Celebrate Life · Moving Forward

Interview With Christine Clayfield Author Of “No Forth River”

I’m thrilled to take part in the Blog Tour for Christine Clayfield’s first novel “No Fourth River”. Christine, it’s great to talk with you this morning. Let’s jump in.

Your novel “No Fourth River” is incredibly personal. Starting with the brutal abuse from your father to all the siblings. What convinced you now was the right time to write your story?

There are four influencing factors that made me decide to write my story.

1) My husband and daughters kept telling me, over the years, that I should write a book about my life.

2) I don’t usually share my story with others. However, sometimes when I unintentionally mention things from my past, people are intrigued. They want to know more about my life. I’ve often been told that I should write a book because my struggles would resonate with others and my life story could be an inspiration.

3) I had been jotting down ideas for a while but never started to write. When I collected enough courage to speak on stage, people often burst into tears during my speech. They came up to me after my speech to thank me for sharing my story and to tell me how inspired they were. That moment was when I decided to write my life story. I didn’t realize until then that my life story was an inspiration to others.  Very shortly after that, I started writing No Fourth River.

I transformed my life and I wanted to spell out valuable messages in my book too. If I can change one person’s life who will read my book, I will have achieved my goal. I have shared my life experiences, deeply personal ones too and hope to make a difference in someone else’s life. I want people to know that you can change your life, no matter what you have been through. I am a living example.

4) I am not getting any younger so I needed to do it sooner rather than too late , when I perhaps won’t remember all the details of my life.

Your fans responded to “No Fourth River” by rating the book with five stars on Amazon.com. What was your first reaction?

I was anxiously awaiting the arrival of my first review as I was curious to read people’s thoughts about my story. When I saw my first review, I was pleased as punch and totally overwhelmed with happiness. The review confirmed what I wanted my book to be: an inspiration to others.

How long did the writing process take?

From the moment I started jotting down dates of events in my life until the manuscript was totally finished, 2 years went by. However, I wasn’t writing full-time at the beginning, just a few hours per week. Once I’d written a few chapters, I started thinking: “I can actually do this; write a novel”. I had written five business books prior but this was my first novel. From that moment, I started writing most days of the week and I finished the book one year later but had a long break in between as my mum moved in with me and I looked after her in her last stages of dementia.

“No Fourth River” is your first novel, what’s your next book?

I am planning to write a book about “How to market a novel” , based on my experiences. I believe there is a big gap in the market for an informative book on this subject.

I am also scribbling down ideas for my second novel: a fiction novel.

Writers are often avid readers. What type of book do you read for pleasure?

Aside from reading books about all aspects of doing business, I love true stories and inspirational stories.

What are some of your other personal leisure activities?

A leisure activity is doing what you like and as I like working, I consider that as one of my leisure activities. When you enjoy what you are doing, it doesn’t feel like working. I also enjoy watching my husband play drums in his touring theatre show. Apart from that, I love traveling, watching a good movie and dining with friends and family.

How do you want fans to contact you? ” Facebook? Twitter?

I prefer to be contacted by email: info@christineclayfield.com

Christine’s novel “No Fourth River” available now

Amazon.co.uk 

Amazon.com 

Amazon.ca 

Indigo.ca

It’s such a pleasure to talk with you today. I wish you continued success on “No Fourth River”.

Melinda

 

 

Celebrate Life · Moving Forward

Triple Shot Thursday *New Tunes*

I love each artist picked this week. James Bay’s “Pink Lemonade” is a great example of transformation of music style. Imagine Dragons never disappoint, the are worth watching on YouTube to watch the live shows. One Republic is a breath of fresh air, they play many style of music and their in my top one hundred. Have a great weekend.  M

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Lyme Journal Entry Eleven *Lyme Winning Me..Mad As Hell*

Lyme Journal Rerun from 2015. Included is packed with info about being a patient and the huge political system. I hope someone is helped by the information. M

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Lyme Progress #3 *What Lyme Left Behind ?*

Chronic Lyme can leave behind other chronic illnesses, many little things, my body is still evolving. I had IV Infusion Treatment, high levels of antibiotics which destroyed, my skin’s protective barrier. My outside limit is 5-10 minutes then its second degree burns. Who needs to use the pool? My doctor said my skin will always be an issue. Great! I’m a Cancer Water Baby, vacation anywhere there’s good clean water.

A big surprise came when freckles popped up everywhere. Not little freckles, masses of darker ones. My arms have the “vacation look”. Yesterday I found several big black freckles on my back. What now!

I  have “scaling” on the arms, skin looks snake-like.  At 54 Lyme has given me more than I ever asked for. Mother Nature continues to her natural growth. I have tags, mini warts that grow mostly on the chest area.

Chronic Lyme affects everyone different and very different side effects.

For those’s who love us or we love, be gentle. Lyme is a very hard everyday.

M

 

 

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Woman

Thank you Candice for sharing your post. A very important post for WOMEN. :)

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From formless

She

Carries the strength of her foresisters

The weight of her thighs

Weighs rivers swell

In tip and measure

She

Defends the feeding babe

Climbs her own knot of thorns

With quills in her back

And knife wounds smiling

Her breasts leak

Her center of gravity is the iron mantle

Set like a spinning throne in Earth’s center

The very blood of her is metal

And a handful of spring

And a mouth kissing

And a belly birthing

Her entirety

The mound of her sight

Stretching like

Hands clasping hands over time

Here is the unbroken connection

Of women

If they will be kind and not snare

Her sisters, raven haired, red and light as snow

We are the rise and set of day

The future in her oracle

We bring or we deny

Our destiny and reach

Seize your place

Take a hand

Bend to the wind

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Triple Shot Thursday *When They Were Young.*

Have a great weekend. The old Rock & rock called me this week. I hope you enjoy. Leave a comment in the comment section with your request. Let me spin a tune for you. M

Celebrate Life · Fun · Moving Forward

Triple Shot Thursday *Phil, U2, Whitney* Can’t Miss!

The request line produced three great videos. Pick up request line and let your tune be heard. Leave request in comment section of post. I love to spin for you. Have a great weekend.  M

 U2 Awesome version of filming video for “The Streets Have No Name” in CA
Men & Womens Health · Moving Forward · Survivor

I Have Bipolar And I Am Not Violent

Reblogged from our friend Amy Gamble at http://www.amygamble.wordpress.com

I had an opportunity to teach a group of school teachers about mental illness. After last weeks Florida school shooting I was prepared for questions about mental illness and violence. It’s beyond sad this is an ever occurring topic. But what happens to those of us who live with a mental illness when the public, […]

via I have bipolar and I am not violent — Shedding Light on Mental Illness

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Safe Dating Tips For Teens

Safe Dating Tips for Teens

February is teen dating violence awareness month. For teens and those new to dating, it can be difficult to identify signs of an abusive relationship. The warning signs that a teen has been sexually assaulted or abused can easily blend in with the everyday struggles teens face as they learn how to relate to their bodies, peers, and environment.

“With dating violence, early warning signs often begin with behaviors that are not physically violent,” said Jodi Omear, vice president of communications at RAINN. “These behaviors may violate a person’s boundaries, be emotionally abusive, or otherwise controlling.”

Demanding to know their partner’s location at all times, controlling their appearance or behaviors, refusing to use contraceptives or STI protection during sexual activity, or forcing drug or alcohol use—these are all signs of an abusive relationship.

With many aspects of relationships, especially for teens and young adults, taking place over text, Snapchat, Instagram, and online dating apps, knowing how to spot warning signs for dating violence through these platforms and staying safe on social media is more important than ever. When it comes to online communications, small controlling behaviors may not seem to be high risk, but they can quickly escalate into emotionally abusive behavior or physical abuse if you meet in-person.

Check out RAINN’s resources for more information on how to stay safe online and identify potentially abusive behavior:

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Where’s Waldo, Where’s The Reblog Button?

After chatting with WordPress Support about the Reblog button not working, I learn they already know and no completion date is given. From my own experience not everyone is effected.

Here’s a link I was given to show tracking process. I asked if the link included a completion date I received no answer. We are tracking it here: https://github.com/Automattic/wp-calypso/issues/22491

WP.comTue, Feb 20, 9:00 PM
If you look at the top right, there is a place to be notified when it gets updated.

WP.comTue, Feb 20, 9:00 PM
I would suspect an issue with this much attention should get fixed sooner than later.

lookingforthelightblogTue, Feb 20, 9:01 PM
Thank you signing out

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Chat us again if you have more questions!

 

M

 

Fun · Moving Forward

How To Talk With Kids About Terrible Things

Loss at the dinner table

Look up from this screen right now. Take a look around. On a bus. In a cafe. Even at a stoplight. Chances are, most of the other people in your line of sight are staring at their phones or other devices. And if they don’t happen to have one out, it is certainly tucked away in a pocket or bag.

But are we truly addicted to technology? And what about our kids? It’s a scary question, and a big one for scientists right now. Still, while the debate rages on, some doctors and technologists are focusing on solutions.

“There is a fairly even split in the scientific community about whether ‘tech addiction’ is a real thing,” says Dr. Michael Bishop, who runs Summerland, which he calls “a summer camp for screen overuse” for teens.

Dueling diagnoses

“Technology addiction” doesn’t appear in the latest Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, the DSM-V, published in 2013. That’s the bible of the psychiatric profession in the United States. The closest it comes is something called “Internet Gaming Disorder,” and that is listed as a condition for further study, not an official diagnosis.

This omission is important not only because it shapes therapists’ and doctors’ understanding of their patients but because without an official DSM code, it is harder to bill insurers for treatment of a specific issue.

The World Health Organization has, by contrast, listed “gaming disorder” as a disorder due to an addictive behavior in the next edition of the International Classification of Diseases, an internationally used diagnostic manual.

Dr. Nicholas Kardaras is the author of the 2016 book Glow Kids: How Screen Addiction Is Hijacking Our Kids. When I ask him about the term “addiction” he doesn’t miss a beat.

There are brain-imaging studies of the effects of screen time, he says. And he also has treated many teens who are so wrapped up in video games that they don’t even get up to use the bathroom.

He says the evidence is clear, but we’re not ready to face it.

“We have, as a society, gone all-in on tech,” he says. “So we don’t want some buzzkilling truth sayers telling us that the emperor has no clothes and that the devices that we’ve all so fallen in love with can be a problem” — especially for kids and their developing brains, he adds.

Addiction may not be an official term in the U.S., at least not yet. But researchers and clinicians like Bishop, who avoid using it, are still concerned about some of the patterns of behavior they see.

“I came to this issue out of a place of deep skepticism: addicted to video games? That can’t be right,” said Dr. Douglas Gentile at Iowa State University, who has been researching the effects of media on children for decades.

But “I’ve been forced by data to accept that it’s a problem,” he told me when I interviewed him for my bookThe Art of Screen Time. “Addiction to video games and Internet use, defined as ‘serious dysfunction in multiple aspects of your life that achieves clinical significance,’ does seem to exist.”

Measuring problematic use

Gentile’s definition doesn’t address the questions of whether media can cause changes in your brain or create a true physical dependency.

It also doesn’t address the question, raised by some of the clinicians I’ve spoken with, of whether media overuse is best thought of as a symptom of something else, such as depression, anxiety or ADHD. Gentile’s definition simply asks whether someone’s relationship to media is causing problems to the extent that the person would benefit from getting some help.

Gentile was one of the co-authors of a study published in November that tried to shed more light on that question. The study has the subtitle “A Parent Report  Measure of Screen Media ‘Addiction’ in Children.” Note that the term addiction is in quotes here. In the study, researchers asked parents of school-age children to complete a questionnaire based on the criteria for “Internet Gaming Disorder.”

For example, it asked: Is their preferred media activity the only thing that puts them in a good mood? Are they angry or otherwise unhappy when forced to unplug? Is their use increasing over time? Do they sneak around to use screens? Does it interfere with family activities, friendships or school?

The experts I’ve talked to say the question of whether an adult, or a child, has a problem with technology can’t be answered simply by measuring screen time. What matters most, this study suggests, is your relationship to it, and that requires looking at the full context of life.

Seeking treatment

Though tech addiction isn’t officially recognized yet in the United States, there are in-patient treatment facilities for teens that try to address the problem.

For my book, I interviewed a teenage boy who attended a wilderness therapy program in Utah called Outback.

“I started playing when I was around 9 years old,” said Griffin, whose last name I didn’t use to protect his privacy. He chose email over a phone interview. “I played because I found it fun, but after a while I played mostly because I preferred it over socializing and confronting my problems.”

After he spent weeks hiking through the wilderness, his mother saw a lot of improvement in his demeanor and focus. However, Griffin came home to a reality where he still needed a laptop for high school and still used a smartphone to connect with friends.

Bishop, who runs therapeutic Summerland camps in California and North Carolina, says the teens who come to him fall into two broad categories. There are the ones, overwhelmingly boys, who spend so much time playing video games that, in his words, they “fall behind in their social skills.” Often they are battling depression or anxiety, or they may be on the autism spectrum.

Then there is a group of mostly girls who misuse and overuse social media. They may be obsessed with taking selfies — Bishop calls them “selfists” — or they may have sent inappropriate pictures of themselves or bullied others online.

Regardless of the problem, “We feel the issue is best conceptualized as a ‘habit’ over an ‘addiction,’ ” Bishop says. “When teens think about their behavior as a habit, they are more empowered to change.”

Labeling someone an addict, essentially saying he or she has a chronic disease, is a powerful move. And it may be especially dangerous for teens, who are in the process of forming their identities, says Maia Szalavitz.

In other words, as long as these companies make their money from advertising, they will have incentive to try to design products that maximize the time you spend using them, regardless of whether it makes your life better. Harris’ solution is to pressure the industry to turn to new business models, such as subscription services. “We’re trying to completely change the incentives away from addiction, and the way to do that is to change the business model.”

Along with Common Sense Media, a nonprofit that offers parents research and resources on kids’ media use, they are currently launching a “Truth About Tech” campaign that Harris compares to anti-smoking campaigns exposing the workings of Big Tobacco.

Fighting tech with tech

For over a decade Gabe Zichermann was a self-described “cheerleader” for what’s called “gamification.” He consulted with the world’s largest corporations and governments on how to make their products and policies as compelling as a video game.

But, he says, “there was a moment I realized that things had gone too far.” He was in a restaurant and looked around and saw “literally everyone was looking at their phones.” Zichermann started thinking about his family history and about his own relationship to technology.

He realized that his work up to that point had been contributing to some serious social problems. Like Harris, he is concerned that in a world of ubiquitous and free content, platform- and device-makers make more money the more time you spend on screens.

This, he says, results in “a ton of compulsive behavior” — around everything from pornography to World of Warcraft to Facebook. Feeling “partially responsible,” Zichermann set out to create an anti-addiction app.

It’s called Onward, and it has a number of different features and approaches in both free and paid modes.

It can simply monitor in the background and give you a report of your use, which for some people, says Zichermann, is enough to motivate change. Or it can share that report with someone else — say, a parent — for accountability (the app is rated for use by 13-year-olds and above).

Or, say you want to stop browsing Facebook during business hours. The paid mode of the app allows you to block Facebook, but it can also monitor in the background to try to predict when you might be about to surf there. “The idea is that when the drink is in your hand, it’s too late,” says Zichermann.

In that moment, the app serves up an intervention like a breathing exercise, or an invitation to get in touch with a friend. Zichermann calls this “a robot sitting on your shoulder — the angel of your good intention.”

The company has partnered with both UCLA Health and Columbia University Medical Center to research the efficacy of the app, and Zichermann says they plan to seek FDA approval as a “digiceutical.”

In essence, Zichermann is trying to gamify balance — to keep score and offer people rewards for turning away from behavior that’s become a problem.

The word “addiction” may currently be attracting controversy, but you don’t need a doctor’s official pronouncement to work on putting the devices down more often — or to encourage your kids to do so as well.

 

 

Celebrate Life · Fun · Moving Forward

“Your Song” Blog Party! *Everyone is Welcome*

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Bad Company has been a favorite since a teenager, it’s no surprise they are my favorite band.

Before I play a video, there is a story connected. I went to see Bad Company in my twenty’s, during the show I kept hearing they were going to the Hard Rock Cafe (back when it was cool). After the show I went straight to Hard Rock. I ate and saved my bill for them to sign, any of them. I was truly hoping for the lead singer.

Three hours later they arrive, I’m getting an autograph, they arrive on third floor and go straight into private room. I was crushed. Try again another show.

Here’s one of my favs from Bad Company.   M

 

 

Celebrate Life · Fun · Moving Forward

Triple Shot Thursday *Jackson 5, Micheal & Prince* WOW!

Enjoy the oldies! Have a great weekend. Melinda

 

 

 

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Lyme Progress #2 It Takes a Village

After leaving my LYME Doctor in DC, I had to compile a team of doctors who could keep me well. This was not the easiest process. Here are the doctor’s I’ve met with so far.

General Practitioner

Endocrinologist

Internal Medicines

Cardiologist

One step I took with my GP is 30 minute appointments. I haven’t seen him in six years, trust takes time when you prescribing pain medication. I don’t have any issue paying for a double appointment, we’ve learned more about each other and the trust is almost 100%.

I still need to met with Neurologist and possible Pain Management.

I still see a Therapist and Psychiatrist. It does take a village.

M

 

 

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Triple Shot Thursday *A Few of My Favs*

Every generation has its superstars, these songs were released at a critical point in my life. I was on the fence about being a drug addict, not finishing school, getting married a 13 years old or going straight and leaving the past behind. I made the right and best decision for me.

I hope you enjoy the music, maybe it will bring a few memories to you.  M

In case you missed the Half Time Show.

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You Behind the Illness-told in 4’s

About me

Thank you Alyssa from Fighting MS Daily, fightingmsdaily.com. Everyone has a story, Alyssa is no different. She was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis at 19 years old. That’s a life changing blow for anyone. She moves forward, in her 30’s and a strong advocate for MS and all Chronic Illnesses. Thank you for the invite.

Four places I’ve lived:

Texas

Texas

Texas

Texas

Four places I’ve worked:

Robert Half International

Alternative Resources Corporation

Retired 2003 to care for Granny

Minister

Four favorite hobbies:

Sailing

Hiking

Photography

Sky Diving

Four things I like to watch:

SNL

Crime Shows

FBI/CIA shows

Spongebob

Four things I like to read:

Bible

Non-Fiction

Blogs

Medical Research

Four places I have been:

Australia

Russia

France

Spain

Four things I love to eat:

PB&J

Mexican Food

Oysters

Olives

Favorite things to drink:

Water

Lemonade

Hibiscus Water

Smoothies

Four places I want to visit:

Tanzania

Germany

Turkey

Wales

Four bloggers I’d like to tag:

Harlon Davey            A Patient Voice

Simon Farnell           Planet Simon

Cindy Kocke

Candice Daquin        The Feathered Sleep

 

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The silent strength

You must visit The Feathered Sleep at thefeatheredsleep.com.wordpress.com Once you read her work, feel the emotion in each post you become a daily reader. Thanks again for an awesome post. I’m an avid reader! M

TheFeatheredSleep's avatarTheFeatheredSleep

Take out the trash

And as you bend to pick up stray leaves

You see him standing beneath his grief

He wears it heavy like winter wool, boiled in tears

As a man, he doesn’t have the ways of expressing

All those pent up cries

For so long, he was his only resource

Clamboring into himself even further

A boy within a man, hand over mouth

His outward smile is tinged with sadness

Nobody sees because people want to believe

In smiles more than tears

Except me

I have nothing much of myself to recommend

I couldn’t compete, I couldn’t pretend

The square jawed boys at school

Saw through me, reaching for the swan necked girls

Who purred and swam in batted eyelash lakes

And like this man, I grew up shaping myself coarsely

Sometimes doing nothing more than observing

The way we treat others less fortunate

And I came…

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Double Shot Thursday *Country Young Love*

I remember the days. Looking back, things worked out for the best. Request Line is open 24X7, comment section is ready to play your favorite tune.  M

 

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Maybe it’s borderline — Re-blog from to aspie or not to aspie

Very interesting post you can’t pass up. Check out her site. M

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I imagine this headline sung to the same tune as that age old Maybelline advert. Although I’m writing a lot about autism on this blog, I haven’t had my assessment yet and I still sometimes find myself analysing my symptoms and the equation coming back with borderline personality disorder or bipolar. Sometimes I’m so, so […]

Such a relatable and interesting post from To Aspie or Not to Aspie. Give it a read and follow her too. (Post here Maybe it’s borderline — to aspie or not to aspie)

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Men & Womens Health · Moving Forward · Survivor

Survivors Blog Here Welcomes Heidi Sullivan from Braving Mental Illness

Survivors Blog Here is thrilled to announce Heidi Sullivan is our newest Contributor. Heidi is inspirational and committed to helping people with Mental Health challenges. Please stop by to meet Heidi and check out her personal site http://www.bravingmentalillness.com

I took the below information from Heidi’s ”About Me”page. She is so committed to share, help and answer questions. She is committed and I want you to see how she describes herself.

My life purpose is to inspire hope, courage, and strength within others one life at a time. The realization that my mind had taken over more than my body, but my spirit, was the day I took back my life. It’s one thing to experience pain and suffering on a surface level, it’s an entirely different experience when you look in the mirror and your spirit is lifeless. That’s when you’ve had enough. My life purpose is to inspire hope, courage, and strength within others one life at a time. I hope in sharing my story and listening to yours, we can encourage one another. One of my favorite quotes is, “I am only held back by the limits set within my mind.” Be well!

http://www.facebook.com/Heidi.Sullivan.526        www.twitter.com/HeidiInyama.com

Welcome, it’s only up from here.

M

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I Am a Kid and Something Happened

Presented by RAINN

I Am a Kid and Something Happened

Tell Someone. If somebody touches you in a way you don’t like or touches an area covered by a bathing suit, tell someone you trust.

Say no. If somebody wants to hug you, kiss you, or touch your body, you can always tell them no. It’s not OK for ANYONE to touch you in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable — even if they are older or in charge, like your teacher. You can always say no to any touch that makes you feel unsafe.

Some secrets are OK to share. You don’t have to keep secrets about spending time with someone or getting gifts from them. If someone makes you scared or upset, it’s OK to tell a grown-up you trust.

Pictures are private. If someone takes a picture of you, and you don’t want them to, that is not OK! If they want to take a picture of your private parts, that is not OK either! You can tell a grown-up you trust right away.

It’s OK if you are scared. It’s normal to feel scared about telling and getting in trouble. That’s OK. You are really brave to tell. Keep telling until someone helps you.

Men & Womens Health · Moving Forward

RAINN: Stalking Awareness Month

 

Stalking

What is stalking?

“Stalking is a pattern of repeated and unwanted attention, harassment, contact, or any other course of conduct directed at a specific person that would cause a reasonable person to feel fear,” according to the Department of Justice. Similar to crimes of sexual violence, stalking is about power and control.

Stalking laws and definitions differ from state to state. You can read more about your state’s laws by visiting the Stalking Resource Center. Stalking behavior can take many forms including:

  • Making threats against someone, or that person’s family or friends
  • Non-consensual communication, such as repeated phone calls, emails, text messages, and unwanted gifts
  • Repeated physical or visual closeness, like waiting for an someone to arrive at certain locations, following someone, or watching someone from a distance
  • Any other behavior used to contact, harass, track, or threaten someone

What is “the use of technology to stalk”?

One of the ways perpetrators stalk victims is through the use of technology. You may have heard the term cyberstalking to refer to these types of interactions. “Use of technology to stalk” is a broad term that is used to cover all forms stalking that rely on technology.

Some uses of technology to stalk include:

  • Persistently sending unwanted communication through the internet, such as spamming someone’s email inbox or social media platform
  • Posting threatening or personal information about someone on public internet forums
  • Video-voyeurism, or installing video cameras that give the stalker access to someone’s personal life
  • Using GPS or other software tracking systems to monitor someone without their knowledge or consent
  • Using someone’s computer and/or spyware to track their computer activity

As technology and digital platforms continue to grow, so do the chances that someone could interact with you in an unwanted, sexual manner. Not all of these behaviors are considered stalking, but they can be violating and make you feel uncomfortable. Learn more about the different ways people can use technology to hurt others.

What are some common reactions to being stalked?

The DOJ uses “fear” to define the experience of being stalked, but there are other reactions that are just as important to consider. You might feel anxious, nervous, isolated, become stressed, or develop signs of depression.

What should I do if I’m being stalked?

If you think you are being stalked, please know you are right to be concerned. Stalking may escalate in behavior. Consider the following tips to increase your safety and effectively report the crime.

  • Try to avoid the person stalking you. This can be difficult at times, especially if the person stalking you is close to you or your family.
  • If you are being stalked through communication technology, like email or text messaging, make it clear that you wish to stop contact. Once you’ve made it clear, do not respond to further communication.
  • Keep any evidence received from the stalker such as text messages, voicemails, letters, packages, emails, etc., but do not respond. You can do this by taking screenshots of conversations or even printing out email exchanges.
  • Inform family, friends, supervisors, and co-workers of the situation.
  • If you have children, create a code word that lets them know they need to leave the house or call the police.
  • Consider reporting the stalking to local law enforcement.
  • Keeping an accurate journal or log of all incidents connected to the stalking.
  • Become familiar with computer safety and ways to stay safe online.

To learn more about stalking and safety planning visit the Stalking Resource Center.

To speak with someone who is trained to help, call the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 800.656.HOPE (4673) or chat online at online.rainn.org.

Men & Womens Health · Moving Forward · Survivor

Mental Health Resources

Mental Health Resources

Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance

International Bipolar Foundation

Mental Health America

MentalHealth.gov

National Alliance on Mental Illness

National Institute of Mental Health

National Institutes of Health

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Avoid Going Sideways – Asking the Right Mental Health Questions

Thank you
Heidi for sharing the inspirational post. I like the conversation of reality vs. what we tell ourself. We’ve been there. M