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Interview with David Kanigan

I had the pleasure of interviewing David Kanigan at Live & Learn http://www.davidkanigan.com. He is well-loved as reflected by the large number of glowing comments left by followers. He is funny, gracious and well read. David thank you for taking time to talk, play phone tag, it was a pleasure.

As a child did you color inside the lines?  Always between the lines. ALWAYS!

Best vacation parents ever took you on? We used to go to Radium Hot Springs in the summer. They had large swimming pools.  Here’s the link: https://www.radiumhotsprings.com

As a teenager what was dream job? Did you find your dream? I was born and raised in a small town in British Columbia.  My dream job was to work in NY. I work in NY!

The first and last song on your playlist? I rotate my playlists so there is no constant first and last. And have an eclectic music taste. Love Dave Matthews Band. Many groups from 70’s (eg, Doobie Brothers, Fleetwood Mac, etc)

 

Walking along the surf or jump in for swim? Walking along the surf, for sure.

Two examples of a perfect day. Reading a great book. Saturday morning in solitude after a long work week.

Hiking or Parasailing? Neither. Suffer from acrophobia even though I fly a good deal for work.

Before Blogging did you write journals, professionally? Never wrote a stitch before blogging.

 

Melinda

 

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Triple Shot Thursday *Classic Rock Favs*

Each band influenced my early Rock & Roll experience. If I could only choose 100 LP’s, no doubt these are included. Have a great weekend. I love to spin for you.  M

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Triple Shot Thursday *Love, Love, Love*

These are classic love songs, Aretha Franklin killed it as always. I hope you enjoy this weeks pick. The 24/7 Request Line is open, longing to hear your choice or choices. I’m happy to spin your tune. Thank you for reading!  M

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Please visit my blog “For the Love of Art”

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I have started a new blog http://ForTheLoveOfArt.blog. I believe art is art if you think it’s art. Today I posted is an interview with Cindy Knoke at cindyknoke@wordpress.com. She’s a great photographer, I hope you will stop by. Please leave any comments about the site. The good, bad and ugly, your comments will help me form the site.

Melinda

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Triple Shot Thursday *Songs You Can’t Forget*

I remember these songs like yesterday. There was a large poster of Shawn Cassidy on the wall next to Donny Osmond. I hope you enjoy the classics this week. Have a great weekend.  M

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Triple Shot Thursday *Phil, U2, Whitney* Can’t Miss!

The request line produced three great videos. Pick up request line and let your tune be heard. Leave request in comment section of post. I love to spin for you. Have a great weekend.  M

 U2 Awesome version of filming video for “The Streets Have No Name” in CA
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How To Talk With Kids About Terrible Things

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Look up from this screen right now. Take a look around. On a bus. In a cafe. Even at a stoplight. Chances are, most of the other people in your line of sight are staring at their phones or other devices. And if they don’t happen to have one out, it is certainly tucked away in a pocket or bag.

But are we truly addicted to technology? And what about our kids? It’s a scary question, and a big one for scientists right now. Still, while the debate rages on, some doctors and technologists are focusing on solutions.

“There is a fairly even split in the scientific community about whether ‘tech addiction’ is a real thing,” says Dr. Michael Bishop, who runs Summerland, which he calls “a summer camp for screen overuse” for teens.

Dueling diagnoses

“Technology addiction” doesn’t appear in the latest Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, the DSM-V, published in 2013. That’s the bible of the psychiatric profession in the United States. The closest it comes is something called “Internet Gaming Disorder,” and that is listed as a condition for further study, not an official diagnosis.

This omission is important not only because it shapes therapists’ and doctors’ understanding of their patients but because without an official DSM code, it is harder to bill insurers for treatment of a specific issue.

The World Health Organization has, by contrast, listed “gaming disorder” as a disorder due to an addictive behavior in the next edition of the International Classification of Diseases, an internationally used diagnostic manual.

Dr. Nicholas Kardaras is the author of the 2016 book Glow Kids: How Screen Addiction Is Hijacking Our Kids. When I ask him about the term “addiction” he doesn’t miss a beat.

There are brain-imaging studies of the effects of screen time, he says. And he also has treated many teens who are so wrapped up in video games that they don’t even get up to use the bathroom.

He says the evidence is clear, but we’re not ready to face it.

“We have, as a society, gone all-in on tech,” he says. “So we don’t want some buzzkilling truth sayers telling us that the emperor has no clothes and that the devices that we’ve all so fallen in love with can be a problem” — especially for kids and their developing brains, he adds.

Addiction may not be an official term in the U.S., at least not yet. But researchers and clinicians like Bishop, who avoid using it, are still concerned about some of the patterns of behavior they see.

“I came to this issue out of a place of deep skepticism: addicted to video games? That can’t be right,” said Dr. Douglas Gentile at Iowa State University, who has been researching the effects of media on children for decades.

But “I’ve been forced by data to accept that it’s a problem,” he told me when I interviewed him for my bookThe Art of Screen Time. “Addiction to video games and Internet use, defined as ‘serious dysfunction in multiple aspects of your life that achieves clinical significance,’ does seem to exist.”

Measuring problematic use

Gentile’s definition doesn’t address the questions of whether media can cause changes in your brain or create a true physical dependency.

It also doesn’t address the question, raised by some of the clinicians I’ve spoken with, of whether media overuse is best thought of as a symptom of something else, such as depression, anxiety or ADHD. Gentile’s definition simply asks whether someone’s relationship to media is causing problems to the extent that the person would benefit from getting some help.

Gentile was one of the co-authors of a study published in November that tried to shed more light on that question. The study has the subtitle “A Parent Report  Measure of Screen Media ‘Addiction’ in Children.” Note that the term addiction is in quotes here. In the study, researchers asked parents of school-age children to complete a questionnaire based on the criteria for “Internet Gaming Disorder.”

For example, it asked: Is their preferred media activity the only thing that puts them in a good mood? Are they angry or otherwise unhappy when forced to unplug? Is their use increasing over time? Do they sneak around to use screens? Does it interfere with family activities, friendships or school?

The experts I’ve talked to say the question of whether an adult, or a child, has a problem with technology can’t be answered simply by measuring screen time. What matters most, this study suggests, is your relationship to it, and that requires looking at the full context of life.

Seeking treatment

Though tech addiction isn’t officially recognized yet in the United States, there are in-patient treatment facilities for teens that try to address the problem.

For my book, I interviewed a teenage boy who attended a wilderness therapy program in Utah called Outback.

“I started playing when I was around 9 years old,” said Griffin, whose last name I didn’t use to protect his privacy. He chose email over a phone interview. “I played because I found it fun, but after a while I played mostly because I preferred it over socializing and confronting my problems.”

After he spent weeks hiking through the wilderness, his mother saw a lot of improvement in his demeanor and focus. However, Griffin came home to a reality where he still needed a laptop for high school and still used a smartphone to connect with friends.

Bishop, who runs therapeutic Summerland camps in California and North Carolina, says the teens who come to him fall into two broad categories. There are the ones, overwhelmingly boys, who spend so much time playing video games that, in his words, they “fall behind in their social skills.” Often they are battling depression or anxiety, or they may be on the autism spectrum.

Then there is a group of mostly girls who misuse and overuse social media. They may be obsessed with taking selfies — Bishop calls them “selfists” — or they may have sent inappropriate pictures of themselves or bullied others online.

Regardless of the problem, “We feel the issue is best conceptualized as a ‘habit’ over an ‘addiction,’ ” Bishop says. “When teens think about their behavior as a habit, they are more empowered to change.”

Labeling someone an addict, essentially saying he or she has a chronic disease, is a powerful move. And it may be especially dangerous for teens, who are in the process of forming their identities, says Maia Szalavitz.

In other words, as long as these companies make their money from advertising, they will have incentive to try to design products that maximize the time you spend using them, regardless of whether it makes your life better. Harris’ solution is to pressure the industry to turn to new business models, such as subscription services. “We’re trying to completely change the incentives away from addiction, and the way to do that is to change the business model.”

Along with Common Sense Media, a nonprofit that offers parents research and resources on kids’ media use, they are currently launching a “Truth About Tech” campaign that Harris compares to anti-smoking campaigns exposing the workings of Big Tobacco.

Fighting tech with tech

For over a decade Gabe Zichermann was a self-described “cheerleader” for what’s called “gamification.” He consulted with the world’s largest corporations and governments on how to make their products and policies as compelling as a video game.

But, he says, “there was a moment I realized that things had gone too far.” He was in a restaurant and looked around and saw “literally everyone was looking at their phones.” Zichermann started thinking about his family history and about his own relationship to technology.

He realized that his work up to that point had been contributing to some serious social problems. Like Harris, he is concerned that in a world of ubiquitous and free content, platform- and device-makers make more money the more time you spend on screens.

This, he says, results in “a ton of compulsive behavior” — around everything from pornography to World of Warcraft to Facebook. Feeling “partially responsible,” Zichermann set out to create an anti-addiction app.

It’s called Onward, and it has a number of different features and approaches in both free and paid modes.

It can simply monitor in the background and give you a report of your use, which for some people, says Zichermann, is enough to motivate change. Or it can share that report with someone else — say, a parent — for accountability (the app is rated for use by 13-year-olds and above).

Or, say you want to stop browsing Facebook during business hours. The paid mode of the app allows you to block Facebook, but it can also monitor in the background to try to predict when you might be about to surf there. “The idea is that when the drink is in your hand, it’s too late,” says Zichermann.

In that moment, the app serves up an intervention like a breathing exercise, or an invitation to get in touch with a friend. Zichermann calls this “a robot sitting on your shoulder — the angel of your good intention.”

The company has partnered with both UCLA Health and Columbia University Medical Center to research the efficacy of the app, and Zichermann says they plan to seek FDA approval as a “digiceutical.”

In essence, Zichermann is trying to gamify balance — to keep score and offer people rewards for turning away from behavior that’s become a problem.

The word “addiction” may currently be attracting controversy, but you don’t need a doctor’s official pronouncement to work on putting the devices down more often — or to encourage your kids to do so as well.

 

 

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“Your Song” Blog Party! *Everyone is Welcome*

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Bad Company has been a favorite since a teenager, it’s no surprise they are my favorite band.

Before I play a video, there is a story connected. I went to see Bad Company in my twenty’s, during the show I kept hearing they were going to the Hard Rock Cafe (back when it was cool). After the show I went straight to Hard Rock. I ate and saved my bill for them to sign, any of them. I was truly hoping for the lead singer.

Three hours later they arrive, I’m getting an autograph, they arrive on third floor and go straight into private room. I was crushed. Try again another show.

Here’s one of my favs from Bad Company.   M

 

 

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#TMI tag

 

Tag, your it! 

Ashleyleia from MentalHealth@Home.wordpress tagged me for the TMI tag.  So, here we go:

Q: What is your favorite show?

Blind Spot

Q: What is your favorite band?

Bad Company

Q: Something you really miss.

Peace

Q: Where do you go when you are sad?

Bed

Q: Have you ever been in a physical fight?

Yes, winning most.

Q: What is your favorite color?

Green

Q: Loud music or soft?

Always loud, Rock & Roll deserves loud music.

Q: Favorite actor.

Harrison Ford

Q: Do you have any fears? What are they?

Snakes & Spiders

Q: Meaning behind your blog name.

I have Treatment Resistant Bipolar Disorder. In dark times I looked for the light.

Q: Last time you said you loved someone.

Yesterday

Q: Last book you read.

The Panic Switch

Q: The book you are currently reading.

The Agoraphobia Workbook

Q: Last sport you played.

As a teen played softball & basketball. I sucked at both.

Q: Last song you sang.

Shooting Star by Bad Company

Q: Favorite food.

Spanish, Mexican, down home country cooking

Q: Place you want to visit.

Morocco, Jordan, Pennsylvania

Q: Favorite flavor of sweet.

Chocolate

Q: What instruments do you play?

None

Q: Favorite piece of jewelry.

Wedding band

Rather than calling out specific people to tag, I’m going to leave it up to my readers.  If you’re interested in playing along, well then tag, you’re it!

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Double Shot Thursday *Country Young Love*

I remember the days. Looking back, things worked out for the best. Request Line is open 24X7, comment section is ready to play your favorite tune.  M

 

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Triple Shot Thursday *Can’t Stop the Feeling*

This week has been the best in ages, I’ve made new friends thru lengthy conversations. Identified new blogs to follow and received comments from people I haven’t talk to in a long time. You have made me so happy this week, my heart is filled with joy. Let’s see if the music choices can match the joy in my heart. A special treat from James Arthur who blows me away with this song/message.  M

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Celebrate with Me, Yesterday I…..

Most know I have Chronic Lyme Diseases, ill for several years and still house bound. I didn’t realize until recently I had developed Agoraphobia created an additional challenge getting behind the wheel.

Lyme Diseases left me with early onset of Dementia, my balance is not the best and remembering is my biggest challenge. I’m taking medicine for Dementia and have seen improvement.

I had to overcome the challenges to find out who I am at 54 years-old. I hug and thank everyone who prayed for me over the years, this celebration is for you.

Yesterday I drove!

M

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Triple Shot Thursday *Bono, Jagger, The Edge and U2*

Three specials songs for you this week. U2 is one of my favorite bands. Running to Stand Still has special meaning for me. Aren’t we all running to or from something.

The band has a sense of humor, enjoys life and The Edge is an excellent photographer. Their friendship dates back to young boys singing in the Church Choir in Ireland. Have an awesome day! M

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The Asp Wrangler For A Day

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Summer and searing heat are just ahead, it’s time to introduce you to the Texas Asp.

One morning while pruning roses I noticed these furry cream-colored caterpillars. I grabbed my camera and started clicking. Something about them was familiar, I just could not put my finger on it. I had taken photos of critters all week so my husband was not surprised I discovered something new. Curiosity got the best of me, I had to see what kind of caterpillar they were. I had thoughts of beautiful butterflies flying around my yard.

To my surprise and horror, they were Asp! If you are not from the South you can’t fully appreciate the terror growing within. It is close to impossible to kill them. When you get stung by an Asp it’s like having acid poured on you. Their hairs can get embedded in the skin and every time you touch the area it’s like a new dose of acid.

When I was a kid one fell from the porch ceiling at my grandparent’s house. It fell down the back of my shirt. I was screaming and crying so hard it was difficult to stop to tell granny something was on my back. They leave a mark that looks like a branding iron. My back looked like red tire tracks. With this memory, I had to go out the next morning a find them not only for me but for our pets.

Like a scene from Mission Impossible, I found three. I had read how hard they are to kill so I carefully put them in a sealed plastic bag and let them bake in the Texas heat. This method worked beautifully. I knew there were at least two others and did find one the next day. I look every day and can’t prune my favorite rose without thinking one is still on the loose. I was The Asp Wrangler.

If stung, take clear tape and carefully put it over the area.

Pull slowly in the opposite direction of the hair.

It will pull the hairs out. Make sure all are gone or you’ll get a reminder every time touched.

XO  Warrior

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