In the beginning of January 2023, I woke up about 5am and walked downstairs to my office. I sat there for a moment and then went over to the bookcase and picked up a copy of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM V). It’s the book mental health care professionals use as […]
Reclaiming Mental Health – P1 — Shedding Light on Mental Health
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Is Your Personal Information Safe On Health Apps?
Health Apps have become critical to our daily lives but do you know if your personal information is shared? I recently read that some Apps use your information for research, or sell the information to a third party. Everyone needs to know how their personal information is used, there are enough security risks in life.
Be sure to read the Privacy Policy of any App that collects sensitive information. I’ve written several posts about Health Apps and didn’t know information sharing was an issue at the time. Now I’m informed and so are you.
Read the Privacy Policies of all Apps that capture your personal information. You don’t want an App that is a front for gathering information and passing it along.
Melinda
How to avoid Chronic Kidney Disease
In the earliest stages of Chronic Kidney Disease, you can make changes to your diet that will help your kidneys stave off/or slow the progression of the disease.
I’ve only included the basics, so please go to the sites referenced for complete information.
The time to make changes is now, before you get Kidney Disease or if you’ve been diagnosed at the earliest stages.
What is a Kidney Friendly Diet
A kidney-friendly diet should limit sodium, cholesterol, and fat, and instead focus on fruits, vegetables, whole grains, low-fat dairy, and lean meats (seafood, poultry, eggs, legumes, nuts, seeds, and soy products), says Maruschak. People who have already been diagnosed with CKD may also need to limit certain other nutrients, she adds.
Here are the basics of diet changes
Portion Your Plate
Limit Your Salt Intake
Be Mindful of Protein
Choose Complex Carbs Over Simple Carbs
Limit Saturated Fats and Avoid Trans Fat
Watch Your Alcohol Intake
Talk to Your Doctor About Whether You Need to Limit Phosphorus and Potassium
Work With a Dietitian
The changes required can seem overwhelming but you can start one at a time until all are part of your Kidney healthy diet.
For detailed information about diet changes, you can visit The Kidney Foundation.
I was recently diagnosed with Stage 3 Kidney Disease, which means my kidneys are working at 50% and my kidneys are too damaged for them to heal. As I research my own Kidney Disease, I’ll pass along anything important.
Melinda
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Your Mental Health Is Important: Tips On Moving To A New Town
Moving to a new town can be challenging. You’re uprooting your life and starting over in unfamiliar surroundings where no one knows you or where no familiar faces exist. However, with an open mind and positive approach, moving can be both enjoyable and beneficial for your mental well-being. It will help to expose you to new people from various walks of life, and there may be exciting opportunities out there that lead to improved quality of life. Here, we will cover everything from how to find housing in a new town to practical advice for making it feel like home in your new environment. So read on for advice on settling comfortably into life in a brand new city and its potential impact on mental health.
Research Your Options
A new town can be both exciting and overwhelming. Before making the leap, it is wise to research its characteristics – neighborhoods, parks, and community events are good places to begin exploring your options, as are local schools and businesses. Spend some time getting acquainted with its amenities, such as shopping centers, medical facilities, and recreational activities, so you can form positive associations between yourself and the place you will soon call home.
Find An Experienced Realtor
Whether selling or renting out your current home, consulting with a realtor can be invaluable in the process. Their expertise and market knowledge will ensure you obtain the maximum return for your property sale or rental investment. Finding the best realtor for yourself is key; seek someone who understands your individual needs, who will guide the process in an optimal way, and who will help you find a home in your new town that fits both your requirements and budget.
Declutter Before Moving
Moving can introduce feelings of excitement and anxiety all at once, and decluttering before the big day can make all the difference. While it might be tempting to simply pack everything up and deal with it later, reducing clutter will create a more organized and soothing atmosphere when you arrive in your new home. Not only will you have less to unpack, but you’ll be able to easily find what you need and avoid feeling overwhelmed in your new surroundings.
Get To Know Your Neighbors
Making new friends in a new town may be daunting, but getting to know your neighbors can be one of the easiest ways to build a new community. Remember that building relationships take time; one way of making this transition more manageable is by getting acquainted with your neighbors – they may become your close friends, gym partners, or trusted pet sitters! So take the time to introduce yourself, invite them over for a meal, or offer to lend a hand whenever they need it.
Make Time For Yourself
Take time for yourself by participating in yoga classes, going for leisurely walks, or sitting quietly and meditating – however, you choose. Doing this will allow you to unwind, assess your emotions, and process changes in life more easily. Making this investment in yourself will reduce stress while improving your overall well-being; your mental well-being should be treated just as seriously as your physical well-being, so take the time needed for both!
Technology Makes Making Friends Easier
Moving away from those you love and places you are familiar with can be daunting, particularly when you don’t know anyone in your new town. But thanks to technology, making friends has never been simpler: friendship apps such as Bumble BFF are a great way to meet people who share similar interests or hobbies – you could meet potential friends within seconds by signing up. And who knows, you might just find your soulmate!
Explore Local Attractions
One of the best ways to familiarize yourself with a new town is by visiting its attractions. Take time out to visit landmarks, take part in outdoor activities, and try local eateries; doing this can quickly break down any barriers you might be feeling around meeting new people. It will also provide the opportunity for you to socialize with locals as well as learn about the town’s history while discovering hidden gems that will enhance your life experience.
Final Thoughts
Moving to a new city can be an immensely enriching experience for many, which is why it’s essential that it be done the correct way. Your mental health and well-being should always come first, so use the tips given above to make sure you have a successful transition into your new home. With a little effort, you’ll soon be feeling like a local in no time.
This is a collaborative post.
Melinda
Book Review for The Marvelous Magical Door by Leo Perry
I want to thank Editor Andrea Marchiano from Trigger Publishing for sending me The Marvelous Magical Door to review. Mental Health books written for children teach by writing in a level they understand and will help you start a conversation on the subject.
About the Author
Leo is a graduate of the University of Massachusetts and has been working in community mental health. He and his wife, Deborah along with their vizsla dog, Scout live on Cape Cod in Massachusetts. They love spending family time with their children and grandson.
Blurb
Sally’s story starts like many children’s do these days: Her mind has started to swirl with negative thoughts, which stop her from sleeping, enjoying her favorite activities or even spending time with her friends. But luckily for Sally, her parents have a plan to make her feel safe and secure once again. All she has to do is step through a marvellous, magical door.
The Marvellous, Magical Door delicately deals with the anxiety and pressure that today’s kids feel. Even if you can’t build your children a magical door of their own, you can use the self-care tips shared in this book to make them feel better – and help them get back to being carefree kids again
My Thoughts
As a parent, you can see the bumps and bruises but not what is spinning in your child’s mind. Young Sally experiences anxiety from the scary images seen at night, loud noises, and even overhearing the evening news.
Growing concerned, her parents look for ways to calm her fears. A great idea is born and they build a magical door for Sally, a door to walk thru that will melt her anxiety away. When Sally opens the door, her mood is lifted by the positive energy surrounding her and the anxious feelings disappear.
In addition to the storyline, the self-care tips help your child to face the world confidently.
I would recommend The Marvellous Magical Door to parents and grandparents alike. The story will build on the foundation of your child’s mental health by getting the conversation started.
Trigger Publishing
TriggerHub.org is the first mental health organization of its kind. We are bringing mental health recovery and balance to millions of people worldwide through the power of our books.
We have built a first-class resource of curated books produced and published in-house to create a unique collection of mental health recovery titles unrivaled in quality and selection. We work with experts, psychologists, doctors, and coaches to produce our books, but we also work with real people looking to share their stories to reach out to others and provide hope, understanding, and compassion. These brave authors also aim to raise awareness of mental health’s “human” face and its impact on everyday lives.
Melinda
Blogger Highlight-Monicle’s Chronicles
Thank you for all the great feedback on the Blogger Highlight series, I’ve enjoyed meeting each blogger and sharing their site with you. This week we highlight a new blogger, Monicle’s Chronicles.
monicle’s chronicles
living well at 70
I’m sixty, single and surviving. Too old to work, to young to die. I love being retired and living this monotonous life. I waited a long time to live this way!
Stop by you’ll find interesting post and the prompts followed.
Melinda
Stream of Consciousness Saturday #SOCS Prompt is “scene.”
Your Friday prompt for Stream of Consciousness Saturday is “scene”. Use it any way you’d like. Enjoy!
At almost 60 with multiple chronic health problems, my days of drama are long behind me. I’ve met many good and not-so-good doctors over the years and have had two bad experiences in the past month.
I finally hit a wall and blew a gasket. My scene wasn’t in public, it was via computer. After being sick for more than half of my life, I’m very clear on what I expect from a doctor and the last two did not fit the criteria.
Melinda
Here are the rules:
1. Your post must be Stream of Consciousness writing, meaning no editing (typos can be fixed), and minimal planning on what you’re going to write. 2. Your post can be as long or as short as you want it to be. One sentence – one thousand words. Fact, fiction, poetry – it doesn’t matter. Just let the words carry you along until you’re ready to stop. 3. I will post the prompt here on my blog every Friday, along with a reminder for you to join in. The prompt will be one random thing, but it will not be a particular subject. For instance, I will not say “Write about dogs”; the prompt will be more like, “Make your first sentence a question,” “Begin with the word ‘The,’” or will simply be a single word to get you started. 4. Ping back! It’s important, so that I and other people can come and read your post! For example, in your post you can write “This post is part of SoCS:” and then copy and paste the URL found in your address bar at the top of this post into yours. Your link will show up in my comments for everyone to see. The most recent pingbacks will be found at the top. NOTE: Pingbacks only work from WordPress sites. If you’re self-hosted or are participating from another host, such as Blogger, please leave a link to your post in the comments below. 5. Read at least one other person’s blog who has linked back their post. Even better, read all of them! If you’re the first person to link back, you can check back later or go to the previous week by following my category, “Stream of Consciousness Saturday,” which you’ll find below the “Like” button on my post. 6. Copy and paste the rules (if you’d like to) in your post. The more people who join in, the more new bloggers you’ll meet and the bigger your community will get! 7. As a suggestion, tag your post “SoCS” and/or “#SoCS” for more exposure and more views. 8. Have fun!
For more streams, rules, and tips for Stream of Consciousness Saturday, visit our host, Linda at: Linda G Hill
Introducing Vital Field’s New Anti-Aging Cell
I want to send a special thank you to Vital Field’s Communications Director Nassia Bitha for sending me the New Anti-Aging Cell. If you’ve read my blog long enough you know that my relationship with Vital Field started over two years ago and I’ve reviewed many of their products. I don’t completely understand the science behind each Cell but all of the reviews I’ve done have been positive.
Who doesn’t want to add a Holistic approach to living your best life?
This post contains affiliate links that may earn me a commission to fund my coffee habit.
About Vital Field
Vitalfield has collaborated extensively with expert scientists and healthcare practitioners in Germany, Switzerland and Austria, with a focus on biophysical and frequency medicine applications. Until early 2018, most of the technology in this field involved significant investments and training before it could be utilized in clinical environments.
Recent scientific breakthroughs have made this treatment accessible to the general public, in the form of miniature, portable and wearable applications that target specific health problems, such as chronic pain, inflammation, cell regeneration, metabolism, and detoxification of the body. Further patented technology discovered in recent years also enabled some of these natural treatment methods to be implanted into wearable materials that could localize the treatment for the long-term, in an extremely cost-effective manner.
About the Anti-Aging Cell
The Anti-Aging Cell actively supports and shows great results with:
- Skin tissue elasticity and structure
- Stimulation of the connective tissue
- Mind & body balance
- Flexibility and energy levels
You can read more information about the Anti-Ageing Cell and the complete product line of Frequencell’s here.
Use discount code LIGHT20 for 20% off any Vital Field product.
Once my health improves, I”ll let you know my thoughts. I have confidence in the product based on my experience.
Melinda
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4 Reasons Theray Is The Right Choice
The goal of each of the many available therapeutic approaches is the same: to facilitate the patient’s growth and development. Thankfully, the stigma surrounding treatment has decreased significantly in recent years. Remember that counseling is about making lasting improvements, not just temporary ones. Here are four positive outcomes that are common among those who participate in therapy.
Raised Confidence
Your sense of value and self-worth is typically formed at an early age. Life events have an impact, and you could develop a negative opinion of yourself as a result. Actually, many people visit therapists to improve their sense of self-worth; it has a significant impact on one’s quality of life. Having a positive self-image can provide you with the strength, confidence, kindness, motivation, and love you need to achieve your goals.
A therapist can assist you in recognizing and changing any destructive thought patterns or actions that may be contributing to your low self-esteem. In general, you’ll be able to improve your connections with yourself by doing things like learning to forgive your harsh judgments of the past. Quitting can be difficult, but professional assistance is available. Things such as The Insight Clinic Neurofeedback Therapy can massively help.
A Heightened Awareness Of Oneself
Self-awareness is a skill not everyone possesses, but therapists may help with that. Try to picture this as a form of “grip on reality.” But it’s not about the obvious, like eating your vegetables; it’s about the problems that may not seem so severe at first. Anyone who wants to get forward in life should work on developing their capacity for introspection. It helps you get insight into your inner workings and gain control over your life by shedding light on your feelings, character, and responses.
In a broad sense, it’s essential for progress. Setting appropriate boundaries and communicating your needs are facilitated by your increased ability to regulate your own emotions. In the end, this can help you feel more connected to your ideals and the people around you. Gaining a deeper understanding of yourself is one of the primary goals of therapy, and therapists may help by providing a secure environment in which you can do just that.
Facilitates The Formation Of Healthier Connections
It’s true that couples at any stage of their marriage or dating relationship can benefit from therapy. The choice to seek assistance rests with the individual, ultimately. knowledge of one’s own approach to others is essential, as is knowledge of how others may approach one. Developing one’s capacity for mutual understanding and improved communication is just the beginning. Improve your relationships by being self-aware about your behavior towards others.
Improved Capacity For Expression
Therapists will work with you to improve your communication skills and the way you interpret the words and tone of others as they relate to your interpersonal interactions. Successful people in business and in life possess strong communication abilities. These include the ability to express oneself clearly, listen carefully, and collaborate with others. You might use them to concentrate on listening carefully and asking pertinent follow-up questions. It will also involve some serious introspection, the likes of which you might not even be aware you’re capable of.
These are just four of the main benefits of therapy. Do you have any more? Please share them below.
This is a collaborative post.
Melinda
I’ve been diagnosed with a NEW Chronic Illness
I took a minute in the portal for my doctor to see what was new with the practice and discovered I have Stage 3 of 5 Chronic Kidney Disease. I had whiplash and then wrote my doctor. Yes, it’s true. She has told me several times after lab work that my Kidney Function was down but never netted it out. She never said you have Chronic Kidney Disease.
I know this disease intimately because my gramps died from it. He developed Chronic Kidney Disease from years of uncontrolled high blood pressure. This will sound crazy to some but Chronic Kidney Disease is the most peaceful way to die. How bad is falling asleep for two days, then meeting your maker.
It was really four days, two days he was very alert when people came to visit but did tire easily. One the third day we could tell he was going into a coma and said our final goodbyes. He died peacefully, with no pain at the end of the fourth day.
One point*
The doctor gave my gramps a month to live but it was really two weeks. The older you are, he was 92, the time frame may be much less. Talk to the Hospice Nurse and she can give you a better idea.
This was a shock. I went to bed for the afternoon to process everything. Today will be fine because he brought a cupcake home. They always get my mind off my diet and problems.
Melinda
What You Need To Understand About Getting A Divorce
With around half of all marriages ending in divorce, it is an experience that will, unfortunately, befall many of us at some point in our lives. If you think you might be heading towards a divorce yourself, or you know for certain that it is about to happen, then you will obviously benefit from being as prepared as possible for it. A necessary part of that will be understanding how divorce works. In this post, we are going to look at a few of the main things you might need to understand about getting a divorce to help you through the process.
The Process Can Be Lengthy
One thing that it’s good to know straight up is that divorces can take quite a while. Regardless of the specifics of the situation, it can be months before it’s finalized, and throughout that whole time, you are going to be living in a precarious place of not knowing what your future will really look like. So you need to make sure that you are aware of that and ready for it, so you are not too shocked when you are going through it yourself. That alone will help a great deal as well as anything else.
You Need Legal Representation
To go through a divorce, you really do need legal representation. This is important for a number of reasons. First of all, without a lawyer by your side, you probably won’t even be able to get the ball rolling. An attorney is a central part of how you start the divorce process, as well as someone that you need to have by your side throughout the entire process. They will ensure you are well represented and your needs are met, and you are going to find everything a lot less stressful and worrying with their help by your side.
Mediation Can Help
If you have a family and you want to make sure that the kids are affected only minimally, then family mediation can be enormously helpful. This is the kind of thing that can make the entire process so much easier and less stressful, and it really is amazing what a difference it makes. Your kids might have a better sense of what is going on, and that alone is a big part of them feeling better about everything. So seek out some good mediation as soon as possible – you will be glad you did.
There is no doubt that a divorce can be one of the messiest experiences you ever go through. Even when both parties have the best intentions in the world, emotions can get high and it can cause a lot of upset. So you need to make sure that you are as emotionally prepared for this up-and-down process as you can possibly be. As long as you know that it might be a messy process, you are already some way towards being able to deal with it a lot more effectively and easily.
This is a collaborative post.
Melinda
How to Get Your Life Back on Track When Things Are Out of Control
Are You Feeling Overwhelmed and Stressed Out? Don’tDon’t fret – many others feel the same! Organizing your life and taking purposeful steps are all effective strategies for getting life back under control – This blog post will discuss tips to regain your control! This post offers easy tips to organize yourself and rebuild momentum for long-term success in both personal and professional settings – read on if you wish to regain the tools needed to take charge!
Regain Your Confidence
Sometimes life can make us feel like we’re spiraling out of control. It’s in those moments that our confidence can take a hit. However, regaining confidence isn’t as intangible as it may seem. One way to do this is to think about what boosts your confidence. It may be feeling good about your body, in which case committing to fitness could be a solution. If it’s the knowledge that makes you feel confident, find people you admire and learn from them or reach out to a mentor.
Assess Your Time Management
Assessing your time management skills is about taking a closer look at how you spend your time and being honest about areas where you may be wasting it. Whether it’s scrolling through social media, getting lost in email triage, or just taking longer than necessary to complete certain tasks. Identifying time traps is crucial to making better use of your day. Once you clearly understand where your time is going, you can start prioritizing the things that matter most to you and eliminating distractions. Remember, time is a finite resource, so make the most of it by being intentional about how you use it.
Organize the Little Things
Organizing the little things is an excellent way to regain control of your chaotic life. With seemingly endless to-do lists and constant stress, our environment can quickly become cluttered, leading to even more anxiety. Starting with simple steps like decluttering your workspace or organizing your sock drawer can promote a sense of order and balance. Repair that windscreen crack and start taking back your life; visit https://agdnow.com/ to learn more about windscreen repairs. Plus, small victories with middle-of-the-road tasks will motivate you to tackle more significant problems. By taking care of these small details, you can regain the reins and feel empowered to handle harder tasks.
Don’t Be Too Hard on Yourself
Being too harsh on yourself can take its toll on your mental health. Reminding yourself that progress takes time is key. Building routines and taking small steps toward your goals can add up over time to make big differences in life. Don’t be afraid to reassess and try something different if something doesn’t seem to be working; the journey toward improvement should be as rewarding as its end goal, so allow yourself plenty of time.
Life seems out of our control at times, which should serve as an alert that it’s time to slow down and evaluate where we stand in life. When things suddenly crumble all at once, this could be a telltale sign that our balance has shifted out of balance and needs resetting.
Balance is an ever-evolving pursuit and should evolve alongside major life events and the passage of time. Anytime everything seems overwhelming at once, consider it an opportunity to rebuild and get back on track.
This a collaborative post.
Melinda
Where’s Your Focus? Wellness or Illness? —Friend and Guest Blogger Olive Tree Saints
Are your efforts toward better health more wellness-focused or illness-focused? A silly question? Let me explain….
Where’s Your Focus? Wellness or Illness? — Olive Tree Saints
Eating Disorders Often Undiagnosed In Boys And Men
It may surprise you that more boys and men are diagnosed with Eating Disorders than girls and women? Part of the reason for not reaching out is the stigma around Mental Health support and the lack of education about the disorder.
Eating Disorders are complex and treatment directed toward males can be limited. Helping someone overcome an Eating Disorder requires patience, therapy, or a stay at an in-house treatment center. I’ve only read a couple of books on Eating Disorders and will say it’s a very long road of relapses to reach recovery.
Due to their own stigma parents and family often overlook the early warning signs and do not reach out for help until it’s a crisis.
EATING DISORDERS IN MEN & BOYS
In the United States alone, eating disorders will affect 10 million males at some point in their lives. But due in large part to cultural bias, they are much less likely to seek treatment for their eating disorder. The good news is that once a man finds help, they show similar responses to treatment as women. Several factors lead to men and boys being under- and undiagnosed for an eating disorder. Men can face a double stigma, for having a disorder characterized as feminine or gay and for seeking psychological help. Additionally, assessment tests with language geared to women and girls have led to misconceptions about the nature of disordered eating in men according to the National Eating Disorder Association.
COMMON SYMPTOMS OF AN EATING DISORDER
Emotional and Behavioral Symptoms
- In general, behaviors and attitudes that indicate that weight loss, dieting, and control of food are becoming primary concerns
- Preoccupation with weight, food, calories, carbohydrates, fat grams, and dieting
- Refusal to eat certain foods, progressing to restrictions against whole categories of food (e.g., no carbohydrates, etc.)
- Appears uncomfortable eating around others
- Food rituals (e.g. eats only a particular food or food group [e.g. condiments], excessive chewing, doesn’t allow foods to touch)
- Skipping meals or taking small portions of food at regular meals
- Any new practices with food or fad diets, including cutting out entire food groups (no sugar, no carbs, no dairy, vegetarianism/veganism)
- Withdrawal from usual friends and activities
- Frequent dieting
- Extreme concern with body size and shape
- Frequent checking in the mirror for perceived flaws in appearance
- Extreme mood swings
Physical Symptoms
- Noticeable fluctuations in weight, both up and down
- Stomach cramps, other non-specific gastrointestinal complaints (constipation, acid reflux, etc.)
- Menstrual irregularities — missing periods or only having a period while on hormonal contraceptives (this is not considered a “true” period)
- Difficulties concentrating
- Abnormal laboratory findings (anemia, low thyroid and hormone levels, low potassium, low white and red blood cell counts)
- Dizziness, especially upon standing
- Fainting/syncope
- Feeling cold all the time
- Sleep problems
- Cuts and calluses across the top of finger joints (a result of inducing vomiting)
- Dental problems, such as enamel erosion, cavities, and tooth sensitivity
- Dry skin and hair, and brittle nails
- Swelling around area of salivary glands
- Fine hair on body (lanugo)
- Cavities, or discoloration of teeth, from vomiting
- Muscle weakness
- Yellow skin (in context of eating large amounts of carrots)
- Cold, mottled hands and feet or swelling of feet
- Poor wound healing
- Impaired immune functioning
The list of symptoms is long because it’s all-encompassing.
I encourage you to visit National Eating Disorder Association for a breakdown of the seven types of Eating Disorders and other behavioral and food concerns. Finding the underlying causes requires a trained professional in the right setting, an individual plan, and most importantly support from family and friends.
When looking for the right professional, talk with them about their approach and experience before introducing them to the patient. Finding the right approach may require research and time. It’s important to do this on the front end if possible. An approved method and training will make all the difference on the road to recovery. Disruptions during treatment can interfere with the recovery process making the patient resistant to continued treatment.
Melinda
References
Chronic Stress and Health — DocTalk, Guest Blogger Explorations in Psychotherapy
Stress causes depression, anxiety, and health problems
Chronic Stress and Health — DocTalk, Explorations in Psychotherapy
Just Pondering
What’s one compliment that’s stuck with you over the years?
Melinda
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Field Guide by Stampington
Blogger Highlight-Dear Jo Anne
Thank you for all the great feedback on the Blogger Highlight series, I’ve enjoyed meeting each blogger and sharing their site with you. This week we highlight a new blogger, Dear Jo Anne.
My name is Hannah. I am 29 years old, from Australia and I’ve never liked introductions – probably because I’m not very good at them!
I adore blogging and find myself drawn to create pieces that are usually inspired by the difficult stuff. Some of my writing interests include adulthood, grief and loss, lifestyle, fiction, humour, social anxiety, mental health, self-improvement, and media.
Hannah’s site is great! Be sure to stop by and say hello.
Melinda
UTI’s, Kidney Stones, and Kidney Infections
I had a rough week with my health and went to the doctor. Here is a tip the doctor did not share and I was unaware of until returning home and doing some research.
You can have a UTI at the same time you’re passing a Kidney Stone, it’s very common.
If you have some UTI and Kidney Stone symptoms, read about Kidney Infections.
I work hard to not go in self-diagnosed but in this case, some knowledge would have gone a long way.
Because it was an emergency I had to see another doctor, and due to her blank look at me, I plan to wait to see my doctor at all costs.
*Just a side note
When I went to bed that night, I realized I had worn my “100% My Body” tee. Did that have any play in her treatment of me? It’s a frightening thought, but Free Speech is not without consequences.
Melinda
Chronic Illness & My Love Of Fashion —Guest Blogger Windy’s Journey
This is a topic that I’ve struggled with for quite some time now. You see while I have been living with Fibromyalgia and Chronic Lyme Disease (to name a couple), I also have a great love for ALL things fashion. So what’s the big deal? Well, I’m so glad you asked. HOW I SHOW UP […]
Chronic Illness & My Love Of Fashion — Windy’s Journey
Yogurt, a Cupcake, and a Heating Pad
After blowing a gasket to my husband about my health frustrations last night, I took my Xanax and went to bed early. This morning I’m feeling better, even went to the portal and erased the message to my doctor.
Since my appointment was an emergency and they worked me in I had to see a different doctor. Do that once and you may love your regular doctor more. The doctor did not share some basic 101 tips that would have helped me leave with a crumb. When I found it on the Internet, I got angry.
I’ve been headed toward a wall with my health for the past year and yesterday I hit it hard. Thank goodness my husband understands my health challenges, how to put the pieces again, and knows a cupcake goes a long way.
I cut most sweets from my diet a year ago as my weight loss journey began but today I added a large cupcake to lunch. The heating pad will feel so much better now!
Stay strong, get angry, get it out of your system, cry, or scream to release the anger, then take a step forward.
Melinda
The importance of a hairbrush — Guest Blogger Beauty From Ashes
Life isn’t always pretty if the fact some heinous crimes take place under our noses every day. Please don’t turn a blind eye because it’s painful to see, take action, no matter how small when you can.
Melinda
I went to a Board meeting last night for a new foundation a friend, the other board members, and myself are starting. (My friend let’s call her K founded it the rest of us are on the board helping get it up and running) it’s called After The Last Sale Foundation (I’m really excited about […]
The importance of a hairbrush — Beauty From Ashes
Is Now The Right Time To Have A Baby?
You could argue that there’s no right time to have a baby. Having a baby will always be disruptive and you’ll have to make some sacrifices no matter the circumstances.
That said, there are certain situations where it can be much easier to raise a child. These are the types of situations that you ideally want to get yourself into before settling down with a baby as it could make the experience much more rewarding.
For those who are undecided as to whether to have a baby right now, here are a few important questions to ask yourself.
Do you want to become a parent?
This is the most important question to ask yourself. If you are passionate about having a child and feel that becoming a parent now would complete you, then it makes sense to try for a baby right now while you are eager.
If you have no interest in becoming a parent and cannot fathom taking on the responsibility, then now is clearly not the right time. While many reluctant parents learn to love parenthood when forced into it, there is no guarantee that you will feel this way, and shouldn’t let yourself be unduly pressured.
Does your partner want a child?
Deciding to have a child can be very difficult if one partner wants a child and the other doesn’t. If you want to stay together, one partner will have to make the ultimate compromise. Relationship counseling could be necessary to help you make the decision.
The decision to have a baby could be much harder if one of you is already pregnant and you are both conflicted about having a baby. You will have less time to make a decision – it could be important to look into services like abortion counseling services to talk things out. If you are pregnant, it is ultimately your decision whether to keep the baby or not, and you should not feel pressured by your partner to do something you don’t want.
Are you physically/mentally healthy enough?
Ideally, you don’t want to be battling any serious physical or mental health problems when having a baby. Becoming a parent could be too much of a strain and may just cause any health problems to get worse. Giving birth may even be dangerous for you or the baby if you have certain serious physical health problems.
Wait until you are in a better place mentally or physically to have a baby. There are times when having a baby can help people overcome depression or even addiction, but you need to be passionate about having a baby, to begin with.
Is your home a safe environment?
You don’t want to be raising a child in a home that is unsafe. If you are living with people who are abusive or there are other issues like a high local crime rate or a pest problem in your home, you should consider whether you need to get out first. Leaving toxic people behind and moving to a better home could prevent you from feeling that you or your baby is in danger.
Is your age an important factor?
Having a child as a teenager can disrupt education and carry various pregnancy and birth risks. That said, many teen parents go on to have healthy and happy children. This post explains more about whether to keep a child as a teenager.
If you are in your late 30s or older, you may need to consider your fertility. Having a child now could be important to increase your chances of falling pregnant and carrying the baby. Most women cannot have a baby naturally after 45. This guide offers more information on having a baby in your 40s.
Can you afford to look after a baby?
Raising a baby is expensive, but with enough support around you, it is possible to still be a great parent with little to no money.
Being financially stable first could be more important if you do not have much support around you. Without others around you to chip in, it could be much harder to afford the care your child needs. This guide offers more information about the costs of having a baby.
This is a collaborative post.
Melinda
Dealing With Anxiety In Work Situations
Work situations are difficult to navigate sometimes. Anxiety sets in and you may feel as if you are sinking. Thankfully there are ways to ease your stress. From breathing techniques to yoga, and more, there are ways to help reduce your stress. You may have already looked at CBD and other types of cannabis and in this case, you may want to look at Budder Bongs, but you should always be responsible.
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Sometimes the problems with work are borne out of social activities in the workplace. In order to be comfortable with your co-workers, try to expand your comfort zone. Consciously try to create small talk with people you meet throughout the day: at lunch, in the elevator, or in the coffee corner. Try to initiate short conversations or flatter when the place is in place. Such behavior will teach others that you are an accessible person and can be talked to. Remember that it is not so important to say the right thing, it is more important to be present. People are usually more comfortable with who they know.
Conversations with authority figures
Those who suffer from social anxiety may have difficulty talking to their supervisor. Any communication with your manager may be difficult for you. You may have difficulty with the simplest questions, it is common for people with social anxiety to try to get away with asking and finding out with the manager the information they need. Unfortunately, avoiding a conversation with the manager can impair your functioning and the manner in which the task is fulfilled: you will find yourself working long hours in a way that will ultimately not be to the satisfaction of your superiors.
Meetings and work meetings
If you feel uncomfortable in meetings – try to get to the meeting a quarter of an hour earlier so you can meet others when they arrive. Most people who suffer from social anxiety and shyness come to meetings late so that they do not have to socialize with others. But this behavior only makes you feel more isolated and stressed. During meetings, try to remember that others must also feel uncomfortable and have difficulty speaking. Quite a lot of people actually have difficulty expressing their opinions. If you take the initiative and speak first, it will reassure the rest and they will appreciate and respect you for it. Try to replace the negative thought with a more accurate, or more helpful thought: “I’m usually good enough in meetings.” Even if this mental exercise feels strange and strange to you, over time it will reduce your insecurity in work meetings. You will soon start to make a shift and feel more confident.
Social events
Workplaces usually hold social events that you are expected to attend. Company trips, zoom parties, joint video photography, farewell party, and conferences. The human resources department works hard to connect the employees and for most of them, a fun day is really fun. For people with social anxiety, these events can be particularly difficult – they expose their social shame – their difficulty in feeling comfortable.
This is a collaborative post.
Melinda
Blogger Highlight-Thinking Sessions with My Heart and My Head
Thank you for all the great feedback on the Blogger Highlight series, I’ve enjoyed meeting each blogger and sharing their site with you. This week we highlight a new blogger, Thinking Sessions with My Heart and My Head.
The Thinking Sessions with My Heart and Head
Hello, my name is Mikka. It’s pronounced like MEE-kuh. I am 22 years old and living in Seattle, WA. I’m passionate about sharing my truth through the written word. I hope this can be a safe space for you to go deeper into yourself and reflect on what it is you may need to express and articulate. Your truth matters.
Check out her passionate personality.
Melinda
5 Ways To Ease Depression Symptoms Right Now — Guest Blogger Kayla Mason
Written by: Kayla Mason, freelance writer, kaylamason.blog It’s no secret that during the emergence of the Covid-19 virus, anxiety and depression rates have skyrocketed. Rates of anxiety and depression among U.S. adults were about 4 times higher between April 2020 and August 2021 than they were in 2019 (Deangelis). In 2020 and 2021, I talked […]
5 Ways To Ease Depression Symptoms Right Now — Kayla Mason
Health Update
Ever hear the saying “If it weren’t for bad luck, I’d have no luck”? My question is “Is this what no luck looks like”? I feel like crumbled tin foil, one move makes something else hurt. It’s a crazy period for me and my writing has slowed down due to spending time in bed.
The new issues are due to prescriptions for my non-working salivary gland and stomach issues. The first prescription sent me over the top dizzy, blurred vision, out of balance, and chest pain. I had to quit. Come to find out after several tests my gastro has three problems caused by the prescription. Now I’m on a gastro prescription and it’s causing dizziness, balance problems, and falling. I’m giving it two more days to see if the side effects pass or lessen.
That happens many times with side effects, you may get some at first and several weeks to a month later they go away. My plan is to give this prescription two more days before I stop taking it, with my doctor knowing of course. Actually, I’m sending a message thru the portal to let them know my plan and ask about another prescription.
Here’s my dilemma, if I take the prescrptions I can’t drive. I rarely drive but I’m not giving up driving unless something is going to blow a gasket. People who are homebound or have chronic illnesses will understand the pain felt every time your body takes part of your life away.
I’m turning 60 shortly and have very little life outside of the house, but I have not given up on driving. I was on limited driving due to my Dementia, only driving within a few miles from the house. I have no desire to give up on driving or life at this point. I’m frustrated and very angry, almost cried yesterday but it will pass.
I’m also dealing with depression and it adds to my anger. Tomorrow is a new day.
Melinda
Tackling The Most Common Causes Of Stress And Anxiety
You only have to listen to the headlines or read the newspaper to see that anxiety levels are rising and a growing number of people are experiencing stress. In this guide, we’ll discuss some common causes of stress and anxiety and offer tips to help you cope.
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Money worries and unemployment
Unemployment is one of the most talked-about subjects at the moment, with many people losing their jobs or businesses and others struggling to hang on to theirs. Balancing the books is challenging at the best of times when you’re trying to manage a household or raise kids, but the pandemic has exacerbated difficulties and made staying in the black virtually impossible for some. If you’re experiencing financial strain, or you’ve lost your job, there is help out there. Don’t hesitate to seek advice about incentives or support measures that are available to you during the crisis and look for opportunities to increase your income if your workload is reduced or you’ve lost your job. From Forex Trading, to online courses, and blogging to temporary jobs, it’s possible to find solutions, even if they are only a short-term option to tide you over. It’s also beneficial to try and reduce spending on non-essential items and budget to make your money stretch further and to find out about programs that could prevent you from getting into debt in the weeks ahead. Some companies offer freezes on loan and credit card payments, for example.
Relationship breakdown
Relationships can make or break us. While some relationships lift our spirits and make us feel secure and content, others can have a negative impact. Break-ups are tough and it can take a long time to come to terms with the fact that you’re moving in a direction that is different from the one you expected to take. You might have envisioned spending your entire life with a partner, only to find that you’re now on your own. Take your time to process what has happened and to heal. Lean on the people closest to you and try to focus on the present, rather than the past. Often, relationships don’t work, and once you have a sense of perspective and time has passed, you realize that there was a good reason for parting. Let yourself feel and experience emotions and don’t put too much pressure on yourself to get on with life, start dating or stop feeling upset about the situation. Move at your own pace. Everyone copes in different ways and there is no right or wrong way to deal with relationship breakdowns.
Trauma
Traumatic events such as accidents, natural disasters, or sexual assault can trigger a specific type of anxiety known as PTSD. These feelings of anxiety can be stirred up later in life – often by small and innocuous things that remind us of the traumatic event (such as the sight of a pool after a near-death drowning experience). Doctors can sometimes prescribe drugs to help with day-to-day life. There’s also the option of natural treatments for PTSD. In most cases, therapy can be the best option – a professional therapist will know exactly how to confront your fear in a healthy and effective way so that you can continue to get on with your life.
Work
Do you feel like you’re swimming against the tide, or do you dread the alarm going off every morning? It’s rare to find a job you enjoy every minute of every day, but work shouldn’t be a source of severe stress or anxiety. If you are feeling under pressure, or you’re struggling to switch off, talk to your boss about your workload, address issues that are getting to you, and take some time out. It’s crucial to have a balance and to enjoy downtime. Learn to say no. If you’re already working too many hours without pay, or your to-do list is endless, don’t take on more work or sign yourself up for extra commitments after work. Rest, relax and look after yourself.
Stress and anxiety are rife at the moment. If you’re struggling, you’re not alone. There are myriad causes, but help is available. Don’t hesitate to reach out and try and take care of yourself as best you can.
This is a collaborative post.
Melinda
Blogger Highlight-Milsy Girl
Thank you for all the great feedback on the Blogger Highlight series, I’ve enjoyed meeting each blogger and sharing their site with you. This week we highlight a new blogger, Milsy Girl.
Milsy Girl
Your self-care and wellness is my passion 🌻
Hi, I’m Rachel. I’m the blogger behind Milsy Girl 🌻. I’m here to help you create the best version of yourself that you can.
If you’re not sure where to start, try taking my easy self-care audit. It will show you areas of your self-care and wellness that need a little TLC.
My blog is packed full of useful tips and resources to help you on your journey.
Stop by to read Rachel’s self-care and healthy living post.
Melinda
Happy Birthday, Apple Computer!
Today I watched a fascinating interview with Steve Jobs in 1981. What a genius he was, part of the genius was his hard-core passion for building a solid product with the tools people want. He talked about how the company was structured, and the freedom/accountability employees have. Trust was the foundation.
Thank you to all Apple employees! I appreciate you every day, all day.
I’m an Apple lover and can’t imagine going back. He left us too fast.
Melinda
Looking for the Light 