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Blogger Highlight-The Secret Dance

We dance round in a ring and suppose, but the secret sits in the middle and knows. – Robert Frost

Thank you for all the great feedback on the Blogger Highlight series, I’ve enjoyed meeting each blogger and sharing their site with you. This week I highlight a new blogger, The Secret Dance.

The Secret Dance

We dance round in a ring and suppose, but the secret sits in the middle and knows. – Robert Frost

I’ve been living in a world of secrets and lies my entire life. Some are my own. Others I keep to protect myself and those who have hurt me. I’ve been too afraid to tell or ask for help. I try to manage them on my own. I’ve been afraid of being hurt and rejected again. These secrets have stifled me. Swallowed me whole. Sucked the life out of me. Robbed me of happiness. Defined me and who I thought I was. Unlovable. Inadequate. Unworthy. Small. I don’t want to feel this pain anymore. I want to be alive and free to feel. I want a voice. Here is where this will happen. Here, the secrets will come alive and be released and truth will win.

 Be sure to check out The Secret Dance.

Melinda

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Organ Donor Awareness Week 19th-25th

Did you know

  • About 123,000 people are waiting for an organ donation
  • 1 organ donor can save up to 8 lives
  • 18 people die each day while for a transplant
  • Organs and tissues from 1 donor can benefit 50 people
  • Living donors can donate a kidney; parts of liver, lung, pancreas, intestine

It All Starts With You

  • Register to be an organ donor
  • Talk about your decision to friends and family
  • Include donation in your advance directives, will, and living will
  • Support local organizations and events
  • Share your story or someone you know

 

Every effort will be made to save your life above all else

Healthcare professionals have a duty of care to save your life first.

If – despite their best efforts – death is inevitable, organ and tissue donation will be considered as end of life care discussions start with your loved ones.

Only when end of life care planning is started is the NHS Organ Donor Register accessed by a specialist nurse for organ donation and the possibility of organ donation discussed with your family.

Death is confirmed in line with strict criteria

There are strict criteria in place in the United Kingdom to help those caring for the dying, by providing safe, timely and consistent criteria for the diagnosis of death.

Organs are never removed until a patient’s death has been confirmed in line with these criteria.

Most people do not die in circumstances that make it possible for them to donate their organs.

In fact, only around one in 100 people who die in the UK are usually able to be donors. Donors are typically those who have died in a hospital intensive care unit or emergency department.

How death is confirmed in the UK

As a donor, you will be treated with dignity and respect

The organ donation process involves a specialist team who ensure that donors are treated with the greatest care and respect during the removal of organs and tissue for donation.

The retrieval of organs takes place in a normal operating theatre under sterile conditions, and is carried out by specialist surgeons. Afterwards the surgical incision is carefully closed and covered by a dressing in the normal way.

Only those organs and tissue specified by the donor and agreed with the family will be removed.

Your faith and beliefs will always be respected.

Organs cannot be bought or sold

Organ donation is a precious gift that saves lives.

Transplant laws in the UK expressly prohibit the sale of human organs or tissue

Your decision

You can change your mind at any time

If you have recorded a decision on the NHS Organ Donor Register and want to update your details, change or reaffirm your decision, you can complete the Amend your details form or call 0300 123 23 23.

Please make sure you share your updated decision with your family.

Get the facts about family involvement

You can nominate someone to make a decision on your behalf

You may not want to make an organ donation decision yourself. You may have specific instructions, or have concerns about your family not supporting your decision.

If you live in England, Wales or Northern Ireland, you can nominate up to two representatives to make the final decision about organ donation on your behalf.

If you die in circumstances where donation is possible, your appointed representative(s) will be asked if your organs should be donated.

Nominate a representative online

Alternatively, call our contact centre on 0300 123 23 23 and one of our team will arrange to send the form by post.

Why talk to your loved ones?

Your family can override your decision if they don’t know what you want

Each year, hundreds of opportunities for transplants are missed because families aren’t sure what to do.

Your family will always be consulted about whether you wanted to be an organ donor or not, and clinicians will never proceed with organ donation if your family or loved ones object.

Watch our video to see how your family is involved

If you want to donate

If you want to be an organ donor after you die, it’s really important that you talk to your loved ones and make sure they understand and support your organ donation decision. You can also register your decision on the NHS Organ Donor Register.

If you don’t want to donate

If you decide not to become an organ donor, you can still help your family through a difficult time by talking to them about your organ donation decision now, and making sure they know what you want. You can also register your decision on the NHS Organ Donor Register.

Get tips on how to talk to your loved ones about organ donation

Get information about the choices you can make

Get more information about how consent is established

Cornea donation

The gift of sight

Many people feel uncomfortable thinking about cornea donation, but the reality is that it can mean the gift of sight to someone desperately in need of a transplant.

Did you know?

  • The eye is never transplanted whole
  • Cornea donation does not affect how a donor looks
  • Cornea donation does not delay a donor’s funeral

Faith and beliefs

All major religions and belief systems are open to the principles of organ donation

All the major religions and belief systems in the UK are open to the principles of organ donation and transplantation and accept that organ donation is an individual choice.

We understand that you may have questions about whether your faith or beliefs affect your ability to become an organ donor.

We’ve worked with faith leaders and communities to build trust, raise awareness, explore questions around organ and tissue donation, and discuss how organ donation can proceed in line with faith or beliefs.

Get information about how different faith and belief systems view organ donation here

Your faith and beliefs will always be respected

When you register as an organ donor, you have the opportunity to say whether or not you would like the NHS to speak to your loved ones about how organ donation can go ahead in line with your faith or belief system.

This is an optional part of the registration process, but any response you give will be part of your NHS Organ Donor Register record.

More about how this works

Information about your faith and beliefs is optional, and will be kept confidential

When you register your organ donation decision, you may provide information about your religion and ethnicity within the additional information section.

This information is entirely optional, and is only used by NHS Blood and Transplant for analysis of the NHS Organ Donor Register. It is not stored against your registration.

If you would like the NHS to speak to your family about your beliefs

You can add information about your faith and beliefs at any time

If you have already recorded a donation decision, but haven’t recorded any information about whether or not you would like the NHS to speak to your family about how organ donation can go ahead in line with your faith or beliefs, you can still do so.

You can:

We will be happy to update your record for you.

If you live in England, you can also update your registration using the NHS App.

Funeral arrangements

Your funeral plans will not be affected by organ donation

Our specialist nurses always speak to your family to see if there are considerations around your faith, beliefs or culture with respect to funeral plans. 

The surgery carried out to remove a donor’s organs is carried out by highly skilled professionals who take the same care and attention, and offer the same respect as they would in any operation to save a patient’s life.

The surgical incisions are carefully dressed after the surgery and any end of life care wishes in relation to the washing and dressing of the body are respected.

Your body will always be returned to your family after donation

The donation operation is performed as soon as possible after death.

After donation, the body is always returned to the family of the deceased in the same way as any death in a hospital where donation has not taken place.

Families are given the opportunity to spend time with their loved one after the operation if they wish.

An open-casket funeral is still possible

Organ and tissue donation doesn’t prevent you from having an open-casket funeral.

The body is clothed for burial, so there are no visible signs of organ or tissue donation.

The operation site is covered with a white surgical dressing like any other abdominal surgery dressing.

The information provided refers to the laws in the UK, please visit your appropriate site for specific information. I have marked my driver’s license as an organ donor. Another gift you can make is donating your body to Science. So much can be learned by studying the human body. My maternal grandfather gave his body to science at a UTSW which is a huge teaching hospital in the area. They had a nice but brief memorial service with candles. It was a great gift he made.
A great gift to society is to donate blood regularly, the Red Cross always needs blood and platelets. Platelets are used for cancer patients. I have given platelets many times before I became ill.
Melinda
References:
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Today in History September 18, 2022

Hi! So glad you are enjoying the Today in History each Sunday.

1793

George Washington lays the Capitol cornerstone

On September 18, 1793, George Washington lays the cornerstone to the United States Capitol building, the home of the legislative branch of American government. The building would take nearly a century to complete, as architects came and went, the British set fire to it and it was called into use during the Civil War. Today, the Capitol building, with its famous cast-iron dome and important collection of American art, is part of the Capitol Complex, which includes six Congressional office buildings and three Library of Congress buildings, all developed in the 19th and 20th centuries.

1975

Patty Hearst captured by police

Newspaper heiress and wanted fugitive Patty Hearst is captured in a San Francisco apartment and arrested for armed robbery. On February 4, 1974, Patricia Hearst, the 19-year-old daughter of newspaper publisher Randolph Hearst, was kidnapped from her apartment in Berkeley, …read more

1973

Jimmy Carter files report on UFO sighting

Future President Jimmy Carter files a report with the International UFO Bureau on September 18, 1973, claiming he had seen an Unidentified Flying Object (UFO) in October 1969. During the presidential campaign of 1976, Democratic challenger Carter was forthcoming about his belief …read more

1987

Hundreds are accidentally poisoned in Brazil

On September 18, 1987, cesium-137 is removed from an abandoned cancer-therapy machine in Brazil. Hundreds of people were eventually poisoned by radiation from the substance, highlighting the danger that even relatively small amounts of radiation can pose. In 1985, the …read more

1981

Canada mall sets parking-lot record

On September 18, 1981, the 20,000-car parking lot at Canada’s West Edmonton Mall makes the Guinness Book of World Records as the largest parking lot in the world. The mall has held other records, too: At one time or another it’s been the World’s Largest Shopping Mall (5.2 million …read more

Have a great Sunday!

Melinda

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Deep Thoughts

In this fast-paced social media world, it can be difficult to find the time to look within or back in time. I hope you find these quotes and questions interesting. So glad you stopped by today! Continue reading “Deep Thoughts”

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Fun Facts

Hi, thanks for stopping by today. I love hearing your comments each week. We learn some interesting things, don’t we?

Walt Disney World is the second-largest buyer of fireworks in the US.

Four people lived in a home for six months infested with over 2,000 venomous spiders.

Madonna has brontophobia, which is the fear of thunder.

In June 2017, the Facebook community reached 2 billion active users.

Samuel L. Jackson requested a purple lightsaber in Star Wars to accept the part as Mace Windu.

Enjoy!

Melinda

Reference:

https://www.thefactsite.com/top-100-random-funny-facts/

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#Weekend Music Share-Avril Lavigne: Happy Ending / Atlanta 2022

I’m so glad you dropped by today, thank you. I hope you have a great weekend.

Welcome back to Weekend Music Share; the place where everyone can share their favorite music.
Feel free to use the ‘Weekend Music Share‘ banner in your post, and don’t forget to use the hashtag #WeekendMusicShare on social media so other participants can find your post.

Melinda

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Lymphoma Awareness Day 15th

World Lymphoma Awareness Day takes place on 15 September every year to raise awareness of lymphoma – the most common blood cancer.

This year the campaign is encouraging people around the globe to share key facts about lymphoma – not only so more people are aware of the disease, but because research shows that people affected feel more confident when they are more informed.

Lymphoma is cancer of the lymphocytes (white blood cells).
Over 580,000 people are diagnosed with lymphoma each year worldwide.
Symptoms of lymphoma can be: unexplained weight loss, fatigue, swollen lymph nodes, itching, night sweats and unexplained fever.
The most common lymphoma symptom is painless swelling in the lymph nodes.
Lymphoma symptoms can be overlooked because they can be similar to less serious illnesses, such as the flu.
Symptoms do not determine the lymphoma subtype. Subtype is determined through testing with a specialist.
There are no screening tests for lymphoma.
Fatigue is the most common physical condition of lymphoma, regardless of subtype.
People experience fatigue before diagnosis, during treatment and after treatment is completed.
Over half of all patients report feeling confident when they are more informed about their disease.

WLAD confidence fact

If you experience any of the symptoms please reach out to your Physician or Cancer doctor right away. Time is of the essence.

Melinda

References:

https://lymphoma-action.org.uk/10-facts-about-lymphoma-world-lymphoma-awareness-day

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What Do Your Books Say About You?

It’s always interesting to me to look at the books people have. You can learn so much about them. I’ve included a few photos of my books. See if you can guess what I’m into.

Photo by Parth Shah on Pexels.com

 

 

What do your books say about you?

Melinda

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It’s Weird When Your Ex-Husband Dies

I received a letter on Friday from the Probate Court that my ex-husband died. We’ve been divorced since 1999 but we were friends. It was a shock and why am I included in this official letter? I haven’t seen him in over 20 years.

I’m choosing to remember all the good memories we made and the joy I felt. 

Our first:

First New Years’ Eve party

First Dive in Cozumel

Big shark encounter

Traveling the World

There were many more. On my first trip to Cozumel, the electricity went out right after I was heading to the shower. First I had to find someone with towels, I went back to the room ready to get all the salt off of me. We had to put a small flashlight on a beam to take a shower. This is not the Ritz type of country.

 

This was an annual event for Toys for Tots where thousands of bikers come together to ride across town to the center where the toys are collected by the Marines. We bought a big white teddy bear and tied it to the back of my seat. It was my first time attending and it was a blast. You can see by the smile on my face. 

This song is appropriate for the occasion.

 Born To Be Wild

We spent 13 years together and shared a lifetime of memories. He was a good man. 

I pray you did not suffer, and that someone was always at your side. 

You’ve joined your father and grandparents in Heaven, I know it will be a big occasion.

Peace

Melinda

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Blogger Highlight-Thirty-Four

Thank you for all the great feedback on the Blogger Highlight series, I’ve enjoyed meeting each blogger and sharing their site with you. This week I highlight a new blogger, Thirty-Four.

 

Thirty-Four

Just another girl trying to make her way through life.

I am a daughter, friend, student, the middle child of seven siblings, auntie, godmother and a child of God. I also have an Eating Disorder. Anorexia Nervosa; binge purging subtype. Major depressive disorder, chemical dependency issues, severe anxiety disorder, OCD, self-harm and suicidal ideation. But I am MORE than my diagnoses! Currently in the middle of a relapse, but relapses are a part of RECOVERY! This is a snapshot of my journey through this crazy thing called LIFE!

Thirty-Four is a new blog and I look forward to seeing her journey. 

Melinda

Looking for the Light

 

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God Save the King!

America has an interest in where the Monarchy goes from here and no better person than Prince Charles to lead the way forward. He’s spent his life in dedication to his mother the Queen of England. His life has been spent watching and learning. He couldn’t have had a better teacher.

 

 

 

Photo by Mike B on Pexels.com

King Charles III is probably the most experienced King to date. I have confidence he will lead the Church and Monarchy forward with the knowledge of history and a nob to the contemporary.

I know the world is mourning and also knows brighter days are ahead. King Charles III will flourish in his new role and be a great mentor to the Prince and Princess of Wales.

Let’s give King Charles III a chance to add his touch as he honors the past.

God Save the King!

Melinda

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Today in History September 11, 2022

Hi! So glad you are enjoying the Today in History each Sunday.

2021

Attack on the United States

At approximately 8:46 a.m. on a clear Tuesday morning, an American Airlines Boeing 767 loaded with 20,000 gallons of jet fuel crashes into the north tower of the World Trade Center in New York City. The impact left a gaping, burning hole near the 80th floor of the 110-story skyscraper, instantly killing hundreds of people and trapping hundreds more in higher floors. As the evacuation of the tower and its twin got underway, television cameras broadcasted live images of what initially appeared to be a freak accident. Then, 17 minutes after the first plane hit, a second Boeing 767—United Airlines Flight 175—appeared out of the sky, turned sharply toward the World Trade Center, and sliced into the south tower at about the 60th floor. The collision caused a massive explosion that showered burning debris over surrounding buildings and the streets below. America was under attack.

1971

Donny Osmond has the #1 hit on the U.S. pop charts with “Go Away Little Girl”

Donny Osmond began his professional career in the early 1960s, as the dimpled, five-year-old frontman of the family barbershop quintet. These days, he is still a reliable Las Vegas nightclub draw; an occasional above-the-marquee star of touring Broadway musicals; and an on-again, …read more

1777

The Battle of Brandywine begins


On September 11, 1777, General Sir William Howe and General Charles Cornwallis launch a full-scale British attack on General George Washington and the Patriot outpost at Brandywine Creek near Chadds Ford, in Delaware County, Pennsylvania, on the road linking Baltimore and …read more

1987

“Fatal Attraction” premieres

The thriller Fatal Attraction, about a married man who has a fling with a woman who then becomes obsessed with him and stalks his family, premieres in U.S. theaters on September 11, 1987. Fatal Attraction, which starred Michael Douglas and Glenn Close, was a box-office hit and …read more

1965

1st Cavalry Division arrives in South Vietnam

1st Cavalry Division (Airmobile) begins to arrive in South Vietnam at Qui Nhon, bringing U.S. troop strength in South Vietnam to more than 125,000. The unit, which had a long and storied history, was the first full U.S. Army division deployed to Vietnam. The division consisted …read more

Have a great day! 

Melinda

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Pain Awareness Month

When painful symptoms first arise, patients and their health care providers work together to see if they can identify and address the underlying cause. For many conditions and injuries, however, there is no precise medical or surgical cure. As time passes, in addition to other diagnoses or even without an identifiable cause, patients may be diagnosed with chronic pain. Treatment goals will then shift from resolving the pain to reducing and managing it.

Typically, pain is considered chronic when it persists for six months or more. But for some patients, chronic pain can last for years or even a lifetime. There are many possible causes for long-term pain, including injury, such as involvement in a car accident, or underlying disorders or diseases, like fibromyalgia or arthritis.

 

The type of pain experienced can be as varied as the reasons behind it. Pain can be felt as burning, stabbing, aching, pulsing, and many other sensations. These sensations can occur anywhere in the body, and can range from mild to severe, from intermittent to continuous, and from distracting to disabling. Over time, chronic pain can become a disease in and of itself, creating notable changes in the body, particularly the nervous system.

Because each individual person with pain is so unique, it can be challenging to manage pain effectively. There is no one-size-fits-all approach to treatment, and pain management is usually aimed at reducing pain, not eliminating it. Working alongside health care providers, most people with pain will need to engage in a process of trial and error to find a treatment plan that works for them. Typically, successful pain management requires finding a combination of multidisciplinary, multimodal therapies that reduce pain enough to improve quality of life and increase function.

Mental Health

Chronic pain, especially severe pain, can have an enormous impact on your emotional health. Research has shown that people with pain are significantly more likely to experience anxiety, depression, and suicidal thoughts. Remember that you are not atypical, oversensitive, or weak for experiencing emotional distress because of pain. These are normal, reasonable responses to physical suffering and its associated limitations.

Unfortunately, despite the widely recognized psychosocial effects of pain, caring for mental health often takes a backseat to treating physical symptoms. But stress levels exacerbate chronic pain, and chronic pain exacerbates stress levels. This does not mean the pain is “all in your head.” It simply means that the mind and body are linked. Taking care of your emotional well-being can help improve your pain, or, at the very least, help you cope with your pain.

Self-management

Sleep

An estimated 50 percent to percent of people with chronic pain have ongoing sleep difficulties.[1] Studies show that inadequate sleep, however, can exacerbate pain.[2] Here are some tips for ensuring you get a good night’s rest despite pain.

  • Establish a routine.Going to bed and waking up at the same time every day—even on the weekends—reinforces the natural sleep-wake cycle in your body. You can also help reinforce bedtime by establishing a wind-down routine, e.g. by taking a bath, meditating, reading or listening to soothing music.
  • Create a restful environment. Turn on white noise, use ear plugs, invest in comfortable bedding, and keep the room temperature cool. Exposure to light is especially important: dim or turn off the lights in your house 30 to 60 minutes before going to bed. The light from cell phone and TV screens can also interfere with circadian rhythms, so shut down all devices as you prepare for bed.
  • Watch what you eat and drink. Caffeinated products—like tea or coffee, chocolate—anything containing nicotine, or any other stimulants should be avoided for at least four to six hours before you plan to go to sleep. Even alcohol, which initially makes you feel tired, makes it harder to get high-quality sleepy. Furthermore, heavy meals and too many fluids before bed might keep you up because you are uncomfortable or need to use the bathroom.
  • Get tired! Napping during the day can interfere with sleep at night. If you must, limit your snooze to 30 minutes, and give yourself at least four hours between the nap and bedtime. In addition, exercising during the day helps tire out your body and can foster better sleep at night. Try to work out at least a few hours before bed, if possible.

Still struggling? Ask your doctor about meeting with a sleep specialist.

Reduce stress

Pain increases stress, and stress increases pain. But you can break this cycle by proactively trying to reduce stress wherever possible. Multiple studies have shown that reducing stress and relaxation techniques can improve overall health and wellbeing, and may even reduce pain or improve the perception of pain.[3],[4]

Some examples of stress reduction techniques and strategies include:

  • Meditation
  • Relaxation techniques such as breathing exercises, progressive muscle relaxation, visual imagery, and mindfulness
  • Music, art or dance therapy
  • Journaling
  • Exercise
  • Support groups
  • Counseling and cognitive behavioral therapy

Generally speaking, reducing stress with chronic pain also requires:

  • Pacing yourself to allow for sufficient rest and recovery;
  • Learning to say no and putting your health first;
  • Focusing on the things you can do and not what you can’t;
  • Communicating clearly with your loved ones about your needs and challenges;
  • Letting go of guilt and shame surrounding pain.

For more advice on managing stress when you have pain, find a psychologist, counselor or life coach in your area.

My Pain

My chronic pain started when I was diagnosed with Lyme Disease. Since then the pain has increased in many areas of the body, some days it’s hard to walk. Bursitis, Arthritis, and Fibromyalgia have entered my life and it can be exhausting. Sleeping at night is hard, laying down puts pressure on my trigger points, and the pain flares up. I constantly wake up in pain, Laying there until going back to sleep or get up.

I’m not on pain medication at the moment but have a referral to see someone. I’ve been off pain medication for a year but it’s not worth living in pain. Managing pain often includes medication and that has to be monitored closely. Pain medication is addictive, it is made worse when your doctor fires you or you fire them without notice and have no withdrawal plan. What I do is not take the full amount prescribed, saving them in case I have to do self-withdrawal. It may not the best method but I’ve fired a doctor, it was hell coming off everything with only two weeks of medication.

One of my self-care techniques is to take a nap most afternoons. This gives my body a rest, and it helps ease the mind. That doesn’t mean I sleep, most of the time it’s just resting.

What do you do to manage your pain?

Melinda

References:

US Pain Foundation

 

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Fun Facts

Hi, thanks for stopping by today. I love hearing your comments each week. We learn some interesting things, don’t we?

George W. Bush was once a cheerleader.

In total, there are 205 bones in the skeleton of a horse.

Coca-Cola once bought all the website URLs that can be read as ahh, all the way up to 62 h’s.

Each year there are more than 40,000 toilet-related injuries in the US.

Strawberries can be red, yellow, green, or white.

Enjoy!

Melinda

Reference:

https://www.thefactsite.com/top-100-random-funny-facts/

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Smile

This is my daughter, Giffy, she’s a Brussels Griffon we got from a shelter. She’s feisty and needs lots of activity to keep her from getting grumpy. Two walks a day help keep her happy.
 She’s a beautiful dog and is fun when she’s in the mood. This morning, she woke me up at 5:30 am because she knows not to bother my husband until 6:00 am. 

 

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World Suicide Prevention Day 10th

An estimated one million people per year die by suicide or about one person in 10,000 (1.4% of all deaths), or “a death every 40 seconds or about 3,000 every day”. As of 2004 the number of people who die by suicide is expected to reach 1.5 million per year by 2020.[8]

Physical and especially mental health disabling issues such as depression, are among the most common of the long list of complex and interrelated factors, ranging from financial problems to the experience of abuse, aggression, exploitation, and mistreatment, that can contribute to the feelings of pain and hopelessness underlying suicide. Usually, substances and alcohol abuse also play a role. Prevention strategies generally emphasize public awareness of social stigma and suicidal behaviors.[1][45][5][6]

The best thing you can do is armor yourself with information and take action when you recognize signs or symptoms of depression, suicidal thoughts, or self-harm, indicating that someone is at risk of contemplating or attempting suicide.

Start the Conversation

It can be hard to know when someone may be thinking about suicide, explains Doreen Marshall, PhD, Vice President of Mission Engagement at the American Foundation of Suicide Prevention.

Take notice of changes in behavior, expressions of hopelessness, changes in mood, or difficulty with daily activities that could indicate the presence of a worsening mental health condition, and don’t be afraid to ask someone if they have been having thoughts of suicide, especially if they’re experiencing significant life stressors.

While mental health professionals have education, tools, and resources to support individuals struggling with their mental health, Dr. Marshall says we all play a critical role in suicide prevention. Having an open, authentic conversation about mental health with loved ones is a great first step.

This may not be easy, of course, but Dr. Marshall offers some useful tips:

  • When someone is struggling, just listen to them.
  • Let others share at their own speed.
  • Don’t pass judgment or offer advice; just be present.
  • Understand that we all experience mental health differently, and that’s OK.
  • Following the conversation, check back in and offer to connect them to professional help if they need it.

Seek Support

If you’re concerned about what you’re noticing or become aware that you or someone you know is having thoughts of suicide, Dr. Marshall says it’s important to reach out to a mental health professional for support.

Mental health looks different for everyone, but we all need support. No matter if it’s a loved one, a neighbor, a therapist, or a community organization, it’s important to have a reliable network of people who are there when life gets hard.

This World Suicide Prevention Day, open the lines of communication. If you know someone who is struggling, reach out to them. If you, yourself, are struggling, open up to a loved one or a mental health expert. Starting the conversation is an important first step in getting help.

If you are having suicidal thoughts, contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988 for support and assistance from a trained counselor. If you or a loved one are in immediate danger, call 911.

For more mental health resources, see our National Helpline Database.

Keep your ears and heart open.

Melinda

References:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/World_Suicide_Prevention_Day

https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-suicide-prevention-day-5197556

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#Weekend Music Share-Bad Company – Shooting Star – Live at Wembley Don’t Miss!

I’m so glad you dropped by today, thank you. I hope you have a great weekend.

Welcome back to Weekend Music Share; the place where everyone can share their favorite music.
Feel free to use the ‘Weekend Music Share‘ banner in your post, and don’t forget to use the hashtag #WeekendMusicShare on social media so other participants can find your post.

Melinda

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Queen Elizabeth dies September 8, 2022

I’m at a total loss for words, I wasn’t expecting the Queen to die today. Of course, we’ll never know what she was really suffering from but thank God she’s out of pain. We mourn for her loss and welcome a new King, King Charles III.

The UK will stay in the morning for 10 days and her household staff for 30 days. It’s improper to have a Coronation so soon after grieving so we won’t see the official ascension probably into next year. This means King Charles III can’t wear the crown till after the official ceremony.

Queen Elizabeth was one of a kind and she broke thru many glass ceilings.

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I’m hopeful of King Charles III will carry on but with his own style. He’s not the Queen and will not slide right into her chair. He will have his own personality and ways of performing his duties.

We also now have a Queen Consort and Prince and Princes of Wales to pick move forward Price Charles’s work.

I live in America and have followed the Royal family for as long as I can remember. The Queen will be missed by the world.

Rest in Peace.

Melinda

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Book Review for Monkey Mind by Keith Naylor

I want to send a special thank you to the Managing Editor of Trigger Publishing, Soraya Nair for sending me Monkey Mind by Keith Naylor to read and review. 

Publication date: 26/07/2021
ISBN: 106 pages

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Can you pinpoint the exact moment that your struggle with mental health started? Keith Naylor attempts to do so in his book Monkey Mind, but he’s not the only one on this trek back in time. He’s also got Tonky – the Tonkin snub-nosed monkey that chatters away in his brain – to help him uncover the causes for his depression, anxiety and post-traumatic stress disorder. Retracing Keith and Tonky’s steps might help you understand your own journey with mental health, too.

My Thoughts

This quote is in the Introduction and I love this, it’s a great life quote. 

“Be true to yourself. You can be whatever you like, but don’t let your mind hold you back.”

You know that old saying, “I have a monkey on my back? The book Monkey Mind reminds me of the saying only in this case the monkeys are weighing down Kieth’s brain and raising the level of negative self-talk. He takes us on the journey to find answers to when his struggles with mental health started. 

Kieth is an only child and doesn’t remember his birth except for what he could get from his father and family members. He was born with a deformity to his leg and had to wear a full leg cast until grade school. He no longer requires a cast but does have a limp if overly tired and is conscious of his leg being different. 

Tonky is the name of Kieth’s monkey, and Tonky can keep him from sleeping for nights on end. My monkey keeps me up while trying to go to sleep, she can be so busy that I don’t fall asleep for hours or have to get out of bed. 

As for early trauma Kieth not only had to wear a cast to straighten his leg, his favorite Guinea Pig was killed and he was bullied unmercifully at school. This was his early start in the world. As we all know there are many hardships along the way and Kieth has more than his share. 

Kieth continues to struggle as he looks for the perfect job, each time being let down. He joins the RAF and finds out he’s not made up for all the yelling and insults from his superior. He continues to take us on his journey for answers.

This book is for anyone who has a monkey on the brain that continues to ask questions. or interferes with your daily activities. We all have an inner talk, it can be positive or negative talk. I would recommend this book to anyone who has anxiety, depression, or trauma in their background. 

Monkey Mind is also a great resource for parents who see their child struggling. It can help you understand what children go thru, since getting them to share their inner demons can be hard. 

Trigger Publishing

TriggerHub.org is the first mental health organization of its kind. We are bringing mental health recovery and balance to millions of people worldwide through the power of our books.

We have built a first-class resource of curated books produced and published in-house to create a unique collection of mental health recovery titles unrivaled in quality and selection. We work with experts, psychologists, doctors, and coaches to produce our books, but we also work with real people looking to share their stories to reach out to others and provide hope, understanding, and compassion. These brave authors also aim to raise awareness of mental health’s “human” face and its impact on everyday lives. 

Melinda

Looking for the Light

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Just Pondering

Bella Grace Field Guide by Stampington

A perfect day doesn’t have to include anything over the top. It can be simply be made up of all the ordinary things that fill our hearts with joy.

What does a perfect day look like for you?

Melinda

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Introducing Vital Field’s Vagus Frequencell the Superhero Cell that Fights Stress at the Source

After years of research, Vital Field has introduced a Vagus Nerve Fregencell that is said to fight stress at the source. I haven’t had a chance to wear mine, I’m still wearing another Freqencell for review. I’ll have a review at a later time.

The Vagus Cell has been developed to be your best ally against stress, communication difficulties, or behavior changes.

Stress is the one thing that needs no introduction. We all experience it, we all battle its negative effects on our bodies and minds, and we all try to find ways to deal with it.

This is where the Vagus Cell comes in, like a superhero to save the day. Wearing it will ensure more flexibility and stability for the autonomic nervous system and higher resilience. This way, it can improve your everyday life and relationships, protect your mental health, help you achieve career goals, and in general reinforce your body against the effects of stress.

The better you become friends with your system, the more it really works for you.

– Mechthild Rex-Najuch,
world-leading vital field energy practitioner and naturopath

This post contains affiliate links that don’t cost you more and help feed my coffee habit.

Get to know your body:

Vagus, the largest cranial nerve, wanders through the entire body and there is hardly a structure that is not connected to it in some way. It is imperative for the reactions of our vegetative or autonomic nervous system. Together with the sympathetic and parasympathetic nerves, the vagus nerve regulates our behavior during stress.

In the course of evolution, two parts have developed: A posterior and an anterior. While the posterior part keeps the entire body autonomously stable, the anterior part learns and is largely responsible for the perception of social elements and security. It is likely that communication has only become possible because of this. If the posterior part reacts autonomously, it means that it works independently. It ensures that all internal processes are maintained.

And what is the “the smart vagus” you keep hearing in every wellness & health article? Well, the anterior part is not autonomous, it learns. That is why it is also called the “smart” vagus. It will help you with the initial assessment of people and situations. Of course, it cannot do this alone. Remember that all structures in the body always work together for mutual benefit. The vagus nerve plays a crucial role in this. It mediates and controls, reacts to non-verbal language as well as to sounds, faces, and smells. In this way, everything affects our nervous system, our hormonal system, and our immune system. Because our body adapts itself seismographically – across all systems. With messenger substances, the challenges of life are appropriately answered in a biochemical way. Feels big? It is.

VAGUS Cell

The cumulative expert knowledge and the science of using precisely targeted frequencies for health management and pain management are now, for the first time in history, available to end-users worldwide. Vitalfield applications don’t replace or compete with traditional medicine or conventional treatment methods. They are intended to provide an alternative treatment to pain and health, when conventional methods fail to provide significant results on their own. With zero negative side effects reported and over 80% reported satisfaction from customers, we are confident in offering a full money-back guarantee if our product does not work for you.

Since Vitalfield products are safe, natural, non-invasive and non-chemical, it’s worthwhile to see if our product can reduce your pain and improve your life.

You can check out one of my reviews of a Vital Field product here, I’ve tried and been completely happy with each product I’ve tried.

Be sure to use discount code Light20 for 20% off all of your Vital Field purchases.

Melinda

References:

https://vitalfield.com/all-products/

The Vagus Nerve and Stress

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World Alzheimers Month

Each September, people unite from all corners of the world to raise awareness and to challenge the stigma that persists around Alzheimer’s disease and all types of dementia.  

During World Alzheimer’s Month, we call on everyone, from individuals to large organisations, including every Alzheimer and dementia association globally, to support World Alzheimer’s Month by getting involved in some way.  
 
As outlined in our World Alzheimer Report 2019, many people still wrongly believe that dementia is a normal ageing. This alone highlights how important public awareness campaigns, like World Alzheimer’s Month, are for changing perceptions and increasing existing public knowledge around dementia and Alzheimer’s disease.  

This year’s theme, ‘Know Dementia, Know Alzheimer’s,continues on from the 2021 campaign, which focused on diagnosis, the warning signs of dementia, the continued effect of COVID-19 on the global dementia community and more.  

Today, it is believed that “Alzheimer’s disease (AD) is the most common form of Dementia among older people. Dementia is a brain disorder that seriously affects a person’s ability to carry out daily activities.

AD begins slowly. It first involves the parts of the brain that control thought, memory and language. People with AD may have trouble remembering things that happened recently or names of people they know. A related problem, mild cognitive impairment (MCI), causes more memory problems than normal for people of the same age. Many, but not all, people with MCI will develop AD.

In AD, over time, symptoms get worse. People may not recognize family members or have trouble speaking, reading or writing. They may forget how to brush their teeth or comb their hair. Later on, they may become anxious or aggressive, or wander away from home. Eventually, they need total care. This can cause great stress for family members who must care for them.

AD usually begins after age 60. The risk goes up as you get older. Your risk is also higher if a family member has had the disease. No treatment can stop the disease. However, some drugs may help keep symptoms from getting worse for a limited time.”

My experience

I completely understand the struggle of Dementia, not only do I have it but so did my granny. Her’s was caused by a massive stroke. The side effects were instant and very disturbing. Granny knew something was wrong with herself and didn’t want to live that way. She often bangs her head on the wall. As she progressed, one day while gramps was out running an errand, she thought he left her at someone’s house. She didn’t recognize her home or photos in the living room. From there isn’t wasn’t long before she needed hospice care. 

My Dementia is caused by Lyme disease, the virus went to my brain and caused havoc. It’s like my memories have been erased by machine gun holes. I have good days and lots of bad days which I can’t remember much, for that matter what I’m doing. I take two drugs to help slow the progression.

There is research on how to set your house up for Dementia patients so they won’t hurt themselves or walk out of the house.

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Can You Spot Depression? Do You Know How To Talk To Someone In A Crisis?

When talking with family and friends, can you pick up on their comments about potential red flags or how to have a conversation about depression to learn more?

I’ve suffered from depression since childhood. The statements belove are some comments that need to grab your attention to ask more questions. It can be simple like how are you doing? or what can I do to help? The helping is often in the asking, asking provides some affirmation that they are noticed. 

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Here’s a list of warning signs to listen for

Nobody cares about me.

All I do is sleep.

I feel like I’m carrying the world on my shoulders. 

Nothing matters.

Ghosting everyone.

They or their house looks more untidy than normal.

Cuts on their hands or arm (could be expressing her feelings by cutting herself. This is a delicate case.) 

Loses or gains weight very quickly. ( could be medication side effects which are very frustrating.)

Won’t look you in the eye.

Lack of enthusiasm.

How are you managing?

Find Your Words has a great post that covers the topic of identifying depression and how to get the conversation going. 

Everyone is different and so is their communication style. The main thing is doing something to help. Let them talk and you find a time to gently probe. 

These are some questions

How are you?

What can I do for you?

Have you seen your doctor?

Are you planning on hurting yourself?

Are you under a lot of stress at work? What’s going on?

What action can I take right now?

Who can I call? 

How are you feeling?

Do you want to go for a walk or get a coffee?

What’s going on?

These are just a small number of questions. I hope this will help you, a family member, or a friend. To get the best help from your inner circle is to let them know what are some of the comments you make, or other things you do to show your depression. This gives them the opportunity to know when you need support. 

Depression is a complex disorder and anyone can be depressed sometime in their life. If your depression is ongoing, make an appointment with your Psychiatrist. You need the assistance of a doctor who has the right skills to help you. 

Melinda

References:

What you can say

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