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Male Sexual Assault-Road to Recovery

Men and boys who have been sexually assaulted or abused face the same mental and physical effects as other survivors. Cultural stereotypes about men and how they portray masculinity can sometimes feel toxic to male survivors, adding additional challenges to their experience.

Recovering from sexual assault or abuse is a process that looks different for everyone, and it’s important to support a survivor, no matter their gender identity. Focusing on self-care after a sexual assault is a vital step toward recovery. Sexual assault can affect the physical and emotional health of a survivor, so it’s important to address both components of self-care. Should a victim choose to seek professional help, therapy can provide a space to openly discuss their thoughts and experiences.

One out of every 10 rape victims is male. It’s crucial to remind male survivors that they are not alone and share the services available to help them through their recovery.

Survivors can call the National Sexual Assault Hotline 800.656.HOPE (4653) or visit online.rainn.org to be connected with local sexual assault service providers in their area. RAINN also partners with 1in6, an organization dedicated to helping men who survived unwanted or abusive sexual experiences in childhood. If something happened to you, know that you are not alone and help is available. This Men’s Health Month—and all year round—join RAINN in supporting all survivors.

https://www.rainn.org/news/male-sexual-assault-road-recovery

Thank you for reading. RAINN is an excellent has extensive resources for men and women.

Additional resources:

 Melinda

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Celebrate Good Times, Come Over To Roast Danica Piche *It is a Surprise*

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What is the Liebster Award?

The word Liebster” (originating in German) has several definitions — dearest, sweetest, kindest, nicest, beloved, lovely, kind, pleasant, valued. In the current context, this award recognizes bloggers who share their story or thoughts in a beautiful manner to connect with their viewers and followers.

Here are the rules:

Acknowledge the blog that nominated you and display the award.
Answer the 11 questions the blogger gives you.
Give 11 random facts about yourself.
Nominate 11 blogs.
Notify those blogs of the nomination.
Give them 11 questions to answer.

The Leibster Award arrived via telegram from good friend Danica Piche at https://danicapiche.com  You have to visit her site, she writes the greatest short stories that truly satisfy. She participates in every challenge. I need a third arm to keep up. The big deal is she’s special, I’m hanging my No Award sign out and Danica is making it for me.

After meeting Danica our friendship felt telepathic. When I needed a boost she would send a smile or an award. Danica is a caring person, often checking to see how life is going. She gives out Good Karma vibes, positive energy, she’s thankful and loves music. Kick back for mini-concert of Danica’s picks.

This beauty comes from Danica’s notes.

Inspired by one of those birds hanging out in the trees of my front garden.

This is what I wrote in my journal. I asked a bird to tell me a story. It told me once this was a paddock with lots of trees, and covered in grass. Once this place was always peaceful and quiet. Once I had the freedom to come and go as I liked. Then you people came along and built homes, you took my paradise away.

One of Danica’s first post:  https://danicapiche.com/2015/01/07/try-not-to-be-an-ahole-today/

11 Random Facts About Me:

Spray air is how I dust.

Have to go 3 pieces into a loaf of bread for the softest pieces. 

Old books, smell, crinkled pages, velum over Author page. Surprises like Glimpses of the Life and Times of A.V.H. Carpenter, fully Illustrated First Edition printed 1890.

Have several generations of Red Tail Hawks come everyday to relax in the bird bath. I never bore of seeing them.

To many old school headphones, the type with excellent sound.

Love the grain of wood, each piece of has a different grain. Zebra wood is one of my favorites.

Art,Art, Art, the price of the piece does not determined the value. 

Observed a Black Wooly Bear Caterpillar in a container, they are fast, huge and play dead better than a possum. I’m also the Asp Wrangler.  

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Life is a mix of old, new and surprises.

When outside my mind stops the constant chatter, the world is mine. 

I can untie knots, takes time, success rate 100%.

Questions for My Nominees:

Coffee or tea or mocha/hot chocolate?  All in same day.

Why do you blog?  I didn’t get the PhotoJournalist position at Life Magazine.

How would you describe your sense of humor?  What day is it?

What would you do in your ideal day?   Walking the back streets of ancient city….seeing the world.

Summer or winter?  Both, outdoors anytime.

Beach or mountains?  Ditto, always something new to see.

Could you live without your smart phone?  Smart phone yes, mobile phone, no. When telephone lines are down, cell phones work.

Do you like sardines?  Love them marinated in mustard or olive oil right from can on Saltines Crackers. 

Do you have any pets?  Always. Shaggy is an elder dog but don’t tell him.

Does the weather affect the way you see the day?  Only if  Sailing.

What would you change about your life now?  Nothing. Each step propelled me forward to the person I am today. (Sounds good, huh?)

Nominees :) No Award blogs are for the picking being my last award and all (said with a smile and Texas twang). I’m ready to see Danica’s expression, nominees have received announcements, if not it’s coming Pony Express.

A Huge Texas Hug to everyone who follows, comments, likes, or stops by my blog. I appreciate each and every one of you! Looking for the Light Blog is now Award Free. Your smile and comments fill me with sunshine, knowledge and tons of fun.

http://www.fourthgenerationfarmgirl.wordpress.com

https://sheldonkleemanartworks.com

http://www.charlypriest.wordpress.com

http://www.patriciajgrace.wordpress.com

https://thefeatheredsleepcom.wordpress.com

http://www.vanbytheriver.wordpress.com

http://www.piecesofbipolar.wordpress.com

http://www.amightybeing.wordpress.com

http://www.amygamble.wordpress.com

http://www.cadburypom.wordpress.com

http://www.cindyknoke.wordpress.com

Questions for My Nominees: Danica has the best questions, refer to her’s above, better yet make your own. Get jiggy with it!

There is never any obligation. If you’re unable to participate for any reason, please accept this as a gesture of my appreciation. :)    M

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WOW! WordPress Achievement

 

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My first blog started in 2005 and hosted by Blogger. I was caring for my dying grandmother. I had to write and let it go. Her death was devastating, as you’ve read in many post. She’s never left my side. Granny was the strongest woman I ever met, she knew how to keep her mouth shut. Something I did not inherit. I could let out steam, cry by myself, recharge for next day. Yesterday WordPress sent an Achievement notice. Time does fly, in sickness and health.

You are the reason I’ve stayed. You followed me, left good and a few bad comments, you lifted me up when I was down. Most importantly your Blog has entertained, made me cry and lifted my spirits to the sky. I am blessed to talk with each of you. Thank you for standing by me these crazy eight years.  M

ACHIEVEMENT

  1. 8 Year Anniversary Achievement
    Happy Anniversary with WordPress.com!
    You registered on WordPress.com 8 years ago.
    Thanks for flying with us. Keep up the good blogging.
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New Chapter in My Life Begins

I’ve started to walk again, it fells great and very unstable. Throughout my battle with Lyme I prayed for my Granny’s strength. My Granny had to learn to walk twice as an adult. The first was from a terrible accident leaving her in a wheelchair or walker for years.

She cleaned new houses for extra money, whatever the job required she would get it done. One day while cleaning the windows in the cathedral ceiling she fell 1 1/2 stories, landing on her feet. Both feet and ankles shattered, the Doctors has to fuse bone together to give her a foot. It took two surgeries to achieve best results. It was a very dark time, being dependent and not spending time outside weighed heavy on her mind. She always said she would walk again, there was never a question in my mind. She was strong enough to handle anything.

Years later she woke up on day and couldn’t walk. Doctor’s could not find anything wrong, doctor after doctor. Thankfully she was not in pain, which gave me the freedom to make the wheelchair a race car. I would take her to mall most weekends, just get her out of the house. I starting making screeching brake noises as we turned corners, I would push real hard and hop on back rolling freely down the long walkways. We would look at blouses, deep in the department, I would make vroom-vroom noises, saying it’s time to buy or move on.

Those were difficult times but we made it thru the best we could. God put many challenges in front of Granny, she always knew she would overcome. She never giving up on God or herself. Her strength and positive thinking carved its was into my personality.

She never gave on me.

Today I walk again.

Xx M

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Throw Back Thursday * Arthur James Recovery Strikes a Cord*

Survivors get up brush of the toxic waste and move forward. I have talked to hundreds of people over the years, one element I notice is everyone has a concept of Survival yet they are still carrying around the baggage of the trauma and may not realize their toxic

Survivors work thru the issue and take another step? Are you carrying around all the baggage, all the toxic waste thrown at us? Look straight ahead, are you moving forward

Xx  M

 

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Throw Back Thursday *Bay, Bay and Bay*

Do you see the resemblance in style or sound of the Bay Brothers, my buddies assure me they are brothers. I followed James Bay and team so long, I’m a member of TeamBay. I love seeing my name on Tweets. This is far better than the Donny Osmond Fan Club.

James Arthur found success with his first album, something held him back. He has a new album and a growing fan base. On the charts now is “Say You Won’t Let Go”.

Alex Francis Bay, his style is a multiple genre. I like the upbeat, hair up and grooving style myself. He is not on guitar.

What a talented family, blessed by music. Let me know what you think.  Xx  M

 

 

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Throw Back Thursday *Re-Visiting The 1970’s*

My life during the 1970’s.

Probation for carrying a gun

First Psychiatrist appointment

Drug Addict

Missed 45 days of school

Three days in Juvenal Detention

Roll the perfect joint

Not in good place mentally

12-years-old with 21-year-old drug addict boyfriend

Paid my dues,  time after time

Year in Bad Girl Prison

Leaving Scars behind

   Xx  M

 

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Treasure Trove Award **WOW**

Receiving a nomination for an award is always exciting, exciting as the first. There are days my body hurts, some days I don’t get far. (I’ll be back) I want to Thank the Bloggers who nominated me and I’ve had to pass.

Being nominating by a good friend felt wonderful. Danica Piche created Treasure Trove Award,  a full described below.

I’m happy she’s returned to blogging. For a good read, pull up a chair, Danica is the queen of Short Stories. Visit her site  http:www:danicapiche.wordpress.com  It’s an honor to receive the Treasure Trove Award.  I thank you, appreciate you and so glad your back. You’re a great support.  M

 

WELCOME TO THE INAUGURAL TREASURE TROVE AWARD!

What is The Treasure Trove Award?  *New Award created by Danica Piche.*  M

I’ve created the Treasure Trove Award for bloggers who share treasures. Treasures can take the form of: art; community participation and support; creative writing; entertainment; friendship; health and fitness; humor; information; knowledge and insight; life lessons; music; photography; skills and instructions…anything that adds value and is a treasure in the blogosphere.

The Treasure Trove Award is for blogosphere treasures.

What are the rules for the Treasure Trove Award?

The rules are that there are no rules.

You can post the Treasure Trove Award image to your blog — or not.

You can give the award to other bloggers — or not.

The Treasure Hunt Begins!

MY TREASURED NOMINEES

http://www.dunelight.wordpress.com

http://www.vanbytheriver.wordpress.com   (Mentioning even though Awards Not Accepted.)  Xx

http://www.cindyknoke.wordpress.com

https://sheldonkleemanartworks.com

Have fun deciding if your leaning yes or not. I think each one of you are special me.  M  

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Wapama Falls on Hetch Hetchy Trail, Yosemite

 

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Hetchy FallsWapama Falls (1,400 feet)

Flows: all year, with peak flow in May.

Relatively few people visit Hetch Hetchy Valley to see this roaring waterfall. In some springs, the water from this fall flows over the footbridges near its base.

You can see this waterfall from the parking lot at O’Shaughnessy Dam or you can hike on an uneven trail to near its base (see a list of Hetch Hetchy day hikes).

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 Sending Hugs to My Friend Gavin :)

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Sydney Opera House and Harbor Bridge

I’ve known Gavin from years of blogging and helping each other. Blogging with Gavin is a dream. He works continually to improve his skills as a Photographer. Go check out his Blog, http://www.sedge808.com. Treat yourself by visiting the Galleries where his work shown.

Glancing at Australian Vacation photos, I immediately thought of Gavin. Showing my photos of Sydney might be cool, a thoughtful treat.

Be kind to me, Gavin is a Professional Photographer 👀.

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Throw Back Thursday *Wow–It’s Hot In Here*

Blake’s’ new life includes being in love with Gwen Stefani and her three children. I’m glad the focus in on a smooth transition for the boys. I highly recommend seeing both in 2017.  Xx M

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Throw Back Thanksgiving!! *Technical Problems, Let’s Jump*

I’m praying for good health to you and  your family . Drinking something hot, I’ll take a Starbucks any day 🙏🌎🇱🇷   😎 M

You see the problem, Downloads are not working. The laptop hijacked me as an answer to silence, no talking  during Football.

I heard Gwen Stefani can sing, JUMP, Dance, gives every fan a great show. One more try, if nothing else, play your fav and Dance the night away.

Happy Thanksgiving, sending Blessing for you, family and friends.  a healthy and happiness. Enjoying your friends and family, it’s a Blessings share with others.

 

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Throw Back Thursday *Love, Love, Love*

I’ve been fighting with Lyme and resulting depression. No SOS….wanted to let you know I’m still here. Miss you much, drop a line to say hi or leave a comment. Thanks a million as always.  Xx M

 

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Happy Birthday Gramps *You’re my Hero*

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Gramps loved playing scratch off Lottery Tickets. Looking at photo, this was shortly after Granny died. Emotions sent me to the highest high, I saw the smallest smile. He loved my Granny until the end. Gramps grew up in a time, large parts of the USA where out of work and hungry. Focusing on making money or food for a meal. Gramps mother had sixteen children.

 Gramps, you set the bar high, I reach for you everyday to feel your strength.

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Fort McArthur – Became Tactical base-in 1939

 

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Enviar oraciones a tres de Michael Buble su viejo Noah está luchando contra el cáncer

Por favor disculpa mi traducción al español, yo hablo sólo inglés. Ver el amor de su familia. Ver gernerious y divertido sentido del humor.

Podemos rezar y encender velas para mostrar nuestro amor y deseo una rápida de recuperación rápida para Noé.

Dios dará la familia alrededor de la familia.

Dios bendiga a Melinda

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Sending Prayers to Noah Buble, Micheal Buble, all Family members.

For Micheal Buble nothing is more important than his family. This week it was announced, three year old Noah, was diagnosed with cancer. I send prayers of love for you and family. I pray for Noah’s strength, courage, know your parents are always at your side. God take the Buble’s family, please help the  family fight through a very difficult time. Give the parents the energy when one is feeling overwhelmed.  God will help you everyday.

 

 

 

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Throw Back Thursday *Take it on the Run*

I have stoned memories attended both concerts. The songs mean more to me every year. Music was a part of me at the time. I’d put big headphones on, lay in floor, resting my legs on the bed memorized by the art work, the cover was an entry to the music. Hotel California is my favorite. Enjoy the tunes!  Xx  M

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Nevada Falls & Vernal Fall Yosemite National Park

Classified as one of the Strenuous Hikes.

I had the pleasure, sweating, beyond thirsty and pain of hiking Nevada Falls and Verna Falls. Vernal Falls is the highest and the longest hike for me. It’s brutal. Suggestion: Lightweight weight clothes and hat covers back neck, Hiking gloves, walking stick, broken-in hiking boots, and carry as much water as you can. Conserve. Very few amenities along the route. In the summer one good wind and you’re covered in sand. Hand wipes are a portable doctor in a box. I had a few brushing, up or down the trail. Hiking Verna is straight up, “Natures Giant Spiral Staircase.”  I was on top of the world.

I’m working on this photo. The Jacked up version is on my “About Me” page.

Hope you enjoy.   Xx  M

 Vernal Falls

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Climb Verna Falls is nature’s giant staircase. Where you are rewarded with close-up views of two waterfalls and numerous geologic features (depending on how far you choose to hike). Powerful and turbulent, these two waterfalls will soak you in spring and entice you year-round.

Vernal Fall Footbridge
Distance: 1.6 mi (2.6 km) round trip
Elevation gain: 400 ft (120 m)
Difficulty: Moderate
Time: 1-1.5 hours

Top of Vernal Fall
Distance: 2.4 mi (3.9 km) round trip (via Mist Trail)
Elevation gain: 1000 ft (300 m)
Difficulty: Strenuous
Time: 3 hours

Top of Nevada Fall
Distance: 5.4 mi (8.7 km) round trip (via Mist Trail)
Elevation gain: 2000 ft (610 m)
Difficulty: Strenuous
Time: 5-6 hours

You can also take the John Muir Trail to the top of Vernal Fall (via the Clark Point cutoff) and the top of Nevada Fall, or combine the Mist Trail and John Muir Trail into a loop. See the map, profile, and description below for more information.

All begin at: Happy Isles (shuttle stop #16)

This very popular hike originates near Happy Isles in eastern Yosemite Valley (shuttle stop #16). The John Muir and Mist Trails offer spectacular, up-close views of two large waterfalls, enjoyable scenery along the Merced River, and unique views across Yosemite Valley. This first paved mile of trail is busiest and accesses the Vernal Fall Footbridge. Almost entirely uphill, you can appreciate views along the way, and during spring, when the water levels are at their peak, you can also glimpse Nevada Fall from this first section of trail.

You’ll find an excellent view of Vernal Fall from the footbridge at 0.8 miles (1.3 km). About 0.2 miles (0.3 km) beyond the bridge, the Mist Trail and the John Muir Trail diverge. To proceed directly to the top of Vernal Fall, follow the Mist Trail 0.5 miles (0.8 km) up a steep granite stairway of over 600 steps. Prepare for slippery footing and a tremendous amount of waterfall spray in spring and early summer (hence the name for this trail!). You will delight in views of Vernal Fall all along this stretch of trail and may even be able to see a rainbow in the spray of the fall. At the top of Vernal Fall, you can experience jaw-dropping views straight down the length of the 317-foot waterfall (please don’t cross the railings and use extreme caution while you’re near any flowing water or wet rock in this area).

From this point, you can: choose to turn around and head back the way you came; continue up to the next junction (about 0.2 miles / 0.3 km) and take the longer route back via the John Muir Trail; or continue uphill on the Mist Trail to the top of Nevada Fall. If you choose to continue on the Mist Trail, shortly beyond Vernal Fall, you will pass by Emerald Pool and Silver Apron. Both of these look may look inviting on a hot summer’s day, but it is illegal and dangerous to swim here due to the extremely hazardous current.

Continuing along the Mist Trail, you’ll experience another 1.5 miles (2.4 km) of steep, rocky switchbacks in order to reach Nevada Fall. Crashing down 594 feet, this thunderous waterfall is fullest in spring and early summer, and you will find terrific photographic opportunities along this stretch of trail. At the top of the climb, head right to reach the footbridge that crosses the Merced River above the fall, allowing you a closer view of it. Use extreme caution while you’re near any flowing water or wet rock in this area.

From here, you can either return down the Mist Trail, or continue over the bridge to the John Muir Trail for an alternate route back to Yosemite Valley. If you choose the John Muir Trail, you will enjoy different scenery, with great views of Liberty Cap and different views of Nevada Fall. The John Muir Trail is longer—approximately 4 miles one-way compared to the Mist Trail’s 2.5 miles (4 km)—so plan accordingly.

Some hikers may be continuing from the top of Nevada Fall to hike to Half Dome or elsewhere in Yosemite’s wilderness.

Seasonality

You can hike to both waterfalls all year. However, in winter, there is a specific route that remains open while some sections of trail are closed. The lower portion of the Mist Trail along Vernal Fall closes in winter due to risk of falling ice and rock. The upper portion of the John Muir Trail between Clark Point and the top of Nevada Fall is closed in winter due to treacherously icy conditions. Keep in mind that the sections of trail that remain open in the winter may be very icy and/or snowy. View current conditions for trail closures and view historical opening and closing dates for this trail.

View a trail profile and map of the winter route to the top of Vernal Fall and Nevada Fall.

Vernal Fall Footbridge
Distance: 1.6 mi (2.6 km) round trip
Elevation gain: 400 ft (120 m)
Difficulty: Moderate
Time: 1-1.5 hours

Top of Vernal Fall
Distance: 2.4 mi (3.9 km) round trip (via Mist Trail)
Elevation gain: 1000 ft (300 m)
Difficulty: Strenuous
Time: 3 hours

Top of Nevada Fall
Distance: 5.4 mi (8.7 km) round trip (via Mist Trail)
Elevation gain: 2000 ft (610 m)
Difficulty: Strenuous
Time: 5-6 hours

You can also take the John Muir Trail to the top of Vernal Fall (via the Clark Point cutoff) and the top of Nevada Fall, or combine the Mist Trail and John Muir Trail into a loop. See the map, profile, and description below for more information.

All begin at: Happy Isles (shuttle stop #16)

This very popular hike originates near Happy Isles in eastern Yosemite Valley (shuttle stop #16). The John Muir and Mist Trails offer spectacular, up-close views of two large waterfalls, enjoyable scenery along the Merced River, and unique views across Yosemite Valley. This first paved mile of trail is busiest and accesses the Vernal Fall Footbridge. Almost entirely uphill, you can appreciate views along the way, and during spring, when the water levels are at their peak.

You’ll find an excellent view of Vernal Fall from the footbridge at 0.8 miles (1.3 km). About 0.2 miles (0.3 km) beyond the bridge, the Mist Trail and the John Muir Trail diverge. To proceed directly to the top of Vernal Fall, follow the Mist Trail 0.5 miles (0.8 km) up a steep granite stairway of over 600 steps. Prepare for slippery footing and a tremendous amount of waterfall spray in spring and early summer (hence the name for this trail!). You will delight in views of Vernal Fall all along this stretch of trail and may even be able to see a rainbow in the spray of the fall. At the top of Vernal Fall, you can experience jaw-dropping views straight down the length of the 317-foot waterfall (please don’t cross the railings and use extreme caution while you’re near any flowing water or wet rock in this area).

From this point, you can: choose to turn around and head back the way you came; continue up to the next junction (about 0.2 miles / 0.3 km) and take the longer route back via the John Muir Trail; or continue uphill on the Mist Trail to the top of Nevada Fall. If you choose to continue on the Mist Trail, shortly beyond Vernal Fall, you will pass by Emerald Pool and Silver Apron. Both of these look may look inviting on a hot summer’s day, but it is illegal and dangerous to swim here due to the extremely hazardous current.

Continuing along the Mist Trail, you’ll experience another 1.5 miles (2.4 km) of steep, rocky switchbacks in order to reach Nevada Fall. Crashing down 594 feet, this thunderous waterfall is fullest in spring and early summer, and you will find terrific photographic opportunities along this stretch of trail. At the top of the climb, head right to reach the footbridge that crosses the Merced River above the fall, allowing you a closer view of it. Use extreme caution while you’re near any flowing water or wet rock in this area.

From here, you can either return down the Mist Trail, or continue over the bridge to the John Muir Trail for an alternate route back to Yosemite Valley. If you choose the John Muir Trail, you will enjoy different scenery, with great views of Liberty Cap and different views of Nevada Fall. The John Muir Trail is longer—approximately 4 miles one-way compared to the Mist Trail’s 2.5 miles (4 km)—so plan accordingly.

Some hikers may be continuing from the top of Nevada Fall to hike to Half Dome or elsewhere in Yosemite’s wilderness.

Seasonality

You can hike to both waterfalls all year. However, in winter, there is a specific route that remains open while some sections of trail are closed. The lower portion of the Mist Trail along Vernal Fall closes in winter due to risk of falling ice and rock. The upper portion of the John Muir Trail between Clark Point and the top of Nevada Fall is closed in winter due to treacherously icy conditions. Keep in mind that the sections of trail that remain open in the winter may be very icy and/or snowy. View current conditions for trail closures and view historical opening and closing dates for this trail.

View a trail profile and map of the winter route to the top of Vernal Fall and Nevada Fall.

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Throw Back Thursday *Let My Soul Fly*

I’m sending you health and happiness. Get lost in music, get your feet moving and GET GROVE ON. 

Wild Horses remind me of unpleasant times in life, yet tied to my soul. I’m a Survivor, it’s nice to remember. Wild Horses reminds me how far I’ve come.   XxM

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Throw Back Thursday: Triple Shot *Queen Anthems of my younger self*

I spent a year in bad girl boarding school, many of us tried to dig out anyway possible. To dig out of our trauma, we wouldn’t let our scars get in the way. We wanted a different life, a new positive perspective. I was 13-14 years old some girls close to 17-19 years old. Most every one starts as the new kid in town, I don’t play that game. Everything works fine when you hold the cards.I never had my ass kicked and only hurt one person. She gave my best friend the razor blade, I got the nod from staff person and I beat her badly. I never ran away, never help anyone to leave, and no way did I help someone kill themselves. Enough pleasantries. I’ve come along way since the punk kid.

Freddie created Rock Drama and had a wicked sense of humor. Let’s sing for Freddie, if you dress up for the show, you get extra credit, send me a photo and there’s no telling the extra perks you get. Freddie was a true showman.  Xx  M

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Thank You For Love And Prayers

Chronic Lyme has invaded my brain, emotions and bodies ability to move without tremendous pain. I’m blessed to have pain meds and others to provide comfort. Not being to walking is depressing. I wanted to thank you and Twitter buddies for your love, prayers and awesome videos sent my way.

I love James Brown, his grove is infectious. “I Feel Good” video is my fake it till you make it  positive thinking. The second, well just to see his grove! The man can dance. Both made me smile and you make me smile brighter. Without a doubt better days are ahead. God has my path planned out. Xx Melinda

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Bridalveil Falls Yosemite National Park

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Bridalveil Falls

Bridalveil Fall (620 feet)
Flows: all year, with peak flow in May.

This is often the first waterfall visitors see when entering Yosemite Valley. In spring, it thunders; during the rest of the year, look for its characteristic light, swaying flow.

You can see Bridalveil Fall from near the tunnels on the Wawona Road (Highway 41) or Big Oak Flat Road (Highway 120) and from a signed parking lot on your way into Yosemite Valley. You can walk to the base via a short but steep (up to 24% slope) trail in just a few minutes.

https://www.nps.gov/yose/index.htm

:)  M

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I Want A Story of My Life

Dedicated to S

One life long friend I can turn to in good and bad times. I’m hurting, I’m sharing my pain with you. Music always fills me, Harry must be my healer today. To funny!!

I know, you know, I know?  What do you know, I don’t know?

Xx  Melinda

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How Many People Can Fit In A Van?

I found a way to celebrate my followers, looking beyond post into their personal life. I look forward to learning knowing more. No follower is safe! No Opt Out!

Bloggers have followers who bring sunshine with every comment, conversation.Van gives me the blessing every time we have a conversation. Not all conversations are funny as a toad. That’s Texan speak if you didn’t understand the reference.

Please give a Huge welcome to Van By The River.   http://www.vanbytheriver.wordpress.com

Here are answers to the questions “only Van” could answer while laughing along with us.

 “First job was as a soda jerk at a local pharmacy. I dipped ice cream, served soft drinks and infrared sandwiches (pre-Microwave). I was 15 and it was a local teen hangout…so, it was fun.”

“Favorite job was probably the one I retired from. Hotel sales manager, but I started on the front desk.I loved the interaction with all kinds of folks, mostly travelers, mostly happy to be there. Maybe the best part was that I left it all there “at the office”. I never had that before, and it was a treat. My other career choices, especially teaching, required a lot of my personal time.”

“Van by the River came because of my affection for the Matt Foley character, always a favorite. It seemed to fit in many ways. I have always lived near water, mostly rivers, but not in a van. His character was a motivational speaker, which was always a dream job for me. My kids knew of my love for SNL characters, and the cartoon van on my avatar came from a t-shirt they gifted me.”

“This is my first blog, but I have always written, kept journals, recorded thoughts and feelings, mostly for myself. I found WP through a piece written by a friend and was intrigued. The year my youngest sister died (2012), I decided to record some family history and transferred a few of those journal entries to the blog. I only posted a short time, and left it until September of 2014, where I came back to post more regularly. The blog started to get noticed when I used tags and categories for the first time.”

“My favorite recipes are the ones that have a story behind them, and I’ve posted about those a bit here on the blog. Clam chowder from a cancer- stricken friend, pie from a co-worker with a tragic history, peach kuchen from my first home economics class, my mother’s home-made pizza crust from a happier time, etc. I also have a lot of potluck recipes, party foods, etc. from a time when social life was going strong…those have sweet memories.”

“I read a lot of blogs, but I like the ones that are personal, where folks share their life story. I can spot a fake pretty easily, authenticity matters to me. I also like the ones that are creative, original, artistic, and most of all…with a sense of humor. I have to say…the shorter posts are my favorites. If it’s 800-1000 words, I’m not going there, usually.”

Here are a couple touching comments Van has left me.

“I was thinking about you M. when a story was featured recently about a young girl who was blessed during the Pope’s visit this past year. She has shown great improvement, some say miraculously since then. But, it turns out, the attention her case received got her additional medical scrutiny. She was actually suffering from Lyme, which had been mis-diagnosed by earlier doctors. Amazing. Hope you are doing well. 💕 Hugs”

“You are counted as in the van if in you leave a like or comment. I hope you enjoyed, more profiles/introductions are planed.”

Van has given me joy when I didn’t have any. She is 100% positive, if not, you need the wake up call. From my heart, there aren’t enough words to say how I value our friendship.

Lyme has taken a toll on my body, I can hardly walk. I have awesome followers, it’s taken longer to roll out introductions. I may walk slow but Lyme will not hold me down long. 

Xx Melinda

 

Celebrate Life · Moving Forward

I Think Of You Every Second

I’m grieving a life, a life taken to the sky. Why a country song hit me so hard, I don’t know. Does she like country music? The uncontrollable tears may come from God, being there for me, when the pain doesn’t end. The tears maybe the first of many. I did not ask for promises. I shared the challenges of my mental illness, praying you would not feel alone in your pain. Being real but hoping to empower, no-one can make someone change their plan, only they can. I start praying, please God take her in your arms, show her how love feels, please make her journey beyond earth the greatest years of her life.

I will miss you, I’m scared, please answer my email today. My heart is bleeding, all I need is to know you’re alive. God will always have your back and never stops loving you.

This rendition was updated to celebrate 50 years of Country Music Awards (CMA). Beautiful song, it’s impossible to not appreciate the talent and their voices together.

I will always love you. By the One and only Dolly

Melinda