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Why Joker’s depiction of mental illness is dangerously misinformed

Annabel Driscoll and Mina Husain

The Guardian Mon 21 Oct 2019 11.04 EDT

With films playing a key role in shaping attitudes to mental health, two doctors say Joaquin Phoenix’s troubled supervillain perpetuates damaging stereotypes

As junior doctors who work on acute inpatient psychiatric wards, serious mental illness is our daily reality. We have, therefore, watched the controversies around Todd Phillips’s Joker – in which Joaquin Phoenix plays a troubled loner who turns to violence – with professional interest.

The film’s dominance in the debate about portrayals of mental illness in the movies comes at a curious time. Recently, we’ve witnessed great leaps of awareness about relatively common mental-health issues such as depression and anxiety, and with that awareness, increasing dismissal of the sort of unhelpful prejudices that used to surround them. These are now readily discussed without shame and often represented in the media with a well-informed grasp of the facts, thanks to effective information campaigns.

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However, severe mental health conditions, such as psychotic illnesses, remain shrouded in stigma and are consistently misrepresented and misunderstood. Portrayals of mental illness in film can perpetuate unfounded stereotypes and spread misinformation. One of the more toxic ideas that Joker subscribes to is the hackneyed association between serious mental illness and extreme violence. The notion that mental deterioration necessarily leads to violence against others – implied by the juxtaposition of Phoenix’s character Arthur stopping his medication with his increasingly frequent acts of violence – is not only misinformed but further amplifies stigma and fear.

Studies show this association is exaggerated and people with severe mental illness are more vulnerable to violence from others than the general population. Interesting, then, that Joker’s earnest attempt to create an empathetic character with mental illness – who writes: “The worst part of having a mental illness is people expect you to behave as if you don’t” – contributes to the very prejudice that Arthur longs to evade.

Arthur’s supposed loss of grip on reality is suggested by a peppering of nods to psychotic symptoms: delusional ideas of a grandiose nature (“I am an undiscovered comedic genius”) and hallucinations of his neighbour – which are confirmed by his eventual admission to a psychiatric institution. This restoration of order via Arkham Asylum affirms the overarching inference of 

the film: Arthur’s descent into violence and destruction is triggered by his mental deterioration. The result of this is to – disappointingly – remove Arthur’s agency and divert attention from a potentially more stimulating conversation about wealth inequality and its responsibility for societal collapse.

We wouldn’t want to get bogged down in labels, but the psychopathology Arthur inhabits is foggy at best: his apparent lack of disordered thinking means the attempt to illustrate psychosis is half formed. He also displays traits of narcissism and depression. This diagnostic vagueness may create a more relatable character that reflects the pain of any psychiatric illness; but it gives the impression that many disorders have been squashed into a plot device. In the end, it undermines Phoenix’s hypnotic performance and Joker’s sincere attempts to explore the interaction between poverty, inequality and social isolation.

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Arthur’s chilling quirk – his bursts of incongruous and uncontrolled laughter – is no laughing matter either. Presumably, he suffers from the neurological condition pseudobulbar affect – also known as “emotional incontinence” – perhaps caused by his childhood head trauma. Joker may make an attempt to unpick the difference between the psychiatric and the neurological – between a mental illness and a medical disorder – but it runs the risk of conflating the two with a haunting, stigmatising and problematic image. Whether intentionally or not, Arthur comes across as a hysterically laughing supervillain, stereotypically “mad” to the untrained eye; a murderous clown laughing alone on a bus.

Cinematic depictions of mental illness – most infamously, One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest – have profound and lasting implications in the real world. It is widely acknowledged within psychiatry that Cuckoo’s Nest led to inappropriate levels of suspicion and misinformation regarding electro-convulsive therapy, and may have meant many people did not receive treatment that is proved and effective. All this due to a single film’s misinformed presentation.

Films have the power to perpetuate stigma and fear, which is why the misrepresentation of severe mental illness in Joker should not be dismissed lightly.

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The hidden abuse that can hurt your mental health: Gaslighting

Nearly half the women and men in the U.S. say they’ve endured psychological aggression from intimate partners.

OCT. 4, 201903:45Oct. 4, 2019, 6:22 AM CDTBy Bianca Seidman

Domestic abuse is a leading problem in American homes and it can take many different forms. When the abuse leaves no physical marks, outsiders may not recognize when all is not well and the abused person can find it challenging to translate what’s happening.

“Gaslighting” — a term that became popular after the 1944 movie “Gaslight,” in which a husband slowly makes his wife think she’s going crazy through a long game of deceptions — is an insidious form of psychological abuse. It’s an intricate web of lies woven to break down one partner’s sense of self-worth and perception of what is real.

“When you’re black and blue, you can point to the bruises and you can say ‘This happened to me,’” Dr. Robin Stern, associate director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence, told TODAY. “But when somebody is undermining your reality and you simply have this feeling that there’s something wrong … women moreso than men, but men too, tend to point their fingers at themselves and say, ‘I did something wrong.’”

Nearly half of all women and men in the U.S. said they’ve been subjected to psychological aggression by an intimate partner, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

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For the person trying to control the partner through psychological tricks, the goal is often to make that partner feel completely dependent. By instigating this deep self-doubt and playing the role of the only one who knows what’s right, abusers can wear down their partners and gain control.

“People become hopeless, they give up on themselves,” said Stern, who wrote the book “The Gaslight Effect: How to Spot and Survive the Hidden Manipulation Others Use to Control Your Life.”

“They’re so busy defending themselves over time, and then they’re so busy agreeing with the gaslighter, that they begin to think, ‘He’s right.’”

At its more extreme, gaslighting can be a carefully calculated plan to slowly isolate the person and erode trust in anyone else. The perpetrator may sow seeds of suspicion about close friends and family and plant the idea that the partner doesn’t know how to do anything right.

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Stern believes women are more often the victims of gaslighting because they learn to focus on others and see things from their points of view, as well as prioritize other people’s feelings over their own.

Not all gaslighting is intentional abuse, however; sometimes it’s learned behavior. But it is always manipulative. More subtle forms or isolated incidents can happen when people want to sway situations in their favor. When one person expresses concern over an issue or a desire to change something, the partner who wants to control that moment might brush it off and respond with something like, “You don’t really mean what you’re saying.”

“People are not born gaslighters … it’s social learning,” Stern said. “[Maybe] you grew up in an environment where the people around you used gaslighting or psychological manipulation to control the moment … or somebody treated you like that or you somehow stumbled on it and it worked.”

The National Domestic Violence Hotline describes gaslighting as a form of domestic abuse that can build up over time.

“The abusive partner’s actions may seem like just a harmless misunderstanding at first,” the organization said on their site. “Over time, however, these abusive behaviors continue, and a victim can become confused, anxious, isolated and depressed.”

The typical signs of gaslighting, according to the hotline, are when the abusive partner:

  • Refuses to listen or pretends not to understand
  • Challenges the partner’s memory or accuses them of being wrong
  • Changes the subject or suggests the partner is imagining things
  • Trivializes the feelings of the partner
  • Pretends to forget what happened or denies that anything happened at all

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Victims of gaslighting should remember there are ways out of these situations and, when it’s not long-term abuse, options to improve the relationship, Stern said. Try these steps to start turning things around:

  • Write down incidents that felt manipulative
  • Talk to the person doing the gaslighting, staying aware of the tactics
  • Know the emotional triggers the partner uses
  • Assess whether the relationship can be saved, if the person stops gaslighting

“Another way to free yourself of gaslighting is to begin to move from negative self-talk to positive self-talk,” Stern added, “and make yourself do it, because it won’t come naturally.”

Bianca Seidman

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Agoraphobia, Dreams, Trauma and EMDR

In post https://lookingforthelight.blog/2019/07/22/agoraphobia-is-not-logical/ ,‎ I forgot to mention the nightmares that have haunted me and I believe reinforce my agoraphobia. Every dream is based on not being able to get out or leave where I am. Examples, can’t find keys, don’t know what exit to take from store, cars covered in snow, not sure which one is mine.

I also dream I’m flying, which I have for a long time, new to my dreams are not being able to see or only seeing a small amount. I’m not real deep into dream interpretation but from what I’ve read the deffinitions could fit. Flying is generally a good sign however it could mean you are fleeing something. Being blind is not wanting to see or face what is before you.

I can’t help but think these dreams are aggrevating my agroraphobia and anxiety. Saturday I woke up and during the dream I could not find my car because it was snowed under, then I was flying in a part of town that is an hour away from where I live yet I was trying to get home. Next in the dream I’m in an expensive business suit and enter an auditorium, I’m nervious someone will think I have money and try to rob me so I’m shoving my purse into my breifcase. Then I find and pay phone and fumble for change and someone is standing in my way and won’t move from the phone. They try to take my top off and I woke myself up screeming. These dreams are very disturbing and are so vivid, it like they last forever.

My therapist believes the agoraphobia is trauma releted and EMDR Therapy may help. EMDR Therapy it stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reproccessing.

Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR Therapy) is a therapeutic technique developed by Francine Shapiro, Ph.D. in 1987.  The method was originated by Dr. Shapiro when she noted that disturbing thoughts suddenly disappeared after engaging in a particular type of eye movement.  As she deliberately retrieved the disturbing thoughts, they were no longer upsetting to her.  This positive effect prompted her to retrieve other disturbing images, engage in the eye movements, and note the result.  Upon discovering that a variety of disturbing thoughts and images were no longer
upsetting to her, Dr. Shapiro, began a study to note the effects with others.

Since 1987 this methodology has evolved into a multifaceted approach to treat a variety of different problems with a wide number of populations.  EMDR is frequently used in the treatment of painful experiences and the disturbing feelings and thoughts that accompany high impact events.  Additional uses include resolution of grief, anxiety, panic, phobias, relief from chronic pain, performance enhancement and dealing with any unpleasant memory.

The procedure of EMDR treatment involves the client focusing on a disturbing image while the trained therapist facilitates a type of eye movement by having the client follow the movement of the therapist’s fingers or a row of lights across the field of vision.

Upsetting images are physiologically and neurologically arousing and this can interfere with the processing of the information in the brain.  Consequently, the experience gets misplaced or frozen in our nervous system.  The effect of high impact events on the brain is like having a traffic police officer in your brain which gets very tired and sends the distressing signal to an unauthorized parking zone where it gets stored in the wrong area.  EMDR retrieves the signal and parks it in the authorized zone.

Researchers do not know why (EMDR Therapy) Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing works.  The similarities of the eye movement patterns and Rapid Eye Movement (REM) sleep have contributed to theorizing a connection between the two.  Information is processed when dreaming occurs.  Dreaming occurs in the stage of sleep known as REM sleep.  When the client accesses the disturbing image and thought that accompanies the image while moving their eyes back and forth, the information seems to be processing at an accelerated rate.

With EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing), feelings of tension are usually significantly reduced, the image seems to change by fading or becoming more distant, and the power of the negative thoughts are often diminished.

Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing makes the following assumptions about healing:

1.  EMDR therapy uncovers hidden aspects of problems.
2.  EMDR therapy gets you unstuck and allows a natural movement toward healing.
3.  EMDR therapy generates a new perspective of your problem.
4.  EMDR therapy allows you to go directly to you healing destination and eliminate incorrect pathways.
5.  EMDR therapy creates new pathways beyond the limitations of your previous route.
6.  EMDR therapy accesses the natural healing abilities of your deeper self.
7.  EMDR therapy enables your ability to let go.
8.  EMDR therapy installs positive behaviors and allows you to connect to useful resources within yourself.

The research on EMDR therapy has indicated that the effects remain stable over time.  Research on Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing has also reported the following positive therapeutic results:

  1. Combat veterans who were not able to be free of symptoms no longer experience flashbacks, or nightmares.
  2. People with phobias revealed a rapid reduction of fear and symptoms.
  3. People with panic disorder reported recovering at a more rapid rate when compared to other treatment methods.
  4. Crime survivors and police officers were no longer disturbed by the after effects of violent assaults.
  5. People have been relieved of excessive grief due to the loss of a loved one.
  6. Children have been symptom free from the effects of assault or natural disaster.
  7. Sexual assault survivors were able to lead normal lives and have intimate relationships.
  8. Accident and burn survivors who were debilitated are now able to resume productive lives.
  9. Those with sexual dysfunction are now able to maintain healthy sexual relationships.
  10. Clients with chemical dependency have decreased tendency to relapse and show signs of stable recovery.
  11. Clients with a wide variety of overwhelming events experienced relief from their symptoms with EMDR.

I am in the prosses of getting on my refferrals schedule and look forward to seeing if EMDR Therapy can help with my agoraphobia and anxiety.

Have you had an EMDR experience you would like to share or comments you can leave. I would really appreciate any feedback.

Melinda

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We Aren’t Horsin’ Around — Guest Blogger The Alchemist’s Studio

Currently, as many of you know we have two big projects going on here at the studio – our book project, and our ‘A Healing Vase’ initiative. I wanted to update everyone about them!

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Domestic Violence: Breaking the Cycle For Good — Guest Blogger The Zebra Pit

Abuse victims don’t have to remain victims and you don’t have to continue to put yourself second to the needs of others. Anyone can learn how to become a survivor and live in your own truth instead. You can have a healthy mind and lead healthy life with a healthy partner. It doesn’t happen magically. It takes a lot of work, as does anything worth achieving, but I can tell you firsthand the work is more than worth it and pays off heavily in happiness dividends.

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Fibromyalgia Guilt Busters — Guest Blogger Cut The Chronic

Grief is a common emotion that accompanies chronic illness. Learn simple guilt buster methods to say goodbye to negativity.

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How does impeachment work? A quick TED explainer

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Sep 27, 2019 / Alex Gendler

Confused about the process? Join the rest of us. Read this explainer, adapted from a TED-Ed lesson, and get up to speed on “articles of impeachment,” “supermajorities” and “managers” in a flash.

For almost every job in the world, it’s understood that a person can be fired — whether for crime, incompetence or poor performance. But what if your job happens to be one of the most powerful positions in the country?

Like president of the United States? Or vice president? Or justice of the Supreme Court?

That’s where impeachment comes in.

So, how does the process work?

Despite how most people use the term, impeachment does not mean removing a person from office.

Nope, this is not what impeachment means.

Instead, impeachment refers to the formal accusation that launches a trial. When the US Constitution was written in 1787, impeachment was enshrined in Article 1 as a power of Congress that applied to any civil officers — up to and including the president.

Although demands for impeachment can come from any member of the public, only the House of Representatives has the power to initiate the process. The House begins by referring the matter to a committee, usually the Committee on Rules and the Committee on the Judiciary.

These committees review the accusations, examine the evidence, and issue a recommendation. If they find sufficient grounds to proceed, the House holds a separate vote on each of the specific charges, otherwise known as Articles of Impeachment. If one or more of these articles passes by a simple majority, the official is impeached and a trial will be held.

The trial that follows impeachment is held in the Senate. Selected members of the House — known as managers — act as the prosecution, while the impeached official and their lawyers present their defense. The Senate acts as both judge and jury, conducting the trial and deliberating after hearing the arguments. Ordinarily, the vice president presides, but if the president is being impeached, the chief justice of the Supreme Court presides.

A conviction by the Senate requires a two-thirds majority — what’s called a supermajority — and it results in automatic removal from power. The Senate can also vote to disqualify that person from holding office in the future.

So, what exactly can get someone impeached? That’s a bit more complicated. Realizing that impeachment in the US essentially pits an elected legislature against other democratically-elected members of government, the writers of the Constitution wanted to prevent the process from being used as a political weapon.

For that reason, the Constitution specified that an official can be impeached for these reasons: treason, bribery, or other high crimes and misdemeanors.

Of course, this still leaves a lot of room for interpretation — not to mention politics — and many impeachment trials have certainly split along partisan lines. But the process is generally understood to be reserved for serious abuses of power, and it’s seldom used.

Throughout its 230-year history, the House has launched impeachment investigations about 60 times. However, only 19 have led to impeachment proceedings. The 8 cases that ended in a conviction and removal from office all involved federal judges.

Impeachment of a sitting president is extremely rare. Contrary to popular belief, Richard Nixon was never impeached for his role in the Watergate break-in and cover-up. Knowing he would almost certainly be impeached and convicted, he resigned before that could happen.

In 1868, president Andrew Johnson was impeached for attempting to replace Secretary of War Edwin Stanton without consulting the Senate. More than a century later, in 1998 Bill Clinton was impeached for making false statements under oath during a sexual harassment trial. However, both presidents were ultimately acquitted when the Senate’s votes fell short of the required supermajority and they remained in office.

When drawing up the Constitution, the founders specifically designed the US government to prevent potential abuses. The powers of the executive, legislative and judicial branches are all limited through a combination of checks and balances, term limits, and elections.

Impeachment is the US democracy’s emergency brake — a tool to be used when these safeguards all fail.

All animations by Mark Phillips / TED-Ed 

 

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Alex Gendler is a writer and editor with TED-Ed. 

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Fighting Fibro Fatigue with Food: Easy, Healthy Grain Bowls — Guest Blogger Reclaiming HOPE

I’ve been experimenting in the kitchen again. In our family we laugh about my experiments, because I get in the kitchen and just start putting things together. I had a mission with this last one though – to figure out how to make healthy lunches that were quick and easy to put together. One of […]

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New Daily Persistent Headache — Guest Blogger Chicago Headache Center & Research Institute

One of the more challenging headache conditions to treat is New Daily Persistent Headache (NDPH). NDPH is characterized by a new headache that occurs daily for more than three months. NDPH is most common in young females, although males certainly can and do suffer from NDPH. There are often associated symptoms that can be bothersome […]

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Here’s how neem oil can do double duty for organic gardeners — Guest Blogger Farmstand Culture

Neem oil. It’s a thick, tan-colored oil extracted from the mechanically-pressed (or chemically-processed) seed of the neem tree. Neem is one of those plants that is almost certainly under-utilized across most of the world. It’s all-natural and vegan. You can use neem oil for organic pest control but wait, there’s more… Don’t eat the neem […]

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We Don’t Talk Much About Debt and Depression. This Blogger Is Changing That

Melanie Lockert remembers checking the traffic for her blog, Dear Debt, and feeling shocked at the results.

Someone had found her site by searching, “I want to kill myself because of debt.”

Lockert started Dear Debt in January 2013 after spending the previous year feeling depressed about her student loans. She posted monthly updates about her efforts to pay off $81,000 while working temporary hourly gigs before she landed a role running communications and planning events for a nonprofit. Along the way, she was open about her mental health struggles and how they were tied to her debt.

She had created her blog as a way to stay positive while she paid off the debt. But looking at the search terms that brought readers to her site made her recognize that her accountability stretched far beyond herself.

“It gave me an instant sense of purpose,” Lockert said.

She had attended counseling the previous year, after negotiating with a graduate student clinic to pay $5 per session while she was underemployed. She knew how much her debt affected her outlook.

She read up on the link between debt and depression. She saw she was far from alone.

“I found out that people who die by suicide are eight times more likely to have debt,” Lockert said. “From the emails I get, I know that debt is really affecting families and their mental health and their ability to find joy.”

People with debt are three times more likely to suffer from depression, according to a 2013 study published in the Clinical Psychology Review.

Lockert wrote a short post for people with debt who were feeling hopeless.

“You are not alone,” she declared. “You are not a loan.”

Still thinking about those search terms, she wrote another post.

“I want to jump through my computer and give you a hug,” she wrote. “Shake you and say your life is worth so much more.”

Then, she started getting emails from people who were desperate and afraid.

What Happened When She Wrote a Letter to Her Debt

A few months into blogging, Lockert wrote her first breakup letter to her debt.

“Dear Debt,” the letter reads. “You do not define me. My worth is more important than the value of your number. Love, M.”

After writing her own breakup letter with debt, Lockert then published an estimated 100 breakup letters with debt from her readers. Photo courtesy of Melanie Lockert
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Christa’s Story

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Christa is a Survivor of Sexual Assault, her story is hard to read and yet she comes out on top. She was able to more forward and rebuild her life. She has the strength like many of you.

 

“When you speak with a survivor of sexual assault, imagine that they are a loved one who has gone through this. How would you want them to be treated?”

Christa Hayburn was sexually assaulted by a superior at the Police Department where she served as a law enforcement officer.

For the next two years she did not report the assault to the department for fear of losing her job. When she experienced an unrelated injury and found out that she could no longer work as a police officer, she finally felt that she could report the assault to the Internal Affairs Department. After turning in a written description of the assault, she was taken to an interrogation room and questioned by two detectives for 6-8 hours.

“They whisked me away as soon as they saw that this involved a person in a position of power. That day was very retraumatizing.”

Christa says the department and the city did not take her report seriously or take measures to ensure that the perpetrator could not sexually assault others. After filing her report, Christa faced retaliation from the city. They expressed doubt about Christa’s medical reports regarding the injury that prevented her from continuing to serve on the police force, and appointed a private investigator to follow her.

Over the next four years, Christa fought against city officials to make sure that her report of sexual assault was investigated appropriately and that her injury was taken seriously. She eventually resigned from the department. Later, two more women reported being sexually assaulted by the same perpetrator, who had been promoted to deputy inspector.

Christa filed a federal retaliation lawsuit against the city, entering an extended legal process. She ultimately decided to discontinue the case for the good of herself and her family. “The day before my deposition I read through my internal affairs report and saw all the transcripts attacking me and attacking my credibility…trying to find flaws in me and my story,” says Christa. “I thought to myself—I’m done. How much more can I put myself through? When do I say, ‘enough is enough? That’s when I started a journey of setting boundaries for myself.’”

Christa is disappointed in the way her case was handled and believes that police departments need to have more training about how to work with survivors and those who have experienced trauma. At the department where she worked, Christa says that “Not only are these incidents happening, but then the institution goes after the victim and protects the perpetrator.”

As a law enforcement officer herself, she saw her role as someone who should act with integrity to protect and serve her community. “I’ve led my life following the law. It’s so disheartening to see the department not following the standards of honor and integrity they hold others to.”

Christa is thankful that she can continue to help survivors through sharing her own story and letting others know they are not alone. “Who am I? I had no position of power within the police department. But I knew that consistently telling my story would help someone else.” Christa served as a star witness for another victim of the same perpetrator, and her testimony helped win the case.

Because of the sexual assault, Christa has experienced PTSD, depression, and suicidal ideation. She found therapy and medication helpful in getting her through some particularly difficult periods of her healing, but regaining her sense of self has been most crucial. ”What’s been helpful for me has been learning who I am again. My identity was ripped away from me, and I had to relearn who Christa Hayburn was.”

She has also found meditation, exercise, and spending time outdoors to be helpful. “I’ve learned to treat myself with more self love than I have ever done in my life. I make sure to do things with my family, go out in nature, cook, spend time with my pets, spend time with friends—just be a normal human.”

Christa’s advice for other survivors is to not be afraid of relying on a support system of people you trust during the healing process. For Christa, her husband has been her greatest advocate. “He’s walked through this journey with me—through some ugly points. We are still together, and he is my biggest supporter,” says Christa. “I know what it’s like to have that support from someone, and that’s why it’s so important for me to give that support to others. If they can feel heard, then they’ll pass it on. It’s a ripple effect of love, compassion, and empathy.”

Christa finds strength, purpose, and healing in being an advocate for other survivors. “I never wanted to be a victim of my circumstances. I had to be an advocate for others and through that, for myself.” Christa recently worked with city officials to create a bill that would require all city workers to regularly receive sexual harassment training. “Being part of that was wonderful.”

Christa now works at a crisis center for sexual assault survivors where she finds fulfillment and continued healing through helping others and sharing her story. “I’m so glad I can be there for survivors. I will continue to advocate for change until true change takes place across the country. People in these institutions have to take sexual assault seriously and be more supportive of those who come forward.”

“Having the opportunity to share this is truly a gift—no one talks about it,” Christa says in regards to speaking about sexual assault within police departments. “But this is something we desperately need to talk about so that we can offer support and create true change in these communities.”

Christa’s hope for the future of sexual violence is that no one will have to fear coming forward to share their story. “No healing can be done when you’re afraid of losing everything from under you.”

“I’ve learned to step outside of my experience and realize that I have the ultimate control over my story and what the ending to that story looks like. The moment I realized that, I got my power back.”

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The Simple Guide to Value Triggers

Psychology Today

 

How to live by your highest ideals.

Posted Aug 11, 2019

Steven C. Hayes Ph.D.

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Being in touch with your values is essential to living a rich and meaningful life. By knowing what you care about most, you become inspired to live by your highest ideals, bringing out the best in yourself. In short, values help you find direction, meaning, and inspiration in life.

Unfortunately, however, it’s more complicated than this. Because too often enough, we get sidetracked. Too often, the demands of the day pull our attention away from what really matters, to serve our immediate emotional needs. We then lose touch of our ideals, and revert back to old – often destructive – habits.

If you wish to stop this from happening, break the cycle of bad habits, and bring forth the best of yourself, you have to reconnect with your values whenever you lose touch. And the easiest way to accomplish this, are value triggers.

What Are Value Triggers?

A value trigger is a physical reminder of your core values. By merely looking at it, you refocus back on what matters most, making you act more in line with your highest ideals. The trigger can be almost anything, as long as it makes you remember your values. Here are a few ideas:

Card in Wallet. Write down a few core values on an index card, and put it in your wallet. Whenever you’re feeling stressed, take it out and read it.

Background Screen. Change the background of your phone to a picture that represents your values. For instance, if you value self-courage you might set it to the picture of a lion if that image speaks clearly to you.

Jewelry. Pick a piece of jewelry (e.g. a ring, a bracelet, or a necklace) and let it stand for a certain value. Whenever you look at your accessory, reflect on it’s meaning.

Post-it Notes. Write down your values on a post-it note, and stick it somewhere visible, like your fridge or a computer screen.

Pictures of People. Print out pictures of people that for you exemplify your values. Our heroes and guides are picked by us because they stand for something in our lives. You can pick pictures of friends, family, teachers, coaches, spiritual leaders, well-known public figures — anyone who empowers you to care.

Pick a value trigger that works best for you. It doesn’t matter which one you choose, as long as it serves as a reminder of your core values.

Don’t Make This Mistake!

Don’t be fooled. A value trigger doesn’t magically change your life, just by having it. Instead, you need to actively engage the trigger. Whenever you look at your personal value trigger, ask yourself the following questions:

  • “Which value does this trigger stand for?”
  • “Why is this value important to me?
  • “What can I do today bring this value more into my actions and my life?”

By reflecting on your value trigger in this way, you increase its effectiveness. This doesn’t mean you will never again lose sight of what matters most. But it does mean you have an effective way to catch yourself whenever you fall off track, and quickly get back to living a rich and meaningful life.

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Steven C. Hayes, Ph.D., is Nevada Foundation Professor at the Department of Psychology at the University of Nevada Reno.In Print:Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life: The New Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (A New Harbinger Self-Help Workbook)Online:Steven C. Hayes website for free ACT materials  View Author Profile

 

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How to Handle Lyme Disease Relapse by Marty Ross MD

I don’t endorse Marty, actually I think he mostly peddles his supplements but he does provide some good information. M

 Dear Subscriber,

Unfortunately, Lyme disease relapses occur. When they do there are specific steps you should take to figure out what needs to be treated and how to treat the problem. In How to Handle Lyme Disease Relapse included on my newYouTube Channel, I describe the steps to take to handle this problem. 

Did you know relapses can be prevented? After you get a relapse under control, there are steps to take to prevent future relapses. In How to Handle Lyme Disease Relapse, I also describe these steps so you can maintain your health.

In Health,

Marty Ross MD
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Today in History

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I’m having a rough day so the history is short but quite interesting this week. Have a great day. M

 

This Day In History: 08/08/1974 – Nixon Resigns

On this day in 1974, on an evening televised address, President Richard M. Nixon announces his intention to become the first president in American history to resign. With impeachment proceedings underway against him for his involvement in the Watergate affair, Nixon was finally bowing to pressure from the public and Congress to leave the White House. “By taking this action,” he said in a solemn address from the Oval Office, “I hope that I will have hastened the start of the process of healing which is so desperately needed in America.”On this day in 1974, on an evening televised address, President Richard M. Nixon announces his intention to become the first president in American history to resign. With impeachment proceedings underway against him for his involvement in the Watergate affair, Nixon was finally bowing to pressure from the public and Congress to leave the White House. “By taking this action,” he said in a solemn address from the Oval Office, “I hope that I will have hastened the start of the process of healing which is so desperately needed in America.”On this day in 1974, on an evening televised address, President Richard M. Nixon announces his intention to become the first president in American history to resign. With impeachment proceedings underway against him for his involvement in the Watergate affair, Nixon was finally bowing to pressure from the public and Congress to leave the White House. “By taking this action,” he said in a solemn address from the Oval Office, “I hope that I will have hastened the start of the process of healing which is so desperately needed in America.”

 

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Would you drink desalinated seawater? Recycled sewage water? Get ready to find out

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Jul 31, 2019 / Amanda Little

 

Our planet is getting hotter and drier. Drinking water is in short supply, but there are two largely untapped sources: the ocean and sewage. To get a taste of what might be in store for our faucets and understand the pros and cons, journalist Amanda Little goes to California.

The summer of 2019 has seen heat records tumble like dominoes across the Northern Hemisphere. On May 26, the thermometer climbed to 102 in Savannah, Georgia, an all-time high for that month; the same day, it hit an unprecedented 103.1 in Hokkaido, Japan’s northernmost island. Then, in June, a three-week heat wave tore through Pakistan and India, where it reached 123.4 in the central city of Churu. In July, it was Western Europe’s turn when the temperature soared to 108.7 in Paris and 102.2 in Brussels. 

Of course, intense heat doesn’t occur in a vacuum. It’s accompanied by water shortages and drought, which are expected to be the new norm on our planet. In the US, drought has become associated with California. In fact, from December 20, 2011, through March 5, 2019, some form of drought existed somewhere in the state. This prolonged parching has resulted in billions of dollars in agricultural losses and the death of over 100 million trees in state forests alone. 

Below, journalist Amanda Little goes to Southern California to learn more about two sources of drinking water which the state — and our planet — will be tapping in coming years. 

Almost all of the water consumed by the 22 million people of California’s water-stressed southern region is imported. Much of it is pumped long distances, over mountains, from Northern California. Southern California also draws heavily from the Colorado River, the beleaguered waterway that supplies six other states and Mexico. As these freshwater sources have dwindled, the cost of water imported to Southern Californian cities has been climbing nearly 10 percent a year. The changing economics of water have forced utilities to turn in a new direction for relief: westward to the Pacific Ocean.

California has 840 miles of coastline adjoining the world’s largest ocean, an oversupply of brine lapping up against an increasingly thirsty landscape. In order to tap this massive reservoir, the San Diego Water Authority partnered with the Israeli company IDE to build a $1 billion desalination plant in Carlsbad, a suburb of San Diego. It opened in 2017, the largest desalination facility in the Western Hemisphere.

“If we could ever competitively, at a cheap rate, get freshwater from salt water, that … would really dwarf any other scientific accomplishments,” President John F. Kennedy told the Washington press corps in the 1960s.

Mark Lambert, the head of IDE’s U.S. division, who oversaw the building of the Carlsbad plant, describes desalination as “the most significant kind of modern alchemy. About 97 percent of the earth’s water is in the ocean, yet only recently have we been able to tap that resource to grow crops or quench human thirst.”

“Desalination may seem like a panacea, but from a cost and energy standpoint it’s the worst deal out there,” says Sara Aminzadeh of the California Coastkeeper Alliance.

Desalination has been around for millennia if you count the evaporation techniques pioneered by the ancient Greek. Sailors in the 4th century BC boiled salt water and then captured the steam. When cooled, steam condenses into distilled water that’s free of virtually all contaminants. This same basic technology — thermal desalination — is still used in places like Saudi Arabia, where fuel for boiling the water comes cheap. Since the 1960s, most desalination operations use reverse osmosis (RO), a method that simulates the biological process that happens within our cells as fluids flow across semipermeable membranes.

There remain big challenges for desalination, and number one is the energy cost. A NASCAR vehicle does about 700 horsepower at full throttle. By contrast, the series of pumps at the Sorek plant near Tel Aviv — the world’s largest desalination facility, which processes some 200 million gallons daily — collectively exert roughly 7000 horsepower of energy (or 1100 pounds per square inch of pressure) night and day.

Improvements in the pumps, pipe design and membranes have cut the total amount of energy used in desalination by about half in the past two decades. The energy demands will come down further as efficiencies improve, but many see it as a sticking point.

Sara Aminzadeh, the executive director of the California Coastkeeper Alliance, one of many environmental groups that have opposed the development of desalination plants in California, tells me, “Desalination may seem like a panacea, but from a cost and energy standpoint it’s the worst deal out there.”

The Carlsbad deslination plant provides nearly 1/10th of San Diego County’s total water supply — enough for about 400,000 county residents.Up the coast, another large desalination plant is under construction in Huntington Beach, which will supply drinking water to LA suburbs. More than a dozen similar plants have been proposed along California’s southern and northern coastlines.

Daily, the Orange County plant pumps out 100 million gallons of drinking water. The sewage moves through eight stages of filtration before it is drinkable.

But there’s another source that’s becoming even more critical to the future water supply, one that officials call “recycled wastewater,” a pleasant term for human sewage. This is one of the harder realities I’ve come to accept about modern agriculture — that everything we’re now flushing down our toilets and pouring down our drains may have to play an important role in feeding us and growing our food.

“We call it the big tooth comb — step one of the filtration process!” Snehal Desai, Global Business Director of Dow Water & Process Solutions, shouts above the sound of sluicing water. There’s a visible torrent of raw sewage water flowing through a channel below us at the Orange County Sanitation District, a facility that treats waste from the toilets, showers, sinks and gutters of 1.5 million suburban Californians. An enormous rake descends into the depths of the sewage flow and brings up cardboard, wet wipes, tampons, egg shells, marbles, toys, tennis balls, sneakers — all the detritus that can’t fit through the screen covering the plant’s intake.

The flow that passes through the screen has begun a journey through an advanced purification process that culminates in a stage of RO filtration. Daily, the plant pumps out 100 million gallons of drinking water — enough to supply 850,000 county residents — which makes this the largest “toilet-to-tap” facility on the planet. The sewage moves through eight stages of filtration, including a gravel-sand filter and a bacterial “bioscrubbing” process used in Israeli plants. Orange County also has a “microfiltration” stage, in which the water is sucked through thousands of tiny porous straws. In the final and most critical stage, the water is forced through a massive hive of cylinders containing the RO membranes.

This Orange County facility is setting a precedent for the use of sewage to produce drinking water every bit as pure as the water that comes from desalination. This process is cheap compared to desalination — about half the cost. Sewage has much lower salinity than seawater, which makes it easier to process. “Recycled wastewater is the fastest-growing area in the water industry. Why? Because not every city has an ocean, not everyone has good lakes and rivers, but everybody’s got sewage,” says Desai. “That’s the megatrend.”

“Accepting recycled wastewater is kind of like being asked to wear Hitler’s sweater,” says social psychologist Paul Rozin.

San Diego recently announced plans to produce 35 percent of its water from recycled sewage by 2030 — not just for irrigation but for drinking. It has completed designs on a toilet-to-tap facility larger than Orange County’s. Still, there are barriers to overcome, and the gross factor is first among them. Even the desperation of drought can’t eliminate the fact that drinking your own waste is nobody’s first choice, unless you’re a resident of the international space station.

“Accepting recycled wastewater is kind of like being asked to wear Hitler’s sweater,” says Paul Rozin, a social psychologist at the University of Pennsylvania who has consulted water utilities on marketing toilet-to-tap programs to residents. “No matter how many times you clean the sweater, you just can’t take the Hitler out of it.”

But the purity you get from the RO process is quantifiably better than the water you get from conventional treatments — better even than some bottled water. “What flows from our membranes is the Rolls-Royce of municipal water,” says Desai. Whereas tap water is often treated with chemical coagulants and chlorine, RO filtration is a mechanical filtration of water contaminants that cuts the need for those chemicals. It’s analogous to the mechanical removal of weeds in a field practiced by organic farmers in lieu of chemical pesticides: “Think of it as ‘organic’ tap water,” says Desai.

For now, Dow is focused on making membrane products for big industrial and municipal water systems, but it envisions micro-scale systems down the line. Bill Gates made a pitch for a similar approach when he blogged a few years back about watching a pile of human feces on a conveyor belt enter a small-scale waste-treatment plant built to serve a community of a few thousand people in Senegal, and, in minutes, get converted into “water as good as any I’ve had out of a bottle. I would happily drink it every day.”

Desai predicts that water filtration technology will become decentralized everywhere. We’ll control and regenerate our own water supplies farm by farm, neighborhood by neighborhood, or household by household. Eventually the water production could become, like the food production, circular — a closed-loop system in which 100 percent of water that goes down commercial and residential drains is recycled; whatever is lost in evaporation or leakage can be made up for with desalinated salt water that moves through shared networks. Although the vision is at least decades from becoming a reality, it may be necessary to our future food security and critical to our survival.

At the end of my tour of the Orange County plants, we arrive at a shining stainless-steel sink where water that hours earlier had begun as raw sewage was now flowing crystal clear from the tap. Desai filled up two Dixie cups. “To the future!” he toasted. I shuddered as I knocked mine back. But somehow, the stuff tasted every bit as good as water that had bubbled up from a spring in the Alps. I poured myself a second cup.

Excerpted with permission from the new book The Fate of Food: What We’ll Eat in a Bigger, Hotter, Smarter World by Amanda Little. Published by Harmony Books, an imprint of the Crown Publishing Group, a division of Penguin Random House LLC. Copyright © 2019 Amanda Little.

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Amanda Little is a professor of journalism and writer-in-residence at Vanderbilt University. Her reporting on energy, technology and the environment has taken her to ultra-deep oil rigs, down manholes, and inside monsoon clouds. Little’s work has appeared in publications ranging from The New York Times and The Washington Post to Wired, Rolling Stone and Bloomberg Businessweek. She is also the author of the book Power Trip: From Oil Wells to Solar Cells — Our Ride to the Renewable Future. 

 

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Get your Money for Nothing

If you’ve watched daytime television you’ve heard every get rich quick scheme, start your own business and make $3,000 this month………I’m getting off track. I enjoy making money! I keep it simple by making money on purchases I’m already making. There are tons of apps that do coupons, check prices and anything imaginable if you want to be a SUPER SHOPPER.

I use two apps, Ebates.com and Honey.com. Both are installed in my browser and recognize when I shop at one of their partners. An Ebates.com pop-up ask you to activate by clicking and it shows % on sale received on purchase.

Ebates.com is my long-term favorite, it’s easy and they partner with all the places I shop. To date I’ve earned approximately $600. Ebates.com pays out every quarter for your previous purchases. The big money days are when their partners offer double percent back and 10% days make me very happy. Small sales add up over the year.

Honey.com works based on finding coupon codes for your purchase. It runs thru a long list of coupon codes to see if one applies. You’ll see a pop up that says there are coupons codes. You click and it does it trick. I have not used Honey.com very long but received free shipping on several purchases.

If you are a Prime Member at Amazon.com you have a world of free goodies offered movies, bookes…..on and on. I rely on Amazon.com since I don’t drive and Prime Members get two-day free shipping.

The best discovery I’ve made is the Amazon Prime Member Card. It’s a credit card that can only be used at Amazon.com, it’s offered with no fees. You receive 5% back on every purchase you make on Amazon.com. WOW!!!!!

To give my husband down time on weekends, we get our groceries delivered. Prime Members get free delivery. The amount of time saved has surprised him, the money has brought a smile to my face. The grocery section is Amazon Fresh, they have thousands of products including fresh bread.

Another up side to the delivery Amazon Fresh uses frozen bottled water to keep items cold. Each week we receive 6-8 bottles of water free.

If you really want to save money, work all the coupon apps and be a Super Shopper. You have to be organized to handle that many coupons and will need lots of extra storage space.

Happy Shopping!

M

Celebrate Life · Chronic Illness · Health and Wellbeing · Medical · Men & Womens Health · Moving Forward

Agoraphobia Is Not Logical

Whatever this obstacle is, it started 18 months ago, there wasn’t a moment I can pin this inability on. Inability is the right word, I’m not afraid to leave the house, I’ve driven a few times in the past year, I know how to drive and live in the same town.

Yet I have my husband take me to all my appointments even if there just a mile or two away. I never feel nervous when we’re getting ready to go, no uncomfortable feelings on the way there and no sigh of relief when we’re back home.

For the longest time, I denied I had Agoraphobia but now understand people drive while suffering from Agoraphobia. The famous Chef Paula Dean was Agoraphobic for years, she drove and took care of business as needed but she feared it, didn’t want to drive, couldn’t even walk around the block at one point. Her book helped me understand you can function but it still didn’t convince me I have Agoraphobia.

I feel tremendous pressure to drive to my doctor’s appointments so my husband won’t have to take off work. He has to take an average of five days a month to drive me, sometimes very short distances. Even thou he’s been with the company 20 years that is still a lot of days off. I hate to think of how many days off since 2012 when I first got sick.

There is only one factor I can come up with, my dementia. I have lost big chunks of knowledge, simple things like where I used to go shopping. I don’t remember how to get there. One other factor is our city has grown so big since I got sick nothing looks the same. We passed a restaurant we use to frequent and I barely noticed it because everything had grown around it.

I’m not sure I could drive the 30 miles to my grandparent’s house. I had to really think hard about what streets I would take, exits, what freeways and then doing in reverse. My husband said he wouldn’t feel comfortable with me driving to their house.

I am afraid of getting lost, not being able to take care of myself as before or forgetting my phone, which I did the first appointments I drove to. Not only did I get lost but forgot my phone. Another small part is I have a different car than before. My previous car was a sexy BMW hot rod and I knew how fast it could get to the on the freeway ramp. I now have a Suburu which is really cool but not the same get up and go. I’m still adjusting to how fast I have to turn in front of someone and all the good things you learn when you get a new vehicle. My Suburu is two years old and has 1300 miles on it. I have driven about 15 of those miles.

Does any of this make sense, is the real issue my dementia and I’m trying to avoid admitting?

Please give any feedback you have, I want to hear every thought and idea. Thanks a million.

Melinda

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Thoughts on my 11 Year Lyme Anniversary

Guest Blogger Lyme Disease Vitor, Beth Leung

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11 years ago this week I contracted Lyme disease.  I was 15 years old, energetic, happy, looking forward to college, and planning to be a missionary to Thailand.  I traveled a lot that summer and never found the tick bite, so it’s unclear when exactly I was bit.  It was most likely at my high school summer camp, given the woodsy nature of the camp.

I came down with a flu-like illness with bad body aches.  But unlike the flu, the pain didn’t go away.  Instead it grew stronger and more symptoms sparked up over the next 5 years before I was diagnosed.  I became more and more sick as the bacteria was spread unchecked to every bodily system.  By the time I finally was diagnosed with Lyme disease, I had colorful spots and large white opaque shapes in my blurred vision.  I had night terrors, anxiety, and sleep paralysis…

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Today in History

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Thank you for stopping by my blog today, I appreciate you. Have a great day, enjoy today and be safe. Melinda

1054

Chinese astronomers spot a “guest star” in the sky, so brilliant it can be seen in the daytime. It will remain visible for some two years, be observed in Asian, Arab, and possibly American lands, and later be identified as the SN 1054 supernova that births the Crab Nebula pulsar.

 

1776

The 13 American colonies throw off British rule as Philadelphia’s Continental Congress announces a new nation made up of united states. The anniversary of this Declaration of Independence, ratified one year into the Revolutionary War, will continue to be celebrated in the US as Independence Day.

 

1862

Alice Liddell, 10, asks Charles Dodgson to tell her a story while they’re boating near Oxford, England. He weaves a tale of a bored little girl who suddenly finds herself down a rabbit hole. Dodgson will later publish ‘Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland‘ under his pen name, Lewis Carroll.

1976

A plane departing Tel Aviv is hijacked and lands in Uganda, where Palestinian terrorists threaten to kill passengers unless demands are met. Under cover of darkness, Israeli commandos rush the airport and rescue most of the hostages in a 90-minute lightning raid, Operation Entebbe.

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Looking For The Light’s 10 year anniversary

I started blogging with WordPress in 2005 with a blog called Defining Memories. After grieving my granny the blog took on a different look and a name change made sense. Looking For The Light is the name of my blog but also how I look at life. My life’s history is not completely resolved hence Looking For the Light.

Through blogging, I have grown in ways never imagined. Bloggers have provided support, another view, similar backgrounds to learn from and most of all a sense of community.

I’m a more understanding person, a less shallow, open-hearted, and loving person from blogging. Thank you and let’s keep rocking!

10 Year Anniversary Achievement

 

Happy Anniversary with WordPress.com! You registered on WordPress.com 10 years ago. Thanks for flying with us. Keep up the good blogging.

 

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Change.org New Bill to protect LGBTQ

Please visit Change.org to see the original petition to sign.

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Melinda — A new bill in Congress would be the first national nondiscrimination law for LGBTQ Americans. If it passes, those in the LGBTQ community would no longer have to worry about losing their jobs because of who they are. Mark decided to start this petition because he sees this as a fight for basic civil rights. Sign now to stand with Mark and put pressure on lawmakers to pass the Equality Act.
U.S. House of Representatives: Pass the Equality Act
Petition by Mark Lester
Dublin, CA, United States
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Supporters

 

A bill was just introduced that would modify existing civil rights legislation that bans employment, housing, public accommodation, jury service, education, federal programs, and credit discrimination against LGBTQ+ people.

Even today, in most states, a gay couple can get married, post a photo on social media, and get fired from their jobs for it.

This new bill would add “gender identity” and “sexual orientation” to the classes protected by the Civil Rights Act of 1964. The 1964 act doesn’t protect discrimination against all protected classes in retail stores, emergency shelters, banks, transit, and pharmacies. This bill would update that.

If this bill were to be signed into law, it would be the first national nondiscrimination law for LGBTQ Americans. That is monumental.

More than a third of LGBTQ Americans live in the south, but there are no LGBTQ anti-discrimination laws in the south.

By enacting the Equality Act, those LGBTQ people living in the south would be protected. They wouldn’t have to worry about losing their jobs for being who they are.

If you believe in LGBTQ+ rights, sign and share this petition now.