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Asian tick that clones itself could spread fast and far in the US

By Susan Scutti, CNN  17 hours ago

The Asian longhorned tick most likely began invading the United States years ago. Now found in nine states, the tick may soon occupy a large swath of eastern North America as well as coastal regions of the Pacific Northwest, according to research published Thursday in the Journal of Medical Entomology.

“This tick can bite humans, pets, farm animals and wildlife,” said Ilia Rochlin, author of the study and an entomologist and researcher associated with the Rutgers University Center for Vector Biology.

Until recently, this species was found only in China, Japan, Korea and southeastern Russia as well as in parts of Australia, New Zealand and the Pacific islands. Then, in 2017, the first established Asian longhorned tick population was discovered in New Jersey, followed by detections in Virginia, West Virginia, Pennsylvania, North Carolina and Arkansas.

Although the tick is capable of causing infectious disease, no cases of illness, either in humans or in animals, have been reported in the United States.

“There is a good chance for this tick to become widely distributed in North America,” Rochlin said. “Mosquito control has been very successful in this country, but we are losing the battle with tick-borne diseases.”

Unusual reproductive abilities

Dina M. Fonseca, director of the Center for Vector Biology, a Rutgers professor of entomology and co-author of a previous report published by the US Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, explained the Asian longhorned tick’s strange capacity to reproduce asexually.

“These ticks are parthenogenetic, which means that females create diploid eggs (with a full set of the mother’s DNA) that develop into adults without needing the DNA of a male,” she wrote in an email. (Fonseca did not contribute to the new study.)

Of nearly 700 species of “hard” ticks — of which the Asian longhorned tick is one — only a handful are known to be parthenogenetic. “So it is a rare ability but not exceptional,” said Fonseca. This unusual method of creating clones means it is possible for the tick to cause “massive” infestations of its hosts. “We have seen very large numbers on livestock as well as on dogs.”

One of the diseases Asian longhorned ticks can transmit is severe fever with thrombocytopenia syndrome, a hemorrhagic illness that has recently emerged in China, South Korea and Japan, according to the previous CDC report.

This syndrome, which also causes nausea, diarrhea and muscle pain, results in hospitalization for most patients and leads to death for up to nearly a third of those infected. This possibility is a concern because a close relative of the illness, the Heartland virus, circulates in Midwestern and Southern states, Rochlin noted.

The tick can also carry other pathogens, including viruses that cause Lyme disease,ehrlichiosis and anaplasmosis, Rochlin said. Each of these illnesses can lead to severe disability.

In Australia and New Zealand, the Asian longhorned tick has transmitted theileriosis to cattle. Also called “bovine anemia,” the illness causes lethargy, lack of appetite and, in pregnant cows, spontaneous abortion or stillbirth. “In some regions of New Zealand and Australia, this tick can reduce production in dairy cattle by 25%,” the CDC report says.

‘Where could it go or where could it be?’

Because the tick has been found in widely separate regions of the United States, Rochlin believes that it “has been present in the United States for a number of years” and is likely to gain additional ground. For his new study, he modeled likely habitats in North America.

He looked at climate data from Asia, Australia and New Zealand where the tick is established and then compared that with climate reports for North America.

The most suitable habitat for the tick included coastal areas as far north as New Brunswick and Nova Scotia to as far south as Virginia and North Carolina, Rochlin found. On the West Coast, the coastal area where the tick is likely to survive ranged from southern British Columbia to Northern California.

Large inland swaths might also become home to this tick: from northern Louisiana to Wisconsin and into southern Ontario and Quebec, as well as westward into Kentucky, Tennessee and Missouri, his study showed.

Asian longhorned ticks can become “very abundant” in favorable habitats, Rochlin said. “Coupled with the aggressive biting behavior of this species and its potential for carrying human and animal pathogens, this species represents a significant public health concern.”

Putting the Asian longhorned tick in perspective

Erika Machtinger, an assistant professor of entomology in Pennsylvania State University’s College of Agriculture, said what’s “wonderful” about the new study is that it gives the “information everybody’s wanting to know: Where could it go, or where could it be?”

Machtinger, who was not involved in the new research, said she likes to “put these scary new things in perspective. The Zika virus was one of those.”

“When you think about the native pathogens that we have here that are a problem, Zika virus was a blip on the radar,” Machtinger said of Zika concerns in mainland United States during 2016. The native pathogen of Lyme disease infects about 320,000 people every year and “can cause mortality. It can cause serious debilitating affects,” she said. “That’s a problem. This [tick] is something we need to be aware of and continue to monitor, but people don’t need to be afraid of this.”

Because there have been few instances of this tick feeding on humans, the bigger concern may be cows and other veterinary issues, Machtinger said. Still, she did not downplay the threat entirely because this is the first introduction of an invasive tick that the United States has seen in 80 years, she said.

Very similar to the rabbit rick, the bird tick and other native species, the Asian longhorned tick was “overlooked for quite a few years,” said Machtinger, who believes that it may have been here since 2010 or even earlier. “That’s the important piece: It’s here, but it’s been here,” she said. “And it’s not going to take over the northeast or eastern part of the US quickly if it does build up numbers.”

Although its ability to clone itself means a tick can easily produce a couple thousand eggs, “so can our native black-legged ticks,” Matchinger said. Ultimately, she said, the Asian longhorned tick may be no more scary than some native species.

Rochlin said this tick species infiltration of the United States “strengthens the need to develop a comprehensive strategy for tick control and tick-borne disease prevention.” He added the best defense for those who are worried is to practice “the usual precautions against tick bites recommended by the CDC,” such as treating clothing and gear with products containing 0.5% permethrin and checking your body for ticks after being outdoors.

Machtinger advised, “be diligent in protecting yourself and your animals.” And, if you happen to find a tick you’ve never seen before, bring it to a veterinarian or a university and ask for help.

“We rely on our community scientists,” she said. “We rely on folks who are out there and find weird things on their animals that they haven’t seen before to bring it [in] and say, ‘Where can I get this identified? Can you help me?’ ”

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Where’s WALDO? Packed for Christmas?

The past two days have been one of the worst on WordPress. For a company the size of WordPress with businesses relying of the support, bloggers like me who spend close to $200 a year and all the free sites, we are owed a heads up. Not once has WordPress sent out a notice to bloggers they are aware of the problem and working hard to fix. WordPress takes no accountability for their services.

  • Will not save drafts
  • Post on other bloggers sites will not come up
  • Reblogging doesn’t work
  • Deleted two post deleted
  • Want to see your site, page is blank

WHAT the hell is going on. I’ve seen other comments this morning, how many of you have experienced the same or other issues.

M

Health and Wellbeing · Men & Womens Health

Health update

 

Did you know there are rocks in your ears? If you’ve had a concussion and developed Vertigo chances are the rocks are off-balance. Sounded crazy but I was open to trying the treatment with an ENT doctor. He discovered it was my right ear having the problem.

The treatment was very simple but stomach turning. Luckily I didn’t need the pan my husband was holding. You sit in a chair similar to a dentist chair, he would lay me back then bring the chair up holding my neck. The first time was rough but as he continued the vertigo stopped. The worst part of the treatment was wearing a collar for two days  24 hours a day.

The vertigo has returned but not as bad. I go tomorrow for another treatment, it may be the last treatment or he has to do an addition treatment until the Vertigo is gone.

My wrist surgery went great and I’m using that hand more than other arm. Fracturing an Elbow might not sound like a big deal, you ‘re very wrong. The ER doctor said it could take four to six months to heal the elbow. My right arm is useless until it heals more, The fracture in my left orbital bone has caused little pain however surgery is still possible.

There were days before treatment my husband had to guide me around so I wouldn’t fall. Even crazier, two nights after the fall, I fell again and hit head in same spot, luckily it was on carpet and only aggravated my head and back.

While in the ER waiting to for x-rays, I was scared my neck was broken. I didn’t cry but had a long talk with God. I’m mending more each day and figure out ways to be productive with one arm.

Thank you for all the well wishes, you’ve lifted my spirits.

M

 

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Home Spa Budget Friendly Exfoliator

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This great idea comes from the Aug/Sept 2018 issue of Willow and Sage By  Stampington. It’s budget friendly and eco-friendly. Chances are you have ingredient in kitchen. Baking Soda removes dead skin and milk adds a nice gentle companion.

You’ll need:

Baking Soda & Milk ( or liquid of your choice)

Small Bowl

1 TB. Baking Soda

1 TSP. Milk or water

In a small bowl, stir together the baking soda

To use, wet your hands and gently massage the exfoliator on you face in circular motion for about thirty seconds. Rinse face with cold water and follow with a moisturizer.

Keep your eyes open for more great home-made beauty ideas.

M

 

Men & Womens Health · Moving Forward

Cleveland Cavaliers Kevin Love Wants To Change Attitudes To Mental Health

Sky Sports

Friday 16 November 2018 07:48, UK

Cleveland Cavaliers forward Kevin Love says some types of masculinity portrayed in the NBA are “outdated” and “dangerous” and stop men from getting help for depression and anxiety.

The five-time All Star has personal experience after he suffered a panic attack during a game last November and realised he needed help and started seeing a therapist.

“I know from experience that this is not easy,” he told Reuters.

“So opening up about it and allowing myself to be vulnerable can affect a lot of people in a positive way and hopefully create some change.”

He said athletes were in a perfect position to break down stigmas associated with men and mental health. “Athletes … are looked at as superhuman so having them open up can have a big impact.”

Love is hoping to spread the message that seeking help is a sign of strength with a web series called “Locker Room Talk” where he interviews athletes like Michael Phelps, Channing Frye and Paul Pierce about their own mental health.

“Michael Phelps being able to speak out about mental health in the way that he does is very powerful”.

Love spoke out about his mental health after San Antonio Spurs guard DeMar DeRozan said he was suffering from depression.

“Without DeMar DeRozan I know for a fact that I wouldn’t be sitting here as soon as I am today,” Love added.

 

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Michael Phelps Speaks Out About Battling Depression, Anxiety

By David Konow 10/30/18

“I was so down on myself. I didn’t have any self-love and, quite honestly, I just didn’t want to be alive.” 

Michael Phelps

Michael Phelps has won 28 Olympic medals, but despite his incredible history as a swimmer he’s also had serious bouts with depression, anxiety and alcoholism.

Since getting help, Phelps has been very open with the public about what he went through, but he recently admitted on Today that he’s “struggling weekly” with his mental health.

“From time to time, I’ll have bad days where I do go into a depression state,” Phelps said. “Being an athlete, you’re supposed to be strong and be able to push through anything. My struggles carried on through my career and I hid them well. There are so many people who struggle from very similar things that I go through and still go through… At times, it was a little scary and challenging to go through, but I found a way to get through it and I’m addressing these issues that I have.”

Phelps has certainly come a long way since he hit his personal bottom in October 2014. Phelps said he was so engulfed in despair, he couldn’t leave the house for five days and felt suicidal.

He admitted that he had “at least half a dozen depression spells” before this one. He recalled, “I was so down on myself. I didn’t have any self-love and quite honestly, I just didn’t want to be alive. It was a really, really, really crazy time for me and I didn’t want to see anybody. I saw myself as letting so many people down—and myself in particular. That’s hard to carry.”

Finally something in Phelps clicked, and he “realized that I can ask for help and it’s going to be okay. For me, that’s what changed my life. I never asked for help really ever in my career. That was the first time that I really did that. I was basically on my knees, crying for help.”

Since that dark time, Phelps has been very involved in getting help for others. He’s on the board of TalkSpace, a teletherapy company, and he was also interviewed for a documentary, Angst, where he discussed his anxiety.

“I’m lucky to be able to sit down with a therapist and chat and talk and open up,” Phelps says. “It’s challenging for people to do… It’s something that continues to teach me more and more about myself.” 

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Invisible Disability Awareness Week

Thanks Nicole, many face the challenge of invisible illnesses and the challenge of being heard. M

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This week (15-21st October) is Invisible Disabilities Awareness Week, a week dedicated to raising awareness to all chronic conditions which you cannot see. In fact 96% of people who live with a chronic illness live with an illness which you cannot see. So with this in mind you may not know that someone you know is in fact living with a chronic condition and is in fact struggling because it is not visible and looking at them they look the same as everyone else on the outside. People living with these conditions may not be in a wheelchair but they experience other symptoms which have a significant impact on their quality of life such as fatigue and brain fog. So the next time you meet someone with a chronic illness the number one thing to remember is NEVER ever say “but you don’t look sick” or “I hope you get…

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WP Chat On Safari Update Issues

Damianne P (Automattic)

Oct 12, 11:17 UTC

Hi Melinda,

The login in issue happened today when trying to a leave comment. I write my comment, try to hit send it says I’m not logged in. When I go to log in, it takes me to a site I don’t see regularly but does have my correct gravatar.
DOES THIS MAKE SENSE?

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My 2018 Mammogram News

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When you have a Chronic Illness that creates severe pain it’s easy to skip one more doctor appointment, I did. This week was my first mammogram in six years. Although it did feel like ANOTHER doctor appointment this week, I feel good about myself. A mammogram is for me, it can save my life and mark one item off my stress list. Please stay as current as possible on your mammogram and do monthly breast exams. 

My doctor has a black ceiling with holes made to look like stars, it’s so relaxing. Twinkle Twinkle! 

M


We wish to inform you that the results of your recent mammogram are normal.

As you know, early detection of breast cancer is very important. A thorough examination includes a combination of mammography, physical examination and breast self-examination.

ANNUAL MAMMOGRAPHIC SCREENING BEGINNING AT AGE 40

is recommended by the American College of OB/GYN, the National Comprehensive Cancer Network, the American College of Radiology, and the Society of Breast Imaging. You should also have an annual breast physical examination by your health care provider.

Your imaging examination results have been sent to your physician.

Your images will become part of your medical file here at Breast Imaging Center for at least 10 years. It is important for you to inform any new health care provider or mammography facility of the date and location of this examination.

It was a delight to see you again. I am always happy to give good news :-) As we discussed, your mammogram demonstrates no evidence of cancer in either breast. As you surmised, I think some of the stabbing pain in the breasts, right greater than left, may be a reflection your other chronic pain issues and/or neuropathy. In the absence of new or worsening symptoms, I recommend you resume your annual screening mammogram next year. If you have any questions about your breast health prior to your return, feel free to contact me. Otherwise, I look forward to serving you and your sparkly self next time-even if it is just electronically for your screening mammograms sans the twinkly lights :-) In the meantime, I hope you and your family have a joyous and healthy rest of 2018! Love and blessings.

Thank you for allowing us to help in meeting your health care needs.

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This Day In History

1913 US Federal income tax signed into law (at 1%) by President Woodrow Wilson

1922 1st facsimile photo sent over city telephone lines, Washington, D.C.

1945 Elvis Presley‘s 1st public appearance at the age of 10

1849 American author Edgar Allan Poe is found delirious in a gutter in Baltimore, Maryland under mysterious circumstances; it is the last time he is seen in public before his death.

1789 Washington proclaims 1st national Thanksgiving Day on Nov 26

 

 

 

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Where’s WALDO? WP playing tricks with reblog button again?

I get tired of writing this post, you probably get tired of hearing me talk about reblogging. Reblogging is critical when you have a collaborative site, if people can’t reblog the site doesn’t get fresh content. I went back to several post I reblogged earlier in week and today the reblog button doesn’t appear.

I can’t be the only one, unless I’m in Twilight Zone! Are you having the same problem? Will someone try to reblog a post from http://www.survivorsbloghere@wordpress.com?

Thank you!!!!!!!

M

Men & Womens Health · Moving Forward

Lyme Progress #5 Trends

ILADS has taken the bold step from staying under the radar to leading the way to better LYME treatment. Today many “expert” Lyme doctors are training Medical doctors to recognize Lyme, basic treatment with written treatment guidelines. You can download the Treatment Guidelines yourself, I look forward to reading. 

In theory it sounds good for Lyme suffers looking for a diagnosis. My question is how can a Medical doctor take one short course and spend a week shadowing an “expert” prepare them to treat a complex diseases which manifest itself differently in each individual. I agree some knowledge is better than no knowledge.

Below are the opportunities for physicians to participate in ILADS coursework.  M

About ILADEF

The International Lyme and Associated Diseases Education Foundation is a sister organization of ILADS. Its missions are to train physicians in the diagnosis and treatment of Lyme and tick-borne disease, and to support research scientists investigating tick-borne diseases.

Additional Learning Opportunities for Medical Providers

 

Physician Training Program

ILADEF and ILADS are committed to supporting medical professionals as they take on the challenges in evaluating and treating patients with tick-borne diseases. Lyme disease and other tick-borne infections are complex illnesses which can be difficult to diagnose and challenging to treat effectively. This is especially true for patients with chronic Lyme disease or multiple infections.

ILADEF’s training program provides a foundation in the evidence-based treatment of Lyme and associated diseases, and directly addresses commonly encountered diagnostic and therapeutic challenges. This intensive, one-to-two week program places trainee-physicians in the clinical offices of experts, where they learn how to evaluate and treat patients for Lyme and other tick-borne diseases in a real world setting that allows physicians to appreciate diverse and often subtle presentations of tick-borne disease. Participants will return to practice with enhanced clinical skills and an integrated, nuanced approach to directing treatment. The program is appropriate for, and tailored to meet, the educational needs of its participants, no matter their general experience level or familiarity with tick-borne disease.

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The Education Dept. proposals on guns in schools sparks outcry

By MARIA DANILOVA

Aug. 24, 2018

WASHINGTON (AP) — The Education Department says it is weighing whether to allow states to use federal funds to purchase guns for schools, prompting a storm of criticism from Democratic lawmakers and educators.

If approved, the plan would likely generate a lot of controversy at a time when a string of especially deadly school shootings earlier this year led to the rise of a powerful student-led gun control movement.

A senior Trump administration official told The Associated Press on Thursday that the agency is reviewing legislation governing federal academic enrichment grants to see if the money can be used to buy firearms.

The official, who spoke on condition of anonymity because the person was not authorized to discuss the issue publicly, said the bipartisan Every Student Success Act, passed in 2015, does not expressly prohibit or allow the use of Student Support and Academic Enrichment Grants for the purchase of firearms. The official said the agency received several letters asking it to clarify what those funds could be used for and began researching the issue.

Education Secretary Betsy DeVos, who chairs a federal commission on school safety, has previously said that schools should have the option to arm teachers. The commission, formed in the aftermath of the school shooting in Parkland, Florida, that killed 17 people, has been criticized for omitting the topic of gun control.

The plan, first reported by The New York Times, prompted swift condemnation from Democratic lawmakers and many educators on Thursday, who accused the Trump administration of wanting to deprive students of much-needed mental health support and other resources in the interests of the National Rifle Association.

House Minority Leader Nancy Pelosi, D-Calif., called the idea “one of the most egregious, short-sighted and dangerous executive branch abuses of our education system in modern history.”

“Secretary DeVos continues to lead an anti-student and anti-teacher campaign on behalf of special interests and the NRA that rejects proven and effective initiatives to ensure a safe, welcoming school climate for children,” she said.

Democratic Sen. Chris Murphy of Connecticut, which was the site of the Sandy Hook school shooting, swiftly introduced an amendment that would block the Education Department from using the funds to arm schools.

“The Secretary of Education cares more about the firearms industry’s bottom line than the safety of our kids, and that should scare parents to death,” he said.

Randi Weingarten, president of the American Federation of Teachers, accused DeVos of trying “to do the bidding of the National Rifle Association and gun manufacturers.”

“Instead of after-school programs or counselors, programs that are critical for creating safe and welcoming schools and addressing the mental health needs of kids, DeVos wants to turn schools into armed fortresses and make kids and educators less safe,” Weingarten said in a statement.

“She wants to turn the U.S. government into an arms dealer for schools. That’s insane,” she added.

Martin West, professor of education at Harvard University, expressed skepticism.

“It seems very hard to imagine that members of Congress drafting Title IV envisioned that the funds would be used to arm teachers,” West said.

One of the requests for clarification came from Texas, where many school districts allow staff to carry weapons on campus. The Texas Education Agency said in a statement Thursday that it asked Washington for guidance in April after schools started asking whether they can use the grant money to cover the cost of guns. The problem took on even greater urgency in Texas after 10 people were killed in a school shooting outside Houston in May.

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Daddy-Twenty Six Years Have Passed

Twenty six years have passed.

When you looked in the mirror what did you see?

A happy man with a fulfilling life?

A man who could not see the illness?

A man who refused to fight the illness?

Your demons staring at you?

Looking in the mirror with no reflection at all?

I looked at the mirror stained with your blood.

M

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The life-and-death talk we all need to have

Knowing my grandparents wanted to die at home was the easiest part of caring for them. The conversation was a common in my gramps family partly because of time the period, the late 1800’s early 1900’s and money.

I now understand the difficulty of making decisions as a caregiver, it’s the decisions on the fly you can’t prepare for. Heartbreaking and so personal but they have to be made, sometimes everyday.

“gramps why give granny her medicine, we know she’s dying, it’s causing her more discomfort swallowing them.”

“gramps you can’t leave the house anymore, granny thinks you left her at someone’s house. She starts hitting her head on wall and wants to die, I can’t manage her anymore.”

“gramps don’t you think it’s time to make calls to give people a chance to see you.”

Caring for my grandparents taught me what I was made of and how strong unconditional love is.

Melinda

Ideas at TED.com

 Aug 23, 2018

It’s only human to avoid discussing death. But when we do, we run the risk of not knowing how our loved ones want to live — and die. Advocate and journalist Ellen Goodman tells us how to kick off this critical conversation.

Death and taxes are two of life’s certainties. But while we’ve most likely talked to our relatives and dearest friends about money, few of us bring up death — even with the people we’re closest to. That must change, says Pulitzer Prize-winning journalist Ellen Goodman (TEDxBoston talk: The conversation project); as she puts it, we need to bring dying into the open.

Her belief stems from her own missed opportunities. She and her mom had the kind of relationship where they talked about everything — or so she thought. But when her mother became seriously ill and unable to make decisions, Goodman recalls, “I got a phone call from her doctor at the long-term care facility. He said, ‘Your mom has another bout of pneumonia. Do you want her to have antibiotics?’ And I froze.” At that moment, she realized how little she knew about what her mother wanted.

In 2010, Goodman founded The Conversation Project, a nonprofit based in Cambridge, Massachusetts, that helps people talk about their end-of-life plans. Here, she shares how to kick off this critical conversation with someone you love.

Step #1: Identify why you’re worried about having the talk.

Hesitation is natural. There are many reasons not to talk about death, especially the death of a parent. Maybe you’re scared that your mom or dad isn’t emotionally ready to have the conversation. But according to a survey from The Conversation Project, 92 percent of Americans polled said they were eager to talk about their end-life-care.

Perhaps you think talking about death is unnecessary now — your parent is in great health. But, as we all know, death is unpredictable. Goodman says, “It’s best to have these conversations before there’s a crisis, because a crisis is a terrible time to learn.”

Or, you may worry your parent will change their mind about what they want between your talk and when they finally need end-of-life care. But as Goodman points out, “None of this is written in stone.” The point is just to get started.

Step #2: Say “I need your help.”

OK, you’ve accepted that it’s time to talk — but you don’t know how to even begin. Again, this is normal. Goodman suggests a brilliant way to open the conversation. “With children talking to their parents, we find it’s often good for them to say ‘Mom, Dad, I need your help. There may come a time when I need to make decisions for you.’” Why this approach? Goodman explains, “When you phrase it in those terms, it’s a rare parent who will say, ‘No, I’m not going to help you.’”

Another way you can begin: Share a family story. In her time zigzagging across the country for the Conversation Project, Goodman has found everybody has a story — whether it’s about a good or difficult death.

“You can start with ‘Remember when Grandma or Uncle Jeff died. What did you think about it? How would you like yours to be different?”’ says Goodman. “Touching on a familiar experience opens the door to how people experienced it and how people feel about it.”

Pro tip: Blunt is bad.

While there are many good ways to start, please avoid the tell-it-like-it-is approach. Goodman says a sledgehammer statement like “Dad, you know you’re gonna die someday” is a terrible opener. “It just makes everybody tense.”

Step #3: Invite them to finish this sentence.

To guide the conversation, ask your loved one to complete this sentence for you: “What matters to me at the end of life is …”

Possible answers could include:

“Being in the best hospital with the best care available.”

“Being in the comfort of my own home.”

“Having a chance to say goodbye to loved ones.”

“Being assured that all medical efforts have been used to keep me alive.”

“Being assured that no heroic efforts will be used to artificially keep me alive.”

“Knowing that Person X will take care of all my financial affairs.”

“Knowing that Person X will make my medical decisions.”

This sentence can give you an understanding of your loved one’s priorities and concerns, and also point you towards which issues will need to be explored.

Step #4: Know that everything won’t get wrapped up in a single discussion.

Let your initial talk last as long as it does naturally — without your extending it or steering it. According to Goodman, “this usually takes several conversations” to hammer out. Many people may want more time to think about these questions; they might also come up with their own. So how should you conclude this first talk? “A hug would be nice,” says Goodman.

Rather than seeing these conversations as a painful ordeal or a dreaded obligation, try to see them as a chance for you to speak honestly with your loved ones and bring everyone’s worries out into the open. “People are so anxious about having the conversation,” reports Goodman. “But once they do, the huge majority will say, ‘It’s the best conversation we ever had. It was real, it was emotional, it was talking about things that matter.’”

These talks are a gift we can give each other, says Goodman. By having them, she says, “it’s not that everything will go perfectly at the end of your loved one’s life, but you will know you did the best you could.”

For more advice, check out the Conversation Starter Kit on The Conversation Project website.

Watch Ellen Goodman’s TEDxBoston talk here:

Men & Womens Health · Moving Forward

7 Ways to Cope with Anxiety about Your Teen

 

 

How parents of teenagers can manage their fears.

All parents worry about their children’s well-being at any age, but the issues to worry about mount when children hit the teen years. I am often asked by parents of one child about how to deal with the anxiety they feel. With one child the focus can be more intense, however a parent’s anxiety, upset, or despair when something goes amiss is the same no matter how many children there are in the family.

Parental anxiety is readily absorbed by children and not helpful as teenagers navigate their more complex world—facing more temptations and risks then they did as young children.

I asked my colleague, Dr. Alice Boyes, author of The Anxiety Toolkit, to recommend ways that all parents can tamp down the anxiety they feel as their kids enter the teen years.

7 Ways to Cope with Anxiety about Your Teen

1. Whether you have one adolescent or several, first, be compassionate with yourself about your feelings. There’s no need to beat yourself up about the fact you’re worried.  You want to keep your child safe and that concern is bubbling over as anxiety.  That’s very understandable and relatable.

2. Confront your specific fears. For instance, do you fear your child will die in a car crash? Is your fear that your child will do something stupid and get arrested? Once you identify your specific fears, gather some “base rate” data on how likely those things are.

Don’t spend hours researching; a 5-minute Google search will usually give you helpful information. For example, a World Health Organization report indicates that the death rate for adolescents aged 10-19 in high-income countries is about 10 per 100,000 in any given day, so around 0.001%. The report also breaks down the major causes of adolescent death and serious injury in those same countries.

The facts make it clear that your son or daughter is unlikely meet harm in this way. While confronting your specific fears might make you more anxious in the short-term, it should decrease your anxiety overall.

3. Once you’ve looked at what the most realistic worries are, identify what you can do to lessen those risks. For example, for male adolescents in the 15-19 age group, road injury is a realistic concern. Perhaps you could schedule a driving lesson every 3 months for your child even after they get their driver’s license so that the instructor can catch any bad habits your teen might be slipping into. The paradox of excessive worry is that it’s paralyzing, and can make people less likely to take the practical steps that would lessen the risk of whatever they’re anxious about.

4. Take practical steps, but don’t go overboard. You might decide to plan or implement one risk reduction strategy every month. Try to start with the things that worry you the most, even if they’re things you’re tempted to avoid such as talking to your adolescent about sexual consent or alcohol and other drug use.

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5. Keep in mind that while a catastrophe is unlikely, it’s more likely that you and your adolescent might need to deal with a mildly to moderately negative situation, whether it’s bullying, failing to make a sports team, or test anxiety. The best approach to concerns like these is to briefly imagine how, in practical terms, you’d cope if one of them occurred, and that could include getting support for yourself or for your teen.

Reassure yourself that you have the capacity to cope with these sorts of circumstances.  Although they would be emotionally difficult to deal with and you might not feel 100% confident or get it 100% right, you’ll be prepared to successfully navigate challenges.

6. You can probably easily think of the risks of being under-protective. In addition, think about the potential costs of being over-protective. By being overprotective you impede your teen’s desire for independence or you can raise a teen who feels stifled and leans on you for every little thing. Write down some of the things you do because of your concern. How might you pull back or at the least, strike a balance?

Whether or not your child has siblings to share the rocky road of the teen years, a child  needs to explore and make mistakes to learn and grow.

7. Acknowledge anything that’s going on for you related to your child getting older.  Are you concerned about how your identity will shift as you transition to being the parent of a teen rather than a young child? Make sure worries that relate to you aren’t getting unconsciously mixed in with your anxiety about your child’s safety. Acknowledge your own emotions and thoughts without judging them.

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Men & Womens Health · Moving Forward

ILADS Member Engages the WHO to Include Lyme Disease in Revision of Health Code

The Ad Hoc Committee for Health Equity in ICD11 Borreliosis Codes (or Ad Hoc Committee) is an international, all voluntary, professional committee formed to improve the ICD codes for Lyme and Relapsing Fever borreliosis and address the human rights violations generated by inadequate codes.

In 2017, members of the Ad Hoc Committee met with Dainius Pūras, the United Nations (UN) Special Rapporteur on the right to health and Dr. Shekhar Saxena, the senior WHO official responsible for addressing dementia to discuss their findings from the Report, UPDATING ICD11 Borreliosis Diagnostic Codes, Edition One (March 29, 2017) and entered many potentially fatal complications from Lyme borreliosis into the WHO ICD11 Beta Platform. Many persons in the UN system have friends and family devastated by this disease.

The ICD11 codes now recognize: 1C1G.2 Congenital Lyme borreliosis; 6D85.Y Dementia due to Lyme Disease (Dementia due to other specified diseases classified elsewhere); 8A45.0Y Central Nervous System demyelination due to Lyme borreliosis (Other Specified white matter disorders due to infections). There is additional flexibility under the ‘Coding Note’ for Lyme borreliosis to ‘use additional code if desired, to identify any associated condition or sequelae’ and use the ‘extension code ‘Cause of late effect’ (in addition to both codes) to show the relationship between the causative condition and the resulting sequelae’.

ILADS members who contributed to ‘ICD codes report’ are Jenna Luché-Thayer, Leona Gilbert, Richard Horowitz, Kenneth Liegner and Mualla McManus.

The Ad Hoc Committee’s 2018 report, ‘The Situation of Human Rights Defenders of Lyme and Relapsing Fever Borreliosis Patients: Edition One’also emphasized the need to change these ICD codes. ILADS members Jenna Luché-Thayer, Robert Bransfield, Joseph Burrascano, Mualla McManus, Jack Lambert, Kenneth Liegner, Christian Perronne, Ursula Talib  and Armin Schwarzbach contributed to the ‘defenders report’ that was entered into UN record in 2018 by Michel Forst Special Rapporteur for the situation of human rights defenders and reviewed by the Special Rapporteur on the right to health.

 

Celebrate Life · Men & Womens Health

How a new kind of community is creating a better aging experience

Jan 4, 2018 /

By joining the Beacon Hill Village in Boston, older people commit to helping each other while they stay in their own homes. And they have plenty of fun while doing it, says MIT AgeLab director Joseph F. Coughlin.

Joan Doucette was sipping coffee in a small café at MIT, her bicycle resting next to her. The Institute tends to frown on bringing bicycles into buildings, but only a hard soul could have stopped Doucette from wheeling in hers, with its ribbons streaming from the handlebars, white tires and a front basket filled with yellow and pink flowers.

The demeanor of the 75-year-old cyclist was just as sunny. Doucette peered up from a travel itinerary for a trip to Chicago. “There’s going to be 20 of us going,” she said. “We’re going to take a river trip. We’re going to go to the museums … then we’re going to the Russian tearoom. We’ve got a tour of the skyscrapers. And a lot of us are going to the Frank Lloyd Wright house. So, very busy.”

Doucette spoke with an English accent redolent of her native Surrey, where she was born in 1938. As a young woman, she was a nanny and became involved with the US embassy, which assigned her to foreign posts where she cared for diplomats’ families. When the father of one of those families died, she moved with the mother and kids to Massachusetts. “I was their nanny until I married and their mother remarried,” she said.

In 1970, Doucette began a career at MIT, moving among the Institute’s libraries, alumni relations department, Center for Transportation Studies (now the Center for Transportation and Logistics, home of the AgeLab), industrial relations, corporate development and more. She retired at 62, after having worked at MIT for 25 years. “What am I going to do with my days?” she wondered. The answer that presented itself seemed opportune at the time. She had no idea how revolutionary it would become.

Doucette and her husband moved to an apartment on Beacon Hill, one of the oldest areas in Boston. She didn’t know anyone there and worried about her social life. Then she received an invitation to join the Beacon Hill Village. But it’s not a village per se. It’s a loose confederation of older people who live on Beacon Hill, who, instead of moving to a community or facility devoted to old age, want to stay in their own homes, interact with their friends, eat at their favorite restaurants, and attend their favorite cultural events.

Many of the Village’s founders had seen elder care gone wrong and were resolved to find a better way. “Each of us had witnessed firsthand the distress our relatives experienced as they aged: a mother in a retirement community in Florida who felt lonely and abandoned; a parent in a nursing home, marginalized and overdrugged; an uncle with very limited means and no immediate family to help out,” founding member Susan McWhinney Morse has written.

n 1999, when the Beacon Hill neighbors began to consider creating something different, the story pervasive in the culture was clear. When you grew old, there was only one thing to do: move, whether it was to an independent or assisted living facility, country-club retirement community or nursing home. The neighbors were determined to tell a new story.

The Village’s members agreed to help each other with the small things that come up and to help each other find assistance for the big things. Today, in exchange for annual dues of $675, the Village offers help with tasks like grocery shopping, pet care, light housework and small repairs. For issues that pose a greater challenge — including health, caregiving and financial needs — the organization curates lists of trusted service providers, who sometimes even give member discounts.

The Village also provides access to vetted drivers trained in transporting elderly people who need special care. “They’ll take you shopping for your groceries. If you’re having an operation, they’ll come and pick you up and take you home,” said Doucette. “When I had the new knee put in last September, somebody came and picked me up.”

Perhaps the most essential aspect of life in Beacon Hill Village is what might sound like the least important: the fun. Doucette and her husband joined when the Village first opened to the public in 2002 and began building out its membership base as well as relationships with vendors, providers and contractors. Doucette helped build its social schedule, which, these days, is full.

“On Mondays we have a movie group that come in my house, and we have tea, and I stream a movie. And there’s about ten of us do that. And on Tuesdays, twice a month, there’s another group that meets down at 75 Chestnut” — a snug Beacon Hill restaurant — “and we talk about anything we want to, mostly about theater and movies,” she says. “And that’s called Terrible Tuesdays. And then every Wednesday a group meets on Charles Street in one of the restaurants there. And we talk world affairs mostly . . . And then on Thursdays I got my husband to go and do First Drink, because that’s for the men.” Doucette’s groups are so popular, she says, that she’s started to set up satellite gatherings in other parts of the city.

My immediate response was skeptical when I heard something special was going on across the river from my MIT office. Older people helping each other sounded great in theory, but I wondered how long such an altruistic collective could last. What I found: The Beacon Hill philosophy has not only endured; it’s spread. In the US, the Village to Village Network facilitates the development of Beacon Hill-esque communities. According to the Network, there are at least 190 villages built on the “Beacon Hill model” in all but four states, with 150 in development.

One 2014 study found that a quarter of Villages along the Beacon Hill model are actively working to improve their communities’ attitudes toward older adults. Every day, by going out and creating a positive impression on the people around them, the members of Beacon Hill and other Villages dispel the old myth that elders are unfit to co-mingle with society.

As new Villages have sprung up, several themes have emerged. One is the development of a pay-it-forward ethos. Paid staffs tend to be small, averaging between one and two-and-half full-time employees, so the majority of what Villages provide their members comes from volunteers, most of them members. They’re typically younger and healthier — people in their 50s, 60s and 70s — who provide occasional care to older members in their 80s and 90s. This care isn’t medical or care with the activities of daily living, which usually requires help from professionals or family members. Rather, Villagers assist each other with the issues that come up over the course of a full life.

At the San Francisco Village, member Bill Haskell said he had joined hoping to “pay it forward” to the local older community. “Within 30 days, my partner found out he had to have open-heart surgery. So we needed not to volunteer, we needed help. I needed a lot of help because I’m his primary caregiver,” he said. “Bob had a difficult surgery with a lot of complications. He was in the hospital for two weeks” — far longer than the expected three days. “Then there’s the home period.”

The Village provided Bill with vetted referrals for home care. For times when he needed to run out to the store or the gym, it sent a volunteer to sit with Bob. “People who are members brought over meals when I couldn’t cook any longer,” Bill said. “People we didn’t know brought over dinner for us.”

As appealing as this pay-it-forward mentality may sound, there are drawbacks. For one thing, it’s hard to market. Beacon Hill started as an organization devoted to mutual care and later took on its social-club vibe. The intrinsic focus on care can scare off potential members who don’t think of themselves as patients.

Beacon Hill also doesn’t offer an entirely coherent solution to the problem of identity in retirement. But in many ways, this is a feature, not a failure. Beacon Hill embraces complexity. Members are free to not just pursue a leisure-oriented idea of retirement but other aspirations, including caregiving, interacting with other generations, patronizing cultural institutions, volunteering and working.

If Beacon Hill’s embrace of complexity over clarity makes sense for its members, it also poses a liability in terms of defining a new way of life in old age. It’s hard for its subtle, complicated message to compete with the volume, vividness and simplicity of that broadcast by traditional senior communities. However, Beacon Hill could fight back by doubling down on its own model and offering more services and activities. Increasing its number of social events might allow those in the midst of a transition away from a primary career to wrap themselves in new interests. And a wider variety of workshops, classes, clubs and volunteer jobs would increase its visibility — turning Beacon Hill into, well, a beacon on a hill.

The barrier to achieving this kind of scale is considerable. Joanne Cooper, part of the membership committee at Beacon Hill, said bringing in new members is a challenge. “Two new members come in, four leave, one way or another,” whether they’re “moving to a more structured setting or, unfortunately, passing away.”

The relatively new San Francisco Village has 300 members. Nationwide, said San Francisco leader Kate Hoepke, Village memberships can be measured in the low tens of thousands. “You know, it should be ten times that many.” She wonders if the issue is a lack of funding or visionary leadership. The Village to Village Network’s pattern of growth — fast to spread across America and the globe, yet slow to flourish in sheer membership — might come down to the fact that “so much has happened in such a short period of time. That infrastructure isn’t there yet.”

If you, like me, want to live in a world where older adults and their kids aren’t antagonists but invest in each other, work for each other and help each other, then the Village movement is a good guide to follow. The Beacon Hill model is finding fertile ground in countries such as the UK and Germany. Other experiments in age integration are springing up as well. One program in Germany and Switzerland, Wohnen für Hilfe or Housing for Help, subsidizes the rent of carefully screened students who want to live in older people’s homes and help out with minor chores. The UK has a similar program called Homeshare. A law in Germany provides the 82 percent of elders who say they do not want to live in a nursing home with a grant of up to €10,000 to establish shared, community apartments, with a monthly subsidy of up to €200 per tenant.

The Beacon Hill Village and others like it aren’t perfect. They’re small, and they don’t leverage mobile technology as well as they could to improve connectedness. They’re limited mainly to urban areas, and they tend to skew middle-class-and-up, leaving people out. Still, as new generations of longevity-economy products make it easier to do more in old age than merely recreate and relax, it’s easy to envision something resembling the Beacon Hill Village emerging from our current state of frontier chaos.

Excerpted from the new book The Longevity Economy: Inside the World’s Fastest-Growing, Most Misunderstood Market by Joseph F. Coughlin. Published by PublicAffairs, an imprint of Hachette Book Group. Copyright © 2017 Joseph F. Couglin.

 

Men & Womens Health · Moving Forward

DEA Drug Abuse/Prevention Handbook

The DEA publishes short handbooks in PDF format you can download. If you are not interested in this publication look thru the archives for a topic of interest.

http://www.dea.gov/documents/2017/06/15/drugs-abuse

M

Men & Womens Health · Moving Forward

Psychiatric Hospital Stay 2001 *Final*

Journal 12/23/2001

Just to go home and spend time with my pets will make a big difference in mood. I look forward to seeing Christmas Cards and learning how friends are doing. The stack of mail will cover the dining table. Plenty of new magazines to read going into new year. 

After ECT on Friday I’m determined to go home, he can’t intimidate me. This feels like jail at times but I’m free to walk when ready. I did say future ECT would be out-patient, that was a bold face lie. I’m never stepping foot in here again. 

This is the slowest week, counting the minutes to jail break. Only one book left to read, I’ll have to sleep half a day tomorrow. What is shipping from eBay? I went on big shopping spree before check in, it made me feel better. That’s not true, still trying to fill the big void. 

Time to set goals! Paint office, clean carpet, organize office closet, clean garage………..let’s see how long I stay on task. 

12/24/2001

I had ECT early in morning, slept till noon it’s now 2:00 and time to pack. Told front desk the doctor needed to know I’m leaving. Another two hours of BS but I’m home bound. It is not advisable to drive day of ECT treatment but that will not stop me today. I miss my bed and privacy. 


I’m unsure of the value in the post, do the journal entries help anyone? I waited until 2018 to write, it wasn’t a deep seeded trauma. I felt no pain writing this.

I pray people will research the reputation of hospital first. Can they provide the specific help you need? If you don’t know what to expect you may sell your recovery short.

M

 

 

Men & Womens Health · Moving Forward

Sexual Assault of Men and Boys

Why doesn’t Sexual Assault of men and boys receive equal, mainstream media coverage as Women? We have to help change to allow healing. Sexual Assault does not discriminate! Joyful Heart Foundation partnered with 1 in 6 to create awareness and initiatives creating a safe environment to discuss trauma with peers. Please check out both organizations for support or how you can help volunteer today.  M


 RAINN NEWS

Sexual assault can happen to anyone, no matter your age, sexual orientation, or gender identity. Men and boys who have been sexually assaulted or abused may have many of the same feelings and reactions as other survivors of sexual assault, but they may also face some additional challenges because of social attitudes and stereotypes about men and masculinity.

Common reactions 

Men and boys who have been sexually assaulted may experience the same effects of sexual assault as other survivors, and they may face other challenges that are more unique to their experience.

Some men who have survived sexual assault as adults feel shame or self-doubt, believing that they should have been “strong enough” to fight off the perpetrator. Many men who experienced an erection or ejaculation during the assault may be confused and wonder what this means. These normal physiological responses do not in any way imply that you wanted, invited, or enjoyed the assault. If something happened to you, know that it is not your fault and you are not alone.

Men who were sexually abused as boys or teens may also respond differently than men who were sexually assaulted as adults. The following list includes some of the common experiences shared by men and boys who have survived sexual assault. It is not a complete list, but it may help you to know that other people are having similar experiences:

  • Anxiety, depression, post-traumatic stress disorder, flashbacks, and eating disorders
  • Avoiding people or places that remind you of the assault or abuse
  • Concerns or questions about sexual orientation
  • Fear of the worst happening and having a sense of a shortened future
  • Feeling like “less of a man” or that you no longer have control over your own body
  • Feeling on-edge, being unable to relax, and having difficulty sleeping
  • Sense of blame or shame over not being able to stop the assault or abuse, especially if you experienced an erection or ejaculation
  • Withdrawal from relationships or friendships and an increased sense of isolation
  • Worrying about disclosing for fear of judgement or disbelief

Who are the perpetrators of sexual assault against men and boys?

Perpetrators can be any gender identity, sexual orientation, or age, and they can have any relationship to the victim. Like all perpetrators, they might use physical force or psychological and emotional coercion tactics.

Can being assaulted affect sexual orientation? 

Sexual assault is in no way related to the sexual orientation of the perpetrator or the survivor, and a person’s sexual orientation cannot be caused by sexual abuse or assault. Some men and boys have questions about their sexuality after surviving an assault or abuse—and that’s understandable. This can be especially true if you experienced an erection or ejaculation during the assault. Physiological responses like an erection are involuntary, meaning you have no control over them.

Sometimes perpetrators, especially adults who sexually abuse boys, will use these physiological responses to maintain secrecy by using phrases such as, “You know you liked it.” If you have been sexually abused or assaulted, it is not your fault. In no way does an erection invite unwanted sexual activity, and ejaculation in no way condones an assault.

How to support male survivors 

It can be hard to tell someone that you have experienced sexual assault or abuse. You may fear that you will face judgement or not be believed. For many male survivors, stereotypes about masculinity can also make it hard to disclose to friends, family, or the community. Men and boys also may face challenges believing that it is possible for them to be victims of sexual violence, especially if it is perpetrated by a woman. Below are a few suggestions on how you can support a man or boy who discloses to you that he has experienced sexual assault or abuse.

  • Listen. Many people in crisis feel as though no one understands them and that they are not taken seriously. Show them they matter by giving your undivided attention. It is hard for many survivors to disclose assault or abuse, especially if they fear not being believed because of stereotypes about masculinity.
  • Validate their feelings. Avoid making overly positive statements like “It will get better” or trying to manage their emotions, like “Snap out of it” or “You shouldn’t feel so bad.” Make statements like “I believe you” or “That sounds like a really hard thing to go through.”
  • Express concern. Tell them in a direct way that you care about them by saying something like “I care about you” or “I am here for you.”
  • Do not ask about details of the assault. Even if you are curious about what happened and feel that you want to fully understand it, avoid asking for details of how the assault occurred. However, if a survivor chooses to share those details with you, try your best to listen in a supportive and non-judgemental way.
  • Provide appropriate resources. There may be other aspects in men’s lives that could limit their ability to access resources and services after experiencing sexual assault or abuse. For example, trans men may face barriers when navigating medical care or black men may have concerns about reaching out to law enforcement. Be sensitive to these worries, and when supporting a survivor try your best to suggest resources you feel will be most helpful.

What if I experienced sexual assault as an adult? 

Some men who have survived sexual assault as adults feel shame or self-doubt, believing that they should have been “strong enough” to fight off the perpetrator. Many men who experienced an erection or ejaculation during the assault may be confused and wonder what this means. These normal physiological responses do not in any way imply that you wanted, invited, or enjoyed the assault. If you were sexually assaulted, it was not your fault. You can find help at 1in6, an organization RAINN partners with that is dedicated to helping men who have survived unwanted or abusive sexual experiences.

What if the abuse happened when I was a minor? 

If you were sexually abused when you were a child or a teenager, you may have different feelings and reactions at different times in your life. The 1in6 website has answers to many of the questions or concerns you might have as an adult survivor of child or teen sexual abuse.

How could this affect my relationships? 

Coming forward about surviving sexual assault or sexual abuse can be difficult. It requires a lot of trust and understanding both for you and the person you choose to tell. You can find answers to some of the questions you might have about telling a partner at 1in6.

Finding support 

If something happened to you, know that you are not alone.

  • Visit the helpline. 1in6 has partnered with RAINN to offer the 24/7 helpline for men, their loved ones, and service providers who are seeking immediate information and resources related to sexual assault or abuse.
  • Visit online.rainn.org. Chat anonymously and confidentially with a RAINN support specialist who is trained to help.
  • Call the National Sexual Assault Hotline. Call 800.656.HOPE (4763) to be connected to a trained staff member from a local sexual assault service provider in your area.
  • Consider therapy or other mental health support. Some therapists specialize in issues you may be facing as a result of the abuse or assault. You may want to speak on the phone or meet with a few therapists before deciding which one is the best fit for you. You can ask your insurance company which providers are covered by your insurance plan. You can also visit use the Mental Health Treatment Locator function from the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA). Find the center that is closest to you and best fits your needs.
  • Read more at Jimhopper.com: The articles on this website provide information about the effects of child sexual abuse on adult men and their loved ones.
  • Read more at Malesurvivor.org: This resource contains general information as well as a therapist search specifically designed for male survivors of sexual violence.

More resources 

Being able to share your story with other male survivors may be important in feeling less alone and connecting with others in your healing process. Read survivor stories of men who have experienced sexual assault or abuse as children, teens, and adults.

  • Adam’s story: “Do not internalize the abuse, because that will make it seem that the abuse is happening all over again.”
  • Brad’s story: “I think for me and possibly other men, it’s a huge pride thing—feeling like you have to be the man and face your problems and get over it.”
  • Brian’s story: “Showing emotion about being abused? It’s not well-accepted. As a Black man, you’ve been broken down so much that you have to put on a face of being strong. We have a lot of pain that is unattended to.”
  • Danyol’s story: “Talking about it really does take back power from the trauma.”
  • Keith’s story: “I was afraid of what people would think. I was ashamed that a man sexually assaulted me…that I didn’t fight hard enough.”
  • Scott’s story: “Reading stories from other men and hearing what they’ve become and accomplished after the abuse has uplifted me.”
Men & Womens Health

Short Informative Videos on Lyme Disease

If your doctor does not listen to your physical complaints change doctors ASAP. This holds true for anyone. Lyme is real, Chronic Lyme does exist and there is no cure. Some will argue using supplements will cure Lyme. Do your homework if this sounds like the healthy treatment. Many Lyme patients take supplements, conventional and non-conventional medicine. I took more supplements than RX’s along with my IV Antibiotic Therapy.

Keep pushing forward, many Lyme symptoms mimic other diseases. Open your mind to the type of doctors you consult with. I spent several years like many going from doctor to doctor. Finally I was referred to a Neurologist, she spent a year performing every test possible. All the test were abnormal yet not abnormal enough for her to make a diagnosis. When there were no more test, we parted ways.

I researched by taking key words from each test and putting together. The search was short and narrowed down to an autoimmune disease. I thought back to when I first started having symptoms and Lyme made the most sense. I got lucky, but don’t stop researching. NEVER LET A DOCTOR TELL YOU IT’S ALL IN YOUR HEAD! You are stronger than you think.  M

Men & Womens Health · Moving Forward · Survivor

We Don’t Talk Much About Debt and Depression. This Blogger Is Changing That

Melanie Lockert remembers checking the traffic for her blog, Dear Debt, and feeling shocked at the results.

Someone had found her site by searching, “I want to kill myself because of debt.”

Lockert started Dear Debt in January 2013 after spending the previous year feeling depressed about her student loans. She posted monthly updates about her efforts to pay off $81,000 while working temporary hourly gigs before she landed a role running communications and planning events for a nonprofit. Along the way, she was open about her mental health struggles and how they were tied to her debt.

She had created her blog as a way to stay positive while she paid off the debt. But looking at the search terms that brought readers to her site made her recognize that her accountability stretched far beyond herself.

“It gave me an instant sense of purpose,” Lockert said.

She had attended counseling the previous year, after negotiating with a graduate student clinic to pay $5 per session while she was underemployed. She knew how much her debt affected her outlook.

She read up on the link between debt and depression. She saw she was far from alone.

“I found out that people who die by suicide are eight times more likely to have debt,” Lockert said. “From the emails I get, I know that debt is really affecting families and their mental health and their ability to find joy.”

People with debt are three times more likely to suffer from depression, according to a 2013 study published in the Clinical Psychology Review.

Lockert wrote a short post for people with debt who were feeling hopeless.

“You are not alone,” she declared. “You are not a loan.”

Still thinking about those search terms, she wrote another post.

“I want to jump through my computer and give you a hug,” she wrote. “Shake you and say your life is worth so much more.”

Then, she started getting emails from people who were desperate and afraid.

What Happened When She Wrote a Letter to Her Debt

A few months into blogging, Lockert wrote her first breakup letter to her debt.

“Dear Debt,” the letter reads. “You do not define me. My worth is more important than the value of your number. Love, M.”

After writing her own breakup letter with debt, Lockert then published an estimated 100 breakup letters with debt from her readers. Photo courtesy of Melanie Lockert
Men & Womens Health

Could More Mental Health Counseling Improve School Safety?

Could More Mental Health Counseling Improve School Safety?

 

The school shooting in Florida earlier this year caused a new round of discussions about gun safety, although Republicans in the General Assembly say they would rather talk about other ways to make schools safer.

One of those ways is to look at mental health in the classroom.

Virginia schools need more mental health counselors. That is one of the conclusions of a select committee assembled in the wake of the school shooting in Parkland, Florida.

“School safety is more than just the shootings like at Parkland,” says Delegate Mike Mullin, a Democrat from Newport News and a member of the committee. “It’s the day-to-day bullying that affects and destroys young lives and emotions. A lot of that could be caught much more early on, and our schools could only get safer because of it.”

One way to accomplish this goal is to lift a cap on support staff in Virginia schools, a recession-era restriction that was created at a time when people were concerned that teachers were being crowded out by the growing ranks of support staff.

Republican House Speaker Kirk Cox says mental health counselors should also be able to focus on counseling instead of administrative duties. “So maybe one of the areas where we need to do more with school counselors is to free them up to do what that job is. Some of them do a lot of school testing, and they do other things,” Cox says.

The superintendent of New Kent County Public Schools, for example, says his mental health counselors spend almost half of their time on logistical duties, like facilitating standardized tests.

This report, provided by Virginia Public Radio, was made possible with support from the Virginia Education Association.

Men & Womens Health · Moving Forward

Research Suggests Link Between Binge Eating And Suicide

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New research suggests that people with binge eating may be at increased risk.

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Could people struggling with binge eating be at an increased risk for suicide? That’s what a new study suggests. While it has long been recognized that people with anorexia nervosa and bulimia nervosa are at increased risk for suicidal behaviors, little has been known about the risk for people struggling with binge eating and binge eating disorder (BED)—until now.

A recent study by Brown et al (2018) published in BMC Psychiatry suggests that people struggling with binge eating are at an increased risk of suicide, with those at higher weights having the highest risk. The study examined data from 14,497 participants in a large, diverse, nationally representative US database (the Collaborative Psychiatric Epidemiologic Surveys) and found that among participants with a history of binge eating (approximately 4% of the sample), 1/3 (34.2%) reported ever thinking about suicide, 1/5 (18.6%) had a history of attempted suicide, and 10.1% experienced suicidality in the past year.

Results were similar for those with a history of binge eating and those who met full criteria for BED, indicating that the risks of subclinical binge eating may be similar to the full-spectrum disorder.

Binge eating and BED were significantly associated with lifetime suicidality, and BMI did not explain this relationship. The relationship between binge eating and suicidality was stronger for women than for men. Results did indicate a significant interaction between BMI and binge eating on the likelihood of suicidality; meaning that those with binge eating who were at a higher BMI were at higher risk for suicidality.

Unfortunately, this study did not examine the role of weight stigma so we do not know what impact this has in the relationship between binge eating, BMI, and suicidality. Prior research suggests that weight stigma increases the risk of eating disorders and disordered eating, including binge eating and BED, and I imagine it also plays a role in the increased risk of suicidality for people struggling with binge eating who live in larger bodies. What do you think?

Alexis Conason is a clinical psychologist specializing in the treatment of overeating disorders, body image dissatisfaction, psychological issues related to bariatric surgery, and sexual issues. She is the founder of The Anti-Diet Plan (sign up for her free 30 day course). Follow her on Twitter,Instagram, and Facebook.

Brown KL, LaRose JG, and Mezuk B. (2018) The Relationship between Body Mass Index, Binge Eating Disorder, and Suicidality. BMC Psychiatry, 18: 196

Men & Womens Health · Moving Forward

Story of my Life: Guest Margie Lakefield

Guest Margie Lakefield shares the trauma of Postpartum Psychosis in a multi series post.

I read Margie’s post in tears, feeling empathy, above all I knew she was a strong woman. A woman who made tough decisions for the better of her children’s future.  Her story touched me deeply, I had to meet her. We worked together on the series. Unfortunately Margie had a family emergency and can’t be with us.

She is dedicated to sharing her story at the cost of lingering pain. Margie takes us thru the arrival at hospital until the moment she reached out for help.

The Series will post starting next Monday and consecutive Mondays. Margie’s participation in the app is dear to her heart. She encourages everyone to download the app, get familiar with the resources available and the DNA initiative.

 Hope for the Helpless suffering from Post Postpartum Depression.

The pactforthecure app is a new initiative. Available at App Store. Giving Hope for the Helpless Suffering PPD •

March 28, 2016 •

Thank you to the University of North Carolina, Chapel Hill , for this initiative. I will forever be indebted to your servitude.

This past week I noticed a story on CNN of an upcoming app that was to be released. I am submitting this after receiving an email today giving me permission to submit my article to the organization responsible for this International Study of Women Suffering/or have suffered from Postpartum  Depression, and/or, Psychosis. It is my sincere hope that you will spread this information in an effort to draw attention to this program. They are looking to collect thousands of participants for this study. You can find the app, for free. Look for PPD ACT app. I found it through the Apple Store.

I literally had tears running down my face when I read that this initiative was taking place. In 1984, at the time of my episode, there was not much information readily available to women suffering from PPD. This study will no doubt change that, and with it, the lives of thousands upon thousands of women. It is my understanding that one in five women will experience some sort of the so-called, ‘baby blues’ and some will not be as fortunate as those of us who have survived the mayhem of insanity that swallowed our souls. Thankfully, we have returned to tell a story, using genetic markers they may one day find the answer to helping others from being driven into the abyss.

Bring hope to those who have lost theirs by sharing this initiative. Again,

I thank you.