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You need to do as much as you can to come up with ideas that will help you to be the best parent you can possibly be. There are many things that you need to keep in mind, and it is important to make sure you move forward in the best possible way and look to make the right decisions for your kid’s life right now.
There are a lot of financial decisions that you need to be making as a parent, and they are essential in helping to raise your family in the right way. You need to look at the places you can cut costs and save money as much as possible in the day to day life. You also need to try to make use of things like the child support payment calculator to work out important figures. You need to get a better handle on your financial situation because this is one of the best ways of being able to take things to the next level and work on being able to improve the family finances long-term.
It is important as a parent to be able to talk to your child about tough topics and broach important issues with them. Kids are inquisitive, and they will ask about things you may not expect them to ask. This is something that you need to try to make the most of, and use these opportunities to talk about the essentials right now. Talking with kids about terrible things is actually a really important part of parenting, and they need to be able to have these experiences and conversations in an honest and straightforward manner.
Encouraging your children is really important, and you need to be looking to do as much as possible to focus on this. Your kids will have certain talents, and it’s important to encourage and nurture these, but you have to be aware of pushing them too much and forcing them into things they don’t really want to be doing. This is something that a lot of parents tend to struggle with, and it’s a hurdle you need to try to overcome as much as you possibly can moving forward.
Try to do as much as possible to come up with ideas that are going to help you take things to the next level as a parent. There are a lot of things to think about here, and it is important to make the most of them.
This is a collaborative post.
In Health,
Melinda
Whether you’re just getting on the property ladder or you’re moving to a larger home, finding the right property is essential. When you’re searching for your dream home, you don’t want to rush the process. By taking your time and waiting for the right property to come on the market, you can be sure that you’ve truly found the property of your dreams. To help you plan your search, take a look at these top tips now:
1. Know What You’re Looking For
Before you start viewing properties, spend some time thinking about what features your dream home should have. It’s easy to be swayed once you start looking at homes, so taking the time to prioritize your ‘must-have’ features will ensure you have a clear idea of exactly what you’re looking for.
2. Get Financing in Place
You don’t want to find your dream property only to miss out because you don’t have the funds ready. By getting the financing in place now, you can ensure you’re ready to make an offer as soon as you find your dream property. Many mortgage firms and banks offer pre-approval, so you can get a mortgage lined up, ready for when you can complete a purchase.
3. Choose the Right Location
No matter what features a property has, it won’t be right for you if it’s not in a good location. Consider your commute to work, how close you are to amenities and, if you have them, what your kid’s journey to school will be like. By choosing the right location for your next home, you can ensure you have the lifestyle you’ve always dreamt of.
4. Stay Up to Date
When a dream home comes on the market, it probably won’t be available for long. Once you’ve decided what location you’re looking at, stay up to date with what properties are on the market. Fortunately, the internet makes it easy to keep on top of new properties. By searching for https://www.camijoneshomes.com/kansas-city-homes-for-sale/, for example, you can see the latest homes that are available. With regular checks, you’ll be the first in line when your dream home is listed for sale.
5. Think About Your Future
If you’re buying a dream home, then you want to think long-term. Imagining your future and how your lifestyle might change will give you an idea of how your dream home should look, feel, and function. The potential to increase the size of the property might be useful if you want to start a family, for example. Alternatively, the proximity to the local business center might be advantageous if you’re thinking about a change in career.
Searching for Residential Real Estate
If you want to locate your dream home, it can be beneficial to build a good working relationship with local realtors. They’ll be the first to know when a property is coming on the market and can let you know when something fits your criteria. By moving quickly, you can ensure that you’re in a position to make an offer when the property of your dreams comes on the market.
This is a collaborative post.
In Health,
Melinda
The Reducing Unused Medications Act of 2016 ensures doctors and patients KNOW about the ability to partial fill a prescription. One, doctors already know how to write prescriptions for so many days, I’ve experienced this myself after my knee surgery. I was given one week of pain medication, not a full month. Two, this opens up the law for companies like CVS to interpret the law and create their own policies. Giving the pharmacist the ability to decide who or if to fill the prescription.
I’m all for most of this bill but let’s address the real issue! Fentanyl. People are NOT overdosing from prescription opioids, they are taking Fentanyl, a synthetic drug, the government has decided to call an opioid. If the overdoses are Fentanyl then why are doctors being targeted for writing prescriptions? Why are doctors refusing to write prescriptions? Why are pharmacies refusing to fill prescriptions?
THIS is why if you are reading this, you have to contact the State and U.S. Senate and House representatives for your state to show your disapproval of this law. How has this affected you? I read post every day about how someone was denied pain medication or the doctor doesn’t even write pain medication any longer for fear of being targeted.
Let your Legislatures know what this law has done to you, how have you been discriminated against because of someone’s interpretation of the law. This bill was passed into law. Senator Elizabeth Warren (D-MA) continues to push to build on the restrictions on opioid medication. I read an article this morning that stated she had 81 supporters already. That’s nowhere near the majority needed to pass the CARE ACT, but she continues to push for an additional $100 billion dollars and much stiffer restrictions.
We have to make our voices heard. If you are reading this and live in the United States you can send four emails! Find out who your state representatives are and email their office. Let them know what you are ill with, how it affects your life, and how this discrimination against pain patients has affected you, or how further changes could. Let them know you want them to focus on Fentanyl, not prescription opioids.
We have to do this together. We can’t sit back and think someone else is going to take care of pain patients. It’s only going to get worse for all of us.
In Health,
Melinda
OCTOBER 04, 2018
Washington, DC – United States Senator Elizabeth Warren (D-Mass.) applauded the final Senate passage of bipartisan legislation combat the opioid crisis. The legislation, which is set to be signed by President Trump, contains several of Senator Warren’s bipartisan efforts to address the epidemic, including:
“This is a deadly epidemic, and we need to do everything we can to respond to it accordingly,” said Senator Warren. “While Congress could have gone further in providing communities with the resources they need to address the epidemic, I supported this bill because it makes some common-sense changes that will help us in our fight against the opioid crisis. I am also pleased that several bipartisan provisions I worked on with my colleagues were included in the final bill and look forward to seeing it signed into law.”In April, Senator Warren and Congressman Elijah Cummings (D-Md.) introduced the Comprehensive Addiction Resources Emergency (CARE) Act to provide states and communities with $100 billion in federal funding over ten years, including more than $800 million a year directly to tribal governments and organizations.###
I believe self-care is something we can do every day, it doesn’t have to be big steps but simple small steps that add joy /relieve stress throughout the day. Here are a few of the small ideas to make your week better.
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I hope I’ve given you some ideas on how to take time out for yourself each day. Your worth it, your mental health is worth it.
In Health,
Melinda
As many of us are finding ourselves at home for work at the moment, it can feel a little disorientating having to go back and forth in the same space. With that being said, there’s a lot that you can do in order to make working from home a more enjoyable experience. Remote working might be something that’s even more common in the future and so it’s worth exploring what you can do to make it a healthy environment for yourself. Here are some tips to stay healthy whilst working from home.
Set Up A Separate Workspace
A separate workspace is something that you want to try and incorporate as best as you can. Even if you’re setting up a temporary wall in your living or dining room area so that it can feel like you’re stepping into an office. If you have a study room, then you certainly want to take advantage of this as this can provide the workspace you need in order to thrive. When you’re working from home, the last thing you want to do is to be sharing the communal spaces or using space like the living room or your bedroom and blurring those lines. If you’ve had a hard day at work and you’ve been doing it in the living room, you’ll probably want to avoid that space from then on. It can end up hindering your home space, and so it’s worth finding a set up that can work in the home but is not going to encroach on the space where you relax at the end of the day.
Take Advantage Of Lighting Features On Your Devices
When it comes to your electronic devices, whether that be your laptop or your phone, it’s worth tweaking the lighting. This is when you need to adjust it during early morning starts or late nights. The light from our phones and computers can be quite harsh on our eyes and so knowing how to go into dark mode here can be beneficial. It’s always good to know what the dangers are when it comes to spending too much time in front of a computer screen. It’s important to find options that can help reduce the impact of screen time, and it may be worth you getting some glasses that can block blue light. This can be helpful in your eyes and to give them a rest from the harsh lights that come from our screens.
Make Sure Regular Breaks Are Taken
It’s important to focus on your break times when it comes to working from home. You want to ensure you’re still getting those breaks to help you reset your batteries and to give yourself a break from the workload that you have on. When it comes to regular breaks, make sure you’re stepping away from your desk and stretching your body. It’s crucial that you’re not sat down in a seat for hours on end. You should be getting up and going for regular walks around the home in order to help keep your body moving. Be sure to take a proper lunch break as well and practice eating away from your desk if you tend to eat at the desk typically.
Schedule Your Day
Scheduling your day is important because it’s going to help keep you motivated to do the work you’ve set out to do. Try to incorporate the breaks into your schedule so you know when you have some free time coming up and that it won’t interrupt anything you’re doing that might break your productivity. Some people like to schedule their day hour by hour, whereas others will like to do it morning and afternoon. Others might find that they just have a to-do list that’s in order of when they do it. It’s good to find and practice what works for you so that you’re getting the most out of your day.
You might want to buy yourself a physical planner or perhaps look at online platforms that you can use to set out your tasks. Explore what’s possible and what works well for your productivity levels. We’re all different so we’ll all need to work a little differently!
Stick To Your Working Hours
Your working hours should be the same as they are if you were in the office. So if you’re starting at 9am, start at 9am. Be strict with yourself and your employer because for some, they may try and take advantage of the fact you no longer have the commuting time to factor in. It’s still important that you’re doing the hours that you’re paid to do and that you’re not overworking yourself. That’s not something that’s going to be helpful for you, and we’re all only capable of doing so many hours of creative work before we burn out. Your working hours might not be exactly the timings you usually do but try and get as close to them as possible.
Continue To Eat Healthily
In order to stay healthy, it’s important to continue to eat healthy when working from home. When working at home, there can be a lot of temptation within your kitchen cupboards, and if you’re doing more hours from home, then you may do your weekly shop accordingly. This might be that you have more food than you would while in your workplace. Try to be strict with your food intake and be sure to not eat too much throughout the day that it’s going to leave you feeling lethargic, especially if you’re not doing much exercise. Try to keep yourself fit and healthy both in body and mind, which a lot of it can be influenced by the food we eat.
Staying healthy while working from home can prove to be a challenge, but it’s something that’s important to do. Use these tips to help stay healthy during these remote working occasions.
This is a collaborative post.
In Health,
Melinda

This Safety Announcement from the FDA came out over a year ago yet I read every day about patients being refused refills or quick tapering off of Opioids causing serious withdrawal symptoms.
This happened to me at the beginning of the pandemic. I didn’t want to go into the office for a urine sample instead offered to go to the local lab where I had already been and knew their safety protocol. I was clearly told I had to come in or the doctor would not refill my medication.
I was given two weeks’ worth of medication and told to g find another doctor. That is not being a responsible doctor! I filed a complaint with the Medical Board but they said it was within his right to require I come to the office.
We have to keep raising our voices loudly every chance we get to our government officials, policymakers, and the FDA, NHS, or other governing bodies that pain patients are not being treated properly.
Get involved and make sure to always file a complaint every time you are not treated professionally as a Pain Patient.
FDA Drug Safety Communication
[4-9-2019] The U.S. Food and Drug Administration (FDA) has received reports of serious harm in patients who are physically dependent on opioid pain medicines suddenly having these medicines discontinued or the dose rapidly decreased. These include serious withdrawal symptoms, uncontrolled pain, psychological distress, and suicide.
While we continue to track this safety concern as part of our ongoing monitoring of risks associated with opioid pain medicines, we are requiring changes to the prescribing information for these medicines that are intended for use in the outpatient setting. These changes will provide expanded guidance to health care professionals on how to safely decrease the dose in patients who are physically dependent on opioid pain medicines when the dose is to be decreased or the medicine is to be discontinued.
Rapid discontinuation can result in uncontrolled pain or withdrawal symptoms. In turn, these symptoms can lead patients to seek other sources of opioid pain medicines, which may be confused with drug-seeking for abuse. Patients may attempt to treat their pain or withdrawal symptoms with illicit opioids, such as heroin, and other substances.
Opioids are a class of powerful prescription medicines that are used to manage pain when other treatments and medicines cannot be taken or are not able to provide enough pain relief. They have serious risks, including abuse, addiction, overdose, and death. Examples of common opioids include codeine, fentanyl, hydrocodone, hydromorphone, morphine, oxycodone, and oxymorphone.
Health care professionals should not abruptly discontinue opioids in a patient who is physically dependent. When you and your patient have agreed to taper the dose of opioid analgesic, consider a variety of factors, including the dose of the drug, the duration of treatment, the type of pain being treated, and the physical and psychological attributes of the patient. No standard opioid tapering schedule exists that is suitable for all patients. Create a patient-specific plan to gradually taper the dose of the opioid and ensure ongoing monitoring and support, as needed, to avoid serious withdrawal symptoms, worsening of the patient’s pain, or psychological distress (For tapering and additional recommendations, see Additional Information for Health Care Professionals).
Patients taking opioid pain medicines long-term should not suddenly stop taking your medicine without first discussing with your health care professional a plan for how to slowly decrease the dose of the opioid and continue to manage your pain. Even when the opioid dose is decreased gradually, you may experience symptoms of withdrawal (See Additional Information for Patients). Contact your health care professional if you experience increased pain, withdrawal symptoms, changes in your mood, or thoughts of suicide.
We are continuing to monitor this safety concern and will update the public if we have new information. Because we are constantly monitoring the safety of opioid pain medicines, we are also including new prescribing information on other side effects including central sleep apnea and drug interactions. We are also updating information on proper storage and disposal of these medicines that is currently available on our
Disposal of Unused Medicines webpage.
To help FDA track safety issues with medicines, we urge patients and health care professionals to report side effects involving opioids or other medicines to the FDA MedWatch program, using the information in the “Contact FDA” box at the bottom of the page.
In Health,
Melinda
The Spun
September 24, 2020 @ 11:34am » Dan Lyons

ARLINGTON, TEXAS – OCTOBER 06: Dak Prescott #4 of the Dallas Cowboys greets Aaron Rodgers #12 of the Green Bay Packers after the Packers’ 34-24 win at AT&T Stadium on October 06, 2019 in Arlington, Texas. (Photo by Richard Rodriguez/Getty Images)
Ahead of the NFL season, Dallas Cowboys quarterback Dak Prescott opened up about his struggled with mental health earlier during lockdown, around the time that his brother tragically took his own life. While he faced some pretty despicable criticism from FS1’s Skip Bayless, most have been extremely supportive of Prescott, including Green Bay Packers quarterback Aaron Rodgers.
During Wednesday’s press conference, The Athletic’s Matt Schneidman asked the Packers quarterback about Prescott’s admission, as well the value of high-profile athletes and stars talking about their own battles with depression and other mental health struggles. Rodgers agrees that it is extremely helpful in building a connection to the public and destigmatizing the issues, which long went under-addressed in society. He also took a pretty thinly veiled shot at Bayless in the process.
“I think it’s great, I saw what Dak said and I applaud him,” Rodgers said. “I think it’s phenomenal, him speaking out, because that’s true courage and that’s true strength. It’s not a weakness at all. And anybody who attacks it… other people’s opinions of ourselves have really nothing to do with us. And other people’s opinions of Dak have nothing to do with him. That’s their own insecurities to deal with their own s–t, probably.”
“I think it’s a beautiful thing when people start talking about it, because at the bare minimum it makes you more relatable to people. That we have the same struggles, and the same issues, and the same desires to grow and change and see things in a better, positive light that so many people out there do. And I think the more that we can connect with people, especially with conversations like this, the better our society can be moving forward as a connected society built around love and positivity.”
“Thought I’d ask Aaron Rodgers today about mental health, specifically what he thinks the value of people like him and Dak Prescott talking about their headspace, happiness and mental well-being has in destigmatizing talking about that stuff.”
His full answer: pic.twitter.com/OtZ4kN1915
— Matt Schneidman (@mattschneidman) September 23, 2020
Rodgers also discussed how others, like Cleveland Cavaliers forward Kevin Love, may have gotten slightly different treatment when they opened up about depression years ago. The bright side of it is that it does seem like public sentiments are shifting in a big way.
“There’s a weird stigma around it… to either ask for help or admit you’re struggling with things, or admit negative thoughts about yourself. I think the strength is taking care of yourself and taking care of your mind and understanding how important your thoughts are because they become things, and understanding how important positivity is, and your attitude, and waking up each day with the right focus and the right mindset.”
As Aaron Rodgers acknowledges, it is good for guys like him and Dak Prescott to discuss these things openly, because it can encourage others who need help to do the same, before things take a bad turn.
Kudos to all of the star athletes and other celebrities who do so.
The human race is having a hard time at the moment, but there are behaviours we can adopt to help support us in times of stress and lay the foundation for a more long-term, self-supported way of living.
1. We’re all told to treat others as we’d like to be treated, but it is actually really important to treat ourselves as we expect to be treated by others. If you don’t respect yourself enough to champion yourself and create boundaries which protect you, why should anyone else?
This goes from the smallest acts such as making sure you sleep and eat well, to larger behaviours such as protecting your boundaries by not allowing yourself to be persuaded by others that principles you hold dear are not worth adhering to. Others will take their cue from your own attitude to yourself.
2. You need to treat others with respect and compassion and where possible put yourself into their shoes and try and see situations from their point of view. If you like certain behaviours exhibited towards yourself, you can bet others like them shown towards them.
3. Remember you don’t need to have all the answers. It is okay not to know things and to say so, because this is how we learn. You can’t know things you haven’t been taught or come across before, and that goes for everyone. Even a physics genius may not know how to milk a goat! We all know something that someone else doesn’t. Learning from others is fundamental to growing as a human.
4. If you’re struggling, the brave thing is to ask for help. This is braver than suffering in silence, which can often make things worse and is much less retrievable. There’s a lot of help out there for all sorts of situations—just ask.
5. Embrace your differences and those of others; these are our strengths. Being different is good. We can bring a fresh perspective to tired views, a different way of tackling problems, or just a different way of being. Uniqueness is usually a selling point!
6. Look after your body. It’s got to last you the whole of your life and you don’t want to find yourself with 20 years of making do with a clapped out model when a little bit of care could see you almost to the finish line with very little need for intervention. So move—humans are designed to do just that. Eat in ways that support your health. We all know the drill—plenty of fresh fruit and vegetables, good sources of protein, and forget the sugar hits. Sugar has been associated with inflammatory conditions, anxiety, and mood disorders (Anika Knuppel, UCL)
7. Anxiety is like a muscle—the more you exercise it the stronger it becomes. If you can learn to divert yourself from over-anxious ruminating thoughts, you will benefit by breaking the cycle. Gentle, supported exposure to anxious situations will lessen their impact over time. Go for a walk, take a bath, phone a friend, practice yoga and meditation—all of these have been proven to lower anxiety and improve mood.
8. Pay attention to your feelings. After all, we have them for a reason. This does not mean you have to dwell on them and ruminate about them (see above) but you do need to acknowledge how you feel and which of your actions contribute to these feelings. In this way, you can repeat the actions that bring happiness, relaxation, and well-being and drop the habits that don’t. If you’re not sure which are which, keep a diary of what you do, who you see, what you eat, how much sleep you get, and so on. Soon you will begin to see patterns that will inform your understanding of how external behaviours impact you internally.
9. Spend time in nature. There is enough research now to know that wildlife and a rural landscape impact us positively. Even something as small as a window box or plant can make a difference to your well-being. This has been admirably demonstrated during this lock-down year when many people have reported how birdsong and glimpses of butterflies have helped them get through gloomy days full of bad news. Taking a walk every day, playing football in the park, even in a city landscape, can get you in touch with trees, sunshine, and air—all for free and all mood-boosting.
10. Kindness is the most important trait we can display, both towards ourselves and others. Small acts of kindness can make a huge difference in how we feel about ourselves and others; both performing them and receiving them. A friendly wave or smile might be the only contact a neighbour regularly receives. A genuine compliment is always well received and a nice thing to give to others. Helping out when it’s of little cost to yourself may make someone else’s day. Our view of the world starts small, in our own communities so if we can make that positive, then as we go out into the world we take that attitude with us and spread it around.
11. Don’t be afraid of things going wrong. If you never try, you’ll never learn. Don’t give up for every time you fail you learn something to take forward for the next attempt. All of life is a learning process and many successful people had catastrophic failures on their way up. The key? They didn’t stop trying.
12. And remember how powerful the mind is. “If you think you can and if you think you can’t, you’re right.”
References
Anika Knuppel, Martin J Shipley, Eric J Brunner: Scientific Reports 7, Article 6287, 27 July 2017

Atalanta Beaumont is a former psychotherapist trained in the methodology of Transactional Analysis and the author of Handy Hints for Humans. Online:Facebook
By Kari Peters
This gentle body wash is great for sensitive skin because it’s made with coconut oil and aloe vera, making it extra soothing. It’s also super refreshing, and the cooling effect of the mint is a great way to start your day.
Yields 1 1/4 cups
1/2 cup Castile soap, unscented
1/4 cup coconut oil, melted/jojoba oil
2 TB. aloe vera gel, at room temperature
1 TB honey, melted
25 drops of peppermint essential oil
5 drops eucalyptus essential oil
Funnel
Container
Whisk together all the ingredients until completely combined. Use a funnel to pour the body wash into your container of choice. I like to use one with a pump handle to make this soap easier to use, as it’s thinner than a store-bought body wash. this body wash will separate between uses because there are no binders or stabilizers included. Simply shake it together before each use.
Enjoy,
Melinda
2020 has been a year unlike any other. While it has certainly had its downs, there have also been a fair amount of happy moments, memorable moments, and things we have learned and taken away. No matter what situation you are in now, it is important to remember to keep positive, look forward and treat everything as a learning curve and something you can look back on and see how it made you grow. Here are three things that 2020 has taught us.
2020 saw us plunge into a lockdown where we could no longer see our loved ones that didn’t live with us. It taught us all a valuable lesson in just how much our friends and family mean to us. As the saying goes, “you don’t know what you’ve got until it’s gone.” Without the privilege of being able to pop to a grandparent’s for a cup of tea, to head to a bar for a catch up with friends, or out for a working lunch with your colleagues, we all realized how much it meant to us. With this new realization, it is important to remember it once we can mix and socialize again. If there are external factors still meaning you can’t see your loved ones, such as a custody battle, it is important to meet professionals such as Eric Palacios & Associates Law Firm and get this sorted as soon as you can.
Back in the deepest of lockdown, there were so many things we wanted to do that we couldn’t, and this taught us to never take anything for granted. Whether it was a simple picnic in the park, being able to go for a wander to the shops or to hop on the train and explore a different city or town for a weekend break, we all missed what used to be the normality. Having all of this taken away just went to show how much we can take for granted and that we should stop, slow down, and appreciate all the small things in life that bit more.
With so much time to sit and think, or with having to make extra effort to work from home and keep the motivation going, this year taught us about doing what makes us happy. It gave a lot of us time to evaluate our life and career choices and to see if they were actually what we wanted to do. Many people decided to give running their own business a go, and it has worked out well for many and has been a learning curve for others. It’s important for your mental health to take care of yourself and do what makes you happy every day.
This has been an unprecedented year and one unlike any other. It is important not to focus too much on the negatives and instead look back and see what it has taught you. This way, you can grow as a person and better yourself for the future.
This is a collaborative post.
In Health,
Melinda
Sometimes, the people closest to us cause the most pain and lose the right to be part of our lives. In these cases, ending a relationship, be it an unhappy marriage, a one-sided friendship, or a toxic family relationship is the healthiest choice. But the decision to end a relationship and the process of extricating ourselves can bring up all kinds of difficult feelings.
When we decide to end a relationship, we may feel doubt and dismay. We may feel like we are abandoning or deserting the relationship. We may worry that we failed to “save” it—maybe we should have “just tried harder” to fix it. It may feel like the time invested in that relationship was wasted, even if it held a meaningful place in your life for months, years, or even decades. The vacuum left by the relationship can bring loneliness, even if you already felt lonely in the relationship. It may feel devastating to realize the relationship is over, even if the relationship had felt challenging and draining for years.
These feelings, symptoms of a grief response, can feel confusing. Shouldn’t the fact that it was our choice to end a relationship mean it shouldn’t hurt so much? Unfortunately, no.
When we end a relationship, even a difficult, toxic, exhausting, frustrating one, we will likely grieve. Why? Well, at one time, the relationship likely felt mutual, and we grieve the loss of that mutuality. We may mourn the way a long-term relationship can sour. The relationship may never have been a good one, so we grieve for what could have been or should have been or even what we had put up with for so long. We may grieve the loss of how it felt to be in a relationship with that person—perhaps we felt more worthy or prestigious or glamorous or wanted. We may also grieve for the lost future we imagined building together. And so we grieve what was, we grieve what never was, we grieve what is no more, and we grieve what cannot be.
Making room for this grief means deciding that it is both OK to feel all of these feelings and still feel confident that moving on was the right choice. The two can coexist.
Sometimes, others may compound the grief by expressing happiness at the relationship ending. Well-meaning family members may cheer or breathe a sigh of relief when an unhappy romantic relationship ends. Friends may congratulate you for cutting off your toxic uncle. A romantic partner may rant about that childhood friend that always left you feeling anxious.
But these gestures may leave you feeling more alone or ashamed of your sadness. To keep space for moving through the pain, we need room not only to feel angry at the person we left behind, but also sad that the relationship has ended. For that, we need loved ones willing to listen and validate the sadness. What can it sound like to support somebody who just ended an important relationship?
As we mourn, we can offer ourselves compassion and grace to feel whatever it is we’re feeling. We can remind ourselves that we can feel anger toward the person we’ve ended a relationship with and grateful for what was and sad that it won’t carry into the future. And when others come to us about their own loss, we can offer them the same gift by not assuming they’re delighted and instead checking in with them. We can let them know that it is ok to feel sad and that we are there for them through it.

Sarah Epstein, MFT is a Marriage and Family Therapist in Philadelphia, PA and the Amazon bestselling author of the book Love in the Time of Medical School.Online:Sarah’s Professional Site, Facebook, LinkedIn

I believe self-care is something we can do every day, it doesn’t have to be big steps but simple small steps that add joy throughout the day. Here are a few of the small steps I take during the week.
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Plants are a great way to take your mind off the stressors of the day and if you buy the right type and don’t have too many it’s easy to keep up with them. I don’t have a green thumb and only have seven plants. I like taking a break to check to see which ones need water and looking for new sprouts. There are plants for every level of light including a large selection of low light plants.
I could not survive without being able to take a nap. It’s not an everyday treat, although at one time it was necessary. If my day is not going well and the opportunity presents itself, I grab a quick nap. Maybe 30 minutes to an hour. I’ve learned to ask my husband for help so I can break away. It took me a long time to get there but now I don’t hesitate to say I need to get a nap.
Willow & Sage is a quarterly magazine that is more like a book. I’ve been saving mine for years, they are great to read again. The magazine is all things hand-made bath and body oftentimes with items you have at home or are easily available to buy or order. You’ve seen my post on homemade Pink Peony Sugar Scrub and others from their recipes.

Keurig K-Elite Coffee Maker, Single Serve K-Cup Pod Coffee Brewer, With Iced Coffee Capability, Brushed Slate
There’s nothing like a fresh cup of coffee or glass of tea made with a Keurig. It’s a single-serve pod system so everyone can drink what they like and there is no carafe to clean. This is a newer model than ours, we’ve had ours for almost five years now and have not had one problem. We use spring water in it instead of tap and that way you don’t get the build-up you do which causes your machine to clog up. The cleaning process is simple, when there are too many grounds built up it will tell you when to do maintenance and it takes about a minute to complete. I can’t say enough about this machine!

Fresh Sugar Advanced Therapy Lip Treatment Translucent 0.15 oz
Nothing works as well as Fresh Lip Therapy! My lips are dry year-round, I use this lip treatment instead of regular chapstick. What a difference it makes. It’s more expensive but one tube lasts a long time and it’s my self-care splurge. It’s something I can do several times a day for myself to make me feel better.
I’m a huge fan of Aromalief’s Lavender Pain Cream and now am using the Energizing Orange Ginger scent for during the day. The smell is great, a light orange ginger menthol. The menthol is barely noticeable. It has 1000 MG of Hemp with no THC, is PETA certified, vegan, and is a women-owned business. Heres’ my review of Aromalief’s Lavender Pain Cream.
We can do so much for our self-care that isn’t time-consuming and will brighten our mood. What are some of your self-care tips?
In Health
Melinda


This afternoon it looks like WordPress sent some of my post earlier post out again. Sorry for the confusion. I’m working on my site and there was a technical glitch.
Before I go, what do you think of this font? Can you red ok and is it easy on the eyes? If you experience any technical problems please let me know.
Have a great evening.
In Health,
Melinda

Change is constant and although many people feel resistant to it, change can actually be very beneficial. As the saying goes a change can be as good as a rest and there are many reasons for this. Change can bring a number of opportunities and give you a new perspective on life. A fresh start can also be a positive thing and learning to adapt to change is a useful skill for many situations. Whether it’s moving to a different place or embarking on a new career, there are several reasons a change can be positive.
New beginnings
If you’re looking for a fresh start, something as challenging as moving house could even lead to many positive things. Moving doesn’t need to be as stressful as it sounds and there are ways to sell my home fast. Many companies offer help to those who need to sell their home quickly and even offer cash in exchange for real estate. New beginnings mean you can start with a clean slate and get out of the rut that you might be in.
More opportunities
A change at work could lead to plenty of exciting business opportunities. If you’re ready for a career change this could bring many new possibilities for you to earn more money and learn new skills in the future. Employers also favor candidates who able to show an ability to adapt to change and an eagerness to progress in different areas.
Personal development
Doing a bit of soul searching is also a great way to learn about yourself and focus on personal development. It’s a good idea to make a list of priorities as these can change as you get older. This will help you with professional development as well and to figure out what kind of lifestyle you would like in the future. You will be able to decide what’s important to you workwise and where you would like to live a few years down the line.
A different perspective
There are many reasons why you should look at things from a different perspective from time to time. It helps you to reinforce your values and learn from others. Trying to see something from someone else’s point of view will help you think more objectively and become more open-minded. You’ll even be able to be more self-aware as a person and this could have a positive impact on your personal and professional relationships.
Gain strength
The strength you need in order to face change will benefit you in the future. You’ll be stronger in the face of adversity and be more capable of finding a new solution to different problems. Change allows many people to become stronger over time. The ability to adapt to change is a good skill to develop and it can help you in both your professional career and personal life. There are many ways in which leaving your comfort zone once in a while can beneficial. A change of scenery is a great way to gain perspective.
This is a collaborative post.
In Health,
Melinda
My legs from my thighs down to my toes spasm 24/7, I choose not to take medicine because who wants another addictive medication. Pain medication does not make the spasms go away. I have to wait until the sleeping medication kicks in and try to ignore during the day.

I think of who I once was and who I am now. Both have an upside, it’s a shame the two can’t meet. The empathy and patience I have now would have seerved me well when I was younger.
If I had friends would they understand? Time and distance already created a divide. How would we reminisces over the good times knowing the chances of me traveling to see them or travel again is unlikely.
Would I be strong enough to support my husband if the tables were turned? Could I be there as he has for over ten years, taking care of me every day, worrying about my health, wondering what diagnosis will come next.
My goals have been completely adjusted, a different mindset is required. I push myself each day to accomplish as much as possible but forgive myself if something has to wait until the next day. It will still be there, there aren’t many task so important that it can’t wait until tomorrow.

I have to make self-care a priority every day. Taking care of myself is great for my mental health, my self worth and my spirit. I do the smallest things to make my day brighter.
COVID has not changed my world, I didn’t leave the house except for doctor and lab visits and a daily Starbucks run. You should see the Clorox bath we go thru before leaving the drive thru lane. We take our dogs, it makes them happy and they always make me smile peering out the window at the Starbucks employees.
Guilt, frustration and anger are not my friends but are my daily reality.
In Health,
Melinda
From the website of
In conjunction with traditional pain management, there are a number of self-management strategies that can help reduce pain levels and improve your quality of life. Don’t underestimate your ability to have an impact on your health and pain levels!
Here are some areas where lifestyle changes can help improve pain:
Restricting or modifying your activities may seem obvious, but it can be difficult to adjust when you’re used to being able to do certain things a certain way. It can take many years of trial and error to identify your body’s limitations and specific triggers for pain, and then to find strategies to work with or around them. Be patient with yourself as you explore your body’s limits—and abilities.
You will need to determine what your limitations are, but perhaps it’s that you need to lie down for 10 minutes every two hours. Or maybe you find you can go for a 30-minute walk, but you need to allow 30 minutes of rest before and afterward. Perhaps you need a standing desk instead of a seated one to work at your computer comfortably. As you get to know your body, keep in mind there is a fine balance between getting appropriate rest and recuperation—and keeping up your strength, mobility, and stamina as much as possible. Don’t be afraid to get creative with accommodating your body’s needs. Investigate assistive devices, like braces or mobility tools, such as canes. Consider adaptive technology, too. For example, if typing on a computer is challenging, you may want to look into dictation software.
Occupational therapists can be very helpful in coming up with solutions for keeping up with your daily activities and continuing to do the things you enjoy. If you work, ask your manager about getting an assessment from an ergonomics specialist. Remember that you have a right to reasonable accommodations for your health in the workplace.
As difficult as it is to get yourself moving when you have chronic pain, it’s also extremely important. Here are four key reasons to get moving:
Start small and increase the intensity of your workout as your body allows. Remember that any exercise is better than nothing at all; just do the best you can. Here are some ideas for exercise to get you started:
Please note: we recommend checking with a clinician before beginning any exercise program to ensure it is safe for you.
A thoughtful, balanced diet is key to maintaining a healthy weight, reducing inflammation, and getting important nutrients that support your overall wellbeing. Some people find that certain types of diets lessen their pain, such as an anti-inflammatory diet; a vegetarian or vegan diet; a paleo diet; a gluten-free diet; and so on. Explore different diets to find out what works for you!
Regardless of whether you follow a specific set of guidelines surrounding food, here are some key principals that hold true:
If you’re interested in extra help with your diet, consider meeting with a licensed nutritionist.
An estimated 50 percent to percent of people with chronic pain have ongoing sleep difficulties.[1] Studies show that inadequate sleep, however, can exacerbate pain.[2] Here are some tips for ensuring you get a good night’s rest despite pain.
Still struggling? Ask your doctor about meeting with a sleep specialist.
Pain increases stress, and stress increases pain. But you can break this cycle by proactively trying to reduce stress wherever possible. Multiple studies have shown that reducing stress and relaxation techniques can improve overall health and wellbeing, and may even reduce pain or improve the perception of pain.[3],[4]
Some examples of stress reduction techniques and strategies include:
Generally speaking, reducing stress with chronic pain also requires:
For more advice on managing stress when you have pain, find a psychologist, counselor or life coach in your area.
[1] https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/27208716
[2] https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/26498229
[3] http://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/070674370805300402
[4] http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0022399909000944
In Health,
Texas Ambassador
Melinda Sandor
Deciding to get help is a personal decision that can only be taken when one is ready to do so. We understand that making any decision that implies obtaining help whether to cope with the abuse or leave the relationship can place a person in greater danger. Deciding to obtain help requires one to think of all possible scenarios and ensuring that there is a window of opportunity.
However, if a person is in immediate danger, calling 911 is the best option. Emergency situations include a recent threat of violence, recent act of violence or if your safety or someone else’s safety is in imminent danger.
Talk to someone you trust.
Having someone to talk to about what’s happening can be helpful. Often times it can be difficult to share with others because of one’s fear of their reaction or feeling embarrassed about the situation. Disclosing to a close friend or family member what is going on in your relationship can be helpful, but only when you are ready to do so. Talking to someone can be the first step in seeking help.
Talk to a trained professional.
If you decided to seek professional help, you can contact your local victim assistance program. These programs are designed to provide supportive services, such as crisis intervention, individual counseling, support groups, emergency and relocation assistance , accompaniment to the courts, hospital and police station, and information and referrals. Speaking to a professional can provide insight about what one’s experiencing. Even if a person continued the relationship, counseling services can educate him or her on how to recognize the cues that indicate when an abuser will become violent so that immediate action is taken to remain safe. Professionals understand that leaving is not easy and that it can take various attempts to finally leave an abuser. A trained professional will respect a survivor’s decisions and when he or she decides to leave, can assist in creating a safety plan that will support this decision.
Make a safety plan.
There are some safety precautions a survivor can take if he or she is thinking about leaving the relationship.
Remember important phone numbers
Make copies of important documents and give to a trusted friend or family member to hold
Find a place you can go to if you need to leave quickly—a friend’s house, family member, hotel or domestic violence shelter.
Have an idea of how you will get out of the home (a window, fire escape) and how you will get away (car, bus, taxi)
Prepare a bag that contains the following: money, a change of clothes, spare keys and important documents (driver’s license, check book, medical records, birth certificates, health insurance cards, etc.). Keep this bag hidden or leave at a friend’s or family member’s house, your work or any other safe place in case you need to leave in an emergency.
Arrange with a friend to have an “emergency phrase” that your partner will not recognize. Or arrange a signal with a neighbor to let them know when you are in trouble.
If a person has children, his or her safety plan will also include them. Apart from the steps above, one can teach a child to contact a trusted adult, let school and/or daycare provider who else has permission to pick children up and if old enough share the plan with them.
If you or someone you know needs help, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at (800)799-7233. You are not alone.
In an emergency situation, always call 911. Emergency situations can include a recent threat of violence, a recent act of violence or if your safety or someone else’s is in imminent danger.
(all are 24 hours a day unless otherwise noted)
Legal information can be useful to help you understand your rights and know how your state and national laws protect you, and if you wish to press charges. View legal resources.
If you’re interested in advocating to help end domestic violence, learn how to get involved.
In Health,
Melinda
Moving home can be a stressful time for anyone. There is so much involved when it comes to moving out of one place and into a new one, and it can be easy to forget just what has been completed and what hasn’t. But, it’s important that you try to stay organized as much as possible, or you could find yourself in a sticky situation when moving time comes along. As such, if you’re thinking about moving home, then the advice in this article was written with you in mind. We’re going to take a look at some of the things that you don’t want to forget to do! Keep reading if you want to find out more.

Find Somewhere You Love
You shouldn’t move just anywhere because this is a huge waste of time. If you are going to move, then it has to be somewhere that you love, and if you can’t find somewhere you love, there should at least be a reason behind this. Whether you need to move quickly for a job offer, or simply because you want to be closer to family, these are both acceptable reasons to find a house that you could potentially grow to love, rather than one that you love right now. It can take quite a bit of time to find a place that you love enough to want to call home, but we suggest you take this time if you can.
When you move, it might be hard to say goodbye to your old home, and the moving process might not seem worth it if you’re not moving somewhere that you adore. When you walk through the front door, you want to feel the excitement, and like this is the place you belong, not that you’ve had to move here even though you didn’t really want to. Look online, visit estate agents, and be sure to look around to find the best place for you if you’ve got the time to do this.

Consider All Your Finances
Another thing that you’re going to have to do is consider all of your finances. You can use a site like MortgageCalculator.org to work out what kind of mortgage you’re going to be able to afford before you start looking. This just means that you will have a better idea as to what price range you should be looking at if you’re not going to be buying outright. But, of course, there is more than just a mortgage to consider when you’re moving home. You’ve also got to think about whether you need to sell your old home first or whether you can move without this help.
Then, there are the costs of actually moving. So, you are going to need an attorney or conveyor, someone to value your current home for when you put it on the market, you’re going to need the help of services to actually get you out of one home and into the new, etc. There is so much to think about, and we want you to consider all of this before you start the process. You don’t want to get halfway through only to realize that it is costing you a lot more than you originally planned for.
Make Your Home Marketable
The home that you’ve got now is likely going to go on the market, which means you’ve got to make it an attractive prospect. This means that if you’re not going to be selling it as a fixer-upper, you’re going to need to make all the repairs. Or, you’re going to have to lower the asking price if you know there is something that needs to be fixed. This is also a good solution if you need to sell the home fast because a good deal is something that people are always looking for.
When you’re preparing your home for sale, remember that potential buyers are looking for somewhere that they can see themselves living. They don’t want to see your family pictures all over the walls or anything like this, they want a blank canvas that they can imagine their own items being in. Paint the walls white to give this effect and make sure that it’s more like a showhome than the place in which you live.

Consider The State Of The Market
Another thing that you should do is consider the state of the market right now. It might not be the best time to buy, and if this is the case and you can afford to wait, it will be in your best interest. There is nothing worse than selling your home at a lower price and then paying a higher one for the new property. So, it’s important that you consider what kind of state the market is in at the time. If you don’t understand how this works, then you need to speak to someone who does so that they can tell you whether now is a good time or not.
Speak To An Estate Agent
Finally, we highly recommend that you speak to an estate agent because they have access to more properties than the ones listed. More often than not, there are at least one or two properties that haven’t been listed online or in the window just yet, but if they think it’s right for you, they will show you before anyone else gets a chance to see it. You also might be able to get a better deal on the home you want to move to if you use an estate agent as they know the market. We know that this costs money you might not really want to spend, but it’s the best way to ensure that you get what you’re looking for!
We hope that you have found this article helpful and now have a better idea about some of the things that you don’t want to forget to do if you’re going to be moving home. Good luck, and we hope that you end up exactly where you want to be without it being too much of a nightmare!
This is a collaborative post.
In Health,
Melinda
From the Aromalief Blog, you might be surprised at the difference between the two.
Aromalief Team
In February of 2020, the popular prescription pain relief cream Voltaren changed to Over the Counter through a process at the FDA called Rx to OTC. This cream was first approved in 2007 to help temporarily relieve arthritis pain. In this blog post, I would like to share with you the ingredient differences between our cream Aromalief and Voltaren made by Novartis.
Aromalief Hemp Pain Relief Cream combines the cooling power of naturally derived menthol with a blend of botanicals and nutrients. The preservatives used in Aromalief are non-toxic and help to prevent bacteria from growing in it.
ACTIVE INGREDIENTS
MENTHOL
INACTIVE INGREDIENTS
ALOE BARBADENSIS LEAF EXTRACT, WATER, STEARYL ALCOHOL, PRUNUS AMYGDALUS DULCIS (SWEET ALMOND) OIL, ISOPROPYL MYRISTATE, GLYCERYL STEARATE, MENTHYL LACTATE, GLYCERIN, PEG 100 STEARATE, CANNABIS SATIVA SEED OIL, ULVA LACTUCA LINNAEUS, FUCACEAE FUCUS VESICULOSUS, SODIUM HYALURONATE, HELIANTHUS ANNUUS (SUNFLOWER) SEED OIL, FRAGRANCE, LAVANDULA ANGUSTIFOLIA (LAVENDER) FLOWER OIL, MALTODEXTRIN, GLUCOSAMINE SULFATE, DIMETHYL SULFONE (MSM), L-ARGININE, GLYCOL STEARATE, PHENOXYETHANOL, CAPRYLYL GLYCOL
Voltaren Gel’s active ingredient is Diclofenac Sodium which is a Non-Steroidal Anti-Inflammatory Drugs also known as NSAIDs. Also included in the formula is Ammonia.
ACTIVE INGREDIENTS
DICLOFENAC SODIUM
INACTIVE INGREDIENTS
AMMONIA, CARBOMER HOMOPOLYMER TYPE C, COCO-CAPRYLATE/CAPRATE, ISOPROPYL ALCOHOL, MINERAL OIL, POLYOXYL 20 CETOSTEARYL ETHER, PROPYLENE GLYCOL, WATER
Annabell wrote this post in response to the questions she received on their Facebook page.
I can speak from personal experience: Aromalief works like no other topical cream I’ve used. Soon after I rub the cream on, it begins to warm up and has a light menthol and lavender scent. Nothing overpowering. I joke all the time that my dogs would not know it’s me without the Aromalief scent.
Aroalief is for tired, achy muscles, arthritis, fibromyalgia, and neuropathic pain. I even use it for my carpal tunnel in both hands.
Three things I’ve learned since having the opportunity to review Aromalief for Chronic Illness Bloggers are that she strives for excellence, guarantees 100% customer satisfaction, and is committed to the pain community. The bonus for me is that Aromalief is WOMEN-owned and made in America.
Here’s a copy of my review for Aromalief Lavender Hemp Pain Cream.
If you have any questions for Annabell, please write to her at Aromalief.
Melinda
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At 16 years old I had no idea that I would be battling chronic pain for more than 10 years. At that point, my migraine headaches were just annoying and bothered me when I wanted to have fun. Little did I know I was in for a battle of a lifetime with my pain and mental health. I spent years fighting the idea of the disease rather than treating it. The stereotype of a sick person was stuck in my head and ruled my life for so long.
I vividly remember my doctor explaining to me what chronic migraine is. At this appointment, she showed me pictures and explained neural pathways and symptoms. All those things did not matter to me because when she looked in my eyes and said, “Chronic migraine is a disease, and it affects your entire body.” I was taken back, I never considered it a disease and I did not think others did either. The word “disease” stuck with me for years, it played in my head like a broken record. Constantly reminded myself that I had a disease, and something was wrong with me.
I longed for pain-free days where I could spend time with friends and not have to explain my absence from work. I was embarrassed by my body’s inability to manage pain so I kept my diagnosis to myself. Letting it fester in my mind hurt me more than the actual pain. I spent years trying medications and treatments, desperately searching for a cure. I wanted the pain to subside, but I was more concerned with leaving the label of disease behind me. What I did not realize was I put the label on myself and let it affect how I saw the world. No medication could fix the way I viewed myself or my chronic migraine. When I found myself having to visit the emergency room for anxiety, I knew something had to change but I did not know what.
I was confused about how I got to this point in my life. I was afraid to be alone and constantly worried about my pain. Every minute of the day I thought, what if it is more than just migraine. I was no longer myself, and I did not know how to get me back. I missed the person who wrote poetry and enjoyed a night out. At a 6-month checkup, I decided to share all the worries I was having about my pain. I was crying my eyes out, terrified that all my worst fears were coming true. After what seemed like the longest doctor appointment of my life, I left with an MRI referral and a therapy referral.
The MRI came back normal, so I decided to add therapy, meditation, and exercise into my treatment plan. In addition to my medications, these things have aided me in relieving the anxiety and depression that came with my chronic pain. I started to learn that my body is not against me, nor is it as fragile as I once believed. The exercise shows me that my body is strong and can accomplish many things. Meditation allows me to put my mind at ease and my therapy allows me to express my fears without judgment. Having chronic migraine no longer lays heavy on my mind, because I learned to trust my body.
I never wanted to say the words, “I have chronic migraine disease,” out loud. Partially because it made it too real and partially out of embarrassment. Today, I pick my kids up from school with a red Botox face and talk about my treatment. Now that I see having chronic pain does not control who I am as a person. I am able to accept my diagnosis. This new acceptance has freed me from the mental anguish I put myself through trying to hide my pain and fears. I allow myself to take time when I need it, but I also push myself to be more than migraine.

Brandy Garcia has lived with chronic migraine for over 10 years, but she doesn’t let that stop her. While raising three children, Brandy is pursuing a degree in psychology and writing poetry. She became a U.S. Pain ambassador to help others who have lived in pain, like her. She believes that people in pain can live a fulfilled and joyful life.
Chronic pain–defined as ongoing pain that continues for longer than six months–is a common complaint of patients with persistent Lyme disease.
The CDC estimates that 20% of Americans currently live with chronic pain. Estimates range from 10% to 36% of Lyme patients who are diagnosed and treated early are left with chronic symptoms.
For the past 40 years, the medical definition of chronic pain was more narrowly defined, including only those patients with actual or potential tissue damage.
Recently, with the help of researchers at Johns Hopkins Medicine, the International Association for the Study of Pain (IASP) has made a subtle but important change to the medical definition of pain.
The new definition, “An unpleasant sensory and emotional experience associated with, or resembling that associated with, actual or potential tissue damages,” is important as it includes the pain caused by an overstimulated nervous system, commonly associated with chronic pain.
This new more inclusive definition, if adopted by insurance providers, could have a positive impact on access to health care for disempowered and neglected populations.
If you suffer from chronic pain, you have likely been asked to rate your pain on a scale of 1-10. As much as you may dislike rating your pain, this information helps your medical provider gauge whether you are making progress with the current treatment plan, or not.
Having worked as a physical therapist for years, I found the Visual Analog Scale (VAS) works better than telling someone to simply “rate your pain on a scale of 0-10,” especially with children.
Because Lyme disease can affect every organ and system of the body, every patient may have a different set of complaints. While neck, joint and muscle pain are very common in early Lyme disease, there are many other types of pain when the disease becomes chronic.
For instance, allodynia is a type of pain that is caused by something that shouldn’t normally cause pain (eg. wind or light touch may feel like sandpaper or a burn.) Menstrual pain, bladder pain, testicular pain, bone pain, and widespread nerve pain are common in chronic Lyme patients.
When I explain pain to patients, I use the cup theory. Depending on your age, your brain, and your body, everyone has a different size cup—or a different capacity—for pain. We are each only capable of handling a certain amount of pain. Once your cup is full, you are essentially at a 10 out of 10 on your individual pain scale.
You may have a constant headache filling your cup 1/2 way (or 5:10 on your pain scale), and then your knee starts hurting pushing you up to a 7:10, and then your lower back spasms, and BOOM–your cup is full!
What I’ve found is that if we can help chronic pain patients empty their cup just a little, we can start to make progress. When my daughter was at her worst, I couldn’t get rid of her pain completely. However, if I could help lower her pain even a little bit, she was able to function. Here is some of what I learned along the way.
For six years, my daughter lived with chronic debilitating pain. Early symptoms included fever, neck stiffness and a migraine that would not subside. Two months later, she developed knee pain and swelling along with back and bone pain. Later, she said soles of her feet felt like she was walking on nails. Periodically, she suffered excruciating abdominal pain and nausea. And the list goes on…
The first year, she was too sick to leave the house, except for doctor and hospital visits. Luckily, as a Physical Therapist (PT), I could provide pain management treatment and modalities at home. Once she began to gain strength, after starting treatment for her infections, she started seeing an outpatient PT, who brought a whole new set of skills to the table. This also relieved me of my dual role as caretaker and healthcare provider—something I don’t recommend.
In the beginning, she was so weak I had to do everything for her. I would wheel her to the bathroom, bring her all her meals, help her get dressed–everything. The treatment I provided was limited to positioning for comfort, passive range of motion, gentle massage, hot/cold, taping/bracing, acupressure and craniosacral therapy. As she got stronger, she learned self-treatment techniques that she continues to use today.
Self-treatment approaches are generally low-cost and low-risk. You can do them on your own schedule in the comfort of your own home. It does require a commitment to changing your daily habits, but they can offer significant improvements in reducing pain and improving your quality of life.
Here are 12 things you can discuss as treatment options with your healthcare provider.
Most of the immune system originates in the gut. Literally, everything you put into your body is part of the healing process. Or not. You want to support the immune system without feeding inflammation. Fast food, artificial/processed foods, carbs, sugar, gluten, dairy and alcohol are common inflammatory triggers. In my mast cell activation syndrome (MCAS) series, I wrote about low histamine diets that help reduce the inflammation associated with MCAS.
When you’re in pain, it can be difficult to find a comfortable position. When my daughter was at her worst, she found it difficult to breath when she was lying flat. We added 4-inch wooden blocks under the feet at the head of her bed, and a large wedge pillow to elevate her head. When her back was hurting, it also helped to put a pillow under her knees.
You can get really creative with pillows. For instance, body pillows or “hug” pillows work well if you are a side sleeper.
While you are sitting, you may want to try out different size pillows or towel rolls for comfort. Putting a pillow on your lap to support your arms or one behind the small of your back may help. As a rule, you want to change positions every 30-60 minutes. This helps prevent pressure sores and muscle stiffness.
Some people find it worth their while to rent a hospital-type bed, where the head and/or feet can be elevated.
Wheelchairs, walkers, canes, bath/shower chairs, long-handled reachers (sometimes called grabbers) are all good examples of assistive devices. Items like tray tables, lap tables, bath caddies, tote bags or tinted reading glasses can also make life easier.
Other things designed for reducing pain may include ace bandage wraps, shoulder sling, wrist, knee or ankle braces and shoe orthotics. You may also find over-the-counter topical pain relievers or CBD oil to be helpful. There are stronger topical pain relievers available by prescription.
When you are sick you must be very conservative with energy expenditure. Modifying or changing your activities so they do not aggravate your symptoms is extremely important. Restricting, reducing, or spacing out your activities can help reduce pain and fatigue.
The key is to know your limits and stay within them. Pacing is similar to the concept of the “Spoon Theory” where you are only given a small supply of spoons to use each day—so use them wisely. When you are sick is not the time to try to push past the pain. In our house, we found sticking to a schedule that we affectionately call “Groundhog Day” helps to keep the pace.
Active range of motion (ROM) is a simple activity that almost anyone can do, whether lying down, sitting or standing. It helps to bring blood flow to the extremities and maintain or increase flexibility. The idea is to move every joint in the body through its full range. One example is to fully spread your fingers open, then fully close your fist. I recommend starting with the neck and working your way down to shoulders, elbows, wrists, torso, hips, knees, then feet.
If you are extremely de-conditioned, getting in/out of the shower and washing your hair may count as your active range of motion for that day. However, some people may be too weak or in too much pain to move at all. For these people, someone else must assist them with moving the extremities. We call this passive range of motion. While motion is important, the main goal is to make the pain better not worse.
Activity in any form can help improve mobility which may help reduce pain. Too much (or the wrong) activity can also make things worse. Once you are able, gentle exercise programs like, walking, stretching, yoga, tai chi, Pilates, and pool therapy can be a great benefit. To begin with, I recommend adding light weights (1-3 lb household items like broom handles or cans of soup work fine) to your ROM stretches.
“Sunlight Chair Yoga” is a type of adaptive yoga you may want to look at.
Yoga stresses the value of deep breathing. Deep breathing involves the diaphragm, a dome-shaped muscle that forms the floor to the lungs. Such breathing is also essential to meditation and mindfulness.
The key to diaphragmatic breathing is to focus on deep relaxation and making the exhale portion of your breath twice as long as the inhale.
Meditation and mindfulness can help reduce stress and physiological responses to stress, which in turn, can help reduce pain. I suggest starting with something like Jyothi meditation, which involves simply gazing at a candle.
Creating art, journaling, gardening, reading a good book, even just sitting outdoors and listening to the sounds of nature can help distract from pain. Research has shown that music helps the brain release dopamine our “feel-good” hormone. The important thing is to find something that, gives you hope, brings you joy or something you are grateful for each day.
For this I recommend getting a “moist” heating pad and ice pack from your local pharmacy and use as directed. Heat can help relax muscle tightness and improve circulation. Cold can reduce inflammation and numb an area of localized pain.
I usually recommend 10-20 min of moist heat for stiffness, and 10-15 min of cold for pain. Certain types of pain may respond better to one than the other, or you may find alternating hot/cold works best. (Note: If you have problems with blood clotting, bleeding or impaired circulation, you should check with your medical provider before using hot/cold.)
Epsom salt is a combination of magnesium, sulfur and oxygen ions known as magnesium sulfate. Most of the benefits of Epsom salt come from the magnesium, one of the most important minerals in the human body. A magnesium deficiency will create an electrolyte imbalance and can also lead to calcium and/or potassium deficiencies. Among other things, magnesium helps your body produce melatonin and certain neurotransmitters needed for sleep.
I suggest purchasing Epsom salt from your local pharmacy or other reputable supplier to ensure the highest quality and use as directed. Add the salt to a warm bathtub or foot bath. In as little as 15 minutes, it can help relax muscles, improve circulation, loosen joint stiffness, relieve pain and promote calm.
I like to add a few drops of lavender or use a diffuser for additional aroma therapy during bath time. If you don’t have access to a bath or don’t tolerate heat, magnesium can be purchased in gel form and rubbed on your skin.
If you’ve had or have Lyme, you are likely no stranger to insomnia. During the first year of my daughter’s illness, her symptoms would peak after midnight, making it impossible for her to fall asleep until around 6 a.m. Essentially, her days and nights were reversed.
I can tell you from experience, there are a lot of standard techniques for improving sleep hygiene that simply DO NOT work for Lyme patients. So, while you are trying to turn things around, my advice is to sleep when you are tired and nap whenever possible. Even if you can’t sleep, it’s important to lie down. You need at minimum 8 hours of rest every day. Also talk to your doctor about adding a low dose of melatonin.
Modalities to help improve strength, mobility, and flexibility can help to relieve pain temporarily. Over time, improved function may help reduce the underlying cause of the pain. I am a big fan of hands-on treatment by a trained professional.
The following is a partial list of therapies you might consider.:
Last but not least I do believe the key to happiness is laughter. Laughter reduces stress hormones like cortisol and releases endorphins, the body’s natural pain reliever. My simple advice is to avoid things that cause you stress, fear or anger.
Watch comedy or movies with happy endings. Stay connected with someone you can be honest with, one who listens and can make you laugh. Above all else, never give up hope.
LymeSci is written by Lonnie Marcum, a Licensed Physical Therapist and mother of a daughter with Lyme. In 2019-2020, she served on a subcommittee of the federal Tick-Borne Disease Working Group. Follow her on Twitter: @LonnieRhea Email her at: lmarcum@lymedisease.org .
Melinda
References:
Dahlhamer J, Lucas J, Zelaya, C, et al. (2016) Prevalence of Chronic Pain and High-Impact Chronic Pain Among Adults — United States. MMWR Morb Mortal Wkly Rep 2018;67:1001–1006. DOI: http://dx.doi.org/10.15585/mmwr.mm6736a2
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I believe self-care is something we can do every day, it doesn’t have to be big steps but can be small steps to add joy throughout the day. Here are some of the small steps I take every day for my self-care and mental health.
There are affiliate links in this post for which I make a small commission. They do not cost you extra to use and they help supply my coffee habit.
Compangie de Provence Savon Liquide Marseille Nourrissant
Compagnie de Provence Savon de Marseille Extra Pure Liquid Soap – Karite Shea Butter – 16.7 Fl Oz Glass Pump Bottle.
This hand soap is so luxurious, it has a light scent and leaves hands so soft. It’s pricey but a little goes a long way so it lasts a long time. This soap is so nurturing to my hands I have to use lotion fewer times a day.
Dead Sea Salt
5 lbs Raw Dead SEA Salt Not Cleaned, Still Contains All Dead sea Minerals Including Dead sea Mud, Fine Medium Grain Large resealable Bulk Pack,
This is a great way to get the benefits of the Dead Sea without traveling. I like this brand because it has plenty of mud and all the properties of the Dead Sea. I use it for a quick foot soak or a hot relaxing bath. The salts remove toxins from your body and leave everything nice and exfoliated.
Things I’m Loving Self-Care Made Easy
D&L Co Candle

Full Spectrum Light: The light therapy lamp delivers bright light at up to 10,000 lux to provide you with your daily boost of sunshine
I purchased the lamp for myself and my father-in-law and have used it every day for at least thirty minutes. The days are getting shorter and I wanted to make sure my mood was not affected by having less light during the day.
Mrs. Meyers Liquid Dish, Hand Soap, and Spray Cleaner
Mrs. Meyer’s Clean Day Kitchen Basics Set, Includes: Multi-Surface Cleaner, Hand Soap, Dish Soap, Lemon Verbena Scent, 3 Count Pack
Using Mrs. Meyer’s products is the simplest self-care I do for myself all day long. Their products smell great, are good for the environment, and last a long time. Just a squirt of dish or hand soap is all you need. These are my kitchen staples.
Compagnie de Provence Shea Butter Hand Cream
Compagnie de Provence Shea Butter – Karite – Hand Cream 3.4 Fl Oz Tube ✓ Contains 100% pure and natural, fair trade Shea Butter and Coconut Oil; NATURAL ✓ Free of coloring agents and animal fats.
For the ultimate in daily hand care, this lotion complements the hand soap I use in my bathroom. It absorbs nicely and doesn’t leave a greasy feeling. It has a very light scent.
Gold Bond Ultimate Foot Cream
Gold Bond Ultimate Softening Foot Cream with Shea Butter, 4 Ounce, Leaves Rough, Dry, Calloused Feet, Heels, and Soles Feeling Smoother and Softer.
This cream makes your feet feel great and look even better. No more cracked heels.
These are a few of my favorites and will share more with you in another post. There is so much you can do for your self-care that isn’t time-consuming and will brighten your day. What are some of your easy self-care tips? Do you take time out every day for self-care or only special occasions?
Thank you for all the wonderful comments about my post on Subscription Boxes last week, I’m so glad you enjoyed the post. Some of you have signed up and I can’t wait to hear about your fist box.
In Health,
Melinda
Many of you have asked to see a photo of my new pound puppy, so meet Jet. He’s around 10 pounds and will probably get a little taller, not much. He came in as a litter fo four and I picked the cutest runt there was. Jet’s a terrier mix and that’s all we know but he has the hunting thing down, you should see him go after the bees in my rosemary bush. I’ve also included a photo of him and sister Griffy. Our three-year-old Brussels Griffon mix.
Did you get a new pet during the pandemic? So. many animals were being adopted in the surrounding cities it took us three months to find any dog. We were looking for an older dog but Jet came up for adoption and I couldn’t pass up his little personality. He’s me snuggle bunny. He’s also the reason I’ve lost 27 pounds! Keeping up with him non-stop is giving so much exercise. That and cutting out the cookies!

I have a mental illness called Treatment-Resistant Bipolar Disorder Type 1, which means I am depressed more often than I am manic or hypo-manic. There’s no cure for mental illness and I manage day to day by taking a combination of medications, regular visits to my therapist, and most importantly my Psycophamracologist.
Why is a Psychopharmacologist?
Psychopharmacologists are critical for your mental health if you have a severe mental illness that requires a combination of medications or a complex disorder. I have both. Psychopharmacologists know how each drug affects the brain which allows them to be very specific in the type of medication they prescribe and the amount.
I would not be alive without my doctor, no question about that. It’s quite frightening that he is about to retire after seeing him for over 25 years and he still has no recommendation on who will take his practice over. There are only a few Psychopharmacologist in my area. You may have difficulty finding one or insurance may cap what they pay since they are more expensive than Psychiatrists. In my case, he doesn’t take insurance. I have to pay upfront and file myself. It’s worth every extra penny and ounce of effort.
Why are they so hard to find? My understanding is the curriculum is more specialized than a medical doctor or Psychiatrist. It’s basically a Psychiatrist with a degree in Pharmacology. Dr. T says that most doctors today want to keep their studies wide open and not narrow down their field of practice. It’s a loss to all of us who have a mental illness.
A psychopharmacologist is someone who studies the effects of drugs on behavior. The field of psychopharmacology includes both psychiatric drugs used to manage mental disorders and psychotropic drugs utilized recreationally. Psychopharmacologists study psychology, psychiatry, and pharmacology, integrating knowledge about human behavior and mental disorders into their study of drug development. A related field, neuropharmacology, focuses on drugs which cause functional changes in the nervous system.
World Mental Health Day is an international day for global mental health education, awareness, and advocacy against social stigma. It was first celebrated in 1992 at the initiative of the World Federation for Mental Health, a global mental health organization with members and contacts in more than 150 countries.
This day, each October, thousands of supporters come to celebrate this annual awareness program to bring attention to mental illness and its major effects on peoples’ lives worldwide.
Resources
Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance
International Bipolar Foundation
National Institute of Mental Health
National SuicidePreventionLifeline.org
1-800-273-TALK (8255)
Press 1, Veterans Crisis Line USA
Press 2, Se Habla Español
LifeLine Chat
CrisisTextLine.org
Text 741-741
Facebook.com/CrisisTextLine
TheTrevorProject.org (LGBTQ Youth)
1-866-488-7386 (24/7/365)
TrevorChat (7 days/week from 3PM–10PM ET / noon–3PM PT)
TrevorText — text START to 678-678 (Mon–Fri, 3PM–10PM ET / noon–3PM PT)
Brain & Behavior Research Foundation (BBRFoundation.org): Awards grants for scientific research. Keep up to date on the latest research
International Bipolar Foundation (IBPF.org): Bipolar research. Care and support resources for individuals and caregivers. Erase stigma through education.
MentalHealth.gov: US government mental health resources and information.
MentalHealthAmerica.net (MHA): Address the needs of those living with mental illness. Promote mental health.
National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI.org): Build better lives for the millions of Americans affected by mental illness.
National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH.nih.gov): Federal agency for research on mental disorders.
NeedyMeds.org: 1-800-503-6897. Educates and empowers those seeking affordable healthcare.
Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA.gov): Reduce the impact of substance abuse and mental illness on America’s communities.
If you know of other resources please drop me a line in the comments section, I’ll add to my resources list under Organizations Who Can Help.
In Health,
Melinda
Want to know the facts? When it comes down to it, Fibromyalgia is a neurological condition where nerve signals produced in the brain cause widespread muscle pain and tenderness. Fibromyalgia can also often bring fatigue, disrupted sleep, memory issues, and changes in mood.
As of now, pain management is the only way to find relief from this condition, as there is no known cure for Fibromyalgia. Some common ways to help control the symptoms of Fibromyalgia include medications, talk therapy, and stress reduction.
According to Healthline.com, CBD is commonly used to ease chronic pain symptoms and reduce inflammation, as an alternative to taking opioid prescriptions. CBD is not suggested to be addictive or have any serious side effects like opioids.
What is CBD?
Want to learn more about CBD? Cannabidiol (CBD) is a natural occurring, non-intoxicating, Cannabinoid found in the cannabis plant. There are hundreds of types of Cannabinoids, some found in both plants and mammals. As you read this article, your body is generating its own cannabinoids. CBD is not the same as THC. THC is the intoxicating and psychoactive Cannabinoid found in cannabis that gives a “high” effect. CBD does not get you high, and CBD products have little to no THC in them.
Our bodies are designed to self-heal when operating at their best (homeostasis). However, like a car, the more strain or stress your body goes through, and the older you get, things may stop working. When this happens, your body is not as good at healing itself as it once was. This can be brought on early by sicknesses, chronic pain, mental health disorders, and more.
Often, substituting cannabidiol (CBD) instead of pharmaceutical drugs provides a safe, more natural approach to finding relief from your ailments. Using natural cannabinoids can help revive your body’s natural ability to fix itself by initiating an increase in the production of organic compounds vital to maintaining health and balance.
These organic compounds interact with one of your body’s best-kept secrets—the Endocannabinoid System (ECS). Its purposes range from neuroprotection to regulation of your immune system, impacting appetite, sleep, mood, pain, and promoting overall balance.
CBD, Fibromyalgia and the FDA
The Food and Drug Administration (FDA) has not yet approved CBD as a treatment option for Fibromyalgia or most other conditions.
According to Medical News Today, “Only a few studies have looked at the effectiveness of CBD in treating Fibromyalgia. Researchers cannot decisively say why the compound appears to reduce some Fibromyalgia symptoms, but there are some strong theories that are still being tested in research. They also do not understand why it works in some people and not in others. A review from 2013 states that cannabidiol (CBD) can help to relieve pain caused by Fibromyalgia and other conditions, including Rheumatoid Arthritis and Multiple Sclerosis (MS).”
There are currently no published studies on Fibromyalgia that look at the effects of CBD on its own. However, some research does look at the effects of cannabis, which may contain multiple cannabinoids, on fibromyalgia.
Studies:
A 2019 study assessed any clinical improvement attributable to the addition of medical cannabis treatment (MCT) to the standard analgesic treatment of Fibromyalgia (FM) patients, the retention rate, and any changes in the concomitant analgesic treatment over a period of six months. This observational study shows that adjunctive MCT offers a possible clinical advantage in FM patients, especially in those with sleep dysfunctions. The clinical improvement inversely correlated with BMI.
A 2011 study looked at 56 people with Fibromyalgia who did not respond to current treatment. Significant relief of pain, stiffness, relaxation, somnolence, and perception of well-being was evaluated before and 2 hours after cannabis self-administration was observed.
A 2009 review found that CBD can be used to relieve neuropathic pain and suggests it might be a useful adjunct to other pain medications.
What CBD Products are Best for Fibromyalgia?
With a limited number of studies, it’s impossible to say right now which CBD products will work best for Fibromyalgia. One thing studies have shown is that it can vary from person to person. In many cases, the best way to find the right CBD product for you is simply trial and error.
Generally speaking, individuals who may only need occasional relief from aches and pains in specific areas may be satisfied with a CBD pain cream. For others looking for relief from stress, anxiety, sleep disruptions, mood disorders, and overall balance, a CBD tincture spray incorporated into a regular wellness routine may do the trick. Combining the two could do wonders.
If you’re wondering about edibles, capsules, and other CBD products consumed through your stomach and digestive tract, the simple answer is that these prove to be less effective than Topicals and Tinctures.
One of the biggest factors to consider in the performance of CBD products is the thoroughness that the CBD is absorbed into your bloodstream.
This is why Redeem Therapeutics is focused on providing the very best Tinctures & Topicals (essentially this means oils and lotions). By avoiding gastrointestinal administration completely, you get maximum effectiveness.
Where Can I Find the Most Effective CBD Products?
When it comes to CBD, you want to find a brand that you can trust. That’s why I recommend Redeem Therapeutics.
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Moving to a new home can often seem like an absolutely enormous task, as there are just so many different responsibilities you have to think about at any given time during your project. Luckily, keeping calm throughout your home move needn’t be as difficult as you might think, as there are a few simple tips and tricks that you can make the most of to ensure everything goes to plan. So, if you would like to find out more about how you can take the stress out of your move, then read on to uncover some of the best steps that you can follow now!

Don’t Be Afraid To Ask For Help
Struggling through such a large task by yourself is bound to become a laborious and draining exercise, so you needn’t be afraid to ask for help. Whether you reach out to family and friends to ask a favor or seek some specialist professional support, don’t make the mistake of tackling every step on your own. You can find friendly estate agents to help you uncover the ideal property, visit a reputable vehicle relocation site like https://carsrelo.com/ that can transport your car to your new home, hire some handy tradesmen to tackle any decor or engineering tasks, and even enlist the services of a stylish interior designer!
Plan Every Detail
Far too many people make the mistake of simply diving headfirst into a home move by facing different tasks whenever the dire need arises, but one of the best things you can do to reduce your stress is to plan each and every detail. It’s a great idea to take a notebook or utilize a digital alternative on your smartphone, writing down each task (such as payment deadlines, move-in dates, change of mailing addresses, etc). Search online to find inspiration for what to include on this list, as there are many helpful resources that can help to make sure that you don’t forget any of the essentials. You can tick off each task as you go to encourage you to stay motivated and identify which steps remain to reach your ultimate goal.
Take Some Time Out
Moving to a new home can be a totally consuming process, as it’s such a huge life change that will no doubt affect the way that you lead each day. Letting yourself get too involved with your move will raise your stress levels and inspire you to think of nothing else, so you should take some time out every now and then to relax and unwind. Whether you decide to have a long hot bath, a session of meditation, or a walk around your local park, just having the opportunity to take your mind off your project will do you good.
Keeping calm when moving house has never been so simple when you are able to make the most of the top tips and tricks detailed above! Stay cool and collected whilst you start a new chapter.
This is a collaborative post.
In health,
Melinda
What is Seasonal Affective Disorder?
Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) is an older term for Major Depressive Disorder (MDD) with a seasonal pattern. It’s a psychological condition that results in depression which is normally provoked by seasonal change. The condition most often occurs in women, adolescents, and young adults.
Many times people will start to see a pattern to their depression as the seasons change. This is common in the winter months and in areas where it is darker more than there is light outside. SAD is more common the countries like Alaska and Canada than in South America.
SAD is classified into two types, one in the Summertime and the other in the Wintertime. The symptoms are markedly different.
Summertime symptoms are:
agitation
difficulty sleeping
increased restlessness
lack of appetite
weight loss
Wintertime symptoms are:
daytime fatigue
difficulty concentrating
feelings of hopelessness
increased irritability
lack of interest in social activities
lethargy
reduced sexual interest
unhappiness
weight gain
How do you know if you have Seasonal Affective Disorder?
If you notice these symptoms you should talk with your doctor right away and it would help if you kept a journal as to when the depression started. This will help the doctor make a correct diagnosis especially if you notice the changes appear to be seasonal. The more information you can provide the doctor more accurately they can diagnosis your depression.
How do you treat Seasonal Affective Disorder?
Your doctor can determine the best treatment and in severe cases, may prescribe medication or a combination of treatments. One treatment known to help is Light Box Therapy or a Lamp because they are specially designed to put out a minimum of 10,000 Lux full-spectrum light.
Here’s my post on the Top 5 SAD Lamps
I hope you will seek out more information and talk with your doctor if your symptoms are troubling you.
In Health,
Melinda
Reference
https://www.healthline.com/health
https://www.webmd.com/depression/sad-directory
https://www.webmd.com/depression/depression-or-dysthymia#1
Why Rain & Clouds Are Stressful
It is the season to be gloomy. Gray clouds in the sky and puddles on the path! For a lot of people, autumnal and wintry weather can affect your mood dramatically. Did you know that rain and clouds could be a potent source of stress in your life?
This year, especially, creates new stressful events that affect all of us. Nobody can ignore how much the COVID-19 pandemic has been a challenge for our mental health. Yet, the pandemic fear isn’t the only thing that can lead to stress during the last quarter of the year.
SAD symptoms get worse
You are probably familiar with Seasonal Affective Disorder, especially if you’ve been consciously self-isolated this year. SAD, for short, is a type of depressive disorder that is linked to seasonal light exposures. Typically, it occurs when days get shorter and nights longer, as you receive less direct sunlight. As the summer has come to an end, you may find your mood sinking again. SAD can develop into severe depression, so it’s not a disorder you should ignore. Thankfully, a lot of individuals with SAD can experience significant improvements with light therapy. Did you know that something as simple as buying a lamp for SAD may help to create the feel-good serotonin that affects your brain’s needs?
Floodings everywhere
After the sunny summer comes the autumn rain. Unfortunately, some areas are more likely to get flooded during the colder months because the soil can’t absorb the rainwater. Unfortunately, depending on where you live, seasonal floods may be a frequent occurrence. Even if your home is safe from significant damages, you could still get affected when you drive on the road. It’s not uncommon to come across deep puddles in winter that could damage your engines. Ideally, countryside dwellers need vehicles that can survive heavy floods, such as the reliable high-chassis Land Rover Discovery – You may want to head to your local Land Rover dealerships to find a vehicle that can drive through deep water.
Only 2 months before Christmas
It is soon the season to be jolly! Except that Christmas can also drive your stress levels to the maximum. A lot of people are already experiencing pre-Christmas stress when they think of the cost of preparation, shopping for presents, and the pressure to deal with family expectations. With a little over 2 months to get ready, it’s likely that you may be feeling overwhelmed already. It’s been an odd sort of year, and time has seemed to fly away from us.
The feeling that the year has gone by too quickly
How can it already be October? The last time you checked, it was March and the news of a pandemic was just hitting the media. What happened to 2020? While everyone has had to put their lives on hold for the past 6 months, it’s hard to get to grips with the reality of the situation. It feels like a wasted year where you haven’t been able to enjoy much of it. For the time being, we have to learn patience to stay safe.
In conclusion, feeling stressed or depressed by the rainy season is the most natural thing in the world. Thankfully, there are more than one ways to handle the situation. Whether you need to consider light therapy or organize your Christmas events early, stress is a response to a problem. Yet, most problems can be solved once you’ve identified your triggers!
This is a collaborative post.
In Health,
Melinda

I was a child, six months old. You left me in the bathtub while you answered the door. Did you want me to drown?
I was a child, a baby, running a high fever in the middle of winter. You pushed my highchair in front of an open window to cool me down. Did your mother teach you that?
I was a child, a toddler, You dug your nails into my underarms so none would see the bruises. Granny didn’t understand why I cried so hard when you grabbed me by the arm.
I was a child, a teenager. You slapped me for the last time, I fought back. One swing and your husband punches me in the mouth with his fist. Were you glad he came to your rescue?
I was a child, a teenager. You told Child Protective Services I was mentally ill and you were trying to get me admitted to the state hospital. Crazy, who me?
I became an adult, no longer a child, and realized the manipulation and pain you caused and severed all ties. Why do you still send my Birthday and Christmas cards?
I was a child…..
Melinda
