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Andy Warhol’s “So Sweet” *Live For Today*

Original post 5/2014

I had to buy this Warhol because it was the complete opposite of my childhood. I saw the happy little girl and thought about me in kindergarten. She’s carrying a bag of candy and a good report card, again not me. What makes it so special is my mother told me I was stupid all the time. I began to believe her. You look in the corner and see “So Smart”, words I love to hear. I wasn’t stupid, just carrying a heavy load. No kindergartener can handle the burden of that secret.

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Warhol "So Smart"
Warhol “So Smart”
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Mother leaves 8 year old at county hospital

Original post 6/2014

It’s interesting the events our mind suppresses or forgets. I have no emotion talking about the physical and emotional abuse at the hands of my mother and step father. I have disassociated memories of sexual abuse by my father. I know it. My therapist and I have talked about it, she doesn’t push and knows if the door opens I’ll talk. What I will not do is force my mind and body to endure pain it’s not ready for. I have a good perspective on what I’ve survived and the methods our mind uses to deal with our deepest pain. I’m not sure if this particular memory was forgotten or suppressed. I had no emotion as my therapist was almost brought to tears.

I saw a story on the news about a 8-year-old girl tortured by her parents in some way. I don’t recall the circumstances. I always plan what I want to talk about but this day was different. I sat down and the memory of the little girl crossed my mind. I asked her if she had heard the story then adding my thoughts. I started to cry which I do easily for others in pain. As we talked about what type of parent would do that, a childhood memory flooded over me. The tears dried and it was if I was talking about someone else. When I was 8 years old I started having terrible side pains and daycare called my mother. She didn’t take off early and it was maybe 3 hours before she arrived. At that point I could barely walk and could not walk and breath. The supervisor thought I had an appendicitis attack and should get to the hospital right away. It was Halloween night and I didn’t want to miss out on the candy but pain was taking over my small body. My mother was angry for ruining things for my brother, nothing new about that. I guess we did not have insurance since the first hospital turned us away. We are talking early 1970’s. She drove to the county hospital and I waited on a bed until the people bleeding and dying received treatment. Halloween night is one of the busiest nights of the year with more shootings than normal. The emergency room was full and I was outside a mans curtain to wait my turn. During this time my mother left to take my brother to trick or treat. I didn’t realize until a nurse asked where she was. I said she talked to a nurse and went home. She was a big woman and I knew nobody gave her any shit. Asking why in the hell my mother would leave me there. My answer did not sit well with her, I knew a beating was in store for me. One thing to keep in mind is the county hospital is in the hood in one of the worst areas of Dallas. This is not a place an adult would feel comfortable let alone a child. I was on my side crying in pain and saw the man thru the curtain. He was an older man and he had what looked like wires coming out of several places on both arms. My eyes caught his, I ask does that hurt. He was a kind man saying not as bad as my pain did and then where was my mother. I told him how upset I was that my brother would not share his candy with me. He looked shocked my mother would leave me there. My mother eventually came back in the greatest of moods and was raising her voice at the big nurse. I was rooting for her to punch my mother if the mouth or grab her by the neck. I have no doubt it happened many times getting drunks under control.

The doctor didn’t think I needed surgery, just to stay overnight for observation. For a second I was glad until rolled to my room. The hospital was so overcrowded I hade to sleep in a baby bed. That is the last thing a kid (big girl) wants to hear. I cram myself in the bed and they pull the side up. It was so dark in there I thought I was alone until babies started crying. Which made it much worse for me. Not only did I have to sleep with my legs pulled up, babies are crying and my mother is home in her comfortable bed.

You would think at this point in the story I would feel some emotion but my mind switches back to the little girl. My mind turned a switch, my story was over, no big deal, that was my mother, that was my life. I couldn’t help but cry for the other girl. How can people do that to their children. As I’m talking to my therapist my story and pain never crosses my mind again. That was several years ago, it’s buried and popped back up last week.

Xx M   aka Warrior

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I did it all, I swear I lived…….

Original post 11/2014

I’ve reposted several post, most from 2014, WHY?

Two reasons: I have new followers  who aren’t familiar with my background. Maybe I could help?

The second: My father committed suicide 9/22/1992. I want to change the mixed emotions this day brings. I’m not getting drunk, a big step starting this year.

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Gramps, you have been my Hero since birth *I love you and think of you everyday*

Served in WWII
Served in WWII

He was proud to serve and saved many items from his time in service. He was not known for organization, I found his Bronze Star in tool box. He was a humble man and said everyone received the medal, that is not the case.

Miss you everyday

Melinda

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Cool Tennis Shoes help raise money for Breast Cancer Research

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Ralph Lauren is dedicated to supporting Breast Cancer awareness year round. The Pink Pony collection supports Breast Cancer Awareness year round. During Breast Cancer Awareness month, he makes additional products to provide funds for Breast Cancer . He and wife Ricky are very involved year round. If your shopping for high top sneakers, take a look on the Ralph Lauren  on the internet. I love them so much I got very chatty. 

It’s so exciting to see the number of companies supporting Breast Cancer. I appreciate the people who walk and run. The air is filled with excitement as everyone get ready to walk or run. Being around people who have been where they are, crying, laughing, hugs and cars driving by honking and waving to motivate those on the three-day walk.

If your shopping look to see if the product or similar supports Breast Care Research. 

Have a great day filled with sunshine and happiness

XO M

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How Does Being Blind Change Your Life ?

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Several months ago my vision changed drastically. I could barely read, saw things not there, my floaters looked like worms. My Lyme doctor looked and saw the worms and one of my Iris’s changed colors. Go see eye doctor she advised. It was time for new glasses and annual test. I left the eye exam shocked! I had lost vision in each eyes which did not look like glaucoma. The worms were there, one close to retina. He explained the test showing the print out at what it looked like. “I’ve never seen anything like this” Not what I expected to hear. Saying it looked like my optic nerve. He could not right a RX for glasses, I didn’t understand. He refered me to a Nuero-Opthomologist.

Over two appointments I had 10+ test. The last test hurt, I had wires in my eyes for 30 minutes. A current went thru one tucked in under my eyelids. I don’t care for lidocaine in my eyes. I always try to get information from techs. This time tried different approach, asking what each machine tested for and what would the results tell the doctor. I asked about the test with wires, would results identify glaucoma, the machine wasn’t used for Glaucoma. He sends test to expert for their perspective, means no answers until appointment on 10/20/15.  

Eye problems are mentioned in the Lyme Books I’ve read. I didn’t connect Lyme with eye problems. It makes sense now, I have three tick borne illnesses, at least one is attacking my brain. The optic nerve is referenced in books as both Upper or Lower. I now see how Lyme could cause inflammation of the optic nerve. I’m scared of going blind. It doesn’t cross my mind until I see something that is not there.

I have a positive outlook and will deal with any challenge God puts in front of me. I’ve had so several health issues. Brain surgery at 33, at 28 cervical cancer with a total hysterectomy and two terrible car wrecks. I’m a strong woman like my granny, nothing kept her down.  

XO   M  

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Putting foot in the Dirt *Nominated Me For Liebster Award* Yay!

Michelle from puttingmyfeetinthedirt.wp.com  nominated me for the prized Liebster Award. Michele’s blog is informative, Christian based and makes you stop and soul search at times. I really enjoy talking to her and learning about her life outside of blogging. You have to check out her site puttingmyfeetinthedirt.wp.com , Michelle’s writing will inspire you.

11 facts about me

I watch true crimes programs on tv. I’ve learned so much about basic self-defense, stalking and how many family members kill each other. It’s very informative.

I’m concerned about underserved children in my community and shelters. My concern expands to children around the world. Working with children is the first initiative of the charity.

I love Pop Tarts, grateful for delicious gluten-free brands.

I loved jewelry as a child and have several necklaces made as a little one. Making  jewelry builds my confidence, growing when each piece comes out correctly.

A family of Hawks hang out on the bird bath. They enjoy drinking and cooling off. Sometimes three get in bath, making it a bit overcrowded.

I love to compost, worms and all.

Love to decorate and or planning changes.

Enjoy mapping my Ancestors, have found big surprises along the way.

Enjoy learning, there are thousands of free courses. I recently started a course at Stanford University on Human Trafficking.

Riding horses is a spiritual experience.

Love antique Leica rangefinder camera’s.

I have to duck out on nominations due to health. Take a look at your blog, have you worked hard to achieve original goals. If so you deserve the award. Follow the rules and pass the award along.

XO M

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When Does RAPE Become RAPE? *You Might Be Surprised*

Light at end of road.
Light at end of tunnel

At nine years old my brother was my buddy. If someone was my brothers friend, they were mine. I was a tomboy and all my girlfriends lived to far away to play after school. Our gang of misfits would walk the creek nearby, play football, ride bikes, the normal kid activities.

Walking home from school I noticed a couple of friends. One invited me in to the house, he had  something to show me. Several other guys were in foyer. I didn’t think anything about the numbers of people there, I just wanted to see what he had. He already owned a crocodile, I was thinking what can top that.

Before I could blink, guys were holding me down, ripping my clothes off,  being choked. Every one violated me. I was crying and screaming for help as they choked and hit me. I cried as they touched and hurt me. Begging to let me go, when I was let go my mind was whirling, confused and body in pain. At nine years old I didn’t know about rape. I knew what they did was wrong. I had no one to tell.

I aged a couple of years and realized that was gang rape. I was not a willing participant and not allowed to leave. I was held down, clothes ripping off, touching and kissing me. Each one put their fingers inside me, forced their penis down my throat. Every violation except forcing their penis in my vagina.

I’ve been raped since, I know what rape is. These were distant memories, never entering my thoughts. Until I read a post triggering the memories and pain. I was also angry. How could someone write an article suggesting unless the man’s penis entered the vagina/anus, it was not considered rape. This ripped my guts out and dismissed me as woman.

I’ve never spoken about that day. I’m telling you.

I have spent months thinking about the right thing to do, what’s the best for me or let the memories fade in time. Memories triggered in my hidden soul. I feel strongly telling my story is the right decision. The post may help someone, maybe a mother or father. Possibly give a nine-year old somewhere to go. With the resources available today, you always have somewhere to go.

My goal is to help rape survivors, especially young boys and girls unsure what to do. Rush home and tell a parent if possible. If your family would not understand, go to Police department or hospital. After a doctor checks you for injuries. One of the most important calls is to a Rape Support Center. Most are able to help you work thru fears, anger, the emotional and physical  pain. This is a short list of Support Centers, there are several national in other states for support.

Every state has a document which outlines what is considered rape.

SafeHorizon.org 24 hours live hotline is 866-689-4357. Dedicated Rape and Sexual Assault Programs.

RAINN.org  (Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network) Free Online Support and  confidential and secure hotline 800-656-4673.

Please don’t wait 43 years to tell your story.

XO Melinda

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Sanskrit Blessing *Live..Love..Life * Thanks to Randstein

Sanskrit Blessing *Live..Love..Life*

Randstein graciously took an idea for a tattoo and created a beautiful piece of art. Due to Lyme disease, the tattoo will have to wait. I plan to use as art on my site until then.

Thank you my friend, D

XO  Melinda

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Randstein nominated me for Once a Victim Now a Survivor Award

Thank you my friend Randstein

A special thank you to Randstein for nominating me the Once A Victim Now A Survivor Award.  Randstein is a good friend, always happy to help, writes the most fantastic stories. His short stories give you plenty to think about. Randstien’s blog is hyperionsturm.wp.com. He’s a founding member of survivorsbloghere.wp.com I’m glad to have met him, my life has expanded.

This award is for those who have gone through mental illness of any kind, abuse, trauma, and especially PTSD.

The Rules:

1. Thank the blogger that nominated you

2. Nominate 5 – 10 bloggers to pass the award to

3. Post 5 questions for your nominees to answer (you may use the same as these below)

4. Inform your nominees and post a comment in their blog to let them know they’ve been nominated

Questions:

1. In what ways do you feel that blogging can help people with psychological trauma or mental illness? I think writing can help in many ways. It’s perfect outlet to share, work thru pain and trauma. Blogging provides support from people who are a few steps ahead. The experience of putting your pain in a post can give a feeling of success. Writing thoughts down can help you see what needs more work. Posting takes a load off, no matter how small. We gain confidence one step at a time.  

2. How has blogging helped you with your healing, or your personal journey? I started blogging after years of therapy, not needing as much help. My background made me compassionate, realizing I’m a Caregiver. When someone takes my hand for help, my heart overflows with sunshine. 

3. What books, movies, or YouTube channels would you recommend to someone with a similar background to you?   (Books Always)

 Shock by Kitty Dukakis & Larry Tye A personal story of Kitty’s experience with ECT

50 Psychology Ideas You Really Need To Know  Adrian Furnham

Bipolar Disorder-A Guide For Patients & Family  Francis M. Mondimore M.D. I participated in a study for John Hopkins and he interviewed me. Nice guy and excellent book.

Natural History of Emotions by Stuart Walton’s  He examines the core emotions based on Charles Darwin’s survey of emotions. I’m reading again, the reason I always buy books.

4. When did you start your blog and what inspired you? My current blog stated on 9/22/13. My  father committed suicide 9/2001. He was on my mind, I wanted to express my pain. 

5. What types of blogs do you follow? I follow blogs similar backgrounds or circumstances. I follow blogs that appears the person is spiraling down and needs help. Sometimes its people who visit my blog and they look interesting. I don’t follow rant blogs.  

Nominees:

This is where I have to bail on my commitment. I can not following thru on making nominations. I am battling an illness and must choose how to use less the least energy. I’m on bed rest. Thank you for the prayers and standing by me. Huge Hugs.

If the Award applies to you, please accept and pass along.

Hugs Melinda

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FDA Investigate Serious Side Effects Of Codeine In Children’s Cough And Cold Medicine

FDA MedWatch – Codeine Cough-and-Cold Medicines in Children: Drug Safety Communication – FDA Evaluating Potential Risk of Serious Side Effects
07/01/2015

Codeine Cough-and-Cold Medicines in Children: Drug Safety Communication – FDA Evaluating Potential Risk of Serious Side Effects
AUDIENCE: Family Practice, Pediatrics, Surgery, Patient

ISSUE: FDA is investigating the safety of using codeine-containing medicines to treat coughs and colds in children under 18 years because of the potential for serious side effects, including slowed or difficult breathing.

Children, especially those who already have breathing problems, may be more susceptible to these serious side effects. In 2013, FDA warned against using codeine in children who recently had surgery to remove their tonsils and/or adenoids.

In April 2015, the European Medicines Agency (EMA) announced that codeine must not be used to treat cough and cold in children under 12 years, and that codeine is not recommended in children and adolescents between 12 and 18 years who have breathing problems, including those with asthma and other chronic breathing problems.

FDA will continue to evaluate this safety issue and will consider the EMA recommendations. Final conclusions and recommendations will be communicated when the FDA review is complete.

BACKGROUND: Codeine is a specific type of narcotic medicine called an opioid that is used to treat mild to moderate pain and also to reduce coughing. It is usually combined with other medications in prescription and over-the-counter (OTC) cough-and-cold medicines.

RECOMMENDATION: Parents and caregivers who notice any signs of slow or shallow breathing, difficult or noisy breathing, confusion, or unusual sleepiness in their child should stop giving their child codeine and seek medical attention immediately by taking their child to the emergency room or calling 911. Parents and caregivers should always read the product label to find out if a medicine contains codeine and talk with their child’s health care professional or a pharmacist if they have any questions or concerns. Health care professionals should continue to follow the recommendations in the drug labels and use caution when prescribing or recommending codeine-containing cough-and-cold medicines to children.

Healthcare professionals and patients are encouraged to report adverse events or side effects related to the use of these products to the FDA’s MedWatch Safety Information and Adverse Event Reporting Program:

Complete and submit the report Online: http://www.fda.gov/MedWatch/report
Download form or call 1-800-332-1088 to request a reporting form, then complete and return to the address on the pre-addressed form, or submit by fax to 1-800-FDA-0178
Read the MedWatch safety alert, including links to the Drug Safety Communication and previous MedWatch alerts, at:

http://www.fda.gov/Safety/MedWatch/SafetyInformation/SafetyAlertsforHumanMedicalProducts

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TED Talk Steve Silberman: The Forgotten History of Autism

This short video taught me more than I can digest on Autism. Every parent needs to watch, the signs of bad behavior can also indicate symptoms on the Autism Spectrum.  XO M

One in every 68 people is on the autism spectrum — a condition that, even just a few decades ago, was rarely diagnosed. To understand the history of autism, says writer Steve Silberman, we have to go back even further, to an Austrian doctor by the name of Hans Asperger, who published a pioneering paper in 1944 on the “little professors” he was working with. Asperger’s paper was buried by war and time — and much crueler theories of autism prevailed. Follow Silberman’s journey as he uncovers the lost history of autism. (This talk was part of a TED2015 session curated by Pop-Up Magazine; @popupmag.)

 

 

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Third and Last Day of The Quote Challenge

“This to shall pass”

Believed to originated in writings of the Medieval Persian Sufi Poets. 

The quote appeared in tales by the English Poet Edward Fitzgerald and in speech by Abraham Lincoln before becoming president.

Abraham Lincon

 My granny used the quote probably before I was born. Times were very difficult for the family when her father died in 1930, granny was 9 years old. They had no money, insurance and no idea what tomorrow would bring. Both my granny and her mother were deeply religious, my guess this quote comforted them. I started using at some point simply because if I can survive, tomorrow can bring a blessing. The quote was not a religious quote to me. Fast forward to being a caregiver to both of my grandparents. I loved my gramps so much but several times a day I wanted to strangle him. I’d say to myself  “This to shall pass”. I tell you the above because the quote “This To Shall Pass” is religious to me now.  I changed in the 10 years taking care of my grandparents, what came after depression, ECT, hospitalization, Heart problems and Lyme Diease…….One day I woke up and the quote felt different, like God sent a message I’m at the wheel. Today there is a warmth in my heart to help others. The awakening gave the strength to become an Ordained Minister and start charity, God’s Tree of Life Ministries. I have enjoyed the Quote Challenge and hope you have to.   XO  Warrior

Nominations

Noir  sedge808.com

Through The Open Lens  throughopenlens.com

Aniket Sharm Photography  aniketsharmaphotography.wp.com

Celebrate Life · Moving Forward · Survivor

Three Day Favorite Quote Challenge * Day Two *

I’ve been nominated by my friend Cosme, for a Challenge which includes three days of your favorite Quotes. It’s Day Two of the challenge and I am having so much fun. I’m saving the best for last. Thank you Cosme for nominating me. If you are not familiar with bclphotography.com, please stop by you are in for a treat. The requirement is to write three post, one each day, of your favorite quote.

“It is during our darkest moments that we must focus to see the light”

Aristotle Onassis

These Eyes

 

As a two-year old beaten by my mother, I had to think of brighter days. Eyes dead of emotion from an innocent child is heartbreaking. Over the years people entered my life leaving sprinkles of sunshine. At some point the sprinkles became a force within me. I would not live bitter or let my past control the future. I found sunshine as you can see from the photo above. The sparkle in my eyes and wide smile are my best features.  XO  Warrior

Nominees 

Noir  sedge808.com

Through The Open Lens  throughopenlens.com

Aniket Sharma Photography  aniketsharmaphotography.wp.com

If you have not visited each blog, stop by to find new favorites. 

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Randstien Honors Me With No Strings Attached Award

 

Randstein at  hyperiumstrum.wp.com  honored me with The No Strings Attached Award. If you have not spent time admiring his art work or short stories, you are depriving yourself of sheer joy or confusion. He writes about Mythology with great knowledge. I particularly enjoy The Dragons story. Randstein has a wicked sense of humor. Head over, walk around and see where you would like to start. 

The bustling award season has kicked off in the blogosphere. Many great blogs pass on awards because the time involved. I’m thrilled to have an award to honor blogs in the midst.   

Blog Awarded:

bipolarforlife.wp.com    Laura P. Schulman MD,MA

Laura and I have so much fun talking travel, her predicaments, and life on the road in a Home with wheels. Laura is as intelligent, she is slap in the back funny. I love to hear from her.

XO  W

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One Among Many Surprised Me With Versatile Blogger Award

Being recognized by my peers is the greatest compliment. One Among Many  oneamongmany@glannste.wp.com has nominated me for The Versatile Blogger Award. He loves to a write on a wide range of subjects, poetry and advocates for mental illness and I can’t forget his sense of humor. Please visit his site for the topic of the day.

 The rules as I understand:

Thank the blogger who nominated you.
List the rules and display the award.
Share 7 facts about yourself
Nominate 15 ( Or what you can do) other amazing blogs and comment on theirs. To let them know you nominated them.
Then the 7 magic facts

7 Magic Facts about me.

Not sure they are Magic?

My Magic seven facts 

The Internet is my connection to wonders of the world.

I graduated Irving High School class of 1981, 600 walking across a stage in the old Cowboys Stadium.

I’ve  parasailed in Aruba, jumped out of plane in Dallas and toured Maui by helicopter. I look for fun every trip. It’s the joy of traveling.

I’m left handed and always in the right side of my brain.

My first encounter with a shark was in Florida, he was 4-5 feet long. Not much to worry about.

I encountered JAWS in St.John,Virgin Island. My ex-husband always had the camera, which means, as his “Buddy” I had to check his equipment and mine. We were 60-70 ft. down, I went to explore. I rounded a corner into a shark nursery, JAWS looked me in eyes. He was 14-15 feet long, I mustered the guts to swim off.

I can’t eat canned green beans. Gramps had a nice garden, I am spoiled with fresh foods.

Nominations

I don’t like to cheat on Awards. Lyme has a stranglehold on me. I’m only nominating a few people.

Van by the River   vanbytheriver.wordpress.com

Carnal Abuse by Deceit rapebyfraud.com

BCL Photography bclphoto.net

 

 

Moving Forward · Survivor

Throw Back Thursday *Memories…Good Times…Regrets*

When introspective, I fall in to music. Music defines a time and space. The memories are not all good, many are from rough times in life. No one knows what each song means to me or why, the answers locked away. A  favorite U2 song is ” Running to Stand Still”. Etched in my soul, reflecting on my life. 

Pull up a chair or lounge with a lover, Enjoy the beverage. I would pick a Merlot to relax and take in the moment.    XO  Warrior 

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No More Excuses Provides Weekly Update * Truth From The Media? *

NO MORE EXCUSES

No More publishes weekly updates allowing us to hear “The Rest of the Story”. Information we may not know, the good, bad and ugly. The Joyful Heart Foundation started No More Excuses which focuses on Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault.  

 No More educates, advocates and lobby’s for Survivors Human Rights. Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault are two hot issues. I walk away asking did the media share the news? Was the news common knowledge among a certain crowd? The Joyful Heart Foundation and No More reminds me how little information the media includes in “The Story”.    XO  Warrior

WHAT’S MAKING HEADLINES THIS WEEK?

Ray McDonald’s 2nd Domestic Violence Arrest: Former Chicago Bears defensive end Ray McDonald has been arrested for domestic violence and child endangerment following an assault on a woman who was holding a baby early Monday morning at an apartment in California. This is McDonald’s second arrest for domestic violence charges. #ChicagoSaysNOMORE to McDonald: Following his arrest on Monday, the Chicago Bears terminated their contract with him, after making the controversial decision to sign him in late March. Bears guard Kyle Long tweets “Good riddance” to his former teammate.

Josh Duggar, star of the TLC reality show 19 Kids and Counting, admitted to sexually abusing at least five girls when he was 15 years old. While his parents are calling the abuse “bad mistakes” that Josh made as a “young teenager,” we’re saying #NOMOREexcuses: the sexual abuse of young girls is not a “mistake.” Josh Duggar committed a crime.

We don’t let friends drive drunk so don’t let them sexually assault someone either, says Nicholas Kristof in this must read New York Times op-ed. Students at Carnegie Mellon University are using this “bystander intervention” approach in a new interactive online game in an effort to prevent sexual assault.

Columbia Student Emma Sulkowicz carries mattress to her graduation, after noting at her project’s outset that she would continue to carry the mattress around Columbia University’s campus until either her rapist was expelled or until she graduated.

California is the first state in the nation to establish a specialized NO MORE license plate to fund local programs in the fight against domestic violence and sexual assault. Sign up for the #NOMOREplate at http://www.nomoreplate.org.

18-year-old basketball star launches a NO MORE campaign. Inspired by the NFL Players who took a stand to say NO MORE, Jaired Maddox is speaking out about domestic violence and sexual assault in his East Texas community. Read his story on NO MORE’s website.

The national rape kit backlog is enormous. This month, Washington state passed legislation to require testing of all kits within 30 days of the kit’s collection. This comes at a time when national focus on ending the backlog is increasing: this week, the Senate held a hearing on the backlog and new data was released about the scope of the backlog in Charlotte, NC, Jacksonville, FL, Kansas City, MO, Portland, OR, and San Diego, CA.

Survivors help convince state legislatures to act: Indiana passed Jenny’s Law, a new law allowing rape cases to be prosecuted after the state’s five-year limit expires under special circumstances, like new DNA evidence or a confession. Inspired by Bill Cosby rape allegations, Nevada extended the state’s statute of limitations for sexual assault cases to 20 years on Tuesday.

In Latin America, reproductive rights for sexual assault victims are severely lacking: 34% of girls have been sexually abused by age 18. This month, the story of a 10-year old rape victim who was denied an abortion by the Paraguayan government sparked international outrage.

Stay tuned for more!
– The NO MORE Team

Survivor · Travel

Flash Back Friday * Working On Artistic Photography Every Opportunity *

Hello my friends

Lyme Disease has me in headlock. My answer is to keep moving forward remembering many have life worse.  As a child I wanted to learn by traveling and documenting everyday experiences. I can’t sing for anyone, it’s that bad. I’ve loved art and taking photos from the age 4-5 years old.  I like many types of art including Contemporary art. I’m a newbie, you may not enjoy this style of photography. Be gentle with your comments.  

DC Trip

 Creating Color in D.C.  May 2015

Verna Falls Yosemite Park, Enjoyed hike going. Coming back not so fun.
Verna Falls
Yosemite Park
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Half Dome Yosemite

This photo makes me feel I’m in untraveled territory as the dust kicks up. They are riding in a rickety stagecoach looking for a better life, life where the money is. I’ve researched my family’s genealogy for years. I get excited when I find a nugget, photos are great.  I’ve documented my family to 1600’s. My distant ancestor’s are from Germany’s Wine country.  I look forward to traveling there. To stand on the same dirt connects me to the past.    

XO Warrior  

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Forced Sex Camps Train Girls for Child Marriage *Women and Children Have Rights*

Forced Sex Camps Train Girls For Child Marriage In Zambia And Mozambique

Reuters

By Emma Batha

CASABLANCA, May 21 (Thomson Reuters Foundation) – Girls as young as eight in Mozambique and Zambia are forced to go to camps where they are shown how to please a man in bed in order to prepare them for married life, activists said at an international conference on ending child marriage.

These sexual initiations begin once menstruation starts and sometimes involve sticks being inserted inside the girls, Persilia Muianga of international aid agency World Vision said.

She added that some mothers force young daughters to sleep with a man in the belief this can bring on menstruation.

Anglican priest Jackson Jones Katete said initiations in Zambia happen among girls between the ages of eight and 13, and may involve girls being cut by women for not performing sexual movements correctly.

“You … pay these (elderly) women to do this torturing to your child,” he said, adding that men do not want to marry girls unless they have been initiated.

“Immediately the girls come out of the camp, they are saying … you are now ready for sex. And then the men come … and then they begin to do the betrothals.”

The training, which can last a week and is shrouded in secrecy, also teaches girls about hygiene, domestic duties and how to conduct themselves in the community, Muianga said, adding that community leaders fine parents if they do not take their daughters to the initiations.

ROLE OF RELIGION

Muianga, a child protection expert, said the sexual age of consent in Mozambique is 12 and many girls have babies very early, putting their lives at risk.

Serious childbirth injuries such as fistulas are a big problem because so many girls have babies before their bodies are ready, she told the Thomson Reuters Foundation during the conference in the Moroccan city Casablanca.

Nearly half of girls in Mozambique and more than 40 percent in Zambia are married before they turn 18, even though child marriage is illegal in both countries.

Bride prices paid to the girl’s family drive early marriage in poor rural areas, Muianga said.

She said World Vision is training church leaders to tackle issues around early initiations and child marriage, and will help develop a similar initiative for Muslim communities.

Katete, who is director of the Anglican Street Children’s Program in Zambia, said church leaders carry great authority in his country and have a role to play in addressing initiations and child marriage with their congregations.

He added that keeping girls in school is crucial for fighting early marriage, but most rural communities do not have schools nearby and teachers in these regions are usually men, which sends girls the signal that only boys deserve education.

“We are now saying that you should build schools in villages and have female teachers there as well who can act as role models.”

The three-day conference ending Thursday is hosted by Girls Not Brides, a global partnership committed to eradicating child marriage which affects some 720 million women worldwide.

(Reporting by Emma Batha, Editing by Alisa Tang)

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Are You Struggling with Mental Illness?  This is for you

Amy is a dear friend. She writes with personal experience. Amy spends time researching living with mental illness. You can always find a nugget in her post. Please check her site out.

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Happy Mother’s Day Granny, your faith and unconditional love saved me


I have wonderful memories of my granny, she is the reason I am alive and drug free. She did everything to make sure I had a better life than her. My grandfather was a year from retirement when I moved in. My grandmother started cleaning commercial houses to buy my clothes. She didn’t want me to wear uncool clothes. Granny scrapped paint off windows in new homes, causing Carpel Tunnel in both hands. In 1981 she fell off a ladder from the second floor, crushing the bones in both feet and ankles. 

Just a few memories:

*I had a little two-step foot stool, allowing me see what she was doing. 

* She washed dishes and I dried, we would talk about everything.

* Learning how to do laundry my red sunglasses feel in, I thought the machine would break. 

*She taught me to hand was clothes at 9 years old. 

*She grew Bougainvillea, they were huge. She was so proud of them. 

*I came over while she recuperated from fall. I opened the drapes and blinds in the room. The next day she ask gramps to open the blinds. He didn’t do it like I did, she got out of bed, climbed in a chair and tried the pull drapes off wall.  

*There were 4-5 formal functions at school each year. We would go to outlets year round to find dresses for $10-$15, there a big high-five when we found one.  

*I went thru inspection before leaving home, can you see thru my dress or blouse and too much make up?

*I was only allowed to drive my car to certain places, no cruising Sonic for me.

*Granny knew I drank, on weekends when on meds, she would whisper not to take my meds on weekend. 

*The smile on her face as we acted like her wheelchair was a sports car.

*When Dementia increased her frustration, she would hit herself in head. I made a little photo book with mostly photos of her, gramps and her beloved dog. I learn to recognize her anxiety increasing, I would get the photo book out and she relaxed. 

Granny was a stubborn hard-working old fashion wife. She hid money, Gramps never knew until her death. I knew her hiding places. We rounded up several hundred dollars. 

Granny taught me from her example, an example I saw my entire life. She gave me everything needed to tackle life. It warms my heart to know she was in love with gramps, she always reached for him. 

XO  Melinda

 

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Happy Mother's Day Granny, your faith and unconditional love saved me


I have wonderful memories of my granny, she is the reason I am alive and drug free. She did everything to make sure I had a better life than her. My grandfather was a year from retirement when I moved in. My grandmother started cleaning commercial houses to buy my clothes. She didn’t want me to wear uncool clothes. Granny scrapped paint off windows in new homes, causing Carpel Tunnel in both hands. In 1981 she fell off a ladder from the second floor, crushing the bones in both feet and ankles. 

Just a few memories:

*I had a little two-step foot stool, allowing me see what she was doing. 

* She washed dishes and I dried, we would talk about everything.

* Learning how to do laundry my red sunglasses feel in, I thought the machine would break. 

*She taught me to hand was clothes at 9 years old. 

*She grew Bougainvillea, they were huge. She was so proud of them. 

*I came over while she recuperated from fall. I opened the drapes and blinds in the room. The next day she ask gramps to open the blinds. He didn’t do it like I did, she got out of bed, climbed in a chair and tried the pull drapes off wall.  

*There were 4-5 formal functions at school each year. We would go to outlets year round to find dresses for $10-$15, there a big high-five when we found one.  

*I went thru inspection before leaving home, can you see thru my dress or blouse and too much make up?

*I was only allowed to drive my car to certain places, no cruising Sonic for me.

*Granny knew I drank, on weekends when on meds, she would whisper not to take my meds on weekend. 

*The smile on her face as we acted like her wheelchair was a sports car.

*When Dementia increased her frustration, she would hit herself in head. I made a little photo book with mostly photos of her, gramps and her beloved dog. I learn to recognize her anxiety increasing, I would get the photo book out and she relaxed. 

Granny was a stubborn hard-working old fashion wife. She hid money, Gramps never knew until her death. I knew her hiding places. We rounded up several hundred dollars. 

Granny taught me from her example, an example I saw my entire life. She gave me everything needed to tackle life. It warms my heart to know she was in love with gramps, she always reached for him. 

XO  Melinda

 

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TED Talk with Ruby Wax What's so Funny about Mental Illness?

TED Talks are an invaluable resource for information on almost any topic. The talks are only 20 minutes long, allowing you the chance to learn in short spurts. Joining the website is free. Check it out you might find another addition.

XO Warrior

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TED Talk with Ruby Wax What’s so Funny about Mental Illness?

TED Talks are an invaluable resource for information on almost any topic. The talks are only 20 minutes long, allowing you the chance to learn in short spurts. Joining the website is free. Check it out you might find another addition.

XO Warrior

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FDA recalls Mucinex Fast Max products for mislabeling…Can cause side effects

FDA MedWatch – Mucinex Fast-MAX Products: Recall – Incorrect Labeling
04/22/2015
Mucinex Fast-MAX Products: Recall – Incorrect Labeling

Including certain lots of Mucinex Fast-MAX Night Time Cold & Flu; Mucinex Fast-MAX Cold & Sinus; Mucinex Fast-MAX Severe Congestion & Cough and Mucinex Fast-MAX Cold, Flu & Sore Throat

AUDIENCE: Consumer

ISSUE: RB (formerly Reckitt Benckiser) has recalled certain lots of liquid bottles of Mucinex Fast-MAX Night Time Cold & Flu; Mucinex Fast-MAX Cold & Sinus; Mucinex Fast-MAX Severe Congestion & Cough and Mucinex Fast-MAX Cold, Flu & Sore Throat because the over-the-counter medications, which correctly label the product on the front of the bottle and lists all active ingredients, may not have the correct corresponding drug facts label on the back. This mislabeling could cause the consumer to be unaware of side effects and/or risks associated with the ingestion of certain product ingredients which include acetaminophen, dextromethorphan, guaifenesin, phenylephrine and/or diphenhydramine.

Consumers could take a product with undeclared levels of acetaminophen, dextromethorphan, guaifenesin, phenylephrine and/or diphenhydramine. Consumers would not be adequately warned of side effects which could potentially lead to health complications requiring urgent medical intervention, particularly in the case of acetaminophen use in people with liver impairment.

BACKGROUND: RB is notifying its distributors and customers by direct correspondence. See the press release for a listing of affected product lot numbers.

RECOMMENDATION: RB is asking consumers to responsibly dispose of any unused product in accordance with the following recommended guidance for drug disposal in your household trash:

Mix liquid medicines with an unpalatable substance such as kitty litter or used coffee grounds;
Place the mixture in a container such as a sealed plastic bag; and
Throw the container in your household trash.
Consumers who have purchased this product can also contact the RB MUCINEX FAST-MAX recall toll free number at 1-888-943-4215 between the hours of 8:00 a.m.- 8:00 p.m eastern standard time with any questions or to speak with a representative, and should refer to http://www.mucinex.com/recall for the accurate related drug facts information. Consumers should contact their physician or healthcare provider if they have experienced any problems that may be related to taking or using this drug product.

Healthcare professionals and patients are encouraged to report adverse events or side effects related to the use of these products to the FDA’s MedWatch Safety Information and Adverse Event Reporting Program:

Complete and submit the report Online: http://www.fda.gov/MedWatch/report
Download form or call 1-800-332-1088 to request a reporting form, then complete and return to the address on the pre-addressed form, or submit by fax to 1-800-FDA-0178
Read the MedWatch safety alert, including a link to the press release, at:

http://www.fda.gov/Safety/MedWatch/SafetyInformation/SafetyAlertsforHumanMedicalProducts/ucm444082.htm

XO  Warrior

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Nine year old Hiba with Down Syndrone now allowed to attend same school as brother

WORDPRESS MAKES A DIFFERENCE

CHANGE.ORG PETITION UPDATE
We Won!!

Saadia Qureshi
Glendale Heights, IL

Apr 22, 2015 — After a 5 hour heated resolution meeting, the school district agreed to send Hiba to her home school of Churchill Elementary in Glen Ellyn beginning in August. Hiba will finally be able to attend school with her little brother!! It took almost 2 months, 14,000 signatures, and $1,800 +, which you all helped us raise. We are so humbled and grateful for everyone’s support. This could not have been possible without you. So thank you from the bottom of our hearts for helping us give our daughter a voice and an opportunity to live and work to her highest potential.

By the way, due to safety concerns at her current school, we decided to home school Hiba for the next six weeks (until the end of the current school year). If you or someone you know has experience homeschooling their child in Illinois, we would appreciate any tips, advice, resources you can give us to help us during this next chapter of our lives. Feel free to email us directly at qureshis22@gmail.com.

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Why we MUST end victim-blaming in domestic violence

Meet my dear friend Avalanche of the Soul. She is one of the strongest Advocates against Sexual/Domestic Abuse. Her heart is made of gold and has helped so many with questions over the years. Please do yourself a favor and spend time reading the wealth of knowledge on her sight. XO Warrior

AvalancheOfTheSoul's avatarAvalanche of the soul

Domestic violence is a global epidemic impacting more women than war and cancer combined. Yet misinformation and misconceptions are actively fuelling this injustice. If we’re to eradicate domestic violence, we must first end victim-blaming. Here’s why.

We like to imagine that the world has grown more enlightened about domestic violence. It is no longer legal – in many countries, at least – for a man to beat or rape his wife. Some nations, such as the UK, have gone one step further in pushing to make psychological and emotional abuse (coercive control) a criminal offence. We live in a time in which there is unprecedented awareness of domestic violence / abuse and arguably greater social rejection of this devastating crime than ever before.

Yet domestic violence remains a global epidemic, present in every culture and community worldwide:

  • Women aged 15-44 are more at risk from domestic violence and rape than…

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Passover is the Jewish celebration of journey to the Holy Land

I wish you a Passover Celebration shared with family and friends. Prayers for Jewish ancestors who found the strength to help their neighbor reach the Holy Land.   

Melinda