Celebrate Life · Moving Forward · Survivor

Three Day Favorite Quote Challenge * Day Two *

I’ve been nominated by my friend Cosme, for a Challenge which includes three days of your favorite Quotes. It’s Day Two of the challenge and I am having so much fun. I’m saving the best for last. Thank you Cosme for nominating me. If you are not familiar with bclphotography.com, please stop by you are in for a treat. The requirement is to write three post, one each day, of your favorite quote.

“It is during our darkest moments that we must focus to see the light”

Aristotle Onassis

These Eyes

 

As a two-year old beaten by my mother, I had to think of brighter days. Eyes dead of emotion from an innocent child is heartbreaking. Over the years people entered my life leaving sprinkles of sunshine. At some point the sprinkles became a force within me. I would not live bitter or let my past control the future. I found sunshine as you can see from the photo above. The sparkle in my eyes and wide smile are my best features.  XO  Warrior

Nominees 

Noir  sedge808.com

Through The Open Lens  throughopenlens.com

Aniket Sharma Photography  aniketsharmaphotography.wp.com

If you have not visited each blog, stop by to find new favorites. 

Fun

Three Day Favorite Quote Challenge *Day One*

I’ve been nominated by my friend Cosme, in a Challenge for three days of favorite Quotes. One quote per day for three consecutive days. It sounds like a fun challenge. I’ll post three of the most interesting quotes to me. Thank you Cosme for nominating me. If you are not familiar with  bclphotography.com , please stop by you are in for a treat.   XO Warrior

Remember the Alamo!

If you’re a Texan you know the Alamo, it’s in your blood. I knew the quote as a small child but not the meaning. In school we studied the Battle at the Alamo. Like many subjects in school it didn’t apply to me. In my late 20’s I visited the Alamo, spending hours reading all details available. I felt tremendous pride for the volunteers who took up arms to end the war. The pride felt swelled my heart. History repeated, men and women willing to die for our country. It was like a spear entered my body.

I read the names of people who lost theirs lives, the very least I can do. My ex-husband stood by as I cried and read each name. Why were so many Europeans on the list? I walked out the door, looking left to see a huge canon. I ran to touch my history as a Texan.

Each Day of the Challenge Three Bloggers are Nominated 

  Dunelight     dunelight.wp.com

From Midnight to Dawnlight  frommidnighttodawnlight.com

Cindy Knoke  cindyknoke.com

Travel

It’s my sixth anniversary on WordPress *Get out the streamers*

I received a reminder from WordPress today, it’s my 6th year anniversary! Wow, time fly’s when having fun or not. I’ve written 303 post on Looking for the Light, in less than two years. I must have a lot to say. I had several blogs before starting Looking for the Light. The greatest reward of blogging is the people I meet daily and hearing about the adventures of long-term followers. Thank you for reading, commenting and filling my heart with joy.

Enjoy the Picasso, photo taken in D.C.

ACHIEVEMENT

6 Year Anniversary Achievement
Happy Anniversary with WordPress.com!
You registered on WordPress.com 6 years ago!
Thanks for flying with us. Keep up the good blogging!

Picasso Statue Washington, D.C.
Picasso Statue
Washington, D.C.

M

Travel

It's my sixth anniversary on WordPress *Get out the streamers*

I received a reminder from WordPress today, it’s my 6th year anniversary! Wow, time fly’s when having fun or not. I’ve written 303 post on Looking for the Light, in less than two years. I must have a lot to say. I had several blogs before starting Looking for the Light. The greatest reward of blogging is the people I meet daily and hearing about the adventures of long-term followers. Thank you for reading, commenting and filling my heart with joy.

Enjoy the Picasso, photo taken in D.C.

ACHIEVEMENT

6 Year Anniversary Achievement
Happy Anniversary with WordPress.com!
You registered on WordPress.com 6 years ago!
Thanks for flying with us. Keep up the good blogging!

Picasso Statue Washington, D.C.
Picasso Statue
Washington, D.C.

M

Men & Womens Health

We Must Partner With Doctor’s In Managing Our Illness & Prescriptions

Face to Face time with doctors is shrinking as payments from insurance companies are further reduced. No longer are the Patient Consumer Information pamphlets included with prescriptions from manufactures, they cost money. The medication information we receive from pharmacies is a cover your ass view of a few possible side effects. Doctors work on reduced rates leaving no choice but see more patients. I believe we are due the information to manage out health properly.

What do I mean by managing our health properly? We have to take responsibility to gather information the doctor doesn’t have time to give. If lucky doctors allow 15 minutes per patient. How much information can you get in that amount of time. Especially if its a new or complex illness. We are our best advocates, we have to hold doctors accountable for the information we need. It is our responsibility to understand our illnesses and medications. Doctors do not have all the answers. You have to clarify communication, don’t get caught up in “it’s the doctor’s responsibility”, wrong. Two people are in the equation and you’re the sick one. These steps may help the journey to survival and beyond. Critical to getting well is seeing the right type of doctor. A medical doctor is not a mental health specialist, has no business dispensing  RX’s. Get a referral , if not you’re a trail and error for what they think will work. Not always in you best interest. Not to mention the side effects of pick and choose.

Education is a powerful tool to build confidence, confidence you’ll need to talk toe to toe with doctors. The first place I head is the Internet. I’m one of the patients doctors don’t like. I come in with my note-book, recap our last meeting and let them know I have several questions. I spend my time researching the ailments. What are the most important symptoms. I use the info to put a short list of questions together. I ask next steps if don’t have a diagnoses. Doctors don’t have enough time to spend with each patient so I go in ready. I’ve included two resources which may help with your education. FDA.GOV is a great resource if you take prescriptions. You can find everything needed including Consumer Prescription Inserts we no longer received from medical companies. Medwatch  a FDA.gov department provides label changes, warning letters, recalls on specific drugs and medical equipment. The database is extensive however some of the tools are cumbersome at first.

Best of luck and well wishes.  XO M

Men & Womens Health

We Must Partner With Doctor's In Managing Our Illness & Prescriptions

Face to Face time with doctors is shrinking as payments from insurance companies are further reduced. No longer are the Patient Consumer Information pamphlets included with prescriptions from manufactures, they cost money. The medication information we receive from pharmacies is a cover your ass view of a few possible side effects. Doctors work on reduced rates leaving no choice but see more patients. I believe we are due the information to manage out health properly.

What do I mean by managing our health properly? We have to take responsibility to gather information the doctor doesn’t have time to give. If lucky doctors allow 15 minutes per patient. How much information can you get in that amount of time. Especially if its a new or complex illness. We are our best advocates, we have to hold doctors accountable for the information we need. It is our responsibility to understand our illnesses and medications. Doctors do not have all the answers. You have to clarify communication, don’t get caught up in “it’s the doctor’s responsibility”, wrong. Two people are in the equation and you’re the sick one. These steps may help the journey to survival and beyond. Critical to getting well is seeing the right type of doctor. A medical doctor is not a mental health specialist, has no business dispensing  RX’s. Get a referral , if not you’re a trail and error for what they think will work. Not always in you best interest. Not to mention the side effects of pick and choose.

Education is a powerful tool to build confidence, confidence you’ll need to talk toe to toe with doctors. The first place I head is the Internet. I’m one of the patients doctors don’t like. I come in with my note-book, recap our last meeting and let them know I have several questions. I spend my time researching the ailments. What are the most important symptoms. I use the info to put a short list of questions together. I ask next steps if don’t have a diagnoses. Doctors don’t have enough time to spend with each patient so I go in ready. I’ve included two resources which may help with your education. FDA.GOV is a great resource if you take prescriptions. You can find everything needed including Consumer Prescription Inserts we no longer received from medical companies. Medwatch  a FDA.gov department provides label changes, warning letters, recalls on specific drugs and medical equipment. The database is extensive however some of the tools are cumbersome at first.

Best of luck and well wishes.  XO M

Survivor

Randstien Honors Me With No Strings Attached Award

 

Randstein at  hyperiumstrum.wp.com  honored me with The No Strings Attached Award. If you have not spent time admiring his art work or short stories, you are depriving yourself of sheer joy or confusion. He writes about Mythology with great knowledge. I particularly enjoy The Dragons story. Randstein has a wicked sense of humor. Head over, walk around and see where you would like to start. 

The bustling award season has kicked off in the blogosphere. Many great blogs pass on awards because the time involved. I’m thrilled to have an award to honor blogs in the midst.   

Blog Awarded:

bipolarforlife.wp.com    Laura P. Schulman MD,MA

Laura and I have so much fun talking travel, her predicaments, and life on the road in a Home with wheels. Laura is as intelligent, she is slap in the back funny. I love to hear from her.

XO  W

Travel

Virtual Photo Tour of Washington, D.C.

White House
White House
Old Federal Building
Old Federal Building
WWII Memorial
Atlantic View of WWII Memorial

Hope you enjoy. I have many more photos of our capital. I’ve also been practicing my black and white skills. I look for your feedback.  XO   M

Men & Womens Health

TED Talks Nadine Burke Harris *How Childhood Trauma effects Health*

“The purpose of life is the expansion of happiness. Happiness is the goal of every other goal”

Deepak Chopra

Nadine Burke Harris gives a dynamic Ted Talk on How Childhood Trauma effects health across a lifetime. Her talk reinforces what many have thought for years.  XO  W

Ted.com offeres 1900+ talks to stir your mind. 

Men & Womens Health

Throw Back Thursday * Words, Words, Beautiful Words*

Many of you enjoyed the softer side last week. Let’s do a week on words. Each songs beauty is in the words. Clear your head.This week I want to show another side to a couple of my favorite singer/songwriter/guitarist. They are not “B Sides”, I hear gems without the radio overplay. Pull up a comfy seat, maybe lay on couch with Black Light on. What happens in your house stays there. I want to hear what you think!!! Shout it out!  XO W

Men & Womens Health

Right4Girls *Marks Pivotal Step Fordward In Fight Against Trafficking*

Fighting to end trafficking is a complex issue. We may not see the change ourselves, we do have to start the ball rolling. We have to understand why trafficking is happening and widely excepted in many countries. I’ve included a link to original article.   XO  W

http://www.marketwatch.com/story/rights4girls-jvta-marks-a-pivotal-step-forward-in-the-fight-against-trafficking-2015-05-19

Men & Womens Health

Happy Fathers Day Gramps *Memories Fill My Heart With Joy*

I love you Gramps. The memories we made fill my heart with joy. Teaching me how to fish. The first fish I caught, standing up almost turning the boat over. At 13 you gave me a 16 gauge shot-gun, we went to the levees to practice. I shot a duck out of season, you were pretty cool about that. Laughing when I shot at dragonflies. I will always remember throwing trash cans in truck, heading to levy for driving lessons. He picked up more cans on parallel parking.

Gramps didn’t hear this song, he didn’t know Carrie Underwood. He would rather listen to Buck Owens or George Jones, old-time country. This song touched me deeply, I can’t listen to without crying. I’ll see you soon. I know this is my temporary home.  XO Melinda

Survivor

One Among Many Surprised Me With Versatile Blogger Award

Being recognized by my peers is the greatest compliment. One Among Many  oneamongmany@glannste.wp.com has nominated me for The Versatile Blogger Award. He loves to a write on a wide range of subjects, poetry and advocates for mental illness and I can’t forget his sense of humor. Please visit his site for the topic of the day.

 The rules as I understand:

Thank the blogger who nominated you.
List the rules and display the award.
Share 7 facts about yourself
Nominate 15 ( Or what you can do) other amazing blogs and comment on theirs. To let them know you nominated them.
Then the 7 magic facts

7 Magic Facts about me.

Not sure they are Magic?

My Magic seven facts 

The Internet is my connection to wonders of the world.

I graduated Irving High School class of 1981, 600 walking across a stage in the old Cowboys Stadium.

I’ve  parasailed in Aruba, jumped out of plane in Dallas and toured Maui by helicopter. I look for fun every trip. It’s the joy of traveling.

I’m left handed and always in the right side of my brain.

My first encounter with a shark was in Florida, he was 4-5 feet long. Not much to worry about.

I encountered JAWS in St.John,Virgin Island. My ex-husband always had the camera, which means, as his “Buddy” I had to check his equipment and mine. We were 60-70 ft. down, I went to explore. I rounded a corner into a shark nursery, JAWS looked me in eyes. He was 14-15 feet long, I mustered the guts to swim off.

I can’t eat canned green beans. Gramps had a nice garden, I am spoiled with fresh foods.

Nominations

I don’t like to cheat on Awards. Lyme has a stranglehold on me. I’m only nominating a few people.

Van by the River   vanbytheriver.wordpress.com

Carnal Abuse by Deceit rapebyfraud.com

BCL Photography bclphoto.net

 

 

Travel

Bucket List Friday Sydney, Australia * Several Country’s In One *

I loved Sydney, look forward to seeing other regions. Australia is several country’s in one. There are many photos to share with you. The city is so clean, many spend time outside, walking to work, running or other type of fitness. There’s a special connection to us Texans, I felt automatically at home. Must be the twang. If you can handle a challenging climb the Harbour Bridge is a treat. That is my kind of thrill, unfortunately my back isn’t as young anymore. The trill of standing in middle of bridge looking across the city, I haven’t given up , there’s always tomorrow. I can talk forever about what attracts me to the county. We bought several pieces of Aboriginal art. If you looking for Opals, you have many choices.

I hope you get a chance to see the city and have time for the wine country. The wine, so good.

XO  W

 

Opera Houseimageimage

Travel

Bucket List Friday Sydney, Australia * Several Country's In One *

I loved Sydney, look forward to seeing other regions. Australia is several country’s in one. There are many photos to share with you. The city is so clean, many spend time outside, walking to work, running or other type of fitness. There’s a special connection to us Texans, I felt automatically at home. Must be the twang. If you can handle a challenging climb the Harbour Bridge is a treat. That is my kind of thrill, unfortunately my back isn’t as young anymore. The trill of standing in middle of bridge looking across the city, I haven’t given up , there’s always tomorrow. I can talk forever about what attracts me to the county. We bought several pieces of Aboriginal art. If you looking for Opals, you have many choices.

I hope you get a chance to see the city and have time for the wine country. The wine, so good.

XO  W

 

Opera Houseimageimage

Moving Forward · Survivor

Throw Back Thursday *Memories…Good Times…Regrets*

When introspective, I fall in to music. Music defines a time and space. The memories are not all good, many are from rough times in life. No one knows what each song means to me or why, the answers locked away. A  favorite U2 song is ” Running to Stand Still”. Etched in my soul, reflecting on my life. 

Pull up a chair or lounge with a lover, Enjoy the beverage. I would pick a Merlot to relax and take in the moment.    XO  Warrior 

https://youtu.be/0eCv0bXFppc

https://youtu.be/WZJEQXSIbxI

Survivor

No More Excuses Provides Weekly Update * Truth From The Media? *

NO MORE EXCUSES

No More publishes weekly updates allowing us to hear “The Rest of the Story”. Information we may not know, the good, bad and ugly. The Joyful Heart Foundation started No More Excuses which focuses on Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault.  

 No More educates, advocates and lobby’s for Survivors Human Rights. Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault are two hot issues. I walk away asking did the media share the news? Was the news common knowledge among a certain crowd? The Joyful Heart Foundation and No More reminds me how little information the media includes in “The Story”.    XO  Warrior

WHAT’S MAKING HEADLINES THIS WEEK?

Ray McDonald’s 2nd Domestic Violence Arrest: Former Chicago Bears defensive end Ray McDonald has been arrested for domestic violence and child endangerment following an assault on a woman who was holding a baby early Monday morning at an apartment in California. This is McDonald’s second arrest for domestic violence charges. #ChicagoSaysNOMORE to McDonald: Following his arrest on Monday, the Chicago Bears terminated their contract with him, after making the controversial decision to sign him in late March. Bears guard Kyle Long tweets “Good riddance” to his former teammate.

Josh Duggar, star of the TLC reality show 19 Kids and Counting, admitted to sexually abusing at least five girls when he was 15 years old. While his parents are calling the abuse “bad mistakes” that Josh made as a “young teenager,” we’re saying #NOMOREexcuses: the sexual abuse of young girls is not a “mistake.” Josh Duggar committed a crime.

We don’t let friends drive drunk so don’t let them sexually assault someone either, says Nicholas Kristof in this must read New York Times op-ed. Students at Carnegie Mellon University are using this “bystander intervention” approach in a new interactive online game in an effort to prevent sexual assault.

Columbia Student Emma Sulkowicz carries mattress to her graduation, after noting at her project’s outset that she would continue to carry the mattress around Columbia University’s campus until either her rapist was expelled or until she graduated.

California is the first state in the nation to establish a specialized NO MORE license plate to fund local programs in the fight against domestic violence and sexual assault. Sign up for the #NOMOREplate at http://www.nomoreplate.org.

18-year-old basketball star launches a NO MORE campaign. Inspired by the NFL Players who took a stand to say NO MORE, Jaired Maddox is speaking out about domestic violence and sexual assault in his East Texas community. Read his story on NO MORE’s website.

The national rape kit backlog is enormous. This month, Washington state passed legislation to require testing of all kits within 30 days of the kit’s collection. This comes at a time when national focus on ending the backlog is increasing: this week, the Senate held a hearing on the backlog and new data was released about the scope of the backlog in Charlotte, NC, Jacksonville, FL, Kansas City, MO, Portland, OR, and San Diego, CA.

Survivors help convince state legislatures to act: Indiana passed Jenny’s Law, a new law allowing rape cases to be prosecuted after the state’s five-year limit expires under special circumstances, like new DNA evidence or a confession. Inspired by Bill Cosby rape allegations, Nevada extended the state’s statute of limitations for sexual assault cases to 20 years on Tuesday.

In Latin America, reproductive rights for sexual assault victims are severely lacking: 34% of girls have been sexually abused by age 18. This month, the story of a 10-year old rape victim who was denied an abortion by the Paraguayan government sparked international outrage.

Stay tuned for more!
– The NO MORE Team

Men & Womens Health

Bucket List Friday * St. Petersburg, Russia *

Traveling to Russia was/is number one on my Bucket List, a trip of a life time. Traveling alone without knowing the language is true adventure for me! The hotel provided A+ support and everyone treated me like a Princess. I felt safe walking after dark, the hotel called letting them know I was leaving now. I would get to the restaurant and some one would great me. The Astoria see’s many Costa Nostra everyday. The Astoria is one of two five-star hotels, I can see why they like hanging around. I’m not blind, crime is hard to miss when they wear suits and walk tall like they own the house, right under your nose. The best way to find them is eat around 3:00PM, only two people and inquiring eyes. One day I stopped for a late lunch. Found couple alone, the guy would not take his eye of me, I knew right away. On the way out he came very close to the table and said “American? smiling, enjoy the rest your day”. I’m fascinated by the Mafia. I’ll share how the Mafia touched my life one day.

I fell in love with gypsy music, vodka with every meal, Cathedrals and caviar. Being a short-term Princess wasn’t bad either. I will make another trip to St. Petersburg, maybe a glimpse of Moscow. I was close to boarding the time The Towers fell. Airspace shut down for a week, I left when airspace lifted. Nothing could prepare me for people from many counties coming up telling me how terrible it was, hug me, cry, the beauty of traveling. You never know what’s in the Cracker Jack box.     XO Warrior

JESUS RUSSIA

JESUS ON CROSS, CHURCH OF THE SPILLED BLOOD

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 GUARDIANS OF THE BRIDGE

Men & Womens Health

Throw Back Thursday * SURPRISE….They Are Doing What?? *

LET’S GET HAPPY

I’m sending you fun, a big smile and inspiration. All you need is your dancing shoes. It’s nice to see celebrities passionate, invested and real without fluff. I love the song, it makes me happy. The inventive ways people included the song in tells me its universal.   XO Warrior

 

 

Men & Womens Health

National Alliance of Mental Illness * Advocacy Update *

NAMI Advocacy Update

 NAMI Advocates works tirelessly to educate, their website is a great resource, most important is they are always working for us and injustices.   XO Warrior

21st Century Cures Bill Passes House Committee

The House Energy & Commerce Committee passed 21st Century Cures on May 21st— a bipartisan bill designed to push for the development of new therapies for diseases that are not being treated successfully. This bill includes new dollars for the National Institutes of Health Opportunity Fund totalling $10 billion over five years.

The bill does not target specific diseases or illnesses, but it does leave open the possibility of investments in new clinical trials or therapeutic interventions for schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, major depression, and other mental health conditions. The 21st Century Cures bill is expected to come to a vote in the full House of Representatives in June.

View NAMI’s letter of support for this important bill.

17 U.S. Senators Write Letter To HHS Citing NAMI Parity Report

In a first step to addressing some vital concerns in Affordable Care Act health plans, a group of U.S. Senators sent a letter to Secretary Sylvia Burwell (U.S. Department of Health and Human Services) calling for action to ensure transparency and mental health parity. The letter cites NAMI’s report “A Long Road Ahead” noting, among other issues, that consumers cannot get the detailed information they need to make informed decisions when buying a health plan.

Read the letter.

Stepping Up To Reduce The Number of People With Mental Illness In Jails

NAMI helped jumpstart the Stepping Up Initiative on Capitol Hill this month as part of a national effort to divert people with mental illness from jails and into treatment. The campaign brings together a powerful coalition of national organizations, including NAMI, the Council of State Governments Justice Center, the National Association of Counties, the American Psychiatric Foundation and many law enforcement associations, mental health organizations, and substance abuse organizations.

The initiative will challenge counties and local communities to work together to find solutions that work for their local community.

See how you can step up.

Tell Congress To Help New Veterans Keep Their Mental Health Medications

The way things stand now, if you decide to transition out of military service and into veteran status, your medication might not transfer with you. This is unacceptable. Urge your member of Congress and ask them to co-sponsor H.R. 2123 the Enhancing Veterans Access to Treatment Act.Tell them it is not ok to take away a medication that works for a service member simply because he or she transitioned out of service.

Email Congress.

Tweet Congress.

Bright Spot: NAMI Minnesota

This legislative session NAMI Minnesota led the Minnesota Mental Health Legislative Network to increase mental health funding in the 2016 state budget. Their motto, “We know what works; let’s build on it.” This coordinated campaign helped secure $46 million in new funding for mental health services and supports.

“It was the most new money invested in mental health in our state’s history. There was truly a recognition that there is no silver bullet for fixing the mental health system. Significant investments were made all up and down the continuum,” said Sue Abderholden, executive director of NAMI Minnesota.

 

Men & Womens Health

Books Matter *Anti-Defamation League Update By Change.org *

Books Matter: An update from ADL
by the Change.org team

Jun 1, 2015 — The Anti-Defamation League (ADL) would like you to support and share with others the launch of their exciting new education initiative for educators and parents which uses children’s books as a mechanism to discuss bias, prevent bullying and promote discussion and awareness of diversity and social justice. Anyone who has ever read to or with a child knows that books have the potential to create lasting impressions.

Beyond their educational benefits, books have the power to instill empathy, affirm a sense of self, teach about others, transport one to unfamiliar places and inspire action. “Books Matter: The Best Kid Lit on Bias, Diversity and Social Justice” is a bibliography of over 600 books organized into 11 categories and reviewed by ADL’s anti-bias education experts. The categories include anti-bias, bullying awareness, anti-Semitism, racism, religious bigotry, gender and sexism, genocide and the Holocaust, LGBT people and issues, and social justice. As part of the initiative, ADL is also featuring a series of podcasts including interviews with children’s authors whose works are highlighted in the Book of the Month.
http://www.adl.org/education-outreach/books-matter/#.VWzIH1xViko

Books Matter