Fun

Stream of Consciousness #SoSC “bash”

Your Friday prompt for Stream of Consciousness Saturday is “abash/a bash/bash.” Use “abash,” or “bash” as a noun or a verb. Bonus points if you manage all three. Have fun!

JoAnna at https://joannaoftheforest.wordpress.com and I are on the exact same page with the bashing. We know each other, have talked a lot but I would not have guessed we would bash the exact same thing. For me bashing the media is on several layers, the parts left out to provide more drama, the local news running for two hours regurgitating the same stories. I can’t even watch the news without my blood pressure rising and wanting to bash something or someone.

I try to watch one local and one national news a day but that is too much some days. When every story includes, Trump, Russians, North Korea, who was fired that day at the White House, I want to bash the television, the talking heads, the news stations and myself for allowing this behavior to happen.

JoAnna watches Cop shows and so do I, it’s crazy that we have favorites that are the same. Blue Bloods is a nicer family cop show with doing the right thing is always the answer. I love the show but real life, my real life is not so holy. I prefer the bad-ass kick butt take names later type of show. I love NCIS LA because you have women who could probably kick anyone’s ass.  They are trained and professional while bashing a terrorist head into the concrete hanging over the side of a 20 story parking lot. It sure sounds like some anger is still inside but not that I’m aware of.

I don’t want to bash anyone these days but would love to have the control and body strength to open a can of whoop ass on someone. See I didn’t say bash! Be sure stop by and read JoAnna’s, her’s is more interesting.

Melinda


Join us for the fun and sharing good media stories  

For more on the Stream of Consciousness Saturday, visit Linda Hill’s blog. Here’s the link:
Here are the rules for SoCS:
1. Your post must be stream of consciousness writing, meaning no editing, (typos can be fixed) and minimal planning on what you’re going to write.
2. Your post can be as long or as short as you want it to be. One sentence – one thousand words. Fact, fiction, poetry – it doesn’t matter. Just let the words carry you along until you’re ready to stop.
3. There will be a prompt every week. I will post the prompt here on my blog on Friday, along with a reminder for you to join in. The prompt will be one random thing, but it will not be a subject. For instance, I will not say “Write about dogs”; the prompt will be more like, “Make your first sentence a question,” “Begin with the word ‘The’,” or simply a single word to get your started.
4. Ping back! It’s important, so that I and other people can come and read your post! For example, in your post you can write “This post is part of SoCS:” and then copy and paste the URL found in your address bar at the top of this post into yours. Your link will show up in my comments for everyone to see. The most recent pingbacks will be found at the top. NOTE: Pingbacks only work from WordPress sites. If you’re self-hosted or are participating from another host, such as Blogger, please leave a link to your post in the comments below.
5. Read at least one other person’s blog who has linked back their post. Even better, read everyone’s! If you’re the first person to link back, you can check back later, or go to the previous week, by following my category, “Stream of Consciousness Saturday,” which you’ll find right below the “Like” button on my post.
6. Copy and paste the rules (if you’d like to) in your post. The more people who join in, the more new bloggers you’ll meet and the bigger your community will get!
7. As a suggestion, tag your post “SoCS” and/or “#SoCS” for more exposure and more views.
8. Have fun!

 

Health and Wellbeing · Men & Womens Health

Frugal Friday [ 08/03/2019 ] — Invisibly Me

Special Thanks to Invisibly Me for the Reblog

Happy Friday, everyone! Breathe a sigh of relief as the weekend is here, you’ve survived another week, and tomorrow is a new day to start afresh. Here are just a couple of finds for this issue of Frugal Friday – Enjoy & have a restful weekend 🙂 Free Letter Samples & Templates Citizens Advice have […]

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Fun

Friday Quotes: Inspiring Women

shallow photography of life is short enjoy your coffee signage
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Thanks for stopping by and have a great weekend. Melinda

Quotes from inspiring Women on International Women’s Day

“I am a member of the team, and I rely on the team, I defer to it and sacrifice for it, because the team, not the individual, is the ultimate champion.” – Mia Hamm

“I am lucky that whatever fear I have inside me, my desire to win is always stronger.” –Serena Williams

Above all, be the heroine of your life, not the victim.” – Nora Ephron

“I just love bossy women. I could be around them all day. To me, bossy is not a pejorative term at all. It means somebody’s passionate and engaged and ambitious and doesn’t mind leading.” – Amy Poehler

If you are overdressed, it is a comment on them. If you are underdressed, it is a comment on you.” – Condoleezza Rice

“I know of no single formula for success, but over the years I have observed that some attributes of leadership are universal and are often about finding ways of encouraging people to combine their efforts, their talents, their insights, their enthusiasm and their inspiration to work together.” – Queen Elizabeth II

Moving Forward

On This Day In History March 7th

 

1876

Following the development of his prototype ‘harmonic telegraph’ device, Scotland-born Alexander Graham Bell receives a US patent on a revolutionary new form of instantaneous communication, the telephone.

 

1965

Marching for civil rights for African Americans, hundreds of unarmed and peaceful protesters cross the Edmund Pettus Bridge in Selma, Alabama, and are set upon by state troopers wielding billy clubs and tear gas. Public disgust at the incident will help galvanize support for passage of the Voting Rights Act.

2010

 

Kathryn Bigelow becomes the first female director to win an Oscar

On this day in 2010, Kathryn Bigelow becomes the first woman to win an Academy Award for best director, for her movie “The Hurt Locker,” about an American bomb squad that disables explosives in Iraq in 2004. Prior to Bigelow, only three women had been nominated for a best director Oscar: Lina Wertmueller for 1975’s “Seven Beauties,” Jane Campion for 1993’s “The Piano” and Sofia Coppola for 2003’s “Lost in Translation.”

 

1988

Writers Guild of America strike begins

After rejecting what the Alliance of Motion Picture and Television Producers (AMPTP) said was a final offer, representatives of the Writers Guild of America (WGA) called a strike for all the union’s members to begin at 9 a.m. Pacific Time on this day in 1988.

 

BIRTHDAYS

1896 Philip Showalter Hench, American physician (Nobel Prize 1950 for cortisone), born in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania (d. 1965)

1906 Benjamin “Bugsy” Siegel, American gangster who created casinos in Las Vegas, born in Brooklyn, New York (d. 1947)

 

1915 Samuel Joel “Zero” Mostel, American comedian and actor (Fiddler on the Roof, The Producers), born in Brooklyn, New York (d. 1977)

 

1929 Frank O Gehry, architect (Galleria-Oklahoma City)

 

1940 Mario Andretti, Italian American race-car driver (1969 Indianapolis 500, 1978 Formula One World Champion), born in Montona, Italy

 

Health and Wellbeing

Herramientas de belleza 101: limpiar o tirar

Willow and Sage de Stampington

Si alguna vez has notado que la piel o el cuero cabelludo actúan, puede deberse a la falta de herramientas de belleza limpias. Limpiar adecuadamente sus herramientas diarias no sólo elimina el maquillaje sobrante, el aceite y la suciedad y mantiene las herramientas utilizables más tiempo, sino que también reduce la posibilidad de que las bacterias causen brotes, erupciones e infecciones. Siga esta hoja de trucos para la piel sana, de aspecto feliz.

Pincel de maquillaje

Limpieza: una vez a la semana

Con: champú suave del bebé

Lanzamiento: cuando es frágil, deshilachado o maloliente

Esponja del maquillaje:

Limpieza: una o dos veces por semana

Con: jabón sulfato-libre

Lanzamiento: cada tres meses/cuando se desgarro

Rizador de pestañas:

Limpieza: una vez a la semana

Con: alcohol del frotamiento y redondo del algodón

Tirar: Reemplace la almohadilla de goma cada cuatro a seis meses

Pinzas:

Limpieza: después de cada uso

Con: alcohol del frotamiento y redondo del algodón

Lanzamiento: cuando se produce óxido

Cepillo:

Limpieza: una vez a la semana

Con: champú clarificante

Tirar: cuando está dañado o maloliente

Men & Womens Health

It’s not politics or religion separating humans from each other; it’s shame

IDEAS.TED.com

Feb 26, 2019 /

 

Excerpted from the new book Team Human by Douglas Rushkoff. Copyright © 2019 by Douglas Rushkoff. Reprinted by permission of W.W. Norton & Company. All rights reserved.

Watch his TED Salon: Samsung talk here:

Men & Womens Health

What Does Science Say About CBD Oil & Migraines? — Invisibly Me

Today I wanted to share an intriguing guest post that will likely be relevant to a lot of you out there who, like myself, struggle with migraines. CBD oil is an interesting topic as so many people now are reporting benefits, so what does the science say about its role in helping migraines? CBD oil […]

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Health and Wellbeing

Beauty Tools 101: Clean or Toss

Willow and Sage by Stampington

If you’ve ever noticed your skin or scalp acting out, it might be due to lack of clean beauty tools. Properly cleaning your everyday tools not only removes leftover makeup, oil, and dirt and keeps the tools usable longer, but also reduces the chance of bacteria causing breakouts, rashes, and infections. Follow this cheat sheet for healthy, happy-looking skin.

Makeup Brush

Clean: once a week

With: gentle baby shampoo

Toss: when brittle, frayed, or smelly

Makeup Sponge:

Clean: once or twice a week

With: sulfate-free soap

Toss: every three months/when torn

Eyelash Curler:

Clean: once a week

With: rubbing alcohol and cotton round

Toss: replace rubber pad every four to six months

Tweezers:

Clean: after every use

With: rubbing alcohol and cotton round

Toss: when rust occurs

Hairbrush:

Clean: once a week

With: clarifying shampoo

Toss: when damaged or smelly

Health and Wellbeing · Men & Womens Health

7 Signs You Have An Intense Emotional Bond With A Toxic Person

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When you’re in an unhealthy relationship, the best and obvious thing for you to do is leave. But sometimes that’s easier said than done. If you’re in a trauma bond, therapists say it will make leaving that situation even harder

“A trauma bond is an intense emotional bond between people that usually forms as a result of a toxic or abusive dynamic,” Samantha Waldman, MHC, an NYC-based therapist who specializes in trauma and relationships, tells Bustle.

A past history of abuse or exposure to it can make a person more likely to form trauma bonds. For instance, people who experienced some form of neglect or abuse from childhood may normalize this behavior as an adult because it’s what they “learned.”

As Dr. Connie Omari, clinician and owner of Tech Talk Therapy, tells Bustle, trauma bonding includes the tendency for a person to connect with others based off the needs of their own traumatic experiences. “Because trauma involves some unmet emotional or psychological need, the relationship serves as a way to meet this need, even when it’s not done so appropriately,” she says. “It looks very dysfunctional and typically includes one or more forms of abuse.”

These bonds aren’t limited to romantic relationships. You can form a trauma bond with friends, family members, and even co-workers. When you’re in a trauma bond, you’ll find yourself continually drawn to someone even though they cause you significant pain.

It’s easy to mistake unconditional love for something more toxic like trauma bond. So here are some signs you may be in a trauma bond with a toxic person, according to experts.

1: “Crumbs” Of Love And Affection Make Your Day

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“When we find ourselves in relationships where we feel starved for love and support, small and rare instances of affection, what some call ‘crumbs of love,’ can feel deceptively satisfying,” Waldman says. For example, if a toxic person typically belittles their partner, a compliment from them would feel meaningful and special. The “affection-starved” partner would then hang on to these singular instances hoping that they will experience it again. These little crumbs of affection basically keep them hooked.

2: There’s A Predator-Prey Dynamic In Your Relationship

Ashley Batz/Bustle

A relationship built off a trauma bond usually resembles a game of “predator and prey.” According to Dr. Omari, the “predator” or abusive person will intentionally seek out and exploit the vulnerable one’s need for connection. Because of this, some form of abuse may be present in the relationship such as psychological abuse, sexual abuse, or financial manipulation. “The abused person may or may not even be aware of the abuse,” Dr. Omari says. “But they will maintain the relationship because they falsely think it satisfies their need for connection no matter how unhealthy it is.”

3: You Secretly Crave The Drama Your Relationship Provides

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“More recent research shows that the bonding actually occurs because we can become addicted to the hormonal and emotional roller coaster our abuser has put us on,” Kati Morton, LMFT, licensed therapist and author of Are u ok?: A Guide to Caring for Your Mental Health, tells Bustle. So even if the abuse is bad, the love and attention you get afterward feels good to the point that it makes you forget. According to Morton, your brain can get so used to this “up and down emotional ride” that it starts craving it. “The rush of the stress hormone cortisol, and a flood of the feel-good chemical dopamine can trigger the reward center in our brain, which can cause you to think you’re in love with your abuser,” she says. This is more likely to happen when younger or less mature.

4: You Feel Like You Can’t Leave Them

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When you’re in a trauma bond, you’ll feel stuck in the relationship and won’t see any way out of it. According to Morton, when you try to leave, you’ll feel an intense longing to see that person again. “The pain of that longing will always bring you back,” she says. While it may be difficult, it could be worth it to speak to a professional or loved ones to help you out of the relationship.

5: You Worry About Doing Things That Will Set Them Off

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If there’s abuse involved, you may find yourself walking on eggshells around them. According to Morton, one major sign of a trauma bond is worrying that you may do or say something to set them off. Even if you know this person is doing hurtful things to you, leaving is difficult because you’re afraid they may not only hurt you but themselves. Once again, talking to a professional or loved ones can help you get out of this situation safely.

6: You Stay Because You Feel Like Your Partner Is The Only One Who Can Fulfill Your Needs

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Trauma bonding can feel like love because you’re so attached to this person regardless of what they do to you. But as Dr. Omari says, it’s very different. “The motivation for trauma is intended to serve the unmet need in the victim involved,” she says. You’re so attached to this person that you feel like you can’t get your needs met anywhere else. You’re validated by your partner’s “approval.”

7: You Brush Off Their Bad Behavior Even If It Causes Others Concern

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“Your friends and family may be disturbed by some things that your partner has said or done to you, but you don’t think it’s that big of a deal,” Morton says. If people around you have mentioned that you need to get out of the relationship, but you ignore them or pretend to not know what they’re talking about, you’re likely in a trauma bond.

“A person can break the cycle of trauma bonding by being honest with themselves and setting boundaries,” Dr. Omari says. “Unfortunately, this is very difficult to do alone. If you find yourself in a relationship that’s based off your own trauma, you should be diligent about trying to end that relationship and to work on yourself.” A trauma-focused therapist can be a great resource. It may not be easy to break out of the cycle, but you can do it.

Editor’s Note: If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse, call 911 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1(800) 799-SAFE (7233) or visit thehotline.org.

Health and Wellbeing · Men & Womens Health · Moving Forward

5 Things I Wish I’d Known Before My Chronic Illness

New York Times

By Tessa Miller  Feburary 18, 2019

 

Finding out you have a chronic illness — one that will, by definition, never go away — changes things, both for you and those you love.

Seven Thanksgivings ago, I got sick and I never got better.

What I thought was food poisoning turned out to be Crohn’s disease, a form of inflammatory bowel disease (IBD) that doesn’t have a cure. It fools my immune system into attacking my digestive system, resulting in what I can only describe as the attempted birth of my intestines through my butthole. It’s a cruel and often debilitating disease.

Since that first hospital stay, I’ve had colonoscopies, biopsies, CT scans, X-rays, blood and stool tests, enemas, suppositories, rectal foams, antiemetics, antidiarrheals, antivirals, antibiotics, anti-inflammatories, opiates, steroids, immunoglobulin, biologics and three fecal transplants (if you want to hear a story about my 9-year-old poop donor and a blender, find me on Twitter).

My disease is managed now thanks to an expensive drug called infliximab, but the future is unpredictable. IBD works in patterns of flares and remissions, and little is known about what causes either.

When I was diagnosed, I didn’t know how much my life would change. There’s no conversation about that foggy space between the common cold and terminal cancer, where illness won’t go away but won’t kill you, so none of us know what “chronic illness” means until we’re thrown into being sick forever.

When an illness that the doctors can’t cure becomes part of our life, all the rules seem to change,” said Paul K. Chafetz, Ph.D., a psychologist in Dallas. “It’s scary in a dozen ways.” I’ve learned countless lessons since the early days of my illness, but here are five I wish I’d known from the start.

Chronic illness patients not only face painful physical symptoms, but also mental ones that linger even when the disease is well controlled. “There is trauma related to certain aspects of illness or treatment, and fear of outcomes like death or disability,” said Matt Lundquist, LCSW, a psychotherapist in New York. “For many people, there are financial uncertainties of paying for medical care.” Plus, there’s anxiety over loss of autonomy and control, he said.

Chronic illness also increases the risk of depression, Mr. Chafetz said, citing a 2007 World Health Organization survey that found a higher likelihood of depressive episodes among those with chronic health conditions than without.

A therapist should be considered a crucial part of your care team, just as important as a gastroenterologist or cardiologist. “A provider who has experience working with chronic illness is key,” Mr. Lundquist said. “It’s a population whose mental health struggles can be misunderstood.” If you’re homebound, some mental health professionals will do home visits, Skype or phone appointments, or you can connect with one through apps like TalkSpace and BetterHelp.

[Please note, if you’re feeling helpless or suicidal, the Suicide Prevention Hotline is available 24/7 at 1-800-273-8255. You can find a list of additional resources at SpeakingOfSuicide.com/resources.]

 

Moving Forward

Iditarod 2019 — MyLifeasaPhotographer

Saturday, March 2 was the 111th Iditarod held in Anchorage Alaska. Well, the opening ceremony that is; all the racers assemble in downtown Anchorage for the opening ceremony and then one-by-one mush to the airport where the dogs get put away until Sunday where the race officially starts in Willow AK. This year was an […]

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Men & Womens Health · Survivor

1 in 6 Special Message From Anthony Edwards

Dear 1in6 Family,

I wanted to take a moment and send a personal note to share a powerful and moving experience from this past week.

On Wednesday, I had the incredible honor of joining an audience of survivors of sexual abuse, as well as others whose lives have been impacted, for a special screening of the two-part documentary “Leaving Neverland,” which will premiere this Sunday, March 3rd and Monday the 4th on HBO. The documentary introduces two incredible men, both survivors of sexual abuse, Wade Robson and James Safechuck.

As a leading national organization helping male-identifying survivors of sexual abuse and assault, 1in6 both provided feedback to HBO on the effect of airing this powerful documentary, and recommended resources for survivors. Through this relationship, 1in6 was invited to participate in the taping of a television special, “Oprah Winfrey Presents: After Neverland,” immediately following the screening.

As many television specials do, it all came together in a matter of days. Matthew Ennis, 1in6 President & Chief Executive Officer, reached out and asked if I would briefly share my story with Oprah and the audience. A short time later, Matthew and I joined over 150 fellow survivors and their guests in a theatre near New York’s Times Square for the taping. The cavernous room was filled with a positive energy I will not soon forget.

Oprah, who has been a lifelong supporter of survivors and the complexities of their stories, brought us all together for an honest and probing discussion of abuse.  The honesty and vulnerability shared by Wade Robson and James Safechuck reinforced in me the importance of the work being done by 1in6.

I believe it is essential to acknowledge that, although he is mentioned throughout, this documentary and the Oprah special is not about Michael Jackson. This is a story of two men whose young spirits were betrayed in the name of love, and their personal journeys of healing.

I want to invite you to join us in watching the two-part documentary “Leaving Neverland,” beginning this evening and continuing tomorrow at 8:00 p.m. ET on HBO. The special, “Oprah Winfrey Presents: After Neverland” will premiere immediately following the documentary, simultaneously on HBO and the Oprah Winfrey Network, on Monday at 10:00 p.m. ET.

Please remember to practice self-care before, during, and after watching the documentary. If you would like to talk with a trained advocate, visit 1in6.org on your computer or mobile device and navigate to our free and anonymous 24/7 helpline chat. You may also find additional resources at www.1in6.org and www.hbo.com/documentaries/leaving-neverland/resources.

I write you this note with soaring pride in the work of 1in6, and the hope that we will all continue to contribute to helping men heal.

With gratitude for all that you do in support of the vital work of 1in6.

My best,

Anthony Edwards
Vice Chair, Board of Directors
1in6

Oprah Winfrey Presents: After Neverland

 

Moving Forward

What is Agoraphobia? — The Psych Talk

Agoraphobia is a very complex phobia usually manifesting itself as a collection of inter-linked conditions. For example many agoraphobics also fear being left alone (monophobia), dislike being in any situation where they feel trapped (exhibiting claustrophobia type tendencies) and fear travelling away from their ‘safe’ place, usually the home. Signs and Symptoms: Typical agoraphobia symptoms […]

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Fun

Stream of Consciousness Saturday #SoSC “Cele”

Your Friday prompt for Stream of Consciousness Saturday is “cele-.” Find a word that starts with or contains “cele” and use it any way you’d like. Enjoy!

Celebrate good times, come on!!!!!!!


Join us for the fun and sharing good media stories  

For more on the Stream of Consciousness Saturday, visit Linda Hill’s blog. Here’s the link:
Here are the rules for SoCS:
1. Your post must be stream of consciousness writing, meaning no editing, (typos can be fixed) and minimal planning on what you’re going to write.
2. Your post can be as long or as short as you want it to be. One sentence – one thousand words. Fact, fiction, poetry – it doesn’t matter. Just let the words carry you along until you’re ready to stop.
3. There will be a prompt every week. I will post the prompt here on my blog on Friday, along with a reminder for you to join in. The prompt will be one random thing, but it will not be a subject. For instance, I will not say “Write about dogs”; the prompt will be more like, “Make your first sentence a question,” “Begin with the word ‘The’,” or simply a single word to get your started.
4. Ping back! It’s important, so that I and other people can come and read your post! For example, in your post you can write “This post is part of SoCS:” and then copy and paste the URL found in your address bar at the top of this post into yours. Your link will show up in my comments for everyone to see. The most recent pingbacks will be found at the top. NOTE: Pingbacks only work from WordPress sites. If you’re self-hosted or are participating from another host, such as Blogger, please leave a link to your post in the comments below.
5. Read at least one other person’s blog who has linked back their post. Even better, read everyone’s! If you’re the first person to link back, you can check back later, or go to the previous week, by following my category, “Stream of Consciousness Saturday,” which you’ll find right below the “Like” button on my post.
6. Copy and paste the rules (if you’d like to) in your post. The more people who join in, the more new bloggers you’ll meet and the bigger your community will get!
7. As a suggestion, tag your post “SoCS” and/or “#SoCS” for more exposure and more views.
8. Have fun!

 

Fun

Friday Quote

 

grayscale photo of laughing old man
Photo by Flickr on Pexels.com

Courtesy of Good Reads 

 

“You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.”
Mae West

 

“Insanity is doing the same thing, over and over again, but expecting different results.”
Narcotics Anonymous

 

“Outside of a dog, a book is man’s best friend. Inside of a dog it’s too dark to read.”
Groucho Marx, The Essential Groucho: Writings For By And About Groucho Marx

 

“I love deadlines. I love the whooshing noise they make as they go by.”
Douglas Adams, The Salmon of Doubt

 

“Anyone who thinks sitting in church can make you a Christian must also think that sitting in a garage can make you a car.”
Garrison Keillor

 

“All you need is love. But a little chocolate now and then doesn’t hurt.”
Charles M. Schulz

 

“Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and it may be necessary from time to time to give a stupid or misinformed beholder a black eye.”
Jim Henson

 

“The reason I talk to myself is because I’m the only one whose answers I accept.”
George Carlin

 

Celebrate Life · Fun

On This Day In History February 28th

Have a great day! Thanks for reading and following my blog. I appreciate you. M

 

‘MAS*H’ finale airs to record-smashing ratings. 1983

Nearly 106 million viewers, or 77 percent of the American TV-watching public, tune in to the last episode of the beloved series ‘MAS*H.’ After 11 seasons, the television show about a US Army medical unit serving in the Korean War lasted longer than the war itself.

Watson and Crick reveal DNA discovery  1953

Cambridge University scientists James Watson and Francis Crick announce that they’ve uncovered the double-helix structure of the DNA molecule, helping to unlock the genetic code of humans and other living things. Their breakthrough drew on the pioneering work by their former colleague, Rosalind Franklin, who had produced X-ray diffraction images of DNA, but Franklin’s contribution to the discovery of the DNA double helix will go largely unrecognized during her lifetime.

Getty Museum endowed  1982

On February 28, 1982, the J. Paul Getty Museum becomes the most richly endowed museum on earth when it receives a $1.2 billion bequest left to it by the late J. Paul Getty. The American oil billionaire died in 1976, but legal wrangling over his fortune by his children and ex-wives kept his will in probate until 1982. During those six years, what was a originally a $700 million bequest to the museum nearly doubled. By 2000, the endowment was worth $5 billion–even after the trust spent nearly $1 billion in the 1990s on the construction of a massive museum and arts education complex in Los Angeles.

Congress creates Colorado Territory  1861

With the region’s population booming because of the Pike’s Peak gold rush, Congress creates the new Territory of Colorado.

When the United States acquired it after the Mexican War ended in 1848, the land that would one day become Colorado was nearly unpopulated by Anglo settlers. Ute, Arapaho, Cheyenne, and other Indians had occupied the land for centuries, but the Europeans who had made sporadic appearances there since the 17th century never stayed for long. It was not until 1851 that the first permanent non-Indian settlement was established, in the San Luis Valley.

Birthdays

 

 

BERNADETTE PETERS Actress  1948

MARIO ANDRETTI  Auto Racing  1940  

JASON ALDEAN  Country Musician  1977

BRIAN JONES  British Musician  1942

 

 

Health and Wellbeing · Men & Womens Health

Genetics of insomnia more similar to psychiatric conditions than to other sleep traits

 

We’ve always known that getting enough sleep is important and can have a significant impact on one’s health, but scientists have just begun to unravel the genetics behind why some people are more prone to sleep problems. Insomnia is the most common sleep disorder. About 30 percent of adults report short term problems, while about 10 percent report chronic insomnia. It’s also the second most common mental disorder.

Recently, 23andMe collaborated with researchers from VU University Amsterdamand Netherlands Institute for Neuroscienceon one of the largest genome-wide analysis studies to identify genes associated with insomnia. Published in the journal Nature Genetics, the study used data from more than 1.3 million consenting research volunteers from the 23andMe database and the UK Biobank.

“Our study shows that insomnia, like so many other neuropsychiatric disorders, is influenced by 100’s of genes, each of small effect,” said Guus Smit, a VU-University neurobiologist involved in the study. “These genes by themselves are not that interesting to look at. What counts is their combined effect on the risk of insomnia. We investigated that with a new method, which enabled us to identify specific types of brain cells, like the so-called medium spiny neurons.”

Study Size

The sheer size of this research cohort enabled us to ask questions about genetics of insomnia and its relationships with other conditions and sleep-related problems individuals may face. With this large dataset, researchers were able to identify 202 genome-wide significant loci involved in insomnia. They were also able to show the involvement of specific cell type — striatal medium spiny neurons, hypothalamic neurons and clastrum pyramidal neurons — and specific cortical and subcortical tissues — some of which have been implicated previously in the regulation of reward processing, sleep and arousal in animal studies, but have never been genetically linked to insomnia in humans.

 

“This study is an immense step forward in understanding the genetic background of insomnia, made possible by the unprecedented increase in cohort size,” said Vladimir Vacic, Senior Scientist, Computational Biology at 23andMe and co-author on the paper. “Our results underline that insomnia is a serious condition, sharing genetics with psychiatric disorders and increasing the risk of metabolic syndrome phenotypes.”

 

What researchers found particularly interesting was the low genetic overlap between insomnia and other sleep-related traits. Findings show that insomnia is more genetically similar to psychiatric conditions, such as anxiety and major depressive disorder, and personality traits such as neuroticism. It has less in common with sleep traits like morningness, which describes the ease of getting up in the morning, and daytime dozing, snoring or excessive napping.

 

Finding key brain areas and cell types implicated in the neurobiology of insomnia and related disorders help us better understand how insomnia affects humans and may provide novel avenues for treatment.

Moving Forward

# Face the truth with pleasure! — My experience

Accepting the truth is not always easy. But when you have the courage to see the truth and adopt it, then life becomes very easy.What happened if there is a bad phase at this time? What if the time is not giving up? What if the other are going ahead? Instead of being distracted by […]

via # Face the truth with pleasure! — My experience

Health and Wellbeing · Men & Womens Health

Zechstein Magnesium Chloride Mother Earth’s 250 Million Year Old Healing Treasure

Last week Fighting With Fibro  shared a cream that worked on her Fibromyalgia pain. It was a magnesium based product, being curious I had to understand the difference of the type she purchased. The magic word is Zechstein, many products claimed to relieve pain and a host of other problems but they didn’t have Zechstein included in ingredients. https://fightingwithfibro.com/2019/02/19/finally-something-that-actually-works-for-my-fibro-and-rls-pain/

I could not find the brand she bought and bought two other brands from Amazon. Austra Melt pain away and Ancient Minerals Ultra with OptiMSM. The Austra Melt pain away smells so good with Lemongrass essential oil. It’s non-toxic, eco-friendly, not tested on animals and Paraben free. The container is round and you have to scoop out how much you want. I felt relief but was having a rough day so didn’t judge too harshly.

The next day I tried the Ancient Minerals Ultra with OptiMSM. WOW, this did make a difference in some of my ongoing and most painful areas. I also like that it is a pump and you can control better the amount needed. It soaks in the skin very quickly, very light pleasant smell. I get up in the morning before writing and rub into hands and it’s pretty amazing for a critic like me.

Zechstein

The Zechstein is a unit of sedimentary rock layers of Middle to Late Permian age located in the European Permian Basin which stretches from the east coast of England to northern Poland. The name Zechstein was formerly also used as a unit of time in the geologic timescale, but nowadays it is only used for the corresponding sedimentary deposits in Europe.

If you want to read the history of Zechstein in depth here is a great site,
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Men & Womens Health · Survivor

I Am Not…..I Am

I Am Not 

Chronic Lyme

Fibromyalgia

Dementia

Neuropathy

Agrophobic

Shut-in

Over-focused on illness

Stagnate

Guilty

Hopeless

Looking for sympathy


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I am

A Women

Wife

Dog mother

Sister

Determined

Honest

Caring to a fault

Loving

Scared

Have high goals

Living with symptoms

Strong willed

Open minded

Writer

Student

Not a player

Which one do you like? 

Health and Wellbeing · Men & Womens Health

Why Yoga? 6 Steps to Relieve Anxious Moods Naturally

 

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Last updated: 11 Feb 2019

I’m anxious. Anxious traveler. Anxious driver. Anxious mother. There I said it. It was only when I found yoga with psychotherapy that I could regulate it on the spot. Now I use mind/body approaches in all my work. Why?

Science has shown that the body keeps the score.

Google anxiety, google yoga. The breathe complements our nervous systems. Calm the breathe and you calm your mind.

Do a child’s pose. Legs up the wall, forward fold, butterfly, mountain and alternate nostril breathing. Then see if your body is more relaxed. You can do this right in the session.

Now summon that deep relaxation each time you need it. Yoga, a centuries old practice, takes the focus on your breathe to the places that scare you.

I remember the first time I tried yoga, I almost passed out. The teacher came over not too gently and said, you’re actually not breathing. I was mortified. But it was true. Every time I bent my head down I came up dizzy, probably due to shallow breathing. This was the beginning of my ten year yoga journey. I am now 200 hour yin yoga trained.

It beats drugs and alcohol by a long shot. It actually teaches the cells of our bodies to be less reactive and more flexible. The very thing we need in this chaotic world.

If you hold the poses just a bit longer, to the edge, to the point of tolerable sensations, then you get a bonus benefit; a deep knowing that you can bear your own pain with grace and wisdom, and the physical release that follows. Two for one.

So here are 6 yin yoga actions you can take right now.

1. Yin Yoga is simple, but simple does not mean easy.

2. In meditation and in our daily lives there are three qualities that we can nurture, cultivate, and bring out. We already possess these, but they can be ripened: precision, gentleness, and the ability to let go.

3. Yin Yoga takes a normal healthy body and brings it up to optimum.

4. Yin practice takes you deeper into where you are, not out to where you think you should be.

5. Yin yoga challenges you to sit in the pure presence of awareness.

6. How do I react when I let my thoughts move towards the idea of rest, relaxation and restoring energy?

So the next time you are overtired and underwhelmed, bored, listless, sick or scared, just sit, eyes closed, and bring your breath from your root to your crown. Don’t be the judge and the jury. Just be.

 

 

Health and Wellbeing · Men & Womens Health

Depression Affects 15% of New Moms. A New Guideline Could Help Prevent It

TIME

By JAMIE DUCHARME

February 13, 2019

A new recommendation from a group of independent experts convened by the government could help more new and expecting mothers avoid depression, one of the most common complications of pregnancy and childbirth.

The recommendation is the first from the U.S. Preventive Services Task Force (USPSTF) on preventing perinatal depression, which strikes during pregnancy or after childbirth and affects almost 15% of new mothers. The guideline states that clinicians, namely primary care providers, should provide counseling services, or references to them, to all pregnant and postpartum women at increased risk of perinatal depression. The guidance could help prevent mental health issues in this vulnerable population, and prompt more insurance providers to cover counseling services for pregnant and postpartum women.

After reviewing the relevant research, the USPSTF specifically recommended that at-risk women try cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), which focuses on changing a person’s thoughts to change how they feel, or interpersonal therapy, which focuses on building relationship skills. Those at heightened risk of depression include single, young and lower-income mothers, people with a history of depression and women showing depressive symptoms including low energy and mood.

The proactive focus of the recommendations is important, says Jeff Temple, a psychologist in the department of obstetrics and gynecology at the University of Texas Medical Branch, who was not involved with the task force. Past USPSTF recommendations have focused on screening for existing depression among all adults, including pregnant and postpartum women.

“I am very happy to see anything related to prevention, whether it’s mental health generally or perinatal depression specifically,” Temple says. “If we can prevent problems from occurring, not only do we do a great service to humans, but [the health care system] saves a great deal of money.”

The new recommendation also means that more mothers will have access to insurance-covered mental health care. Under the Affordable Care Act, private insurance plans are directed to cover preventive care recommended by groups including the USPSTF at no cost.

“If we need to see 15% of perinatal women, there’s absolutely no way that we have the ability to do that,” Temple says. “We need to put more money and effort into training more psychologists and counselors.”

The good news, Temple says, is that the USPSTF recommendation could provide the kind of validation hospitals and practices need to dedicate those resources, especially if they see demand for services increasing. Ideally, Temple says, they would focus their efforts on integrating mental health care into primary care, rather than leaving it in a silo.

“If these women are screened and they’re recommended to someone [for counseling] and it’s kind of a cold handoff, very few will follow up with it,” Temple says. “But if one implication of this is that OB/GYN departments start to incorporate counselors and psychologists within their services, then we’ll see a huge benefit. If we did that, I am 100% positive we would see declines in perinatal depression.”

Simone Lambert, president of the American Counseling Association, agrees that the recommendation will likely increase demand for mental health services, but says that’s a small price to pay for better preventive care, which can reduce the need for future treatments.

“The benefits of increased maternal and infant wellness and decreased stigma to seek mental health assistance would likely lead to less of a toll on our healthcare system than when mental health concerns are unaddressed,” Lambert says, adding that healthier moms also lead to healthier babies and families.

Temple says methods like CBT are effective because factors like stress, identity changes and overwhelming circumstances often contribute to perinatal depression, and all of these obstacles can be effectively addressed by a counselor. Research suggests that counseling can provide moderate or substantial benefits to new or expecting mothers, according to the USPSTF’s recommendation.

“I think we’re starting to understand the importance of mental health as a society, and the importance of prevention,” Temple says. “The future is definitely going to be psychologists within primary care departments.”

Write to Jamie Ducharme at jamie.ducharme@time.com.

Moving Forward

How to Stop Being Irritable — The Psych Talk

Everyone experiences irritability at some point in their lives but for some people, it can become problematic and affect their relationships and personal well-being. In this case, there are many things you can do in order to reduce your levels of irritability and have more productive encounters with others. Avoid triggers and Change Environments: Removing […]

via How to Stop Being Irritable — The Psych Talk

Celebrate Life · Fun · Moving Forward

Stream of Consciousness Saturday Prompt “Critic/(cal).” #SoCS

Your Friday prompt for Stream of Consciousness Saturday is “critic(al).” Use it any way you’d like. Have fun!

At the height of my career as a Sales Executive, I was critical of everyone who didn’t do the agreed process. In the Consulting business processes are important, if a Recruiter sent an unqualified consultant to my client, I had to fire the employee and walk them off the job-site. I was forever critical until realizing work wasn’t everything and the sun will come out soon.   M   

 


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1. Your post must be stream of consciousness writing, meaning no editing, (typos can be fixed) and minimal planning on what you’re going to write.
2. Your post can be as long or as short as you want it to be. One sentence – one thousand words. Fact, fiction, poetry – it doesn’t matter. Just let the words carry you along until you’re ready to stop.
3. There will be a prompt every week. I will post the prompt here on my blog on Friday, along with a reminder for you to join in. The prompt will be one random thing, but it will not be a subject. For instance, I will not say “Write about dogs”; the prompt will be more like, “Make your first sentence a question,” “Begin with the word ‘The’,” or simply a single word to get your started.
4. Ping back! It’s important, so that I and other people can come and read your post! For example, in your post you can write “This post is part of SoCS:” and then copy and paste the URL found in your address bar at the top of this post into yours. Your link will show up in my comments for everyone to see. The most recent pingbacks will be found at the top. NOTE: Pingbacks only work from WordPress sites. If you’re self-hosted or are participating from another host, such as Blogger, please leave a link to your post in the comments below.
5. Read at least one other person’s blog who has linked back their post. Even better, read everyone’s! If you’re the first person to link back, you can check back later, or go to the previous week, by following my category, “Stream of Consciousness Saturday,” which you’ll find right below the “Like” button on my post.
6. Copy and paste the rules (if you’d like to) in your post. The more people who join in, the more new bloggers you’ll meet and the bigger your community will get!
7. As a suggestion, tag your post “SoCS” and/or “#SoCS” for more exposure and more views.
8. Have fun!

 

 

Celebrate Life · Health and Wellbeing

Powerlifter Lifts 2-Ton SUV Off Man Trapped Underneath #WATWB

 

February 19, 2019

A powerlifter in Michigan is being hailed as a real-life superhero after his quick actions helped save a man pinned under a rolled over vehicle.

Ryan Belcher, 29, was preparing to leave work last Thursday when he heard a loud crash outside his workplace.

He noticed an SUV flipped upside down, and he rushed outside toward the wreckage. Ryan said there was a man trapped under the vehicle begging for help.

Belcher, who is 350 pounds and can deadlift over 800 pounds, recalled thinking at the time, “this is where I need to be. All the training I’ve been through… this is the time where it’s really going to pay off.”

But the Jeep Cherokee he was about to try and lift weighed roughly two tons.

“I just jumped right in,” Belcher told Fox News. “I seen a window that was broken out of the back of the vehicle and I knew if I can swing the vehicle in a certain direction I can free him from that pole. So, I just stuck my arms in and I don’t know I just grabbed it, lifted it up and started pushing and all I heard was that’s enough we can get him.”

The man Belcher saved and another woman suffered serious injuries in the crash. No fatalities were reported.

On Sunday, Belcher went to the hospital to visit the man he helped rescue.

“I got to meet Montrell tonight!! He’s the most positive person considering his circumstances,” he wrote in a Facebook post.

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Belcher’s son calls him the Hulk, but he said he’s uneasy about hero comparisons since Thursday’s incident.

“To say that I’m a hero, I don’t know. But I’m glad to have been there, and I was put there for a reason,” he said.

We Are the World Blogfest

 

 

 

 

We Are The World  Blogfest: Spreading Stories of Positivity and Compassion in Social Media

~~~GUIDELINES~~~

  1. Keep your post to below 500 words.
  2. All we ask is you link to a human news story on your blog on the last Friday of each month, one that shows love and humanity.
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