Olympic athletes can face rejection daily which is broadcast for all to see. Luckily our rejection isn’t on the daily news.I hope you find tools for working thru the emotions of rejection.
Xx M
Olympic athletes can face rejection daily which is broadcast for all to see. Luckily our rejection isn’t on the daily news.I hope you find tools for working thru the emotions of rejection.
Xx M

Here are the two best prayers I know: Help me, help me, help me and Thank you, thank you, thank you. Anne Lamott
I have two weeks of living to share with you. When the drugs are back in your system it takes several weeks to peak. Withdraw is on the been there & done that list. The psychological pain will linger longer than the physical pain. I am recovering from physical injuries caused from thrashing around in the bathroom. During the worst days I closed myself off to prevent my husband from seeing me. I’m resting, trying to not overdo it.
One positive from withdraw is the reminder I’m a Survivor.
I’m starting to feel human, self-critical but human. Which is perfect since I have oral surgery on Thursday.
I’ll be back in the grove soon.
Xx M
At the rate new songs hit the airways it’s easy to forget great songs from the past.Thanks to Shelton for the Simon & Garfunkel suggestion.There is nothing like an old friends. :) M
Breath is the power behind all things. Your breath doesn’t know how old you are; it doesn’t know what you can’t do. If I am feeling puzzled or my mind is telling me that I’m not capable of something, I breath in and know that good things will happen.
Tao Porch0n-Lynch, Yoga Instructor Age 96

I HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER
MY MENTAL HEALTH IS TIED TOGETHER WITH MULTIPLE MEDICATIONS, THREE OF WHICH I’M ADDICTED TO. MY STRUGGLE WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER IS BALANCED OUT ON A FOUNDATION BUILT ON XANAX. I AM ADDICTED TO THREE OF THE DRUGS WITH XANAX BEING THE NASTIEST TO WITHDRAW FROM. LYME DIEASE HAS TAKEN MY MEMORY AND I TOOK TO MANY XANAX BEFORE THE NEXT REFILL. IT’S A CONTROLLED SUBSTANCE IN TEXAS WHICH MEANS ONLY YOUR DOCTOR CAN APPROVE EVEN ONE PILL BEFORE REFILL. MY DOCTOR WAS ON VACATION AND I WAS BATTLING THE BEAST WITHIN.
I’m on the mend, just not well enough to write a post about my journey. Thanks to everyone who has reached out to me. I was able to battle things out at home, there was a point when the questions came up, was it time to go to hospital.
Below are a few comments I’ve made while piecing myself back together. They are not entertaining, quite disgusting actually but IT’S REAL. I have Treatment Resistant Bipolar Disorder with Xanax as the anchor drug.
I’ve lived thru what doctors or instructions may mention about withdraw. IF you were not aware of what Xanax withdraw looks like, FIRST look in the mirror. It’s the patients responsibility to participate with treatment. One critical way is being aware of every angle, good, bad, nasty, uncomfortable, make you beat yourself against the wall, wailing in pain……..I feel like my worst sins have beaten me with a bat bat 24/7 for a week.
I hope one person can read the babbling and come out with something to help themselves, their children, their husband, their wife, a family member, the homeless person on your corner.
I would not spread my guts out if I didn’t believe one person could use my experience. One commitment I made when starting my blog, when it’s ugly I will fly the flag high for anyone who wants to read. If you can’t handle the language, don’t enter the post.
I’m lost without the community. My body will heal up in a few days/a week.
Xx M
ME:I just read your post about the increase in meds, yes it is scary as hell every time and that’s a gauge you don’t want to lose, it just doesn’t mean an auto NO. You are getting better at trusting, which essential to living with mental illness. Remember, it’s an illness not who you are. Think hard about the increase, what you told the doc, why he believes you need and increase based on what you’ve told him and then you can settle into, ok I’m not taking BECAUSE/I’m taking AND Committing to HOW MANY DAYS/WEEKS TO SEE A CHANGE. IF you are not 100% committed/UNLESS severe side effects/ If committed you have to be willing to go thru the adjustment your body WILL go thru. DOD you know what to look for? How long? When to go to hospital? CRITICAL questions if YOU ARE Taking.
ME: IF NOT TAKING, you can’t sit and wait until next appointment. You have to be able to articulate to doctor WHY you are not going to take. Give the doctor a chance to clear up any questions or misunderstandings. Then If you still are not going to take, no prob. ARE YOU ready to jump off that drug completely, possible some withdraw depending how long taking.OR ARE you willing to keep taking the amount of that drug and take what he suggest next which should address WHY your NOT taking the increased dose.
ME: It SUCKS, it’s a bitch, asshole any name you can think of BUT you have a mental illness, YOU said YOU were going to participate in getting your life on the rails as much as possible no matter how long it takes.
Sorry honey, the facts.
ME: Below is the HELL I’ve been in. You will recognize some of the symptoms because you have not had them in control, even though in HELL you can see WHAT the next level of hell is. This is why you can’t fuck with your meds. This is what happens in various degrees.
ME: I’m exhausted and back to bed for my whole body to rest. Please print out this whole comments, when you are starting to get anxious look at. Xanax is an excellent anti-anxiety med, highly additive and will beat the shit out of you if you fuck with it. That may help you get more in tune with body so you pick up the signals sooner. :)
ME: you are an awesome Christian Sister. The passage brought a tear. At a time when physically I’m all alone, now more than anytime I know there are friends in Christ who are there. Praying for me is a bonus. God brings people down a path, we have no idea what his perfect hands are doing, we’re going about our business. You/I/everyone crosses paths, sometimes they are the path God laid out, that intersection will bring two people together if/when God see’s a need. That is why we crossed paths, and for many others reasons we learn from each other. The last thing on my mind is a blog/my blog/your blog/survivors blog. I’m still putting the pieces of my brain back together. The rest we know is not essential and down on the want pole. Thank you for thinking of survivors, quite possibly a decision I make/or not will have a huge impact. I have to figure out if I’m ready and everyone else is aware and who’s on the boat. Keep you posted as I take another step. Day One 3:30 pm CST
ME: an older messages said moving at nano speed, NOT unless nano backwards is such at thing. Very small steps, my body is better to a pulp from me throwing myself around the bathroom during the three worst days with the beast inside. When you have a mental illness you need medication to function, if the balance is off tiny amount no prob. If you see saw is up in air and down on ground there’s a huge problem. That’s where I’ve been. Lyme has taken my memory, without knowing I took to many Xanax which I require but when you take to many before a refill, it’s hell. When a drug is classified a Controlled Substance, created to slow down addiction in America, only your doctor can approve even one pill. My Doc is half- retired and this past Friday was the absolute earliest it could be filled without my Doc phoning the pharmacy. Withdraw on Xanax which I’ve taken for 15 years is starts to get nasty after 2-3 days. From there it’s straight to hell in a blink of an eye! I learned one thing thru this, exactly what Controlled Substance means.
I’m sure you will file in your huge memory bank should you ever need. I’m off to take photos of what it looks like on paper when I come unwound.
ME: I’ve have seen bad and I’ve seen heaven. UTSW Psychiatric Hospital is where I go to have ECT Treatments to dig me out from under the boulder. It’s a truly welcome sight. I’ve learned all of the above and once I saw how a good/great caring facility takes care to get you on your feet so you and your support team can help while you and doctor work on getting me stable. I almost went there Wednesday night, a medical hospital can’t give me what I needed fast enough. I was near the bottom of the meanest beast, myself, going thru an unintentional need to withdraw. When my husband heard me wailing out of control, banging myself around the bathroom, battered and helpless except to let the beast keep kicking me. He said were going, we didn’t but he thought medical hospital and I knew it was to see my caregivers at UTSW Dallas. Today is Day One, I’m home by myself and although slow I’ve made it thru half a day. I would never hesitate to get in car to go straight there, I’ve been there 20 times.:)
Happy Monday! I’m in recovery, feeling better, dying to write about and I’ll be back in a few days. Xx M

URGENT CHELSEA MANNING NEEDS US NOW
A Charge Sheet, was presented to Chelsea Manning regarding additional offenses. There is NO WIN for Chelsea. It’s hard for to think of Solitary Confinement for the remaining sentence.
God please send blessing to Chelsea Manning. Continue to give her strength to endure additional treatment. Send your Angels from Heaven to hold her hand assuring Chelsea God loves all his children regardless of sexual preference. God please hear my prayers and all prayers for Chelsea.
In God’s name Melinda
https://www.aclu.org/legal-document/chelsea-manning-charge-sheet
Document published by ACLU.
URGENT PLEASE READ NEW CHARGES AGAINST CHELSEA MANNING
At this time, Chelsea Manning is not receiving adequate Psychological Counseling. Chelsea is a Trans being forced to serve out her sentence in an ALL-MALE Maximum Security Prison. Although Chelsea tries to stay focus on her writing and advocacy, being a woman in an all-male prison is dehumanizing and exhausting emotionally, according to ACLU. The post in long but worth reading, someday it could be you. The next post is short. Outraged, Melinda
Chelsea Manning faces new charges, indefinite solitary confinement, related to suicide attempt
Posted 17:08 EDT on July 28, 2016
FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE, July 28, 2016
Contact: Christina DiPasquale, christina@balestramedia.com, 202.716.1953
U.S government has systematically abused imprisoned whistleblower, continues to deny access to gender related health care
LEAVENWORTH, KS––Imprisoned whistleblower Chelsea Manning reported to attorneys and friends that she received a document from
Army officials today informing her that she is being investigated for serious new charges related to her July 5th, 2016 attempt to take her own life. If convicted of these bizarre “administrative offenses,” she could be placed in indefinite solitary confinement for the remainder of her sentence.
Chelsea has been systematically mistreated by the U.S. government since she was first taken into custody in 2010, including long stretches of solitary confinement (which the UN considers to be a form of torture), which she was subjected to for 9 months, even before she had ever been convicted, and continuing to deny her the medical treatment she needs for her gender dysphoria, which medical experts have clearly stated is the only course of treatment in which she would no longer be suicidal.
At this time, Chelsea is not receiving adequate psychological counseling, as her course of treatment is constantly irregular and therefore less effective. Having uncertainty, from day to day, regarding what medical treatment she is even going to receive is stressful in itself, and is certainly not what someone recovering from a suicide attempt should be subjected to.
Chelsea is a trans woman being forced to serve out her sentence in an all male maximum security prison. Although Chelsea tries to stay focused on her writing and advocacy, being a woman in a all male prison is dehumanizing and exhausting emotionally. It is unnecessarily cruel to threaten her with punishment while in this very vulnerable state. We must pressure the Secretary of the Army to take a personal interest and dismiss these absurd charges against Chelsea.
I’ve sent a dozen or so Instagram or Twitter notes. Sting is on tour, I dropped a line. Imagine my surprise he responded. “Thanks for the support and nice thoughts. Best wishes to you, God bless” WOW I was shocked.
I pray you have a great weekend. Be safe. Xx M
A shimmer of light
Eyes filled with tears
Light is closer
I’m at complete peace
God what do you want from me
I have no special skill
Is light a miracle from high above
Trapped in darkness, I hear keys
Thoughts no chains
Falling to ground weeping
Is the light a sign of better days
How can it be, you choose me
There’s no miracle God said
A reminder
You are alive
Live each day like your last
Xx M
I hope everyone has a great weekend. Pay it forward. Xx M
The FDA/Medwatch released the June Update including 42 products with safety labeling changes. The update including, Warnings, Contradictions, Warning Labels, Precautions and Adverse Reactions on medicine many take everyday. It grabbed my attention, there are several drugs I take on the list. The FDA isn’t technically responsible for over the counter products, if it can cause a health risk to the public, the product is typically recalled. You can contact FDA.gov for more information. Xx M
FDA MedWatch – June 2016 Safety Labeling Changes includes 42products with revisions to Prescribing Information
07/07/2016
The MedWatch June 2016 Safety Labeling Changes posting includes 42 products with safety labeling changes to the following sections: BOXED WARNING, CONTRAINDICATIONS, WARNINGS, PRECAUTIONS, ADVERSE REACTIONS, or PATIENT PACKAGE INSERT/MEDICATION GUIDE.
The “Summary Page” table provides a listing of product names and safety labeling sections revised:
http://www.fda.gov/Safety/MedWatch/SafetyInformation/ucm509048.htm
The following drugs had modifications to the BOXED WARNING, CONTRAINDICATIONS, WARNINGS, and/or PRECAUTIONS sections:
Elitek (rasburicase)
Afinitor (everolimus)
Aubagio (teriflunomide)
Avycaz (ceftazidime and avibactam)
Bendeka (bendamustine hydrochloride)
Cardura (doxazosin)
Cerebyx (fosphenytoin sodium)
Children’s Motrin (ibuprofen)
Dilantin (phenytoin) Injection, Dilantin (phenytoin) Oral Suspension
Envarsus XR (tacrolimus extended release)
Farxiga (dapagliflozin)
Farydak (panobinostat)
Hectorol (doxercalciferol)
Humira (adalimumab)
Iclusig (ponatinib hydrochloride)
Kuvan (sapropterin dihydrochloride)
Lybrel (levonorgestrel and ethinyl estradiol)
Natpara (parathyroid hormone)
Nitromist (nitroglycerin)
Orfadin (nitisinone)
Pomalyst (pomalidomide)
Prezista (darunavir) Tablet and Oral Suspension
Sabril (vigabatrin) Oral Solution
Sabril (vigabatrin) Tablet
Stivarga (regorafenib)
Tamiflu (oseltamivir phosphate) Capsules and Oral Suspension
Technivie (ombitasvir, paritaprevir and ritonavir) Tablets
Tivicay (dolutegravir)
Tybost (cobicistat)
Tyvaso (treprostinil)
Viekira PAK (ombitasvir, paritaprevir and ritonavir tablets; dasabuvir tablets)
Xigduo XR (dapagliflozin and metformin HCl extended-release)
Zosyn (piperacillin and tazobactam for injection) and Zosyn (piperacillin sodium and tazobactam sodium injection)
Let’s Talk Lyme
Last update, we talked about IV Therapy as a treatment option for Chronic Lyme Disease. IV Therapy is one type of medicine to help you heal. I also take a close to 20 prescriptions and who knows how many supplements. Insurance doesn’t pay for the IV Therapy which is quite common. To ask a question thru the patient Portal it’s $45 dollars. I blew a gasket last week and the portal is running hot. I’m blessed we have the money and see a top Lyme Doctor. I think there is a book called She’s Come Undone. I came undone and still finding parts.
Before quitting work, I was a highly successful, the top salesperson in the company. I set very high goals for myself and those who interact with clients. If I made an error I was accountable to make it right with the clients. If one of my people made a mistake, they got the eye and then I had to take responsibility.
There are several PA’s working in the office, mine is the hard ass, just the way I like it. I meet “The” PA while mine was out. I wasn’t impressed but chalked it up to being new. David and I have conference calls to see how adjusted to medicine, all the questions you wish would end. I heard my PA was not available for two weeks so we are meeting with the PA another PA. I am meticulous about my health care, I would reschedule before going to a fill in. I kept saying I’m not talking to her. She was reading questionnaire and David was answering. She said Melinda how are you feeling, ” ok except I almost split my head open. The knot was 5-6 inches big and it really hurt. ” Oh, that sounds like it hurt. My firecracker was lit and would blow any minute. In addition to passing over hitting my head on concrete, she said the IV that was on backorder was in and she would a one week protocol. After the one week, I am off IV’s and take ton o meds. She even indicated we might be able to coordinate to have my port removed.

A couple of hours later I’m putting my medicine for the week. Right away I notice two drugs on the schedule I don’t take. I became a complete baby and ass. I refused to take my IV’s or other meds last week. We’ve dipped into retirement money to save my life. I don’t think I expect to much from the office. First she would have seen none of my Psychiatric medicines are manages my the Lyme Doctor. The had written at bottom to continue to take two Xanax at bedtime. RED FLAG. If an IV medicine has been out of stock for months, I would as the person in charge if any where delivered. RED FLAG. My head still has a painful bump and on going headaches. So, nothing they can do. RED FLAG. She wrote the new oral prescriptions and changed to date to travel to their office instead of later.
The point other than the rant is if you are not feeling right, stop and have them start at beginning. If you’re dealing with another person instead of you normal person. Slam the breaks. I was so worked up, the chest pains started. I decided I would wait until morning to write the $45 letter to my PA
Chronic Lyme Disease is not a common cold or chicken pox, people die from Lyme. I didn’t want to add to the stats. I’m not suggesting you blow a fuse. If you are not getting the treatment expected or information is not shared with you, you have no clue when they think you’ll get well. Get a new doctor and maybe scream.
There are many details to manage everyday. If I can keep track with only 30-40% cognitive ability, what’s their excuse?
I still owe you a story about TSA checking my body parts for the world to see. Be prepare if you flew in/out Reagan National.
I’m always open for questions, you’re not bothering me and I’m glad to help.
:)
M
Daughter
My Birthday wish for You
I hope that every candle brings a new wish.
I hope the Smile that lights your face stays there all year-long.
I hope everything you’ve dreamed it will come true.
I hope you know how much I love You
and how proud I am of you.
Happy Birthday With So Much Love.
Card from my Mother
You can’t give back what you took from my life.
Xx M
Do you want to expand your knowledge, travel without leaving home or a number of classes that grab your interest.
iTunes U offers an extensive selection of free non credit courses from top rated universities. No stress, go at your own pace, courses are complete flexibility.
iTunes U also offers hundreds of free Podcast on any subject you can imagine. Take a trip around the world. I love Podcast, reading done for you. The system can configure automatic downloads, has bookmarks, and keeps track of what you’ve listened to or not.
Courseca.org offers over hundreds of free on-line courses from top universities. No stress, work at your own pace. Drop a course as I’ve done several time. They also offer for fee courses Corsica.org range of subject matter is impressive.
Berkley School of Music offers a limited number of free on-line courses.
I hope you find something interesting, maybe even something you can do with the kids.
Xx M
I celebrate my 7th year blogging anniversary and turn 53 in four days. Neither occasion are important on their own. What make this year so special is I’m alive. So many of you prayed , sent well wishes yet never treated me different.
I started my first blog to help grieve my granny’s death. Flash forward, I’m blessed learning other cultures around the world. Blogging with millions of people at WP there are opportunities to learn, share and clarify the misunderstood. The most important lesson learned is people are generally good.
I’m free to write my thoughts, some will not agree, others will not. We need different perspectives to broaden our mind.
Thank you for making every year a good one. I appreciate the kind thoughts, asking how I’m doing and treating me normal. I hope to see you in the years to come.
Party On!!!!! Pass the milk please!
Hugs
Melinda
Have a great weekend. When I heard the songs as a teenager, I hade no idea what they were talking about. HAHA! Have a great Friday, don’t forget sunscreen. Xx M
Interesting concept. Xx M
MOST BEAUTIFUL CLOUDS, STORM MOVING IN

FALL HAPPENED ON BRICK STEPS. I WAS TRYING TO SAVE AN EARTHWORM.

OUCH! Damage to forehead, black eye, scrapes and stabed myself with Landscape light. So glad it was plastic. It tore thru two shirts. My entire for head turned black.
I will include this photo in Falling section. Sometimes, it’s better not to follow me. Xx M
I’M WORKING ON IMPROVEMENTS FOR SURVIVORS BLOG HERE AND LOOKING FOR THE LIGHT. SURVIVORS IS NOT IN BEST OF SHAPE. KNOW MY ENERGY IS FOR YOU, WORKING ON GOODIES, JUST HARD TO SEE.
THANK YOU FOR STAYING BY OUR SIDE, WE HAVE AMAZING FOLLOWERS AND FRIENDS.
:)
MELINDA
No doubt my memory hijacked the important section on falling. I will write a post on falling soon.
Forgive Xx M
For D, Our favorite Rock-n-Roll, Awesome Frampton! Best Ever Version EC. I feel great and want everyone to share it with me. Let’s jam!
Xx M
I dedicate this post to the chronically ill, newly diagnosed and their caregivers. You are the Survivors.
It took three painful years to learn I had Chronic Lyme Disease. I’ve had bumps over the years, nothing like Lyme. I’m totally dependent on my husband. Every week he takes countless hours off work. There’s IV Therapy before and after work. Day to-day monitoring the catheter with weekly bandage changes. Out of state doctor appointments once a month, insure medicines are taken properly, on time and everything you can think of.
I didn’t know what life would teach me. Boy have I learned and want to share with you. The ongoing guilt is a challenge for me.Guilt for not getting out of bed, doing laundry, on and on.
I had no concept of how humiliating daily life can get. I march on. At 52, I wear Kotex for daily spills. The agony of not taking extra Kotex on long flight.
I made a list to complete before treatment. HA! It’s hard to prepare for everything when an illness effects everyone different. The post is female oriented, I can’t speak for men. Use your imagination.
Some suggestions will make you laugh and others grateful to know. Here are a few surprises. The list is task you may want to consider.
Any Dental work
Mammogram
Gynecologist
By wardrobe essentials, one size larger, possibly add another half-size or larger.
Shoes become a nightmare, one day your sneakers fit, next day you’re searching for the big ugly pair. Buy a size larger. If you suffer from Edema another half-size makes your day. Edema makes my feet look like melons.
Don’t forget pajamas, undergarments, bra extensions, or Cami.
Your bladder can overflow without warning.
Can’t walk, can’t drive.
Load books, podcast and free College Coursework.
Because the catheter CAN’T EVER get wet, no shower and washing hair a nightmare. I did find a fix. Buy two hairstylist capes with velcro around neck. Wear one backwards the other normal. The backwards one tends to fall forward, I safety pinned arms and pinned back s much as possible. I used 2-1 shampoo, towel close for water in my face and drying towels within distance.
Many households keep rolling due to your efforts.The caregiver will feel like your mother or father at times. Without caregivers, life will weigh you down. Be generous, a thank you goes a long way. Caregivers handle day-to-day task, make appointments, manage medication. Pill maintenance is a full-time job.
I’ll share the next 18-24 month journey to wellness with you.
I can’t express the love in my heart for supporters, friends and followers You’ve stayed by my side in prayer and saying positive words over me.
Xx Melinda
P.S. The reference learning to fly is Sky Diving from 18,000 feet.
My Back Yard is so Fascinating

“We do not need magic to transform our world
We carry all the power we need inside already
We have the power to imagine better
J.K. Rowling
commencement speech at Harvard University
Is a writing challenge presented by, Jenni, author of the blog, StoryofMyLifeTheBlog.blogspot.com. She wills us to write about our life in the next 31 days. Our task, should we decide to accept it, is to write about specific items each day. Her outline, found in this post, http://storyofmylifetheblog.blogspot.com/2013/04/blog-every-day-in-may-challenge.html, defines the specifics.
It was my daughter, M1, author of the blog, ZuPlusTwo.com, who inspired me. M1 is taking on this challenge. I thought I’d try, too. I’ve been listed as AWOL for several months now, occupied by several life changes, but never forgetting how much I miss my friends, their words, their lives, and their inspirations. Come along as Jenni (and all who offer themselves up on this quest). Take the plunge. Come dive into the water, deep, someone will be here to grab you if you begin to sink (me), cuz…well, I’m good at sinking, and my friends…
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Van by the River inspired me with her post, Chewbacca Mom. The Chewbacca Mask has taken the Internet by storm. The video has broken the record on Live Facebook. The video gets crazier as she travels to all the talk shows. I think the TV anchors are having a blast. Please visit my friend www:vanbytheriver.com
Pass a laugh and smile to all who need it. Xx M
I reblogged from vanbythelake.wordpress.com, reblog must be taking a nap. Luckily I could reblog from her source. Spread the JOY.
I don’t know this woman but she’s the kind of person I’d like to know. Anyone who can generate this kind of laughter at something as simple as what you’re about to see is worth hanging out with…:)
If you’re not laughing out loud by the time this is over, I think someone should be taking your pulse.
Enjoy.