Health and Wellbeing · Men & Womens Health

Hope Is An Action

April 2019 E-Newsletter

Explore Your Definition Of Hope And Experience What It Can Inspire You To Do!
Bring Change to Mind’s High School Program is proud to introduce its first collective call to action week for all participating clubs nationwide. Starting April 8th, we are dedicating this five-day campaign to the hashtag “Hope Is An Action.” We invite our entire community to join us in sharing this inspirational week with your family, friends, and social networks.

Throughout this week, we aim to encourage communities to explore what hope means to them by exploring their own definition of hope, what it can look like, and experiencing what it can inspire you to do. These hopeful discoveries can be used to incite positive change while nurturing empathetic and compassionate conversations about mental health.

For each day’s theme, BC2M has suggested a few different ways you can engage in this campaign. Most activities incorporate social media presence to spread the message throughout your community and throughout the greater BC2M community.

We are thrilled to have our 180 clubs and more than 5.000 club members participate in our first BC2M-wide campaign activation and we can’t wait for you to be a part of this collective!

Hope is something that everyone needs and it is particularly important to those living with mental illness. We ‘hope” that you will be inspired to join this growing movement of mental health advocacy and share the importance of compassion with your community.

How can you support the campaign? 
Share the posts below on your social media channels!
My Face of Hope
Monday, April 8, 2019

We all have those people who move us, who keep us going when we feel our inner light diminishing. Maybe that person is a family member, best friend, historical figure, or even a fictional character. Whoever that special person is, take a moment to tell us why they inspire you. #HopeIsAnAction #MyFaceOfHope #BringChangeToMind #TheFutureIsStigmaFree #BC2M

Spreading the Hope
Tuesday, April 9, 2019

Most of us have experienced a rotten day that has been turned around by a stranger complimenting us, or touched our hearts in a small-but-mighty way. No act of kindness is too small. Take a moment today to touch somebody’s heart with an unsolicited, kind gesture. #HopeIsAnAction #SpreadingTheHope #BringChangeToMind #TheFutureIsStigmaFree #BC2M

Hope Grows
Wednesday, April 10, 2019

Did you know that gratitude improves physical and emotional health, enhances empathy, improves your self-esteem, and may even help you sleep better? Take a moment to jot down three things that you are grateful for today. Keep it to yourself, or share it with somebody! Where gratitude grows, hope grows. #HopeIsAnAction #HopeGrows #BringChangeToMind #TheFutureIsStigmaFree #BC2M

Finding Hope
Thursday, April 11, 2019

It can be difficult to find hope in the midst of gloom. There are days where you may need to lay in bed and listen to an intentionally heart-wrenching playlist, but then there will be days where you need to get out of the house and actively search for brightness. Have you looked up at the sky today? Noticed the leaves in the trees? Is there something that catches your eye and makes you smile on your way to or from work? We want to see how YOU find hope! #HopeIsAnAction #FindingHope #BringChangeToMind #TheFutureIsStigmaFree #BC2M

Hope is an Action
Friday, April 12, 2019

We hope this week has shown you that each small effort and action add up to create waves throughout your community — a ripple effect that you might not even be aware of. With this past week’s activities in mind, use today to contemplate steps you can take moving forward to keep spreading hope because hope is an action! #HopeIsAnAction #BringChangeToMind #TheFutureIsStigmaFree #BC2M

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Men & Womens Health

‘Me Time’ In The Holiday — Guest Blogger Fibroflair.com

‘Me Time’ In the Holiday The Easter holiday is upon us…umm…who called it a holiday? Ok so there is no morning school rush which, I have to admit, is great but…there is very little peace and quiet at home.

via ‘Me Time’ In The Holiday — Fibroflair.com

Moving Forward

Change.org New Bill to protect LGBTQ

Please visit Change.org to see the original petition to sign.

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Change.org

Melinda — A new bill in Congress would be the first national nondiscrimination law for LGBTQ Americans. If it passes, those in the LGBTQ community would no longer have to worry about losing their jobs because of who they are. Mark decided to start this petition because he sees this as a fight for basic civil rights. Sign now to stand with Mark and put pressure on lawmakers to pass the Equality Act.
U.S. House of Representatives: Pass the Equality Act
Petition by Mark Lester
Dublin, CA, United States
1,810
Supporters

 

A bill was just introduced that would modify existing civil rights legislation that bans employment, housing, public accommodation, jury service, education, federal programs, and credit discrimination against LGBTQ+ people.

Even today, in most states, a gay couple can get married, post a photo on social media, and get fired from their jobs for it.

This new bill would add “gender identity” and “sexual orientation” to the classes protected by the Civil Rights Act of 1964. The 1964 act doesn’t protect discrimination against all protected classes in retail stores, emergency shelters, banks, transit, and pharmacies. This bill would update that.

If this bill were to be signed into law, it would be the first national nondiscrimination law for LGBTQ Americans. That is monumental.

More than a third of LGBTQ Americans live in the south, but there are no LGBTQ anti-discrimination laws in the south.

By enacting the Equality Act, those LGBTQ people living in the south would be protected. They wouldn’t have to worry about losing their jobs for being who they are.

If you believe in LGBTQ+ rights, sign and share this petition now.

Celebrate Life · Fun

Prompt for Week *FAB* #SoCS

Theirs was a great British show called Absolutely Fabulous, everything the two women did was FAB, drink all day, their obsession with ill-fitted designer clothes, it was quite funny. Writing about today sounds like a couple of middle age drunks, obsessed with their designer clothes and how Fab they looked. Which I can say we’re not so FAB. 

Melinda


 

Join us for the fun and sharing good media stories  

For more on the Stream of Consciousness Saturday, visit Linda Hill’s blog. Here’s the link:
Here are the rules for SoCS:
1. Your post must be stream of consciousness writing, meaning no editing, (typos can be fixed) and minimal planning on what you’re going to write.
2. Your post can be as long or as short as you want it to be. One sentence – one thousand words. Fact, fiction, poetry – it doesn’t matter. Just let the words carry you along until you’re ready to stop.
3. There will be a prompt every week. I will post the prompt here on my blog on Friday, along with a reminder for you to join in. The prompt will be one random thing, but it will not be a subject. For instance, I will not say “Write about dogs”; the prompt will be more like, “Make your first sentence a question,” “Begin with the word ‘The’,” or simply a single word to get your started.
4. Ping back! It’s important, so that I and other people can come and read your post! For example, in your post you can write “This post is part of SoCS:” and then copy and paste the URL found in your address bar at the top of this post into yours. Your link will show up in my comments for everyone to see. The most recent pingbacks will be found at the top. NOTE: Pingbacks only work from WordPress sites. If you’re self-hosted or are participating from another host, such as Blogger, please leave a link to your post in the comments below.
5. Read at least one other person’s blog who has linked back their post. Even better, read everyone’s! If you’re the first person to link back, you can check back later, or go to the previous week, by following my category, “Stream of Consciousness Saturday,” which you’ll find right below the “Like” button on my post.
6. Copy and paste the rules (if you’d like to) in your post. The more people who join in, the more new bloggers you’ll meet and the bigger your community will get!
7. As a suggestion, tag your post “SoCS” and/or “#SoCS” for more exposure and more views.
8. Have fun!
Health and Wellbeing · Men & Womens Health

Pensamientos de Fibromialgia # 1 Grasa, Sexo y Vergüenza

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Tuve que aceptar la pérdida del control diario una vez diagnosticado con fibromialgia. Me voy a la cama con planes para el día siguiente, cuando llega la mañana, no puedo levantarme de la cama. En el pasado, me castigaba, sentía vergüenza y rabia.

Una ducha dura una hora, es doloroso y agotador. En su lugar, utilizo toallitas de limpieza aprobadas por el hospital para bañarme en los días en que no puedo manejar la idea de una ducha. Me avergüenza decirle a mi marido.

Ayer me afeité la cabeza, cuidar mi cabello requiere demasiada energía. Estoy en casa, solo los doctores me ven. Mi esposo no dice nada, pero me imagino los pensamientos negativos que tiene. ¿Por qué su esposa no puede ser normal como las demás, por qué no podemos salir a comer, por qué no tenemos relaciones sexuales, estoy gorda ……… los pensamientos pueden consumir?

Puedo hacerme preguntas sobre por qué / por qué no todos los días, no lo hago. No es productivo, no está bajo mi control y no ayuda a mi salud. El estrés crea inflamación crea más dolor.

Rezo mucho todos los días.

Melinda

Men & Womens Health

Today in History April 4th

1850 Los Angeles becomes American

Settled for millennia by Native Americans, then claimed by the colonial Spanish, and later by Mexico, a dusty ranch town is officially incorporated as the city of Los Angeles. It will go on to be the second-most populous city in the United States.

1873 American Kennel Club

Seeing the need for formal rules and regulations in the breeding, registry, and showing of pedigreed dogs in the United Kingdom, Sewallis Shirley establishes The Kennel Club with 12 other canine connoisseurs, the first such organization in the world.

1968 Martin Luther King Jr. Assassinated

Visiting Memphis, Tennessee, to support striking workers, civil rights leader Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. is shot and killed as he stands on the balcony of the Lorraine Motel. Months later, James Earl Ray will be charged with the murder.

1975 Microsoft Founded

Childhood friends Bill Gates and Paul Allen launch the future tech giant in Albuquerque, New Mexico, with Gates as CEO. They initially spell the company’s name as Micro-Soft, a combination of the words ‘microcomputer’ and ‘software,’ but later drop the capital ‘S’ and hyphen. Other names they considered include ‘Outcorporated Inc.’ and ‘Allen & Gates.’

 

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BIRTHDAYS

Maya Angelou  1928

Anthony Perkins. 1932

Graham Norton. 1963

Clive Davis  1932

 

 

Celebrate Life · Health and Wellbeing · Men & Womens Health · Mental Health

If you’re unhappy with your body, just repeat after us: You are the new hotness

IDEAS.TED.COM

Mar 28, 2019 / +

Too many of us struggle to achieve a body ideal that’s just not obtainable by humans. It’s time to redefine what’s good, healthy and attractive on our own terms, say writers (and sisters) Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski.

The Bikini Industrial Complex. That’s our name for the $100 billion cluster of businesses that profit by setting an unachievable “aspirational ideal,” convincing us that we can and should — indeed we must — conform with the ideal, and then selling us ineffective but plausible strategies for achieving that ideal. It’s like old cat pee in the carpet, powerful and pervasive and it makes you uncomfortable every day but it’s invisible and no one can remember a time when it didn’t smell.

Let’s shine a black light on it, so you can know where the smell is coming from. You already know that basically everything in the media is there to sell you thinness — the shellacked abs in ads for exercise equipment, the “one weird trick to lose belly fat” clickbait when all you wanted was a weather forecast, and the “flawless” thin women who fill most TV shows. The Bikini Industrial Complex, or BIC, has successfully created a culture of immense pressure to conform to an ideal that is literally unobtainable by almost everyone and yet is framed not just as the most beautiful, but the healthiest and most virtuous.

But it’s not just magazine covers, ads and other fictions that get it wrong. The body mass index (BMI) chart and its labels — underweight, overweight, obese, etc. — were created by a panel of nine individuals, seven of whom were “employed by weight-loss clinics and thus have an economic interest in encouraging use of their facilities,” as researchers Paul Ernsberger and Richard J Koletsky put it.

You’ve been lied to about the relationship between weight and health so that you’ll perpetually try to change your weight. But listen: It can be healthier to be 70 or more pounds over your medically defined “healthy weight” than just five pounds under it. A 2016 meta-analysis in The Lancet medical journal examined 189 studies, encompassing nearly four million people who never smoked and had no diagnosed medical issues. It found that people labeled “obese” by the CDC have lower health risk than those the CDC categorized as “underweight.” The study also found that being “overweight” according to the CDC is lower risk than being at the low end of the “healthy” range as defined by the US federal government and the World Health Organization.

Another meta-analysis even found that people in the BMI category labeled “overweight” may live longer than people in any other category, and the highest predictable mortality rate might be among those labeled “underweight.” Taking it further, newer research is suggesting that doctors warn their middle-aged and older patients against losing weight, because the increasingly well-established dangers of fluctuations in weight outweigh any risk associated with a high but stable weight.

Authors (from left) Emily and Amelia Nagoski. Photo: Paul Specht.

Our culture has primed us to judge fat people as lazy and selfish. And it goes deep. Amelia conducts a children’s choir, and she has to teach her kids to breathe. At ten, eight, even six years old, they already believe that their bellies are supposed to be flat and hard, so they hold their stomachs in. You can’t breathe deeply, all the way, without relaxing your abdomen, and you can’t sing if you can’t breathe. So Amelia has to teach children to breathe.

Please: Relax your belly. It’s supposed to be round. The BIC has been gaslighting you.

We’re not saying the people or companies that constitute the BIC are out to get you. Frankly, we don’t think they’re smart enough to have created this system on purpose. But they recognize there’s money to be made by establishing and enforcing impossible standards.

We all encounter the BIC every day. So how can we make it through the fray?

One strategy: Play the “new hotness” game.

When we reconstruct our own standard of beauty with a definition that comes from our own hearts and includes our bodies as they are right now, we can turn toward our bodies with kindness and compassion. Well, easier said than done.

Amelia is vain about pictures of her conducting, in which she inevitably has her mouth wide open and her hair is a sweaty wreck. Emily watches herself on TV and worries that her chin is too pointy because one time, somebody said it was. (We are identical twins.)

Neither of us has ever had the skinny proportions of a model, and we watched our mom — who was model-thin before she gestated two seven-pound babies at the same time — look at her reflection in mirrors and cry at what she saw there. What she saw there is very much like what we see in our own reflections now.

Which is why we play the “New Hotness” game, a way to let go of body self-criticism and shift to self-kindness. One day, Amelia was at a fancy boutique, trying on gowns for a performance. Attire for women conductors is hard to find: solid black with long sleeves, formal yet not frumpy is an unlikely combination. Finding all of this in her size is even more difficult.

She tried on a dress that looked so amazingly good she texted Emily a dress selfie, with a caption paraphrasing Will Smith in Men in Black II: i am the new hotness.

And now “new hotness” is our texting shorthand for looking fabulous without reference to the socially constructed ideal. We recommend it. It’s fun.

Maybe you don’t look like you used to, or like you used to imagine you should, but how you look today is the new hotness. Even better than the old hotness.

Saggy belly skin from that baby you birthed? New hotness.

Gained 20 pounds while finishing school? New hotness.

Skin gets new wrinkles because you lived another year? New hotness.

Hair longer or shorter, or a different color or style? New hotness.

Mastectomy following breast cancer? New hotness.

Amputation following combat injury? New hotness.

The point is, you define and redefine your body’s worth, on your own terms. It’s not necessary to turn toward your body with love and affection — love and affection are frosting on the cake of body acceptance, and if they work for you, go for it. But all your body requires of you is that you turn toward it with kindness and compassion, again and again, without judging all your contradictory emotions, beliefs and longings.

No doubt after you finish reading this, you will go out into the world and notice the diversity of bodies around you. And you will still have reflexive thoughts about the people who don’t conform to the aspirational ideal, envious thoughts about the people who do, or self-critical thoughts about the ways the world tells you that you fall short. And then you might even have emotional reactions to your emotional reactions: “Darn it, I shouldn’t think that!”

Change happens gradually. Your brain has been soaking in the BIC for decades; any time you step outside your door, you’re back in it; any time you turn on a TV, you’re back in it; and any time you put clothes on, you’re back in it. Just notice it, as you’d notice a fleck of dust floating through the air. Smile kindly at the mess. And know what’s true: Everyone is the new hotness. You are the new hotness. So is she. So are they. So are we.

Excerpted from Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily and Amelia Nagoski. Copyright © 2019 by Emily and Amelia Nagoski. Used by permission of Ballantine, an imprint of Random House Publishing Group, a division of Penguin Random House LLC. All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher.

Watch Emily Nagoski’s TED talk here:

Health and Wellbeing · Men & Womens Health

Chronic Illness​ & Mental Illness

 

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When dealing with severe pain it’s easy to forget you have a mental illness that requires as much attention, if not more. It’s critical to have the right doctors, I see a Pain Management Doctor for my Chronic Illnesses, a Psychiatrist for my Mental Health and a General Practitioner for everything else. The doctors are not trained to do each others job, a General Practitioner is not qualified to treat chronic Illnesses, including mental illness.

If your only choice is seeing a General Practitioner for chronic or mental illness, you will have to take on additional responsibility to make sure you’re getting the best healthcare. What you can’t expect is a General Practitioner to be a one-stop shop, they have 15 minutes per patient and treat the most common illnesses. Once your 15 minutes is up, you have to save questions for the next appointment.

If seeing a General Practitioner for all your chronic illnesses, go into each meeting expecting three questions to get answered, if the conversation doesn’t go off track. Go prepared with questions, concerns or meds issues but don’t expect more than 15 minutes unless your insurance company allows 30-minute appointments. I schedule 30 minutes with my GP on each visit, that lowers my stress level and allows us to talk more in-depth if needed.

I’m an Ambassador for the U.S. Chronic Pain Foundation Inc., in the latest newsletter, they offered information on chronic illness and mental illness. They are ahead of the curve making mental health information available to those with other chronic illnesses.

Please visit their site, maybe become a Junior Ambassador yourself. http://www.uschronicpainfoundation.org.

Melinda

 

U.S. Chronic Pain Foundation Inc. Offers

MENTAL HEALTH AND SOCIAL SUPPORT WEBINARS

Chronic pain and the risk of suicide: A staggering crisis and what to do about it” with Robert Rosenbaum, PhD, Daniel Lev, PhD, and Gwenn Herman, LCSW, DCSW
From ow to om: Using mindfulness to reduce pain and stress” with Gwenn Herman, LCSW, DCSW
ChronicBabe 101: A Q&A with Jenni Grover about thriving with chronic pain” with Jenni Grover
“Pain reduction through grounding: An exclusive movie showing”  with Laura Koniver, MD
“Don’t let pain limit you: Tracking, empowerment, and Ouchie” with Rachel Trobman

 

Health and Wellbeing · Men & Womens Health

Go Bag : Preparing For The Unexpected — Guest Blogger Invisibly Me

Have you ever had unexpected trips to hospital / the emergency department before? Maybe you know what it’s like to be caught off guard. Life gets thrown into disarray, best laid plans go out the window, and you’re left feeling totally unprepared. When you need to rush off to A&E, where do you start? I’ve […]

via Go Bag : Preparing For The Unexpected — Invisibly Me

Health and Wellbeing · Men & Womens Health

Is Your Diet Contributing To Fibro Fog? — Guest Blogger Fibroflair.com

Without even realising, we could be eating our way into fibro fog.

via Is Your Diet Contributing To Fibro Fog? — Fibroflair.com

Moving Forward

Faith — *Guest The Feathered Sleep*

My love it is so hard to keep faith with every day there are changing shades from day to night sometimes I am comforted by fireflies and evening moth who dual beyond the porch, betrayed by flicker and swat I imagine the patterns of her wings, that magic sting of light so short their lives […]

via Faith — TheFeatheredSleep

Health and Wellbeing · Men & Womens Health

Exfoliante de avena de lavanda terapéutica

Willow y Sage de Stampington

 

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Este exfoliante de alivio de picazón es terapéutico en muchos niveles. Contiene azúcar para ayudar a exfoliar, aceites para ayudar a hidratar, y harina de avena para ayudar a aliviar cualquier irritación. Los brotes de lavanda de tierra son opcionales, pero añaden algunas cualidades de spa-sí, por favor.

Lo que se necesita

1 taza de avena cortada en acero
Blender/procesador de alimentos
1 TB. brotes de lavanda seca
Mortero y mortero
1/2 taza de azúcar
1 TB. aceite de almendras dulces
1/4 taza de aceite de aguacate
1 TB. aceite de coco suavizado
Aceite esencial de lavanda
Tazón
Frasco/recipiente hermético
Para hacer añadir la avena cortada en acero a una licuadora o procesador de alimentos y pulse hasta que la avena tenga una textura en forma de polvo. Tritura los cogollos de lavanda en un polvo usando el moteados & Pestle. Combine la avena, las flores, el azúcar y los aceites juntos en un tazón. Almacenar en frasco hermético o recipiente.

Melinda

Health and Wellbeing · Men & Womens Health

Therapeutic Lavender Oat Scrub

Willow and Sage by Stampington

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This itch-relief scrub is therapeutic on so many levels. It contains sugar to help exfoliate, oils to help hydrate, and oatmeal to help alleviate any irritation. The ground lavender buds are optional but they do add some spa-like qualities-yes, please.

You Will Need

  • 1 cup steel-cut oats
  • Blender/Food Processor
  • 1 TB. dried lavender buds
  • Mortar & pestle
  • 1/2 cup sugar
  • 1 TB. sweet almond oil
  • 1/4 cup avocado oil
  • 1 TB. coconut oil softened
  • Lavender essential oil
  • Bowl
  • Airtight jar/Container

To Make 

Add the steel-cut oats to a blender or food processor and pulse until the oats have a powder-like texture. Grind the lavender buds into a powder using the motar & pestle. Combine the oats, flowers, sugar, and oils together in a bowl. Store in airtight jar or container.

 

Health and Wellbeing · Men & Womens Health · Moving Forward

From One Sarcastic Little Shit To Another – Happy Mother’s Day — Guest Invisibly Me

This day can be difficult and painful for many; I don’t want to be insensitive covering Mother’s Day so please feel free to avoid this post if it may be triggering. There are many who don’t have a relationship with their mothers, and those who have traumatic ones. Then there are those who have said […]

via From One Sarcastic Little Shit To Another – Happy Mother’s Day — Invisibly Me

Celebrate Life · Fun

This week​ prompt is “dough/d’oh” #SoSC

Your Friday prompt for Stream of Consciousness Saturday is “dough/d’oh.” Use one, use both, use ’em any way you like. Enjoy!

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My first thought is Homer Simpsom saying d’oh at the beginning of every show but it’s not the dough I want to write about. My granny has no competition when it comes to making a cherry pie, my favorite. What makes her pie special is she puts a crust on top and knows how to cook both perfectly. I didn’t catch the cooking bug so I can’t recall all the steps she took, she was always moving foil around and that must be the answer to the perfect cherry pie crust. 

Melinda


 

Join us for the fun and sharing good media stories  

For more on the Stream of Consciousness Saturday, visit Linda Hill’s blog. Here’s the link:
Here are the rules for SoCS:
1. Your post must be stream of consciousness writing, meaning no editing, (typos can be fixed) and minimal planning on what you’re going to write.
2. Your post can be as long or as short as you want it to be. One sentence – one thousand words. Fact, fiction, poetry – it doesn’t matter. Just let the words carry you along until you’re ready to stop.
3. There will be a prompt every week. I will post the prompt here on my blog on Friday, along with a reminder for you to join in. The prompt will be one random thing, but it will not be a subject. For instance, I will not say “Write about dogs”; the prompt will be more like, “Make your first sentence a question,” “Begin with the word ‘The’,” or simply a single word to get your started.
4. Ping back! It’s important, so that I and other people can come and read your post! For example, in your post you can write “This post is part of SoCS:” and then copy and paste the URL found in your address bar at the top of this post into yours. Your link will show up in my comments for everyone to see. The most recent pingbacks will be found at the top. NOTE: Pingbacks only work from WordPress sites. If you’re self-hosted or are participating from another host, such as Blogger, please leave a link to your post in the comments below.
5. Read at least one other person’s blog who has linked back their post. Even better, read everyone’s! If you’re the first person to link back, you can check back later, or go to the previous week, by following my category, “Stream of Consciousness Saturday,” which you’ll find right below the “Like” button on my post.
6. Copy and paste the rules (if you’d like to) in your post. The more people who join in, the more new bloggers you’ll meet and the bigger your community will get!
7. As a suggestion, tag your post “SoCS” and/or “#SoCS” for more exposure and more views.
8. Have fun!
Celebrate Life · Health and Wellbeing · Men & Womens Health

I Believe in You #WATWB Two Year Anniversary

We Are the World Blogfest

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Welcome to #WATWB # 22! We are sharing stories about people doing good work and bringing hope to the world.  To learn more about this monthly blogfest, visit

 

I saw Kevin Laue on television with a group of kids playing basketball. It was amazing to see the faces, looks of children feeling like they belonged for the first time. He is very upbeat and is making a difference in our youth across the country.

Melinda

Believe in you Tour

Our mission is for every student in America to have someone who believes in them. That’s why we’ve created the Believe In You Challenge. The Challenge is for students to attend a school activity they never have before. Swim meets. Track meets. Plays. Choir concerts. Pick it, grab your friends, and go. Show each other that support! Share your acceptance of this Challenge using hashtag #BelieveInYouChallenge. If not you, then who?

Believe in you Video Series

 

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STEP UP. IF NOT YOU, WHO?

Believe in You is an episodic series designed to educate students and staff about the incredible power of believing in yourself, despite the challenges and trials that life may present. Hosted by Kevin Laue, and starring personalities from around the country who have overcome personal challenges to accomplish the extraordinary.

Each episode comes with an accompanying lesson plan to use with your students!
Contact your sales partner to learn more about the Believe in You program.


 

~~~GUIDELINES~~~

  1. Keep your post to below 500 words.
  2. All we ask is you link to a human news story on your blog on the last Friday of each month, one that shows love and humanity.
  3. Join us in sharing news that warms the cockles of our heart. No story is too big or small, as long as it goes beyond religion and politics, into the core of humanity.
  4. Place the WE ARE THE WORLD BLOGFEST Badge on your sidebar, and help us spread the word on social media. Tweets, Facebook shares, G+ shares using the #WATWB hashtag through the month most welcome. More We Are the World Blogfest signups mean more friends, love and light for all of us.
  5. We’ll read and comment on each others’ posts, get to know each other better, and hopefully, make or renew some friendships with everyone who signs on as participants in the coming months.
  6. Add your post HERE so we can all find it quickly.
Health and Wellbeing

Fibromyalgia Thoughts #1 Fat, Sex & Shame

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I had to accept the loss of everyday control once diagnosed with Fibromyalgia. I go to bed with plans for the next day, when the morning rolls around, I can’t get out of bed. In the past, I would beat myself up, feel shame and anger. 

A shower takes an hour, it’s painful and exhausting. Instead, I use hospital approved cleansing wipes to bathe on the days when I can’t handle the thought of a shower. I’m embarrassed to tell my husband. 

I shaved my head yesterday, taking care of my hair takes too much energy. I’m housebound, only doctors see me. My husband doesn’t say anything but I imagine the negative thoughts he has. Why can’t his wife be normal like others, why can’t we go out to eat, why don’t we have sex, I’m fat………the thoughts can consume. 

I can ask myself questions about why/why not every day, I don’t. It’s not productive, not within my control and doesn’t help my health. Stress creates inflammation creates more pain. 

I pray a lot every day. 

Melinda

 

Fun

Friday Quote Humble

The proud man counts his newspaper clippings, the humble man his blessings. - Fulton J. Sheen

Blessed are they who see beautiful things in humble places where other people see nothing. - Camille Pissarro

 

Being genuinely humble and being myself has helped me succeed in my career.

Poo Bear

I hope that five years and ten years from now, I’ll be a better man, a more mature man, a wiser man, a more humble man and a more spirited man to serve the good of my people and the good of humanity.

Louis Farrakhan

The essence of America – that which really unites us – is not ethnicity, or nationality or religion – it is an idea – and what an idea it is: That you can come from humble circumstances and do great things.

Condoleezza Rice

Celebrate Life · Fun

Today in History March 28th

First Europeans settle in San Francisco

With 247 colonists in tow, Spanish explorer Juan Bautista de Anza founds a fort, or ‘presidio,’ on a wide bay in northern California. The modest outpost will grow into one of the biggest cities in North America.

Three Mile Island plant suffers a partial meltdown

Fears of radioactive contamination run rampant after a coolant leak causes a reactor at Pennsylvania’s Three Mile Island to overheat. The power plant, just 10 miles from the state capital, is stabilized before complete meltdown. The accident will swell anti-nuclear sentiment in the public.

1941 Land cleared for Ford’s Willow Run plant

On this day in 1941, workers start clearing trees from hundreds of acres of land near Ypsilanti, Michigan, some 30 miles west of Detroit, in preparation for the construction of the Ford Motor Company’s Willow Run plant, which will use Henry Ford’s mass-production technology to build B-24 bomber planes for World War II. During the war, Detroit was dubbed the “Arsenal of Democracy,” as American automakers reconfigured their factories to produce a variety of military vehicles and ammunition for the Allies.

 

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Health and Wellbeing

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Update from MaleSurvivor Board of Directors

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An Olympic training approach to managing bipolar disorder — Guest Shedding Light on Mental Health

Guest Amy Gamble from http://www.sheddinglightonmentalhealth.com

I was talking with a friend at the National Council on Behavioral Health’s annual conference in Nashville. We had just watched a movie about Andy Irons a world-class surfer who had bipolar disorder and died at 37. It was an emotional documentary. I felt sad. But the emotion that got my attention was anger. […]

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Where in the world will you find the most advanced e-government? Estonia. IDEAS​.TED.COM

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This tiny republic has the most startups per person and the fastest broadband speeds, and it offers something no other country does: e-residency. Estonia is aiming to create the ideal information society. Technology thinker and entrepreneur Andrew Keen goes there to find out how it works.

The future sometimes appears in the unlikeliest of places. The tiny country on the northeastern edge of Europe known as Estonia — or “E-stonia” as former president Toomas Hendrik Ilves calls it — has the most startups per person, the zippiest broadband speeds, and the most advanced e-government in the world.

Estonia has had the ill fortune to share a border with Russia and a sea with Denmark, Sweden and Germany, regional powers that have all been rather too related to the little Baltic republic. And yet this land of just 28,000 square miles is today — with South Korea, Israel, Singapore and its Scandinavian neighbors — one of the most wired and innovative countries. The government and people of Estonia are trying to invent the ideal information society and figuring out how to live well in cyberspace.

Estonia is the first country in the world to offer “e-residency”: an electronic passport that offers any businessperson the right to use legitimate Estonian legal or accounting online services and digital technologies. With this initiative, the country is disrupting the age-old intimacy between physical territory and citizenship. The e-residency program underwrites online identity by establishing fingerprints, biometrics and a private key on a chip.

“We want to be the Switzerland of the digital world,” says the director of the e-residency program in Estonia.

The goal is to have 10 million e-resident citizens by 2025, almost eight times the number of Estonia’s population of 1.3 million, according to the program’s director, Kaspar Korjus. He wants to create what he calls a “trust economy” for businesspeople around the globe — and a well-lit antithesis to the Dark Web, the digital hell infested with drug and arms dealers, pedophiles and criminals. “We want to be the Switzerland of the digital world,” Korjus says. Estonian Chief Technology Officer Taavi Kotka is more ambitious — we are becoming “the Matrix,” he tells me without smiling.

Given its inconvenient geography, Estonia has always struggled to find physical residents. E-residency creates a platform for a new kind of citizenship, Kotkus says. Not only is Estonia running a government in the cloud, it is also trying to create a country in the cloud: a 21st-century distributed community of people united by networked services rather than by geography.

Practically everything and everyone in Estonia is connected to the Internet: As measured in 2017, 91.4 percent of its citizens are Internet users; 87.9 percent of households have computers; 86.7 percent of Estonians have access to broadband; and 88.4 percent use it regularly. In neighboring Latvia, by contrast, 76 percent of its citizens are Internet users, while in Russia, Estonia’s former colonial ruler, that number is just 71 percent.

The country is planning a national test for digital competency in five areas, including the correct use of netiquette.

The education system has played an important role in this phenomenon. By the late 1990s, a government-backed investment fund was paying for Internet access for all schools, and teaching computer programming skills to kids as young as seven. “It’s like literacy,” one software engineer told me, describing how these skills are viewed in schools. The Estonian educational system has been redesigned to make people more responsible citizens. Schools have obligatory programs in “digital competence.” The country is even planning a national test for digital competency in five areas, including the correct use of netiquette. Education is “two steps ahead of the labor market,” says Kristel Rillo, who runs e-services at the Ministry of Education; he says that kids are turning out to be “two steps ahead of middle-aged workers in learning how to become digital citizens.”

But the most intriguing step in Estonia’s digital development is taking place outside the classroom. The key to its revolution is an identity card system that puts digital identity and trust at the heart of a new social contract. The mandatory electronic ID card, used by more than 95 percent of Estonians, gives everyone a secure online identity and offers a platform for digital citizenship featuring more than 4,000 online services, including voting, paying taxes and online storage of health and police records.

This online ID system is an attempt to “redefine the nature of the country” by getting rid of bureaucracy and reinventing government as a service. So says Andres Kütt, the chief architect of the Estonian Information System Authority. Kütt, a recent MIT graduate and former Skype employee, aims to integrate everyone’s data into a single, easy-to-navigate portal. Estonia wants to smash bureaucratic silos and distribute power down to the citizens so that government comes to them rather than their having to go to the government.

“The old model is broken,” Kütt says. “We are changing the concept of citizenship. This technology creates trust. It’s transparent. All agencies can access this data, but citizens have the right to know if their data has been accessed. In the old world, citizens were dependent on government; in Estonia, we are trying to make government dependent on citizens.”

In Estonia, citizens are empowered to watch the operations of government, and although the government can look at their data, it must notify them when it does so.

The ID system is supposed to be the reverse of Orwell’s Big Brother. In Estonia, citizens are empowered to watch the operations of government, and although the government can look at their data, it must notify them when it does so. Kütt gives me an anecdote of how the system works. He’d driven to a lecture in Tallinn to demonstrate the ID system. When he looked at his data, he saw that a police officer had accessed his information 30 minutes earlier. Following up in his online records, he found that an unmarked police car had followed his car because his license plate was dirty. The police accessed his records, checked his driver’s license, and decided not to stop him. The point of this story, according to Kütt, is to stress the accountability of government in this system. Nothing can be done secretly — the transparency is designed to protect individual rights and compound the trust between citizens and their government.

The most important aspect of the ID system is the creation of trust.Everyone I spoke to in Estonia, from startup entrepreneurs to policy makers to technologists to government ministers, agreed with Kütt on this point. Estonian trust in government is, in fact, much higher than the EU average. A 2014 studyfound that 51 percent of Estonians trust their government, in contrast with the EU average of 29 percent.

There are extremely significant potential consequences of the Estonian government’s entry into the data business. One result might be a new rivalry between sovereign governments and Silicon Valley’s private superpowers. “Governments are realizing that they’re losing the digital identities of their citizens to American companies like Google, Facebook, Amazon and Apple. And they are waking up to the realization that they have a responsibility to protect the privacy of these citizens,” says Linnar Viik, another architect of the ID card and a serial tech entrepreneur dubbed by the press “Estonia’s Mr. Internet.”

Personal data is what’s made these private superpowers so wealthy and powerful. Although the ID system doesn’t stop Estonians from using Facebook or Google, the database is designed as a rival ecosystem, a secure public alternative designed to benefit citizens rather than corporations. One of today’s great challenges is to reinvent the relevance of government in the new digital world, and that’s where the longer-term significance of the ID system may lie, according to Viik. “The government’s role is to protect the privacy of its citizens,” he says. “It’s an extension of public infrastructure, the 21st-century version of the welfare state.”

To some readers, particularly those who cherish their privacy, this ID system and its radical transparency might sound dystopian. But one of the unavoidable consequences of the digital revolution is the massive explosion of personal data on the network. Like it or not, this data is only going to grow exponentially with smart homes, smart cars, smart cities and all the other smart objects driving the Internet of things. We don’t have a choice about any of this. But we do have a choice about the amount of transparency we demand of the governments or corporations that have access to our personal data.

The country’s revolution remains a work in progress, and many ordinary Estonians remain indifferent to a lot of these digital abstractions.

Does this country without borders offer a preview of our 21st-century fate?Stuff may happen there first. Will it happen everywhere else next? Perhaps. The Estonian model comes with three important caveats.

First, it’s important to remember the country’s ahistorical exceptionalism. Like other startup nations such as Israel, Estonia has reinvented itself because of its good fortune in being able to stand outside history. Just as Israel began in 1948 without any legacy institutions or traditions, so the post-1991 Estonian digital revolution occurred because a new generation of technologically literate policy makers and politicians filled the vacuum created by the retreating Soviet bureaucracy.

Second, there is the distinctively unexceptional nature of the Estonian economy. Estonia is a relatively underdeveloped place, especially in comparison with postindustrial economies like the United States or Germany. A tech megabillionaire could buy Estonia outright if he wanted. Its per-capita GDP of around $17,600 is ranked 42nd in the world (above middle-rank economies like Russia and Turkey but a third of Singapore’s $52,900), and the average monthly wage, after taxes, of its workforce of 675,000 is under 1,000 euros. Reports of Estonia as the next Silicon Valley are, to be polite, slightly exaggerated.

The third caveat is separating its appearance from its reality. All the policy makers and legislators with whom I spoke have, in the best Silicon Valley fashion, drunk the Kool-Aid and loudly proclaim the triumph of their “country in a cloud.” But the truth is less triumphant. The revolution remains a work in progress, and many ordinary Estonians remain indifferent to a lot of these digital abstractions.

Nonetheless, Estonia matters because the government is prioritizing what Ilves calls “data integrity.” This prim-sounding issue will surely come to dominate conversations about 21st-century politics. What the republic on the northwestern edge of Russia can do is offer an alternate model of a transparent, open and fair political system, one that is the antithesis of the monstrous purveyor of untruth that’s emerging on its eastern border. One that prioritizes trust and is built upon the integrity of data. One, above all, that makes all of us accountable for our online behavior.

Excerpted from the new book How to Fix the Future by Andrew Keen. Published by Atlantic Monthly Press, an imprint of Grove Atlantic. Copyright © 2018 by Andrew Keen.

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