Reblogged from 2009
I care for my 92-year-old gramps and have been here for five weeks. He had three surgeries in seven days. Without Caregiving 101 training, I learned the hard way.
*Ask the doctor what happens if the procedure does not work.
*If a second procedure does not work, is there a third option.
*What is the recovery time and type of home health services needed.
*Is the surgery necessary for a 92-year-old who is already dying!
Gramps went in for non-invasive surgery, nothing prepared me for the outcome. I’ve been through several surgeries with gramps. This procedure had not been performed before however, it sounded like the least complicated procedure to date. I forgot nothing is normal or non-invasive at 92 years old. We went from going home that afternoon, to having three surgeries over seven days. I made the mistake of thinking the procedure would go as in the past. Age makes all the difference, five years at this stage of Kidney Failure can change everything.
I’m blessed to spend this time with gramps, we still have a long road ahead. It is emotional and life-changing. I’ve become the parent and he doesn’t like me telling him when to take his medicine. He has raised his voice more in the past month than in my lifetime. It’s hard to take it in stride, just bite the tongue. Stress has triggered my depression, I struggle to keep myself in check and take care of my gramps.