For those who are having a challenging day, close your eyes and change the scenery, even for a minute.
Life is like a swing, back and forth, not every day is a good day.
If you are having a great day, pass a kind thought on to others.
No matter how tiny the light will shine again. We have to live our best life and we can give back just by doing something kind to someone who needs it.
Melinda
Sleep is something that evades a lot of people. If you’re having trouble getting to sleep at night, the problem could be a number of things. You’ve got to try and work out the best way to get to sleep so that you can get those all important hours. It may feel as though you have tried everything, but we’re sure that there’s at least a couple of things that you haven’t thought of yet. In this article, we’re going to be taking a look at some of the things that you should try if you are having trouble sleeping at night. If you want to find out more about this topic, keep reading below.
Now, obviously, we’re not suggesting that you get behind the wheel and start driving if you want to go to sleep. Instead, you should ask someone else if they mind taking the wheel for a little while as you see if this works. It’s a great trick when you’ve got a baby who doesn’t want to sleep because the motion helps soothe them to sleep, so it might work for you too. In fact, a lot of people find it easier to sleep in the car than they do when they are staying still. As such, it’s well worth a try if you’re struggling at night time.
If this is something that you are interested in, you should look into investing in a high-quality sound system for the car so that you can play your music while you’re going around. You can find some reviews of options at a site like zenaracing.com. Looking at sites like this will help you determine which system could be the best for you, so it’s well worth checking out.
Another thing that we think you should try is keeping all the electronics that you own out of the room. This will ensure that you aren’t being impacted by any of the blue light that they emit because this can cause issues with sleeping. As such, when it’s time for bed, you should leave your phone, laptop, and all other devices outside the room, and preferably downstairs completely away from you.
Not only is this helpful for the blue light problem, but it also ensures that you can’t be tempted to turn over and play with it. We know the temptation and we know it well. You want to check your messages and see if anyone has spoken to you. You want to scroll through social media just to kill the time a little bit. But, doing things like this will keep you awake for longer, so it’s never a good idea even if you’re bored.
Have you ever thought about not going into your bedroom unless it’s time to sleep? Or at least, going in there minimal amounts of times and only when you need something from there? You should never get into bed if you’re not going to be going to sleep as this sends the message to your brain that it’s just another place for your day-to-day activities.
If you can manage to get yourself into a routine where you only go to bed when it’s time for your nighttime sleep, you are going to find it much easier to get some rest through the night. This is because your brain gets the message that when you get into bed, you’re going to sleep for the night, so it knows that it’s time to switch off everything else and allow you the rest you need.
Something else that could help is coming up with a night routine. For example, if you brush your teeth, do anything that you usually do like if you have a skincare routine, change into your pajamas, let all the stresses of the day go, and then go to sleep every night, eventually, it will just become a habit to go to sleep after these things. As such, each night, as long as you complete the routine, you should find that getting to sleep isn’t so much of a problem. Of course, this isn’t foolproof and sometimes it won’t work, but it will for the large majority of nights.
We hope that you have found this article helpful, and now see some of the things that you should try if you’re having issues sleeping. Sleep is difficult for a lot of people, but it’s essential that you get it where you can and as much as you can, otherwise you could be in some serious trouble health-wise. Hopefully, something on this list will help you go to sleep.
This is a collaborative post.
Melinda
When I started blogging in 2005, it never occurred to me that blogging would take me so far. It was in 2014 that Looking for the Light was born. Every week I’m inspired by how you have moved forward in your life when coming out of trauma. I love the photographers I follow and these are a small example of what get’s me out of bed each day.
I love getting comments, just what’s on your mind after reading a post. Even when very sick in the past, I showed up when I could. I love learning, sharing, and having fun.
I want to thank my great followers, you make my day, every day.
Let’s see what the rest of 2023 brings! If you have a topic you like to read more about, please reach me thru my Contact page or leave a comment section in a post.
If congrats are due, then it’s congrats for all of us for Looking for the Light could not be here without you!
Melinda
Thank you for all the great feedback on the Blogger Highlight series, I’ve enjoyed meeting each blogger and sharing their site with you. This week we highlight a new blogger, DOREENSHEALTHANDWELLNESS63
The purpose of this blog is to share my personal medical stories about my Auto-immune(chronic illnesses) diseases and receive information from others in hopes that we can help each other.
Stop by and check out her site.
Melinda
Please join our celebration of Ellie Thompson from Essentially Ellie, who has joined as a Contributor. I’ve been talking with Ellie for a few months and was overjoyed when she accepted to join the group. Photo by Henry & Co. on Pexels.com Who is Survivors Blog Here? We support men and women Survivors from […]
Please Welcome Our Newest Contributor, Ellie Thompson from Essentially Ellie — Survivors Blog Here Mental Health Collaborative
Melinda
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If you’re in the market for a new home, you may be considering a move to a new neighborhood. This can be a great way to get into a new community and find the perfect home for your needs. But it’s important to do your research before making any decisions. This smart buyer’s guide will help you understand what to look for when choosing a neighborhood to call home.
Location is one of the most important factors when it comes to buying a home in a new neighborhood. It is essential to consider the nearby amenities and services, such as schools, hospitals, public transport links, and shopping centers. Additionally, take into account the crime rate in the area and any other safety concerns you may have. You should also research how far away your new home will be from friends and family or if there are plenty of activities for you and your family close by.
Additionally, it is worth considering how quickly the properties in the area appreciate in value over time; this can help give you an idea of whether it is a good investment or not. Ultimately, location plays an integral role in determining whether your new neighborhood will be a good fit for you and your family.
The cost of buying a home in a new neighborhood can vary widely depending on the location and the amenities available. Therefore, it is important to do your research and compare prices between different areas before making any decisions. You should also take into account any additional costs such as property taxes, homeowner association fees, utility bills, and so on.
Additionally, consider whether you’re able to make a larger down payment or if there are special programs that offer assistance with financing for first-time buyers – these can help reduce the overall cost of purchasing a home. Attending an event like Concierge Auctions can let you experience another side to purchasing a property that has its own reward if you bid well.
Ultimately, it’s important to look at the quality of life you and your family will have in your new neighborhood. This includes considering factors such as educational opportunities, job prospects, and recreational activities in the area. In addition, it would be best if you also looked at the diversity of the local population, as well as any community events and clubs you could participate in.
Also, remember to research what types of homes, properties, or real estate are available in your preferred location. Of course, your preferences should guide this search. For example, are you looking for a villa, a townhouse, a bungalow, or an apartment? You can work with real estate companies to identify your best property. Some real estate companies offer a wide variety of property options to pick from. For example, companies such as Peebles Corporation, the largest black owned real estate company, have a wide portfolio, including residential properties that might suit you.
Finally, if you have specific needs or requirements for your new home, make sure to take them into consideration when choosing a neighborhood. This could include things like finding a place that is pet-friendly or close to public parks.
Once you’ve researched all your options and made a decision, it’s time to make the move with a professional company like North American Van Lines. This can be an exciting yet overwhelming experience, but with the right preparation, you’ll soon settle into your new neighborhood. Make sure to keep an open mind and get involved with local community events and clubs – this is a great way to meet people and start making friends in your new home!
In conclusion, buying a home in a new neighborhood requires careful research and consideration. By following this smart buyer’s guide, you’ll be well-prepared to make an informed decision and find the perfect place for you and your family to call home.
This is a collaborative post.
Melinda
Planning for retirement can be hard, but if you take the right steps, you can secure your future and make sure you have enough money in your golden years. Investing in luxury oceanfront estate is a strategy that is becoming more and more popular. In this blog, we’ll talk about the advantages of using a retirement plan to buy oceanfront property.
Real estate has long been considered a safe and lucrative investment option. Real estate has a stable and consistent return on investment, unlike stocks and bonds, which can be hard to predict and are affected by market changes. Also, it’s a real asset that can gain value over time, giving you a steady source of passive income.
Tax breaks can also come from investing in real estate. For example, mortgage interest and property taxes are tax-deductible, which can lower your tax bill and increase your overall return on investment.
Investing in oceanfront real estate offers a host of benefits that make it an attractive option for retirement planning. First, it is a physical asset whose value can go up over time. Also, oceanfront properties tend to go up in value faster than properties farther inland. This means that your investment is likely to grow in value more quickly.
Oceanfront real estate can also be a way to make money without doing anything. Oceanfront properties are in high demand, particularly during peak vacation seasons. So, you can make a lot of money renting out your property to vacationers or people who want to live there for a long time.
Lastly, investing in oceanfront property can give retirees a great chance to live a high-quality life. Many oceanfront homes have beautiful views, easy access to fun things to do like boating and fishing, and a quiet, peaceful atmosphere that is perfect for relaxing.
When planning for retirement with oceanfront real estate, it is essential to take a comprehensive approach. Here are some important things to think about:
Figure out your budget. Before you put money into real estate, you need to know where you stand financially. Consider your income, expenses, and savings to determine how much you can afford to invest in a property.
Research the market: The real estate market can be unpredictable, so it is essential to conduct thorough research before making any investment decisions. Look at how the prices, vacancy rates, and rental income of oceanfront properties change over time to find investment opportunities.
Choose the right property: When investing in real estate, it’s important to choose the right property that fits your needs and financial goals. When choosing a property, think about things like its location, size, and potential rental income.
Make a plan: Once you’ve chosen a property, make a detailed plan for how to run and take care of it. When making your plan, think about things like property management, taxes, insurance, and maintenance costs.
Investing in oceanfront property can be a great way to plan for retirement, as it has many benefits. But when making investment decisions, it’s important to look at the big picture and think about things like budget, market trends, property selection, and management. With the right plan, investing in oceanfront real estate can be a stable and reliable source of passive income and a great way to enjoy a high quality of life in retirement.
This is a collaborative post.
Melinda
Melinda
St. Patricks Day is tomorrow and I thought a little background on the holiday would help. St. Patrick’s Day is celebrated annually on March 17, the anniversary of his death in the fifth century.
The Irish have observed this day as a religious holiday for over 1,000 years. On St. Patrick’s Day, which falls during the Christian season of Lent, Irish families would traditionally attend church in the morning and celebrate in the afternoon.
As Irish immigrants spread out over the United States, other cities developed their own traditions. One of these is Chicago’s annual dyeing of the Chicago River green. The practice started in 1962, when city pollution-control workers used dyes to trace illegal sewage discharges and realized that the green dye might provide a unique way to celebrate the holiday. That year, they released 100 pounds of green vegetable dye into the river–enough to keep it green for a week. Today, in order to minimize environmental damage, only 40 pounds of dye are used, and the river turns green for only several hours.
This is probably where green beer started for those who partake. I know over the years, when I drank and went to parties, no one thought about it being a religious holiday. Now we know.
I wish you a happy St. Patrick’s day and all the festivities.
Melinda
Maddie Dunne-Kirby from Welbeck Publishing Group gifted me an advanced copy of How To Help Someone With An Eating Disorder by Dr. Pam Macdonald for a review.
Dr Pam Macdonald is a research psychologist, carer coach, and trainer. She is actively involved in supporting carers of people with eating disorders using the New Maudsley Approach, which incorporates the principles of Motivational Interviewing (MI). She also has personal experience of the regular emotional challenges that can impinge upon the functioning of the entire family, as well as friends and significant others, at different points along the recovery path.
When reflecting back on her time caring for a loved one with an eating disorder, she remembers it as a wholly frightening and stressful time. Even after several years, it still evokes strong memories of a long, dismal tunnel littered with countless pitfalls. A major uncertainty was her own role in the process. She desperately craved information on how to react to the situation as well as knowledge and guidance on how to react to the imposter that had invaded family life. She needed to know that she was handling the situation in a way that was conducive to a healthy outcome. In her search for these answers, she stumbled across Professor Janet Treasure’s work at the Institute of Psychiatry, King’s College, London. Back in 2006, Professor Treasure and her team were working on a skills-based learning intervention for carers of people with eating disorders. Pam joined the project as a PhD student and started work researching the effectiveness of a guided self-help package that offered training and skills to carers.
In 2011, she was awarded her PhD and since then she has worked on a part-time basis with the team on subsequent iterations and development of skills training interventions. She co-edited The Clinician’s Guide to Collaborative Caring in Eating Disorders (2010)1 with Professors Janet Treasure and Ulrike Schmidt and has contributed to numerous peer- reviewed papers in the academic literature. She is a passionate advocate of evidence-based research that equips carers with the appropriate information and tools that will help them best support someone through their eating disorder. She is currently based in Edinburgh, Scotland.
It is heartbreaking to learn that your loved one has experienced a miscarriage or molar or ectopic pregnancy. Be it a friend, child or your own partner, it can be hard to know what to say, or how best you can help.
Should you mention the baby or avoid all topics that relate to children? How can you be there for your partner as they grieve, while dealing with your own emotions? What if you’re pregnant and it’s your best friend that has experienced a loss? What if you say the wrong thing?
This accessible guide provides evidence-based advice on supporting someone after a miscarriage, ectopic or molar pregnancy. Clare Foster draws upon her personal experience and that of other women and partners, as well as extensive research, to provide you with the knowledge and practical advice you need to help your loved one. The National Director of the Miscarriage Association, Ruth Bender-Atik, has written a foreword.
Published 2021
256 pages
Eating Disorders are complex and can be very difficult to talk about with a friend or loved one. How do you start a conversation and where do you go to better understand what the underlying triggers are with the disorder?
Dr. Mac Donald has an extensive background in helping people with eating disorders, including a personal experience with a friend as a carer. She shares her knowledge in a gentle yet informative manner that allows you to broach the subject and help your friend or loved one.
What is an eating disorder
The impact on others
Communication
Recovery
Problematic Behavior
She also includes helpful resources you can turn to in the book.
I had an eating disorder as a teen and there were no resources, no knowledge, or places to turn to talk about what I was going thru. This book would have been helpful for those around me to better understand the pain and shame I was going thru.
Dr. Macdonald’s book is a great resource for anyone who has a friend or loved one who has an eating disorder and I highly recommend the book.
Welbeck Publishing Group is an exciting, fast-growing independent publisher based in London, dedicated to publishing only the very best and most commercial books spanning a number of genres and categories, from leading authors and well-known brands to debut talent. We live for books that entertain, excite and enhance the lives of readers around the world.
From building our boutique fiction and narrative non-fiction lists to shaping our world-renowned illustrated reference, gift and children’s titles, our aim is to be a market-leader in every category in which we publish. Our books and products come to life for adults, children, and families in 30 languages in more than 60 countries around the world, selling through a variety of traditional and non-traditional channels. We are constantly looking for new ways to deliver our exceptional content and new ideas to inspire readers and listeners everywhere.
Melinda
Hello everyone🖖 Melatonin, commonly known as the sleep hormone is responsible for our cicardian rythm. But, it has some fascinating facts to be known. 1. The pineal gland, located at the base of the brain, is known to produce 5% of the total quantity of melatonin. Surprisingly, in all of the cells throughout the entire […]
10 interesting facts about Melatonin 😴 — The 3H:health,happiness,healing
As we have just celebrated Women’s Day, it is important to acknowledge that women’s stereotypes still exist and need to be challenged for us to promote growth. This blog post will discuss 5 of the most persistent women’s stereotypes and how they limit and reduce women’s potential.
We will also explain why it is important to break these clichés in order for us to continue to progress and promote gender equality.
This is one of the most common stereotypes about women, and it’s simply not true. Women are just as capable as men with cars, whether in terms of knowledge or skill. Many women have played a decisive role in bringing the automotive industry forward, such as Florence Lawrence, who created the brake lights, for instance.
Women are taking on DIY car repair projects and are becoming experts in their own right as much as men. Women are often seen as passive passengers, but the reality is that they can be just as involved and knowledgeable when it comes to cars.
The first step in breaking this stereotype is for women to become more directly involved and knowledgeable about cars. This can start with simply becoming more familiar with the specificities of their vehicles via the owner’s manual. You can also buy a manual online if there is none with your car, such as here for the Ford Transit Connect owner’s manual. Learning about basic car maintenance, researching car parts, and troubleshooting easy faults are steps supported by the manual that can dismantle this cliché.
The stereotype that women are weak has been perpetuated by society for centuries. This notion has been reinforced by the fact that biologically speaking, women have less muscle mass than men. However, this does not mean that women cannot be strong. In fact, with proper strength training, they can become incredibly strong. Take a look at some of the strongest women in history, starting with Abbye Pudgy Stockton, who balanced her husband above her head.
The stereotype that women are not good at math has been around for centuries. Its origin dates back to the 1600s when it was believed that women did not possess the intellectual capacity to comprehend complex mathematical concepts. This idea was perpetuated through cultural beliefs and stereotypes that favored men in intellectual pursuits.
Ultimately, the stereotype that women are not good at math or science, in general, is both outdated and incorrect. Girls and women can be just as talented in mathematics as their male counterparts, but they may need more resources and encouragement to reach their full potential.
Studies have found no difference in intelligence or math ability between men and women. The same studies have also found that girls typically perform better than boys in elementary and secondary school mathematics courses. The real issue is that girls and women are often held back from pursuing careers in the sciences due to a variety of gender-based barriers. These include a lack of access to high-quality education, a lack of support from family and peers, and even a lack of female role models in the sciences.
It’s time to break the stereotype that women aren’t good leaders. While it may be true that there are fewer women in leadership roles than men, this does not mean that women cannot lead effectively and successfully. History counts many successful female leaders, and countless modern businesses have also chosen female CEOs as their heads.
In fact, research suggests that women tend to have different qualities that make them better leaders. For example, studies show that women have greater emotional intelligence, which can be an advantage when leading a team. They are also more likely to focus on collaboration and communication, which helps to create an open and productive work environment. Additionally, research indicates that female leaders are more likely to be seen as nurturing and supportive of their employees, leading to higher morale and greater productivity.
This is an important stereotype to break. More and more women choose against having children for a variety of reasons. They are often at the receiving end of harsh criticism. Social expectations have not evolved during the past centuries and continue to perceive women’s role as being a mother. Motherhood doesn’t define an individual’s purpose in life. Women can be anything they want to be, whether this includes being a mother or not. Not having children doesn’t make you any less of a woman.
Sisters, mothers, and besties, it’s time to unite our voices and break these stereotypes, one after the other.
This is a collaborative post.
Melinda
Thank you for all the great feedback on the Blogger Highlight series, I’ve enjoyed meeting each blogger and sharing their site with you. This week we highlight a new blogger, Explorations in Psychotherapy.
Allan is a new blogger and doesn’t have an About Me page yet. I love reading his post and talking to him.
Please stop by and say hello.
Melinda
I want to give a special thanks to Andrea Marchiano, Editor from Trigger Publishing for sending Befriending Your Brian to read and review.
March 2, 2023
Like many of us, James Lindsay is no stranger to stress and anxiety. But in his case, leaving those struggles untreated led to a full psychotic episode that hospitalised him for the better part of a month. With the help of medication and therapy, he has now overcome this dark period and is currently living a much happier life.
But his story doesn’t end there. Now, he wants to help others avoid the same fate by sharing his experience, including the red flags he recognises in hindsight and the path he charted to recovery. No matter where you are on your own journey, James’ story will resonate and remind you, as he puts it, that “recovery is always possible, and hope is never far away.”
James was plagued with anxiety from a young age but had little knowledge of Mental Illness, let alone Psychosis. He was bullied throughout his school years, and as James got older, his anxiety grew. There were many days he didn’t want to attend class because they called him names, and it was troubling for him. He couldn’t just shake it off.
Shortly before the breakup with his girlfriend of two years, James started to unravel. He starts talking to friends but is not making sense and they became worried. His behavior became more erratic, began hearing voices telling him what to do and Psychosis started. Which lead to more erratic behavior and he was taken to the hospital where he was diagnosed as having Acute Psychosis. James stayed in the Psychiatric Hospital for four weeks.
To this point, you can see how his anxiety grew, and having treatment earlier would have helped.
After several medication changes, James is on his way forward. He found a part-time job, and ran a 10K run which was something he did in the past. Doing more helped his confidence grow and help him look forward to life. James not only jumped back into the hobbies he loved but went way out of his comfort zone with other activities. He made friends and started to have a full life helped by CBT.
I love that James includes a list of Apps that provide Mental Health support, a list of what not to say to someone experiencing Mental Illness, a list of Mental Health podcast,s and books to read about Mental Illness. I can certainly relate to the list as I was diagnosed with Bipolar, Anxiety, and PTSD at age 19.
I’ve shared more about the book than usual because it’s important to see that seeking help is the answer to moving forward.
I’m so happy to say James found love again and is married and loving life. Jame’s book is really for anyone with Anxiety, depression, psychosis, and schizophrenia. It’s packed with great examples of the struggles he’s been thru and sticking with treatment, being honest with doctor and taking your medication is the way forward.
Befriending My Brain is a must-buy.
Looking back now, it is clear that my breakdown built up over a long time as my anxiety increased, but psychosis still gut-punched me hard to finish me off.
We have built a first-class resource of curated books produced and published in-house to create a unique collection of mental health recovery titles unrivaled in quality and selection. We work with experts, psychologists, doctors, and coaches to produce our books, but we also work with real people looking to share their stories to reach out to others and provide hope, understanding, and compassion. These brave authors also aim to raise awareness of mental health’s “human” face and its impact on everyday lives.
Melinda
In this fast-paced social media world, it can be difficult to find the time to look within or back in time. I hope you find these quotes and questions interesting. So glad you stopped by today!
Continue reading “Deep Thoughts”Hey! So glad you stopped by today, I look forward to your comments.
Melinda
Did you know the age recommended for Colonoscopy has changed from 65 to 45? This change came after seeing younger people getting Colon Cancer more often. According to Cancer.gov, Since the 1990s, the rate of colorectal cancer (which includes cancers of the colon and rectum) has been rising steadily among adults younger than 50. Not only that, but more younger people are dying from the disease.
Some groups have been hit by the rising trend more than others. For instance, although people of all races can develop colorectal cancer at a young age, the spike has mostly been seen among Alaska Native, American Indian, and White peopleExit Disclaimer. However, Black people are still more likely to get colorectal cancer at a young age than White people, even though the gap is shrinking, said Nathan Ellis, Ph.D., of the University of Arizona Cancer Center.
Likewise, several studies have found that being overweight or obese may raise someone’s chance of getting early-onset colorectal cancer. Using data from electronic health records, Nathan Berger, M.D., of Case Comprehensive Cancer Center, found that half of younger adults with colorectal cancer were overweight and 17% were obese.
Unhealthy diets have become more common in past decades, the researchers pointed out. And the number of children and adults who are overweight or obese continues to climb. Unhealthy diets and gut bacteria are connected in another way, too. Both can lead to inflammation—the body’s reaction to injury, disease, or irritation. In one study of mice, a high-fat diet triggered gut inflammation and accelerated the growth of tumors in the intestines.
In addition, certain chronic diseases, including irritable bowel syndrome, Crohn’s disease, and diabetes, can cause inflammation in the gut. Half of younger adults with colorectal cancer also have a chronic condition that can cause inflammation in the gut.
Both young people and doctors need to shed the notion that colorectal cancer is an “old person’s disease,” several meeting participants stressed. People should get used to looking at their stool and noticing changes, they noted.
Due to poor health and frankly laziness, I didn’t get a colonoscopy for 12 years. I was very nervous last year when I had one but not one polyp was found, so I can go ten years before my next one. He did not do an Upper GI at the time. So Monday I had an Upper GI and I’m waiting for the results. I know there might be some bad news in there because of my pain. Probably an ulcer. We’ll see.
Don’t follow my example, get your Colosocopy every year. If your results are good you may not have to have another one for 10 years.
Melinda
Self-Blame, Self-Criticism, and Shame “Self-blame is a cognitive process in which an individual attributes the occurrence of a stressful event to oneself. The direction of blame often has implications for individuals’ emotions and behaviors during and following stressful situations.” “Self-blame is common among adult sexual trauma survivors and it is very common among children who […]
Self-Blame, Self-Criticism, and Shame — DocTalk, Explorations in Psychotherapy
Hello, all of you beautiful women! Today is the day we all celebrate women, each celebration will look different but a simple hug or compliment is always welcome.
Have a great day, all women need a special day of appreciation.
Melinda
Thank you for all the great feedback on the Blogger Highlight series, I’ve enjoyed meeting each blogger and sharing their site with you. This week we highlight a new blogger, The Fabulous Lyf.
Through the Windows of my blog, I will see the reflection of memories we have created in the name of Lyf, time after time.
While embracing the uncertainties & cherishing the Love, I have gratitude for everything in life.
On these pages, I share my love for Traveling with the world along with everything I experience and the adventures I will be on.
Stop by and see all of her photos.
Melinda
It’s that time again, new monthly Awareness Days.
I will write about some of the days throughout the month.
Melinda
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If you want to stay healthy in later life, or you want to support an older friend or family member, you need to put the right foundations in place. If you know someone who is isolated and older, you might want to visit them sometimes, take them for a walk, or encourage healthy eating.
The food we eat is directly related to our health and life quality. This is true at any age, but it’s even more important in later life when the body’s systems are more sensitive. Creating healthy eating patterns can be challenging, but they can also be simple and rewarding when sustained.
When you start eating fresh, healthy foods such as fruits, nuts, and vegetables, you change the expectations of the body. Instead of craving foods high in fats and sugars, your body will start to crave healthier alternatives. Try to encourage healthy eating for you and your family members.
The human body has evolved to be active and to move every day. While this can be more challenging when we get older, it is just s important to maintain an active life. There are huge benefits to staying active; it improves energy levels, mental well-being, and the immune system.
When you think about physical activity, you tend to think about running, going to the gym, or yoga, but these activities are not always realistic for older people. But exercise can be moderate and light such as walking, simple stretching, and light weights to improve strength and wellness.
Some people need some additional help when they get older. The onset of disease, mobility issues, and a deterioration in health and wellness mean people need extra support from home carers or need to move into a care home for effective Elder Care. It’s sometimes the best option.
Elder care involves visiting older people, communicating with them, helping them with everyday tasks, and supporting them in a variety of ways. Elder care can be carried out by a family member who is also a carer, a professional carer who visits, or professionals in a care home.
Most people have a vitamin D deficiency; that’s because vitamin D is not naturally produced in the body; it needs to be ingested. Vitamin D can be absorbed from the sun or consumed in vitamin D-rich foods such as oranges and mushrooms. It’s important for overall cognitive health.
Cognitive health becomes more important as we age due to genetic changes, environmental factors, and lifestyle factors. It’s important to pay more attention to cognitive health as we get older by challenging our brains and consuming more vitamins and minerals, such as vitamin D.
Older people suffer more from isolation. They might have lost a spouse but continue to live in their familiar ways, or they might have lost their hearing and don’t like interacting due to embarrassment. However, community connection is incredibly important for mental health and well-being. It’s easier than ever to find a community online, thanks to various digital platforms.
This is a collaborative post.
Melinda
This post is very special to me, first Margie shared her story and allowed me to post it. She is an educated woman who wants to help others who experience Postpartum Psychosis. Please share this post with anyone you know who is pregnant or in the first few months of a baby’s life. M
This is not a war to win. It cages a soul and will not allow reason of any kind. I prayed, I begged and I pleaded. You can have me, but you cannot have my daughter.
On this particular morning, I thought I’d heard a knock at my front door, or was that coming from the back door? I trusted nothing. I sat in the nursery until the pounding stopped, and the sound of what I thought was my name being called, ended. Rocking my angel. I sobbed so violently. I wanted the voices and the visions to go away. I wanted nothing more than to save my baby from myself.
Something made me pause. Was that the front lock-set being opened, the door flinging open, were those real voices?
They found me. Jo and Priscilla. They found me, and they did not let go of me. One took the baby, and the other took the phone directory.
And every chance I get, I tell them, “Thank you.”
I spent the following three and a half months in a locked Psych ward.
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Each one of us has a story that shames us, it can trap us in a sort of hell, but sometimes to escape hell, we must find words to express our grievance. I used to think this would be one that I could not share for fear of losing someone whom I love(d). Now I fear that if I don’t share it, someone may lose their way, they may find themselves lost, alone, aberrant, and of course, crazy. I would rather lose every friend I have for the sacrifice of gaining that one that reached out to me in need. The one that discovered hope, when they felt there was none left. But, if you can find clarity if you can trust that there are people in this world that care first for others, and second for themselves, then you, and they will walk with you through hell. When we have true friends, they don’t leave us when the going gets rough. They stop at nothing to see that we realize how important we are, in their life. They don’t call you, Pyscho, MisFit, or Crazy. They call you, Friend. That having us is a joy, a blessing, a God-send. A true friend does not judge, does not keep a scorecard, and knows that we are them, should they ever need us, and not out of guilt or because a favor needs returning. No, a true friend stands by knowing that without our connection we are only half of ourselves.
When others walked out, you walked in. You asked for nothing in return. You never used my illness to shame me, to discount me, to write me off. You stood beside me and carried me through my darkest hours. Priscilla, Senn, and Jo McCormack thank you for seeing me when I could not see myself. But more than anything, thank you for saving my Megan from the psychotic lunatic that I had become. We have fought hard to win, and without each of you, I would have lost. It took three and a half months, out-of-state, in a mental institution, a number of medications, and therapy sessions, but I came home, loving and vowed that one day I would share this story.
Never give up hope. When you are at your weakest, grasp for straws. Dial for help. Swallow your pride. Do not fear that you will be labeled, CRAZY, for the rest of your life, even by those you thought would stand behind you through thick and thin. One of the best pieces of advice given to me was these words:
“They already think you’re crazy. Nothing you do, or say, will change their opinion. Absolutely nothing, therefore, be yourself. Only you know the journey and the victory.”
To Megan,
I promised you I would finish a tale that I had begun earlier in one of my posts. I think I even noted Day 16 as the day that I would write it. Day 16, arrived, but the time didn’t feel ‘just right’. Today it does. I believe you will recall the post, original, and if not, I’ll help you retrieve it.
I spent three full days in bed making Pom-Poms out of tissues. And not intentionally. “No, Martha, I did not use your official cut-and-twist guide.” I fashioned mine while I tried building a dam to nowhere, for my sinus drainage. I took my temperature so many times I killed the battery in the thermometer. I’ve never slept so many hours in my life! This comes from someone who suffers extreme bits of insomnia. Food? I found two cans of soup at the back of the cupboard and considering we don’t eat processed canned items I can’t help but wonder where they came from, much less, why I consumed them.
I’d had enough of this Chit, so by 10:00 a.m., I drug my lazy self out of bed and into the steaming shower, threw on some clothes, and asked Hannah if she’d like to go for a walk.
I thought I’d heard a lot of commotion over the roar of my blow dryer, but I wasn’t in the mood to go ‘seek-and-find,’ what all the mischief was. Once dressed, and out the door, I looked up the street to see the fire truck. What the heck?!#&@
Okay, right off the bat I have to confess. I’m not into seeking out horror. I can’t handle it. Put me in a car, drive me down the freeway, and have someone shout, “Look! There’s been a car accident!” What do I do? Slither down in my seat and turn my head in the opposite direction. If I’m the one who happens to be driving, you won’t find me rubbernecking.
Where was I going with this?
The Walk…(and not on the wild side.)
Finally, on our way, we journey toward the coffee shop. I realize I can’t enter, doggie and all, but then I remember the new app I have downloaded on my phone. Hannah and I mosey up to the patio and sit down. Attempting to order, I realize this app needs a few software upgrades, but I’m not in the mood to hack up the menu in broad daylight, much less try to find a work-around on the store’s wi-fi firewall. Dang, I can’t just walk away, the pup is looking at me with those sweet, begging eyes as if to ask, “How much longer, Mummy?”
Thinking comes quick when smitten by a man’s best friend. I lasso a chair with her harness and tie the pup securely to it, placing her in full view of any area I’ll find myself at once inside the store.
…..Admit it, you’re just a wee bit bored, but you just can’t seem to pull yourself away from all the action. Consider yourself a rubbernecker and let’s get moving…..
We are at a junction in the road. If we take the route we came, we’re out 1.5 miles, but if we journey the alternate route we are out 1.5 miles. Decisions, decisions, oh, and the trick math question at the end. (Find your calculators.)
Let’s go rogue. I’m caffeinated and jet-packed by toxic chemicals from eating rancid soup. What could go wrong?
The Traffic Light!…(into the jungle)
The sucker must have been rigged for red-light runners! Hannah and I were caught in the median of a crazed intersection. Everyone dreams of a cuppa joe or a fuel tank of $2.35 gasoline. I think the only thing that saved us was the California Highway Patrol t-shirt my son (in-law) gave me. I looked, OFFICIAL!
Okay, I was only a third grey, now color me white-headed. I match the dog now. Lesson learned: Rubberneckers. “You folks are everywhere!” One of you almost put tire tracks on my bright orange and pink sneakers. Tell the truth, “We’re you wanting my eye color or that close-up of fear earmarked across my face?”
…..This painstakingly will end at some point. Why don’t you take a snooze and check back later for the mischief of the last mile and a half?….
Safely in a green space, we walk among the oak trees listening to the sound of acorns dropping in our midst. (Note to self: Bring bike helmets in the future.) Meandering along and I look up to see we are at the high school. My heart skips a beat, and then another. “Wasn’t it just yesterday?” Oh, how time does fly. But I won’t let this moment go. I grab my phone and take a couple of photos. I zip them off to my two beautiful daughters. They’ll open their messages and go back in time themselves. I wonder at what moments their day will stand still? I knew mine. I know it well. I’ll cherish it forever.
There I sat awaiting the dismissal bell. The bell echoes. Oh, I miss that bell. I miss all the ringing of that far-off bell.
Saturday my youngest daughter moves away from home. Off to her grown-up home. Not a dorm room, no, those days are gone, too. There’s part of me that wants her to go, but then there is that part of me that knows how far away she may one day travel. And yet, I must give her the pieces of the apron strings, the wings to fly, to soar, to dream and dare.
Did anyone find me a pen and some paper? Did you find your calculators? Get ready, here she blows:
If I live 1.5 miles in one direction, yet I am able to travel in an opposing direction 1.5 miles and arrive at my origination, what direction am I traveling?
We set off to run errands. Hannah’s errands, actually. I should just admit that some days I simply say to hell with the housework, laundry included, and I put my best friend in the car and we set about finding mischief.
We ran thru the CVS drive-through to pick up some of my meds and beg for the usual dog biscuit. FAIL! They were out of treats.
Starbucks redeemed her spirit though when they gave her a Puppy Whip. It’s a small cup container filled with whipped cream.
Across the railroad tracks and we head into Southlake. The outdoor shopping mall is always fun. There are fountains galore and hundreds of shade trees. Unfortunately, they have no outdoor drinking fountains. Hannah drank a bit of my iced tea as I cursed myself for not having brought along her collapsible water bowl and some water. Finally, I recalled the Whole Earth Provisions Store allows dogs in their store. I took my girl in and she made a group of newly found friends, all human and eager to dote upon her. Someone snagged a dog treat for her and everyone took turns petting her.
The girl is worn out. Now resting with a full tummy of treats and back inside to the cooled air conditioning.
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Post-Partartum Psychosis has to be taken seriously. I ask you to reach out for help and keep an eye on a loved one or signs of Depression or Psychosis.
She’s a survivor and an extremely strong woman. I’ve never met someone as strong as she is, it blows my mind what she’s been thru and the pain she must feel.
Melinda
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Lillies
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Monstera
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Huge Orchid
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