Eczema Soothing Botainical Bath Tea

February 16, 2025 Looking for the LightLeave a comment

You Will Need

Large bowl

2 cups dried red clover

1 cup dried calendula

1 cup dried yarrow

Wooden spoon

2 Glass jars: 1 QT./ 1 PT.

Line tea bags

To Make

In a large bowl, combine herbs. You may want to break up the larger red clover and calendar flower heads if you are using whole flowers so they will be more evenly distributed within the mixture. Stir to combine with a wooden spoon, and scoop into a glass jar. Store out of direct sunlight. To use as a simple bath tea, fill a linen tea bag with the hears, tie it tightly, and place in a warm bath.

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Therapists’ Strategies for Dealing With Difficult Family Members

February 16, 2025 Looking for the Light13 Comments

By Paige Jarvie Brettingen

No one knows how to push your buttons like your family does. Here are some strategies for navigating challenging family dynamics and setting boundaries to help you get through difficult family gatherings unscathed.

Dreading an upcoming family gathering with your relatives? Learn from experts on how to navigate get-togethers with challenging family members, set healthy boundaries, and use confrontation as a positive tool to make the next family reunion a lot more bearable.

For many people, getting together with family can be a contentious time. At dinnertime, you may get into family drama about politics and current events. And then comes dessert, along with the open forum about why you haven’t settled down yet. (But Aunt Edna knows a nice boy you should meet!) And on yes, what exactly are you doing with your career these days? Because your perfect cousin Jennifer is a surgeon. Did you know that?

The election might be over, but the politically charged conversations at the family table are far from done. And then comes dessert, along with the open forum about why you haven’t settled down yet. (But Aunt Edna knows a nice boy you should meet!) And, oh yes, what exactly are you doing with your career these days? Because your perfect cousin Jennifer is a surgeon. Did you know that?

Ah, family. It’s not that they’re toxic — it’s just that they’re not always your cup of tea, yet you still like (maybe even love?) them enough to pay them a visit.

But what if this year could look more like a Norman Rockwell painting and less like the Jerry Springer show?

While we can’t make any promises, we do have some strategies that will help you stay as unruffled as possible — even when Aunt Edna asks for the fiftieth time why you aren’t married yet.

Take Time to Prepare

Before you go, do some journaling. Think and write about the issues in your family that tend to be the most triggering, especially during the holidays or other so-called “special” occasions that can feel anything but special.

“What you don’t want to do is to get drawn in, and that’s really easy for all of us because no one can push our buttons like our family members. They know us, grew up with us, know our weak links, so they will consciously or unconsciously push those buttons,” says Dr. Carla Marie Manly, a clinical psychologist and author of Joy from Fear, whom DailyOM interviewed for this story.

Use your journal to write down all the hot spots that you know will trigger you, such as unwanted comments about your appearance, career, love life, or political beliefs. “When you’re more aware of these hot spots and how you will navigate them, you will be able to approach them from a place of observing and not judging,” Dr. Manly explains. “That’s an important piece. When we judge, we get ‘hooked in’ and our emotions get hot.”

Boundaries will only be as strong as your willingness to follow through on the consequences if your boundaries are crossed.

While you have your journal out, your next task is to begin the crucial work of setting boundaries, starting with a list of what you value most.

“Boundaries are easier to create when you know what you’re protecting,” Kathryn Ely, a licensed professional counselor and founder of Empower Counseling & Coaching, tells DailyOM.

Ely suggests using a framework where you journal about your value in each of the following eight categories: mental health and physical well-being; your intimate love relationship; parenting and family; friends and community; career and finances; spirituality and faith; learning and self-growth; and adventure and leisure.

“When you determine what is most important to you in [these eight categories] of your life, that becomes your compass. Every action either takes you closer [to] or farther away [from what you value]. It becomes your guide for the boundaries you need,” says Ely.

How to Deal With a Disrespectful Family Member

Now, here’s the key part: Boundaries will only be as strong as your willingness to follow through on the consequences if your boundaries are crossed. “When you’re creating boundaries, it’s imperative to know the consequences. It does no good to create a boundary if you don’t enforce it,” says Ely.

That means clearly communicating with challenging family members what that boundary is and what will happen if they don’t respect it.

Manly suggests a “three-strike rule” when communicating and enforcing boundaries.

If someone crosses your line, make it clear that they have crossed it and politely ask that they not do it again. If they do, you will leave. (Strike one.)

If it happens again, remind them that they have crossed your line and to please not do it again. If they do, you will leave. (Strike two.)

If it happens for the third time, that’s strike three, and it is crucial that you follow through with your ultimatum. Make it clear this was the third time and that you are now leaving. Also, make it clear that you will be taking a week (one month, three months, however long you decide) of silence from them. And it’s okay to need more time even after that time passes, says Manly.

How to Deal With Challenging Parents and In-Laws

Honesty about your feelings and strong communication will always be your best allies when it comes to dealing with parents or in-laws, especially when they still treat you as a child and have trouble respecting how you have changed and grown. And it’s best to tackle that elephant in the room prior to the event.

One of Ely’s tactics is to ground your tough conversations in a place of love and respect. This is particularly helpful to remember if you’ve had negative experiences with confrontation in the past. But, as Ely notes, confrontation can be very beneficial to a relationship when you approach it with compassion and honesty.

For example, says Ely, if you have a parent who has difficult expectations of you, the confrontation might look like this:

“I love you and I’m sure you mean well, but when you say things like x, y, or z, it makes me feel like my results are more important to you than how I feel as a person, and that’s not okay with me. We’re going to have to do things differently moving forward. If this happens [insert the thing they say or do here], then this will happen [insert what the consequence is for breaking that boundary here].”

Another helpful strategy is to role-play as many scenarios and conversations that could arise during an event with difficult parents or in-laws ahead of time. You can do this with your partner, a trusted friend, or even yourself in front of a mirror.

“With family, it’s hard to keep our emotional regulation in check,” says Manly. “[Role play] gives you a chance to practice in a safe environment and helps you determine at what point you’ll walk away.”

Manly also suggests practicing this one simple, yet effective response to disarm any unwelcome comments: “I see your perspective. Thank you for sharing that.”

How to Deal With Difficult Siblings

Having grown up under the same roof, siblings have a way of getting under each other’s skin like no one else can.

Something to help keep your emotional regulation in check around challenging family members such as siblings is to identify what they may use as “bait” to rock the boat, notes Manly. Perhaps it was a nickname they tease you with or a memory they know will make you hot with embarrassment.

When you can recognize that and calmly detach yourself from their “hook” by reminding them of your boundary (and perhaps giving them a “strike”), the better you’ll be able to stay composed and in control.

Also, it’s useful to recognize that all of your emotions are good, explains Manly. It’s how you use those emotions that can make an outcome either positive or negative. Anger, for example, is “telling us that our boundaries are being crossed,” she says.

When you feel that anger, recognize it or — better yet — communicate it. One way to do that: “I feel angry [or hurt] when you say that. I would prefer you do this [insert your desired outcome] in the future,” says Manly.

Again, don’t be afraid to follow through with your three-strike rule if your boundary isn’t being respected.

Ways to Cope With Extended-Family Issues

One of the best ways to deal with extended family? Step into the background and become “a fly on the wall,” suggests Manly. Stay quiet and observe the family dynamics, the conversations, what “bait” is triggering other people. Being an observer rather than a participant will help you detach yourself from any difficult behavior they might be exhibiting and see it as an extension of their own baggage.

Manly also suggests taking timeouts as often as needed. If you’re feeling triggered (but aren’t ready to make an exit quite yet), find a quiet place for a deep breath, perhaps in the kitchen.

“I love being in the kitchen and being the first person to clear the plates,” Manly says with a laugh. “Especially for introverts, going to the kitchen for a timeout, which is my go-to, is absolutely okay and healthy because you’re saying, I’m getting overloaded. You’re still part of the gathering, but you get your peace and quiet. Or go for a short walk. A lot of this is about self-care.”

Focus on What You Want

Is there anyone in your family you actually enjoy seeing and having a conversation with? Be clear about what you want from a gathering on a personal level and make that your focus.

“Let what you want be the driving factor, not what you don’t want, so that [challenging] person doesn’t get all the power and ruin the occasion for you,” says Ely. “Ask yourself: ‘What do I want to say that I did at the end of this [event]? Who is the person I want to be in this situation?’ And then refuse to let those [challenging] people get in your way of doing that, even if you have to step outside or take a timeout — whatever you need to do in that situation to keep your focus on the positive parts for you.”

It doesn’t even have to be a person. The positive thing you focus on can also be your mom’s apple pie — whatever it takes to make it through. And knowing that you got through a challenging family event with both your self-respect and sanity intact will make that apple pie even sweeter.

Melinda

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Super Easy Charcoal Face Mask

February 15, 2025 Looking for the LightLeave a comment

You Will Need

Small plastic or glass bowl

2 TB. bentonite clay

1 TSP. activated charcoal

2 TB. apple cider vinegar

2-3 drops essential oil (optional)

Wooden or plastic spoon

Silicone face spatula (optional)

To Make

In a plastic or glass bowl, mix together the bentonite clay, activated charcoal, apple cider vinegar, and essential oils if desired, using a wooden or plastic spoon. To use, apply the face mask to a clean face or other trouble areas using the silicone face spatula or clean fingers. Allow mixture to harden slightly, about 5-10 minutes, and rinse off with warm water. It’s best to do this in the shower because it can be messy. For best results, use one a week.

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Friday Quote

February 14, 2025 Looking for the Light7 Comments

Thank you for joining me for this week’s Friday Quote.

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Happy Valentines

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Looking For Answers

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feeling down

looking for answers

nowhere to go

no joy or fun

waiting for things to change

grey skies every day

know there is hope

the sun will shine

I am blessed

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Here’s How You Can Connect To Friends Who Are Depressed

February 13, 2025 Looking for the Light7 Comments

IDEAS.TED.COM

Dec 15, 2017 / Bill Bernat

Some heartfelt advice from writer Bill Bernat, who’s been there

When I lived with severe depression and social anxiety, I found it extremely difficult to talk to strangers. Yet the one conversation that uplifted me more than any other occurred in the dining hall of the mental health wing of a mountain-town hospital. I met a woman who told me that a few days earlier, she’d driven her Jeep Wrangler to the edge of the Grand Canyon. She sat there, revving the engine and thinking about driving over.

She described what had been going on in her life in the days and months leading up, what her thoughts were at that exact moment, why she wanted to die, and why she didn’t do it. We nodded and half-smiled, and then it was my turn to talk about my journey to our table in that fine dining establishment. I had taken too many sleeping pills. After the doctors treated me, they were like, “Hey, we’d love it if you would be our guest in the psych ward!”

That day, she and I talked shop. She allowed me to be deeply depressed and simultaneously have a genuine connection to another person. For the first time, I identified as someone living with depression and I felt, oddly, good about it — or rather, like I wasn’t a bad person for having it.

Now, imagine one of the people at that table was a member of your family or a close friend who told you they were really depressed. Would you be comfortable talking to them?

Depression doesn’t diminish a person’s desire to connect with other people, just their ability.

The World Health Organization says that depression is the leading cause of ill health and disability worldwide, affecting more than 300 million people. In the United States, the National Institute of Mental Health reports 7 percent of Americans experience depression in a year. But while depression is super common, in my experience most folks don’t want to talk to depressed people unless we pretend to be happy. So we learn to put on a cheerful façade for casual interactions, like buying a pumpkin spice latte. The average barista doesn’t want to know that a customer is trapped in the infinite darkness of their soul.

Depression doesn’t diminish a person’s desire to connect with other people, just their ability. And despite what you might think, talking to friends and family living with depression can be easy and maybe fun. Not like Facebook-selfie-with-Lady-Gaga-at-an-underground-party fun — instead, I’m talking about the kind of fun where people enjoy each other’s company effortlessly, no one feels awkward, and no one accuses the sad person of ruining the holidays.

There’s a chasm that exists. On one side are people with depression, and on the other side is everyone else and they’re asking, “Why you gotta be so depressed?”

I’ve noticed there’s a chasm that exists. On the one side are those people living with depression, who may act in off-putting or confusing ways because they’re fighting a war in their head that nobody else can see. On the other side is everyone else, and they’re looking across the divide, shaking their heads, and asking, ‘Why you gotta be so depressed?’

I began battling depression when I was eight, and decades later, to my surprise, I started winning that battle. I shifted from being miserable much of the time to enjoying life. Today I live pretty well with bipolar disorder, and I’ve overcome some other mental health conditions, like overeating, addiction and social anxiety. As someone who lives on both sides of this chasm, I want to offer you some guidance based on my experiences to help you build a bridge across. I’ve also talked to a lot of people who’ve lived with depression to refine these suggestions.

Please don’t let our lack of bubbly happiness freak you out. Sadness doesn’t need to be treated with the urgency of a shark attack.

Before I get to the do’s, here are some some things you might want to avoid when talking to someone who’s depressed.

Don’t say “Just get over it.” That’s a great idea – we love it — but there’s just one problem: we already thought of that. The inability to “just get over it” is depression. Depression is an illness, so it’s no different from telling someone with a broken ankle or cancer to “just get over it.” Try not to fix us — your pressure to be “normal” can make us depressed people feel like we’re disappointing you.

Don’t insist that the things which make other people feel better will work for us. For example, you cannot cure clinical depression by eating ice cream, which is unfortunate because that would be living the dream.

Don’t take it personally if we respond negatively to your advice. I have a friend who, about a year ago, messaged me saying he was feeling really isolated and depressed. I suggested some things for him to do, and he was like, “No, no, and no.” I got mad, like, “How dare he not embrace my brilliant wisdom!” Then I remembered the times I’ve been depressed and how I thought I was doomed in all possible futures and everybody hated me. It didn’t matter how many people told me otherwise; I didn’t believe them. So I let my friend know I cared, and I didn’t take his response personally.

Don’t think that being sad and being OK are incompatible. Please don’t let our lack of bubbly happiness freak you out. Sadness does not need to be treated with the urgency of a shark attack. Yes, we can be sad and OK at the exact same time. TV, movies, popular songs and even people tell us if we’re not happy, there’s something wrong. We’re taught that sadness is unnatural, and we must resist it. In truth, it’s natural and it’s healthy to accept sadness and know it won’t last forever.

Talk to a depressed person as if their life is just as valuable, intense and beautiful as yours.

And here are some do’s.

Do talk to us in your natural voice. You don’t need to put on a sad voice because we’re depressed; do you sneeze when you’re talking to somebody with a cold? It’s not rude for you to be upbeat around us.

Do absolve yourself of responsibility for the depressed person. You might be afraid that if you talk to them, you’re responsible for their well-being, that you need to “fix” them and solve their problems. You’re not expected to be Dr. Phil — just be friendly, more like Ellen. You may worry that you won’t know what to say, but words are not the most important thing — your presence is.

Do be clear about what you can and cannot do for us. I’ve told people, “Hey, call or text me anytime, but I might not be able to get back to you that same day.” It’s totally cool for you to make a narrow offer with really clear boundaries. Give us a sense of control by getting our consent about what you’re planning to do. A while back when I was having a depressive episode, a friend reached out and said, “Hey, I want to check in with you. Can I call you every day? Or, maybe text you every day and call you later in the week? What works for you?” By asking for my permission, she earned my confidence and remains one of my best friends today.

Do interact with us about normal stuff or ask us for help. When people were worried about a friend of mine, they’d call him and ask if he wanted to go shopping or help them clean out their garage. This was a great way to reach out. They were engaging with him without calling attention to his depression. He knew they cared, but he didn’t feel embarrassed or like a burden. (Yes, your depressed friends could be a good source of free labor!) Invite them to contribute to your life in some way, even if it’s as small as asking you to go see a movie that you wanted to see in the theater.

This is, by no means, a definitive list. All of these suggestions are grounded in one guiding principle: speaking to someone like they belong and can contribute. That’s what allowed the woman in the Jeep Wrangler to start me on my path to recovery without even trying: She spoke to me like I was OK and had something to offer exactly as I was at that moment. Talk to a depressed person as if their life is just as valuable, intense and beautiful as yours. If you focus on that, it might just be the most uplifting conversation of their life.

This piece was adapted from a talk given at TEDxSnoIsleLibraries2017.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Bill Bernat is a technology marketer, Comedy Central comedian, and The Moth Radio Hour storyteller living in Seattle. He brings awareness and humor to mental health in his award-winning show, Becoming More Less Crazy. He also leads storytelling workshops and fundraisers for nonprofit organizations.

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Stop Your Money Worries From Overwhelming You

February 13, 2025 Looking for the LightLeave a comment

Money can be one of the worst things for making you worry; indeed, a lot of people can feel like their mental well-being has been effectively ruined by their financial insecurity. It’s a very serious thing – almost half of the people currently in debt also report having mental health issues.

If that also sounds like you, being able to take more control over your finances is key to achieving greater peace and stability in your lifestyle. Of course, learning to live with and/or manage your money worries is only part of the solution, but it’s essential to do. But don’t worry, you don’t have to take this challenge on alone – here are some tips for stopping your money worries from overwhelming you.

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Stay Aware

Don’t ever let your finances go unchecked; face your fears and confront the problem head-on by keeping up with how your bank account, credit scores, and any other financial platforms you’re a part of our functioning.

Because when you’re aware, you’re in control. You’re able to face the problem and prevent it from becoming a bigger problem before it ever gets the chance. And you can make this easy for yourself. For example, if you’ve got car insurance to pay for, be sure to make it easy to check in by using something like a direct auto insurance account to keep up to date straight from your phone.

Be Realistic

The next step is to be realistic, which can be a hard thing when you’re finding it very hard to face the reality of your finances. However, when you’re realistic, you’ll be able to put together a workable budget, that allows you to take care of yourself and pay for any debt and other financial obligations you have.

Start with your income, and then take away your expenses, both fixed and variable. If this all fluctuates, use a monthly average. Whatever you’ve left over is what you can put towards those credit card bills, and use to bump up your credit score bit by bit. Even just a couple of regular debt payments can turn it green again.

Don’t Let Yourself Be Alone

Finally, if you’re someone who has serious money worries, don’t let yourself be alone in facing them. Talk to friends and family about them, or work with a professional such as an advisor, who could help you to see the light in your struggles.

Most of all, make sure you feel supported, and like you’ve got some strength behind you. Even if you need someone to be there with you when you check your bank account for the first time in months, ask someone to come round and sit with you. It could really change how you see your finances.

Money worries can be overwhelming, at their worst. Be sure to reach out for help, and always try to face your fears, as you have the power to take control of a problem like this.

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Financial Planning For Life’s Emergencies

February 12, 2025 Looking for the Light6 Comments

Making plans for the future is something that’s natural to do. It keeps you moving forward, helps you stay motivated, and makes you work harder too. But life can be unpredictable, and sometimes it’s those unexpected events that can bring the most difficulty, especially financially.

Having a plan for emergency situations can help your family stay afloat, even when things are difficult. Take a look at the following tips to help you get your finances in order and feel prepared for whatever might come your way.

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Build up emergency savings

Having an emergency fund can bring you a lot of benefits, serving as a cushion if you ever face a financial emergency. Being unable to work or facing unexpected medical expenses can really hit your finances, but your emergency fund will see you through.

It’s worth reading all about emergency funds to learn more about them and to see how to get one started.

Consider expanding or adding value to your home

Your home is one of your biggest investments, and you never know when you might need to lean on it in the future. By expanding or renovating your home, you could increase its value, giving you a nest egg for the future.

Another reason to consider expanding your home is to cope with future situations. You may need to take care of an elderly parent or support a loved one after an accident, and additional space could help make things a little easier.

Get insurance that provides extra protection

There are different types of insurance that can help you plan for future emergencies. Health insurance is a must to make sure you’re covered against accidents and illnesses while having some life insurance can be critical for your family if the worst were to happen.

There is also insurance in place to help you should you need to take a leave of absence from work. Explore the different levels of cover that are out there to make sure you’ve got all the protection you need.

Have a plan for your retirement

Have you worked out a financial plan for your retirement? It can help you work out how much money you’ll need to live on once you’ve finished work. Making investments and savings now can benefit you a lot in the future when that money becomes necessary.

While working out your retirement plan, you’ll need to consider different possibilities, including if you’re faced with ill health. Home health care and other expenses can have a big impact on your future finances, so you’ll want to plan for them, just in case. With a retirement plan in place, you won’t have to worry about your future.

You can never predict where life will take you, but it’s good to have a plan in place so that your future is taken care of. Careful financial planning will put your mind at ease so that you can focus on enjoying every moment.

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Book Review For Back Yourself By Lildonia Lawrence

February 11, 2025 Looking for the Light2 Comments

I want to thank Andrea Marchiano, Managing Editor at Trigger Publishing for sending me Back Yourself by Lildonia Lawrence for review. The publish date is April. The book is about Lildonia’s experiences with racism, the racism she’s seen, and she shares a traumatic experience that gave her the idea for the book.

My Thoughts

Lildonia has been working as a mental health and well-being coach since 2010 and she has experienced racism herself. This particular day cemented the idea for this book. Lildonia went to the nearby Recreation Center to use the hot tub, she had encountered verbal abuse in the way of racial slurs in the past but on this Monday there were eight men and two women already there. She took her place and these thugs ripped into her until she was crying, her teacher came over to see if she could help and they started demeaning the teacher the same way.

One mission of the book is to educate people on how black people and people from other countries with dark skin are treated. She counseled students at university and heard many stories of how people were new to the school and the dorm hall was all white people. He tried to mingle and introduce himself but he was not accepted by his classmates, leaving him feeling very alone and frustrated.

Another case study was on a man who started a new job in Italy. He was a black man who had been adopted by an Italian father and a French mother. When he told his co-workers that he was from Italy his boss said so-so Italian. The boss never let up.

There is a lot to learn from the book even if you haven’t experienced racism.

We live in a multicultural world where everyone needs to be treated equally. Many people can make offensive or racist comments and not know it, that’s when it’s time to extend some grace and not admonishment.

About Trigger Publishing

Our mission

At Trigger Publishing, our mission is to empower individuals on their mental health journey through the power of lived experience. We are dedicated to publishing real stories by real people, showing our readers that they are not alone and that recovery is possible. Our books and digital solutions, available through our parent brand Trigger Hub, provide hope, support, and practical tools for mental wellness.

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Making Sure Your Medical Care Is Safe and Sound

February 11, 2025 Looking for the Light4 Comments

When you’re a parent, the last thing that you want to worry about is whether or not your kids are receiving quality medical care. Unfortunately, there are many instances where people have gotten subpar care because they didn’t know their rights.

It’s essential to be proactive and ensure that your family has access to medical treatment while also ensuring it is safe and sound. In this blog post, you will get information on how to do just that!

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Have Regular Checkups

Having regular checkups is something that everybody should do. Even if you feel well, it is always good to make sure your body is functioning the way it should be and take steps towards any issues before they become serious problems.

If, for example, your family has a history of certain conditions like cancer or diabetes, regular checkups are something that everyone in your family needs to do regardless of their age or health status. Checkups will allow doctors and nurses to catch things early on while still fixing them efficiently instead of waiting until more extensive damage is done.

Always Be Keen and Ask Questions

Asking questions is essential. Your doctor will not think you are troublesome, and it is their job to answer your questions anyway! If they do not, ask another doctor until someone can provide satisfying answers that give you peace of mind. The same goes for nurses and other medical professionals: the more information all parties have available about your treatment plan, the better care everyone gets as a result.

If something goes wrong due to a breach on the doctor’s part, you can always seek legal advice from a medical malpractice attorney to help you acquire damages for violation. By doing so, you will not be negligent about your medical rights.

Ensure That Your Medical Rights Are Respected

Your healthcare providers should understand that you are a vital part of the medical team. You should ask questions and communicate with them about any concerns you have without feeling judged. Staff members at hospitals and clinics should treat you with respect.

When doctors order tests for you as a patient, they need to explain what they are for you to make informed decisions. If there’s something wrong with how things work in this area, speak up! Like other rights citizens enjoy, your right to advocate for yourself will only strengthen if you exercise frequently.

Other medical rights include having access to quality healthcare providers and receiving advice on navigating the system. You also have the right to get satisfactory answers to your questions concerning insurance coverage and everything you need to be an active participant in making good choices about taking control of your well-being.

Conclusion

In conclusion, it is crucial to make sure that your medical care providers do everything they can to protect you from harm. Remember, this means not just getting treatment for a severe injury or illness — it also includes making sure you have all the information and resources available to take steps toward preventing health issues before they become emergencies.

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Just Pondering

February 10, 2025 Looking for the Light16 Comments

Hi, I’m glad you stopped by and I look forward to seeing you soon.

“i would rather be the one who loves too much than not enough. who laughs too loud than hide behind a closed mouth grin. who rambles on about the universe. The ache in heart. or how the sound of rain still reminds me of the times we ran through it; skin drenched but happy. i would rather learn the hard way. take the narrow road. reminisce awhile longer, stop to smell a flower in bloom. i would rather grow wise with endurance than give up and grow bitter. i would rather aim high and know I tried than shoot low and be praised for settling. i would rather live a simple life than a fabricated one. and may I always remember this. my soul will only ever be as beautiful as the lowliest person I’ve carried.”

Ullie-Kaye

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Homemade Dry Shampoo For Dark Hair

February 9, 2025 Looking for the Light6 Comments

Materials

1/4 cup raw cacao powder (add more or less to match the exact coloring for your hair)
1/2 cup arrowroot powder or cornstarch
2 tbsp bentonite or kaolin clay
1 tbsp baking soda
30 drops lavender or lemongrass essential oil
measuring cup
small metal funnel
shaker container, glass or metal lid, or repurposed salt or spice shaker

Instructions

Combine all ingredients together in a measuring cup and mix using a whisk or fork.
Use a funnel to transfer the mixture into your repurposed shaker or spoon it into a shaker container. Tighten your lid.
Sprinkle generously onto your roots as needed.
You can rub the mixture in with your fingers or a brush.

Making your own dry shampoo will save you money in the short and long run.

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Homemade Dry Shampoo for Lighter Hair

February 9, 2025 Looking for the LightLeave a comment

Materials

1/2 cup arrowroot powder or cornstarch
2 tbsp bentonite or kaolin clay
1 tbsp baking soda
30 drops lavender or lemongrass essential oil
measuring cup
small metal funnel
shaker container, glass or metal lid, or repurposed salt or spice shaker

Instructions

Combine all ingredients together in a measuring cup and mix using a whisk or fork.
Use a funnel to transfer the mixture into your repurposed shaker or spoon it into a shaker container. Tighten your lid.
Sprinkle generously onto your roots as needed.
You can rub the mixture in with your fingers or a brush.

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Chocolate Coconut Face Mask

February 9, 2025 Looking for the Light4 Comments

I can smell the chocolate already.

You Will Need

Yields About 11 Treatments

Small bowl

1 TB. pure coco powder

1 TB. coconut milk powder

1 1/2 TB. white kaolin clay

Spon/Silicon spatula

2 oz airtight container

Small mask/pinch bowl

Face mask brush (optional)

To Make

In a small bowl, mix together all the ingredients until fully incorporated. Use the back of a spoon or silicone spatula to break up any clumps. Once the mask base is well blended, pour it into a container with a lid.

To Use

Place 1 teaspoon of the mask base in a small mask or pinch bowl. Add 1/2 teaspoon of warm water, and stir until smooth. Apply to your face and neck with a face mask brush or your handstand let sit for three to five minutes. Gently remove with a damp cloth, rinse your face with warm water. Use the mask one or two times a week for a luxurious, moistering antioxidant treatment. The shelf life is about 12 months.

Melinda

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5 Allergy Relief Essential Oils

February 8, 2025 Looking for the Light4 Comments

Essential Oil Facts

Dilute essential oils in a carrier oil before topical use. Since essential oils are very potent and concentrated, a few drops go a long way. Never ingest essential oils even if the manufacturer claims it’s safe. Learn which essential oils can’t be used around children or pets.

Peppermint: unclogs sinus; relieves scratchy throats, acts as an expectorant; and eases common cold symptoms.

Basil: acts as an anti-inflammatory; can kill bacteria, yeast, and mold; soothes coughing symptoms; relieves pain.

Eucalyptus: opens up lungs and sinuses; improves circulation; reduces common symptoms; improves airflow through nasal passages.

Lemon: supports lymphatic system drainage; relieves stuffy nose; relieves cough and respiratory conditions.

Tea Tree: destroys airborne pathogens; has antiseptic properties; relieves inflamed nostrils and sinuses.

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What Is Hygee?

February 8, 2025 Looking for the Light4 Comments

What a great way to live, spend time with family and friends, have a meal, and enjoy conversation. The priorities are different in the countries that practice hygge.

What do we mean by “hygge”?

A warm atmosphere

Hard to pronounce, hygge (“hooga”) is difficult to explain, too. In brief, hygge is about taking time away from the daily rush to be together with people you care about – or even by yourself – to relax and enjoy life’s quieter pleasures.

Hygge is often about informal time together with family or close friends. Typically, the setting is at home or another quiet location, or perhaps a picnic during the summer months. It usually involves sharing a meal and wine or beer, or hot chocolate and a bowl of candy if children are included. There is no agenda. You celebrate the small joys of life, or maybe discuss deeper topics. It is an opportunity to unwind and take things slow.

In both Danish and Norwegian, hygge refers to “a form of everyday togetherness”, “a pleasant and highly valued everyday experience of safety, equality, personal wholeness and a spontaneous social flow”.^[6]

Melinda

References:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hygge

https://denmark.dk/people-and-culture/hygge

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What’s Your Mood Today?

February 5, 2025 Looking for the Light24 Comments

What’s your mood today?

I’m feeling good and cozy. The fireplace is on and I’m wrapped in a throw.

I hope this post finds you happy and healthy.

Melinda

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Deep Thoughts

February 4, 2025 Looking for the Light14 Comments

In this fast-paced social media world, it can be difficult to find the time to look within or back in time. I hope you find these quotes and questions interesting. I’m so glad you stopped by today!

Continue reading “Deep Thoughts” →

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Homemade Potpourri

February 4, 2025 Looking for the Light2 Comments

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You Will Need

Dried flowers, herbs, and other natural elements

Spices: cinnamon sticks, cloves, allspice, and vanilla beans

Dried fruit/Apple and citrus peels

Dehydrator (optional)

15-20 drops essential oils/fragrance oils

1 TB. orris root powder

Airtight glass container

To Make

Dry the herbs, flowers, fruits, spices, and other natural elements. You can leave them to dry for two or three weeks, use a dehydrator, or place them in the oven at 200 degrees for two hours until dried. Add the essential oils or fragrance oils to the natural elements. Add the orris root powder as a fixture to prevent the essential oils from evaporating so the mixture maintains its aroma longer.

Store in an airtight container for a few days before using. Once open, the scent lasts for about two to three weeks. Restore the scent by adding more essential oils.

Notes

For the dried flowers, herbs, and other natural elements, gather pinecones, cypress, pine cuttings, sage leaves, and flowers.

Some essential oil combinations are: sage, rosemary, and orange; fir and spruce; cinnamon bark, pine, and orange; clary sage, juniper, and fir; and bergamot and Douglas fir.

Melinda

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The Mask of Illusion…….By Guest Blogger Live By Choice Not By Chance

February 3, 2025 Looking for the Light3 Comments

The world is a stage, the play goes on,Daylight fades, then comes the dawn.We laugh, we cry, we love, we fear,But is it real or just unclear? A shadow moves, but is it there?A whisper floats upon the air.The things we chase, the dreams we weave, Are sometimes tricks that make us believe. A mirror shows … Contin

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Fun Facts, Did You Know?

February 2, 2025 Looking for the Light8 Comments

Fact: The man with the world’s deepest voice can make sounds humans can’t hear

The man, Tim Storms, can’t even hear the note, which is eight octaves below the lowest G on a piano—but elephants can. Check out these 16 little-known interesting facts about the greatest songs of all time.

Fact: The current American flag was designed by a high school student

It started as a school project for Bob Heft’s junior-year history class, and it only earned a B- in 1958. His design had 50 stars even though Alaska and Hawaii weren’t states yet. Heft figured the two would earn statehood soon and showed the government his design. After President Dwight D. Eisenhower called to say his design was approved, Heft’s teacher changed his grade to an A.

Fact: Cows don’t have upper front teeth

They do have molars in the top back of their mouths though. Where you’d expect upper incisors, cows, sheep, and goats have a thick layer of tissue called a “dental pad.” They use that with their bottom teeth to pull out grass. Check out these 13 fun facts about the human body you’ve always wondered about.

Fact: Thanks to 3D printing, NASA can basically “email” tools to astronauts

Getting new equipment to the Space Station used to take months or years, but the new technology means the tools are ready within hours.

Fact: Only a quarter of the Sahara Desert is sandy

Most of it is covered in gravel, though it also contains mountains and oases. Oh, and it isn’t the world’s largest desert—Antarctica is. Don’t miss these other 30 geography facts everyone gets wrong.

Fact: Bananas grow upside-down

Or technically, we peel them upside-down. These random facts will have you eating fruit differently. Naturally, they grow outward from their stems, but that means their bottoms actually face the sky. As they get bigger, the fruits turn toward the sun, forming that distinctive curve. Check out these 21 food myths that are totally untrue.

Fact: There were active volcanoes on the moon when dinosaurs were alive

Most of the volcanoes probably stopped one billion years ago, but new NASA findings suggest there might still have been active lava flow 100 million years ago, when dinosaurs were still roaming.

Fact: Dogs sniff good smells with their left nostril

Dogs normally start sniffing with their right nostril, then keep it there if the smell could signal danger, but they’ll shift to the left side for something pleasant, like food or a mating partner. Learn the real reason dogs follow you everywhere.

Fact: Avocados were named after reproductive organs

Indigenous people of Mexico and Central America used the Nahuatl word āhuacatl to mean both “testicles” and “avocado.” The fruits were originally marketed as “alligator pears” in the United States until the current name stuck. For more random facts, learn what the original word for avocado means about guacamole’s name.

Fact: T. S. Eliot wore green makeup

No one is sure why the poet dusted his face with green powder, though some guess he was just trying to look more interesting. Here are more fascinating facts about famous authors.

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Question Of The Day

February 2, 2025 Looking for the LightLeave a comment

How did you learn to drive?

My Gramps took me to the river bottoms to teach me driving skills. I failed miserably at parallel parking. He took two metal trash cans with us, and with each attempt, I knocked the cans over.

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Sending A Special Thank You To Bahamas, Uzbekistan, Lebanon, And Austria

February 2, 2025 Looking for the LightLeave a comment

It’s such a great privilege you have stopped by my blog, and I always look forward to your return. I accomplish my lifelong goal of seeing the world through your eyes. It’s a big beautiful world out there.

Thank you for allowing me into your life, if only briefly. I appreciate you stopping by and hope to see you again.

Take good care.

Melinda

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February Awareness Days & Months

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I’ve included a link below if you would like to see the complete list.

American Heart Month

Black History Month

National Cancer Prevention Month

Teen Dating Violence Awareness and Prevention Month

World Cancer Day 4th

Safer Internet Day 8th

National Donor Day 14th

International Childhood Cancer Day 15th

Random Act of Kindness Day 17th

Day of Remembrance 19th

World Day of Social Justice 20th

National Eating Disorders Awareness Week-Last week of February or the first week of March

You can find the complete list HERE.

Melinda

Reference:

https://www.goodgoodgood.co/articles/february-awareness-days-months

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Looking After Your Pet’s Mental Health

February 1, 2025 Looking for the Light4 Comments

Pets keep loneliness at bay for millions of people and can help with our overwhelming thoughts and while we are more than aware of how a pet can help us with our well-being, we must remember to return the favour. Supporting your pet’s mental health is essential. The pandemic has made us a lot more anxious, but what about our pets? Our pets’ behaviour might change intense situations. But what can we do to make sure that, if we notice our pets having any signs of poor well-being, that we support them?

Stimulating Their Senses

Providing mental stimulation is crucial. If you are currently stuck at home, you can hide treats and toys around the space to provide that all-important exercise and mental stimulation. But when life returns to normality, give them the benefits of a variety of scenery. Taking them to explore new scenery is as important to your pet’s mental health as it is to you.

Exercising With Different Techniques

Ensuring that they remain agile is essential. Building up their agility will teach them something new and stimulate them. If your pet needs to stay indoors, you must remember that their exercise should not suffer. You can also incorporate new toys on a heavy rotation. A variety of interactive toys can keep your pet interested and stimulated. There is a lot to consider. And when you start to stimulate their senses, you give them that all-important distraction.

Access to Light

Fresh air is important, as well as light and exposure to a variety of senses. Giving them exposure to different smells and sounds provides simulation. You have to remember at this point if your pet’s behaviour changes or they get frustrated, you may need to change your approach. If you are not taking your dog out much at the moment, you need to remember that the variety of noises and smells may frustrate them at not being able to go outside.

Observing and Acting

A physically and mentally stimulated pet will be happier and healthier. Observing changes in their behaviour gives you the opportunity to spot if their mental well-being is being impacted. You should always contact a vet if you are concerned, but the solution might be closer to home. You could give them more treats if you feel you’ve been cutting back recently. There are also other ways to stimulate them, such as the soothing sounds on My Dog’s Favourite Podcast available on Spotify. It is an audio treat for your dog that could help to calm their anxieties.

Stimulation is crucial, but we have to remember when we are trying to look after our pets and mental health that we are more observant. They could be taking their cue from us, in which case, it’s essential to focus on creating a healthier environment for everyone. We can look after our pet’s mental health. In many ways, it is simple.

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Friday Quote

January 31, 2025 Looking for the Light4 Comments

Thank you for joining me for this week’s Friday Quote.

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How Budgeting Helps Your Mental Health

January 29, 2025 Looking for the LightLeave a comment

Personal budgeting is a powerful tool, but few know its value. You see, most people get upset when they hear that they have to make a budget for their expenses. It is associated with discomfort and headache. Just as it is linked to diet to hunger and limited food, this is because most people only resort to budgeting when things get tough and there are difficulties, just like with someone who, because he has gained a lot of weight, decides to lose weight. But this is not precisely the case. A personal budget is a necessary tool that we must learn to use in our lives. Its mission is not to make you limit your expenses but to help you set aside more money or spend it more efficiently.

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Limit high costs

Most people who do not have a budget spend more than they need each month, this exaggeration has significant implications as it limits their future economic power. The result is that they have less money left, but also create more fixed costs if the purchases are made with installments and credit cards. But when you plan how much you will spend each month and know in advance where they will go, it is easier to restrain yourself and realize when you are overdoing it. For this reason, make your own personal budget so that you know where you are. If you have types of subscriptions, then look at reassessing them. If you have car costs, then look at honest car service to ensure that you are always keeping the necessities at a lower price.

Helps you achieve your goals

A personal budget is essentially a plan that helps you prioritize where you spend your money. This means that when you create an account, you are essentially shifting your focus to the things that matter most to you. This can be repaying a loan, raising enough money to get a home, or starting your own business. The budget essentially creates the plan that you will follow and allows you to monitor your progress.

Helps you save

People who do not use budgets will not have as much money in savings. Also, planning how you will spend your money each month helps you to avoid infringing on your existing savings. By doing things this way, you can gradually increase the money you have set aside. And the more that you save, the more you will start to feel more comfortable with your finances and of course your future. This will assist you with your home too.

Helps you be flexible

Budget work is to help you be flexible. By recording the income and expenses in detail, you can see how you can transfer money from one expense category to another. It also helps you identify issues that may arise and make the necessary adjustments.

Helps you stay in control

If you feel that you do not have control over your finances and you are always wondering where your money and salary have disappeared, your budget will help you to recover it. By setting your financial priorities and seeing on paper how you spend your money during the month, you better understand habits and patterns that hurt you. This way, it is easier to know where to stop. Having a definite plan for the month, you know what to do and what not to do, and it is easier to think about the future. Make your plans and prepare. The budget is probably the most essential tool you need to change your financial future and gives you the power to make changes right away.

It’s simple

Personal budgeting is not difficult to set up. We are not talking about a budget drawn up by a multinational or a state, where the responsibilities are significant, and the variables are many. We are talking about the account that will help you maintain order in your finances.

So if you start using it regularly, you will see that it is something simple. You can make it even easier and instead of using pen and paper, take advantage of technological advances using a corresponding application. As with anything new, you may be skeptical or feel that you do not have to bother analyzing your finances. But try it for a few months. As you apply it, you will see that you will become more familiar and it will be easier for you to manage your money properly.

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6 Ways To Boost & Improve Your Mental Health

January 28, 2025 Looking for the Light24 Comments

Your health and wellness are important factors when it comes to how you feel each day and what you’re able to achieve in life. You must have a lot of natural energy and be in a positive frame of mind if you want to be well and excel.

While not every day will be great, it’s in your best interest to find more stability in your life and mental state. Doing so isn’t always easy but it is possible. Your mental health matters and the only way to make sure you can boost and improve it is to work on it and take actions that help you to achieve this goal.

Remain Active

Keep active if you want to boost and improve your mental health. Exercising and living a healthy lifestyle is good not only for your physical body but also for your mind. Happy chemicals are released when you workout and you’ll notice that you’re in a better mood after you break a sweat. Find activities you enjoy doing and that help you work and challenge different muscle groups. You’ll not only be a happier person for making this change but you’ll also be in better shape and feel more confident in your body.

Learn & Challenge Your Mind

Another way to boost and improve your mental health is to learn new information regularly. Challenge your mind by studying and reading articles and blogs from some of the top leaders out there like Dee Agarwal. Learning not only makes you smarter but it makes you feel good and gives you a sense of accomplishment. Open up your mind to taking in new information and remain curious so that you can expand your knowledge and education and stay mentally well.

Talk About Your Feelings

It’s also in your best interest to get in the habit of talking about your feelings if you want to boost and improve your mental health. Be vulnerable and open with those you trust and let them into your troubles and what’s on your mind. They can be there to listen or also offer advice and input if that’s what you want. It’ll feel good to get what’s bothering you off your mind and out into the open. You won’t have to carry around so many burdens and will likely notice that others feel the same way you do and can relate or have had similar experiences as well. You can’t be afraid to ask for help and should do so when you need it so that you feel less alone.

Follow Your Passions

Do more of what you love if you want to boost and improve your mental health. Start living for yourself instead of others and do what puts a smile on your face. Make more time for hobbies and activities that you enjoy and say no to others when they request your time and attention and you can’t give it. Find a job you love and that puts your skills to use and challenges you daily. You’ll feel much more fulfilled and be in a better place when you’re spending your days doing what pleases you.

Eat Well

Your diet and what you eat also play a role in how you feel and your mental health. Some foods can ignite or reduce anxiety, for example. Commit to eating a nutritious diet full of leafy greens, vegetables, lean proteins, and healthy fats. It may help to get in the habit of cooking for yourself at home so you have more control over the ingredients and portion sizes. Also, pay attention to what you’re drinking and stick to having more water and tea and less caffeine, alcohol, and sugar if you want to maintain good mental health.

Meditate & Reflect

One of the best ways to slow racing thoughts and boost and improve your mental health is to take the time to meditate and reflect often. Find a quiet place in your home or head out into nature and listen to a guided meditation that will help you feel relaxed, centered, and at ease.

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5 Simple Steps For Dealing With Mental Health Challenges

January 28, 2025 Looking for the Light3 Comments

Mental health issues affect one in four people. This could range from stress, anxiety, and depression, to severe mental health issues such as Bipolar Disorder, Schizophrenia, or Borderline Personality Disorder. The good news is there are steps you can take to help deal with these challenges.

Often, it can be hard to understand the cause of these mental health problems. They may be triggered by something that has gone on in your life such as the loss of a loved one, or a big change such as moving to a new city, or a career change. Whatever the cause, you must practice self-care.

But what can you do to treat your mental health problems?

Here are some steps you should take if you are experiencing any mental health difficulties in your life.

Speak To Your Doctor

If you are struggling with stress, anxiety, or depression in your life, then you should speak with your doctor at the earliest possible opportunity. Your doctor should talk you through what is happening in your life in order to understand whether you should be treated with self-care,

antidepressant medication, or whether you would be a suitable candidate for talking therapy such as cognitive behavior therapy.

Speak To A Counselor

If you can speak with a counselor, do so. You may be able to get referred to one by your doctor. If not, there are plenty of specialist counselors that will be able to take you on.

Different counselors and therapists will have their own approaches to dealing with mental health issues such as depression and anxiety. Make sure that you are happy with the counselor’s approach before you commit to a course of sessions with them.

Use CBD And Other Alternative Treatments

One of the areas that there is growing research into is the use of alternative treatments such as CBD. CBD comes from the same plant as cannabis except it doesn’t have any of the psychoactive ingredients cannabis does. It just relaxes you and relieves symptoms of stress and anxiety.

Another alternative treatment option may be psychedelics. You can read more about this at psychedelicspotlight.com.

Eat Well

There is a lot that can be said about the way that you eat. By making sure that you are eating a balanced diet, you will be able to help to give yourself the energy that you need to keep going.

To fight off stress and depression with your diet you should look at getting your starch fixed with whole grains and beans. You should be sure to eat plenty of fresh fruit and vegetables. Instead of eating red meats, you should eat fatty fish like salmon or tuna. Finally, add in healthy fats, such as raw nuts and olive oil.

Exercise

Exercising is a great way of clearing your head. It gives you endorphins, a feel-good hormone that will balance out the stress hormones your body will naturally produce.

Start small. Even going for a short walk will be very helpful.

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