blast and kept me busy. I won’t forget the guy who bought one homeade soap a month, and when I offered a deal on three soaps for the price of two, he continued to buy one soap.
Not working has been a blessing and life contiues to teach me lesson’s. My days are slower now and I know how difficult it can be to balancce work with health issues.

Melinda
My gut says Social Media platforms, have you seen the “dares” going around Tic Tok? Teens and younder adults walking on moving trains, and the list is long. I was a teen and made plenty of mistakes yet I’m smarter than the people doing the stunts.
I closed all of my accounts last year because a company I worked with was hacked and all of my data was released. I took the comments Apple said about safety, and applied every ounce of help they provided. Because my personal information was leaked and confirmed the information is on the Dark Web, that’s data is roming around which can lead to identity theft the rest of my life
I wouldn’t un-invent something because as life goes on, we get to watch new versions of a product eveolve.

Melinda
That is a short sentence for a big answer! I live a laid back life now and the answer is actually shorter than you might expect.
Stay close to God
Be a good wife
Take care of my physical & mental health
Find joy by looking out the window
Help the charities I work with
Always looking forward to life
Be informed about the world around me
Cut negatives out of my life
Help when you can
Stay true to myself

Melinda
Spending too much time thinking about the past is holding you back from planning your future. Daydreaming about the future is very healthy, we use our imagination and we can manifest a brighter future. That’s not to say I never look back, there’s great joy in thinking about my grandparents and looking at old photos all the way back to when I was born.

Thinking about the past all the time can stagnate your growth and could mean you have unresolved anger or trauma. I first experienced trauma shorthly after I was born because my mother abused me. I’ve had other trauma’s like being stalked, sexually assaulted and my father’s suicide, I don’t want to wallow in those memories. Seeing my Therapist for 32 years has helped me resolve my trauma and I don’t look back.
The future is wide open and you have the ability to live your best life.
Melinda
What would be the greatest gift? WOW, that is a big question however true love and committment are the greatest gifts for me. I’ve been fortunate to have received expensive gifts and small simple gifts and honestly they both made me happy but love can’t be bought.
I’ve been married 23 years and everyday my husband shows me he loves me in little ways that make me feel joy inside. Sometimes, like for Christmas this year he bought me a couple of small Swarovski Crystal trinkets including an ornament for 2025. He is the only person to buy me the trinkets and it’s been at least 15 years since he purchased the last one, it was quite a surprise.

Love is all a we need!
Melinda
That’s a great question because I’m not into sports. I watch a tiny bit of football or golf with my husband on occasion but not a fan of any. I do appreciate the great play’s in any sport, that is the excitement of the games.
Of the college & professional football teams, most mascot’s are boring. I would chose an animal like a leopard, koala, or a marine animal and a color combination that works best for the animal. If I had the ability to make the decision, I would teaming up with an appropriate charity or conservation organization with a percentage of money from each game, or concessions to make a difference and educate the public with out having it crammed down their throat.

Melinda
I’ve been a car lover since high school after meeting several guys how had awesome and fast cars. It’s not just fast cars that catch my eye, I’ve been to many types of local cars shows or car club meeting over the years. It’s hard to pick one car when I appreciate so many however being the owner of a 1963 Corvette fully restored would blow my mind.
At every Corvette meeting, I would chat up every owner of a 1963-1967 Corvette, they are the same body style but 1963 is the year I was born. Adding icing to the cake. I also love many old salon type cars, for that matter I enjoy cars old and new.
If you are thinking about buying a Corvette, I suggest you drive one and get in and out many times. The car lays close to the ground and getting in and out can be awkward at times. I bought a white Corvette in my early 30’s not thinking about logistics, like getting in with an umbrella or taking a older client to lunch.
I had to take care of a baby for a half a day, my friend managed to get Cowboy’s tickets on Thanksgiving day. I wrangled the car seat in and headed to my brother’s for our gathering. The baby was a huge surprise from me and the only thing I had to do was change a diaper and found out later it was on backwards. All the women kept passing the baby around that I had little to do, which is great since I know nothing about babies except you feed them and shortly after it’s time for a diaper change.
Go Corvette!
Melinda
I don’t hope for people to think or say nice things about me, that’s not important. What’s important is what I think about myself and it’s a bonus if people think kindly of me. I’m thrilled everytime a blogger sends me a nice comment or appreciates a post, it’s an instant smile every time. People judge or have a perception of you based on many factors and it’s beyond our control.
Living an authentic life is how I live and people will form their own perception of me. I’m mostly talking about blogging because my close family members are no longer here and it’s hard to make friends when you don’t leave the house.
Living life wishing or worrying about what other’s think of you is a waist of time. My reply is not meant to sound negative, it’s my reality and everyone’s is different. The difference it what makes the world go round.

Melinda
Choosing one is a difficult task because there were so many great cartoons when I was little. The one that sticks with my is Popeye, eating his spinch for strenght and declaring “I am what I am”. My memory of every episode doesn’t come to mind but Popeye had a positive attitude and always pitched in to make things right.
Melinda
For me, it’s what I could do more of because less is my way of life. A couple of years ago, I decided to live in the slow lane because of high stress levels and medical conditions requiring attention in addition to having Agoraphobia.
I’m fortunate that my stress levels have come way down since my husband retired in April 2025.
I wake up every day thinking about working in the garden, photography and driving again. Remaining positive will manifest good things in life.
Stay focused on the future and never give up.

Melinda
Everything I’ve been through makes me who I am today, that’s not to say I don’t look for ways to improve my life. As far a physical self, I would not change anything. As Popeye said, “I am what I am”. Sure I could nit pick about my imperfections inside and out but I would rather look forward instead.

Melinda
Good question for which I have mixed answers for. I naturally tend towards being a night person because I love to sleep in a bit however during my working years, being a morning person was not an option and in fact towards the end of my career, I enjoyed waking up early to have a cup of coffee at home instead of on the way to work, to me coffee doesn’t taste the same while driving.
Now, I’m a bit of both because many nights I can’t sleep or sleep only a couple of hours which means I tend to take a nap mid-morning.
I’ve not been one to jump out of bed at 5:00 am to greet the day, what am I going to do at that hour?

Melinda
All animals big and small are important to our existence and since the beginning of mankind we have eaten meat for nourishment. The treatment of the animals and what they are feed came to my mind many years ago and I do still eat meat a couple of days a week.
When meat is on the menu including eggs, we buy organic, free-range, grass feed, non-GMO and anything else to make sure our food is clean and the animals were treated with care before death. Chickens are treated horribly, they live in crowded dirty cages and let’s not get started on what they are feed.
I choose to eat meat and care about the animals welfare at the same time. That will make sense to some and not others. To each his own.
Melinda
Just three?????? At 62, my peeves have changed as I age, thank goodness. Peeves are what I call my last nerve and there are more than three but the top ones are: being told what to do or think, abuse of any kind including animals, arrogance.
Outside of the three are: people who wallow in their problems, liars, are unkind and rude, and people who do not help others. Oh, I can’t forget, someone constantly reminding me of what I need to do and the ones who won’t take responsibly.

I’m far from perfect but no one is, my attitude has changed along with what I think is important. I shake the thoughts off after they happen but they pop-up the next time.
Have a great day.
Melinda
I prefer both because they offer such different opportunities yet if I had to pick it would be water. I have loved the water or playing in water since I was a small child and once older I discovered the love of falling asleep being rocked by the water. There’s nothing like waking up to the sunrise drinking a cup of coffee while the water calms you.
I’ve had one bad experience on my friends 40ft boat. One day the weather was beautiful, I was sail boarding when I saw this massive black cloud coming our way. I rushed back to the boat and the waves on the way back to the dock were massive, he dealt with the waves while I was down stairs scared but constantly picking up items that had fallen including myself. I felt like it took forever. So glad he was at the helm.
The mountains are beautiful because the terrain is always different and you can see for miles. I was a hiker at one time but stopped after climbing a 1,000 feet to reach the top of Verna Falls at Yosemite National Park. We were rookies at climbing mountains and the climb reminded me why. You had to hike in circles all the way up, I had only one pole and several times I thought about stopping but knew better. The waterfall made every step worth it.

Melinda
WOW!!!!! I have a long list of histrorical people I would love to chat with and learn from. It’s a toss up between, George Washington, and Abraham Lincoln.
Why? because George Washington was the first President, a Founding Father, he didn’t belong to a political party and and presided over the convention that drafted the U.S. Constitution.

Abraham Lincoln was the 16th President, and His Emancipation Proclamation paved the way for slavery’s abolition, while his Gettysburg Address stands as one of the most famous pieces of oratory in American history.

Melinda
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I don’t have a favorite month because each month has something wonderful to offer. New Years day is a great time to reflect on the challenges and accomplishments and turn my focus to apply what I’ve learned tothe new year.
Melinda
I would like people to see me as a warm and welcoming person but in reality it doesn’t matter because their impression is their perception and has nothing to do with who I really am. The impression of me would also be different based on who I am meeting, say I’m meeting a religious leader, I would be humbled and taking in their presence and any lessons offered and not ask questions unless the door was open. I think the impression of me is different for everyone I met.
I am not a fluffy person and my writing is more raw and to the facts. That in itself could be taken may different way. All I can do is be who I am and hope that people will give me grace.

Melinda
I’m an American and I once was proud to say that. I still love America and it is home for me but the politics, division in the country and the rise in physical and cyber crime is very concerning. Almost 10 years ago everything changed with the focus of our government with the biggest impact is neither party working together, they out right refuse. How are they helping Americans grow?
Back to the question. I have looked at other countries as an excersis and have found the countries that live by the values and government style I perfer and way to cold. I’ve thought about Austrailia because I think in many ways we are similar and while visiting Sydney, everyone was so welcoming. It made me think I was back home in Texas.
There are locations that have crossed my mind but in reality every country has it’s issues and living in America is far less expensive than any country I researched. I would not feel right moving away from my home country but wish for some magic to turn America around to better times.
Melinda